Explore every episode of the podcast Curious Fox
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| Consensual Non-consent, Negotiation, and the Classics with Tina Horn | 30 Nov 2023 | 00:54:54 | |
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| #polyproblems with Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla | 23 Nov 2023 | 01:00:42 | |
What are some of the most common pitfalls when couples are opening up? Which conversations are essential when discussion non monoamy? What are some of the common myths when it comes to open relationships? And what about jealousy? Listen in as they explore common misconceptions that we have to unlearn in order to successfully practice non-monogamy for the long-term, as well as answers to some of the most asked questions. Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Queer Eye for Pleasure, Women and those who Love Them with Allison Moon | 15 Nov 2023 | 00:48:53 | |
In a world where discussions about sexuality often default to a heteronormative framework, what insights can we gain when we shift our focus to a queer perspective? How does queer sex challenge and expand our understanding of pleasure, consent, and sexual expression? What can individuals of all genders and orientations learn from queer sexuality? In this week’s episode, Effy welcomes back sex educator and author Allison Moon for a thought-provoking conversation where they explore the inherently pleasure-centric nature of queer sex and how this focus offers a broadened redefinition of sex and sexual expression. Effy and Allison dissect the limitations of traditional, heteronormative sex education and ponder the integration of queer sexual practices into the lives of straight individuals, contemplating how heteronormative couples might benefit from the queer emphasis on pleasure, consent, and open communication. To learn more about Allison Allison Moon is the author of five books including the instant classic sex-ed guide Girl Sex 101 and Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex. She has been quoted in Cosmopolitan, New York magazine, and The Washington Post. A popular sex educator, Allison has presented her workshops — on strap-on sex, polyamory, sexual self-expression, erotica writing, and more — to thousands of people around the US and Canada. Inspired by her sex education work, Moon writes screenplays, stage plays, and teleplays that explore the complexities of identity, sexuality and desire, Instagram: allison_moon Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| How to Support Queer, Trans, and Non-binary Young People with Cory Silverberg | 08 Nov 2023 | 01:00:36 | |
How can parents and caregivers create a safe and open environment where young individuals navigating their own identities feel comfortable exploring and expressing their evolving identities? What are the most common misconceptions or misunderstandings that parents and caregivers have about supporting queer, trans, and non-binary young people? How can they overcome these barriers to offer genuine support? What actionable steps can educators and community leaders take to ensure that queer, trans, and non-binary youth feel seen, heard, and validated in these spaces?
Cory spends a lot of time reading, writing, and talking about sex and gender and are happiest working with others. Cory was a founding member of the Come As You Are Co-operative and worked as a researcher and television consultant for over 10 years. Cory is a core team member of ANTE UP!, a virtual professional freedom school founded by Bianca I Laureano. They also spend a lot of time helping other people make books. Cory is the co-author of four books including What Makes a Baby, the ALA Stonewall Honor Book Sex Is a Funny Word, and the forthcoming You Know, Sex, all with Fiona Smyth. Cory has been featured on NPR’s Fresh Air, and their books have been called “the books about sex that every family should read” by the New York Times. Cory's life is full of kids. All of them know where babies come from. Some know more. Learn more about Cory at www.corysilverberg.com. IG: @corysilverberg Twitter: @corysilverberg FB: https://www.facebook.com/whatmakesababy Website: www.corysilverberg.com Profile in the New York Times Magazine: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/28/magazine/sex-ed-books-teens-parents.html ANTE UP! Professional Development School: https://www.anteuppd.com/ Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Mixed Desires: Navigating Misaligned Wants with Our Partners with Dr Joli Hamilton (Interview) | 01 Nov 2023 | 01:05:19 | |
In the intricate dance of relationships, what happens when our desires diverge from those of our partners? What common patterns emerge when partners want differently? And how can we skillfully bridge these gaps without losing ourselves in the process? Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Haunted House of Relationship Horrors Listeners Edition | 25 Oct 2023 | 00:48:45 | |
What relationship fears lurk in the shadows of our minds, sending chills down our spines? Can the art of storytelling serve as both an outlet for our deepest relationship anxieties and a means of processing them? Might the eerie embrace of Halloween be the unlikely balm to soothe these fears? What are you afraid of?
This will give you the theme of the room What is a scenario that illustrates that fear?
This will give you context for the room What is a physical experience that can describe the feeling of fear? Think of it as a verb.
That will give you the movement in the room that also will help your lister to empathize with your feelings. What helps you feel better?
This will help you formulate your way out of the room. Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Trauma, Sense of Safety and the Somatic Connection with Rida Kirasi (Interview) | 18 Oct 2023 | 01:13:38 | |
How deeply does our perception of safety influence our behavior in relationships? What internal shifts transpire within our nervous system when we oscillate between feelings of security and threat? And, how can we nurture an environment that fosters safety and wellbeing? In the third installment of our four-part series on trauma, we revisit a poignant episode where Effy and Jacqueline engage in an insightful discussion with Rida Kirasi, a sound healing therapist, meditation facilitator, and Somatic Experiencing practitioner. Together, they unravel the intricate tapestry of trauma healing, emphasizing the potent role of our bodily sensations and reactions. They delve into the transformative power of sound, breath, meditation, and embodiment practices as tools not only for healing but also for cultivating a robust sense of safety and emotional regulation. Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Psychedelics, Sexual Trauma and Pleasure as a Healing Modality with Dee Dee Goldpaugh (Interview) | 11 Oct 2023 | 00:58:06 | |
How might we challenge and expand upon the established medical definitions of trauma? Can our understanding of healing evolve to encompass not just the alleviation of symptoms but also the reclamation of joy and pleasure? What are the recent shifts in utilizing psychedelics as tools for trauma treatment? In this episode, Effy sits down with Dee Dee Goldpaugh, a psychotherapist, educator, author, activist, and the Clinical Director of Chrysalis Integrative Psychotherapy. Together, they embark on an in-depth exploration of the transformative potential of psychedelics in trauma therapy. Shedding light on prevailing medical models and their constraints, Effy and Dee Dee advocate for a more holistic approach, one that not only prioritizes the individual's wellbeing, reconnection to pleasure, joy and eroticism but also remains acutely aware of the broader social, cultural, and environmental implications of psychedelic use. Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Trauma from a New Lens with Dr MaryCatherine "MC" McDonald (Interview) | 03 Oct 2023 | 01:09:14 | |
How do we navigate the multifaceted nature of trauma beyond the often reductive parameters set by the medical system? How is memory formation and storage impacted by trauma and how does that impact the trauma experience? Can our journey towards healing be supported by those other than professionals? In this episode, Effy talks with trauma researcher and author, Dr. MaryCatherine "MC" McDonald, whose book, "Unbroken: The Trauma Response Is Never Wrong And Other Things You Need to Know to Take Back Your Life," offers refreshing perspectives in understanding and addressing trauma. Dr. MC introduces a perspective that views trauma responses as indicators of strength and resilience, challenging commonly held beliefs around vulnerability and fragility. As Effy and Dr. MC explore the neurological mechanics of trauma, they also discuss healing methodologies that move beyond standard medical approaches, emphasizing the power of self-articulation and individual paths to recovery. Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Relationship Fears, Creative Healing and Halloween Pregame | 27 Sep 2023 | 00:12:47 | |
In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline talk about some scary stories and beliefs they hold about relationships, share how these stories can manifest and how they can get in the way of connection and intimacy in their relationships. They reflect back on a previous Halloween episode where they approached these stories with creativity and humor and invite the listeners to try this approach. Be a part of our Halloween episode! Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Tolerating Disconnection in Relationships | 20 Sep 2023 | 00:55:09 | |
What exactly is connection, and what happens when we encounter disconnection in our relationships? Is there any value in temporary disconnection? How can we improve our tolerance to disconnection? Be a part of our Halloween episode! Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Age, Affinity and Dating with Ashton Applewhite (Interview) | 13 Sep 2023 | 00:37:54 | |
What impact does a significant age gap between partners have on relationships? Are there common misconceptions surrounding women dating considerably younger men? Does age alone determine affinity, and should we limit ourselves to dating within our age group Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Forks in the Road, Greener Grasses, and Subscribing to the Sucky | 06 Sep 2023 | 01:11:09 | |
How often have you second-guessed a decision, wondering if the other option would have spared you the heartache? How do we navigate life's dilemmas when every path seems to have its own set of thorns? Can we ever truly escape the consequences of our choices, or is it about finding peace in the decisions we make? Effy and Jacqueline return from their break, diving deep into the often overlooked aspect of decision-making: the inevitable challenges that accompany every choice. They candidly share the less glamorous sides of their own decisions and offer insights on how to weigh your options more holistically…and accept that things may simply suck either way. Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| The Self, Parts and the Highway of Life | 19 Jul 2023 | 01:00:34 | |
Why do we react in ways that seem counterproductive or self-defeating? Are our minds made up of distinct "parts" that influence our behavior? How can we understand and integrate these internal parts to create personal growth and harmony? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline explore “parts work” and share their personal therapeutic journeys understanding, regulating, and befriending their parts. They discuss the benefits of developing "parts" from past experiences to help us navigate and respond to the world around us, and the consequences of using the outdated strategies of our parts to address current relationship fears. Referenced in the episode: Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Navigating Mismatched Kinks with Partners: Finding Common Playgrounds with Miss Shayla (Interview) | 12 Jul 2023 | 00:55:51 | |
We are curious: How can we explore mismatched kinks with our partners? How do we find common ground and understand where the resistance is without creating pressure or being coercive? And what can be done if there's no common ground? Instagram: @YesMissShayla Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Highly Sensitive Man: Navigating Sensitivity, Masculinity, and Relationships with Tom Falkenstein (Interview) | 05 Jul 2023 | 00:53:25 | |
What does it mean to be a highly sensitive person (HSP)? How does high sensitivity differ between individuals socialized as men versus women? What are the unique advantages and obstacles faced by highly sensitive men in their relationships and daily lives? In this episode, Effy and cognitive behavioral psychotherapist and author of "The Highly Sensitive Man" Tom Falkenstein take a deep dive into the core characteristics of high sensitivity and examine how societal expectations and gender norms shape the experience of sensitivity for men. Tom and Effy aim to shed light on the distinct challenges and advantages that highly sensitive men encounter in their relationships and everyday lives and provide practical tools and strategies to empower highly sensitive people to thrive in an overstimulating modern world. Instagram: @tom.falkenstein Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Release The Rainbow, Coming Out in Adulthood | 28 Jun 2023 | 01:03:15 | |
What happens when you discover your sexual orientation later in life? How can you embrace a new identity when you have already established one? What does it mean to be queer? In this revisited oldie, Jacqueline goes galavanting through the NY lesbian bar scene for her birthday with her partner, making up for some classic lesbian experiences that she never got to have. Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride month by exploring experiences of coming out later in life, discuss what it means to be queer, and explore the nuance of why they identify the way they do. Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Queering Up Wedding Season and Celebrating All Relationships with Ambyr D'Amato (Interview) | 21 Jun 2023 | 00:54:59 | |
How can wedding ceremonies be updated to honor queer and polyamorous relationships? What can we do to celebrate a relationship when marriage and a wedding is not an option? What would it be like to celebrate an uncoupling, or the end of a relationship? Ambyr’s mission is to create a meaningful time for her clients on their special day and throughout their wedding planning process. Ambry approaches her work with these questions in her mind, “What would it feel like to breathe or meditate a little before working on your wedding budget? How can we create a positive experience for you, your family, and all of your guests? What would it feel like to be taken care of, listened to, and coached every step of the way?” Her family is Catholic, Muslim, and Hindu, so in whatever way love has brought her clients together, she can embrace it with an open heart and mind. Instagram: weddingsbyambyr Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Hot and Healthy Hookups and Sexual Citizenship with Allison Moon (Interview) | 14 Jun 2023 | 00:42:13 | |
What exactly is a "hookup"? How can we create hot, healthy, shame free hookups? Is there such a thing as good etiquette for casual sex? In this week’s episode, Effy is joined by sex educator and author Allison Moon to discuss casual sex. They discuss hookup culture and how we can and should “be excellent to each other” as members of a sexual community. Effy and Allison consider how our approach to casual sex partners can be a reflection of our humanity and what we can do as “sexual citizens” to reform hookup culture. Instagram: allison_moon Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Stability vs. Freedom: Craving Roots & Wings | 07 Jun 2023 | 00:54:10 | |
Why is it that when we feel comfy and settled, we suddenly long for passion and freedom? And conversely, why do a string of spontaneous adventures have us longing for stability? Is it possible for us to be both planted and to fly? Jacqueline revisits a conversation with Effy about how to balance the comfort of being rooted and settled with the desire for variety and passion. They share their tips for how to assess what you are craving and figure out how to deal with the discomfort and fill the gaps. Book: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Compartmentalization: Friend or Foe | 31 May 2023 | 01:03:06 | |
How important is compartmentalization when you are in multiple relationships? Can we go too far with "don't ask, don't tell"? Are there consequences to keeping parts of our lives separate? Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Relationship Evolution and Communication Tools for Modern Relationships with Multiamory's Dedeker, Emily and Jase (Interview) | 24 May 2023 | 01:01:42 | |
How can relationship structures evolve over time? How can we thrive as our relationships change? What are some essential communication tools that can support our relationships and those in it? Instagram: @multiamory_podcast Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Yoni Gazing, Self Discovery and Letters to Your Vulva and with Jocelyn Silva (Interview) | 17 May 2023 | 00:48:15 | |
What is Yoni gazing? Why would you want to look “down there”? How do you ask your partner to help? To learn more about Jocelyn Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Polyamorous While Asian with Michelle Hy (Interview) | 10 May 2023 | 00:49:01 | |
What is intersectional polyamory and how to find meaningful representation in the community? What is the impact of prescribed cultural identity on our relationships? How can we find and connect with online communities for support? Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Masturbation Month, Self Care and Political Subversion | 03 May 2023 | 00:49:15 | |
Can masturbation be an act of self care and political subversion? What are all the benefits of masturbation? If there are so many benefits of masturbation, why don’t we do it more? In this week’s episode Effy and Jacqueline have a lighthearted and wisdom packed conversation about masturbation in honor of Masturbation Month. They share their personal practices, beliefs and stories about self pleasure; explore the myths, social and religious conditioning about it, and put out a plea for a better sounding language for the topic. Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| The Sexual Shadow, Self Discovery, Shame and Pleasure with Dr Joli Hamilton (Interview) | 26 Apr 2023 | 00:59:17 | |
What is the sexual Shadow? How does it affect our individual and collective sexual expression? What are some of the ways we can get to know our Shadow material and work towards integrating it? In this week’s episode Effy explores the crossroads of Jungian psychology and sex with Dr Joli Hamilton. They take a deep dive into the sexual Shadow, the repressed, the unwanted aspects of sexuality. They discuss how — if it goes unexplored and unprocessed — this material impacts our collective and individual thoughts and behaviors when it comes to sex, affecting anything from legislation to our self talk. Effy and Dr Hamilton also celebrate the potential richness of this exploration as a way to deeply get to know ourselves.
She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required.
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| Exploring the Asexuality Spectrum with Angela Chen (Interview) | 19 Apr 2023 | 00:54:31 | |
In a hypersexualized society, what is it like to be asexual? Do asexual folks have sex? Can asexuality be an important factor for female sexual liberation? Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Hold Me Right, Surviving Sexual Violence and a Video Game with Danijela Steinfeld (Interview) | 12 Apr 2023 | 01:03:07 | |
What are the systemic factors that support rape culture? Why is it difficult for sexual assault survivors to find their voice? What does a journey towards healing look like? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Danijela Steinfeld, a Serbian-born award-winning actress and filmmaker who is the director and producer of the documentary film Hold Me Right. The film explores the traumatic aftermath and healing process for survivors and perpetrators of sexual violence. Danijela shares the story of her assault and the journey towards finding her voice, and how she is working to eliminate sexual violence through a video game called Way Out. Watch Hold Me Right: https://holdmerightfilm.vhx.tv/ Use code CURIOUSFOX for 30% off a 3-day rental of the film. To learn more about Danijela Danijela is the director and producer of Hold Me Right, a feature documentary about the traumatic aftermath and healing for victims and perpetrators of sexual violence, which also tells the story of her own traumatic experience. As an advocate and a public speaker, Danijela has been in the field of healing after trauma in a variety of roles and initiatives. Her main focus has been tackling root causes of rape culture, finding solutions and healing us all, as she believes we are all affected, directly or indirectly, by the epidemic of stigma when it comes to sexual abuse. Instagram: @danijelastajnfeld Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Sex in the Bible, an Easter Egg Hunt with De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar (Interview) | 05 Apr 2023 | 00:40:30 | |
Is there Biblical scripture that condones or encourages sexual exploration? Why would God design bodies that experience pleasure if we are not supposed to pursue pleasure? Can faith and sexuality coexist? To learn more about De-Andrea Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Dirty Talk, Travel Sex and Erotica Book Clubs with Jocelyn Silva (Interview) | 29 Mar 2023 | 00:34:57 | |
Why are people into dirty talk? What are different types of dirty talk? How can we start experimenting with verbally expressing our hottest thoughts and desires? Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Queer Health Week, Tops & Bottoms, and Butt Clocks with Dr. Carlton (Interview) | 22 Mar 2023 | 00:42:13 | |
How can you find the right doctor? What should you ask during your appointment? How can you pleasurably and safely explore anal play? What is unique about sexual health within the gay and queer community? And what is a butt clock? Erectile dysfunction, STIs, vaccinations, and safe anal play are important conversations for men – particularly queer men – to have with their doctor’s and partners. However sometimes the most important conversations are also the most difficult ones. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride and Men’s Health Month by speaking with the “butt stuff” doctor, Mayo Clinic trained gastroenterologist, Doctor Carlton.
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| Psychedelics, Healing Trauma and Sexuality with Dee Dee Goldpaugh (Interview) | 15 Mar 2023 | 00:59:38 | |
Can psychedelics be more than a party drug? How are they used in therapy and why are they so effective? What does it take to get into a psychedelic treatment program? Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Community Support and Integration Director of the Hudson Valley Psychedelic Society, psychotherapist and clinical supervisor Dee Dee Goldpaugh to discuss her work with psychedelics and their effective use in treating and healing trauma psycho-chemically as well as spiritually. Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Kink, Shame, and Sexual Healing with Rena Martine (Interview) | 08 Mar 2023 | 00:37:53 | |
What’s kink and bdsm? How can we start a conversation with our partner(s) about exploring different sexual expressions? How can kink be a healing modality? Books: Instagram: _rena.martine_ Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Fox Tales: Two Relationships, Two Homes, One Big Change with Jacqueline Misla | 01 Mar 2023 | 00:41:28 | |
How do you break out from societal norms? What does it take to design a relationship that we can thrive in? What happens when you open your mind to all the possibilities? More about Jacqueline Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Cycles, Connection to the Body and the Earth with Kathy Walkling (Interview) | 22 Feb 2023 | 00:44:59 | |
Are periods simply a burden for women to bear? Can menstruation education cause systemic change for the better in women's welfare? What are the implications of women revitalizing menstrual practices on society and the earth? In this special episode, Effy talks to the co-founder of EcoFemme Kathy Walkling about how rethinking menstruation and menstruation education can cause radical social change in women’s welfare. Kathy explains EcoFemme’s approach to menstruation that is healthy, environmentally sustainable, culturally responsive and empowering and Effy has a profound shift in her relationship with her body and the earth as the conversation unfolds.
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| Couple Privilege, Hierarchical Relationships and Valentine's Day | 15 Feb 2023 | 00:56:46 | |
What is couple privilege? How does it differ from hierarchy in relationships? How does it affect relationships? How can we design our relationships with privilege and hierarchy in mind? Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Sexual Morality, Disgust, and Bonobos with Dr. Kelly Asao (Interview) | 08 Feb 2023 | 00:43:58 | |
What is sexual morality? How do we decide what is right and wrong when it comes to sex? Is it universal or does it change across cultures? How does moralizing sexuality affect our individual sexual expression and our views on sex as a society? Broadly, I am interested in understanding human psychology from an evolutionary perspective. My core research program explores morality and mating using an interactionist approach, investigating how biological and environmental factors combine to drive behavior. Find Kelly on Research Gate Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Borderline Personality Disorder with Dr. Jerold Kreisman (Interview) | 01 Feb 2023 | 00:43:20 | |
What is borderline personality disorder and what causes it? How does it affect familial and romantic relationships? What does treatment look like? What can people with loved ones who have BPD do? On this week’s episode Effy and Jacqueline take on one of the most elusive mental health struggles that predominantly show up in the relational context with the help of psychiatrist and the author of I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality and Sometimes I Act Crazy: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder Dr. Jerold Kreisman. They discuss the characteristics of this disorder, how it impacts relationships and strategies for those who have loved ones with BPD. He is board certified in Psychiatry and is an Associate Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at St. Louis University. He is past president of the Missouri Psychiatric Association and has been designated a Distinguished Life Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. Dr. Kreisman has lectured widely in both this country and abroad, and has appeared on many media programs, including The Oprah Winfrey and Sally Jesse Raphael Shows. He has been listed in “Top Doctors,” “Best Doctors in America,” and “Patients’ Choice Doctors.” He is the author of: Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Pain and Pleasure with Leigh Cowart (Interview) | 25 Jan 2023 | 00:50:34 | |
What is masochism and why do people engage in it? What is the difference between consenting to pain as a means to an end/ byproduct of an activity (e.g., ballerinas and competitive eaters) vs. pain on purpose? What are the benefits and the costs to pain as pleasure? What does masochism have to say about the human experience? In this week’s episode, Effy and Jacqueline take a deep dive into pain for pleasure with science reporter, noted masochist and the author of Hurts So Good, Leigh Cowart. Leigh broadens our understanding of masochism by drawing parallels between the experience of people who pursue pain for sexual pleasure and those who endure pain for sense of satisfaction, achievement or self expression, such as competitive eaters, ultramarathon runners and ballet dancers. They normalize our desire for pleasure by offering an open and honest commentary of their own experiences. More about Leigh Cowart Instagram: voraciousbrain Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Gender Scripts, the Dual Control Model and Sexual Expression with Emily Nagoski (Interview) | 18 Jan 2023 | 00:56:01 | |
Why is understanding our uniqueness important to having great sex? What is the dual control model in the context of sexuality and how does it affect our desire? What steps can we take to develop a healthy relationship with sex and sexuality after experiencing trauma or sex negative conditioning? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline have a rich conversation with Dr. Emily Nagoski about how the societal scripts we are handed according to our sex-at-birth impact our sexual expression and how these scripts are endorsed through many channels throughout our lives. Emily explains how there are accelerators and brakes that calibrate our desire and talks about her upcoming book about the three characteristics of the couples who sustained strong sexual connection. Recommended books that you have to check out: To learn more about Emily Nagoski, PH.D (she/her/they) IG: @enagoski Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Big Dick Energy, The New Year, and The Soap Box | 28 Dec 2022 | 00:46:23 | |
What is Big Dick Energy (BDE)? What is the difference between having a big dick, being a big dick, and having big dick energy? Can BDE change the way we think of our lives and societies? In this final episode of the year, Effy and Jacqueline talk about the concept of Big Dick Energy, what it means to embody it, and its potential to disrupt the patriarchy. They parse apart strap-on usage and penis envy to extract their foxy new year wishes. They round off the year with a frustration-fueled Soap Box session. Happy holidays to all! Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Sex Therapy, Sexual Dysfunction and Porn Addiction with Dr. Ian Kerner (Interview) | 21 Dec 2022 | 01:03:33 | |
What is sex therapy and how is it different from other forms of therapy? What are some common concerns explored through sex therapy? What should you expect from a sex therapist and sessions alone or with partner(s)? Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Jealousy Within Non-Monogamy with Dr. Joli Hamilton (Interview) | 14 Dec 2022 | 00:59:07 | |
How does jealousy show up in non-monogamous relationships? What are some key factors that might challenge and even change our attitude towards jealousy? How can we embrace, process and learn from our jealousy? She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required Instagram: @drjoli_hamilton Want the 5-step jealousy framework from Joli's research? Grab your e-book here: http://www.ListenToJoli.com Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Nurturing Compersion According to Research with Dr. Marie Thouin (Interview) | 07 Dec 2022 | 00:57:40 | |
What is compersion? What are the factors that promote compersion and the factors that hinder it? Does it have a place outside of non-monogamy. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Marie Thouin about her research on compersion. Dr. Thouin shares the factors that promote or get in the way of nurturing compersion. Effy and Jacqueline reflect on their personal journeys with compersion, and share the highs and lows of trying to embody this most elusive feeling. To learn more about Marie https://www.instagram.com/love_insight_dating/ Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Closing the Orgasm Gap with Grace Wetzel (Interview) | 30 Nov 2022 | 00:51:05 | |
What does research say about the orgasm gap between men and women? Why do women report a significant drop in sexual pleasure when men enter the equation? Why is it important for us to have orgasm equality and what can we do collectively to close the gap? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Grace Wetzel to explore how our gendered experiences shape our sexual experiences. They look at research, which indicates that bi and straight women have the least amount of orgasms, compared to straight men, bi men, and lesbians. And they discuss why this disparity has more to do with desire than biology. To learn more about Grace Grace has dedicated her professional life to the pursuit of sexual and gender equity within and outside of academic research. Notably, she has a TEDx talk on the sexual pleasure disparity which has garnered over six million views online. She has continued to advocate for sexual equity by giving academic guest lectures, speaking at events, appearing on podcasts, and writing for newspaper outlets. Instagram: @orgasm_equality_ Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Legal Rights for Non-Nuclear Families and Same-Sex Couples with Diana Adams, Esq. (Interview) | 23 Nov 2022 | 00:58:29 | |
Why does the overturning of Roe v Wade impact same-sex marriage in the U.S.? What can same-sex couples, non-married couples, polyamorous families, triads/quads, and platonic co-parents do to protect their rights? What can we do, on a system-wide level, to protect and expand the rights of all non-nuclear families and non-traditional relationship constructs? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with LGBTQ rights lawyer and advocate, Diana Adams, about the very real concerns non-traditional individuals and families should have about their rights within the United States. They discuss strategies that individuals, families, and communities can take to protect their rights outside of the marriage construct and explore how we arrived here, as a nation, and what we can do to create a different and more inclusive future. IG: @DianaAdamsEsq www.ChosenFamilyLawCenter.org Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Talking to Kids about Sex, Gender, and Relationships with Cory Silverberg (Interview) | 16 Nov 2022 | 00:58:31 | |
What is the distinction between talking with children about their bodies, about sexuality, and about sex? And why is it important to talk about each? What are some barriers for adults to have these conversations with the children in their lives? How can we ensure that our conversations about sex are age appropriate…and what does “age appropriate” mean anyway? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with children’s non-fiction author Cory Silverberg about having expansive conversations with children about sex and sexuality, including consent, body autonomy, pleasure, relationships, and identity - all grounded in the child’s experience. They discuss the building blocks that support honest dialogue between children and trusted adults, as well as some of the barriers and pitfalls adults can come across when talking to the kids in their lives. More about Cory Cory spends a lot of time reading, writing, and talking about sex and gender and are happiest working with others. Cory was a founding member of the Come As You Are Co-operative and worked as a researcher and television consultant for over 10 years. Cory is a core team member of ANTE UP!, a virtual professional freedom school founded by Bianca I Laureano. They also spend a lot of time helping other people make books. Cory is the co-author of four books including What Makes a Baby, the ALA Stonewall Honor Book Sex Is a Funny Word, and the forthcoming You Know, Sex, all with Fiona Smyth. Cory has been featured on NPR’s Fresh Air, and their books have been called “the books about sex that every family should read” by the New York Times. Cory's life is full of kids. All of them know where babies come from. Some know more. Learn more about Cory at www.corysilverberg.com. Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Unpacking Infidelity, Surviving the Earthquake | 09 Nov 2022 | 00:39:55 | |
What happens to a relationship after there is betrayal? Is it possible to rebuild after trust is destroyed? Can infidelity exist within a non-monogamous relationship? Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Disorganized Attachment with Julie Menanno (Interview) | 02 Nov 2022 | 00:56:01 | |
Are outbursts, a chronic lack of trust, and an unpredictable fluctuation between avoidant and anxious behavior a sign of disorganized attachment? What is disorganized attachment? How does it affect relationships? Why don’t we hear more about this attachment style? Can we move from disorganized attachment to secure attachment? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist - and self proclaimed attachment nerd - Julie Menanno, to explore the least mentioned and most elusive attachment style: disorganized AKA fearful avoidant. Drawing from personal experience, they unpack developmental traumas that result in disorganized attachment and discuss strategies for healing and moving towards a more secure connection.
While Julie’s first passion is treating couples, she also provides invaluable relationship insights and advice to nearly 1 million followers on Instagram. She is currently working with Simon and Schuster on a book, Secure Love. In addition to her work as an author and social media creator, Julie hosts a bi-weekly Patreon discussion group on a variety of relationship and self-help topics. She is a public speaker and a regular guest on podcasts. IG: @thesecurerelationship Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||
| Sex, Islam and Iran with Seyran Ateş (Interview) | 26 Oct 2022 | 00:59:52 | |
What are the core tenants of Islam and the Qur'an and how do they apply to sexuality? What is the significance of the hijab (headscarf)? What would it take for Islam to have a sexual revolution? On this many-months-in-the-making episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with female Imam, human rights lawyer, and the author of the book Islam Needs a Sexual Revolution, Seyran Ateş about Islam and sexuality. They dive into the history of the religion; discuss the perception of women within the Muslim faith; examine the protests in Iran following the death of Mahsa Amani in police custody; and attempt to parse apart religion from the patriarchy. More about Seyran Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seyranates_official/ Connect with us on IG and more: Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com | |||