Explore every episode of the podcast Doing Divorce Different with Lesa Koski
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| 7 Common Divorce Mistakes Women Make (And How to Avoid Them) | 09 Jun 2026 | 00:22:32 | |
Divorce mistakes, divorce recovery, women over 40, divorce support, life after divorce, divorce coaching, and emotional healing. In this episode of Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski shares the seven most common divorce mistakes she sees women make—and how to avoid them. If you're navigating divorce, feeling overwhelmed, worried about finances, struggling with parenting decisions, or wondering how you'll rebuild your life, this episode is for you. Lesa draws from years of experience as a divorce mediator and coach to help women avoid costly mistakes while holding onto hope for the future. You'll learn how to make better decisions during divorce, overcome fear around finances, protect your children from emotional fallout, build a support system, care for your physical and emotional health, and most importantly, keep hope alive during one of life's hardest transitions. Divorce recovery is not about being perfect. It's about taking the next right step. Whether you're considering divorce, currently going through it, or rebuilding afterward, this episode will help you move forward with more confidence and clarity. TIMESTAMPS: (00:00) Introduction to the most common divorce mistakes (03:10) Making decisions based on emotion instead of information (08:45) Overcoming fear about finances during divorce (15:12) Why the court won't provide emotional justice (21:35) Protecting children during divorce (28:05) The danger of refusing help and support (34:18) Why taking care of your body matters during divorce (42:40) Holding onto hope when life feels uncertain (49:10) Final encouragement and next steps KEY TAKEAWAYS: • Slow down and gather information before making major financial or legal decisions. • Learning about your finances can reduce fear and build confidence. • Children should never be used as messengers, therapists, or allies during divorce. • Healing happens faster when you ask for help and build community. • Hope is believing something good can still come from something hard. HOST BIO: Lesa Koski is a divorce mediator, coach, attorney, and host of Doing Divorce Different. She helps women over 40 navigate divorce with greater confidence, clarity, and hope through mediation, coaching, courses, and community. Her mission is to help women understand that midlife is not their crisis—it's their comeback. RESOURCE LINKS: Free Divorce Roadmap: Divorce Comeback Community: Connect with Lesa: TAGS/KEYWORDS: divorce mistakes, divorce recovery, women over 40, divorce support, divorce coach, divorce mediator, life after divorce, emotional healing, financial confidence after divorce, co-parenting, child custody, divorce advice for women, midlife women, rebuilding after divorce, hope after divorce, divorce comeback, divorce roadmap, women and divorce, personal growth after divorce | |||
| How to Get Strong Through Divorce: Rebuild Your Body, Mind & Confidence After 40 | 02 Jun 2026 | 00:17:40 | |
Divorce recovery, women's health after divorce, stress management, midlife wellness, strength training for women, emotional healing and divorce. In this episode of Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski shares how getting physically strong can help you become emotionally resilient during divorce and other difficult life transitions. When life feels overwhelming, many women focus on the legal and emotional aspects of divorce recovery while overlooking how stress impacts the body. Lesa opens up about her own experiences with divorce, adoption, breast cancer, anxiety, and learning how surrendering control changed everything. You'll discover practical ways to reduce stress, increase energy, build confidence, and strengthen your body during difficult seasons. From protein and fiber to walking, weightlifting, community, faith, and self-compassion, this episode offers simple strategies that can help support your divorce recovery and overall well-being. If you're navigating divorce recovery, heartbreak, grief, reinvention, or any season that feels heavy, this conversation will remind you that healing happens one small step at a time. Remember: Midlife is not your crisis. It's your comeback. TIMESTAMPS: (00:00) Why stress impacts your body during divorce (03:15) Lessons learned from breast cancer, surrender, and healing (06:40) The connection between emotional health and physical strength (09:05) Why walking can calm anxiety and regulate emotions (11:22) Building strength instead of chasing skinny (13:18) Protein, fiber, and simple nutrition changes that matter (16:20) The power of a 10-minute walk after meals (18:15) Why weightlifting is essential for women over 40 (21:08) Finding community and fun during difficult seasons (23:55) How exercise helped during cancer treatment (27:12) Learning to laugh at yourself: Lesa's YMCA story (32:20) Keeping promises to yourself builds confidence (35:15) Small steps that create lasting transformation (38:45) Midlife is not your crisis—it's your comeback (40:10) Free Divorce Roadmap and Divorce Comeback Community KEY TAKEAWAYS: • Physical strength supports emotional healing during divorce and life transitions. • Small habits like walking after meals and increasing protein can significantly improve energy and mood. • Weightlifting helps women maintain muscle, bone health, confidence, and resilience after 40. • Healing often begins by keeping small promises to yourself consistently. • Community, faith, laughter, and movement are powerful tools for navigating hard seasons. HOST BIO: Lesa Koski is a divorce mediator, divorce coach, attorney, podcast host, and founder of Doing Divorce Different. She helps women over 40 navigate divorce with more clarity, confidence, and hope through mediation, coaching, courses, and community. Lesa's mission is to help women understand that midlife is not their crisis—it's their comeback. RESOURCE LINKS: Free Divorce Roadmap: Divorce Comeback Community: Connect with Lesa: Podcast: Doing Divorce Different TAGS/KEYWORDS: divorce recovery, divorce support for women, women over 40, divorce healing, emotional healing, stress management, strength training for women, protein for women over 40, midlife wellness, divorce coach, divorce mediation, anxiety recovery, breast cancer survivor, women's health, personal growth, faith and healing, resilience after divorce, life after divorce, self-care during divorce, menopause fitness | |||
| Grief After Divorce & Loss: How to Rebuild Your Life with Spiritual Resilience | 14 Apr 2026 | 00:23:53 | |
Grief after divorce and loss is real. Learn how to rebuild your life with spiritual resilience, process grief, and move forward after major life transitions. In this powerful conversation, Lesa Koski sits down with spiritual resilience coach Carrie Hopkins to explore grief beyond death—including divorce, life transitions, and identity shifts. If you’re navigating grief after divorce or loss, this episode will help you understand how to process emotions, create a safe space for healing, and begin rebuilding your life. Together, they unpack the early stages of grief, why avoiding emotions can make things harder, and how spiritual resilience allows you to move forward—not move on—with strength and clarity. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction to grief beyond death (02:15) Carrie’s story: loss, divorce, and becoming a grief coach (05:40) Understanding grief in life transitions (08:30) Grief after divorce vs grief after death (11:10) Why we avoid emotions and what happens when we do (14:25) Step 1: Creating a safe space to feel your emotions (18:10) Naming emotions and why it matters (21:05) Step 2: Radical self-care during grief (24:30) Why neglecting yourself makes grief harder (27:15) Step 3: Making peace with the past (31:20) Letting go of judgment and limiting beliefs (35:10) The danger of idealizing relationships after loss (39:00) Moving forward vs “moving on” (42:00) How to begin rebuilding your life Key Takeaways: Grief is not just about death—it includes divorce, identity shifts, and life transitions Avoiding emotions can intensify grief and lead to emotional or physical consequences Creating a safe space to feel and express emotions is the first step toward healing Radical self-care is essential to build capacity during difficult seasons Healing comes from making peace with the past—not staying stuck in it Guest Bio: Carrie Hopkins is a spiritual resilience coach and founder of Life’s Next Chapter Coaching. She specializes in helping individuals rebuild their lives after loss, including divorce, bereavement, and major life transitions. Through her Rebuilding Your Life After Loss program, Carrie guides clients to reconnect with their inner strength and create a life they love after grief. Resource Links: Carrie Hopkins Coaching: Life’s Next Chapter Coaching Rebuilding Your Life After Loss Program Contact: Carrie@LifesNextChapterCoaching.com Lesa Koski Mediation & Coaching: Lesakoski.com Tags/Keywords: grief after divorce, grief after loss, spiritual resilience, divorce healing, life after divorce, rebuilding after loss, emotional healing, grief coaching, midlife transitions, women over 40, divorce recovery, loss and healing | |||
| Life Changes | 26 Mar 2024 | 00:16:51 | |
A New Journey: From Doing Divorce Different to Saddle Up Live Lesa Koski, a family law attorney turned mediator and host of Doing Divorce Different, shares news of ending the podcast to embark on a new project, 'Saddle Up Live,' influenced by her recent breast cancer diagnosis with a 98% positive outcome. She expresses gratitude for early detection, discusses the impact of the diagnosis on her life, including the emotional journey. Lesa reflects on the support from her faith, the learning experience from hosting her podcast, and her excitement for the new direction with Saddle Up Live. She mentions her desire to continue helping people, especially women, through their challenges and encourages listeners to embrace every moment with strength and resilience. The announcement includes details about her divorce mediation resources still being available and ends with an expression of gratitude for her listeners and the encouragement to stay positive and tuned in for her next venture. 00:00 Welcome and a Big Announcement 01:01 Sharing Personal News: A Journey of Health and Faith 03:52 Introducing Saddle Up Live: A New Beginning 05:56 Reflections on Doing Divorce Different and Future Plans 12:07 Empowerment Through Divorce and Beyond 14:02 Gratitude and Looking Forward Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Encore: Divorce Dilemmas Unveiled | 19 Mar 2024 | 00:25:00 | |
Across all the mediation meetings I have had, there seem to be seven common dilemmas that come up. I have teamed up with my coach, Tracy Pleschourt, to put together a half-day workshop to empower women to suffer less while going through divorce. During this episode, Tracy and I give a sneak peak into the seven dilemmas, and what we will cover regarding each one during the workshop. If you are local to the Minnesota area and looking for support, tune in to hear about this wonderful opportunity to not only work through common roadblocks, but also meet other incredible women who are on the same journey as you. In this episode:
Key Takeaways:
Quotes: [10:13] “Teaching the people at the workshop how to really feel them (feelings), because coach Tracy, you taught me that anything in the dark can’t heal. So when we try to fight those feelings or pretend we don’t have them or ignore them, they’re in the dark when we go “hello there fear, or anxiety, or whatever you are,” it comes to the light and that’s the first step in being able to heal.” - Lesa Koski [12:52] “I think when you find yourself swimming in judgment, you have to decide to prioritize your well-being over societal opinions and stigma. You have to challenge the stigma by refusing to internalize those judgements. You have to be able to separate the fact from the fiction of how society views divorce, like leveraging empathy for yourself.” - Tracy Pleschourt [15:42] “If loneliness is getting in the way of you being able to get through your day, then therapy is definitely the path that you want to pursue. If it’s just something that you’re starting to recognize, but you’re still able to get through your day, you’re still able to manage your day, then coaching is probably the right path for you to take.” - Tracy Pleschourt Guest Bio: Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness through life coaching. Tracy has mastered and now teaches the critical skills necessary to manage your mind and overcome any obstacle, including overeating, over drinking, time management, career & relationship changes. Just a few years ago, Tracy was a successful, advertising executive. Stifled by the rigorous, time-consuming demands of the corporate world, she traded in her 20 years of advertising to pursue her real passion: life & weight loss coaching. Tracy is a student of her own work and has stopped overeating, overdrinking, and created a multi six figure business while mastering metabolic health. Today, Tracy coaches people all across the country who want to do the same. Tracy dedicates her work to ambitious, life-long learners yearning for answers and seeking a better way to create the results they desire and deserve. She instills confidence and a call to action that leads to unlimited wealth and wellness. Resources: To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment Part 2 Planning your Life! | 14 Mar 2024 | 00:24:44 | |
This episode of 'Doing Divorce Different' features a continuation of a discussion with coach Tracy about the transformative power of a specific planner available on Amazon. The conversation delves into the planner's structure, emphasizing the 'S E L F' acronym to guide daily introspection and intention-setting. Highlighting the necessity of confronting self-saboteur behaviors and leveraging personal strengths, this segment also introduces a free saboteur assessment available at selfmadeu.com. Beyond personal organization, the planner serves as a tool for self-discovery and empowerment, proving beneficial in various life scenarios including personal growth, business, and navigating divorce. The episode concludes with invitations to explore further resources for divorce support and personal empowerment. 00:00 Introduction to the Show 00:21 The Saddle Up Segment with Coach Tracy 00:30 The Power of a Planner 01:20 Understanding the SELF Method 02:13 Exploring the 'E' in SELF 03:14 Identifying Saboteur Narratives 14:49 Leveraging Your Strengths 19:17 Finishing with a Decision 21:22 Closing Remarks and Resources Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Hacking Happiness | 12 Mar 2024 | 00:34:34 | |
Hacking Happiness through Divorce with Penny Lacaso In this episode of we welcome Penny Lacaso from Melbourne, Australia, to discuss how individuals facing or going through divorce can find happiness and empowerment. Penny, a happiness hacker and author of 'Hacking Happiness,' shares her personal journey, including her childhood experience with her parents' divorce and her own divorce after a long-term marriage. She emphasizes the significance of defining happiness on one's own terms and provides techniques for cultivating joy and self-compassion during challenging times like divorce. The conversation covers the importance of allowing oneself to feel a range of emotions, the power of small acts of kindness, and practical exercises to foster happiness, including the 'Three Good Things' practice recommended by positive psychology. Penny and Lesa also discuss the value of self-compassion and using challenging life events as opportunities for growth and self-discovery. 00:00 Introduction to the Show and Guest 01:45 Getting to Know Penny Lacaso 03:29 Penny's Personal Journey and the Concept of Happiness 06:55 Understanding Self and Discovering Personal Happiness 08:51 The Power of Self-Compassion and Overcoming Judgement 11:49 The Role of Choice in Happiness and Dealing with Negative Emotions 15:51 Practical Tips for Finding Joy and Happiness 31:14 Final Thoughts and Contact Information 32:18 Show Closing Bio: Penny Lacaso is the first hapiness hacker on a quest to teach 10 million humans by 2025, how to flourish in life! Find Penny here! Resources! Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment Part 1 Planner for a Better Life | 07 Mar 2024 | 00:20:14 | |
In this episode of Doing Divorce Different Lesa Koski invites her favorite coach, Tracy, to talk about self-empowerment and self-coaching. They discuss the benefits of asking yourself the right questions for personal growth, tools for assessing individual feelings, and learning how to show up in situations. Their focus lies in maximizing life and recognizing the value in every experience. Tracy's book is highlighted, a day planner offering tools and daily self-coaching questions for self-improvement. Their conversation also dives deep into the importance of creating self-reliance, self-confidence, and self-trust, all through the way of practicing self-coaching daily. 00:01 Introduction and Welcome 00:25 Reintroducing the Favorite Coach 00:36 The Impact of Tracy's Tips 01:04 Introduction to the Self-Made Day Planner 01:30 How to Purchase and Use the Planner 01:52 Tracy's Input on the Planner 02:33 The Planner as a Self-Coaching Tool 05:21 The Importance of Self-Reflection 05:46 The Impact of the Planner on Daily Life 06:14 The Science of Learning and Self-Reflection 08:15 The Planner as a Tool for Self-Awareness 08:45 The Planner's Structure and Methodology 09:20 The Planner's Impact on Positive Thinking 11:49 The Planner's Role in Eliminating Self-Sabotage 17:42 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Resilience and Growth: Laila Aitken's Guide to Doing Divorce Different | 05 Mar 2024 | 00:30:47 | |
Doing Divorce Different: A Candid Conversation with Laila Aitken In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different', host Lesa Koski, a family law attorney turned mediator, engages in a conversational interview with guest Laila Aitken Ali, a divorce coach and founder of Split FYI. They discuss overcoming the fear and emotional challenges of divorce, the importance of self-empowerment and self-care, and ways to effectively compartmentalize problems during difficult times. Laila shares her personal journey of divorce and how it led her to mentor and help others going through similar experiences. She emphasizes on viewing divorce as a journey of self-discovery and clarity, and offers advice on maintaining a positive mindset and seeking support through community-based resources like Split FYI. 00:01 Introduction and Welcome 00:25 Meet the Guest: Laila Aitken Ali 01:57 The Journey to Becoming a Divorce Coach 02:46 The Impact of Divorce on Self-Trust 03:46 The Role of a Divorce Coach 04:20 The Importance of Self-Care During Divorce 05:40 The Power of Mindset in Navigating Divorce 06:12 Steps to Alleviate Overwhelm During Divorce 07:17 The Power of Compartmentalizing During Divorce 09:51 The Importance of Self-Talk and Embracing Feelings 12:09 The Power of Positive Mindset and Self-Acknowledgement 22:04 The Role of a Love Book in Nurturing Self-Love 26:40 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Bio. Struck by her own 10-year-long experience with divorce, Laila was exhausted and thrown by the complexities and lack of consolidated information to help her close that chapter. She longed for a safe place to access emotional and organizational help, with professionals, resources, tools, and a warm community of those who already understand the situation. Over time, this sparked Laila to create Split.fyi to propel more people in her situation forward. Laila focuses on being a positive thinking partner to help educate and support others to create their own personal roadmap, navigate the tides, and reclaim their confidence and inner balance. Laila is a mom, accredited mediator, certified CDC Certified Divorce Coach® and in the Better Apart Method, a global citizen, and hopes to inspire everyone to take agency over their lives by educating and supporting as many people as she can to rest, reclaim and rebirth before, during and after divorce, breakup or a major transition in their life. For Divorce Support go to Lesakoski.com Find Laila: https://splitfyi.com/about-us/ https://www.instagram.com/splitfyi/?hl=en https://www.facebook.com/groups/splitfyi Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment Discover your Values | 29 Feb 2024 | 00:07:17 | |
In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different', host Lesa Koski shares insights from her recent conversation with Jennifer Lee on how to manage finances amidst life transitions such as divorce. Lisa emphasizes the importance of understanding what really matters when it comes to spending and saving. Jennifer Lee provided important tools and posed thought-provoking scenarios to help listeners identify what they truly value and what they desire to achieve financially. This episode aims to alleviate anxieties surrounding financial issues and encourage listeners to envision their lives beyond monetary constraints. 00:01 Introduction to the Show 00:38 A Candid Conversation with Jennifer Lee 00:51 Understanding Your Finances 01:52 The Lottery Scenario 02:40 Three Deep Questions to Understand Your Values 04:27 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Make Money Your Best Friend by Learning What You Value | 27 Feb 2024 | 00:31:28 | |
This 'Doing Divorce Different' podcast episode features Jennifer Lee, the founder of modern wealth, who joins host Lesa Koski, family law attorney turned mediator, for an enlightening discussion about financial management and empowerment during transitions such as divorce. Jennifer shares her experiences of helping clients manage finances, focusing importantly on what clients value and helping them understand their needs, wants and discretionary amounts. Much time is spent discussing the 'non-money' spouse, particularly in the context of divorce, along with ways to alleviate financial fear and improve personal comfort with financial planning. Jennifer also discusses her book, 'Squeeze the Juice', which aims at helping readers get the best out their experiences and fulfilling their financial goals. 00:01 Introduction to Doing Divorce Different 00:29 Meet the Guest: Jennifer Lee, Founder of Modern Wealth 00:57 Understanding Finances and the Non-Money Spouse 01:55 The Importance of Reading and Learning 02:17 Jennifer's Approach to Finances and Money Management 03:15 The Concept of Financial Planning and Its Simplicity 04:05 Jennifer's Personal Journey with Money 04:38 Understanding Your Money Story and Its Impact 06:21 The Fear of Finances and How to Overcome It 07:19 The Importance of Knowing What You Value 08:46 The Concept of Discretionary Spending 13:18 The Reality of Living Above Your Means 18:34 Taking Control of Your Finances 27:03 Understanding the Title of Jennifer's Book: Squeeze the Juice 29:12 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Bio: Jennifer Lee is the founder of Modern-Wealth (www.Modern-Wealth.com); and has been in the financial services industry for 26 years; 44 years if you count going to the office with her father as a child. She has a relationship with money that is familiar, and she loves engaging people on the subject. Aside from travel, cooking, and hanging out with her family, she is most happy working. She is passionate about educating her clients, the divorcee wanting to get her future lined up, a business client desiring to expand or sell his operation, or a couple wanting to make sure they have provided for their kids and grandkids, about the nuances of planning for their financial future; hoping to change their perspective of the process. For her, it is fulfilling, and fun. Book Website: SqueezeTheJuiceBook.com Facebook: Facebook.com/ModernWealthInvest LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/In/Jennifer-Lee-awma®-aif®-1b5aa56/ Instagram: Instagram.com/modernwealthloveletter/ Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment Co-Parenting Well Through Divorce | 22 Feb 2024 | 00:06:53 | |
In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski revisits an enlightening conversation with well-known author and expert, Sharon Pope. Sharon shared significant tools for helping children cope during a divorce, including creating a list of changes and a larger list of things that will stay the same to alleviate fear of the unknown. Lesa expanded on Sharon’s insights about the unforeseen lessons children might learn from divorce, such as self-advocacy and setting boundaries. Lesa also highlighted the importance of maintaining a cordial relationship with the co-parent for the sake of children. This episode serves as a resource for those seeking tactful ways to approach their children about divorce. 00:01 Introduction and Welcome 00:21 Recap of Tuesday's Episode with Sharon Pope 00:48 Tools for Helping Children Through Divorce 01:05 The Importance of a Parenting Plan 01:30 How to Communicate Changes to Children 02:24 Unexpected Lessons Children Learn from Divorce 04:10 The Power of Kindness in Co-Parenting 04:36 Conclusion and Invitation to Connect Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| To Stay or to go and What About the Children with Sharon Pope | 20 Feb 2024 | 00:30:39 | |
This episode of the 'Doing Divorce Different' podcast features an enlightening conversation between the show's host, Lesa Koski, and guest, Sharon Pope, a master life coach and relationship expert. They discuss the various ways to manage the process of divorce and how to make the experience less traumatic through self-empowerment. Sharon offers a unique perspective, given her personal experience with divorce and subsequent transformation into a relationship and life coach. The episode provides helpful advice and tools for listeners who may be contemplating divorce, notably the importance of self-work and setting boundaries. Special attention is given to the impact of divorce on children and how it can be managed positively. 00:01 Introduction and Welcome 00:21 Guest Introduction: Sharon Pope 01:45 Sharon's Personal Journey and Expertise 12:21 The Importance of Self-Work in Relationships 18:52 The Impact of Divorce on Children 27:46 Final Thoughts and Takeaways This episode of the 'Doing Divorce Different' podcast features an enlightening conversation between the show's host, Lesa Koski, and guest, Sharon Pope, a master life coach and relationship expert. They discuss the various ways to manage the process of divorce and how to make the experience less traumatic through self-empowerment. Sharon offers a unique perspective, given her personal experience with divorce and subsequent transformation into a relationship and life coach. The episode provides helpful advice and tools for listeners who may be contemplating divorce, notably the importance of self-work and setting boundaries. Special attention is given to the impact of divorce on children and how it can be managed positively. 00:01 Introduction and Welcome 00:21 Guest Introduction: Sharon Pope 01:45 Sharon's Personal Journey and Expertise 12:21 The Importance of Self-Work in Relationships 18:52 The Impact of Divorce on Children 27:46 Final Thoughts and Takeaways Bio: Sharon Pope is a certified Master Life Coach, relationship expert, and seven-time best-selling author on love and relationships, including "Stay or Go: How to Find the Confidence & Clarity You Need to Either Fix the Struggles in Your Marriage or Move Forward without Regret," which has sold more than 300,000 copies worldwide, and host of the podcast, "The Loving Truth." Sharon's been a guest on many podcasts and is committed to helping women and men get the tools they need to improve, heal, or release their struggling marriages. https://sharonpope.com/ Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| How Divorce Mediation Works in Minnesota (Step-by-Step Guide to a Calm Divorce) | 09 Apr 2026 | 00:10:28 | |
Minnesota divorce mediation explained step-by-step. Learn how divorce mediation works in Minnesota, avoid court, reduce conflict, and save money with a guided process. If you’re in Minnesota and wondering how divorce mediation works, this episode walks you through the entire process—from consultation to finalization. Divorce mediation in Minnesota offers a calmer, more structured alternative to litigation, helping couples avoid court and move forward with less conflict. In this episode, Lesa Koski explains how divorce mediation works in Minnesota, what to expect in each step, and why so many couples choose mediation over traditional divorce. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure what to do next, this will give you clarity and a path forward. Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to divorce mediation in Minnesota (02:10) What divorce mediation actually is (04:30) Why mediation feels scary (and why it works anyway) (06:15) Step-by-step process of mediation in Minnesota (09:40) Parenting plans and financial agreements explained (13:20) How paperwork and filing works in Minnesota (15:10) Why couples choose mediation over court (18:00) Benefits for children and long-term relationships (20:10) How to get started with mediation Key Takeaways:
Guest Bio: Lesa Koski is a Minnesota-based divorce mediator, attorney, and life coach who helps couples move through divorce with clarity, dignity, and less conflict. With decades of experience and a heart for guiding families through difficult transitions, Lesa combines legal knowledge with emotional support to create a calmer path forward. Resource Links:Tags/Keywords: Minnesota divorce mediation, divorce mediation Minnesota, how divorce mediation works, divorce without court Minnesota, uncontested divorce Minnesota, divorce help Minnesota, mediation vs litigation, co parenting divorce, low conflict divorce, divorce process Minnesota | |||
| Saddle Up Segment The Heartache of Divorce | 15 Feb 2024 | 00:07:56 | |
Navigating Divorce and Personal Growth In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different', Lesa Koski, a family law attorney and mediator, talks about grappling with the idea of ending a marriage. Koski emphasizes the importance of introspection, highlighting her own experience of maintaining a marriage through self-growth. She encourages her listeners to confront their feelings about their marriage and shares strategies for self-improvement. She notes the potential benefits these changes can have on their spouses or their own perception of themselves. Koski also discusses how personal growth can equip individuals to be independent, should they decide to end their marriage. Drawing from her own experience, she underscores that neither decision is easy, and that marriage requires work. She ends by providing support and positivity for those contemplating divorce after Valentine's Day. 00:01 Introduction to Doing Divorce Different 00:21 Saddle Up Segment: Post-Valentine's Day Reflections 01:12 Contemplating the End of Marriage 02:48 The Power of Self-Improvement in Marriage 03:22 The Impact of Personal Growth on Your Relationship 04:41 Making the Tough Decision: Stay or Leave? 04:49 The Importance of Communication and Boundaries 05:16 Sending Love to Those Contemplating Divorce 05:40 Conclusion and Invitation to Connect Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| When Happily Ever After Ends | 13 Feb 2024 | 00:29:14 | |
In this episode of Doing Divorce Different, host Lesa Koski holds a candid conversation with divorce attorney-turned-mediator Karen Covy. They discuss entrepreneurship, their roles as recovering lawyers, the importance of divorce coaches, and how to navigate the divorce process. Covy shares her journey from being a lawyer to becoming a divorce coach, her commitment to changing the people going into the divorce system, and the importance of self-work in the decision-making process. She also talks about her book, 'When Happily Ever After Ends', which offers resources for people to handle divorce better. 00:01 Introduction and Welcome 00:18 Getting to Know Karen Covey 01:09 The Importance of Divorce Coaches 01:56 Karen's Journey to Becoming a Divorce Coach 04:59 The Role of a Divorce Coach 06:34 The Starfish Story 07:32 Karen's Book: When Happily Ever After Ends 09:14 How to Know When It's Time to Divorce 12:49 The Importance of Self-Work in Decision Making 16:48 The Role of Honesty in Decision Making 17:53 Making the Decision to Divorce 26:16 Final Thoughts and Contact Information Bio: A DIVORCE COACH AND CONSULTANT, MEDIATOR, AUTHOR, SPEAKER, COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE PROFESSIONAL, AND A RECOVERING DIVORCE ATTORNEY. https://karencovy.com/podcast/ https://www.facebook.com/KarenCovy https://www.linkedin.com/in/karencovy/ Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment You May Be Able to Divorce Better! | 08 Feb 2024 | 00:08:26 | |
In this episode, Lesa Koski, a family law attorney and mediator, hosts a conversation about managing divorce effectively. She emphasizes the importance of education about divorce laws and procedures, recommending divorce mediation and collaborative law as potential paths. Lesa warns about situations involving power imbalances or abuse, advising such individuals to consult an attorney. She also highlights the importance of being well-informed and less naive in navigating divorce, especially considering the legal binding nature of marriage. Guest Paulette Rigaud, founder of Better Divorce Academy, shares her challenging divorce experience that lasted eight years. Lisa finishes by encouraging listeners to consider consulting a divorce coach to gain insights into navigating a divorce efficiently. 00:01 Introduction to the Show 00:24 Saddle Up Segment: Discussing Divorce 01:32 Understanding Divorce Laws 02:09 Considering Collaborative Divorce 03:03 The Importance of Agreement in Divorce 03:49 Learning from Past Divorce Experiences 04:34 The Legal Implications of Marriage 05:24 The Role of a Divorce Coach 06:00 Conclusion and Farewell Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Better Divorce Insights from Paulette Rigo | 06 Feb 2024 | 00:30:02 | |
Lesa Koski and guest Paulette Rigo, founder of Better Divorce Academy, dive deep into the topic of handling divorce in a better way. Paulette explains her personal experience, which led her to the creation of her academy. She emphasizes the importance of being prepared, understanding the daunting divorce process, and breaking it down into manageable steps. Paulette also discusses the impact of divorce on productivity in the workplace, leading her to also work with companies through Divorce Right Inc. to proactively manage this. The conversation concludes with the encouragement to approach problems by looking at the big picture and breaking it down into bite-sized pieces. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Presentation 00:19 Getting to Know Paulette Rigo 01:36 Paulette's Journey to Divorce Coaching 02:23 Paulette's Personal Divorce Story 04:47 The Impact of Divorce on Personal Life 05:56 The Importance of Divorce Coaching 21:10 The Role of Divorce Coaches in the Corporate World 24:59 Final Thoughts and Advice https://www.facebook.com/betterdivorceacademy https://www.linkedin.com/in/betterdivorceacademy/ https://www.instagram.com/paulettegloriarigo/ https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ https://betterdivorceacademy.com/podcasts/ Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment The Power of Self-Reflection in Divorce | 01 Feb 2024 | 00:10:40 | |
In this episode of "Doing Divorce Different," Attorney turned Mediator, Lesa Koski, shares her insights and advice on how to alleviate the fear of divorce and heal through empowerment. She emphasizes the importance of working on oneself before making the decision to divorce, and how this can positively impact the relationship dynamics. Lesa also shares personal anecdotes and lessons learned from her own marriage, highlighting the transformative power of self-love and setting boundaries. Tune in to discover valuable tips and resources for navigating the divorce process in a better way. - Episode Highlights: - Introduction to "Doing Divorce Different" and the host, Lisa Kosky. - The significance of working on oneself before contemplating divorce. - How personal growth and self-love can positively impact the marriage. - Personal experiences and lessons learned from Lisa's own marriage. - The transformative power of changing one's mindset and embracing self-care. - Exploring resources like books, podcasts, and coaches to support personal growth. - Practical tips for changing negative thought patterns and beliefs. - Invitation to a workshop on the seven dilemmas women face in divorce, taking place on April 25th and emphasizing self-care and community. - Encouragement to connect with Lesa Koski for further support and sign up for the newsletter. Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| The Power of Collaboration in Divorce | 30 Jan 2024 | 00:29:21 | |
In this podcast episode, Lucia Ramirez Levias, a collaborative law attorney, shares her personal journey that led her towards a career of helping people work together instead of fighting it out in court. Graduating with an aim to do immigration law, she found a niche in family law, which she ultimately blended with her experience in youth development work before law school. With collaborative divorce, Lucia discusses how it fosters a peaceful and durable settlement that mitigates the negative impacts on children, unlike traditional litigation. She emphasizes the role of a professional team consisting of collaborative attorneys and a divorce coach. While acknowledging that power dynamics and domestic violence issues can prevent engagement in collaborative law, Lucia still sees potential for its effectiveness in some power imbalance situations. Lucia advises listeners to consider their high-end goals to guide them during the divorce process. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Presentation 00:46 Lucia's Journey to Becoming a Collaborative Law Attorney 03:33 The Impact of Traditional Family Law and Transition to Collaborative Divorce 05:32 Understanding Collaborative Law 09:42 The Role of a Divorce Coach in Collaborative Law 11:09 Personal Experiences with Divorce 16:15 When Collaborative Law Might Not Be the Best Option 20:06 The Difference Between Collaborative Law and Litigation 24:36 Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: Tips to Help You Communicate Better During a Divorce | 25 Jan 2024 | 00:09:54 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today is all about communication. Lesa is sharing some of her favorite communication tools that she teaches her mediation clients. These tips can help you whether you are working through divorce mediation, navigating collaborative law, or having issues with co-parenting. Tune in to hear Lesa’s 5 tips to communicate better. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. Resources To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Conquering Loneliness After Divorce | 23 Jan 2024 | 00:32:06 | |
Navigating Loneliness in Relationships In this podcast episode, host Lesa Koski takes on the topic of navigating loneliness with the help of guest and family therapist, Brian Burns. They discuss how loneliness can be a fundamental issue in marriage and relationships, often motivating individuals to avoid divorce out of fear of isolation. Brian offers insights on tackling loneliness by practicing outward-focused interactions, self-awareness, and open communication, emphasizing that individuals should focus on their feelings when attempting to communicate their loneliness to a partner. Brian also advocates for couples to seek therapy and emphasizes that the process is about working on oneself in front of their partner. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 00:20 Discussing Loneliness and Its Impact 00:55 Guest's Podcast and Its Themes 01:35 Exploring the Topic of Sex and Communication 03:00 Diving into the Feelings of Loneliness 03:43 The Fear of Loneliness in Divorce 04:39 Loneliness as a State of Mind 05:24 The Societal Impact of Loneliness 06:14 Strategies to Combat Loneliness 07:02 The Role of Communication in Addressing Loneliness 07:33 The Power of Small Interactions 01:34 The Importance of Self-Reflection in Understanding Loneliness 11:25 The Role of Alcohol in Social Interactions 11:51 The Power of Texting in Building Connections 13:54 The Role of Mindset in Addressing Loneliness 18:43 The Importance of Honesty in Relationships 24:30 The Role of Marriage Counseling in Addressing Loneliness 28:36 Conclusion and Guest's Contact Information Find Lesa at: Lesakoski.com https://linktr.ee/lesakoski Find Brian at: https://www.mnrelationshiprepair.com Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment Part 2 on People Pleasing | 18 Jan 2024 | 00:18:35 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Do you find yourself getting lost in people pleasing? Traci is back to talk about what people pleasing is and how you can start living for yourself. People pleasing is in the eye of the beholder, and sometimes it may feel good to be available for the people around you, there may also be times when you feel like you are being dragged around to do what everyone else wants. Tune in to learn how to become grounded and confident in what you desire, and how to place boundaries to protect what you want. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. Resources To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Divorce Dilemmas Unveiled | 16 Jan 2024 | 00:25:29 | |
Across all the mediation meetings I have had, there seem to be seven common dilemmas that come up. I have teamed up with my coach, Tracy Pleschourt, to put together a half-day workshop to empower women to suffer less while going through divorce. During this episode, Tracy and I give a sneak peak into the seven dilemmas, and what we will cover regarding each one during the workshop. If you are local to the Minnesota area and looking for support, tune in to hear about this wonderful opportunity to not only work through common roadblocks, but also meet other incredible women who are on the same journey as you. In this episode:
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Quotes: [10:13] “Teaching the people at the workshop how to really feel them (feelings), because coach Tracy, you taught me that anything in the dark can’t heal. So when we try to fight those feelings or pretend we don’t have them or ignore them, they’re in the dark when we go “hello there fear, or anxiety, or whatever you are,” it comes to the light and that’s the first step in being able to heal.” - Lesa Koski [12:52] “I think when you find yourself swimming in judgment, you have to decide to prioritize your well-being over societal opinions and stigma. You have to challenge the stigma by refusing to internalize those judgements. You have to be able to separate the fact from the fiction of how society views divorce, like leveraging empathy for yourself.” - Tracy Pleschourt [15:42] “If loneliness is getting in the way of you being able to get through your day, then therapy is definitely the path that you want to pursue. If it’s just something that you’re starting to recognize, but you’re still able to get through your day, you’re still able to manage your day, then coaching is probably the right path for you to take.” - Tracy Pleschourt Guest Bio: Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness through life coaching. Tracy has mastered and now teaches the critical skills necessary to manage your mind and overcome any obstacle, including overeating, over drinking, time management, career & relationship changes. Just a few years ago, Tracy was a successful, advertising executive. Stifled by the rigorous, time-consuming demands of the corporate world, she traded in her 20 years of advertising to pursue her real passion: life & weight loss coaching. Tracy is a student of her own work and has stopped overeating, overdrinking, and created a multi six figure business while mastering metabolic health. Today, Tracy coaches people all across the country who want to do the same. Tracy dedicates her work to ambitious, life-long learners yearning for answers and seeking a better way to create the results they desire and deserve. She instills confidence and a call to action that leads to unlimited wealth and wellness. Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Divorce and Finances: How to Overcome Fear and Take Control of Your Future | 07 Apr 2026 | 00:30:57 | |
Divorce and finances can feel overwhelming, confusing, and scary—but they don’t have to. In this episode, we break down divorce and finances, how to overcome fear, and how to build financial confidence after divorce. If you’re navigating divorce and finances, this conversation will help you feel more empowered, informed, and in control of your future. In this episode, Lesa sits down with financial advisor and Certified Transition Specialist Kathleen Judge to talk about one of the biggest fears women face during divorce—finances. Together, they explore how your relationship with money is shaped, why so many women feel disconnected from financial decisions, and how to rebuild confidence step by step. You’ll learn the three phases of financial transition, how to avoid costly mistakes, and how to align your finances with what truly matters most in your life. Whether you’re going through a divorce, preparing for one, or simply want to feel more confident with your money, this episode is for you. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction to divorce and financial fear (03:45) Kathleen’s personal story and career transition (08:20) Why women feel disconnected from finances (12:10) Financial triage: what to do first in divorce (18:30) The messy middle: emotions and decision-making (24:15) Common financial mistakes to avoid (28:40) Understanding assets, debt, and beneficiaries (34:10) Aligning money with your values (40:05) Creating a vision for your financial future (45:20) Final thoughts and how to get support Key Takeaways:
Guest Bio: Kathleen Judge is a financial advisor with Edward Jones and a Certified Transition Specialist. She specializes in helping individuals navigate major life transitions such as divorce, widowhood, and retirement. Kathleen is passionate about empowering women to understand their finances, build confidence, and create a secure financial future. Resource Links:
Tags/Keywords: divorce and finances, divorce financial planning, women and money, financial empowerment for women, divorce recovery, financial advisor divorce, budgeting after divorce, divorce coaching, midlife divorce, financial confidence, money mindset, women over 40 finances, divorce mediation, financial independence, life after divorce | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: Healing Your Inner People Pleaser | 11 Jan 2024 | 00:15:32 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Do you find yourself getting lost in people pleasing? Traci is back to talk about what people pleasing is and how you can start living for yourself. People pleasing is in the eye of the beholder, and sometimes it may feel good to be available for the people around you, there may also be times when you feel like you are being dragged around to do what everyone else wants. Tune in to learn how to become grounded and confident in what you desire, and how to place boundaries to protect what you want. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. Resources To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| The Emotional-Body Dance of Divorce | 09 Jan 2024 | 00:28:11 | |
Regulating your nervous system is the number one thing you can do to handle difficult situations. Today, I have Sharri Freedman on who is a divorce, relationship and women’s empowerment coach. She talks about regulating your nervous system, and why it is so crucial while going through a difficult time such as divorce. She provides a great breathing exercise and talks about how she helps her clients with visualization so they know what direction they want to work towards. We discuss why it is necessary to be uncomfortable in order to change, and how to really become conscious with your everyday life. Tune in today for her incredible tips, I know you’ll learn something new! In this episode:
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Guest Bio: Sharri Freedman is a sought after relationship, divorce, and women’s empowerment coach liberating women from their old programming, their past wounds & their disempowered limiting beliefs so that they have instant clarity when it comes to marital decisions, parenting decisions, & career decisions. Her signature program LIBERATED featuring the Mind Magic® framework combines her 3 decades of experience as a divorce professional with neuroscience, thought work, somatics, & spirituality empowering women to make clear heart centered decisions without regret & live the life they desire and deserve. Resources: Email: Sharri@PotomacCoaching.com To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 4 | 04 Jan 2024 | 00:16:04 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. As we wrap up our four part series on believing in your future self, I wanted to do a recap of each episode. If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, we want you to know that that suffering is unnecessary, that it does not have to be a part of your life any longer. These episodes will help you to reframe how you look at the circumstances in your life and learn how to create opportunities out of difficulties. Do yourself a favor and go back and listen to the episodes to receive their true value! Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. Resources Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 1 Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 2 Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 3 To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Shattered Vows, Mended Hearts: A Conversation on Grief in Divorce | 02 Jan 2024 | 00:32:13 | |
Going through a divorce comes with a great mix of emotions, one of which can be grief. It can be an interesting emotion to navigate as you haven’t actually lost someone to death, but the feelings feel similar. Today, I am talking with family, marriage, and grief therapist Brittany Squillace about the different types of grief and how to work through them. She discusses ambiguous loss and how it relates to recognizing the obstacles of the loss of a marriage. Brittany talks about the common experiences that people grieving divorce face, and how to support someone going through a divorce if you're not the one in the middle of it. She highlights how to grieve and move on from a divorce when you have to continue to interact with that person. Tune in to better understand what you may be feeling and how to work through those difficult emotions. In this episode:
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Quotes: [8:06] “There can be some benefit in sitting with the discomfort that comes with grief. The sadness, the anger, the confusion, whatever it might be. There can be a lot of benefits in holding your own space and saying, ‘I'm okay, this is uncomfortable, but I’m okay, and I can sit here and feel these because this is real’.” - Brittany Squillace [24:02] “Let someone hold the hope for you. If you have a good day or you have a moment, like a good moment in your day, highlight that. That's that part of hope. So now you can start holding that hope for yourself because you're like, ‘oh, I did it once before. This was an example where things are starting to shift for me’.” - Brittany Squillace [27:06] “One of the main things I wanted to make sure I touch on is ambiguous loss or divorce or anything that fits within this category falls into a type of grief called disenfranchised grief, which basically means it's a loss and a grief that doesn't get recognized so then therefore we don't grieve it the way that we should.” - Brittany Squillace Guest Bio: MEET BRITTANY SQUILLACE When people learn I guide others through their grief journeys, their first response is typically, "Wow! That must be tough work." And then they ask, "Why grief work?" I’m passionate about helping you honor your own grief journey because I’ve experienced grief as well. In 2012, my paternal grandparents died within one month of each other. I was impacted not only by own grief journey, but also by watching my dad experience grief as well. This ignited my passion to create a safe space and provide healthy support for those on their own grief journey. Resources: Email: bsquillace@bestselftherapy.net To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 3 | 28 Dec 2023 | 00:18:55 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today we are talking about connecting with your future self, and how to make that future version of yourself a reality. If you are connected to your painful past, you are feeling the fear of duplicating your past. It keeps you stuck or stunted. Decide who your future self is, so you can use him or her to make decisions about today. The three steps to getting to your future self are to begin seeing who you are in the future, feeling into it, and finding your knowing that it's possible to be that next version of you. Tune in to learn the benefits and exercises to connect with the future version of you! Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. Resources To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Encore: Untangling Alimony: The Financial Threads of Divorce | 26 Dec 2023 | 00:30:49 | |
Are you in the beginning steps of a divorce process and wondering how spousal support or maintenance works? This encore episode walks through everything you need to know from family law attorney, Michelle Kniess. She discusses what information is necessary to determine maintenance support to ensure that both sides are equally represented. Michelle and I also talk about the difference between how I support my clients through mediation and how she helps her clients 1:1. We talk about what it looks like if the person receiving spousal support moves in with someone new and how that can impact the amount they get. Tune in to learn what you need to be aware of while going through a divorce that requires maintenance support and how to know what to ask for. In this episode:
Key Takeaways:
Quotes: [9:02] “When then your marriage is ending and you're finding yourself in this position where you're going to have to be separate and no longer follow this plan, we have to take a look at what are the resources and what are the needs? I mean, that's about as basic as I can put it. And it's a very emotional topic for parties, whether you're on the receiving side or the paying side.” - Michelle Kniess [21:00] “So you're examining this relationship and trying to make all sorts of crystal ball predictions about it. When you really have no idea what's going to happen there. One thing that's really important about cohabitation is there is no legal obligation attached to that for the person living with the obligee spouse to support that person.” - Michelle Kniess [27:29] “A buyout means perhaps somebody gets more property than they would otherwise get just to pay for perhaps a care on waiver or part of the maintenance award.” - Michelle Kniess Guest Bio: Michelle Kniess devotes her entire practice to family law in Minnesota and Wisconsin. Her practice focuses on divorce, custody and parenting time, spousal maintenance, child support, and property valuation and division, including business interests. Michelle practiced as a business litigation attorney prior to pursuing a career in family law. She owned and managed a boutique family law practice for nearly nine years. Michelle brings many years of experience and vast knowledge of family law, in both Minnesota and Wisconsin. Michelle received her Juris Doctor from the University of Wisconsin-Madison in 2005 and her Bachelor of Science degree in Business Management from the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse in 2002. Resources: Messerli Kramer (since the recording of this episode, Michelle has now moved to Messerli Kramer) To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 2 | 21 Dec 2023 | 00:15:20 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Instead of just 2x’ing your life, imagine you decided to ask yourself what is currently impossible, and then chase after that ‘impossible’ thing, and end up 10x’ing your life? That’s the topic Traci Pleschourt of SelfMadeU, and I talk about today: How to dream up a new goal, focus your time on it, and change your life. We typically spend 20% of our time focusing on the changes we really want to make, and 80% of our time being distracted by things that have nothing to do with our big goal. What if instead, you took a chance on yourself, and zeroed in on the 20%. Tune in today for some great tips from my coach Traci on how to accomplish this! Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. Resources To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Should I Stay or Should I Go; 'The D Word' Author Kate Anthony | 19 Dec 2023 | 00:33:29 | |
How do you know when it’s time to divorce? That’s a question I often receive from clients, so I decided to bring on Divorce Coach and Author, Kate Anthony to help answer this question. During this encore episode, we discuss what to look at when you are considering divorce and how to determine if divorce is the right decision for you. We also talk about why many women are unhappy in their marriages, and if that is a reflection of the marriage itself or the life that they are living. We ended the episode with a discussion around how to know if you are in a relationship with a narcissist and if the diagnosis even really matters. Kate is someone that I’ve looked up to for a long time, I love her podcast and I’ve even taken some of her courses to help me with mediation. She is such a joy to learn from, I can’t wait for you to tune in. In this episode:
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Quotes: [11:33] “Women are unhappy in their marriages because marriage, the institution as we understand it or as we live it today, benefits men on the backs of women and our labor, whether it's domestic labor, emotional labor, we're carrying an absolutely unequal load.” - Kate Anthony [13:22] We spend so much time going, ‘but he had a really hard childhood and I understand why he is the way that he is and it's really hard for him.’ And okay, I can understand the way that he is and have compassion, great compassion. But I'm not going to have more compassion for his childhood wounding than I am for how he's dumping that on me.” - Kate Anthony [16:10] “Feminism means that you believe that women have equal rights to men and should have them under the law and in our culture and in relationships. Like that's, this is not a bad word unless you're in a relationship or a system that very, very, very much depends upon us not having that equality, which most relationships do.” - Kate Anthony Guest Bio: Kate Anthony is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage, host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self-work. Kate is certified as a Domestic Violence Advocate, a Co-Parenting Specialist, and a High Conflict Divorce Coach. Resources: The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast The Divorce Survival Guide Instagram To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 1 | 14 Dec 2023 | 00:15:19 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. For the next four weeks, my coach Traci Pleschourt, will be talking about connecting with our future selves. This week we are talking about connecting with your past. We start by encouraging you to look at how far you’ve come instead of focusing on the past or what you have left to do to reach your goals. We discuss having faith in God and faith in the direction that you are going. Then we talk about how to look backwards from the right perspective. Tune in to learn how to suffer less and feel motivated. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. Resources To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Thriving Through the Tinsel: 7 Ways Divorced Parents Can Make Holidays Special for Their Children | 12 Dec 2023 | 00:17:37 | |
Holidays can be tough when you are divorced, but coming up with a strategy to enjoy them is possible! I am discussing 7 things you can do to help your children and yourself navigate the holidays. From creating new traditions, to having expectations around finances, and even dealing with high conflict parenting situations, I have some wonderful ideas throughout this episode. Tune in to learn more ways to make your holiday special after divorce. In this episode:
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Quotes: “I know there's lots of tricky things involved, but you can set the tone for a positive experience. So the greatest thing that you can do is to be united with the other co-parent and work together and let the kids see that you are working together.” - Lesa Koski “My childhood memories of Christmas, I think the best ones are when we did something. I don't remember the gifts that I got, but I remember the time that we spent together. So remember that your kids just need time with you as simple as going sledding down a hill and getting hot cocoa.” - Lesa Koski “You need to take care of yourself so that you can take care of your children well. They need you more than anything. So make sure that you're in a good spot, you're doing the things to get your mind right so that you don't have to be stressed out and be easy on yourself. If you are struggling to have empathy, it is a tough time of year, but you can help your children thrive through the holidays.” - Lesa Koski Resources: A Kid With Two Homes Instagram To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| How to Heal Anxiety & Trauma After Divorce | Nervous System Healing with Mitch Webb | 31 Mar 2026 | 00:32:08 | |
Anxiety after divorce, trauma healing, and nervous system regulation—learn how to heal anxiety naturally and feel better in midlife. In this episode, Lesa Koski talks with nervous system coach Mitch Webb about anxiety, trauma healing, and how your nervous system impacts your health, stress, and emotional recovery. If you're navigating divorce or high stress, this conversation will help you understand anxiety and begin healing your nervous system in a practical, grounded way. Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to anxiety, divorce, and healing (03:45) Mitch Webb’s story: trauma, illness, and recovery (10:20) What anxiety really is (and why you can’t “fix” it) (18:30) Lesa’s cancer journey and wake-up call (26:15) Nervous system dysregulation explained (35:40) Why high achievers struggle with anxiety (44:10) Functional freeze and hidden stress (52:00) How to stop fixing and start healing (1:00:25) Co-parenting, triggers, and boundaries (1:10:40) Building emotional capacity and healing patterns (1:18:00) Final thoughts + how to work with Mitch Key Takeaways:• Anxiety is not a problem—it’s your body communicating • Nervous system dysregulation is often the root of chronic stress • Healing comes from awareness and new experiences, not just information • You can feel anxious and still be safe • Boundaries and self-awareness are key to emotional healing Guest Bio:Mitch Webb is a nervous system and holistic health coach who helps individuals heal anxiety, trauma, and chronic stress by reconnecting with their body. After overcoming multiple health challenges—including traumatic brain injuries, Lyme disease, and long COVID—Mitch now guides others in regulating their nervous system and creating lasting emotional and physical healing. Resource Links:Free Nervous System Quiz https://mitch-webb.involve.me/nervous-system-state-quiz FREE 30 min Session w Mitch https://calendly.com/k-mitch-webb/15-minute-meeting Website and Social Media links: https://www.instagram.com/kmitchwebb https://www.linkedin.com/in/kmitchwebb Sign up for my newsletter https://enchanting-basil-714.myflodesk.com/qwzridafyj Tags/Keywords:anxiety healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, divorce recovery, emotional healing, stress management, midlife women, co-parenting stress, functional medicine, anxiety help, nervous system coach, healing after divorce | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: What is a Divorce Coach vs. a Therapist? | 07 Dec 2023 | 00:09:42 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. If you’ve ever been unclear about what a therapist is vs what a coach is, this is a great episode that breaks it down. Lesa talks about her experience working with a coach, and digs in to where a therapist might be able to future help her with other things she is dealing with. You’ll also hear about the difference of working with an attorney vs a mediator. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes and new releases every Tuesday. Resources Jill Barnett Kaufman’s Website 8 Guidelines for Separated and Divorced Parents Separation and Divorce Support Community Facebook Page Jill Barnett Kaufman’s Instagram To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Decoding Divorce Dynamics: Navigating the Role of a Divorce Therapist vs. Divorce Coach | 05 Dec 2023 | 00:27:08 | |
Are you concerned about how your divorce will impact your children? Or confused about whether you need to hire a divorce coach, mediator, or an attorney? This week I interviewed divorce coach Jill Barnett Kaufman who answers all of these questions! She discusses her own experience going through divorce after years of counseling trying to save her marriage. Jill talks about the impact it had on her children and what their feedback is now that they are adults. You’ll hear a breakdown of the difference between a therapist and a coach and how each can help you with different areas of life. Jill ends the episode talking about how parents can protect their children while going through divorce. Tune in for some great insight from Divorce Coach Jill. In this episode:
Key Takeaways:
Quotes: “And that is kind of the beauty when I work with clients. I call it designing your own divorce. You get to make the calls. I'm not going to give you any advice, but I want you to understand the law. And then it's up to the two of you to come to a conclusion about what seems fair.” - Lesa Koski “I always tell people this: divorce is 10 percent legal, 10 percent financial and 80 percent emotional.” - Jill Barnett Kaufman “We don't step back and really take a look at what we want in our life for the long term, and we let time go by and things don't get done. Divorce is an opportunity to do something that you've never done to change your life in a positive way and take advantage of that opportunity and take advantage of that time and think about what made you happy when you were a kid or when you were a young adult that you weren't able to do for the past years, because you were too busy and get those things into your lives because we have more time than we realize and we have to use that time wisely because it's a gift, and so taking advantage of this opportunity when we can focus on the negatives and really get frustrated, or we can look at it as, this is an opportunity to change our lives and really make it what we want.” - Jill Barnett Kaufman Guest Bio: Jill Barnett Kaufman, LCSW, is a Licensed Therapist, Divorce Coach, Author & Co-parenting Expert. After going through her own difficult divorce, she made it her life’s mission to help others not have it so tough. Her book and course, I’m Getting Divorced, Now What? and her transformative group coaching program help parents navigate the overwhelming process of divorce with less stress, more confidence and a greater sense of peace. She’s recently married and the mother of 3 adult children and 3 adult step children. Resources: Jill Barnett Kaufman’s Website 8 Guidelines for Separated and Divorced Parents Separation and Divorce Support Community Facebook Page Jill Barnett Kaufman’s Instagram To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: Finding Love Again After A Gray Divorce | 30 Nov 2023 | 00:11:35 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week on the podcast we talked a lot about the reasons why we are seeing more gray divorces as well as what it looks like to enter into the dating world when over 50. It can be easy to think you are too old for love or dating, but the truth is we all need love! If you’ve decided that you are ready to meet your next partner and want some strategy tips, tune in today for some tips! Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. Resources: Love Factually 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| The Love Doctor's Guide to Dating and Grey Divorce | 28 Nov 2023 | 00:33:37 | |
In today’s episode I am joined by my dear friend, Dr. Duana Welch. Dt. Duana has been on the show a couple times, and today we are really focusing on dating advice after a gray divorce. We talk about why gray divorces are happening more often and what the reasons may be behind that. Dr. Duana educates us on what individualism is and how it impacts relationships. She then shares some advice on how to start dating after divorce, setting up your dating profile, and what things to look for in a future love in hopes that it’ll last forever! Tune in to hear some great tips and learn more about love and lasting relationships. In this episode:
Key Takeaways:
Quotes: “In an individualist society, people tend to have a longer strategy of adulthood. So what that means is they get married later and everything about their life happens a little bit later and there's just not the taboo about divorce that there used to be. So, I think those are a lot of the reasons why this phenomenon is happening, but I also know from research that we never stop needing love.” - Dr. Duana Welch "If you don't ever have to sign on for problems, then you probably aren't going to sign on for relationships because relationships bring joy, but they also bring challenges. What we need is not necessarily collectivist or individualist. We need interdependence. We need to find someone where we help each other feel safe enough where we can mutually depend on each other and we can mutually put the other person's needs co-equal with ours. In the absence of that, you're going to find a lot of unhappiness and even higher divorce rates.” - Dr. Duana Welch “Men routinely read women as interested in them who make full eye contact while smiling at them with a real eye crinkling smile.” - Dr. Duana Welch Guest Bio: Dr. Duana Welch (pronounced DWAY-nah) is known for dating advice, dating coaching, online dating coaching, relationship advice, relationship coaching, and marriage coaching that relies on science rather than opinion to help men and women find and keep the love of their lives. A former professor in Florida, California, and Texas across 20 years, she has contributed to NPR, PBS, Psychology Today, and numerous other outlets and podcasts. Her first book, Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, is now out globally in five languages; its revised and updated edition released in 2022. Love Factually for Single Parents is the second book in the series, specifically geared for finding the right partner not only for readers, but their families. All Duana’s books rely on science rather than opinion to help men and women find and keep the right partner. She is an expert for Paired, the couples relationship app. Her client practice is global, via Zoom and other technologies. Want more love in your life? Whether you’re single, partnered, or questioning anything about relationships, get coaching with Dr. Duana Welch. Resources: Love Factually 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: Reclaiming Power From Your Past | 23 Nov 2023 | 00:08:12 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today I am sharing my experience with taking Johanna’s advice from Tuesday’s episode and seeing if I can release my anxiety. Johanna recommended closing your eyes, picturing the person where you think the unresolved issues came from, and letting them know that it’s impacting your life and you’d like to give the emotion back. Tune in to hear what I did and if I think it worked for my anxiety. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes and new releases every Tuesday. Resources: The Family Imprint Institute Instagram Email: connect@johannalynn.ca To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Lessons from the Heart: Discover The Invaluable Insights That Divorce Can Offer About Oneself and the Dynamics of Marriage with Johanna Lynn | 21 Nov 2023 | 00:29:41 | |
Today I am joined by therapist, Johanna Lynn. We discuss the form of therapy she does, which explores epigenetics and unresolved family trauma in order to understand how it affects generations to come. She walks me through how to uncover where my unresolved anxiety may be coming from and how to put a stop to passing that down to my grandchildren. Johanna then discusses what self-regulation is and how to bring it into practice when you are feeling triggered. The information she provides really helps to open your eyes and see that your “issues” may not actually be yours, and there is an opportunity to heal them. This was such a fascinating episode, and I can’t wait for you to listen! In this episode: [1:55] Johanna shares her story. [5:42] Johanna explains how her style of therapy works with looking at how you were loved. [8:46] Breaking generational patterns so we don’t pass the trauma down to our children. [10:44] Johanna walks Lesa through uncovering where her anxiety comes from. [14:28] Johanna gives an example of healing generational incomplete or unprocessed grief or trauma. [17:20] What is self regulation? [20:45] How do you bring self regulation and awareness into practice? [24:12] What is one thing listeners could do to start uncovering what generational things may be coming up for themselves. Key Takeaways: [18:06] When you are searching for a therapist or counselor, make sure that they are self regulated. A lot of therapists get into this work to sort out their own stuff and they end up passing it along to their clients. [21:12] When you have gone through your own self regulation work, you are able to trust yourself more, and not give yourself away for connection. You have more boundaries, are more grounded, and have a better idea of who you want to be instead of having the environment around you squeeze you into something you’ve learned in your family. [24:52] The more you know your family history, the more well equipped you can be with your own healing. Quotes: “The idea that how we were loved as a child imprints how we show up to love and, even how we navigate separation. And so for me, it was such a time to learn when everything was so raw and so vulnerable. It really allowed me to be more humble and take a look at things with a fresh perspective.” - Johanna Lynn “How do you help yourself self regulate? You clear out your influences of the past. You start to understand - Ooh, that's my great grandma's anxiety. And that's the lens I've been looking at my decisions and my relationships through. This is how my body has been responding, but gosh, maybe it's not even mine.” - Johanna Lynn "It's a little bit like unpacking your trunk before we're able to fully go on that vacation. We've got to make space for the new stuff that we want to welcome in. And we don't recognize what our blind spots are. They're still a part of us.” - Johanna Lynn Guest Bio: Johanna has been connected to the world of separation and divorce for 15 years, originally due to her personal situation, then as a systemic therapist focusing on restoring relationships. Resources: The Family Imprint Institute Instagram Email: connect@johannalynn.ca To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different
Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: The Importance of a Power of Attorney During a Divorce | 16 Nov 2023 | 00:04:59 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. There are things you need to think about when you’re going through divorce when it comes to estate planning. This includes your power of attorney and health care directive, which really should be updated, if necessary, during the divorce in case anything happens to you during the divorce process. After the divorce you’ll be able to update beneficiaries, your will, and trust, but discussions can happen during the divorce process for this as well, to see if you and your soon to be ex can come to agreements around guardianship and any other aspects that have to do with the children. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes and new releases every Tuesday. Resources Melissa Miroslavich – Schromen Law LLC Call Schromen Law LLC at 651-571-2515 Melissa Miroslavich's LinkedIn To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Post-Divorce Prosperity: Estate Planning Essentials with Attorney Melissa Miroslavich | 14 Nov 2023 | 00:31:33 | |
Today I am joined by Attorney Melissa Miroslavich, who helps with estate planning during and after a divorce. Melissa provides so many incredible nuggets during this episode, and even I have a bunch of takeaways and things to implement into the work I do with couples. She discusses the important documents for estate planning and breaks down what each of them are. Melissa talks about how divorce can impact these documents and what needs to be changed during and after the divorce process. She also dives into guardianship and how to make decisions collaboratively when it comes to your children. Tune in to this episode to learn all about estate planning! In this episode: [3:02] Melissa tells us her authentic story and how she arrived in law. [6:08] What are the important documents for estate planning? [8:07] How does estate planning change from when you’re married vs divorced? [11:45] What is guardianship? [20:47] Do your beneficiaries change when you’ve gotten divorced or do you need to do something? [22:43] How can an estate planning attorney work together with the rest of your divorce team? [25:37] Melissa provides her key takeaway for estate planning. Key Takeaways: One big decision to consider while going through a divorce, that many aren’t even thinking about, is do you still want your spouse listed as your power of attorney or health care directive if something were to happen to you throughout the divorce process? Estate planning is really about your lifetime. You have documents that move with you throughout your life and change as your needs change. Working through collaborative law can be a huge benefit when it comes to guardianship decisions. If you can both reach an agreement about where the children will go if something happens to both parents, and can put that in your estate plan it can allow for clarity if that unfortunate situation happens. Quotes: “If you have a power of attorney in place and healthcare directive, it's very likely you've named your spouse in those roles. The question I would have for a client is, while you're going through this process, in your life, in your capacity, do you still want your spouse to be in those roles if something were to happen to you?” - Melissa Miroslavich “I love collaborative law, and I'm on the Collaborative Law Institute board. I think that the process for divorce is so much healthier, has so much more respect and dignity for the people involved and for your family.” - Melissa Miroslavich Guest Bio: Melissa works with clients to understand their individual goals to create effective, strategic, and adaptable estate plans and collaborates with clients to provide education and advice to help ensure care and asset protection. She believes estate planning is one of the best gifts you can give your loved ones. As such, she also assists pet owners in planning for their pet’s care in the event the pet owner is no longer is able. Melissa is also a qualified neutral under Rule 114 by the Minnesota Supreme Court and was the first attorney in Minnesota to complete Pet Custody Training. Here are our social media accounts. Let me know if there's anything else you need from me! Resources: Melissa Miroslavich – Schromen Law LLC Call Schromen Law LLC at 651-571-2515 Melissa Miroslavich's LinkedIn To receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/different I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: Lesa Reflects On Her Mediation Career | 09 Nov 2023 | 00:06:11 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Feeling confident that there is a way to support yourself and your children after divorce and years of being a stay at home mom can feel so refreshing. Take a look at what you are passionate about and decide if there is something you can do to take that passion to the next step by building your own business. Our guest this week really helped me reflect on the business I have created and how blessed I feel to work for myself, so don’t miss this episode to see the opportunities that may be available to you! Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes and new releases every Tuesday. Resources Is Entrepreneurship Right for Me? Refined by Divorce YouTube Channel The Onward app was made for divorced parents to help track, share, and split their children's expenses. Download The Onward App today for iOS or Android! I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass will share tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Register for free today at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Divorce to Dollars: Empowering Women in Business | 07 Nov 2023 | 00:29:42 | |
Today I am honored to share my new friend Traci Simkins with you all! Traci helps stay at home moms going through divorce turn their passion into a small service based business. She helps them uncover what they are good at and create a way to make a livable wage to support themselves and their children. Traci provides some great examples of how she helps women uncover this (as well as providing a free resource!) and then dives into the process of working with her. Tune in today to learn more about entrepreneurship and creating an income by following your passion. In this episode: [2:16] Traci shares her story. [8:17] How did Traci’s kids do when she got married for a second time? [9:57] What led Traci to start her own business after her second divorce? [11:34] What types of businesses is Traci helping women get started? [13:53] How do you know what kind of business to start? [17:15] How do you transition from your children being your world to entering back into the workforce? [20:05] What is the process when working with Traci? [24:47] Traci shares her one piece of advice that someone can do right now for a better life. Key Takeaways: [17:40] Even if you don’t think you have a passion, you do. You just need to uncover it. Then you can take that passion and see if it aligns with a service based business you could start to support yourself. [22:06] We kind of have this idea that having a job that pays us is secure. And it can be, but you can also lose your job. You are dependent on someone else. [24:45] A lot of women tend to go into isolation mode when they are going through a divorce because they don’t want people to know about it. But the best thing you can do for yourself is reach out and ask for help. It could be a coach, a therapist, or finding a support group, but find people you can lean on. Quotes: “I think for women who are looking to start a business, if you don't have a passion, you don't think you do, you do, it might not, you know, oh, I'm a baker or I've been an artist my whole life and I love to cook. It might not be something like that, but if you have a passion for education, if you have a passion for children, if you have a passion for helping anyone, the only thing you need to do when you build a business is find a problem, deliver a solution.” - Traci Simkins Guest Bio: Born in SLC and moving to Honolulu at the age of 14, I developed an agility and adaptability that has served me well. Returning to SLC after 23 years away was a challenge, but it was nothing compared to the two divorces that followed, or to the experience of parenting. A mother first, my children have always been the center of my world and will always be my number one priority, and raising them has been the single most rewarding experience of my life. My professional career, spanning several different industries and managing people, operations, and most recently, projects, has also provided meaning. But facing my 2nd divorce, I began to be discouraged with the corporate landscape, and was ready to shake things up, so I left to start my own small consulting business. Resources: Is Entrepreneurship Right for Me? Refined by Divorce YouTube Channel The Onward app was made for divorced parents to help track, share, and split their children's expenses. Download The Onward App today for iOS or Android! I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass will share tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Register for free today at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Trauma Healing After Abuse: Hope, Nervous System Recovery, and Practical Tools for Healing | Dr. Dawn Marie Part 2 | 24 Mar 2026 | 00:32:27 | |
Trauma healing, nervous system regulation, and hope after abuse are possible — even after unimaginable pain. In this powerful Part 2 conversation, Lesa Koski talks with Dr. Dawn Marie about trauma healing, childhood abuse, vagus nerve regulation, polyvagal theory, and practical tools that can support healing after trauma, divorce, and emotional overwhelm. If you’ve ever wondered whether trauma healing is truly possible after years of pain, this episode offers both hope and practical next steps. Dr. Dawn Marie shares her personal story of surviving profound childhood abuse, explains how trauma affects the body and nervous system, and offers simple ways listeners can begin supporting trauma healing in their own daily lives. This episode is especially meaningful for women navigating divorce, childhood trauma, emotional stress, or any season that has left them feeling stuck in survival mode. Trauma healing is possible, and this conversation is a reminder that even after the hardest experiences, hope remains. Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to Part 2 and why trauma matters in divorce healing (02:10) Dr. Dawn Marie begins sharing her childhood trauma story (06:45) Abuse, early memories, and how trauma lives in the body (12:20) Revisiting places from the past and uncovering memory (18:15) Shame, perpetrators, and beginning the healing journey (26:30) Why trauma is trauma and why it is time to break the cycle (30:40) A spiritual discussion on women, Eve, and responsibility (41:20) What healing really looks like after severe trauma (44:10) Why bad days do not mean you are broken (46:05) Polyvagal theory and understanding the vagus nerve (48:30) Grounding techniques and simple tools for nervous system regulation (51:15) African drumming, weighted hula hoop, and rhythmic healing practices (55:00) Final encouragement and hope for women healing from trauma Key Takeaways:
Guest Bio: Dr. Dawn Marie is a board-certified psychiatrist with decades of medical experience and a deep focus on trauma healing, nervous system regulation, and emotional recovery. Through both her professional work and her own healing journey, she helps people understand that healing is possible, even after profound trauma. Resource Links:Part 1 with Dr. Dawn Marie: https://player.captivate.fm/episode/1cfa0fc7-1d7d-4d31-a9b0-b47aac4a11dc/ Website and Social Media links: https://www.drrisleychilds.com/ to awaken your vagus nerve: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3VuPpgmSPwk7cErnqrNhCH?si=a3824002e9774659 To calm your vagus nerve: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3YC0zMSeGQRqg4XmscoyCG?si=d1b93c15519f4ecc African Drums: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5z2d4y9MXXjQQiYC8c46Fk?si=10b08e8109634214 Amazon weighted hula hoop: https://a.co/d/06DXlzwC Tags/Keywords:trauma healing, childhood trauma recovery, nervous system healing, vagus nerve regulation, polyvagal theory, abuse recovery, healing after trauma, divorce and trauma, women healing after divorce, emotional healing podcast, trauma recovery podcast, hope after abuse, Doing Divorce Different podcast, mental health and healing | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: Divorcing A Better Way | 02 Nov 2023 | 00:06:20 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. The way you end one thing, sets you up, sets the stage, and it's the way you begin the next thing. While it takes two willing people to do a divorce collaboratively, it also takes effort on each individual to be working on themselves. There will be stress that comes along with divorce, but think about how you want your life to look on the other side, and hold that vision while you go through the process. Divorce mediation and collaboration isn’t an option for everyone, however you can be confident that there are great attorney’s out there who can help support you. Collaborative divorce, mediation, litigation, the choice is yours, it’s in your hands, and remember how you end one thing sets the stage for your new beginning. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes and new releases every Tuesday. Resources Divorce Mediation Center of Fairfield County, LLC | Attorney Divorce Mediation CT Instagram The Onward app was made for divorced parents to help track, share, and split their children's expenses. Download The Onward App today for iOS or Android! I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass will share tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Register for free today at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| You Don't Have to Fight it Out in Court Alternative Solutions to Avoiding Court Battles | 31 Oct 2023 | 00:28:39 | |
Today I am honored to have a fellow mediator, Rosemarie Ferrante on the show. Rosemarie walks us through the emotional and financial prep work that is necessary to have a smooth legal divorce process. She talks about her own experience going through a divorce and how she supports her own clients with the tools they need to create a solid co-parenting relationship. Rosemarie clarifies the difference between mediation, collaboration, and what it’s like having to go to litigation. Tune in to get clarity around all the emotional, financial, and legal information that comes with divorce. In this episode:
Key Takeaways:
Quotes: “The court system is, in my opinion, not meant for families.” - Rosemarie Ferrante “Every family is different. What you need might be different than what your friend or your neighbor or your sister needed. Understanding all the various roles will be really important for you to be able to have the support you need to get through the process.” - Rosemarie Ferrante “I think that the most important thing if you're contemplating divorce, is to make sure that you do understand your options for a legal process, collaborative divorce, mediation, litigation, what they are and what they aren't. And then also understand what divorce professionals you can have on your team to best support you.” - Rosemarie Ferrante Guest Bio: Rosemarie Ferrante is a family attorney focusing on non-adversarial divorce through mediation and collaborative divorce. She has been practicing exclusively family law for over 25 years. Rosemarie’s goal is to provide families the resources and tools needed to smoothly transition through the divorce process. Her practice helps couples who wish to separate or divorce in reaching agreements that foster goodwill and trust, while meeting each spouse’s individual goals and needs, while most importantly, supporting ongoing positive relationships with their children, and with each other as co-parents. Resources: Divorce Mediation Center of Fairfield County, LLC | Attorney Divorce Mediation CT Instagram The Onward app was made for divorced parents to help track, share, and split their children's expenses. Download The Onward App today for iOS or Android! I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass will share tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Register for free today at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||
| Saddle Up Segment: Speaking Positively About Your Co-Parent | 26 Oct 2023 | 00:06:02 | |
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week Karen McMahon from Journey Beyond Divorce, shared with us how to be a boundary setting badass! Not only did she give some incredible tips, but she also talked about how respecting your boundaries and identifying your triggers can help you work on your emotional intelligence. Not only will you come out stronger, but you’ll be an incredible example for your children by modeling how they can protect themselves from difficult situations. This was an episode you don’t want to miss. Tune in for more great tips! Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes, new releases every Tuesday. Resources Get Your FREE Divorce Survival Kit! The Onward app was made for divorced parents to help track, share, and split their children's expenses. Download The Onward App today for iOS or Android! I am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass will share tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Register for free today at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass Mentioned in this episode: Saddle Up Live Podcast Ad Do you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. | |||