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In this episode, we’re digging into a topic every therapist (and parent) bumps into sooner or later: apologies — and how to teach kids and teens to do them well.
We’ll explore why the word “sorry” often falls flat, what gets in the way of real repair, and how you can introduce a simple, therapist-friendly tool: the H.E.A.R. method.
Whether you’re working with young kids, tweens, teens, or even parent-child dyads, this tool can help make apology a skill — not just a reflex.
✨Why Apology Is a Skill — Not a Script
As child and teen therapists, we know the truth: most kids don’t apologize because they feel deep remorse — they apologize because they’re told to.
And often, those apologies come out like this:
“I’m sorry… BUT he started it.”
“I said I was sorry already!”
Cue dramatic side eye!
That’s why we need to slow the process down and teach kids (and caregivers!!) that a real apology is more than a word — it’s a repair tool. When done right, apologies build trust, foster emotional awareness, and create space for reconnection.
My favorite part about this is teaching PARENTS/CAREGIVERS how to apologize in a healthy way. s — and how good does that feel?!