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| You Do Not Have To Be The Bigger Person. Your Peace Of Mind Comes First. (E) | 28 Aug 2024 | 00:45:53 | |
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| FOCUS: I Live For This Feeling | 27 Aug 2024 | 00:09:27 | |
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| FOCUS: Breaking Down Different Kinds Of Stress & How Stress Impacts The Brain On A Structural Level & How To Reverse It. | 10 Aug 2024 | 00:15:05 | |
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| 269. Imposter Syndrome and The Psychology of Your 20s with Jemma Sbeg | 14 Dec 2023 | 00:55:22 | |
My beautiful beans I’m joined by the amazing Jemma Sbeg, host of the podcast The Psychology of Your 20s. We’re talking all about quarter-life-crises, imposter syndrome, finding friends, and figuring your shit out. LINKS:
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| 268. A chat with The Weekend Briefing allll about DYFM | 10 Dec 2023 | 00:28:23 | |
A different kind of episode today! We're jumping into an interview I did with Antoinette Lattouff from The Weekend Briefing - where I make a pretty big announcement about something coming in 2024!! LINKS:
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| 267. 8 Steps to Overcome Burnout | 07 Dec 2023 | 00:56:56 | |
What actually IS burnout and how can you get through it/over it. I’m going to take you through my 8 steps to overcome it and how to differentiate stress from burnout. BRAIN FACT: LISTENER QUESTION: A bean gets in touch with what sounds like a very unhealthy relationship, asking for my advice on whether they should stay together or go their separate ways. Given the info they’ve given me on their relationship I have some tough but important advice! LINKS:
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| 266. Rebuilding yourself after divorce and heartbreak with Renee Chagoury | 03 Dec 2023 | 00:54:03 | |
How do you rebuild your identity after a divorce? How do you find yourself after breakup with children? Renee Chagoury is one of my oldest mates, a single mum of two girls, a schoolteacher and the founder of Sole Sisters Run Club. Her journey of rebuilding herself after a breakup instils hope that there is something else out there that you can do from the inside out that will make you a better person. LINKS:
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| 265. How to make the rest of the year the BEST of the year | 30 Nov 2023 | 00:50:59 | |
How do you make the best of the rest of the year? Today’s episode is all about how to feel like you have milked the last few weeks of out of life. There is so much that you can do in this final month of to really make the most of it. Brain Fact: The story of the woman who had a worm in her brain! The 4 ways you can get a parasite living inside you (skip ahead to around 11 minutes if you’re squeamish) Listener Question: I’ve come home from travelling and feel like I hate the life I’ve returned to. Please help! LINKS:
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| 264. Are you getting used to a life you don't want? | 26 Nov 2023 | 00:44:09 | |
This ep is a juicy one. I’m talking about getting comfortable because it’s easy, rather than challenging and pushing yourself toward a life you actually want. We’re talking about the signs you’re slipping into a pattern, living up to someone else’s ideals instead of your own, not knowing what you want, feeling lost and frustrated, and how to start to turn it all around. Listener Question: I’ve struggled to set boundaries my whole life and people often walk all over me. I've done a LOT of work on myself to unlearn these unhelpful beahviours including cutting out my toxic friends who took advantage of me. Recently an old friend has moved to my city but things feel different, and I can feel the blame creeping in from her that I am not doing enough in our friendship. Please help me before it blows up! LINKS:
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| 263. Dealing with the pressure of having it all figured out by 30 | 23 Nov 2023 | 00:49:46 | |
Why does turning 30 come with so much pressure to have your shit together? I’m going to explore WHY we feel like we need to have our life sorted by 30, and how to get out of that comparison loop and just live your life no matter your age or stage. Listener Question: LINKS:
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| 262. How to change your reputation | 19 Nov 2023 | 00:50:26 | |
Let's talk reputation my beans: what it is, how you get one and MOST importantly how you can change your reputation if you've got a baaad one. Brain Fact: The Ceiling Effect in pharmacology . Listener Question: LINKS:
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| 261. Get A Grip with Abbie Chatfield: Trolling, Learning and Being a Better Friend | 16 Nov 2023 | 01:03:11 | |
I'm joined by the QUEEN of podcasting and social media and being hot and clever – Abbie Chatfield. I really wanted to dive into a chat all about being trolled on social media, navigating friendships, and how to talk to someone whose beliefs are SO different to your own. LINKS:
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| 260. How to stop a grudge from ruining your relationships | 12 Nov 2023 | 00:50:04 | |
If you're holding grudges in a relationship, if you're keeping score for when someone let you down, I want you to STOP. Here's how to stop grudges getting in the way of forming long lasting, meaningful relationships. BRAIN FACT: EXTRA READING
LISTENER QUESTION: My mother has taken to undermining me in front of my partner and it’s really upsetting. I am worried about my partner leaving me because of how my mother treats me. DO you have any advice on what I can do? LINKS:
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| FOCUS: How To Move Past The Feeling Of Being Owed Something By Someone. How To Expect Less From Others But Improve The Relationship At The Same Time While Providing More For Yourself. | 09 Aug 2024 | 00:07:24 | |
Listen to Ep 243 “Limit The Amount Of People That Owe You And Liberate Yourself” Pre-order my audiobook ‘How to Chase Change’, on sale September 10th.
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| 259. 6 ways to boost your self-worth | 09 Nov 2023 | 00:50:08 | |
Like Ru Paul said - If you can't love yourself how in the hell you gonna love somebody else can I get an AMEN up in here?! In this episode I’m refreshing my tips for boosting your self-worth to live the bad ass life you deserve. BRAIN FACT: EXTRA READING
LISTENER QUESTION: My wife has asked for an open marriage, but I don’t feel the same way. WE have a child and I really don’t want to let this go. What do I do? LINKS:
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| 258. Turning Desperation into Attraction: How to get what you REALLY want | 05 Nov 2023 | 00:42:57 | |
My beautiful BEANS this episode we're diving into how to turn your desperation into true attraction; we're talking in romantic relationships, your career, your friendships. BRAIN FACT: EXTRA READING
LISTENER QUESTION: I broke up with my bf 2 months ago after I found out he had been reacting to other girls’ stories in Instagram and heart reacting to hot photos of other women. He was shocked. He's so distraught and I’m now feeling regret over the break up. How do I move on because I feel not good enough and wondering what he's up to. LINKS:
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| 257. The neuroscience of ketamine and it's effects on depression | 02 Nov 2023 | 00:40:42 | |
Why is Ketamine being used to treat depression and anhedonia? In this science-y episode I'm going through the neuroscience of Ketamine and the brain, the chemical makeup of the drug, and why it's being used in many trials to treat people with treatment resistant depression and anhedonia. BRAIN FACT: EXTRA READING
LISTENER QUESTION:rr I’m doing my PHD and have realised I don’t think I want a career in the thing I’m studying. After listening to your episode on the Sunk Cost Fallacy (https://bit.ly/46TyOJs ) I’m looking for advice on whether or not I should finish the PHD or not. LINKS:
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| 256. You may be setting the bar too low | 29 Oct 2023 | 00:35:58 | |
Do you know if you are setting the bar too low for yourself, your relationships and your career / abilities? In this episode, I cover what happens when you do that, and why it is important to turn that around so you can start expecting and receiving more out of life. Brain Fact: Explaining Urbach-Wiethe disease. of people who don't experience the physiological aspects of the fear response.
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| 255. 10 Years of Friendship with Steph Claire Smith and Laura Henshaw | 22 Oct 2023 | 00:42:00 | |
Adult friendships can be harrrrrd – and being in business with a mate is even harder. In this episode I’m joined by two friends who seem to have it figured out! Steph Claire Smith and Laura Henshaw, founders of KIC – the wellbeing and lifestyle community that’s an app and a podcast (kinda like us!). They talk all about the friendship, their relationships with their bodies, and how they got to where they are today. PLUS Steph and Laura are offering my beans 1 month FREE on the KIC app using the code DYFM. Sign up at https://kicapp.com/ select the monthly subscription and enter DYFM to redeem. The Code will only work via the website, then once you have an account, download the app and Log in to enjoy! LINKS
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| Mini Ep: A note from Alexis | 19 Oct 2023 | 00:02:28 | |
I’m on holidays beans! For some listening to fill your ears check out some of your favourite episodes below;
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| 253. Missed Opportunities: Becoming OK with the shots you didn't take | 15 Oct 2023 | 00:54:14 | |
You can spend your whole life thinking about a bad decision that you mad . or the opportunity you didn’t take, or mistakes you made. In fact most people do! It can be crippling, so I want to take you through the ways you can live a life without regret, and reclaim contentment in your decisions. PET LOVE: Watch 'Lupin' on Netflix https://bit.ly/lupin-trailer . SBS Podcasts ‘Learn a Language’ https://bit.ly/sbspodcasts-language . BRAIN FACT: Some of the ways you can inherit a genetic trait from your parents, basically an explainer on Dominant Vs Recessive genes (and how they impact your genetic makeup). LISTENER QUESTION: LINKS:
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| 252. Self Awareness: You can't change what you won't acknowledge | 12 Oct 2023 | 00:49:13 | |
Why do we struggle to be aware of ourselves? It’s hard to turn the lense on yourself, particularly during the bad shit. I’m going to take you through how to practice self awareness and level up your life (and how to stop being the kind of person to throw blame instead of apologise). Brain Fact: Exploring Corpus Callosum https://bit.ly/corpus-callosum . LINKS
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| 251. Your Break-Up Questions Answered | 08 Oct 2023 | 00:37:19 | |
This week I'm diving DEEP into your questions beans – and there's a breakup theme coming through! These are the topics/listener questions I’m covering;
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| 250. The science of overthinking and how to overcome it | 05 Oct 2023 | 00:44:31 | |
Overthinking? Me? Never (lol absolutely yes). I’m going to take you through what’s happening in your brain when you’re overthinking. Plus I’ll give you some steps for how to overcome it and get out of that overthinking spiral. Listener Question: I’ve repeatedly been excluded from group gatherings of my boyfriend’s friends. Is this normal? And how do I figure out if I’m being left out on purpose or if it’s just a misunderstanding. LINKS
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| FOCUS: Simple Steps in Learning to Release Control in Order to Manage Your Burnout. | 08 Aug 2024 | 00:09:55 | |
Listen to Ep 267 “8 Steps to Overcome Burnout” Pre-order my audiobook ‘How to Chase Change’, on sale September 10th.
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| 249. Understanding sunk cost fallacy & why it is hurting your decision making | 01 Oct 2023 | 00:41:13 | |
The phrase Sunk Cost Fallacy is going to help you stop wasting your time on shit that doesn’t work. In this episode I’m explaining this concept where you keep putting money and time and effort into something that isn’t working, but you don’t want to quite cause of all the effort you’ve already put in. Brain Fact: Cyclooxegenase and reducing pain and inflamation in the body Listener Question: I have been cheating on my wife for 7 years, and the woman I was cheating with recently broke up with me. How can I get over that heartbreak while not telling my wife about the affair because I don’t want her to leave me. LINKS
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| 248. How to approach closure differently and really move on | 28 Sep 2023 | 00:40:47 | |
Hello my beautiful beans! In this episode I’m gunna talk you through how to get closure in your life; primarily about romantic relationships but you could also apply a lot of this to friendships or even losing a job or opportunity. Brain Fact: Borderline Personality Disorder Listener Question: My ex has said they want to keep the door open on our relationship now that we've broken up. What should I do? LINKS
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| 247. Narcissistic parents and in-laws: How to spot them and deal with them | 24 Sep 2023 | 00:50:56 | |
What makes someone a narcissist? What's the difference between a covert and overt narcissist? and how, oh HOW, do you handle a relationship with a narcissist - particularly narcissistic parents and in-laws; This is what I'm diving into in this episode. Then I get into a listener question about whether or not to move cities to be with a partner when being mid-way through tertiary study. Specifically how to tell if you actually want to move for yourself and not just because your partner is somewhere you aren't. LINKS
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| 246. Dealing with pathological & compulsive liars | 21 Sep 2023 | 00:42:45 | |
Lying is normal, but lying pathologically is NOT. I got a listener question specifically around dealing with a liar so I'll jump off with that and then get into the episode of today. Brain fact: Photobleaching your rods (what happens when you suddenly go into a bright light)
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| 245. Histrionic personality disorder, weird MIL vibes, co-dependent relationship advice, moving on from a cheater: Answering Your Questions | 17 Sep 2023 | 00:45:45 | |
In the episode of today I'm explaining HPD or Histrionic Personality Disorder. And I answer 5 of your questions covering a difficult mother in law relationship, a sister who betrayed trust, assessing a relationship as co-dependent and how to readjust, struggling to move on from an ex-fiance who cheated - when you have a kid together, and finally is it worth telling your friend you're crushing on them when they have a partner. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| 244. How to keep a promise to yourself | 14 Sep 2023 | 00:43:07 | |
Today's episode is all about how to make a commitment to yourself and stick to it, and why you're setting yourself up to fail (and it's not necessarily your fault). Brain Fact: Troxler's Fading https://bit.ly/troxlersfading-dyfm . See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| 243. Limit the amount of people that owe you and liberate yourself | 07 Sep 2023 | 00:49:08 | |
On this episode I talk about why you should limit the amount of people that owe you. Why feeling that someone owes you something can be very detrimental for your happiness, self love and productivity and what you can do to stop feeling this way TODAY. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| 242. The illusion of endless options on dating apps and why it can be so harmful | 03 Sep 2023 | 00:56:09 | |
Let's talk about dating apps. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| 241. Leaving someone is not giving up on them | 31 Aug 2023 | 00:58:08 | |
On this ep I go over the difference between problems that are 'joint' and 'individual' in a relationship. How to let go of the guilt of leaving a relationship and how to feel more empowered to make the right decision around leaving or staying in a relationship. Brain Fact : Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| 240. Why discipline is your ticket to the life you want | 24 Aug 2023 | 00:54:27 | |
Okay time to talk about all things discipline! Why you need it, why it will make your life so much better and more fulfilling and why it will increase your self love and improve your relationship with yourself exponentially! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| 353. HEADNOISE: Becoming More Spontaneous, Letting Go Of Animosity & How To Not Need To Control Everything. | 07 Aug 2024 | 00:35:30 | |
Send me a Voicemail for future Headnoise episodes Pre-order my audiobook ‘How to Chase Change’, on sale September 10th https://bit.ly/44xwszR .
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| 239. Green flags to look for in your day | 20 Aug 2023 | 00:46:37 | |
This episode goes over a bunch of green flags to lean into to improve your overall happiness, productivity, relationships and peace of mind. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| 238. You do not have to be the bigger person. Your peace of mind comes first | 17 Aug 2023 | 00:45:57 | |
On today's ep I go over what it means to be the bigger person, when it is good and when it is not helpful to your own peace of mind or mental health. Sometimes being the bigger person may mean keeping the wrong people in your life just to 'save face' and this could mean your boundaries keep getting crossed and you struggle to see growth in your healing journey. So let's go over when it is okay to NOT be the bigger person and how to go about it. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| 237. How to overcome retroactive jealousy and overthinking in a relationship (E) | 30 Jul 2023 | 00:44:44 | |
On this episode I cover how to deal with feelings of retroactive jealousy and overthinking in a relationship, and how overcoming these feelings will improve the quality of your relationship not only with your partner but with yourself. When you master this, you will feel more confident within yourself and happier in your skin. (Encore episode) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| 236. Determine your own value and never look for it in other places again | 27 Jul 2023 | 00:47:45 | |
On this episode I break down the difference between perceived value and actual value. How to stop letting other people determine your value and how to use the idea of value exchange and the principal of effort + sacrifice to turn everything around and start determining your own value.
Brain Fact : Zahavian signal
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| 235. Chase change, don’t let change chase you | 23 Jul 2023 | 00:55:15 | |
On today’s episode I talk about my favorite statement and one I try and live by all the time. How to become someone who is adaptable and resilient to change and loss and how to gain so much more along the way. I will talk about how to become someone who takes control of the changes in their life, instead of leading a life where you are only reactive to the things that happen to you and end up feeling powerless to external situations.
Brain Fact: The link between oversleeping and health problems
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| 234. The difference between drive and self-control and how to have both | 20 Jul 2023 | 00:45:03 | |
On today’s episode I break down what drive is compared to self control, how to know where your strengths are and where you weaknesses are and then I give you tools to help create a balance between the two.
Brain Fact: Changing your surroundings to improve your focus
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| 233. Boundaries vs Controlling behaviour AND how to set healthy boundaries to improve your self love | 16 Jul 2023 | 00:49:40 | |
There is so much to talk about on today's episode!
I have two main categories.
Brain Fact: Reverse Psychology
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| 232. Feeling like you have plateaued? Try this to level up! | 13 Jul 2023 | 00:46:31 | |
Hello! Today's episode is all about how to change things up and feel back on track and kicking goals when you are feeling a bit flat or like everything has plateaued in your life and doesn't excite you like it used to. I give you some tips and ways to approach things differently.
Brain Fact : Noise induced hearing loss
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| 231. Dealing with anxious and stressful thoughts in 5 steps | 09 Jul 2023 | 00:46:10 | |
On this episode I take you through a five step process to help you get your anxious or spiralling thoughts under control, so your emotions don't end up controlling you and your day.
Brain Fact : Carbon monoxide poisoning
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| 230. How to get over the fear of your partner cheating on you or falling for someone else | 06 Jul 2023 | 00:45:30 | |
This episode dives deep into dealing with fearful emotions around if your partner is ever going to fall for someone else, or cheat on you or flirt with someone else. I will go into how to process these thoughts, and what to think about when this happens to make it feel less threatening. And then of course I talk about your own relationship with yourself and how that impacts these feelings of fear.
Brain Fact : Ketogenic diet as a treatment for Epilepsy
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| FOCUS: Stop Ruminating, Letting Go Of The Need To Have An Answer For Everything & Being At Peace. | 06 Aug 2024 | 00:06:52 | |
Listen to Ep 308 “How “To Stop Replaying Scenarios In Your Head & Ruminating Thoughts” Pre-order my audiobook ‘How to Chase Change’, on sale September 10th https://bit.ly/44xwszR .
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| 229. Why self esteem and purpose are linked and 4 ways to maximize it | 02 Jul 2023 | 00:55:44 | |
On this episode I go over 4 ways to understand how tapping into your purpose and understanding what that is can completely transform your self esteem and significantly improve your relationship with yourself.
Brain Fact : The Reflex Arc
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| 228. Life advice to get you through the week | 29 Jun 2023 | 00:53:11 | |
On this episode I dive into all kinds of scenarios and give you advice from toxic parents, unbearable heartbreak, how to not be so anxiously avoidant when in the dating scene and MORE. Thank you for all the listener questions sent in!
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| 227. 5 ways to feel more empowered DAILY | 27 Jun 2023 | 00:40:05 | |
Today I talk all about self empowerment and how to take control of situations NOW to feel like you have more of a say in your future.
I give 5 simple things to do each day to start to feel more empowered.
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