Finding Direction in Mixed Heritage: A Conversation with Nina Melendez Ibarra Emmy-nominated producer, journalist, LinkedIn Content Producer and Author.
I found Nina Melendez Ibarra on LinkedInâthrough a post that made me stop scrolling. She had shared an article about migrant workers in Qatar and how the media needs to do better in covering these stories. It hit close to home.
As someone from Nepal, Iâve seen firsthand how migrant workers leave everything behind in search of better opportunities, only to return to coffins. Itâs a reality too often ignored. So when I saw Nina speaking up, I had to know why.
Thatâs when I discovered her Sri Lankan heritage. It made senseâshe understood. She understood what it meant to come from a place where peopleâs struggles arenât always headline news.
And when I was curating speakers for my AAPI Heritage Month event last year, I knew she had to be part of it. She said yes.
Now, our conversation continues on my podcast, Diasporaâs Career Challenges.
Finding Direction When You Come From Everywhere
For those of us with mixed heritage or immigrant backgrounds, the question âWhere are you really from?â follows us everywhereâsometimes spoken, sometimes just implied. And itâs not just about geography. Itâs about identity. Where do we belong? Who claims us? How do we navigate careers when our backgrounds donât fit into neat little boxes?
Nina has spent her life moving through different culturesâPuerto Rico, Sri Lanka, Japan, France, Brooklynâalways adapting, always navigating. And yet, as she told me in our conversation, the biggest lesson she learned wasnât about fitting in. It was about standing firm in who you are.
âAt the end of the day, that thing in you that lights you up is what is going to prevail. The more you push that aside for societal expectations, the more miserable youâll be.â
The Myth of Hard Work and Finding Your Place
Many of us were raised on the belief that working hard is the key to success. But Nina learned something different:
âI was always under the impression that you had to work very hard. And I worked my butt off for the majority of my career. And I consistently saw other people advancing who did not work as hard, did not know as much, and were not as qualified. And that was weird for me to come to terms with.â
The truth? Hard work is just one piece of the puzzle.
âDonât work harderâwork smarter. Get to know the right people. Be friends with the right people. Understand how to manage up. Be unapologetic about finding ways to get into rooms and having folks who will bring you into those rooms, because this is not a meritocracy.â
For many of us from immigrant or mixed backgrounds, this is a tough lesson. Weâre taught that success comes from keeping our heads down and proving our worth. But Ninaâs story is a reminder: You donât just earn a seat at the tableâyou claim it.
Navigating Identity & Career Growth with Nina Melendez Ibarra
đ In this weekâs episode of Diasporaâs Career Challenges, we dive into:
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Finding direction in a global identityâHow to make your background an asset, not a question mark
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The myth of meritocracyâWhy hard work alone isnât enough (and what to do instead)
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Navigating spaces that werenât built for youâHow to take up space in leadership
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Embracing your mixed heritageâWhy your differences are your greatest strengths
Your Identity is Your Power
For those of us with complex identities, the world doesnât always know where to place us. But hereâs the thing: We get to decide where we belong.
đĄ Instead of proving you fit, stand out.
đĄ Instead of waiting for a door to open, walk in.
đĄ Instead of working twice as hard, work strategically.
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