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184. Bullying Prevention Can Start With a Conversation28 Oct 202600:17:15

Bullying Prevention Can Start With a Conversation

Bullying prevention doesn’t end when October does. In this episode, I share how I'm using simple conversations and relatable scenarios with students in grades 4–6 to explore bullying and safe ways to respond.

In this episode:

  • Understanding bullying, hurtful behavior, and power imbalances.
  • Using everyday situations to spark meaningful discussion.
  • Helping students become upstanders without putting themselves at risk.
  • Continuing prevention through empathy, perspective taking, and problem-solving.

Your quick win: Share one fictional scenario and ask: “What do you notice? What else would we need to know? What could someone do to help safely?”

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183. The School Counselor Scaries Nobody Prepared You For21 Oct 202600:17:25

The School Counselor Scaries Nobody Prepared You For

From heated parent emails and surprise Spirit Week duties to an invisible bug in a kindergartener’s shoe, school counseling includes plenty of moments that never appeared in the syllabus. In this episode, Carol shares a humorous—and heartfelt—look at the unexpected sides of the job.

In this episode:

  • The everyday surprises that require creativity and a sense of humor.
  • The serious situations that call for teamwork and support.
  • Why being capable doesn’t mean everything should become your responsibility.

Your takeaway: You don’t have to know everything or handle it alone. Share a laugh with a colleague, ask the question, and reach out when you need support.


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182. What is the little wooden ball in School Counseling?14 Oct 202600:12:59

Even Busy Bees Make Time to Play

Feeling burned out—and it’s only October? In this episode of Counselor Chat, Carol shares a surprising discovery about playful bumblebees and a reminder that counselors deserve time for enjoyment, too.

In this episode:

  • How the pressure to stay productive can crowd out joy.
  • Why wellness includes addressing workload and asking for support.
  • Simple ways to make room for something you enjoy without creating another obligation.

Your quick win: Find your “little wooden ball”—one activity you enjoy simply for yourself—and give it a small place in your week.


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181. The One Question That Makes a Think Sheet Work07 Oct 202600:18:26

The One Question That Makes a Think Sheet Work

When “Why did you do that?” leads to a shrug or “I don’t know,” where do you go next? In this episode of Counselor Chat, Carol shares how rewinding the situation and asking “What were you hoping would happen?” can help students reflect and practice a more helpful response.

In this episode:

  • How to explore what a student was thinking and feeling before a conflict.
  • Ways to respond when students struggle to explain their actions.
  • How to turn vague promises into specific, practiced next steps.
  • Using think sheets to support accountability, repair, and learning.

Your quick win: Try the question with one student this week, then practice one realistic next step together.

Resources mentioned:

Think Sheets PowerPoint (Grab this free!)

Think Sheets


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180. Four Teambuilding Class Lessons For School Counselors30 Sep 202600:18:15

Four Team-Building Lessons Students Will Actually Enjoy

Team building doesn’t have to require complicated materials or hours of preparation. In this episode of Counselor Chat, Carol shares four engaging lessons that get students moving, communicating, and working together.

You’ll hear how to use:

  • Pass the Pencil to build connections
  • Human Taco to strengthen communication and inclusion
  • Shipwrecked to practice problem-solving and respectful disagreement
  • 4 Corners to discover common ground and appreciate different perspectives

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179. Your First Counseling Small Group Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect23 Sep 202600:26:27
Your First Counseling Small Group Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect

Starting your first counseling group can feel overwhelming. Are the right students selected? What should the permission form include? What if students don’t participate—or the lesson falls flat?

In this episode of Counselor Chat, we’re taking the pressure off and focusing on what you truly need to launch a purposeful, safe, and effective small group.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Select students thoughtfully
  • Handle family permission and student assent
  • Create clear group expectations
  • Use a simple, repeatable session structure
  • Measure student progress without complicated data
  • Adjust your curriculum as student needs emerge

Your students don’t need a perfect group counselor. They need someone who is prepared, present, and willing to learn alongside them.


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178. Small Groups: Who Should You Start With First?16 Sep 202600:34:49
Small Groups: Who Should You Start With First?

You have time to run only a few counseling groups—but your referral list keeps growing. How do you decide which group should come first?

In this episode of Counselor Chat, we explore how to choose small groups based on your school’s current data and student needs instead of automatically repeating the groups you ran last year.

You’ll learn:

  • Which school data sources can help identify group needs
  • How to distinguish patterns from isolated incidents
  • Three important filters: need, fit, and feasibility
  • Why the most requested group may not be the highest priority
  • What to consider when selecting group members
  • How to create measurable group goals
  • Simple ways to collect data before, during, and after a group
  • How to support students whose groups cannot begin immediately

The goal isn’t to run the most groups possible. It’s to run the right groups for the students who need them now.

Links:

My favorite Small Groups:

K-3 Girls Friendship Group

4-8 Girls Friendship Group

K-3 Impulse Control Group

K-2 Coping Skills Group

1-4 Anxiety Group

4-8 Having Hope Group

HS Anxiety Group


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177. Creating SMART Goals for Your School Counseling Program09 Sep 202600:35:23

A strong counseling SMART goal does more than meet a requirement—it gives your program direction, connects your work to student needs, and helps others understand the impact school counselors make.

In this episode, we explore how to create a meaningful, data-informed SMART goal and use your annual administrator conference to gain support, clarify expectations, and align your counseling program with school and district priorities.

You’ll learn:

  • How to move from an activity-based goal to a student outcome goal
  • What data to consider when identifying a program priority
  • How to use the annual administrator conference to build administrator buy-in
  • Ways your goal can help advocate for your role and appropriate use of time
  • How to map your goal across the school year
  • Why participation, student standards, and achievement data all matter
  • How regular checkpoints help you adjust your plan before the end of the year

Your SMART goal shouldn’t be a document you write and forget. It can become a roadmap for your program, a foundation for collaboration, and a powerful way to show how school counseling supports student success.

ASCA National Model 5th Edition Free Download


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176. 8 Counseling Office Must-Haves I Actually Use02 Sep 202600:24:28

What counseling office supplies truly earn their shelf space? In this episode of Counselor Chat, I share eight tried-and-true favorites she uses to organize lessons, reuse counseling resources, improve classroom management, and make games and groups run more smoothly.

In This Episode, You Will Learn

A simple system for storing lesson pieces and reusable group materials

Why a wider laminator can be worth the investment

How laminating helps turn lessons, games, and worksheets into reusable tools

The presentation-clicker tip that can save you from searching the classroom

A quieter, easier solution to dice rolling during counseling games

How Yikerz naturally supports impulse control and flexible thinking

Why a familiar game like Chutes and Ladders still works with older students

Shop My Counseling Office Favorites

Clear project cases

Scotch Pro 13-inch laminator

Bulk laminating pouches

Presentation clicker

Sterilite clear latching bins

Pop-o-matic dice poppers

Yikerz magnetic game

Chutes and Ladders

Download the free guide


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175. The Counselor Introduction Lesson Students Actually Need26 Aug 202600:18:00

Your counselor introduction lesson is more than a back-to-school formality. It is one of the first ways you build trust, increase access, and help students understand when and how to ask for support.

In this episode of Counselor Chat, Carol shares what students actually need to hear during a counselor introduction lesson—and what you can skip.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Explain your role in student-friendly language
  • Help students understand when they might come see you
  • Clearly explain confidentiality
  • Teach students exactly how to request support
  • Reduce the stigma that counseling means “being in trouble”
  • Make your lesson interactive and memorable
  • Give students a few key messages they can carry with them all year

The goal is not for students to memorize what a school counselor does. It is for them to know, “I know who my counselor is, I know how to reach them, and I know they can help.”

Intro Lessons:

Meet the School Counselor Tic-Tac-Toe

School Counselor BINGO

Meet the School Counselor Lesson Plan


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174. The First 30 Days: What School Counselors Should Focus On13 Aug 202600:31:49

The first month of school can make counselors feel like they need to do everything at once—but you don’t.

Here's a simple roadmap for the first 30 days of school, including what to prioritize, what can wait, and how to build a strong foundation for the rest of the year.

You’ll hear practical ideas for:

  • Building relationships with students and staff
  • Creating simple referral and counseling systems
  • Using data and needs assessments to guide your program
  • Strengthening Tier 1 supports
  • Protecting your time before your calendar fills up
  • Organizing your counseling program without starting from scratch

Resources Mentioned:

From TpT:


All these resources and more are included in Perks Counseling Content Club

You do not have to have the entire year figured out in September. Focus on the foundation first.


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173. Nice Bike: Three Small Actions That Can Change School Culture29 Jul 202600:17:48
Nice Bike: Three Small Actions That Can Change School Culture

What if changing school culture did not require a big program, a new initiative, or another committee?

In this episode of Counselor Chat, Carol shares the powerful message behind Mark Scharenbroich’s “Nice Bike” story and explores three simple ways school counselors can strengthen relationships throughout their buildings: acknowledge, honor, and connect.

You will hear practical examples of how small moments of recognition can help students and staff feel seen, valued, and connected—and how those moments can create ripple effects throughout an entire school community.

In This Episode:
  • Why two simple words can open the door to connection
  • The difference between acknowledging and honoring someone
  • How specific recognition builds trust and belonging
  • Why connection needs to happen before a crisis
  • Simple ways to positively influence school culture every day

School culture is not built through one special event. It is built through the way people are treated, one interaction at a time.


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172. Tales From A Train Station (ICYMI)22 Jul 202600:23:51

In this second episode of our Back to School series, I’m diving into a topic that’s incredibly important for us as school counselors—how to make sure the vital work we do doesn’t go unnoticed.

Too often, despite the significant impact we have, our efforts can go unseen by those around us.

In this episode, I emphasize the importance of:

  • Advocating for Our Role: Ensuring that the value of our work is communicated so it doesn’t get overlooked.

  • Sharing Successes: Highlighting the progress of our students with colleagues and administrators to build awareness and appreciation for the counseling role.

  • Collaboration is Key: Being seen as integral members of the school team by actively participating in and contributing to the broader educational environment.

  • Impactful Interventions: Recognizing the power of empathy and understanding in counseling.

  • Building a Supportive Environment: Advocating for ourselves to help create a school culture where our contributions are respected and supported.

Join me as we explore how to ensure our work is visible, valued, and celebrated as we head into what I hope will be our best school year yet!

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171. Making Waves That Matter: Small Actions, Big Impact15 Jul 202600:21:43

In this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m sharing a reminder that school counselors create impact in ways that are not always immediate, visible, or easy to measure.

From a quick student check-in to a meaningful conversation with a teacher, small actions can create ripple effects that travel farther than we may ever realize. You do not have to make a huge splash to make a difference.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Why small, consistent actions matter
  • The ripple effects counselors create every day
  • Why impact is not always measured by data alone
  • How students may carry our encouragement longer than we know
  • Why continued learning helps us make stronger waves

Takeaway:

You are already making waves. Every conversation, check-in, lesson, and moment of encouragement can matter more than you realize.

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170. Dear Tired Counselor: You’re Allowed to Rest From Being Tired08 Jul 202600:14:59
Dear Tired Counselor: You’re Allowed to Rest From Being Tired

In this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m sharing a summer permission slip for counselors who may be on break but still feel completely worn out.

Being away from school does not automatically mean your mind and body have caught up after a demanding year. This episode is a reminder that you do not need to turn July into another to-do list, school improvement plan, or race to get ahead for August.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Why being on break does not always mean feeling rested
  • Letting go of the pressure to be productive all summer
  • Trusting that your work mattered, even when you cannot see every outcome
  • Releasing unfinished things from the school year
  • Three gentle reflection questions for a summer reset

Takeaway:

  • You do not have to earn rest by being exhausted enough. You are allowed to let summer be summer.


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169. The Game-Changer I Wish I Had Found Sooner: Restorative Practices01 Jul 202600:37:55
The Game-Changer I Wish I Had Found Sooner: Restorative Practices

In this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m sharing why restorative practices became one of the most meaningful shifts in my school counseling work.

Restorative practices are not about avoiding accountability or forcing students to say sorry. They are about helping students understand impact, repair harm, build skills, and remain connected to their school community.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Why consequences alone do not always teach the skills students need
  • Moving from “What rule was broken?” to “Who was affected?”
  • Why repair is bigger than a forced apology
  • How circles can build connection before conflict happens
  • Simple restorative questions counselors can begin using right away

Takeaway:

Students can take responsibility for their actions and still know they belong. Restorative practices help us hold accountability and humanity at the same time.

Resources Mentioned:



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168. Being the Last to Leave Didn’t Make Me Amazing: Boundaries I Wish I Set Earlier24 Jun 202600:40:54
Being the Last to Leave Didn’t Make Me Amazing: Boundaries I Wish I Set Earlier

In this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m continuing the series on things I wish I had done earlier in my school counseling career — and this one is all about boundaries.

For a long time, I thought staying late, saying yes, and being endlessly available meant I was dedicated. But looking back, I can see that being the last car in the parking lot didn’t make me a better counselor. It just made me tired.

In this episode, I’m sharing the boundaries I wish I had set earlier, including time boundaries, emotional boundaries, role boundaries, communication boundaries, and personal life boundaries. I also reflect on why school counselors often feel guilty setting limits — and why boundaries are actually what help us stay effective, compassionate, and sustainable in this work.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Why overworking is not the same as being effective
  • The difference between being dependable and being endlessly available
  • Why school counselors need role clarity
  • How guilt shows up when we start setting boundaries
  • Simple scripts for saying no or pausing before saying yes
  • Why leaving on time does not mean you care less
  • How boundaries protect your energy, family, and long-term career

Takeaway:

You can care deeply about students and still have limits. Being a good counselor does not require burning yourself out.

Reflection question:

What would change if you believed you could be a good counselor without being endlessly available?


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167. I Didn’t Know What I Didn’t Know: Why Conferences Changed My Counseling Practice17 Jun 202600:30:42
I Didn’t Know What I Didn’t Know: Why Conferences Changed My Counseling Practice

In this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m sharing why professional development and conferences became such a turning point in my school counseling career. Early on, I didn’t fully realize how much I could learn outside of my own building — or how much my perspective was limited by only knowing my own experiences.

I’ll talk about finally attending my first conference, creating a small local conference for counselors, and how trainings in restorative practices and trauma, illness, and grief have deeply changed the way I support students, staff, and school communities.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Why professional development is not “extra”
  • How conferences expand your perspective
  • The power of learning from other counselors
  • Why asking to attend training matters
  • How restorative practices and crisis-response training changed my work

Takeaway:

You don’t know what you don’t know — and sometimes one conference, one training, or one new idea can change your entire practice.

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166. Summer Series-What I Wish I Had Done Earlier: Invest in My Future10 Jun 202600:41:00
What I Wish I Had Done Earlier: Invest in My Future

In this episode of Counselor Chat, we’re kicking off a new reflective series about the things I wish I had done earlier in my school counseling career. First up: investing in my future.

This episode is not financial advice, but it is a gentle reminder that school counselors spend so much time helping students plan their futures that we sometimes forget to plan for our own. I’m sharing why I wish I had started asking questions about retirement, savings, and long-term planning earlier — and why taking even one small step now can make a difference for future you.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Why future planning matters for school counselors
  • The importance of asking questions about retirement and benefits
  • How small steps can add up over time
  • Why confusion should not keep you from starting
  • Caring for your future self without guilt or shame

Takeaway:

You are allowed to care deeply about your students and still care about your own future. Future you is worth planning for.


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165. Celebrating Growth (Even When It Doesn’t Feel Like Enough)03 Jun 202600:14:47
Celebrating Growth (Even When It Doesn’t Feel Like Enough)

As the school year comes to a close, it's easy to focus on the students we didn't quite reach, the goals that aren't fully accomplished, and the work that still feels unfinished. But what if success isn't always found in the big moments?

In this episode of Counselor Chat, we'll explore how school counselors can reframe success by recognizing the quiet growth that often goes unnoticed. From students who finally ask for help to those who simply know they have a safe adult at school, these small wins matter more than we sometimes realize.

In This Episode:
  • Why growth is often messy, slow, and easy to overlook
  • The small victories counselors should be celebrating
  • A touching story about a former student whose life was changed by a simple belief in his potential
  • Why students often remember the little things we do
  • How counselors amplify student success every day
  • The importance of recognizing your own growth as a counselor

Key Takeaway

Success doesn't always arrive as a dramatic transformation. Sometimes it sounds like:

  • "Can I see my emotional support person?"
  • "Thanks for always listening."
  • "You made me think I could actually do this."

The relationships, encouragement, and consistency you provide matter more than you may ever know.

As you wrap up the school year, take a moment to celebrate the quiet victories—both your students' growth and your own. 💛


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164. The Students You’re Still Worried About29 May 202600:17:36
The Students You’re Still Worried About

As the school year winds down, most people are focused on celebrations, graduations, and summer plans. But school counselors know there’s another side to this season—the students we're still thinking about.

In this heartfelt episode of Counselor Chat, we'll talk about the students who stay on our minds long after the final bell rings. The students who still struggle with friendships, attendance, anxiety, family challenges, or simply finding their place in the world.

You'll learn:

  • Why it's normal to worry about certain students as summer approaches
  • What you can realistically do before the school year ends
  • Simple ways to help students identify supports and prepare for summer
  • How to effectively hand off information to next year's team
  • Why counselors need to remember they are only one chapter—not the entire story

In This Episode:

✔️ Supporting vulnerable students before summer break

✔️ Creating meaningful final check-ins

✔️ Helping students identify trusted adults and support systems

✔️ Transition planning and counselor-to-counselor handoffs

✔️ Letting go of the pressure to "fix everything" before June

✔️ Trusting that the seeds you've planted will continue to grow

Key Takeaway

You don't have to solve every problem before summer. Sometimes the greatest gift we give students is consistency, connection, and the reminder that they matter.

The fact that you're still worried about certain students doesn't mean you haven't done enough—it means you cared deeply.

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If this episode resonated with you, share it with another school counselor who may be carrying the weight of unfinished stories as the school year comes to a close.

Until next time, remember: the relationships matter, the small moments matter, and you matter too. 💛


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163. Helping Students Transition Well (Without Adding One More Thing to Your Plate)20 May 202600:17:16
163. Helping Students Transition Well

As school counselors, we spend so much time managing schedules, testing, field trips, celebrations, and end-of-year chaos that it’s easy to forget what many students are experiencing underneath it all: transition.

In this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m talking about how transitions affect students emotionally and how we can support them in simple, meaningful ways without adding one more giant project to our already busy season.

From elementary students moving to middle school, to seniors preparing to graduate, students often carry fears, uncertainty, excitement, grief, and anxiety all at the same time. The good news? Supporting them doesn’t have to involve complicated lessons, elaborate crafts, or Pinterest-perfect projects.

In this episode, I share realistic and manageable ideas that help students process change, reflect on growth, and move forward with confidence.

In this episode, we discuss:
  • Why transitions can feel emotionally overwhelming for students
  • Common fears students have when moving to middle school and high school
  • The importance of normalizing emotions during times of change
  • Easy reflection and closure activities for different grade levels
  • How simple conversations can create lasting impact
  • Ways to support graduating seniors emotionally
  • Why counselors don’t need giant productions to create meaningful moments

Favorite Quote from the Episode:“Simple is often better because it’s realistic and repeatable, and students remember how they felt, who listened, and who helped them feel seen.”Resources Mentioned:Year End Review Discussion Questions

Summer Counselor Conference

Remember, meaningful does not have to mean complicated.

You are making a bigger difference than you realize.


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162. The 3 Pieces of Data School Counselors Should Grab Right Now13 May 202600:19:28
Don’t Wait Until June: The 3 Pieces of Data You Should Grab Right Now

In this episode of Counselor Chat, we're talking about one of the biggest end-of-year stressors for school counselors: DATA. But instead of overcomplicating things with giant spreadsheets and impossible tracking systems, this episode focuses on the simple, meaningful information that actually matters.

If you’ve ever found yourself in May wondering:

  • “Where did this year go?”
  • “Did I track enough?”
  • “How am I supposed to summarize my counseling program?”

…this episode is for you.

Carol shares:

  • The 3 pieces of data every school counselor should gather before the year ends
  • Why simple data is still powerful
  • Easy ways to use the information you already have
  • How stories and student growth make your impact visible
  • Why presentation matters when sharing your counseling program with administrators and stakeholders

She also shares practical examples from her own district counseling program and explains how data can help guide next year’s counseling priorities—not just “prove” what you did this year.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

✔️ Why more data does NOT always mean better data

✔️ The importance of tracking the scope of your counseling work

✔️ Simple ways to show student growth and outcomes

✔️ Why stories and student quotes matter

✔️ What NOT to do during May survival season 😅

✔️ How to create visuals that make your counseling program shine

✔️ How data can help shape next year’s counseling goals and supports

The 3 Types of Data to Collect Right Now1. What You Did
  • Classroom lessons
  • Small groups
  • Individual sessions
  • Crisis response
  • Parent meetings
  • Attendance and behavior interventions
  • Community circles
  • Career activities

2. What Changed
  • Pre/post surveys
  • Attendance improvements
  • Coping skills growth
  • Teacher observations
  • Student reflections
  • Behavior changes

3. Stories
  • Student quotes
  • Teacher feedback
  • Parent comments
  • Success moments
  • Impact stories that bring your work to life

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This free counseling report template helps school counselors summarize the highlights of their school counseling program into an eye-catching, professional format that is perfect for:

  • Administrators
  • Advisory councils
  • Staff meetings
  • Program advocacy
  • End-of-year reflection

It’s designed to help you showcase:

  • Lessons taught
  • Groups facilitated
  • Student impact
  • Program highlights
  • Counseling outcomes

…without spending hours creating reports from scratch.

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161. How to Choose an SEL Curriculum06 May 202600:12:42

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160. Simple Mental Health Supports Every School Can Use Right Now29 Apr 202600:18:20

Episode 160: Simple Mental Health Supports Every School Can Use Right Now

Mental Health Awareness Month is coming up, and I know how easy it is to feel like you need to do more.

Add another lesson. Try something new. Fit one more thing into an already full schedule.

In this episode, I share a different perspective. Supporting student mental health is not about adding something big. It is about what is already happening in your day and how you show up in those moments.

I walk through simple, realistic ways I support student mental health that do not require extra time or complicated planning. These are things you can start using right away.

In this episode:

  • Why mental health support is not limited to a lesson, a week, or a specific month
  • How everyday interactions shape how students feel and respond
  • Simple ways to support students without overwhelming your schedule
  • The role consistency plays in helping students feel safe
  • How to support your own mental health while supporting others

Practical Ways to Support Mental Health:

  • Checking in with students in small, informal moments throughout the day
  • Helping students understand that all feelings are valid and worth sharing
  • Teaching a few coping strategies and practicing them regularly
  • Creating predictable routines so students know what to expect
  • Making space for connection through simple conversations
  • Using tools like calm down kits to support regulation when needed

"You are not responsible for doing everything. You are responsible for doing what you can with intention."

Resources Mentioned:

Calm Down Kit Freebie!

High School Mental Health Lesson

Feelings Check Ins


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159. You Don’t Have to Do It All: Letting Go This Time of Year22 Apr 202600:10:40
Episode Title:

Rocks, Sand, and the Pressure to Do It All (Especially in April)

Episode Summary:

April can feel like a breaking point for school counselors. Between testing, behavior challenges, end-of-year responsibilities, and ongoing student needs, it’s easy to feel like you’re falling behind.

In this episode, I'm sharing a powerful perspective shift using the classic “jar of rocks” story to help you refocus your time, energy, and expectations. This is your reminder that you were never meant to do it all—and that doing less of what doesn’t matter can actually help you do more of what does.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
  • Why April feels especially overwhelming for school counselors
  • The hidden “invisible checklist” many counselors carry
  • How to identify your “rocks” (what matters most right now)
  • The difference between rocks, pebbles, and sand in your daily work
  • Why letting go is a strategic decision, not a failure
  • A simple mindset shift to reduce overwhelm immediately

Key Takeaway:“You were never meant to do it all.”Reflection Questions:
  • What are your rocks right now?
  • Where are you spending time on sand instead of what matters most?
  • What is one thing you can let go of this week?
  • Where are you already making a difference (even if it doesn’t feel like it)?

You don’t have to do everything to make a difference.

You just have to focus on what matters most.

And right now… that’s enough. 💛


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158. Test Anxiety Isn’t Just Nerves—Here’s What Students Really Need15 Apr 202600:11:19
Test Anxiety Isn’t Just Nerves—Here’s What Students Really Need

Test anxiety is everywhere this time of year, but it doesn’t always look the way we expect.

It’s not just nervous students biting their nails.

It’s avoidance.

Shutdown.

Frustration.

“I don’t care.”

In this episode, I’m breaking down what test anxiety really looks like, what’s happening in the brain, and how we can support students with simple, effective strategies that build confidence and calm.

💡 What You’ll Learn
  • Why test anxiety is often misunderstood
  • How overwhelm—not defiance—is driving behavior
  • A simple way to explain anxiety to students
  • How confidence and identity impact test performance

🧠 What’s Really Happening

When students feel stressed, their brains flip into alarm mode.

  • Heart rate increases
  • Thinking becomes foggy
  • Focus drops

It’s not that they don’t know the material…

👉 Their brain is trying to protect them.

🎨 Easy Activities to Support Students
  • Color-by-code coping activities
  • Confidence statement practice
  • Collaborative classroom posters with calming messages

Simple. Low prep. High impact.

✨ Key Takeaway“They care a lot… they just don’t feel capable.”🎁 Resources Mentioned

Color by Code Test Taking SKills

Test Strategies Game

Test Prep Motivators

Test Prep Collaborative Poster


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157. Why I Don’t Make Kids Apologize (And What I Do Instead)08 Apr 202600:09:26

Why I Don’t Make Kids Apologize (And What I Do Instead)

💭 Episode Overview

We’ve all said it:

“Go apologize.”

But what if that moment isn’t actually teaching accountability?

In this episode, I’m sharing why I don’t force apologies—and what I do instead to help students take real ownership, build empathy, and repair relationships in a meaningful way.

🔑 Key Takeaways
  • An apology is not the same as accountability
  • Forced apologies often teach compliance—not empathy
  • Students need understanding before they can offer a genuine repair
  • Slowing down the process leads to better long-term behavior and relationships

✨ Key Insight“When we force an apology before a student is ready, we’re not teaching empathy… we’re teaching compliance.”🛠️ Resources Mentioned

Think Sheets


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156. Spring Fever Is Real: Managing Big Energy & Bigger Behaviors01 Apr 202600:17:02

Episode Title:

156. Spring Fever Is Real: Managing Big Energy & Bigger Behaviors

🌱 Episode Overview

April is here—and with it comes big energy, distracted students, and behaviors that can leave teachers feeling overwhelmed.

But what if those behaviors aren’t defiance…

What if they’re communication?

In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful reframe that will shift how you see student behavior this time of year—plus simple, practical strategies you can use immediately to support regulation, connection, and readiness to learn.

💡 What You’ll Learn
  • Why “spring fever” is really a perfect storm of unmet needs
  • How to reframe behavior from frustration to understanding
  • The connection between regulation, belonging, and behavior
  • Why community and purpose matter for both staff and students

🛠️ Quick Tier 1 Strategies You Can Use Right Away

1. Brain Breaks with Purpose

  • Cross-body movements to support focus
  • 60-second resets for breathing + attention
  • Intentional movement (not just “random wiggle time”)

2. Reset Routines After Transitions

  • Build in a 1–2 minute reset after lunch, recess, or specials
  • Use simple check-ins or grounding exercises
  • Don’t expect instant regulation—teach it

3. Calm Down Spaces That Actually Work

  • Focus on regulation—not punishment
  • Include tools students already know how to use
  • Practice when students are calm (not just overwhelmed)
  • Consider portable calm down kits for smaller classrooms

✨ Key Takeaway“They’re not just acting out… they’re overwhelmed.”

When we shift from asking

“How do I stop this behavior?”

to asking

“What does this student need right now?”

…that’s where real change happens.

Resources Mentioned

Behavior Toolkit

Calm Down Kit


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155. How Long Is a Lifetime? (And What Are You Going to Do With Yours?)25 Mar 202600:09:57
Episode 155. How Long Is a Lifetime?

This week on Counselor Chat, I’m zooming out.

Over the past few weeks we’ve talked about college exploration, career research, brackets, and future possibilities. But in this episode I wanted to step back and ask a bigger question — one I ask my upper elementary and middle school students every year:

How long is a lifetime?

To explore that question, I use a simple visual with jellybeans, where each one represents a day of life. When students see them all laid out it feels like forever… until we start sorting them into things like sleeping, working, and everyday routines.

That’s when perspective shifts.

When we do the math together, students realize the average person may spend about 43 years working before retirement. And that leads to one of my favorite questions to ask them:

“If you’re going to spend 43 years working, how do you want those years to feel?”

Instead of focusing only on what job they want someday, students begin thinking about the kind of life they want to build — and how the effort and skills they build now create opportunities later.

In This Episode

• The jellybean lifetime visual and why it resonates with students

• How I help students see the value of their time and future choices

• Why asking students how they want life to feel changes the conversation

• The connection between effort today and opportunities later

• The transferable skills that prepare students for any career path

Sometimes the most powerful lessons aren’t about choosing a career yet.

They’re about helping students understand that their time matters.

Because when you see your life represented by jellybeans, it becomes real.

Resource Mentioned

Future Plans Lesson (How Long Is A Lifetime?)


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154. March Madness and School Counseling18 Mar 202600:11:43

154. March Madness and School Counseling

March Madness already brings energy into our school buildings.

Students are talking about brackets.

There’s excitement.

Competition.

Predictions about who will win.

In this episode, I share how I take that same excitement and turn it into a college and career exploration experience that students find engaging and meaningful.

Because if there’s one thing I want students to feel about their futures, it’s this:

I want their future to feel exciting, not overwhelming.

So instead of basketball teams…

I create a Future Bracket Challenge.

As I tell my students during this lesson:

“What if your future had its own bracket?”

What if colleges competed for you?

What if careers battled it out?

And what if you got to decide what makes it to your Final Four?

In This Episode

• How to turn March Madness energy into meaningful college and career exploration

• The College Research Pennant Project and how it makes research feel celebratory instead of overwhelming

• The Career Research Pennant Project that helps students connect education pathways to real careers

• A Career Cluster Bracket Challenge that encourages critical thinking and reflection

• A Sweet 16 Skills Bracket that explores essential future workplace skills

• Reflection questions that help students identify what matters most in their future

These activities help students begin to see their future not as something distant or intimidating…

But something they can start exploring right now.

Resources Mentioned

Career Research Pennant Project

College Research Pennant Project

These ready-to-use templates include structured research sections and resource links, so students can focus on exploration rather than teachers building materials from scratch.


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153. Shamrocks, Rainbows and Gold: St. Patrick’s Day SEL That Actually Works11 Mar 202600:15:06

153. Shamrocks, Rainbows, and Gold: St. Patrick’s Day SEL That Actually Works

March in an elementary school often comes with a little extra magic.

Leprechaun footprints.

Construction paper rainbows.

Gold coins hidden in classrooms.

But seasonal fun doesn’t have to mean fluffy lessons.

In this episode, I'm sharing creative ways to turn St. Patrick’s Day excitement into meaningful social-emotional learning experiences that students will actually remember.

You’ll hear simple strategies you can use right away to teach growth mindset, resilience, goal setting, impulse control, and emotional regulation — all while leaning into the fun of the season.

As I remind students during one of these lessons:

“Some people think leprechauns bring the gold… but what if the real gold comes from effort?”In This Episode

• A Luck vs Effort growth mindset lesson students love

• How to use rainbows to teach goal setting

• Turning leprechaun traps into problem-solving activities

• A character traits treasure hunt with gold coins

• A gratitude shift from “I’m lucky because…” to “I worked hard for…”

• A playful impulse control lesson: Leprechaun Trick or Think

• Rainbow Regulation coping strategies for younger students

These activities help students understand that success isn’t about luck.

It’s about effort, perseverance, and learning along the way.

Seasonal lessons can absolutely be fun.

But when you add purpose, reflection, and conversation, they become something much more powerful.

Because when students are laughing, engaged, and thinking…

That’s when the learning sticks.

And that might just be the real pot of gold.

Resources Mentioned

Luck vs Effort Lesson

Lucky Day Icebreakers

Being Golden with your Cyber Smarts


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152. MTSS-B Made Simple: How Teams Decide What Students Really Need04 Mar 202600:21:40

Behavior concerns often land squarely on the school counselor’s shoulders, leaving counselors feeling overwhelmed, reactive, and stretched thin.

In this episode of Counselor Chat, I'm breaking down MTSS for Behavior (MTSSB) in a clear, practical way that centers teamwork, intentional decision-making, and counselor sustainability.

This conversation moves away from compliance and paperwork and toward systems that actually work for students and the adults who support them.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
  1. What MTSSB really means and why it matters
  2. The difference between reacting to behavior and responding intentionally
  3. Why behavior decisions should always be team-based
  4. How to think about Tier 1, Tier 2, and Tier 3 supports without overwhelm
  5. What data-informed decisions look like in real school settings
  6. How a clear intervention menu reduces emotional decision-making and burnout

Key Quote“MTSSB isn’t about reacting faster. It’s about responding smarter.”Reflection Questions from the Episode:
  1. Who is currently making Tier 2 behavior decisions in your building?
  2. What data are you actually using, and is it useful?
  3. Do you have a clear intervention menu, or are you reinventing the wheel each time?

Resources Mentioned:

MTSS Behavior Toolkit

Behavior Choice Survey Bundle


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151. The Words Matter: Small Language Shifts That Make a Big Difference25 Feb 202600:14:36

Episode 151: The Words Matter: Small Language Shifts That Make a Big Difference

The words we use as school counselors matter more than we sometimes realize.

In this practical episode, I talk about everyday phrases we often say automatically and how small shifts in language can create more safety, validation, and trust for students, parents, staff, and ourselves.

This isn’t about doing things wrong. It’s about becoming more intentional with our words, especially when we’re tired, rushed, or navigating emotional situations.

In this episode, we explore:

  1. Why phrases like “It’s going to be okay” or “At least…” don’t always land as intended
  2. Language shifts that validate emotions without escalating them
  3. How curiosity-based phrasing changes the tone of conversations
  4. Ways to reduce defensiveness when working with parents and teachers
  5. Why scripts are a helpful support during high-emotion moments
  6. How the language we use with ourselves impacts burnout and longevity

As you move through your week, I invite you to notice your language without judging it. Just notice where a small shift might help someone feel more seen, heard, and supported.

You don’t need to change everything. One intentional change can make a real difference.

Thank you for the heart you bring to this work every single day.

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150. Not Every Week Is a Highlight Reel18 Feb 202600:09:33

Episode 150: Not Every Week Is a Highlight Reel

Not every National School Counseling Week looks like a highlight reel, and that’s okay.

In this reflective episode, I share a personal experience from my own school where carefully made plans for National School Counseling Week were replaced by grief, crisis response, and the need to simply be present for students and staff.

This episode is for counselors who felt exhausted, unseen, or overwhelmed, and for anyone who needed permission to let something go.

In this episode, I cover:

  1. Why National School Counseling Week can feel complicated and emotional
  2. How unexpected events can shift even the best-laid plans
  3. What it means to truly “do enough” as a school counselor
  4. Why quiet work still matters, even when it isn’t celebrated

A moment from the episode that I hope stays with you:

“Sometimes doing what we can with what we have is the most realistic and compassionate choice.”


If National School Counseling Week didn’t look the way you hoped, if you stayed quiet, or if you focused on crisis instead of celebration, I want you to know this: you didn’t fail. You’re human. And the work you do every day still makes a difference.

Thank you for being here and for all you give to this profession.

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149. Lives Worth Living with Steve Sharp and Perri Rosen11 Feb 202600:46:40
Episode 148: Lives Worth Living with Steve Sharp and Perri Rosen

In this episode, I’m joined by Steve Sharp (a middle school counselor in Pennsylvania) and Dr. Perri Rosen (a nationally certified school psychologist and former special educator) to talk about their new book, Lives Worth Living: Applying the Zero Suicide Approach in Schools.

We have an honest, practical conversation about how suicide prevention in schools has often been treated as “crisis response only”—and why the work we do before a crisis (SEL, belonging, school climate, connection) is a critical part of prevention too.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
  1. Why suicide prevention is often seen as “its own box” in schools—and how to broaden that mindset
  2. What the Zero Suicide framework is and why it can be adapted for school systems
  3. How SEL, belonging, and school climate function as real protective factors
  4. What school counselors may need to unlearn about suicide prevention
  5. Why “refer out and hope it resolves” isn’t the full picture—and how schools still play a role in recovery
  6. Why re-entry and connection matter so much after a suicide-related crisis
  7. How data and continuous improvement can strengthen a school-wide prevention system over time

“You don’t have to layer on all of these other things… it’s many of the things you’re already doing. It’s just making those connections.”
Key Takeaway:

Suicide prevention isn’t just a training or a risk assessment—it’s the systems we build, the connections we create, and the culture of belonging we protect, so students can truly live lives worth living.

If this episode encouraged you, I’d love for you to follow the podcast and leave a review—it helps other school counselors find support, resources, and reminders that they’re not alone in this work.

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Lives Worth Living

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148. Amplifying Student Success Through Stories04 Feb 202600:13:56

In this episode of Counselor Chat, I celebrate the powerful connection between National School Counseling Week and World Read Aloud Day, and why stories play such a meaningful role in student success.

I share how read-alouds create emotional safety, help students name their feelings, and open doors for conversations that might otherwise feel too hard to start. I also read an excerpt from my children’s book, Sammy’s Sad Day, and walked through simple, practical ways counselors can use storytelling as a Tier 1 support in classrooms, small groups, and beyond.

This episode is a reminder that success isn’t just measured in data — it’s felt in connection.

In This Episode, I Talk About:
  1. Why student success starts with emotional safety, not just academics
  2. How stories create shared emotional language for students
  3. Why read-alouds work so well as low-pressure counseling tools
  4. Using books as Tier 1 support for whole-class and school-wide impact
  5. Simple reflection questions that build emotional literacy
  6. How connection changes behavior and learning outcomes


“You amplify student success when a student feels seen, a teacher uses language you modeled, and a child realizes they’re not alone.

Links Mentioned

Sammy's Sad Day

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147. Midyear School Counseling Data Check (Without the Stress)28 Jan 202600:14:28
January has a way of sneaking up on me—and usually bringing one big question with it: How’s your data looking?

In this episode, I’m sharing a realistic, no-pressure approach to doing a midyear data check, without the guilt, the overwhelm, or the unrealistic expectation of having “perfect” charts and reports. This conversation is all about using what you already have to guide meaningful next steps for your students, instead of stressing over what you didn’t collect.

In This Episode, I Talk About:
  1. Why “real data” doesn’t always live in spreadsheets and graphs
  2. What actually counts as meaningful data in a real school setting
  3. Simple reflection questions I use to spot trends and changing needs
  4. How I know when it’s time to adjust groups, lessons, or interventions
  5. Why January is more about course correction than evaluation
  6. How my own energy and workload often point to important patterns

Reflection Questions I Share:
  1. What feels heavier than it did in the fall?
  2. What feels lighter?
  3. Who am I seeing more often—and who am I seeing less?
  4. What has surprised me so far this year?

“You don’t need more data to prove you’re doing meaningful work. You just need enough information to guide your next steps.”
Key Takeaway:

Midyear data isn’t about proving everything worked—it’s about asking one powerful question:

What do students need now?


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146. How School Counselors Can Help With Attendance, Motivation, and Engagement21 Jan 202600:16:07

January is often when attendance challenges start to feel impossible (for students and for counselors). In this episode, I break down why attendance dips during the winter months, how to reframe attendance as a support issue rather than a compliance issue, and what counselors can realistically do to help students re-engage with school.

This episode focuses on compassion, collaboration, and practical strategies that honor what students are really experiencing.

You’ll Learn:
  1. Common reasons attendance declines in January (illness, anxiety, routine changes, weather, and more)
  2. Why framing attendance as a symptom changes how students respond
  3. Language counselors can use to talk about attendance without blame
  4. Layered counseling supports for students with chronic absences
  5. How small wins (fewer tardies, staying longer, asking for help) matter more than perfect data
  6. Engagement strategies that increase motivation and belonging

Quote from the Episode

“Students don’t avoid school because they don’t care. They avoid school because something feels really hard.”

Resources Mentioned:

Attendance Small Group

Middle School Attendance Lesson (grades 6-7)

Barriers To Attendance Lesson (grades K-1)

Academic Success Attendance Lesson (grades 2-3)

Barriers to Attendance (grades 4-5)

Chronic Attendance Intervention Lesson (grade 8)


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145. How School Counselors Can Support Big Feelings in the New Year14 Jan 202600:11:55

January can feel especially tough in schools. Big emotions, increased anxiety, mood changes, and shutdown behaviors often show up as students transition back from break. In this episode, I’m breaking down why January feels so hard, and what school counselors can do to support students in ways that are compassionate, practical, and sustainable.

In this episode, I discuss:
  1. Why January creates emotional and behavioral shifts for students

  2. How anxiety shows up differently across age groups

  3. The difference between behavior problems and regulation problems

  4. Why predictability is essential for reducing anxiety

  5. Counselor strategies to restore safety and routine

  6. Low-pressure Tier 1 lesson ideas for January

  7. Small group supports for anxiety, coping skills, and transitions

  8. Trauma-informed practices that prioritize connection before correction


Key Quote from the Episode

“Anxiety increases when predictability decreases.”

Counselor Takeaway

January isn’t about fixing feelings or pushing through. It’s about regrounding, rebuilding routines, and helping students feel safe enough to learn again. Small supports matter—and they add up.

Thank you for showing up for your students and for yourself. Your work matters more than you know.


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144. New Year, Same Counselor07 Jan 202600:08:38

January has a way of making counselors feel like they should start over with new systems, new routines, new everything. But what if that pressure is actually working against your effectiveness?

In this episode of Counselor Chat, I'm offering a grounded reframe for the new year: you don’t need to become a brand-new counselor just because the calendar changed.

Instead, this episode invites you to slow down, protect your energy, and focus on what already works.

In this episode, you’ll hear:
  1. Why January pressure can lead to burnout instead of clarity
  2. A simple explanation of the law of diminishing returns in school counseling
  3. How “doing more” can actually reduce your impact
  4. Why small tweaks matter more than big overhauls
  5. Practical ways to carry fall systems into the spring
  6. Three gentle reflection prompts to guide your January planning

“Sometimes less truly is more — especially when it comes to protecting your energy and sustaining your impact.”January Reflection Prompts:
  1. What is one counseling routine that felt manageable in the fall?
  2. What is one lesson, group, or system I don’t need to reinvent?
  3. What is one thing I can stop doing to protect my energy?


This episode is a reminder that:

  1. You are not starting over
  2. Your relationships still matter
  3. Your systems didn’t disappear
  4. And sustainability is what carries you through March, April, and May


✨ New year. Same counselor. Stronger boundaries. Smarter focus.

Thanks for being here, counselor friend.

You’re doing important work — even when it doesn’t feel loud or new.

⭐ If this episode helped you, a quick review means more than you know

Until next time — I hope you have a really great week.

Links Mentioned in the Episode:

Episode 83


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143. What If I Don't Feel Motivated To Go Back To Work (ICYMI)31 Dec 202500:14:49

As the calendar turns to a new year, many school counselors find themselves holding a mix of emotions about heading back to work. Motivation might feel low, energy might feel scattered, and that sense of readiness may not be there yet.

In this New Year’s Eve re-listen, I'm revisiting Episode 41 of Counselor Chat Podcast, a conversation counselors return to again and again when break comes to an end.

This episode is a reminder that feeling unmotivated, heavy, or unsure about returning to school is normal. Motivation does not magically appear on January 1st, and you do not need to have everything figured out before heading back.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  1. Why mixed emotions after a break are completely normal
  2. How different breaks can bring different feelings from year to year
  3. The importance of acknowledging your emotions instead of pushing through them
  4. How reconnecting with your “why” can ground you when motivation feels low
  5. Simple strategies to ease back into work, including building white space into your calendar
  6. Why prioritizing tasks and letting go of doing everything at once matters
  7. The power of reconnecting with colleagues for support and perspective
  8. Gentle reminders about self care and protecting your energy

You are not alone, and you are allowed to take this transition one step at a time.

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Energy Inventory: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1eXT5jXvwueU39AGvkFYq7-wvom9TiSns/view?usp=sharing


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142. Advice from Counselors to Counselors (ICYMI)24 Dec 202500:28:35

As the holiday season arrives, we’re revisiting one of the most meaningful episodes of Counselor Chat — a conversation filled with honest advice, encouragement, and reminders from counselors who truly understand the work.

In this episode, counselors from across the country share the wisdom they wish they had when they were new to the profession — advice that’s just as powerful for seasoned counselors navigating full plates, shifting priorities, and year-end reflection.

You’ll hear thoughtful insights on:

  1. The importance of visibility and relationship-building
  2. Giving yourself grace and letting go of perfection
  3. Asking for help and leaning on your support system
  4. Balancing heart work with realistic expectations
  5. Caring for yourself while caring for others
  6. Remembering that even the smallest moments matter

This episode feels like sitting down with colleagues who get it — the challenges, the joy, the exhaustion, and the purpose behind the work you do every day.

Whether you’re listening on a walk, at the gym, or during a quiet moment of rest, my hope is that this re-listen meets you exactly where you are and reminds you that you are not alone.

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141. The School Counselor’s Holiday Survival Guide17 Dec 202500:16:34

December in schools hits different.

The schedules are off. The kids are buzzing. The teachers are exhausted. And counselors are somehow expected to be part Santa, part therapist, and part crisis manager… all before lunch.

If your December feels especially full, you are not imagining it.

In this week’s episode of Counselor Chat, I’m sharing The School Counselor’s Holiday Survival Guide. It’s a realistic, no-pressure conversation about how to get through this season without losing your sanity or your joy.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Why December feels so intense for school counselors
  • How to simplify lessons and expectations without guilt
  • What to do when plans constantly change
  • Setting boundaries that protect your energy and still support your school
  • Supporting students who struggle emotionally during the holidays
  • Finding small moments of calm and joy for yourself

One of my favorite reminders from this episode is this:

“Your goal right now is not to win Counselor of the Season. Your goal is to get to winter break in one piece.”

If you’ve been feeling tired, stretched thin, or like you’re barely keeping up, this episode is your permission slip to simplify and take care of yourself, too.

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140. Finding Calm in the Counselor Chaos10 Dec 202500:09:59
Episode 140: Finding Calm in the Counselor Chaos

December brings a special kind of school chaos. Schedules shift. Energy skyrockets. Teachers and students feel stretched. And counselors often find themselves trying to hold it all together.

In this episode, I am sharing simple ways to stay grounded, centered, and calm during one of the busiest months of the school year.

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

• Common early signs of counselor burnout

 • Why noticing burnout is an act of wisdom, not weakness

 • Easy micro practices that take 30 seconds to 2 minutes

 • A guided one-minute breathing reset you can use anytime

 • How to let go of perfection and choose simplicity

 • Ways to weave calm moments into your day without adding tasks

Quote From the Episode

"You are doing enough. You are enough, and you are allowed to rest."

Encouragement for the Week

December may be busy, but you do not have to absorb all the chaos around you. Take a pause, take a breath, and give yourself permission to rest. You are doing more good than you know.


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139. Growing Gratitude in Your Counseling Program03 Dec 202500:12:54

December can feel like a whirlwind in schools, which makes it the perfect time to slow down and center students in one of the most grounding SEL themes we have: gratitude.

In this episode, I am sharing simple, meaningful ways to introduce gratitude to students of all ages, plus ideas for weaving it into your counseling program throughout the whole month.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why gratitude boosts mood, relationships, and academic outcomes

• How gratitude connects to all five CASEL competencies

• How I use the book Last Stop on Market Street to introduce perspective and meaning

• Reflection questions that help deepen student understanding

• My daily Witness Moment practice and how students can create gratitude snapshots

• A gratitude acorn activity that helps younger students understand growth

• A powerful gratitude cross the line lesson for older students

• Schoolwide ideas: gratitude walls, gratitude grams, morning announcements

• How to track simple Tier 1 data when implementing gratitude centered lessons

Quote From the Episode

"It can start off tiny, just like an acorn, but gratitude has a way of growing into something great."

Encouragement for the Week

As we close out the year, gratitude becomes a beautiful reminder of why we do this work. Whether it is an acorn on the wall, a hallway display, or a quiet moment in your office, I hope you always find ways to grow gratitude in your school this season.

Resources Mentioned:

Last Stop On Market Street


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138. The Gratitude Circle for Counselors: Finding Joy in the Work You Do26 Nov 202500:16:04

Right before Thanksgiving, in the middle of progress reports, last-minute meetings, and all the pumpkin spice in the world, it can be easy to miss the small moments that actually fuel us.

This episode is a gentle pause.

 A breath.

 A circle of gratitude created for you.

I asked counselors in my Facebook groups what they are most grateful for, and their answers were pure joy, connection, and heart. Today I am sharing their stories, along with a few of my own, as a reminder that even in the chaos, the work you do every day truly matters.

✨ What You Will Hear in This Episode:
  • Why the weeks before Thanksgiving feel especially heavy
  • The power of stopping to notice the good
  • A collective gratitude circle filled with counselor shared moments
  • Students choosing time with their counselor as their reward
  • Kids using calm down strategies and repeating your words back to you
  • When a student calls you their trusted adult
  • Why small wins often matter the most
  • Real stories of connection from counselors across the country
  • A quick 30 second gratitude practice you can do anytime
  • Simple ideas to keep the gratitude going at school

💬 Quote from the Episode

“Emotional safety is such a quiet form of love, and when kids choose to show up in your space, that is gratitude in motion.”

💛 Encouragement for the Week

Take a moment today to name one thing you are grateful for in your work, with no posting or documenting, just a quiet acknowledgment of a meaningful moment.

You are the safe space.

 You are the trusted adult.

 You are the calm in the storm.

And that is something to be profoundly grateful for.

Happy Thanksgiving, counselor friends. I appreciate you more than you know. 💛


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137. Reframing Behavior: From Punishment to Problem-Solving19 Nov 202500:18:27

In this week's podcast we look at pre-holiday behavior spikes through a problem-solving lens. Instead of “How do we punish this?” we ask, “What skill is missing?” She models restorative conversations, shares reflection tools that build self-awareness, and walks through calm-down strategies that help students regulate before you problem-solve.

Key takeaways

  • Behavior = communication. Shift from “what’s wrong with the student?” to “what’s happening for the student?”
  • Use restorative approaches: understand harm, take responsibility, repair relationships, restore trust.
  • Reflection > reaction: guided behavior reflection sheets connect thoughts, feelings, needs, and next steps.
  • Regulation first: you can’t consequence a child into calm; teach calming tools, then problem-solve.
  • Mindset shift: connection before correction; growth over guilt.

Try-it-now tools

Restorative questions:

  • What happened? • What were you thinking/feeling? • Who was affected & how? • What makes it right? • What will you do next time?

Behavior Reflection prompts:

  • Trigger • Feeling • Need • Better choice next time • Who to repair with & how (what a real apology looks/sounds like).

Calm-down strategies:

  • Square/5-finger breathing, grounding (5–4–3–2–1), movement/water break, sensory tools (rings, stress balls), feelings check-ins/thermometers.

Scenario highlight

  • “Jayden in the line”: Instead of office + lecture, Carol uses a brief restorative chat/circle + reflection sheet to move from guilt to growth and repair.

Counselor moves to start this week

  1. Model restorative conversations (skip “Why did you do that?”).
  2. Teach emotion language (feeling wheels, visuals, daily check-ins).
  3. Build a Behavior Reflection Toolkit for you and teachers.


Quote to remember

“Punishment might stop the behavior, but it doesn’t heal what’s underneath. Problem-solving does.”

Connect

  • Follow Carol on IG: @counselingessentials
  • Share what’s in your calm-down kit and tag the show!


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136. Values in Action: Helping Students Navigate Moral Dilemmas12 Nov 202500:15:08

How do we help students stand by their values even when doing so might cost them friends?

In this week’s episode, I'm sharing how a simple story—The Fall Festival Dilemma—sparked powerful conversations about honesty, belonging, and integrity.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to use moral dilemmas to help students reflect on their values
  • Ways to move from “teaching right and wrong” to helping kids live their beliefs
  • Discussion prompts that build empathy, courage, and critical thinking
  • How to connect values lessons to ASCA Mindsets & Behaviors and CASEL’s Responsible Decision-Making competency
  • Why standing up for what’s right helps students develop confidence and character

💡 Quote of the Episode:

“Values aren’t just beliefs—they’re actions. Real values show up when they cost you something.”Resources Mentioned:

The Fall Festival Dilemma

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135. Restorative Practices: Building a Culture of Kindness That Lasts05 Nov 202500:14:32

October might be over, but kindness shouldn’t be. In this week’s episode, I’m sharing how restorative practices can take your school from reactive to relational — and how simple daily routines can build a culture where students feel safe, seen, and supported.

Restorative practices aren’t about punishment; they’re about connection. When we focus on building relationships first, we prevent harm — and when harm does happen, we know how to repair it with empathy and understanding.

I’ll walk you through what this looks like at each tier — from morning greetings and check-ins to community circles and peer mediation programs — so you can start building a stronger sense of belonging right where you are.

✨ In this episode, I share:

  • Simple ways to weave restorative practices into your daily routines
  • How to use greetings, check-ins, and circles to strengthen relationships
  • What each tier of restorative practice looks like in action
  • Why reflection, not punishment, leads to lasting behavior change
  • How connection and accountability go hand in hand

If you’ve been looking for a way to take your anti-bullying work beyond October, this episode will help you do just that — one greeting, one circle, one conversation at a time.

Because when we build connection into every day, kindness becomes who we are, not just what we do. 💛

Links Mentioned:

Community Circles Beginning Bundle

Community Circles Self-Awareness Bundle

Community Circles Self-Management Bundle

Community Circles Social-Awareness Bundle

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