Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine—aka "Shandy"—combine dating advice and reality show recaps for a fun analysis of modern romance.
Sharleen and Andy are two former commitment-phobes who have now been married for over a decade. They don’t believe in fate, soulmates, or The One. So how did they wind up so happily married? They learned the tough dating lessons by living them. Get no-holds-barred, non-judgmental & honest advice from two people who actually have what you want: a fun, blissful partnership.
As an iconic former Bachelor contestant, Sharleen brings her insider knowledge (combined with Andy's hilarious commentary) to deliver what are hands-down the best Reality TV recaps in the business. They interview reality TV (or reality-adjacent) couples in double-date style episodes called Love Fests. New episodes drop every Thursday, and during TV seasons, twice a week.
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The Golden Bachelor S2: Ep 1 Recap & Review - Ep 413
Episode 413
Thursday, September 25, 2025 • Duration 01:03:57
Shandy is back with their world-famous recaps! The newest Golden Bachelor, Mel Owens, has caused quite a stir already. Where does Shandy stand on all the drama? Today they're breaking down the Season 2 premiere!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
1:00 - Our Golden Bachelor, Mel Owens
8:57 - Night One
10:17 - Limo Exit Wins/Fails
31:51 - Rose Ceremony
33:46 - The Ladies Move Into The Mansion
35:20 - Cheryl’s 1-On-1
43:16 - Group Date
49:33 - Evening
50:13 - Pool Party
52:04 - Rose Ceremony
53:02 - Episode MVP
53:39 - Andy’s A-Game
Perfect Match S3 Recap: Eps 7-9 (Batch 2) - Ep 404
Episode 404
Friday, August 8, 2025 • Duration 55:36
Shandy is back with their world-famous recaps! Shandy couldn't resist the Season 3 cast of Netflix's Perfect Match, so they're today they're breaking down the second batch, aka episodes 7-9!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
2:55 - The Men’s Mixer, Cont’d
9:51 - Women’s Mixer
16:10 - Evening
22:51 - 3 Days Left
31:32 - 2 Days Left
40:40 - 1 Day Left
51:55 - Who We Would Go For
If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com
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Perfect Match Recap: Finale | How Did We Get Here & Why Did We Come? - Ep 314
Episode 314
Friday, June 21, 2024 • Duration 42:29
Ask and you shall receive! By very popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the third and final batch of season 2, aka the grand finale!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
3:04 - Finale
30:05 - Final Tribal
39:08 - Credits
39:34 - Overall Thoughts
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Q&A! Holding Grudges, When He "Forgets" He Said The L-Word, and Big Age Gaps - Ep 313
Episode 313
Thursday, June 20, 2024 • Duration 01:06:55
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your guy says ILY in the heat of the moment but later on "forgets" this happened, is that a sign you need to end things? If your 19 year old sister starts dating a 34 year old, can you express your disapproval or should you back off? And if your family sells a possession of your grandparents that you wanted and even offered to pay for, should you hold onto that grudge and confront them? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Introduction
3:29 - Q1: Was He Sleep-Talking When He Said He Loved Me?
13:10 - Q2: Was I The A-Hole For Fact-Checking My Guy?
20:54 - Q3: I Hate That My 19 Year Old Sister Is Dating A 34 Year Old—Am I Just Being An Age Gap Hater?
33:31 - Q4: Am I The A-Hole For Not Wanting To Visit My Friends In New York?
41:29 - Q5: Have I Been Using My Hardships As An Excuse To Not Be “30 And Flirty”?
53:09 - Q6: My Aunts Sold A Belonging Of My Grandparents That I Really Wanted—Should I Let This Grudge Go?
Perfect Match Recap: Eps 7-9 | Harry Jowsey And The Bathroom Kiss Whodunit - Ep 312
Episode 312
Friday, June 14, 2024 • Duration 01:08:34
Ask and you shall receive! By very popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the second batch of season 2, meaning episodes 7-9!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Introduction
2:30 - Episode 7
17:03 - Episode 8
29:30 - Episode 9
1:04:57 - Andy’s A-Game
1:06:25 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed
1:06:51 - Who We Would Go For
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Perfect Match Recap: Eps 1-6 | Shandy Pops Their Perfect Match Cherry - Ep 311
Episode 311
Monday, June 10, 2024 • Duration 01:41:24
Ask and you shall receive! By extremely popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the first batch of season 2, meaning episodes 1-6!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Introduction
1:02 - Episode 1
19:49 - Episode 2
34:56 - Episode 3
46:21 - Episode 4
1:06:26 - Episode 5
1:15:33 - Episode 6
1:29:41 - Andy’s A-Game
1:32:48 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed
1:34:17 - Who We Would Go For
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We Got A Dog!!! Shandy's Dog Adoption Story - Ep 310
Episode 310
Thursday, June 6, 2024 • Duration 49:41
Shandy is officially on the Dawg Side! As you may know, 3 months ago we adopted a small dog named Ruby! We hadn't planned on doing a fur baby episode, but it came so hotly requested (and we were so touched by the enthusiasm!), we couldn't help but oblige. Today we're answering YOUR questions all about our pup, her adoption story, and whether or not the famed Cat Person (Andy) has been converted. Warning: unfettered gushing ahead!
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0:00 - Introduction
1:35 - Ruby’s Adoption Story
10:28 - Andy’s Adjustment To Dog Person
12:23 - Ruby’s Personality
14:52 - Tips For Fellow Germaphobes
16:10 - What Took You So Long?
20:22 - But I Thought Andy Was A Cat Person?
21:05 - Does Ruby Give Cat Vibes?
21:12 - What Are Your Favorite Dog Toys?
21:58 - Has Andy Been Giving Ruby More Attention Than Sharleen?
24:38 - Who Watches Ruby When You’re Away?
Q&A! Morality Check, What To Do When Your Friend Deserves Better, & A Travel Am-I-The-A-Hole Bonanza! - Ep 309
Episode 309
Thursday, May 30, 2024 • Duration 59:22
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! You met your boyfriend shortly after getting laid off—with a new job lined up, is it morally wrong to never tell him about the layoff? If you're single and sharing an Airbnb with couples and even some families, should you pay the same amount for a room in the rental, even if there's only one of you? If your friend unexpectedly invites her boyfriend on your planned girls trip, are you the a-hole if you pull out? And finally, what to do if you simply *dislike* your best friend's fiancé?? Where does Shandy stand on unintentional door slamming? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Introduction
0:53 - Q1: If I Have New Job, Is It Morally Wrong Not To Tell My Boyfriend I Got Laid Off From My Previous Job?
6:22 - Q2: I’m The Single Friend In A Large Trip Of Couples And Their Kids—Am I Being Unreasonable About This Airbnb Split?
14:21 - Q3: My Friend Added Her Boyfriend To Our Girls Trip—AITA For Wanting To Pull Out?
30:53 - Q4: My Boyfriend Bailed On Driving Me To My Hometown & I Had To Pay $$$ For A Flight Instead—AITA For Wanting Him To Help Cover The Cost?
Heal Your Attachment Pattern With Eli Harwood, Aka @AttachmentNerd - Ep 308
Episode 308
Thursday, May 23, 2024 • Duration 01:30:37
Attachment Styles are at the core of SO many relationship dynamics yet so few of us know much beyond "secure", "anxious", and "avoidant". Isn't it about time we learned WHY we behave the way we do so we can learn how to stop getting in our own way?
We're thrilled today to be joined by Eli Harwood, aka @attachmentnerd , therapist, author, and attachment theory expert! Eli has amassed a massive following on Instagram with her attachment expertise and analysis. She is the author of "Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns Into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships" and the upcoming "Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting To Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience", so we could not be in better hands!
Today Eli breaks down those famed Attachment Patterns (spoiler alert: there's WAY more to this than secure, anxious, and avoidant!) and how and why we as adults behave the way we do in our relationships. (As Andy puts it at one point, Attachment is "EVERYTHING"!) We learn how much of a role gender plays, why some of us are different in platonic vs romantic relationships, and how much is nature vs nurture. There are also parenting questions for our caregiver Shandies out there! Shandy also gets personal with their own experiences that have shaped their own attachment patterns. Finally, the big question: HOW DO WE HEAL? Eli has the answers you've been waiting for and manages to deliver them in the most relatable and easy-to-understand way. As Shandy puts it, you just might see your childhood flash before your eyes! Listen on for a masterclass in YOURSELF. 🤯
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53:47 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed
54:18 - Shandy’s Predictions
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