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Radical Acceptance and My Daughter's Addiction20 Nov 202500:35:31

In this episode, I talk about the moment I finally let go of trying to control my daughter's addiction and what radical acceptance looked like in real life. I share how fear was running my parenting, how close I came to losing myself completely, and how surrendering shifted our entire relationship.

I also share a story from yesterday that still feels unreal: taking my daughter — almost two years in recovery — and her children to the Magic Kingdom. Watching her run around with her son, sober and present, reminded me why letting go mattered more than forcing my plans onto her.

If you are drowning right now, scared of losing your child, or feel like you can't survive another day of chaos, this episode is for you.

What we talk about:
  • Parenting from fear vs clarity

  • The breaking point that forced me to surrender

  • What radical acceptance actually looks like

  • Why bringing up rehab every day made things worse

  • How I stopped reacting and started listening

  • Letting go of the fantasy timeline of recovery

  • Why self-abandonment is so common in parents

  • How I rebuilt trust with my daughter

  • A real exercise you can do tonight to start shifting your own patterns

Resources mentioned:

My book: Do What You Can Live With
Amazon link: https://a.co/d/1pnyKll

Free resources for families: brandimac.com

Share your story or ask a question:
Email: brandi@brandimac.com

YouTube video of this episode:
Here

If this episode helped you:

Please leave a rating or review. It helps other families find this support when they're searching in the darkest moments.

Empowering Change Through Advocacy09 Nov 202500:44:21

Keywords

recovery, addiction, advocacy, community, personal growth, storytelling, resilience, Kensington, self-care, support


Summary

In this episode, Brandi Mac shares personal updates about her family, including her daughter's recovery journey and her own struggles with work-life balance. She discusses her advocacy efforts, including a recent event called Rise for Recovery, where she engaged with other advocates and learned about impactful stories of resilience. Brandi reflects on her experiences in Kensington, a community facing significant challenges due to addiction, and emphasizes the importance of community support and outreach. She concludes with a call to action for listeners to contribute to their communities and support those in need.


Takeaways

Brandi's daughter is nearing two years in recovery.
She is focusing more on advocacy and less on hospital work.
The Rise for Recovery event was a transformative experience.
Storytelling is a powerful tool in advocacy.
Kensington is a community deeply affected by addiction.
Brandi emphasizes the importance of self-care.
Community outreach is crucial in addressing addiction.
Brandi's book aims to support families dealing with addiction.
It's okay to find joy amidst pain and struggle.
Everyone can contribute to their community in meaningful ways.

Chapters

00:00 Welcome Back and Personal Updates
05:27 Advocacy and Community Engagement
11:32 Storytelling and Collaboration in Advocacy
16:36 Impactful Stories from the Summit
21:14 Kensington Experience and Observations
26:03 Navigating Advocacy and Community Challenges
31:41 Final Thoughts and Call to Action

 

Brandi's Book "Do What You Can Live With: A Survival Guide for Families Navigating Addiction, Grief and Impossible Choices" HERE

Please send emails that I can share. Send anything, but I really want to know whats the craziest thing you have done as loved one through their addiction? 

Email: brandi@brandimac.com

Meeting them Where They Are: Holidays, treatment and the future27 Nov 202300:14:54

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This episode I talk about what it was like having our daughter in active drug use home for Thanksgiving for the first time in 5 years. The day even included family pictures. Those who may be new here my daughter is 23 and struggles substance use disorder. She is an IV drug user and we have been raising our grandson since his first birthday. I also talk about the potential for opening a treatment facility. 

 

Thank you for listening and please download and leave a review so we can get this episode out to more people. 

 

 

Once upon a time there was an interventionist...14 Jul 202300:28:43

Many have seen the drama on social media when it comes to Sam and I. He not only made a 1 sided podcast but also went live last night sharing a 1 sided view. Hopefully this will answer some of the questions many of you have had. 

 

If you want to learn more about the story there is a playlist called "Sam Davis and Marc" on my Tiktok profile when this all started. 

Brandi Mac Tiktok TikTok Link

 

Another life gone to soon...RIP Angel08 Jun 202300:12:19

This week another mom who has shared her daughters struggles with addiction has experienced the call so many of us fear. Her 20 year old daughter lost her battle to addiction. Please pray for Melissa and the rest of her family grieving the loss of Angel. 

Melissa's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the.real.melissa

Brandi Mac's TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@the_original_brandi_mac

Go fund me Go fund me for funeral expenses

Season1, Episode 5- Dr. Stacy murphy17 May 202301:54:34

This episode features an interview with Dr. Stacy Murphy who owns Navigating Addiction which provides family education for treatment centers. Stacy also know what its like love a child with substance use disorder. Her daughter has 11 years of sobriety and understands the struggles that many of us go through. 

If you love the podcast please leave a review and follow!

Dr. Stacy Murphy Navigating Addiction

Dr. Stacy Murphy TikTok

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Season 1, Episode 4- Body Brokering in Addiction Treatment27 Apr 202300:30:28

This episode is going to discuss what a bodybroker is, kickbacks, how the affordable care act contributed to many rehab facilities becoming the new "pill mill" following the oxycontin epidemic.  I am sure there are some amazing rehabs but sadly it's impossible to determine which ones those are.

If you have been impacted by the "Florida Shuffle" or had an experience with a "body broker" I would love to hear your story!!!

Article: https://www.justice.gov/usao-sdfl/pr/owner-sentenced-more-27-years-prison-multi-million-dollar-health-care-fraud-and-money

PBS: https://www.pbs.org/video/sci-body-brokering-rampant-in-addiction-rehab-industry-1665520234/

Body Brokers Movie: Body Brokers Movie

 

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Email the podcast @ collateraldamagesucks@gmail.com

Sponsor: The Apathetic Journey- All Things Addiction for families

 

 

S1, Episode 3- How we got our grandson?30 Mar 202300:32:35

How we got our grandson

 

AA/NA online meetings: https://aa-intergroup.org/meetings/

Smart Recovery: https://meetings.smartrecovery.org/meetings/

Brandi Mac TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_original_brandi_mac

 

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Season 1, episode 2- Rambling with Brandi Mac part 119 Mar 202300:28:18

This is "Rambling with Brandi Mac." I am going to warn you now...there is background noise from the car, but my portable mic should arrive soon decreasing the background noise for future episodes.

 This episode includes some bread crumbs on the TikTok creator being interviewed for our first interview series. I talk about being naive in the beginning of this journey #motherofanaddict, when some in the harm reduction tried to cancel me. Also end the show with some honest and truthful advice. 

Thank you to each of you who have followed my podcast, we are in the top 100 on Apple for mental health in the US. 

 

Alanon link: Al-anon meetings

What I am currently reading :How to Change your mind by Michael Pollan

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_original_brandi_mac

If you are interested in being on the show please email the show at:

collateraldamagesucks@gmail.com

I am looking for those in recovery, loved ones, those in active use, therapists, rehab owners and any other area that involves addiction and recovery. 

Episode 1- Intro and Welcome17 Mar 202300:12:27

Have you ever loved someone with substance use disorder and felt alone? Are you currently using or in recovery and feel like your family lacks understanding? Yea well welcome to my f$cking life! I'm Brandi Mac and my daughter battles addiction and her family? Well we are collateral damage and frankly it sucks. This podcast will cover all aspects of addiction with interviews of those in recovery, active use and family members. We will explore the good and bad of the treatment industry, harm reduction, medicated assisted treatment (MAT) and boundaries.

Follow me on TikTok: Brandi Mac's TikTok

Instagram: Brandi Mac's Instagram

Rebuilding Lives: The Journey of Recovery03 Sep 202500:26:18

In this episode, Brandi Mac discusses the complexities of addiction and recovery, emphasizing the broken treatment system, the importance of sober homes, and the need for medicated assisted treatment. She shares personal experiences related to her daughter's recovery from addiction and highlights the significance of hope, compassion, and community support in the recovery process. Brandi advocates for better treatment options and the necessity of addressing housing and employment challenges faced by those in recovery.

Takeaways

  • The treatment system for addiction is fundamentally flawed.
  • Sober homes often lack proper regulation and oversight.
  • Medicated assisted treatment is crucial for recovery success.
  • Housing stability is essential for individuals in recovery.
  • Compassion and empathy are vital in supporting those struggling with addiction.
  • There is a significant divide between harm reduction and abstinence-based models.
  • Hope is a critical component of recovery.
  • Community support programs are necessary for successful reintegration.
  • Families need to be educated on alternative recovery methods.
  • Ending conversations with love can provide peace in difficult situations.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Addiction and Recovery
05:20 The Role of Sober Homes in Recovery
11:12 Medicated Assisted Treatment and Its Importance
17:00 The Need for Employment and Housing Support
22:32 Hope and Compassion in Recovery
28:35 Conclusion and Call to Action

Here is the book link for Rehab: An American Scandal

Brandi Mac's book is available Here

Resources: brandimac.com

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When Boundaries Feel Impossible: What Families Deserve to Hear22 Aug 202500:45:38

Summary

In this episode, Brandi Mac discusses the complexities of loving someone struggling with addiction, focusing on the importance of setting and adjusting boundaries. She shares personal experiences and insights on how to navigate toxic relationships, the evolution of boundaries over time, and the significance of self-reflection and communication. Brandi emphasizes that while tough love is often advocated, it is not the only approach to support a loved one in recovery. The conversation highlights the need for protective boundaries, the role of love in setting limits, and practical ways to show care without compromising one's own well-being.

Takeaways

  • Loving someone with addiction is a painful journey.
  • Boundaries are essential for protecting mental health.
  • It's okay to adjust boundaries as situations change.
  • Tough love can sometimes do more harm than good.
  • Self-reflection is crucial in navigating relationships.
  • You can show love without enabling harmful behaviors.
  • Communicating boundaries clearly is vital.
  • Consequences for violating boundaries must be established.
  • Creating a safe space is a priority for families.
  • Everyone deserves compassion, even those struggling with addiction.

 

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Boundaries in Family Dynamics
02:19 Understanding Boundaries in Addiction
05:06 Types of Boundaries: Controlling vs. Protective
07:50 The Pain of Setting Boundaries
10:28 Navigating Toxic Relationships
13:04 Consequences of Violating Boundaries
15:14 Creating Healthy Boundaries
17:38 The Role of Love in Setting Boundaries
20:31 Communicating Boundaries Effectively
23:05 Supporting Loved Ones in Addiction
25:19 The Impact of Addiction on Family Dynamics
28:02 Finding Peace Through Boundaries
30:20 Conclusion and Future Directions

Purchase Book Here: Do What You Can Live: A Survival Guide for Families Navigating Addiction, Grief and Impossible Choices

Resources: Here

When I Let Go of "Tough Love"...I Found Peace07 Aug 202500:32:22

In this raw and personal episode, Brandi Mac shares what happened when she stopped following the "tough love" narrative and started doing what she could actually live with. From the heartbreak of watching her daughter struggle with addiction to the moment she shaved her head as an act of surrender, Brandi reflects on how peace came not from control, but from radical acceptance.

This episode is for every parent, partner, or family member who's ever been told to let go with love... and then been left drowning in grief and guilt.

She also introduces her new book, Doing What You Can Live With: A Survival Guide for Families Navigating Addiction, Grief, and Impossible Choices. A no-shame, deeply compassionate resource for families who need something real, not rehearsed.

If you've ever loved someone in addiction and didn't know what to do… this one's for you.

 

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👉 *Doing What You Can Live With: A Survival Guide for Families Navigating Addiction*
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FKNF7G2N

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15 Months Sober: A Raw Mother-Daughter Conversation About Recovery09 Mar 202500:56:52
Summary: In this episode, Brandi Mac discusses her daughter Brooke's journey to sobriety, reflecting on the challenges of addiction, the impact on family relationships, and the importance of appropriate treatment. They explore the nuances of drug use, the effectiveness of medicated assisted treatment, and the experiences within treatment facilities. The conversation emphasizes personal growth, healing, and the complexities of recovery. Takeaways
  • Brooke is now 15 months sober, showcasing significant growth since her last podcast appearance.
  • The pain of addiction affects both the individual and their loved ones.
  • Fentanyl addiction can lead to severe physical and mental health issues.
  • Medicated assisted treatment, like Suboxone, can be effective if dosed appropriately.
  • Treatment facilities can vary greatly in their approach and effectiveness.
  • Family dynamics are deeply impacted by addiction and recovery processes.
  • Healing is possible, but it requires effort and alignment between individuals.
  • The importance of understanding the dangers of drug use, especially with substances like fentanyl.
  • Communication and support from family are crucial during recovery.
  • Personal growth often comes from facing and overcoming past challenges.
 

 

55:52 Supporting Loved Ones Struggling with Addiction

Prescribed Chaos Substack: https://ogbrandimac.substack.com

Family Resources and More: https://www.brandimac.com

Book Brandi Mac to Speak: https://www.brandimac.com/contact-brandi

 

Breaking Stigma: The Importance of Harm Reduction with Taylor Nichols, MD02 Aug 202401:15:40
Summary: In this conversation, Dr. Taylor Nichols discusses his journey from emergency medicine to addiction medicine, emphasizing the importance of harm reduction and addressing stigma in healthcare. He shares insights on pain management, medication-assisted treatment options like Sublocade and Brixadi, and the significance of patient autonomy. The discussion also touches on the challenges families face when dealing with substance use disorder and the need for supportive resources. Takeaways
  • Dr. Nichols transitioned from ER to addiction medicine to address systemic issues in healthcare.
  • Harm reduction is essential in treating individuals with substance use disorders.
  • Stigma against drug users negatively impacts pain management and treatment options.
  • Medication-assisted treatment (MAT) is a valid and effective approach for opioid use disorder.
  • Sublicade and Brixadi are innovative treatments that offer alternatives to traditional MAT.
  • Patient autonomy should be respected in treatment decisions.
  • Families need support and resources to navigate substance use disorders.
  • Understanding the pharmacology of buprenorphine is crucial for effective treatment.
  • Healthcare providers must be educated on the complexities of pain management in patients with substance use disorders.
  • Open discussions about tapering off MAT should be encouraged.

Dr. Nichols TikTok: Click Here

Dr. Nichols Website: Click Here

Recovery Reform Podcast by Dr. Nichols and McCauley Sexton: Click Here

Recovery Reform YouTube Channel: Click Here

Article: Naloxone to Buprenorphine

 

The impact of Sobriety On Family Dynamics27 Jul 202400:19:52

Summary

Brandi Mac discusses her journey as a mother of a child with substance use disorder and her own healing process. She talks about the challenges of navigating her daughter's recovery and the impact it has had on their relationship. Brandi also shares her experience with perimenopause and the importance of addressing hormonal imbalances. She emphasizes the need for families to take ownership of their role in addiction and the importance of therapy and self-care.

Takeaways

  • Loving someone with substance use disorder is incredibly challenging and requires ongoing support and understanding.
  • Healing and rebuilding trust in the family after addiction takes time and effort from all members.
  • Addressing hormonal imbalances, such as those experienced during perimenopause, can have a significant impact on mental health and overall well-being.
  • Families need to take ownership of their role in addiction and work on their own healing and growth.
  • Therapy and self-care are essential for both individuals struggling with addiction and their loved ones.

 

Resources are available on my website : Resources Here

TikTok: The_original_brandi_mac

Email: Collateraldamagesucks@gmail.com

Happy New Year! Meet Brooke Part 201 Jan 202400:34:32

Happy New Year everyone! Brooke and I figured we would start 2024 off with part 2 of her interview. This episode goes more into what happened in Maryland especially concerning her medicated assisted treatment and much more. All of the questions came from followers on social media. The next episode we will be discussing sex trafficking. 

Email us @ collateraldamagesucks@gmail.com

Resources and website https://www.brandimac.com/

 

Meet My Daughter Brooke...Interview Part 123 Dec 202301:00:06

This podcast is raw and real. My daughter came home one week ago to detox and together we made the decision to restart her medicated assisted treatment. This will likely be several parts and a great way to end 2023. Brooke and I want to wish each of you and your family's a very Happy Holiday. 

Thank you for sticking around. 

 

https://www.brandimac.com/

 

 

 

Navigating Long-term Recovery: A Mom's Journey26 Apr 202600:32:53

 Summary

In this episode, Brandi Mac discusses the complexities of long-term recovery from addiction, focusing on the challenges faced by families and loved ones. She shares her personal experiences and insights on the lack of resources, the impact of societal expectations, and the importance of support systems. Brandi emphasizes the need for comprehensive aftercare programs and critiques current rehabilitation practices, advocating for harm reduction as a viable approach to addiction treatment. The conversation highlights the struggles of young adults in recovery and the systemic issues that hinder progress, ultimately calling for a more compassionate and informed approach to addiction and recovery.

 Takeaways

Long-term recovery is challenging and often lacks support.
Families need to navigate their own feelings while supporting loved ones.
'Shit Life Syndrome' can hinder recovery progress.
Barriers such as lack of resources and societal expectations impact recovery.
Family dynamics play a crucial role in the recovery process.
Comprehensive aftercare programs are essential for successful recovery.
Young adults face unique challenges in the current economy.
Support systems are vital for maintaining recovery.
Current rehabilitation practices often fail to address real-life challenges.
Harm reduction strategies can save lives and promote recovery.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Long-Term Recovery Challenges
06:08 Understanding 'Shit Life Syndrome' and Its Impact
11:58 The Role of Family Dynamics in Recovery
18:03 The Struggles of Young Adults in Recovery
24:00 Critique of Current Rehabilitation Practices
29:58 Government Policies and Their Impact on Recovery
35:53 Conclusion and Call to Action

Sh*t Life Syndrome Video by HealthyGamerGG on YT: Here

Email: brandi@brandimac.com

Purchase "Do What You Can Live: A Survival Guide for Families Navigating Addiction, Grief and Impossible Choices" on Amazon 

Social Media: the_original_brandi_mac

Website: Brandimac.com

 

 

Why I Don't Want a Seat at the Recovery Table25 Apr 202600:26:41

In this episode of the Do What You Can Live With podcast, Brandi Mac shares her personal health struggles, the importance of real human connections, and her experiences in the recovery space. She discusses the ethical responsibilities of advocates, the challenges within the treatment industry, and her reluctance to charge families for help. Brandi emphasizes the need for genuine support and the complexities of navigating the advocacy landscape while remaining true to oneself.

 Takeaways

  • Brandi has been dealing with health issues
  • Burnout is a significant concern for those in advocacy work.
  • Real human connections are vital for mental health and support.
  • Brandi emphasizes the importance of protecting her mental health.
  • She has been cautious about connecting deeply with others in the recovery space.
  • The treatment industry often prioritizes profit over patient care. 
  • Brandi is jaded about the rehab industry due to personal experiences.
  • She believes in the ethical responsibility of advocates to prioritize families.
  • Brandi struggles with the idea of charging families for help.
  • She aims to create a supportive community for those affected by addiction.

Chapters

00:00 Brandi's Health Journey and Burnout
05:54 Navigating the Recovery Space
12:01 The Ethical Responsibility in Advocacy
17:52 Challenges in the Treatment Industry
30:04 The Dilemma of Charging for Help
38:54 Final Thoughts and Moving Forward

Website: brandimac.com

Email:brandi@brandimac.com

Do What You Can Live With Book is available on Amazon

 

 

The Drug Supply Is Changing: Nitazines, Medetomidine, Meth & Why "Rock Bottom" Is Deadly20 Feb 202600:42:41

Overdoses are declining in the United States.

That is worth celebrating.

But what most families do not realize is this: the drug supply is changing fast. And in many ways, it is becoming more unpredictable and more dangerous.

In this episode of Do What You Can Live With, Brandi Mac breaks down what is happening behind the headlines:

• Why fentanyl purity is dropping and what that actually means
• The rise of medetomidine and why Narcan does not reverse it
• Nitazines, synthetic opioids that are far more potent than fentanyl
• The methamphetamine surge and what makes today's supply different
• Why prohibition history matters
• What "safe supply" really means and why it is being debated
• Why rock bottom in 2026 can mean death
• How families can stay connected without shame

Drawing from her experience as a critical care nurse practitioner and as a mother of a daughter in recovery, Brandi explains why old advice like "they have to hit bottom" is increasingly dangerous in today's unregulated drug market.

This is not about politics.

This is about survival.

If you love someone in active addiction, this episode will help you understand:

  1. Why the drug your loved one used last week may not be the same this week

  2. Why Narcan still matters, even with tranquilizers in the supply

  3. Why connection is not enabling

  4. Why you have to decide what you can live with

Addiction is not disappearing.

The supply will keep shifting.

The question is how you will show up.

If this episode resonates, please follow, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs it. Families deserve information without shame.

Follow Brandi on social media: the_original_brandi_mac

Email:  brandi@brandimac.com

Website: http://www.brandimac.com

Purchase Brandi's book "Do What You Can Live With: A Survival Guide for Families Navigating Addiction, Grief and Impossible Choices" on Amazon

Alcohol Is a Drug: How Big Alcohol Shaped Addiction Language, Policy, and Shame-Bonus Episode10 Feb 202600:23:41

Alcohol is the most normalized drug in America and one of the deadliest.

In this episode of the Do What You Can Live With Podcast, critical care nurse practitioner and author Brandi Mac exposes how the trillion-dollar alcohol industry shaped the language we use around addiction, influenced federal policy, and helped keep alcohol socially acceptable while millions of families quietly suffer.

Alcohol kills an average of 178,000 Americans every year, more than all drug overdoses combined. Yet it remains legal, advertised, and culturally protected. That did not happen by accident.

In this episode, Brandi breaks down how corporate lobbying influenced federal agencies like the Center for Substance Abuse Prevention, why alcohol was intentionally separated from the word "drug," and how terms like substance abuse were shaped by profit, not families, clinicians, or people in recovery.

Backed by peer-reviewed research and decades of frontline ICU experience, this episode connects the dots between policy, stigma, and the invisible grief of loving someone with alcohol use disorder.

In this episode, we cover:
  • Why alcohol is classified as a Group 1 carcinogen by the World Health Organization

  • How alcohol kills more people than fentanyl, heroin, meth, and cocaine combined

  • The role of corporate lobbying in changing federal addiction language

  • Why alcohol harm receives a fraction of the funding compared to other diseases

  • How the separation of "alcohol and drugs" shaped stigma and shame

  • Why families affected by alcoholism are often dismissed and minimized

  • What boundaries, love, and clarity look like when the system fails you

Brandi also explores how lobbying dollars dwarfed public health funding, how Big alcohol companies profit off the sickest drinkers, and why harm reduction has worked for drug overdoses but remains taboo when applied to alcohol.

This episode is for parents, partners, siblings, clinicians, and anyone who has been told "it's just alcohol" while watching someone they love disappear.

Because your pain was not imagined.
Your crisis was not invisible by accident.
And you are not wrong for taking it seriously.

📘 Learn more at brandimac.com
📖 Author of Do What You Can Live With

 

Mom Loses Daughter to Cocaine Overdose, Not Fentanyl | Melissa Ledesma09 Feb 202601:06:30

What does "rock bottom" really mean when you love a child in active addiction?

In this episode of the Do What You Can Live With podcast, I sit down with Melissa Ledesma, a mother who lost her daughter, Angel, to a cocaine overdose in 2023. Not fentanyl. Not opioids. Cocaine.

Melissa shares the truth about grief that lingers years later, the shock of reading an autopsy report that did not match public assumptions, and what it actually looks like to love a child through addiction without abandoning them to shame or isolation.

We talk about stimulant overdoses, harm reduction, sibling dynamics, trauma, and the painful myth that families must step away to force change. This is an honest conversation for parents, caregivers, and anyone carrying grief that does not move on a timeline.

Content note: This episode discusses overdose, child loss, and grief.

In this episode:

  • What "rock bottom" really looks like for families

  • Cocaine and stimulant overdoses without opioids

  • Why Narcan does not reverse stimulant overdoses

  • Harm reduction, MAT, and what Melissa wishes she knew sooner

  • Loving your child without losing yourself

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If this episode resonated, consider subscribing and leaving a review. It helps other families find conversations like this when they need them most.

Loving Through Addiction Without Losing Yourself | Steffy Bailey on Truth, Boundaries, and Breaking Generational Cycles08 Jan 202601:32:05

Brandi Mac sits down with fellow mom and truth-teller Steffy Bailey to talk about what it really means to love an adult child through addiction without abandoning yourself in the process.

Steffy shares her decade-long journey of finding her voice, taking responsibility for her emotional and mental health, and learning how to tell the truth even when it costs comfort. Her son, is approaching six months in recovery, and this episode goes far beyond surface-level hope.

Together, Brandi and Steffy unpack the realities families face when addiction enters the home: fractured marriages, strained relationships with other children, protecting grandchildren, and the exhausting pressure of carrying it all alone. They speak openly about boundaries, forgiveness, accountability, and why there is no single "right way" to love someone in recovery.

What You'll Hear in This Episode

  • What it means to speak your truth as a parent of a child with addiction

  • The emotional cost of carrying family pain alone in marriage and motherhood

  • How addiction impacts children and grandchildren in ways we rarely talk about

  • Why boundaries are not abandonment, but protection and love

  • The role of forgiveness, responsibility, and accountability in healing

  • Breaking generational cycles instead of repeating them

  • Ethical storytelling and sharing lived experience on social media

  • Why there are many valid paths to recovery and family healing

  • Holding hope without minimizing harm

About the Guest

Steffy Bailey is a mother, and creator who has spent years speaking openly about what it's like to love a child with substance use disorder. Known for her raw honesty and refusal to sugarcoat hard truths. Her son, Nehemiah, is currently approaching six months in recovery.

You can find Steffi on TikTok at Steffi's TikTok. Her handle is steffy_u_r_not_alone

About the Host

Brandi Mac is a critical care nurse practitioner, author, and mother of a daughter in recovery. She is the creator of Do What You Can Live With, a trauma-informed, harm-reduction-aligned framework for families navigating addiction, grief, and impossible choices. 

Resource Mentioned

Do What You Can Live With: A Survival Guide for Families Navigating Addiction, Grief, and Impossible Choices by Brandi Mac
Available on Amazon. Link Here

Brandi Mac Website

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