In this deeply emotional and brutally honest episode, Tatiana sits down with married couple Jacky & Eleanor to explore their five-year battle to start a family: three miscarriages, three rounds of IVF, DNA fragmentation, surgery, over £50k spent, and the miracle pregnancy that finally changed everything. From Jacky's past as a world-touring DJ fuelled by drugs, alcohol and afterparties, to the moment he realised he had to rebuild his entire life to become a father, this conversation goes far beyond fertility touching on love, addiction, shame, sex, resilience and staying together when everything keeps falling apart. Eleanor opens up about chemical pregnancies, being hospitalised from fertility medication, discovering PCOS and immune issues years into their journey, and the silent heartbreak of watching everyone else’s baby announcements while grieving her own losses. Together, they share how everything they endured inspired them to create Aloomah Fertility an online fertility community and podcast supporting both partners, especially men who are so often overlooked in infertility conversations. Key Points Video Includes -How Jacky touring DJ lifestyle, alcohol and ketamine use affected his health and fertility. -Eleanor’s journey discovering PCOS, immune issues and why these were missed for years. -How infertility pressure affected their sex life, intimacy and relationship dynamic. -The lifestyle changes, surgeries and tests that finally led to their successful pregnancy. -The financial and mental strain of paying privately for treatment after being denied NHS support. -The physical challenges of IVF, from hormone injections to egg retrieval and recovery. -How lockdown, lost income and moving back in with family shaped their fertility journey. -The importance of therapy, communication and teamwork through infertility stress. -Their hopes for the future of IVF, including better accessibility, early testing and equal support for all couples. Timestamps: 00:00:00 – Their five-year fertility struggle: miscarriages, IVF & £50k spent 00:06:05 – Jacky's DJ life: Apple Store to signing a record deal and touring the world 00:09:10 – Life as a touring DJ: drugs, alcohol, burnout & relationship strain 00:14:37 – Wedding day: heatwave chaos, rave-style reception & deejaying his own wedding 00:18:00 – Deciding to start a family and realising something wasn’t right 00:25:23 – Drugs, ketamine addiction & how DJ culture normalised everything 00:29:20 – First IVF success that ended in a chemical pregnancy 00:32:41 – Diagnosis: high natural killer cells and finally discovering PCOS 00:39:11 – The IVF round that finally worked and early pregnancy anxiety 00:42:35 – How trying-to-conceive cycles can dominate your whole life 00:50:45 – Creating Aloomah, their fertility support community and podcast 00:58:44 – What they hope changes in IVF: accessibility, postcode lottery & NHS rules 01:08:35 – Are they ready for parenthood & what scares them most 01:11:32 – Gifts, gratitude & emotional closing with Tatiana You may find some of these issues troubling. Viewer discretion advised. Please visit our website: www.dirtytalkofficial.com for finding information and resources. We love you and you are needed.
