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Dateable AF Show Notes: E3

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 3 Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell discuss the dating apps.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: E2

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 2 Rachel & Dr. Kyle explain Lesbian dating and the tendency to move in after the first date.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: E1

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 1 introduces you to our hosts, telling a bit about their histories and their coming-out stories. Find out about Rachel’s current adventures as a single lesbian in the Dating Bee. You’ll also learn about Sarah’s history as a therapist and as a partner in a long-term relationship.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 4 Queer Dating Pool: Is it really that small?

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 4 Dr. Kyle and Rachel discuss the Queer Dating Pool and have great tips about dating!

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 5

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This episode, “Flirting For People Who Hate Flirting”, guides you through some specific flirting tips and steers you away from flirting fails. Learn the one thing that is absolutely essential to successful flirting, and hear some stories of flirting gone awry. Learn about #johngottman’s idea of bids for connection and how to use those.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Episode 16

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Datable AF — E16

“I’m Not Clingy, You’re Just Distant” — Dating With Different Attachment Styles

Sarah & Rachel unpack attachment theory (Ainsworth, Bowlby) and how secure, anxious, avoidant, and anxious-avoidant styles play out in queer dating—without turning your date into a diagnosis.

In this episode:

• Why anxious/avoidant pairings create that chase/run loop—and how both people can pause the cycle.
• Simple repair moves: name your needs, take space with a return time, and actually come back.
• Texting rhythms: consistent ≠ constant. Don’t double-text in protest or stonewall to punish.
• Green flags of secure attachment: steady communication, empathy, flexibility, low drama.
• You’re not doomed by your style—therapy, self-awareness, and a secure partner help you shift.
• Quick IRL cues: anxious energy reads faster; avoidant can mask—meet offline to really see each other.

Go deeper: free attachment quizzes + books: Attached (Amir Levine), Wired for Love (Stan Tatkin), Hold Me Tight (Sue Johnson).

Live taping: Sun, Aug 24 @ 1972 Sports Bar (Austin, TX) — details soon. Season 2 tease: still dating, now adding long-term relationship deep dives. Share, rate, follow on Apple, Spotify, IG & FB @ Datable AF.

#Hashtags #DatableAF #QueerDating #AttachmentStyles #SecureAttachment #AnxiousAvoidant #WLW #Sapphic #LGBTQPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #Boundaries #Communication #AmirLevine #StanTatkin #SueJohnson

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Episode 15

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Datable AF — E15

Fun Drunk or Red Flag? Dating, Drinking & Compatibility

Sarah (now 5½ years sober) and Rachel unpack alcohol’s role in early dating: why that first drink can smooth nerves, why behavior usually shifts by drink three, and how presence—not what’s in your glass—makes or breaks connection.

They separate one-offs from patterns: overdrinking on a first date, needing booze for every plan, “cruddy” mornings, personality flips (sloppy, loud, angry), pressuring a partner to drink, or a sober person having “just one.” Patterns = red flags.

How to navigate mismatch: mix dry and sipped dates, name boundaries, avoid guilt in either direction, decide how you’ll handle “not tonight,” and know when to talk vs. walk. A kind script: “When you drink, it takes you away from the person I love.”

Context for queer women: bar culture and stress can nudge more drinking—but compatibility, safety, and respect matter most. Choose what keeps you present, connected, and datable AF.

Next up: E16 — I’m Not Clingy, You’re Just Distant: dating with different attachment styles. Share your funniest/worst “party girl” stories for the After Party, and follow on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube @ Datable AF.

#Hashtags #DatableAF #QueerDating #SoberDating #AlcoholAndDating #WLW #LGBTQPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #Boundaries #RedFlags #Sapphic

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 6

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 6 Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell discuss the Dating Vibes.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AFterparty Bonus Answering Listeners Questions and Comments

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This bonus episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel share listener's comments and questions

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC