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After countless low-effort matches, ghostings, and confusing conversations, I’ve finally met someone who feels different. In this episode, I share what it’s been like to date someone who is sweet, emotionally present, physically confident, intellectually stimulating (hello, PhD in humanities!), and genuinely invested in getting to know me.

He plans dates. He calls. He brought flowers on our first official date. And most surprisingly? He makes it easy.

Being with him is not only refreshing—it’s making me realize just how wrong my last relationship was. Sometimes, clarity doesn’t come from what goes wrong… but from finally experiencing what feels right.

💌 Have you found someone who made you rethink everything you accepted before? I’d love to hear from you: moderndating2025@gmail.com

Some dating conversations feel like an interview, others feel like a monologue, and some… just leave you confused. In this episode, I share my bizarre exchange with a former Marine—who went from serving his country to selling Tempurpedic mattresses—and how the conversation took a sharp turn when I dared to have thoughts and opinions.

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If you’ve ever had a guy assume your profession for absolutely no reason, this episode is for you. First, I talk about a guy who confidently decided I was a librarian—based solely on the fact that I read books. Then, I dive into the painfully slow fade of someone who seemed interested… until his response time went from thoughtful messages to one every two days. Spoiler: it ended with an underwhelming coffee invite that made me question why I even bothered. If you’re tired of low-effort dating, lukewarm interest, and men who don’t even try—this episode is a must-listen.

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I’ve been wracking my brain over the shockingly low level of effort in dating where I live. Is it just me? Or is this an actual cultural thing? A friend of mine said that women in my area have just accepted that this is how things are—so men don’t need to try. And honestly? That blew my mind. In this episode, I unpack the frustrating reality of modern dating, whether we set the bar too low, and why so many men seem comfortable putting in bare minimum effort. Is this a regional issue? A generational one? And more importantly—how do we fix it?

💌 What’s the dating culture like where you live? Let me know at moderndating2025@gmail.com

Ever had a conversation so good that you knew it was going somewhere… only to be completely ghosted the next day? In this episode, I talk about my five-hour-long phone call with a guy who seemed like he was actually interested—until he wasn’t. I break down what happened, the odd red flags (including a weird entitlement about speaking Italian in Italy), and the way I tend to dwell on these moments even when I know I shouldn’t. If you’ve ever been left questioning what you did wrong when, really, it wasn’t about you at all—this episode is for you.

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Dating in my 40s sometimes feels like a high-stakes action movie, and honestly? I am thrilled to be dodging these emotional bullets. In this episode, I break down one of my latest dating encounters—a guy who seemed promising until his insecurities started screaming through his messages. We went from a decent conversation to him over-explaining his financial success, subtly dismissing my concerns, and then suddenly deciding we weren’t a match… only to immediately ask me out. The flip-flopping? The weird energy? The unmatch at the end? Hilarious. If you’ve ever dealt with a guy who can’t figure out what he wants but somehow expects you to be impressed, you’re going to love this one.

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Another one bites the dust

Year-end summary of my dating in 2024

Boundaries are a critical part of any healthy relationship, especially when it comes to dating.

You deserve more than a relationship that leaves you feeling empty. You deserve more than settling for less than what makes you truly happy. You deserve to be with someone who respects your boundaries, values your needs, and wants to see you thrive. It’s not selfish to want more for yourself—it’s necessary.

It’s about rediscovering the person you are outside of a relationship so that when you enter one again, you do so as your authentic, empowered self.

We all have those people in our lives who come and go with such irregularity that it’s hard to know what their intentions are. These are the people I call "the boomerangs." 

the next time someone pops up with that vague, “How’s it going?” ask yourself: Do I really want to continue this ambiguous dance? Or is it time to let them drift away for good?

Third love is something to embrace fully. It’s about trusting your instincts and your heart while also allowing yourself the freedom to choose what’s best for you.

Dating can be challenging, but it’s important to recognize when someone isn’t giving you the effort and attention you deserve. 

It's hard, but it's possible. I'll share some suggestions on how to do this.

Are you in your 40s and dipping your toes into the world of dating apps? Welcome! I will talk about popular dating apps out there as well as pros and cons.

Talking about Alternative Dating sites:

1. Fetlife.com
2. Alt.com
3. Collarspace
4. 3Somer
5. Feeld
6. Whiplr

In this episode, we dive into the fascinating world of polyamorous relationships and explore the motivations and reasons why people choose this unique and non-traditional approach to love and intimacy. 

In this exciting episode, we delve into the intriguing world of roster dating! 

The age-old question of who pays for the first date, is answered. 

Nope! Just my opinion.

Brief disclosure on why dating with kids on both sides is difficult

Let me regale you on how my first and second dates went.

At least for five minutes.

How important is it to you that your partner has a job similar to yours?

Let's go through our first round of what emojis mean...

Okay, yes, I don't know things.

Learn more about attachment styles here: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/attachment-and-adult-relationships.htm

Here I am lamenting over me being an idiot and not ending a relationship earlier than it did

What are some possible signs that the person you're chatting may not be single?

Two more fun terms to learn as you traverse online dating

So what's the protocol here? Do you talk to one person and hope for the best, or spread the love and see what lands?

Take a deeper look into my disturbed mind while I tell you what I want from dating

Not only do first messages matter...what you put in your profile matters too

Like first impressions, first messages matter. Come hear about what NOT to say

You get a catfish, and you get a catfish, blah blah blah Catfish. Today, we talk about catfishing and the exciting experiences I've had, as well as what others have seen.

I will also bring up facecheck.id as a means to validate photos

Yup...totally being sarcastic, don't worry folks, no one actually got away. I do hope you enjoy this story of my first connection with someone from a dating app. Next week...everyone's favorite topic, catfishing

Come hear about the ridiculous terms I've learned. This episode ended up being a bit longer than I planned, but I hope you enjoy it all the same.

Wanted to kick off this podcast with an intro of who I am and why I'm doing this. Join me next week to learn about "breadcrumbing"