Explore every episode of the podcast Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Janna sits down with 27-year-old Carrie to discuss her journey with low sexual desire, sexual trauma, religious shame, and years of struggling to enjoy sex in her marriage. After trying therapy, supplements, and countless conversations with her husband, Carrie began to wonder if she was simply broken or if a satisfying sex life just wasn't in the cards for her.

Through the Doing It Together program, Carrie discovered that the missing piece wasn't necessarily her libido or sex drive, but safety. She shares how understanding the impact of cultural messages about sex, removing pressure, and bringing her husband into the conversation transformed their relationship.

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After decades of marriage, motherhood, and putting everyone else’s needs first, Katie found herself struggling with desire and feeling increasingly disconnected from her husband. She had learned to people-please, avoid conflict, and say yes even when she didn’t really want to—until intimacy began to feel more like an obligation than connection.

Katie shares how Doing It Together helped her understand the impact of shame, resentment, social conditioning, and self-silencing on her intimate life. She talks about learning to speak up about what she wants, practice self-compassion, and create a marriage where both partners’ needs matter.

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After his wife’s cancer treatment and early menopause changed their intimate relationship, James felt lonely, rejected, and increasingly hopeless. They loved each other deeply and had a great marriage in so many ways—but mismatched desire and physical intimacy remained the one problem they couldn’t seem to solve.

In this episode, James shares what changed through Doing It Together, including what he learned about pressure, social conditioning, and his own need to feel connected through physical intimacy. Most importantly, he discovered that moving forward wasn’t about fixing his wife—it was about understanding himself, taking responsibility for how he showed up, and creating space for connection without expectation.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

What really happens when couples commit to eight weeks of Doing It Together?

At the end of every round, Janna brings the couples together for a farewell call and asks one simple but powerful question: What surprised you most about your journey?

In this episode, you’ll hear directly from couples who just completed the program. They share what they discovered about themselves, their partners, and their relationships—including the things they didn’t expect to uncover along the way. Their honest stories offer a glimpse into what can happen when couples get curious, challenge old patterns, and learn new ways of connecting.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

On today’s podcast episode I’m offering the audio version of my popular free class, "The Truth About Women’s Libido: Why Everything You’ve Tried Hasn’t Worked and What To Do Instead." Listen to understand the steps required to co-create a sex life that both partners can look forward to.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Talking about sex can be hard—especially when you’re worried that saying what you really want will hurt your partner’s feelings or start an argument.

In this episode, Janna talks with Carrie and Ryan about the communication patterns that kept them stuck for years and what finally helped Carrie find her voice and Ryan learn to listen without reacting.

After 32 years together, they’re learning how to talk openly about sex, needs, and intimacy in their marriage. They share what it takes to speak honestly, listen with curiosity, and create a safer, more connected relationship where both partners can be heard.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Motherhood, changing family dynamics, and midlife transitions can change much more than your daily routine—they can change your identity, your marriage, and your sexual desire.

In this conversation, Janna and Mindy talk about the enormous transition into motherhood, what happens when your kids need you less, and why becoming an “empty nester” doesn’t automatically mean you’re ready for more sex.

They also explore how to figure out what you actually want after years of taking care of everyone else, and why your intimate life doesn’t have to stay the same forever. Instead of forcing yourself to want the sex you think you’re supposed to want, you can learn how to create a sex life that changes and grows with you.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

When Ben asked his wife of 31 years how often she actually wanted to have sex, her answer — “almost never” — completely shocked him.

In this conversation, Ben shares what he couldn’t see before Doing It Together, what happened when he chose curiosity over defensiveness, and how he’s learning to create a more mutually enjoyable intimate life with his wife. It’s an honest conversation about good intentions, unexpected blind spots, and what can happen when both partners are willing to keep learning.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

In this episode, Sara shares the powerful journey of realizing that much of what she believed she was supposed to want sexually wasn’t actually what she wanted. She opens up about feeling inadequate, questioning what was wrong with her, and the relief that came from learning to recognize a “no” in her own body.

Sara and Janna also explore what changed in her relationship when they took intercourse off the table, including the surprising ways their connection shifted outside the bedroom. At the heart of her story is a simple but profound realization: “It feels so much lighter in here. Like the relationship is so much lighter.”

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Katie spent years believing her sex life was good enough, until she began questioning how much she was actually enjoying it and how much she was simply tolerating. In this conversation, she shares how marriage, children, menopause, and cultural messages gradually disconnected her from her own desires.

Katie and Janna explore why so many couples follow a formula for sex instead of discovering what genuinely feels good to both people. Katie shares how learning that she was allowed to have preferences changed the way she communicates with her husband and transformed her approach to intimacy.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

What if your anger isn't the problem—but a sign that something finally makes sense?

In this episode, Janna sits down with Renee to explore the surprising emotion that surfaced as she began unlearning decades of harmful messages about women, sex, and marriage. What she once believed was a personal failure turned out to be something much bigger, and that realization changed everything.

Together, they discuss why anger can be a healthy response to injustice, the cultural lies that keep both women and men disconnected from authentic intimacy, and the unexpected insights that transformed Renee's marriage. From a comment made by a teenage boyfriend to a surprising perspective on menopause, this conversation is full of hope for anyone ready to see their story through a new lens.

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What if sex was never meant to create connection—but to celebrate the connection that's already there? In this episode, Janna sits down with John for a thoughtful and honest conversation about one of the most common dynamics in long-term relationships: when one partner looks to sex for closeness while the other needs closeness before they desire sex.

John shares how he came to realize that he was asking sex to do a job it was never meant to do. Together, they explore the emotions hiding beneath sexual rejection, the cultural messages that shape our expectations around intimacy, and the powerful shift that happened when he stopped focusing on how to get his wife to want sex and started building genuine emotional connection instead.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

When Penny began questioning the messages she'd received about sex, she uncovered something far deeper than a lack of desire. For years, she'd been taught that sex was something she owed her husband rather than an experience she was allowed to enjoy herself. Penny shares how those beliefs shaped her marriage, her sexuality, and her sense of self—and what finally helped her begin experiencing intimacy in a completely different way.

Together, Janna and Penny explore the cultural and religious messages that disconnect women from pleasure, why "more foreplay" wasn't the solution, the hidden pressure Penny didn't realize she was carrying, and how emotional safety became the turning point in her relationship. If you've ever wondered whether you're the problem—or struggled to understand why sex feels more like a responsibility than a source of joy—this episode is for you.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

For the 200th episode of the Doing It Together podcast, the tables are turned as Janna sits in the guest seat while her daughter interviews her about the journey behind the microphone. Together, they look back on four years of honest conversations about sex, desire, marriage, and relationships, exploring how the podcast has evolved, the lessons learned along the way, and the moments that have challenged Janna the most.

Janna also shares the personal experiences that have shaped her work- from navigating divorce and remarriage to finding the courage to speak openly about one of culture's most taboo topics. It's a heartfelt, behind-the-scenes conversation about vulnerability, consistency, changing minds, and the hope that comes from helping thousands of people realize they are not broken and they are not alone.

Whether you've been listening since episode one or you've just discovered the podcast, this milestone episode is a celebration of the community we've built together and a look at where the journey goes next.

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Has sex become less about connection and more about keeping the peace? 

In this episode, Janna talks with Joanna about a pattern many couples quietly fall into, where sex becomes a way to restore harmony, avoid conflict, or make a partner happier rather than an experience rooted in mutual desire, pleasure, and connection.

They unpack the emotional weight behind this dynamic and explore how it impacts both women’s sexuality and men’s relationship with intimacy. Joanna shares what she and her partner are doing differently now to move away from obligation and toward a more connected, playful, and fulfilling sex life.

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What happens when loving someone means letting go of the need to fix them?

Derek shares his journey of realizing that his attempts to rescue and support his wife were unintentionally creating distance between them. After years of trying to pull her out of pain and show her how wonderful life could be, he discovered that what she needed most wasn't someone to turn on the light—it was someone willing to sit with her in the darkness.

Together, Janna and Derek explore the difference between compassion and rescuing, how shame and discomfort can impact intimacy, and why seeing your partner as "broken" can prevent true connection.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

What if one of the keys to a more connected relationship isn't communicating better—but paying closer attention?

In this episode, Janna and her husband pull back the curtain on a practice they've been intentionally developing in their marriage: attunement. Rather than waiting for your partner to tell you exactly what they need, attunement is the skill of noticing, anticipating, and staying emotionally connected to their inner world.

Together, they explore why women are often socialized to be more attuned than men, how this dynamic can impact relationships, and the practical ways they're learning to think about and care for each other throughout the day. From feeling more seen and understood to creating deeper emotional and sexual connection, this conversation offers a fresh perspective on what it means to truly know and support your partner.

Listen to Part 1 of this series here: https://jannadentonhowes.com/185-mutual-vulnerability-for-a-better-sex-life/

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When Lauren was invited to share her story on the podcast, she hesitated. Talking publicly about your sex life isn't easy—especially when your experience doesn't fit the cultural script of what a "healthy" woman is supposed to want. Then she surprised us with an unexpected suggestion: what if her sister joined the conversation?

What followed was a candid, funny, and moving discussion between two sisters whose experiences with sex, desire, marriage, motherhood, and womanhood couldn't look more different on the surface. Together, they unpack the impossible expectations placed on women, the messages they inherited about sexuality, and the ways both high desire and low desire can leave women feeling like they're somehow falling short.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

In this surprisingly vulnerable conversation, Brian — a former fire chief turned maintenance mechanic — shares his story of growing up with almost no sex education beyond, “don’t get her pregnant,” and the quiet pressures men often carry alone. Together, we explore fear, conditioning, hard conversations, and what it looks like to begin questioning long-held patterns later in life.

At 58, Brian opens up about choosing self-reflection over defensiveness and the profound shifts that became possible when he and his wife started talking more honestly about intimacy and safety. This episode is a reminder that meaningful change is possible when we’re willing to listen, learn, and do things differently.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

At the end of each eight-week round of Doing It Together, Janna hosts a farewell call where couples gather together and she asks one powerful question: What surprised you most about your Doing It Together journey?

In this episode, you’ll hear honest reflections from real couples about their experiences — what they learned, what they had to unlearn, and how their relationships changed along the way. Their stories are a reminder that when people are willing to do the work and face difficult truths, profound shifts can happen, intimacy can deepen, and new ways of connecting become possible.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

On the podcast today, Justin (the male mentor for the men’s group) and I pull back the curtain to share as real and honestly as we can what it feels like to progress through the Doing It Together program.

We talk about:

• What do the men’s calls actually feel like?
• What do women talk about in week one?
• What happens when someone’s partner isn’t taking things as seriously?
• What emotions come up through the process
• What surprises people once they get inside?
• And what realistic change can couples actually expect?

Even if you aren’t considering joining us in June, this episode is a sweet one.

The deadline to join Doing It Together is May 26th. Hope you get to experience this journey, it’s a good one.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

What if the problem in your sex life isn’t low libido… but the pressure, expectations, and conditioning you’ve been carrying for years?

In this conversation, Erica shares how she spent years believing she was broken, trying everything from therapy to self-help advice to “fix” her lack of desire — only to discover that the real issue had far more to do with safety, pressure, and the scripts women are taught about sex and relationships.

Together, Erica and Janna unpack the messages many women grow up with around sex, marriage, motherhood, and obligation, and explore what begins to shift when couples stop focusing on performance and start building experiences rooted in curiosity, comfort, and connection.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Why do so many women feel disconnected from sex—even in loving relationships? In this episode, we unpack the two core motivations behind intimacy: avoidance and approach. When sex is driven by pressure, obligation, or fear—like avoiding conflict, guilt, or rejection—it’s no surprise that desire fades. Yet, this pattern is so normalized that many women end up believing something is wrong with them, rather than questioning the system itself.

Joined by renowned researcher Dr. Lori Brotto, this conversation explores what actually makes sex feel good—and worth wanting. From understanding why low desire is so common to redefining pleasure as the goal (not performance or frequency), this episode challenges everything you’ve been taught about intimacy. If you’ve ever felt like sex is something you “should” want but don’t, this will offer clarity, validation, and a new way forward.

Find all info about Dr. Lori Brotto here: https://www.loribrotto.com/

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Anthony shares his journey from defensiveness and disconnection to truly hearing his partner for the first time. Like many couples, they found themselves stuck in a cycle of repeating the same conversations, hoping something would finally click… but real change didn’t begin until willingness entered the picture.

Anthony opens up about the moment he recognized how deeply his upbringing had shaped his expectations around intimacy—and the courage it took to face that truth. His story is a reminder that while change is simple in theory, it requires a willingness to listen, grow, and see things differently.

If you’ve ever felt like your partner just isn’t getting it, this episode offers a hopeful glimpse into what’s possible when they finally do.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Why are we still defining sex in a way that doesn’t feel good for many women?

In this eye-opening episode, my guest Anne and I challenge one of the most normalized (and harmful) beliefs about intimacy: that intercourse is the main event. Through Anne’s story, you’ll hear how cultural messaging, lack of real education, and silent expectations led to pain, confusion—and feeling broken.

But this conversation doesn’t stop there. Anne shares how she began to question everything, find her voice, and create a more honest, pleasurable, and connected relationship with her partner.

If you’ve ever wondered why sex doesn’t feel the way it “should,” this episode might change the way you see everything.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

I’ve been scratching my head for years trying to figure out how to help couples talk to each other about sex and share the helpful information on the podcast.

I knew that a simple, non-threatening video was necessary for both men and women to be able to send to their partners to explain the basic concepts. 

I also knew that I needed to make the podcast accessible for newbies with an easy “start here” place to go (with 188 episodes, it just doesn’t work to begin with episode 1, although many try…).

And, lastly, I knew that both men and women needed guidance on how to start the conversation with their partners in a way that felt safe and doable. 

And I’m SO FREAKIN’ HAPPY to announce that I have accomplished all of this and am ready to share it with you.

Today’s episode on the podcast is part of the men’s side of this "beginner's guide” but I’m sure everyone will enjoy it. I’ve edited 6 stories together- 3 from men and 3 from women, to highlight the commonalities of the sex struggle so many heterosexual couples face.

It’s an episode that I hope makes you see the bigger picture of what we are all facing from culture with individual differences sprinkled in.

If you want the full beginner’s guide, starting with the intro videos, here are the links:

Women’s Video

Men’s Video

(If you are looking for the conversation guides, sign-up for the videos and you’ll find them on the next page.)

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Jo shares her journey from confusion and pressure around sex to rediscovering connection, safety, and genuine pleasure with her husband.

She opens up about:

• How cultural messaging shaped her relationship with sex
• The hidden impact of “obligation” and silent pressure in long-term relationships
• The turning point that helped her and her partner finally understand each other
• Why emotional safety—not technique—is the foundation of real intimacy

If you’ve ever felt disconnected, confused, or pressured in your intimate life, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, hopeful, and inspired.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Do you ever feel like you are the one with all the "baggage" in your relationship?

This is exactly how Liz felt for years. In every category she looked- religious, cultural upbringing, and past life choices, she felt inferior to her spouse. To make up for the gap, she tried to be the “perfect” wife by providing her husband sex and keeping her body up even through four pregnancies. 

No surprise, it didn’t work out great.

Join us as we talk through:

1. The two major turning points in her marriage and how they helped transform her relationship.
2.  Her reckoning with the cultural and religious teachings she was raised on.
3. What she’s experimenting with now to reclaim her joy and autonomy.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

When a couple can meet each other with non-judgmental empathy, it draws you closer to each other. Nobody is shamed, questioned or put down and it leads to a deeper intimacy.

This is the power of mutual vulnerability and it’s one of the bedrocks of a healthy marriage (and sex life).

But most people don’t do a very good job at it! (which makes sense- who taught us how???)

In today’s podcast episode, my husband and I explored this topic, sharing what we were taught about vulnerability, offering a role-play of what to do (and not to do), and practical tips on responding to vulnerability effectively.

If you thought new sex positions were the key to hot sex, think again! Mutual vulnerability leads to safety and you can’t get sexier than safety!

I hope you enjoy this feel-good episode 🙂

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

In my work, I highlight the terrible things that gender inequality does to a couple’s sexual relationship but it extends far beyond the bedroom impacting connection, financial health, individual happiness, physical health, and, ultimately, relationship satisfaction.

Which is why as soon as I finished the book, “Equal Partners: Improving Gender Equality at Home” by Kate Mangino, I knew I needed her to come on the podcast.

Thankfully, she agreed 🙂

In this episode of the podcast, we talk about:

1. The consequences of not working towards equality in the home as well as the benefits
2. Common excuses for not working towards equality
3. How men can grow into equal partners 
4. Lessons from 40 men who are working towards equality in their marriages
5. Advice for women trying to move towards gender equality

You can find out more about Kate and her work here: https://www.katemangino.com/

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

After decades of quiet frustration in their sex life, DeeDee and her husband made a bold decision: they would burn their “traditional” sex life to the ground and rebuild something that actually worked for them.

For most of her life, DeeDee struggled with low libido. It affected her relationships, her self-esteem, and especially her marriage. She tried everything—books, advice, and years of therapy—but nothing truly changed. She felt broken, unheard, and alone.

Now in her 50s, DeeDee shares what finally made the difference. She describes discovering Doing It Together as a miracle. For the first time, she felt truly seen and heard. After years of hiding her truth, she found the courage to say the hard things out loud—and received the support she needed.

With that support, she and her husband reimagined intimacy on their own terms. They let go of pain, pressure, and obligation. In their place, they built something new: a sex life rooted in honesty, comfort, and connection.

And for the first time, it feels right.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

This episode provides an update on what Janna and her husband are working on in their sex life. Both talk about how anxiety affects their sexual experience in different ways.

Janna shares her anxieties about:

• trying to have an orgasm and it not progressing
• getting in her head about what “should” happen next
• being worried about his experience and if he's "getting bored”

Dwayne shares his anxieties about:

• being a “perfect” partner and feeling inadequate
• trying to communicate to connect
• the progression of moving from something that feels good into “What to do next?”

This episode will remind you that you aren't alone in your sexual struggles and that all couples are a work in progress in the bedroom.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

My podcast guest is Dr. Kervins Clement and his story is one that I hear about all the time- where a dependency on porn use and masturbation is justified as helping the relationship when, in fact, it often does the opposite. 

In this episode we explore:

1. How Kervins’ own recovery shaped the way he now works with men and couples.
2. What his research revealed about the role of culture and history in treating Black men with sex addiction.
3. Why guilt and remorse don’t reliably stop lying and secrecy in addiction.
4. What partners actually need after betrayal and where their focus often goes too soon.

This is a thoughtful, nuanced conversation that isn’t just about sex addiction- it’s about honesty, courage and what healing truly requires.

You can find Dr. Kervins Clement on:

YouTube @DrKervinsClement

Instagram @drkervinsclement

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

We're re-releasing one of our most listened to episodes! If you’ve been curious about what the concepts of Doing It Together can do for your sex life and marriage in the long term, you'll want to listen to Justin and Sandra's story.

Married for 19 years, they took Doing It Together two years ago and they graciously share VERY specific details about what their relationship and sex life look like now. They open up about how they’ve learned to talk, play, remain curious, and change things up through life’s ups and downs.

They also share how their marriage has changed outside the bedroom and the routines they’ve incorporated to keep their connection at the forefront of their marriage.

You can listen to Justin and Sandra's personal stories by listening to these previous episodes:

Justin's Story in Episode 82

Sandra's Story in Episode 74

The Michelle Mays episode on Betrayal Trauma can be found here: Episode 108

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

There is no shortcut to heal from a toxic world that has tricked us into thinking sex is just a series of acts designed to physically stimulate us. The only way through is to slow down, unlearn and heal- not just for your marriage but for your well-being. 

It’s understanding safety, not just physically, but emotionally.

It’s questioning the model of sex you were handed, instead of trying to perform it better.

It’s rebuilding trust with your own body.

And, when you’re doing this together, it’s learning how to create a sexual environment that doesn’t require forcing, convincing, or enduring.

This is exactly what I talk about in the podcast episode today- why trying harder is often the very thing that makes sex feel worse, not better.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Justin joins me for a foundational episode in which we zoom out and discuss the role that men play when their wives have “low libido”. 

He starts off by sharing how he felt when his wife stopped wanting to have sex with him- the feelings of confusion and worrying if he had done something wrong.

Then we take a journey through the unique ways men can contribute to a great sex life, how to create a comfortable, pressure-free environment and the work they can do outside of the bedroom.

I’m so grateful to work alongside Justin in supporting men and if you’d like to hear more of his story, you can listen to Episode 82 as well as Episode 148 with his wife, Sandra.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Many women I talk to struggle enjoying physical touch during sex. They don’t know their experience can be any other way so they continue trying to enjoy things they don’t like and then label themselves as “non-sexual”. 

In our conversation, my husband and I discuss:

• why so many women push themselves to initiate or say yes even when their body is clearly uncomfortable

• why discomfort is so often normalized through culture, media, and silence

• the real fears women carry about speaking up and the consequences they’re trying to avoid

• why this can feel shocking or confusing for men when the truth finally comes out

If having a closer, more connected and joyful sex life is something you want in your relationship, this episode is an important one to listen to.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most important elements of moving towards freedom in your relationship and that is…a reset from sex.

It’s something that you may have heard many times on the podcast in interviews with alumni of Doing It Together but it’s the first time I’ve addressed it directly.

If you are tired of the mental energy sex is taking up in your life right now, I highly encourage you to listen to this conversation.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Today on the podcast I recorded a short and sweet solo episode for you but really it’s a love-letter to my former self.

Anxiety (just a different term for “fear”) is telling you something and if you are feeling it around sex, there is something to learn. And I promise you, it’s not that you are broken and that nothing will ever work. I used to believe that too but that thought will only keep you stuck.

Listen and trust yourself and please, please, please get some support for this. It’s not going to change on it’s own.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Since we’re headed into a time of the year where there may be some extra space as a couple, I thought it would be a good idea to talk about expectations around sex and special occasions. 

I know this happens more often with birthdays and vacations but it’s possible that in the lull between Christmas and New Years some pressure could creep in.

In this short episode, we discuss why this happens, the harm it can cause and what to do instead. Plus we talk about what gifts husbands should never get their wives 🙂.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

The idea that men are so simple to please and women are a difficult maze of sensitive knobs and dials, often leaves female pleasure forgotten about.

But what if something else was happening? What if our culture has only taught men and women about men’s bodies and pleasure? What if women’s genitals and orgasms felt impossibly difficult because we are all trying to approach them like men’s? 

This is what we discussed on the podcast this week- sharing openly our current challenges with my partner learning my body as well as the common feeling amongst women that we don’t work properly or that we’re broken.

And to make it practical, we also included some basic concepts to understand when approaching the clitoris.

We didn’t hold anything back in this 30 minute episode and I hope you can find a quiet, private moment to join the conversation.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Janna and her husband discuss the ins and outs of talking about sex as a couple- why so many people struggle with it, their personal challenges with communication, and what they're currently experimenting with to try to improve.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

It’s been a dream of mine to be able to chat with my daughter on the podcast and get her take on some of the concepts we discuss here.

In this episode, we touch on what she is learning in her class about consent and rape culture, her take on what’s happening in teen relationships, and a bit of advice for parents thinking about teaching consent to their own kids.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Over the last 8 years Janna has specialized in helping women with low libido, she frequently hears them share about how difficult it is to talk with their husbands about personal hygiene.

“My husband always has bad breath.”

“I wish he would shave before coming to bed.”

“Is it too much to ask to wear clean boxers?”

In this episode, Janna and her husband, Dwayne, discuss the trends she's been seeing, the cultural messages that impact this topic, his experience as a pre-teen learning about personal care, his current routine, and advice for talking to your husband about this.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

If you’ve ever felt emotionally disconnected during sex, you’re not alone. Janna and her husband Dwayne talk through the common reasons this can happen (for both men and women), how to recognize when you’re feeling out of sync, how to share that with your partner, and the steps you can take to make those moments feel more connected more often.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Janna shares a major life update with her listeners and introduces a very special guest.

In early October, she married her new partner, Dwayne. Together, Janna and Dwayne openly and courageously reflect on the past few years — including Janna’s divorce, how they met, and what sparked their connection.

They also give listeners a candid look into their intimate life and explain how the principles of Doing It Together have shaped their relationship from the very beginning.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Part 2 of Lisa’s story is a must-listen episode. She opens up about how decades of prioritizing her husband’s sexual needs while ignoring her own led to a nervous breakdown that affected her both physically and emotionally.

Lisa believed she was doing the right thing—following the “marriage formula” and giving him what he needed to keep the peace and manage his moods. But deep down, her body was begging for change. She just didn’t have the language or tools to understand what was wrong. 

In this episode, Lisa shares how discovering Janna’s podcast and program transformed their marriage—and how she realized her so-called “low libido” was never the real problem.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

In Part 1 of Lisa’s story, she looks back on her youth and the awkward search for answers about sex and sexuality as a now 59-year-old woman.

Her parents spoke in vague, confusing terms and never provided real context, which she found bizarre. The explanations she did receive made her body’s natural changes sound painful and frightening. While there was plenty of playground gossip, there was no real guidance from anyone who actually knew what they were talking about. Magazines like Cosmopolitan painted sex as a kind of theatrical performance, leaving Lisa with a jumble of misinformation that led to years of confusion, fear, and dishonesty.

Tune in next week to hear Part 2 and how Lisa finally found truthful guidance to erase this old and tired narrative.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

Janna answers recent questions she's received about her program for couples, Doing It Together.

Questions include:

• What if I don’t feel physically attracted to my husband?
• What is your opinion on sleep deprivation and sex drive?
• How do you rekindle connection if you didn't start with a lot of chemistry in the first place?
• What happens if my husband has decided he likes something during sex that I DONT?
• How do I encourage my husband to want help as well? Most of this is blamed on me.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.

As the last round of Doing It Together came to a close, Janna and her team hosted one final Zoom call with all the couples. It wasn’t just a goodbye; it was a celebration of the journey they had taken together. At one point, Janna posed a simple but powerful question: “What’s been the most surprising thing you’ve discovered through this experience?”

The answers that followed were nothing short of inspiring. In just eight weeks, these couples had already begun reshaping the way they connected, rebuilt trust, and opened doors to deeper intimacy. It wasn’t always easy—real change rarely is—but seeing their breakthroughs unfold reminded everyone of the heart behind Doing It Together: helping couples create an intimate life that feels safe, meaningful, and satisfying for both partners.

I am re-working my offerings and will have some very exciting things coming in the new year. If you’ve been thinking about taking my programs on your own or with your partner, please make sure that you are on my email list to get all the updates. Go to www.jannadentonhowes.com/email to sign up.