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Dates, Mates and Babies with the Vallottons

Jason and Lauren Vallotton

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Frequency: 1 episode/7d. Total Eps: 133

We’re the Vallottons, and we’re passionate about people! Every human was created for fulfilling connections in relationship and family, but it’s not always what comes easiest! We know this because of our wide range of personal experiences as well as years of working with people. So we’re going to crack open topics like dating, marriage, family and parenting to encourage, entertain and equip you for a deeply fulfilling life of relational health.

Support us at on Patreon at patreon.com/datesmatesbabies

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133. Welcoming Our First Grandbaby!

Wednesday, September 17, 2025 • Duration 30:54

Jason and Lauren have big news to share—their first grandbaby has arrived! 🎉 In this special family update episode, they reflect on the joy of this new season, the surprises of grandparenting while still raising their own 5- and 3-year-old, and what it means to live out relational health across generations.

Together, they unpack:

🌿 The uniqueness of navigating multiple family “layers” at once—parenting littles, supporting adult children, and stepping into grandparenthood
🎄 How conversations around holidays like Christmas shift when legacy and generational traditions come into play
👵🏼 The role of grandparents in relational health—offering support without overstepping, helping without hovering
👶 What’s different about parenting littles versus grandparenting (and how both roles sharpen each other)
❤️ Navigating relationships with adult kids as they step into parenthood, and why cheering them on matters more than critiquing
🌈 The emotional mix of joy, nostalgia, and gratitude in life’s transition seasons

The Vallottons remind listeners that family is never static—it’s always growing and reshaping. Whether you’re raising littles, sending teens into the world, or welcoming grandkids, relational health comes down to connection, presence, and legacy.

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If you've enjoyed this podcast, would you consider financially supporting the show? Every donation, big and small, helps the Vallottons continue to prioritize making this content for you. Click this link to support! Thank you!

For information on the Marriage Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !

Connect with Lauren:
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Connect with Jason:
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132. What We Think About Separation in Marriage

Wednesday, September 17, 2025 • Duration 25:54

What do you do when staying in your marriage feels unsafe, but separation feels like it might be the end of everything you hoped for? Separation is one of the most raw and tender topics couples face—and for many, it carries fear, shame, and deep confusion.

In this episode, pastors and coaches Jason and Lauren Vallotton respond to two courageous listener questions about separation in marriage. With compassion and faith-filled honesty, they explore how to discern when separation is a protective step, what questions to ask in the midst of uncertainty, and how to hold covenant and safety together without feeling trapped by either.

They discuss:

Why separation does not equal failure—and how it can be a tool for safety and clarity.
The key questions to ask when considering reconciliation: Is there sustained change? Is safety being rebuilt? Am I experiencing peace or manipulation?
How to navigate the tension between covenant and crisis, especially when abuse or repeated betrayal is present.
Why God values safety and mental health as much as marriage covenant.
The importance of community, accountability, and long-term fruit when walking through separation.
Practical pathways forward, whether toward reconciliation or a different future, always anchored in hope and healing.

Jason and Lauren remind listeners that separation is not the end of the story. If you’re walking through a season of uncertainty or pain in your marriage, this episode will bring perspective, permission, and pastoral care.

131. When His Battle Becomes Your Self-Hatred

Thursday, September 4, 2025 • Duration 22:38

What do you do when your husband’s porn struggle becomes a story you tell about yourself—about not being pretty enough, skinny enough, or desirable enough? For so many women, his brokenness becomes her self-hatred. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

In this powerful episode, pastors and coaches Jason and Lauren Vallotton share hope and healing for women who are carrying shame that was never theirs to hold. With compassion and clarity, they unpack why porn is not about a wife’s worth, how self-hatred lies to keep women isolated, and what tools actually help rebuild connection and restore identity.

Together, they walk through:

You Are Not the Cause — Why porn is about escape, not about you “measuring up.”
Self-Hatred Is a Liar — How shame masquerades as self-awareness and how to speak truth over yourself instead.
You Still Deserve Empathy — Why your pain is valid and how to ask for emotional repair.
You’re Allowed to Ask for Help — Practical steps for inviting God, community, and safe people into your healing.

If you’ve ever felt the sting of comparison or the weight of carrying your spouse’s struggle, this episode is a reminder: you’re not broken, you’re not too much, and your story doesn’t end in shame. Healing is possible—for your marriage, yes, but even more importantly, for you.

Resources:

Shasta Blue Sky Addiction & Trauma Recovery Services

75. What to do in Marriage Emergencies

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If you've enjoyed this podcast, would you consider financially supporting the show? Every donation, big and small, helps the Vallottons continue to prioritize making this content for you. Click this link to support! Thank you!For information on the Marriage Intensive and other resources, go to !Connect with Lauren:Connect with Jason:

130. How to Handle the Disorientation of a New Season

Wednesday, August 27, 2025 • Duration 20:46

Every new season brings change—and with it, a sense of disorientation. As human beings, we’re wired for stability and rhythm, so even good change can feel uncomfortable at first. The question isn’t whether change will shake us, but how we walk through it without losing our footing.

In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton share practical wisdom for navigating transitions with grace, humor, and hope. From their own stories of job changes and parenting milestones, they remind us that adjustment takes time (sometimes at least two weeks!), and that flexibility is key when fear tempts us to tighten up.

They explore:

Why it’s normal to feel unsettled in the middle of change.
The “two-week rule” that helps reframe transitions.
How fear can make us rigid—and why flexibility matters most during change.
The importance of limiting how much newness you introduce at one time.
Guarding connection with your spouse and close relationships so disorientation doesn’t drive disconnection.
How leaning into God brings clarity, peace, and a renewed sense of purpose for each season.

If you’ve ever felt unsettled in the face of change, this conversation will remind you: disorientation is temporary, and you don’t have to walk through it alone.

129. When Marriage Counseling Doesn't Work

Wednesday, August 20, 2025 • Duration 34:15

Counseling is incredibly valuable. Jason and Lauren are huge proponents of marriage counseling, coaching and investing in marriage in a way that invites outside input from experts who can give great feedback to help couples grow in their connection. But it’s so common for couples to spend years in sessions and workshops and retreats without ever experiencing lasting breakthrough. Why? Because no matter how good the tools are, they don’t work if certain foundations aren’t in place.

In this episode, pastors and coaches Jason and Lauren Vallotton unpack some of the hidden reasons couples stay stuck—even with professional help—and how to create the kind of environment where real change is possible.

They explore:

Why solving problems without first building connection is like trying to spend from an empty bank account.
How misdiagnosing root issues keeps couples treating the wrong thing—and stuck in painful cycles.
Why communication tools and boundaries fail if you don’t understand your actual relational cycle.
How “making things fair” in sessions can unintentionally block radical ownership—something both spouses need in order to break patterns.
Why safety is the soil for growth, and how tools can feel like weapons if emotional safety isn’t present.
The importance of “turning toward” your spouse and focusing on one clear target at a time.

This conversation offers fresh perspective and practical guidance for anyone longing for deeper transformation in their marriage.

128. The Long Game: Raising Children with Vision for Adulthood

Wednesday, August 6, 2025 • Duration 30:29

In this episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, Jason and Lauren share wisdom from their unique experience raising both adult children and toddlers. Drawing from years of hands-on parenting, they dive into the intentional strategies that shape children into healthy, resilient adults—especially in a world that's vastly different from the one they grew up in.

Topics covered include:

Why the goal is raising adults, not just managing children
The importance of skills like delayed gratification, perseverance, and planning
How to build family identity through phrases like “Vallottons tell the truth” and “Vallottons are helpers”
Why today’s parenting landscape is nothing like past generations—and what to do about it
How to establish healthy boundaries: what decisions your child makes on their own vs. with your input
A new way to view trust: as a developmental process, not just a reflection of character
Why certain "non-negotiables" (like music or swim lessons) are actually gifts you give your child
Creating rhythms and structure while your kids are still moldable—because character is built early

Whether you're in the toddler trenches or navigating teenage independence, this conversation offers practical tools and timeless vision for parenting with the end in mind.

👉 If this episode encouraged you, share it with a fellow parent and leave a review to help others find our show!

127. A Day in the Life, #2 (A peek into a big disconnection in the Vallottons' marriage!)

Wednesday, July 30, 2025 • Duration 31:23

This episode is a vulnerable look into a recent real-life disconnection in the Vallotton's marriage! Every relationship experiences disconnection, but what matters is how we navigate back to each other. Hosts Jason and Lauren Vallotton share a recent experience where two weeks of limited quality time left them functioning as roommates rather than romantic partners.

• Jason feeling a lack of nurturing and tenderness in our interactions
• Lauren's problem-solving tendency sometimes coming across as harsh or critical
• The difference between "disgust" and constructive feedback in communication
• How personality differences (Enneagram Two vs Six) affect our relationship needs
• The crucial distinction between being good at "partnership" versus "lovership"
• Understanding that some relationship patterns can't be fixed in a single conversation
• The importance of both acknowledging issues and taking concrete steps toward change

The way you start difficult conversations will determine with 80% accuracy how they end. Remember that connection should always be the goal!

126. Dating Someone with a Past Marriage and Kids

Thursday, July 24, 2025 • Duration 33:23

Can love still feel new when someone has already been married and had children with someone else?

In this vulnerable episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton respond to a heartfelt question from a listener navigating the early stages of dating a divorced man with kids. Together, they unpack the very real fears, griefs, and hopes that can rise up in blended beginnings.

Whether you're walking this journey yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers practical wisdom, personal insight, and gentle clarity around some of the most tender questions:

How do I reconcile the longing to be someone’s first with the reality of coming in second chronologically?
Can I feel truly chosen if he’s loved before?
What are healthy signs he’s healed from his past—and what red flags should I pay attention to?
How do I navigate comparison, memories, or ongoing connection with a former spouse as they co-parent?
What does “fairytale love” look like when the story begins with complexity?

Jason and Lauren speak from personal experience and pastoral wisdom to offer encouragement, grounded perspective, and honest dialogue about grief, hope, and choosing love in real life—not in the fantasy.

Because healing doesn’t mean the past never happened—it means the past no longer holds the pen.

125. From Chaos to Clarity: How Couples Get Their Marriage Back on Track

Wednesday, July 16, 2025 • Duration 25:04

If your marriage feels chaotic, disconnected, or directionless… you’re not alone. In this episode, Jason and Lauren tackle what it looks like when couples are stuck in survival mode—no calendar, no plan, and no unity—and how to get back on the same team.

Jay’s been walking with several couples who feel overwhelmed and out of sync, and in this candid conversation, the Vallottons offer a lifeline of practical tools and fresh perspective to help you move from chaos to clarity.

In this episode, they unpack:

Why chaos is a symptom, not the root issue
How to create an ecosystem for your marriage that you’re leading—not one that’s leading you
The power of living from a shared calendar and shared priorities
Why independent goals can still flow from a shared vision
What it takes to build peace, productivity, and purpose in your everyday rhythms

Key questions to ask together:

What season are we in right now?
What are our top three shared goals?
Are we moving toward those goals—together?

🎯 Practical Challenge: Try this for one week

Set a Sunday night “calendar + priority” meeting
Write down your top 3 shared goals
Name one pain point and commit to addressing it with compassion

Don’t let the chaos run the show. Step into leadership together—one week, one goal, one shared step at a time.

124. Leading with Love: Dr. Henry Cloud on What It Really Means to Be a Godly Husband

Wednesday, July 9, 2025 • Duration 52:54

What does it actually mean to lead your home like a man of God—and why does emotional connection matter just as much as spiritual authority?

In this episode of Dates, Mates & Babies, Jason Vallotton sits down with the legendary Dr. Henry Cloud, bestselling author of Boundaries, to unpack the kind of leadership that builds trust, safety, and lasting love. From marriage and fatherhood to communication and connection, this conversation is packed with wisdom for men and women alike.

Dr. Cloud shares a powerful framework for building a strong home: start with connection, then add boundaries, protection, and healthy communication. Whether you're a man wondering how to lead with both strength and compassion—or a woman longing for safety and partnership—this episode will give you language, hope, and tools to create the kind of marriage that thrives.

Topics We Cover:

The real role of a husband as a leader
Why emotional intelligence is key in marriage
How to create psychological safety in your home
What to do if connection was never modeled for you growing up
A practical pathway to becoming a strong, present, emotionally safe man

Whether you're single, dating, married, or parenting together—this episode will help you reimagine leadership in a way that builds legacy.

Connect with Dr. Henry Cloud:
drcloud.com
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