Show 88: Two Most Important Types of Dog Walks EVERY Dog Owner Needs to Know
Episode 103
Wednesday, January 3, 2024 • Duration 08:26
Walking your dog is a crucial part of raising and training them; thus, knowing the two types of dog walks can make a HUGE difference to your training experience.
"Doggy Dan, is there more than just one way to do dog walks?"
Yes… and my goal is to help dog owners tap into the power of switching walking styles to make the most out of dog walks.
In this blog, I will talk about the two types of dog walks, why you need to know both, and how to know which type to use best.
Read on to learn more.
The Two Types of Dog Walks: Why You Need More Than Just One Type of Walk
All walk and no play makes your dog a very irritable and restless pet.
A common misconception among dog owners regarding walking dogs is that there's only one walking style to follow from start to finish.
As a dog trainer who has helped dogs and their owners make walks effective while having fun, I know that sticking to one walking style can make your time outdoors an absolute struggle!
Because let's be honest: our dogs are playful, and the outdoors is the perfect setting for unleashing their love for fun!
Expecting them to follow one style of walking (and nothing else!) sets you and your dog up for frustration!
So, what do you do to make outdoor walks more effective? Here are the two types of dog walks you should follow.
The Structured Walk
The first dog-walking style is the “structured walk”.
Even though it is not THE ONLY walk you can do, it is undoubtedly the most important walk you should master.
Most dog owners feel this type of walk is the gold standard, the only way to do things. (More on this later.)
During the structured walk, your dog walks with a leash, and you absolutely are in control of the entire walk.
You give commands, you decide what your dog can and can't do, and your dog is expected to follow your charge.
This is the walking style that tells your dog, "I am in charge of the walk. I make the decisions. You listen to my commands."
When you engage in a structured walk, you drive the entire walk, and your dog has to follow YOUR charge.
The Social Walk
Now, this walking style is what your dog loves!
The walk becomes social when your dog can roam free and do what they want for a time.
The walk doesn't have a structure, and dogs are more accessible to sniff posts, or check out areas they want to see.
Compared to The Structured Walk, this more relaxed option allows your dog to really have fun and socialize!
Two Types of Dog Walks: What the Structured Walk Teaches Your Dog
Walking your dog the structured way sends them this important message: you're in charge of the walk, not them.
The Structured Walk is crucial because it can solve typical dog walking problems such as leash pulling, aggression, overexcitement, and outdoor anxiety.
Sure, you will be giving your dog the freedom to roam around and freely explore, but before you do that, your dog must understand you make the calls.
And it is during the structured walks that your dog firmly gets the message that makes them say, "Ahh, I should listen to my owner's commands before I do anything during the walk."
I actually talk more about The Structured Walk in my blog on the best way to walk dogs, the fifth in my Five Golden Rules series.
In a nutshell, The Structured walk is critical because it teaches your dog they're not in charge. And when your dog knows they don't make the calls, they relax, they become less aggressive, and they come to your call (which is an absolute need if you're going to switch to The Social Walk).
What the Social Walk Teaches Your Dog
The Social Walk is about having fun!
Here's the truth: we can't expect our dogs to spend the entire 30 minutes of their time outdoors just following a structured walk.
They're already outdoors; they need to explore, run, sniff, and play.
The social walk allows your dog to enjoy a little fun and downtime during your walk.
Which Should You Do With Your Dog: How to Know Which Walk to Choose
So, how do you know which walk to choose between the types of dog walks?
When To Use the Structured Walk
If you live in a city with limited free space for your dog to roam around, most of your dog walks will be structured (aka, dog on a leash with you commanding your dog what to do).
However, if your place has ample space, I recommend using the first five to ten minutes of your time outdoors doing a structured walk BEFORE letting your dog walk more freely.
I also recommend using a Structured Walk at the start and the end of EVERY walk to establish and re-establish your role as the one in charge of your time outside.
Before you stop the Structured walk to make the switch to Social, I encourage you to ask the following questions:
Is my dog coming to me when I call them?
Do they have spiked-up energy levels?
Do they tend to be aggressive?
Does my dog understand boundaries?
Have I established clear dog-walking commands with my dog?
If safety is an issue for your dog and others, I recommend staying on structured walks before it's absolutely safe to give them freedom.
When to Use the Social Walk
Your dog WILL become restless after a few minutes of Structured Walks. The outdoors is so exciting for them to stay still.
There is a problem if you wait for your dog to pull the leash before you allow them to have their free time.
Because a simple tug on the leash is like your dog saying, "Hey, it's fun time!" when you give in to the pull, you're sending the message that your dog makes the call.
So here's what I recommend you do:
Assess when your dog starts becoming restless. Observe how long into the walk they start pulling the leash.
Start the walk structured. Continue with the structured walk for five to ten minutes before they tell you to let them run.
Let them enjoy their social walks.
Before you end, switch back to the Structured Walk to re-establish leadership.
How Using Two Types of Dog Walks Can Change Your Walking Experience With Your Dogs
Perfect Balance
Think of structured walks like school time, where your dog learns the rules, and social walks like playtime, where they just get to be a dog. Mixing it up means your dog gets a healthy dose of discipline and fun!
More Fun for Everyone
Ever get bored of the same old routine? Your dog does, too! Switching between structured and social walks keeps things interesting for both of you. It's like sometimes you're the teacher, and other times you're both just pals exploring the world together.
Clear Leadership and Joy
On structured walks, you're the boss, and your dog learns to follow the leader — that's you! But you show them you're not the uptight, no-fun leader during social walks. You still let them have fun. This balance shows your dog that you're not just in charge, but you're also their buddy who loves to see them happy.
Spot-On Walks
With a clear plan for each walk, you're not juggling too much at once. Structured walks focus on training, while social walks are all about exploration and play. This means your dog learns better and faster, and you both enjoy your time more.
Fewer Problems
Mixing walks can really cut down on those pesky walking issues. Structured walks nip destructive behaviors in the bud by reinforcing your leadership. Social walks let your dog burn off that extra energy and curiosity in a positive way. Together, they make for a smoother, more enjoyable walk.
Learn How to Do The Two Types of Dog Walks Better with the Dog Calming Code™️
Dog walks are my favorite thing in the world.
It gives me and my dogs a mighty great time when done right!
However, I understand so many things can go wrong when walking a dog. This is why The Walk is a big part of The Doggy Dan Five Golden Rules. When dog walks are done right, YOU CAN BE THE ABSOLUTE LEADER IN THE EYES OF YOUR DOGS.
If you want to do both types of dog walks, I recommend you check out The Dog Calming Code where I talk more about Rule #5: Dog Walks.
Because when your time outdoors with your dog is done well, the benefits are amazing!
Show 87: Why Dogs Pull On Leash At The Start of Every Walk: The BIGGEST Reason + Stop Leash Pulling Hack
Episode 102
Thursday, December 28, 2023 • Duration 06:59
When dog owners come to me for help on how to stop leash pulling, I feel for them, especially when I hear the frustration in their voices.
It's understandable why having a dog pulling the leash can be such a pain! If all you want is to enjoy a quiet, peaceful walk with your dog, the constant struggle for control can be exhausting.
And most of the time, the leash pulling happens at the start of the walk, making you wonder, "Is going out for a walk even worth it?"
Why do dogs do this? Why is there even a power struggle? And should you persist?
In this blog, I will talk about my biggest theory of why dogs pull the leash at the start of every walk… and what you can do to change it.
Read on to learn more.
Key Takeaways:
Understand the Instincts: Dogs pull on the leash due to instincts derived from their wolf ancestors, seeing walks as a time for hunting and leading. They will naturally take the Alpha role if they don't sense a leader, hence the pulling.
Be the Alpha Leader: To stop leash pulling, you must establish yourself as the leader in all aspects of your dog's life, not just during walks. This means setting boundaries, giving consistent consequences for pulling, and showing calm, assertive energy.
Prepare and React Appropriately: How you start the walk sets the tone. Go out first, decide when to walk, and be ready with calm responses to pulling, like pauses or changing direction. Letting your dog lead or not giving consequences encourages pulling.
Stop Leash Pulling: Understanding Why Dogs Pull the Leash Right Before You Start Your Walk
You walk to the door; your is already pulling on the leash.
You step outside down the stairs, and your dog pulls and pulls as if telling you to "Hurry up!"
Your time outdoors is all about having to regain control of the leash.
If you've experienced the things I mentioned above, you get how challenging it is to have a dog who wants to
To Stop Leash Pulling, You Have to Know That Control Matters to Dogs
5 Things You Can Do To Stop The Dog From Pulling the Leash
#1: Be the Leader in Everything
#2: Set Boundaries and Consequences
Consequence #1: The Pause
Consequence #2: The 180
#3: Know What to Do Before Stepping Out of the House
Tip #1: You Go First
Tip #2: You Decide When To Go for a Walk
Tip #3: You Decide If A Walk Should Actually Happen
#4: Stay Calm
4 Things You Should Not Do If You Want to Stop Leash Pulling
#1: Get Angry With Your Dogs
#2: Giving Up and Letting Your Dog Have Their Way
#3: Not Giving Consequences
#4: Letting Your Dog Make the Decisions
Stop Leash Pulling By Being the Strong, Smart, Confident, and Capable Alpha. The Dog Calming Code Will Help You!
Show 78 - Why Your Dog is Snappy + How to Help Your Dog Stop Snapping at Everyone and Everything
Episode 93
Thursday, November 2, 2023 • Duration 09:05
Training tips for aggressive dogs flood the internet, all promising miraculous results!
There’s a mix of positive reinforcement, showering dogs with treats, and even giving dogs really scary punishments!
While all these solutions work for a while, I know one thing from my experience as a top dog trainer: you need to get to the heart of the problem to see real progress.
In this article, I'll explore why even non-aggressive dogs can become snappy and aggressive.
By understanding these root causes, we can use a more gentle yet effective training to transform our beloved dogs into well-behaved and calm pets.
Key Takeaway
Snappy behavior in dogs often stems from fear, not aggression. Creating a secure environment and providing positive training can help them overcome this behavior.
Establishing yourself as a confident and protective pack leader can alleviate a dog's anxieties, reducing their tendency to be snappy.
Dogs can become protective of their personal space and territory. Respecting their boundaries can help minimize snappy behavior.
Why Are Snappy Dogs Different From Most Aggressive Dogs?
Training Tips for Aggressive Dogs: The 2 BIGGEST Reasons Behind Snappy Behavior
REASON #1: Your Dog is Always on High Alert Because They Think They Are In Charge.
REASON #2: They Are Protective of Their Space
How Being The Pack Leader Can Help Snappy Dogs
First, Dogs Have a Natural Instinct to Establish a Hierarchy Within Their Social Groups
Second, Dogs Rely on a Pack Hierarchy for Survival
Third, Taking the Leadership Role Can Make Your Dog Feel Secured
Training Snappy Dogs: What Causes Snappy Dog Behavior?
Fear or Anxiety
Pain or Discomfort
Territorial Aggression
Lack of Socialization
Frustration or Resource Guarding
9 Training Tips for Aggressive Dogs
1. Be the Pack Leader Who Deals with Danger
2. Know the Triggers of Your Dog
3. Err on the Side of Safety
4. Introduce Your Dogs to Strangers Slowly
5. Don't Use Harshness
6. Practice Timeout When Needed
7. Retreat from Strangers
8. Ask Strangers to Respect Boundaries
9. Limit Exposure to Strangers
How the Dog Calming Code Can Change Snappy Dogs
It Shifts the Dynamics
It Uses Dog Psychology
It Has Shown Proven Results
Show 77 - How to Calm Overexcited Dogs: Stop Dogs From Jumping, Lunging, Barking or Fighting with Other Dogs
Episode 92
Thursday, October 26, 2023 • Duration 08:54
Doggy Dan, why is my dog overexcited? Also, how to calm overexcited dogs?
I often get this question from dog owners dealing with dogs that are always all over the place, jumping on the couch, on them, and on other dogs.
They bark, run, and lunge all because they are excited… something that causes a lot of stress not only to their owners but to other dogs as well.
These overexcited dogs often get shouted at or barked at because they're constantly invading space, always not listening.
You're in the right place if you have an overexcited dog and want to get to the bottom of the issue.
If you're looking for ways to calm an overexcited dog, I have important tips.
Read on.
Key Takeaways
Overexcitement in dogs can manifest in various behavioral signs, including incessant barking, hyperactive jumping, pacing, and the inability to remain still. This behavior often arises from underlying issues related to the dog's perception of its role as the pack leader, a lack of physical and mental stimulation, and overstimulating environments.
Establishing yourself as the pack leader is crucial to calming an overexcited dog. By taking charge of mealtime, attention, walks, and all aspects of the dog's life, you communicate that you are the one in control, which can help reduce the dog's overexcitement and restlessness.
Additional strategies to calm an overexcited dog include providing regular physical exercise and mental stimulation, consistent obedience training to establish a stronger bond and outlet for the dog's energy, and creating a tranquil home environment that includes a safe space for the dog.
Table of Contents:
How to Calm Overexcited Dogs: What Are the Signs to Look Out For
Sign #1: Incessant Barking (AKA A Dog Who Just Can’t Stop Barking Because of Excitement)
Sign #2: Hyperactive Jumping
Sign #3: Hyperactive Pacing
Sign #4: Inability to Remain Still
Sign #5: Overzealous Playfulness That May Escalate Into Rough or Aggressive Behavior
What Causes a Dog to be Overexcited?
Reason #1: Your Dog Thinks They’re the Leader, Thus the Heightened Energy
Reason #2: Pent-Up Energy
Reason #3: Overstimulating Environment
Reason #4: Lack of Mental Engagement
When You Show Leadership, You Calm an Overexcited Dog
The Solution to Helping an Overexcited Dog Calm Down is Simple: Be the Pack Leader
Being a Pack Leader: How it Helps Calm Overexcited Dogs
Apart From Being the Pack Leader, How Do You Calm an Overexcited Dog?
Tip #1: Physical Exercise and Mental Stimulation
Tip #2: Consistent Obedience Training
Tip #3: Creating a Tranquil Environment
Tip #4: Seeking Professional Guidance
Tip #5: Practice Proper Discipline
Tip #5: Safe Spaces and Time Outs
How the Dog Calming Code Can Change Your Overexcited Dog
Show 76 : How to Tame an Aggressive, Overprotective Dog: Does Your Dog Over-Guard Your Property?
Episode 91
Wednesday, October 18, 2023 • Duration 08:31
If you are wondering how to deal with an overprotective dog, you MUST know that these animals are NOT naturally inclined to cause harm.
In fact, dog aggression from overprotectiveness is a case of a dog’s desire to keep harm away from you and the property they’re protecting.
In this blog, we’re going to talk about dog aggression coming from overprotectiveness and how you, as a dog owner, can help your dogs.
Read on to learn more.
Key Takeaways
Giving dogs treats hoping it will stop their overprotectiveness doesn’t work at all. Your dog has to know they can count on you to protect them.
Being the leader who shows your dog that you are in charge can ease your dog’s overprotectiveness.
“Security dog” and “border patrol dogs” are just some examples of the types of overprotective dogs. Although different, both dogs exhibit behavior connected to their need to protect: barking, charging towards the threat, even biting!
How to Deal with an Overprotective Dog: Why Are Dogs so Overprotective?
Dealing with an Overprotective Dog: This Dog Thinks They Are in Charge
What Role Do You Play in Dealing with an Overprotective Dog: Take Charge!
How to Deal with an Overprotective Dog? Be the Pack Leader By Showing Them You Deal with Danger!
9 Signs of an Overprotective Dog
They’re Constantly Vigilant
Standing Alertly
They Center Their Focus on a New Stimulus All the Time
Growling or Barking at Perceived Threat
Going Back and Forth Between You and Perceived Threat
Returning to Normal Once the Threat is Gone
Overly Aggressive, Threatening Stance
Overreacting to New Situations
Urinating to Mark Territory
8 Ways To Deal with an Overprotective Dog
Be the Leader in Charge of EVERYTHING
Set Boundaries
Make Sure Your Energy Says “There’s Nothing to Worry About”
Don’t Give Cuddles and Attention… Especially If Your Dog Crossed the Boundary
Be Aware of the Warning Signs
Have a Designated Room for Your Dogs to Let Off Steam
Give Distance and Introduce Slowly
Socialize Your Dog
How to Deal With an Overprotective Dog: The Dog Calming Code Can Help You!
Show 75: Fear Biters and Fear Aggression: How to Help Dogs Who Bite
Episode 90
Wednesday, October 11, 2023 • Duration 07:56
When you deal with a fear biter, you have to understand that this dog’s tendency to bite is not fueled by the desire to simply bite.
When dog owners come to me and ask about aggression due to fear, I tell them when they deal with a fear biter, they have to halt the training until they solve the problem on a deeper level.
Because most of the time, fear-based aggression that causes biting is not a matter of lack of training but a lack of tactic.
In this blog, I’m going to talk about the number one reason why dogs bite due to fear, and how you — their dog owner — can actually change fear biters.
Key Takeaways
Fear biters don’t bite out of habit. They use biting as a way to protect you and the property from danger.
The number one reason why fear biters continue to bite is because they feel that they are in charge, so they have to do all the protecting.
The Dog Calming Code teaches the 5 Golden Rules, a set of rules that can help establish YOUR leadership in your fearful dog’s eyes.
How to Deal with a Fear Biter: The #1 Reason a Fear Biter Bites
How to Deal With a Fear Biter: Change Dog Biting Aggression By Being the Pack Leader
Our Dogs Have to Know That They Are Not the Leader, It’s Us
#1: Stay Calm in the Face of Danger
#2: Use Calm and Consistent Corrections
Dogs Should Know They Can Transfer Leadership to Us for Peace of Mind
Dogs Should Know You Deal with Danger, Strangers, and Strange Noises Confidently
They recognize that you are there to protect them, reducing their need to resort to fear-based aggression.
So… How Do You Become the Pack Leader That Stops Fear Biting Aggression?
How to Deal with a Fear Biter: How Being a Pack Leader Changes Biting Due to Fear Aggression
How to Deal With Biting Due to Fear Aggression: Other Reasons Why Dogs Become Fear Biters
Reason #1: When Dogs Deal with a New Environment
When You Introduce New Routines
When Dogs Meet New Animals
When Dogs Deal with Stranger Danger
Fear Biting Dogs: What Are The Signs to Look Out For?
Sign #1: Immediate Aggression to Strangers
Sign #2: Reactive to Strange Noises, Sounds, Environment
Sign #3: Growling
Sign #4: Prancing Towards Someone or Something
Sign #5: Raised Tail
Sign #6: Perked Ears
Sign #7: Bared Teeth
Sign #8: Body Stiffness
How to Change the Fear Biting Aggression in Dogs
Tip #1: Be a Confident Leader Who Deals with Danger
Tip #2: Watch Your Energy – Your Dog Feels It (If You’re Scared, They’ll be Scared, Too)
Tip #3: Calm Dogs Down with a Safe Space
Tip #4: Introduce New Animals, Things, and Environments Slowly
Tip #5: Understand and Be Familiar with Triggers
How to Deal with a Fear Biter: Let the Dog Calming Code Help You!
Show 74 : How to Train a Bossy Dog: Taming an Aggressive, Uncontrollable Dog with Attitude
Episode 89
Wednesday, October 4, 2023 • Duration 09:05
The question of how to handle a bossy, dominant dog is common among dog owners who are exhausted, frustrated, and overwhelmed by their bossy dogs.
Bossy, dominant dogs have a distinct characteristic: they always want to be in charge over every dog they encounter. They love challenging authority, they display brute strength, and they don’t hesitate in showing aggression.
One can say “Oh, but that’s just a dog’s personality!”
Though it can be true, dominant behavior not corrected can lead to more serious challenges including your dog dominating you.
Stopping aggression in dogs is crucial to avoid other problems including your dog hurting another dog, a disorganized home, and having a dog that just doesn’t listen to you.
If you have an aggressive dog, you’re in the right place…
In this blog we’re going to talk about the dog psychology behind aggression, the 8 powerful strategies to stop aggression due to dominance, and the mistakes dog owners make that set their dogs back.
Key Takeaways
A bossy, aggressive dog has one mission in mind: to let other dogs (and people!) know that they’re the one in charge.
One of the best ways to handle an aggressive dog is to start establishing YOUR leadership at home. Your dog has to know that you’re the pack leader, and the one in charge.
The Dog Calming Code™️ program comes with lessons that can help you regain control over your dominant, aggressive dog.
TRAIN BOSSY AND AGGRESSIVE DOGS BETTER WITH THE HELP OF THE DOG CALMING CODE
Table of Contents
How to Handle Dominant Dog Behavior: What’s Going on In a Bossy Dog’s Mind?
How to Handle Dominant Dog Behavior: Aggressive Dog Signs and What They Mean
Barking
Growling
Stance That Says "I'm Ready to Fight"
Bumping Heads
Circling Around
Attacking Forward
How to Tell When a Dominant Aggressive Dog is Asserting Their Dominance on You
Invading Your Space
Growling at You
Ignoring Your Commands
Making Decisions
Training a Dominant Dog: 10 Best Strategies to Stop Dominant Dog Aggression
#1: Start in the Home
#2: Learn the Five Golden Rules of Doggy Dan Through the Dog Calming Code™️ Program
Doggy Dan Golden Rule #1: Control the Food
Doggy Dan Golden Rule #2: Delay Attention
Doggy Dan Golden Rule #3: Doing Things On Your Own Terms
Doggy Dan Golden Rule #4: Deal with Danger
Doggy Dan Golden Rule #5: Take Control of the Walk
#3: Be Calm
#4: Protect Your Space
#5: Don't Let Your Dog Make the Decisions
#6: Be Firm With Your Rules and Boundaries
#7: Practice Calm, Consistent Corrections
#8: Socialize Your Dogs
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Five Mistakes Dog Owners Make That Cause Dog Dominance
#1: Not Correcting The First Sign of Dominance
#2: Thinking Dominance Aggression will Just Go Away
#3: Letting the Dog Rule the House
#4: Lack of Consistency in Rules and Boundaries
#5: No Proper Training in Place
Learn How to Handle Dominant Dog Behavior with the Dog Calming Code
Show 73:How to Help a Fearful Dog: You Control The Fearful Energy
If you own a dog that is highly fearful, you already know telling them “Please, calm down” doesn’t work.
So what do you do as a dog owner to truly pacify your dog’s fears?
I’m sharing an IMPORTANT dog trainer tip I’ve learned through the years. Read on to learn more.
Key Takeaways:
If you want to know what causes dog fears, it’s important to check your fears as well. You can directly influence your dog’s reaction to things!
Helping fearful dogs overcome their fears starts with letting them see our calm, confident, unfazed energy. When we don’t give attention to things that worry them, it sends a message that they can ignore it, too.
Becoming the pack leader is an important ingredients to stopping fearful dogs from becoming more stressed!
Dog Owners and Dog Fears: The Story of the Woman with a Reactive Dog
How to Help Fearful Dogs: The #1 Reason For Your Dog’s Fearful Energy
Helping Fearful Dogs: Other Reasons Why Dogs Are Afraid
Lack of Socialization
Past Trauma or Negative Experiences
Genetic Predisposition
Medical Issues
Lack of Confidence
10 Signs of a Fearful Dog
Excessive Cowering or Trembling
Avoidance Behavior
Excessive Barking or Whining
Tail Tucking
Panting and Drooling
Aggression
Excessive Shedding
Potty Accidents
Dilated Pupils
Lack of Appetite
How to Help Fearful Dogs at Home
Fear of Random Sounds
Fear of Other Animals in the Home
Fear of People
How to Help Fearful Dogs Outdoors
Anxiety in the Great Outdoors
Fear of Other Dogs in Outdoor Settings
Fear of Scary Stuff in Outdoor Environments:
Dog Calming Code: Helping Fearful Dogs Become Calmer and More Confident
Show 72: What Stresses Dogs Out The Most? The Answer Starts with YOU (How Dog Owners Influence Their Dogs)
Episode 87
Monday, September 25, 2023 • Duration 10:16
Any loving dog owner gets concerned about the factors that cause dog stress. After all, we just want the best for our pets, from their physical to mental health.
You can attribute the cause of dog stress to multiple factors: unhealthy upbringing, violent history, a chaotic environment, and strained relationships with owners and other dogs.
But what most dog owners usually overlook is a stress trigger that affects more dogs than we know it: dog owner stress.
Yes, you read that right: your stress as a dog owner affects the stress levels of your dogs.
And although it is quite heartbreaking to know that dogs can absorb our stress, there’s a bright side: it is also YOU that can make it better for your beloved dogs.
This is what I’m going to share with you today. Read on to learn more.
What Research Says About Dog Owner Stress Being a Cause of Dog Stress
A research found out that dog owners’ acute and long-term stress has a direct impact on their dog’s stress levels known as cortisol.
In one of the studies published in the Scientific Report where a team studied 58 dog owners and their pets, it was discovered that stress are synchronized between dogs and the ones caring for them.
Whenever dog owners get elevated stress, dogs exhibited a spike in cortisol as well.
It also indicated that the closer the bond and the stronger the reliance, the more susceptible dogs are to absorbing their owner’s stress and emotions.
The senior zoologist conducting the research, Lina Roth, emphasized that dogs truly understand their owners, especially in the emotional aspect.
“Dogs are quite good at understanding humans,” Roth added.
Hearing this can make a dog owner go “Awww…” but this sweet fact comes with a downside: when we’re sad and stressed, our dogs feel it, too.
Your Dog Feels Emotions Rather Than Hear Words, And That’s One Thing That Causes Dog Stress
Your Dog Is Your Mirror: A Chill Dog Owner = A Chill Dog
Why Dog Owners Cause Dog Stress: Top 3 Reasons from a Top Dog Trainer
Dog Owners Don’t Understand That They Cause Dog Stress
Dogs Absorb Energy, and the Energy They Absorb The Most is From Us
They Feel Our Emotions More Than They Hear Our Words
5 Ways You Can Reduce Your Dog’s Stress
Keep Your Energy in Check
Always Spend Some Quiet Time with Dogs
Provide a Safe Space for Your Dog
Be Mindful of Your Actions
Use the Doggy Dan Dog Calming Code Program
Stop Causing Your Dog Stress, Let the Dog Calming Code Help You
Show 71: How to Make a Dog Listen to You: The Power of Silence and Calm Energy
Episode 86
Thursday, September 14, 2023 • Duration 09:39
If anyone comes to me for tips on how to get dogs to listen more, I always ask them to do this:
“Think of the most connected, most effective conversations you’ve had with a loved one. Were they done with shouting, or were they filled with calm, understanding energy?”
Surely, you would say the latter.
And it’s true. As a parent, the most effective conversations I've had with my children are ones done in absolute calmness.
Dogs listen and connect with us more when we have a calmer energy.
Starting the day with a calmer energy helps our dogs become calm and receptive to us.
What we consider as regular noise can already be too overwhelming for our dogs. Making sure our energies and noise are regulated can help dogs tune in better.
How To Get Dogs to Listen: We Listen More to Silence Than The Noise
Why Silence Is Important in Making Dogs Listen to Us More
5 Reasons Why a Dog Is Not Responding To You
Reason #1: They Are Overwhelmed
What to Do
Reason #2: The Energy You Have Speaks Differently Than Your Voice
What to Do
Reason #3: You're Shouting a Lot, and They No Longer Know What's Urgent and What's Not
What to Do
Reason #4: You Are Not Connected with Your Dog
What to Do
Reason #5: They Don't See You as a Leader They Can Trust
What to Do
Use this Quick Exercise on Silence and Calm Energy To Make Your Dog Listen More
Step 1: Start Your Day Quietly
Step 2: Observe the Effect on Your Dog
Step 3: Call Your Dog Calmly
How to Get Dogs to Listen More: Why Yelling Is Not the Answer
Reason #1: Yelling Tells Your Dog You’re Not a Confident Leader, Making It Hard for Them to Follow You
Reason #2: Yelling — as a Knee Jerk Reaction — Rarely Builds Any Connection
Reason #3: If We Go About Yelling Every Time, Our Dog Will Constantly Carry a Stressed Energy With Them
The Dog Calming Code: The Program That Helps Calm Dogs Down and Makes Them Listen More
You see, our dogs have the DNA of a wolf — 99.98%, to be exact. Why is this significant? Because how your dog acts can be connected to how wolves act in the wild.
For the wolves, everything is about survival. When they head outdoors, a walk is not just a walk; it's all about hunting for food.
The most interesting thing about wolves is they don't push through with their walk until the Alpha — the pack leader — steps in to lead the way, signals "Let's go!" and goes on to make all the big decisions.
Even though our dogs have become more domesticated than their ancestors, they still think like wolves.
Someone has to lead, someone has to decide, someone has to be followed, someone has to call the BIG shots.
FACT: If your dog doesn't feel like an Alpha is in charge, they will take over.
Why? Because your dog knows control is essential for survival. The Alpha is their protector! The Alpha tells them how to survive the wild and find food.
Your dog pulling the leash shows they have taken the role of the Alpha. Their pulling sends the message, "I'm making the big decisions now. I will tell you what to do!"
So when your dog pulls the lead, they aren't deliberately disobeying you or getting on your nerves.
They pull the lead because they feel they're the pack leader, and they need to make every crucial decision to make the walk successful because that's what pack leaders do.
The biggest solution to stop leash pulling is to actually show your dog they can pass on the hat of leadership to you.
Here are some ways you can do it.
Just as the Alpha wolf leads the pack, you need to establish yourself as the leader of your pack.
Some dog owners assume they only need to show their authority and leadership during the walk, and what happens before or after the walk doesn't matter.
Becoming the leader in your dog's eyes requires an all-round approach, and that's why I made my online dog training program, The Dog Calming Code™️.
This dog training program is dedicated to helping you become an all-round leader in your dog's eyes by guiding you on how to feed dogs, give attention, respond to calls for danger, and how walks should be done.
So when you need to go outdoors, your dog already knows who to listen to!
When it comes to walking, I recommend these simple options if you're looking for a way to incorporate discipline during your time outdoors.
Do the pause if your dog starts pulling the leash. This consequence is your way of saying "Hey, we won't continue walking if you keep on pulling."
Wait 2-5 minutes and see if your dog stops the pulling the lead.
If pulling, aggression, or rowdiness doesn't stop after a couple of pauses, turn the other way around and abandon the walk. I know this could be heartbreaking, especially when your dog has been looking forward to time outdoors. However, doing the 180 can help your dog understand that ultimately, YOU are the decision maker, the one in charge, and they should be listening to you.
Your dog will eventually get it, and will follow habits you expect them to do.
This one is crucial because how you walk out of the house predicts how your walk will go.
Even if you've already showed you're the leader, one power move from your dog can change the dynamics.
What do I mean by this?
I mentioned earlier that dogs are all about control. Your dog is smart and will subtly challenge your leadership before the walk.
Some dogs will attempt to jump through the door before you do as if to say "Ha! I lead now!"
Sometimes, dogs will attempt to take control by tugging at you, or handing you the leash to tell you "Hey, it's time for my walk!"
Sure, your dog will attempt to convince you to bring them outside whenever they want. This could be tempting, especially when they can't hide their eagerness. But stay strong, furmom and furdad.
Ignore the request for a few minutes then call your dog. Doing this establishes that you — not them — decide when the walk should happen.
Keep an eye on your dog's behavior to see if you should push through with the walk.
Some factors that indicate you should not push through include:
persistent leash pulling even after you reprimand them
If you see these factors in your dogs, don't hesitate to call a rain check on your walk.
Your dog can sense your emotions, so if you're tense or frustrated, they'll pick up on that and may become more difficult to manage. Keep your cool, even when they're testing your patience. A calm demeanor reinforces your role as the leader.
Yelling or getting frustrated only escalates the situation.
For your dog, the one who doesn't easily flinch or fold wins and takes the leadership hat.
But what do you do when the constant leash pulling becomes too much for you?
A consequence given with calmness can teach your dog what they need to do more than shouting or using force can.
When you're angry, your dog will more likely become stressed, making it hard for them to really understand you.
Before you continue reading, I want you to know I completely understand your frustrations.
I've had conversations with dog owners where I asked them "What happens during the walk?"
A lot of them said "Well, the leash pulling becomes too much, we just let them lead the way. We figured it was better than abandoning the walk altogether."
Definitely a big misconception!
If you are a dog owner who thinks giving in to your dog will make training easier along the way, I'm here to tell you it won't.
Show them you're the Alpha by letting them know "Hey, you can chill. I make the big decisions here." And stick with it.
The entire concept of dog leadership includes a lot of concepts, and it's easy to fall into the cracks when you're working to become a true leader in your dog's eyes.
I created The Dog Calming Code for dog owners who really want to set the leadership right. The Dog Calming Code discusses the Five Golden Rules of dog leadership; five essential concepts that — when done right — will cement your place as the Alpha your dogs WILL trust.
Because when you're the Alpha, you won't only be able to stop leash pulling; you can always enjoy a peaceful, calm, successful walk.
Consider this scenario: you're walking down the street, and a stranger suddenly comes up to you and say "Oh you're so cute, I love you!"
You'd likely feel violated and possibly react angrily. After all, somebody just got into your space without permission.
Dogs are no different; they can become snappy when they feel their territory or personal space is threatened.
And for dogs, space is a big deal!
This crossing of boundaries is a common scenario among small, popular breed dogs. These dogs are stranger magnets because they can be so adorable; being constantly mobbed by strangers can make them feel overly-protective and aggressive.
Being a pack leader is crucial in addressing snappy dog behavior for several reasons.
If they perceive themselves as the leader, they may feel responsible for handling threats or dangers around them, something that can contribute to snappish behavior.
You can flip this by embracing your role as the pack leader. It's like tapping your dog on the head to say, "Hey, buddy. I got this. You can chill and hand the danger to me."
When you help establish a strong association with you as a fierce, protective, confident, and reliable leader, your dog will learn to ease up and become more tolerant.
They needed a cohesive group to protect themselves from threats.
When dogs feel weak, they have all the more reason to be really, really protective.
Physical issues such as injuries, dental problems, or internal discomfort can lead to irritability and aggression. If you have an ailing dog, err on the side of safety.
Dogs are territorial animals, and they may become snappy when they think a threat is getting near their territory or possessions.
The causes for territorial aggression can include guarding their food, toys, or living space.
Dogs not adequately socialized during their critical developmental periods may become fearful or aggressive in unfamiliar social situations.
This can result in snappish behavior when encountering new people or animals.
A frustrated dog trying to protect a valuable resource, like food or a favorite toy, has a higher chance of snapping.
Resource guarding is one of the core by-products of trying a dog’s desire to survive.
Dogs are all about survival. They want to be safe, they want to feel protected. If you don’t make them feel that they can hand all the worrying to you, THEY WON’T STOP BEING SNAPPY…however hard you train them!
My 5 Golden Rules to becoming the pack leader in your dog’s eyes (which you can find in The Dog Calming Code) will solidify your leadership. You can take these simple but highly effective steps to make your dog say “Now that’s a pack leader I can trust to protect me and the pack!”
I’ve had dog owners come to me expressing their shock at how their non-aggressive dog attacked someone!
“We don’t know what caused them to react like that!”
Trust me: your dog WILL SHOW signs they’re triggered. We just need to really, really be keen in knowing what these triggers are.
Ensure that your dog is securely leashed and has appropriate gear to prevent harm to others in case of aggression.
I know it’s tempting to trust on your dog’s natural, kind character. But aggression is unpredictable; you have to take every step to prevent your dog from hurting others.
I totally understand this: you simply want to show your cute dog to your friends or to strangers you meet. However, your dog might not share the same enthusiasm.
When it comes to introducing your dogs to strangers, a slow introduction is key.
Gradual exposure to strangers can help desensitize your dog. Take your time and allow your dog to adjust at their own pace.
Avoid harsh training methods, as they can confuse and exacerbate your dog's aggression. Gentle, positive reinforcement techniques are more effective.
By implementing The Dog Calming Code, you assume the role of the protector in your dog's eyes.
Not just one they need to protect, but one they can give all the protecting responsibilities to.
This shift in dynamics reassures your dog that there's no need for them to resort to aggression. They begin to trust your leadership and guidance, making them feel safe and secure.
This program delves deep into the intricacies of dog psychology.
It unravels the core reasons behind aggressive dog behavior, addressing the root causes rather than surface-level symptoms.
This comprehensive understanding is vital for creating lasting change.
The Dog Calming Code boasts a track record of success, having been tested and proven effective in over 88,000 dogs.
These dogs have transformed, becoming calmer, more relaxed, and placing increased trust in their pack leaders – their beloved owners.
The program offers a tested path to a harmonious and fulfilling relationship between dogs and their caregivers, fostering a more peaceful and loving home environment.
Is your dog really just happy or are they starting to show signs of being an overexcited dog?
The easiest way to tell is to look at the signs. From non-stop barking to hyperactive jumping, here are some critical signs that you have an overexcited dog who needs help.
This dog is relatively easy to spot. An overexcited dog barks at other people or dogs to get their attention.
It's like saying, "Hey, I want to play. Notice me! I'm here!" And when attention is not given, the barking gets more and more persistent.
An overexcited dog may bark persistently and excessively, often without reason. This non-stop barking behavior is always a manifestation of heightened arousal, and these dogs often continue barking despite attempts to calm them down.
In short, simply telling your dog to "Stop barking!" does not really work.
When faced with excitement, a dog might jump uncontrollably, especially when greeting their owners or encountering new visitors.
This jumping can become particularly overwhelming, making it challenging for the dog to focus or listen to commands.
You can see it in how they fidget, shift positions, or show restlessness.
Overexcited dogs might demonstrate excessive enthusiasm during playtime, which can sometimes turn into overly rough behavior or even aggression. Especially when the other dog don't share their excitement!
This behavior can result from the dog's inability to regulate their excitement levels, leading to potential behavioral challenges during interactions with other animals or people.
Understanding the underlying triggers contributing to a dog's overexcitement is CRUCIAL in devising the best training plan for managing their exuberant behavior.
When you understand the cause of dog overexcitement, it helps you address the issue clearly. You'll also know how to correct this issue in its roots.
If you don’t establish yourself as the pack leader, dogs will take on that role. And when they do, they will find it difficult to regulate their excitement levels.
Without clear guidance and reinforcement of desirable conduct, these dogs may become easily overwhelmed and struggle to remain composed in various situations.
A lack of movement and exercise cause dogs to exhibit restlessness and hyperactivity, making it challenging for them to maintain a state of calmness and relaxation.
In such environments, dogs may find it difficult to focus or remain composed, resulting in heightened excitement that manifests through various behavioral cues.
And if you, their dog owner, come home with a frenetic, overexcited energy, your dog will absorb that.
Without engaging activities or interactive play that challenge their cognitive abilities, dogs may resort to hyperactive behaviors as a means of seeking stimulation and attention.
The very root of overexcitement is this: your dog feels that they are in charge.
It's not only the aggressive, fierce dogs who think they run the show… even the hyperactive, overly playful one feels the same.
Why?
Because they think they're in charge of playtime. They are the leader in their minds, so when they lunge, jump, or bark excitedly to signal to everyone it's playtime, they think everyone should listen.
And if the other dogs don't respond as your dog wants them to, they won't stop lunging or jumping at them.
You may have already seen this scenario play out in a park.
The excited dogs are working up every other pet in the vicinity because they can't stop asserting their authority through overexcitement.
What you expect as a quiet, calm, chill day with your dog at the park turns into a bark-fest, with your dog as the instigator.
When they take over a walk while you're outdoors, they think they're the leader.
So when you take charge of EVERY SINGLE THING (food, attention, danger, walks) related to your dog, you're sending a message that you're the pack leader, the one in charge of everything.
They don't have to worry about playtimes at the park.
Or the dogs that don't play with them.
It's a matter that should be dealt with BY YOU.
It calms them down!
(You can learn more about how to become the pack leader with my online dog training program, The Dog Calming Code™️.)
If persistent overexcitement poses challenges, seek guidance from a professional dog trainer or behaviorist.
Their insights and tailored strategies can assist in managing your dog's hyperactive tendencies.
Approach the training process with patience, compassion, and a commitment to gentle leadership to help your dog find inner peace and develop a harmonious relationship with their surroundings.
Maintaining a consistent and gentle disciplinary approach is essential in preventing dog overexcitement.
Precise and positive reinforcement techniques, along with establishing boundaries, help dogs understand acceptable behavior, fostering a sense of security and predictability.
Providing dogs with designated safe spaces and implementing time-outs when necessary can contribute to regulating their excitement levels.
Safe spaces serve as retreats where dogs can relax and unwind. Time-outs offer powerful opportunities to help you establish rules, boundaries, and expectations.
This kind of dog is easy to spot. One of the overprotective dog types is the “security guard” dog.
They usually spring up at the very first sound of the doorbell. Their energy levels can go from 2 to an instant 10! They get up from their little corner to run and bark at the person or animal on the other side of the door.
The other kind is the “border patrol” dog. This overprotective dog restlessly goes around the property checking on gates and fences and making sure nothing gets in.
In your relationship with your dog, who is responsible for answering the door?
You could say that “My dog knows I am the one in charge.”
But do they really?
If your dog believes they are in charge, they will continue to be aggressive towards anyone near the door or fence.
The “security guard” and the “border patrol” dogs are constantly barking at the door, constantly patrolling the area with an aggressive energy because they think they’re in charge of it!
(Dog psychology comes with various concepts that are essential for dog owners to understand. I talk more about cracking the dog code with my online training program The Dog Calming Code™️.)
The bottomline is telling your dog “Don’t worry, I’m in charge here” just won’t do it.
So how do you show your leadership, especially when it comes to answering the door?
If your dog is barking at someone from a distance, show them that you acknowledge what they’re barking at BUT DON’T MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT.
Calmly reassure the dog that you saw their perceived threat, and they have nothing to worry about by telling them “Thank you” and walking away.
If your dog still barks after doing this, take them to a room to help them let some steam off and bring their energy level down.
Always make sure your energy is not stressed or agitated as well. Because even if you say “Thank you!” and walk away IF your energy level is anything BUT CALM, your dog won’t be calm.
These are just some examples of dealing with a dog who can’t stop barking and worrying about their perceived threat.
(Important note: Remember, it’s you who needs to do the worrying!)
I talk more about dealing with perceived danger in Doggy Dan Golden Rule #4. I have a blog dedicated for this which you can check out here.
When sensing a possible threat or intrusion, dogs often resort to vocal cues, expressing their unease or asserting their authority.
Their growls or barks serve as a clear warning, communicating their readiness to defend and protect their territory or loved ones.
In moments of perceived danger, dogs instinctively position themselves as a shield, placing their bodies between their loved ones and the potential harm.
This protective behavior showcases their loyalty and unwavering commitment to ensuring the safety of their human companions.
Once the situation deems itself safe, dogs swiftly ease back into their usual demeanor, relinquishing their defensive stance and resuming their ordinary activities.
Their ability to swiftly switch between defense and ease highlights their responsive and adaptable nature.
In the face of what they perceive as a genuine threat, some dogs may adopt an overtly aggressive posture, with their heads held high and hackles raised, signaling a clear message of intimidation.
This defensive stance is a visual display of their readiness to confront and defend against any potential harm.
In some cases, dogs may showcase an exaggerated response to new or unfamiliar situations, often reacting with heightened anxiety or aggression.
Their overreaction might stem from a place of heightened protectiveness, where they interpret the unknown as a potential threat to their territory or loved ones.
Through the act of urinating in specific locations, dogs establish their territorial boundaries, leaving behind scent markers to communicate their ownership or presence.
This instinctual behavior serves as a means of asserting their claim over their environment, highlighting their innate need to protect and secure their space.
To address dog aggression problems such as overprotectiveness, it is important for dog owners to take control of their dog's entire life, not just when there is a threat.
The reason behind this is you can’t tell your dog that you’re in charge of danger, while you let them take charge of everything else.
It will confuse your dogs.
Most dog owners don’t know their dog is already in control of EVERYTHING in their home.
This is the heart of my online dog program, The Online Dog Calming Code. I will teach you not just to tell the dogs “don’t worry,” but how to show them you’re the leader they can hand over their worries to.
If you have an issue with your dog running to the door every time someone goes to your house, establish a boundary.
You can teach boundaries better through timeouts.
Whenever the dog starts barking and charging towards the door, calmly bring them to a room for a timeout. It’s also a great way for them to de-stress and steam off from the red zone.
Stay attentive to any changes in your dog's energy levels or behavior. If you notice any signs of heightened protectiveness, assert control immediately.
Redirect their attention and help them bring their energy levels down.
Create a safe space where your dog can unwind and release built-up tension.
Encourage them to relax and de-escalate any anger or stress they may be experiencing. Providing a designated room or area can give them the necessary privacy to regain composure.
When introducing your dog to new people or environments, ensure you maintain a safe distance initially.
Allow your dog to adjust gradually to the new stimuli, helping them feel more at ease and less threatened. Slow and steady introductions can promote a sense of security and comfort.
Early and consistent socialization can be pivotal in preventing overprotective behavior. Expose your dog to various social situations, other dogs, and people from a young age.
If your dog lacks socialization, seek guidance from a professional canine behaviorist. Implement a gradual and safe socialization plan to help your dog adjust positively to new interactions and environments.
Here’s the goal: to make you the strong, sure leader that can handle danger.
It’s the only way to make your dogs feel that they no longer have to spring to the door to do the protecting. They understand it’s your job. Even when the doorbell rings, they won’t have the tendency to react aggressively.
This issue puzzles dog owners: they usually have a pretty well-mannered dog, until a perceived danger or threat comes near.
They immediately show their fangs, and they don’t hesitate biting anything or anyone who they think disrupts safety.
I want to emphasize again: fear biters don’t just bite out of habit — they perceive themselves as the one in charge of their owners and their property so… they bite to protect.
We become more wary about things around us — even anxious! — and always on the edge to protect our kids from the danger of strangers and threatening circumstances.
Why? Because we know that when it comes to our kids, we are the ones in charge.
And it’s the same with our dogs.
Of course they will be scared. Of course they will be protective!
So how do you let the fear biter know that there’s nothing they should be worried — or biting — about?
Dealing with a fear biter requires both understanding and proactive steps. Becoming the pack leader is a powerful way to effectively address your dog's fear aggression.
Even if their barking or biting tendencies can get into you, demonstrate that you are unfazed.
Let them see that you acknowledge the situation but are not troubled by it. This reassures them that there's nothing to worry about because YOU will do all the worrying.
A dog’s primal desire to protect is really strong.
So even if you tell them “Don’t worry about it!” they will still worry about it, especially if they don’t see you as the leader who can actually handle dangerous business.
After years of working with thousands of dogs as a top-notch dog trainer, I've got the lowdown on how to be the kind of pack leader your dogs can really rely on.
And guess what? I'm spilling the beans in the Dog Calming Code™️, an online dog training program that spills all the secrets of the 5 Golden Rules of dog leadership.
In the Dog Calming Code, you'll uncover everything you need to know about stepping up as the pack leader, earning your dog's trust, and helping them overcome their tendency to bite out of fear!
When you do have to introduce a new environment to your beloved dogs, please do so gradually. A gradual introduction provides positive experiences and reassurance to ease their anxiety.
Is the change of season calling you to change routines as well? Well, you might soon deal with an anxious fear biter.
A sudden disruption in their daily schedule creates stress and uncertainty. Just like navigating around new environments, try introducing routine changes one at a time.
The most common fear biting trigger in dogs is stranger danger.
When dogs perceive a person as a threat, they may resort to aggression as a way to protect themselves or their owners. When a sound or an object looks strange enough to simply be ignored, your dog will be on high alert.
It's often a display of their readiness to react to a perceived threat. This behavior is typically seen when a dog is on high alert and may precede more aggressive actions if the threat continues.
A raised tail can indicate fear or anxiety in dogs. While some dogs may raise their tails as a sign of confidence, in fearful dogs, a raised tail is often a defensive posture.
It can be accompanied by other signs of tension, such as stiff body language or growling.
Perked ears are another sign of heightened alertness in dogs.
When a dog's ears are pricked forward and rigid, it indicates that they are paying close attention to their surroundings, possibly due to fear or uncertainty.
This is a way for them to gather as much information as possible about potential threats.
Baring teeth is a more overt sign of aggression and fear. When a dog shows their teeth, it's a clear signal that they are feeling threatened or defensive.
It's often a precursor to biting and should be taken seriously. Dogs displaying this behavior should be approached cautiously and with care.
When a dog's body becomes tense and immobile, it's a sign that they are on high alert and ready to react defensively.
Stiffness can be seen in conjunction with other fear-related behaviors like growling or baring teeth.
As the pack leader, you must exhibit confidence in dealing with potential dangers.
Dogs look to you for guidance, and your calm and composed demeanor can reassure them that you have the situation under control.
Confidence in your leadership helps reduce their anxiety and fear.
Dogs are highly attuned to their owners' emotions and energy. If you are fearful or anxious, your dog will pick up on those emotions and mirror them.
Maintaining a calm and confident energy is crucial when dealing with fear aggression, as your dog's reactions are often a reflection of your own state of mind.
Providing your dog with a safe space they can retreat to is essential.
I usually tell dog owners to bring their dogs to a safe space once they sense fear aggression picking up.
This safe haven should be exclusive to the anxious dogs, free of distractions and disturbance. A crate, a quiet room, or a space far from the triggers can help your dogs diffuse anxiety.
Gradual exposure to new animals, objects, and environments is crucial for dogs prone to fear aggression.
They have this HUGE need to assert themselves, and if either you or another dog fails to comply with their desires, they resort to aggressive behaviors to assert their dominance.
Signs of aggression in a dominant dog is different from a dog with aggression driven by fear. The aggressive behavior of bossy dogs come from their want to assert authority and put other dogs in their place.
Dog owners, knowing these signs by heart can protect you and your other pets from aggressive outbursts of your bossy dog.
Here are aggressive dog signs that gives you the cue you need to remind your dog “Hey, it’s me who is in control here.”
Is your bossy dog the king of non-stop barking?
Dogs use barking as a means to assert themselves as the leader of the pack. It’s their way of commanding attention, demanding for resources, or forcing compliance from other dogs or humans.
It's a vocal display of their perceived authority.
Growling is a sign you can’t simply brush off!
When a bossy dog growls, it's a clear warning that says “You are pushing the boundaries!”
A bossy dog can resort to growling in instances such as:
Another dog getting into their space
When they see another dog — or you — as a threat to their authority
It's a signal that the bossy dog believes they have the right to control the situation and are willing to use force if necessary.
You’ve probably seen this if you have a bossy dog: the dominant stance, which includes standing tall with their head held high, and a stiff body posture.
In the dog kingdom, head bumping is a show of dominance.
One dog asserts dominance by positioning its head above the other's, signaling its victory in the hierarchy struggle. The opposing dog resists and attempts to gain the upper position, leading to occasional head collisions.
The more they push back, the more they’re communicating “No, I AM THE BOSS not you.”
When a dog circles another, it’s an act of assessing their opponent.
Circling allows them to size up the competition, anticipate movements, and potentially find an advantage in a confrontation.
Some of the signs that your dog is showing dominance over you includes them refusing to come when called, persistently climbing onto your bed and couch despite your objections, or displaying aggression towards you.
Recognizing these signs is crucial because they show that you have potentially lost control of your dog.
And when you lose control over a dominant dog, it can be the start of difficult behavior issues.
So, how can you prevent these issues from escalating?
There are four signs that you should 100% watch out for.
Picture this: dogs encroached upon your personal space, freely climbing onto your bed without an invitation, perching on your head, or occupying your lap without consent.
It might sound sweet at first (“Yay, my dog wants me!”) but they are actually very subtle ways of dogs taking over the leadership. Even a dog lying on your feet is their way of showing dominance.
And the more your dog invades your space, the more they start to think “I can do this because I'm the one in charge here.”
When dogs growl at you, it's a significant sign.
This is because growling can be a precursor to an attack.
It suggests that your dog perceives you as a threat to their authority and security, prompting them to growl to assert dominance.
You call your dog, but there's no response.
You command them to stop, but they disregard your instructions.
It’s a silent but powerful way of letting you know “Why should I listen to you?”
Dogs take matters into THEIR OWN PAWS, making decisions without waiting for your input.
They decide when to eat food, nudge you for cuddles, or fetch their leash to signal their desire for a walk. These actions may seem harmless, but they slowly build into a wrecking ball that eventually crushes your control.
Once these signs become evident, it's essential to regain control. I am sharing the powerful strategies for training bossy dogs I’ve learned from my experience. Read on below.
The journey of teaching your dog essential lessons begins right at home, and it's an indispensable starting point.
In fact, home is where the foundation for good behavior is laid, and there's no better place for this crucial groundwork.
By focusing on your dog's behavior within the home environment, you'll be better equipped to help them become less aggressive when they venture outdoors.
In my years as a dog trainer, I have seen how even the most bossy, authoritarian dogs turn into calm dogs who learn how to listen and chill.
These transformations inspired me to make the Dog Calming Code program featuring the Doggy Dan Five Golden Rules.
These Five Golden Rules of Dog Training were created to help dog owners like you TAKE BACK CONTROL through SIMPLE but POWERFUL strategies.
Here’s a quick preview of how you’re going to achieve leadership in your bossy dog’s eyes through the Dog Calming Code.
Your bossy dog has to know that you control the food and everything that comes with eating: mealtimes, scraps, eating habits.
Food is HUGE for dogs, and the one who controls the food is the one who is in charge.
After separation, your dog will challenge your leadership by going to you. This rule teaches dog owners the power of delaying acknowledgement to establish leadership, just like leader of the pack would.
Your bossy dog has to see this: all the decisions come from you. They’re not the one in charge, so they absolutely just have to chill and hand all the decision making to you.
A dominant dog who thinks they’re in charge will always call out danger (thus the barking!). Rule #4 is about helping you become that calm, confident, CAPABLE leader who knows how to say to dogs “I am the one in charge here, so I take care of danger.”
Controlling dog aggression should not just stop at home. Even while you are outdoors, your dog has to know you’re in charge. This keeps them from challenging other dogs because they know it’s you who is the leader. Rule #5 makes this possible.
To maintain your authority, protect your space by only giving attention on your terms. This reinforces the idea that your dog has no power over you because YOU are the leader.
Dogs that are given too much freedom to make decisions may start to believe they are in control.
Be resolute in not granting your dog decision-making privileges. It's you who leads them, and you have the final say in matters.
When correction is necessary, opt for timeouts as a method. This approach encourages a loving connection with your dog without resorting to threats or aggression. It reinforces the idea that your relationship is built on mutual respect and understanding.
These signs can include pushing their way to the front during walks, growling when asked to give up a toy, or attempting to claim your personal space.
Ignoring these early warning signs can allow the problem to escalate.
It's crucial to address these behaviors promptly with appropriate training and correction to prevent them from becoming ingrained patterns of dominance. I often recommend using Timeout to nip these behaviors in the bud.
Some dog owners mistakenly believe that dominance aggression will naturally subside over time.
They may assume that their dog will "grow out of it" or that it's just a phase.
However, dominance aggression rarely resolves on its own and often worsens if left unaddressed.
This type of behavior can become deeply ingrained, making it more challenging to correct as time goes on. It's essential to take proactive steps to address dominance aggression through training, socialization, and consistent enforcement of rules.
Allowing your dog to rule the house is a common mistake that can contribute to dominance issues.
This can manifest in various ways, such as allowing your dog to claim the best spots on the couch or bed, letting them decide when and where they eat, or permitting them to demand attention whenever they please.
When dogs believe they are in charge, it can lead to a host of behavioral problems, including aggression, barking around the property and lunging on the leash. To prevent these, establish clear boundaries and rules within your home and consistently enforce them.
When rules aren’t reinforced consistently, your dog will fall back into a pattern of aggression.
For example, if you allow behavior that allows them to be the boss again (even though you’re training them not to be) it sends mixed signals to the dog.
To address this, it's crucial that you follow through with the rules and boundaries you’ve st. Make sure other family members are on the same page.
I made sure the training instructions are simple for even new dog owners to understand but POWERFUL enough to cover the issues that lead to dog aggression.
Because I believe that dominant, bossy dogs — when trained right — will happily switch off and pass the baton of leadership to you.
And every dog deserves to switch off, relax, and feel “I am not the leader here. I don’t need to fight with other dogs. I don’t need to be brave and alert all the time. I can absolutely chill!”
That’s an absolute gift to your pet.
If you want to learn about the Dog Calming Code, you can check it out here.
My heart is close to dogs struggling with fears and anxiety. So when a lady told me that she had a problem with her reactive dog, I recommended a consultation.
That immediately made me wonder “What caused the change?” I knew the dog was reactive, but the way they shifted from calm to aggressive caught my attention.
We decided to review the tapes to see what caused the change.
And the moment I saw it, I immediately knew the exact reason.
During the walk, both owner and dog carried a happy, calm energy. When the dog had to walk past my dog, the owner did a slight, almost unnoticeable tug on the leash.
A gesture that meant “Hey, there’s a dog and I’m quite worried with what you’re going to do. Don’t come near him.”
And the dog immediately thought “Oh, so that dog is danger!”
The reasonable next step is for the dog to react to the threat — it was their way of protecting their owner from something they think is scary.
Have you ever noticed that your fears influence your dog’s fears?
Do you observe your dog getting more fearful when you’re also feeling anxious or worried?
Has your dog shown fear toward things THAT SECRETLY SCARE you?
If you find yourself answering “yes” to all these questions, it’s time to understand a fundamental principle: “Energy Flows Where Your Attention Goes.”
Now that I laid out the number one cause for dog’s fears — which is your own fear as a dog owner — it is also important to talk about the other reasons that cause fearful dogs.
Lack of socialization causes fearful dogs because they feel everything and everyone is a stranger to them.
And unfamiliar people and things can cause fear!
Insufficient exposure to different people, animals, environments, and experiences during the critical socialization period (typically between 3 and 14 weeks of age) can lead to fear of the unfamiliar later in life.
Some dogs may have a genetic predisposition to anxiety and fearfulness. Breeds or individual dogs with a more nervous temperament may be prone to fear-related issues.
Medical conditions that cause pain, neurological problems, or sensory deficits, can make dogs more prone to anxiety and fearful behavior. It's essential to rule out any underlying health concerns when addressing fear in dogs.
Dogs with low self-esteem or a lack of confidence may exhibit fear-based behaviors as a way of coping with unfamiliar or challenging situations.
Think about when a stranger approaches your dog on a walk, and suddenly, their tail tucks between their legs. This is their way of saying, "I'm scared."
During a thunderstorm, your dog might shed more fur than usual due to their anxiety. It's a visible sign of their emotional distress.
Consider a situation where you leave your dog home alone for an extended period. When you return, you find a mess on the floor. This can result from their fear of being alone.
When your dog encounters a loud noise like fireworks, their pupils may dilate. This shows they're in a state of fear and arousal.
If your dog suddenly refuses to eat when you introduce them to a new environment, it could be related to their fear of the unfamiliar surroundings.
In golden rule #3, the solution is simple: you have to show your dog that the random sound doesn’t faze you.
You have to send the message “Don’t you worry about that. It doesn’t worry me. And if that one’s danger, then you can let me worry about it. You just chill out.”
Your dog will feel your confidence as a pack leader, and they will see you’re not fearful at all!
To help your dog overcome their fear of other animals, consider introducing them to a new fur-sibling outside your home, such as a park. This neutral environment can facilitate a more relaxed initial meeting.
When dealing with your dog's fear of people, it's crucial to approach introductions gradually and with sensitivity.
Begin by having the person your dog is afraid of maintain a calm and non-threatening demeanor. Allow your dog to approach them at their own pace.
Is going out such a stressful thing for your dog? Here are ways you can help.
It's a challenge many dog owners face: your dog might be calm and collected at home, but once you step outside, it's like a whole new world.
Here's the deal: being the pack leader in the comfort of your home is fantastic, but it's equally a must to assume that role outdoors to boost your dog's confidence and security.
Understanding the social nature of dogs is key to making them feel comfortable around other pups.
Rather than overwhelming your dog with unfamiliar faces at the dog park, focus on regular playdates with a select group of familiar furry friends. This builds positive bonds and reduces anxiety.
Don't forget, your own demeanor matters too! Stay calm when introducing your dog to new pals, as they often take cues from your reactions on how to behave themselves.
Outdoors can be full of surprises for our dogs.
From strange-looking sticks to crossing streams, these new experiences can sometimes trigger fear in our dogs.
But here's a simple formula to keep in mind when helping dogs navigate through outdoor things that scare them:
First, show your dog that there's no need to be afraid. If you're crossing a stream, demonstrate how it's done calmly and safely. Your confidence can be contagious!
Then, shift their focus to something positive, like their favorite toy or a game of fetch. This helps them build a positive connection with the environment.
Remember, once your dog sees and feels that there's nothing to fear, they'll feel much more at ease.
As an experienced top dog trainer, I know how closely linked an owner's stress and their dog's fears can be.
It's a cycle that feeds off each other, making it vital to address our dogs' fearful behaviors before they turn worse.
Enter the Dog Calming Code, my online training program. Here, you'll discover the key to becoming the calm, confident pack leader in your dog's eyes.
When your dog senses your confidence, it sparks a chain reaction, boosting their own self-assurance.
The Dog Calming Code also equips you with practical knowledge and techniques to effectively ease your dog's fears. It's a holistic approach that cultivates peace and security that you and your dog so deserve!
~ Doggy Dan 😄
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I always say this: your dog can’t always hear what you say because your actions and emotions are louder than your words.
When you communicate with a dog, they assess your body language and tone of voice to make sense of your words.
You might say “I always tell my dog to calm down, Dan. I encourage them to not go crazy with stress!”
But here’s a dog trainer insight: no matter how much you assure your dog, if your stress levels are through the roof, they will know.
“Calm down” is just a phrase if your dog can see the worried, nervous, or annoyed energy behind your words.
Your dog can go “Wait, why are they worried? Why do I sense panic? Should I worry? My owner looks worried so I think I should be, too!”
And the cycle goes on and on: you’re wondering why your dog can’t seem to understand your request, while your dog can’t stop picking up the panic and frustration in your voice.
As a top dog trainer that has seen this scenario play out thousands of times, here’s a simple rule I always encourage dog owners to remember: your dog is your mirror.
Before they do anything, they must first see it in you.
I have seen a real life example of a dog owner directly affecting the personality and energy levels of their pets.
One day, while I was on my way to a consultation, I saw an interesting sight: a dog owner walking oh-so-calmly with his dog.
From the get go, it would sound like nothing out of the ordinary. But the dog in this story is a pitbull.
A dog that is so notorious, so scary, and always exuding boss energy!
But on that day, I was totally taken by surprise at how calm the dog was. So calm, they follow their dog owner wherever he goes.
The dog had no leash, and showed zen-like calmness.
It only took one look for me to know why.
His dog owner was absolutely chill. No worried stance, steps light and easy, and it looked like he was having a great time in their outdoor stroll.
It confirmed to me: yes, indeed, the pitbull was chill because his owner was absolutely chill.
If the man in my story can influence his dog to be relaxed and diffuse agitated energy, imagine the opposite: what will happen to our dogs if we perpetually show stress.
“But why are dogs influenced by our stress, Doggy Dan?”
The moment these dogs come into our home, they become our companions. When it comes to reacting, perceiving danger, and socializing they will be looking up to you as their example. Whatever you do, they will do.
But it does not stop there.
Whatever you feel, they also feel.
So if you’re wondering why dog owners cause dog stress, here are the reasons.
I totally know the look on your face right now. It’s the same look I usually get when I tell dog owners that they unintentionally cause dog stress.
But before you feel guilty, I want you to know that you’re not alone on this boat.
Even the most loving, most protective owner can make dogs feel stressed even without meaning to.
For example:
Reacting in a worried tone all the time tells your dog they should always be on the lookout for danger.
Pacing back and forth with agitated energy confuses dogs into thinking there’s something bad they should worry about.
If we’re always angry, always shouty, always wired up, our dogs will act the same!
These actions are easy to overlook as stressors for dogs, but they are. Being aware that our reactions and emotions cause our dogs stress can be the first step to change.
Our dogs are highly attuned to our emotions. They sense energy, and they take on the energy they’re exposed to.
Because dogs spend most of the day with us, the chances of them absorbing our energy is high.
So when we constantly carry a heavy, stressed energy, it won’t be a surprise if our dogs will start to show signs of stress as well.
Ever had a dog that seems to be constantly scared despite your constant reassurance?
It’s great if you can take a step back and ask: am I also scared? Is my dog picking up the energy of fear from me?
Remember: dogs feel what you feel. Dogs tend to feel and act like their owners, so if you want them to be more confident, you should start by showing them you’re calm, sure, and confident yourself.
Be mindful of your own energy and emotions around your dog.
Because we’re dog owners, we have to remember that dogs are quietly observing us and absorbing whatever energy we radiate.
Try to maintain a calm and positive demeanor, as this can have a soothing effect on your dog.
For example:
Instead of reacting in an angry voice, take a few seconds to regulate your emotions by breathing in and out.
If we do need to release emotions, we have to be careful not to let it out on our dogs.
We have to ensure that we take time to let release stress so dogs won’t have to deal with the consequences of our pent-up stress.
Dogs, like humans, need downtime.
Spend quality, quiet time with your dog where you engage in gentle activities like petting, cuddling, or simply being together in a calm environment.
In my previous blog, I shared the Three-Minute Quiet Time to help calm dogs down.
Here’s how you can do it:
Every morning, start your day with a quiet, calm energy. Sit in silence for 30 seconds to 3 minutes.
Quietly observe how this change in energy affects your dog. Are they calmer? Are they more relaxed?
Once you feel that both you and your dog are calm, call them. You will see how relaxed and receptive they are.
Ensure your dog has a designated safe and comfortable space, like a crate or a cozy corner.
This little corner should be designed as a place they can retreat when they need a break from stimulation or social interaction.
Make this safe space off limits from kids or other dogs so your dog can let off steam and diffuse stress without any distraction.
Having a dog also means being responsible not only with how we react, but how we act as well.
Stomping our feet because we’re angry causes stress. Banging on doors causes stress. Even dropping stuff forcefully because of irritation causes stress.
And our stressed-induced actions can turn our calm dog into one that’s also on the edge.
At the heart of the Doggy Dan Dog Calming Code™️ Program is this: dog owners who become calm and confident leaders raise calm and confident dogs.
Unregulated stress can cause a strain in your relationship and training with your dog (which can even cause more stress!).
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(And when you do set rules and take charge, it takes a chunk of stress of your dog’s mind!)
Your dog is your mirror; if they see you as the leader they can trust, they will learn how to switch off from stress.
We know that dog owners cause dog stress, but it’s time to break the cycle!
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Important note: I have to add here that when I say silence, I don’t mean you say zero words to your dog. It is being intentional with words, ensuring we keep what we say, and our energy, in check.
So, why is silence important for dogs?
In the wild, dogs are calmer and quieter. They are not used to hearing shouting. In fact, they only use their sound — like barking and howling — to communicate danger and to protect the pack.
They use noise for the REAAAALLY important stuff.
It’s a different story for our domesticated dogs.
Every single day, they have to deal with different kinds of noise like:
The hustle and bustle of morning preparations when kids and adults start their day.
The busy reunions at night time when everyone has to scramble to prepare for dinner or family time.
Loud sports matches on TV and the hyperactive energy from watching these kind of programs.
And what seems to be regular noise to us is already too much for our dogs. Too much that it makes dogs tune out and not hear what we are saying!
It's crucial to recognize when your dog might be feeling overwhelmed and take steps to create a calmer and more controlled environment.
If you suspect your dog has tuned out, retrace what happened before. Have you been shouting more? Is the noise at home louder this time? Is there increased activity in your home?
Knowing what caused your dog to tune out can help you understand what’s causing your dog to become unresponsive to your commands.
Use clear and consistent commands with a normal tone of voice.
Only use loud or urgent commands when you want immediate action from your dog. This way, your dog will better understand when it's CRUCIAL to respond promptly.
A strong connection with you is what makes dogs understand what you’re asking from them.
If your dog refuses your commands, you can use the strategy I call the Three C’s: the calm, consistent, consequence to an action. An example of this is gently leading your dog to a timeout when a behavior needs to be corrected.
After a few minutes of this serene connection, gently say your dog's name, crouch down, and calmly call them over to you.
Observe how they respond as they approach you. They will exhibit a far calmer energy compared to when you initiate interactions with a more elevated energy level.
Dogs are pack animals, and if you want them to listen to you, you have to show them you’re worthy of being listened to.
How? By showing calm and confident energy… just like a pack leader would!
If you’re running around anxious, or if your dog’s actions trigger a stressed reaction, your dog will start to think
“They aren’t confident and brave enough as a pack leader. When I’m stressed, they get more stressed! They’re worried! They’re scared! Should I trust them? Can they really make me safe? Should I really listen to them?”
Remember this: in your dog’s eyes, leadership is not always synonymous with shouting.
Let’s take the example of a dog who does not stop barking.
Dogs bark when they feel the property they’re protecting is threatened.
As long as the dog isn’t pacified that you’ve seen the threat, you’ve analyzed the threat, and you’ve shown your dog that you got it covered, the barking will not stop.
Calmly approaching a barking episode can help you see what really triggers the barking. Your calmness also tells your dog “I’m the leader and I’m not worried. I got it all covered for you. You’re safe. You can stop barking.”
It’s a connection that only happens when we stop yelling at our dogs !
If you want a calmer dog, the calm energy should start with you.
Choosing to be calm is such a journey for every dog owner. But it’s one worth taking because it comes with amazing benefits such as:
A calmer dog
A healthier relationship built on trust
A loving connection with your dog
A more peaceful home
A dog who isn’t always stressed and agitated
And so much more!
My online program, The Dog Calming Code™️, is for any dog owner who wants to know how to make dogs listen and obey more without using force or shouting.
Following this program lets you communicate with your dogs calmly and clearly. When calmness prevails in your relationship, you can enjoy a dog who connects with you, listens to you, and obeys you without any need for you to shout.
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