CONTENT WARNING - discussion about offender behaviours and methodology 

In this episode, Kristi interviews phD candidate, criminologist and psychologist Kelly Jackson. 

Kelly and Kristi discuss the research around offender behaviours and methodologies used in the commission of child sexual abuse and the many ways offenders groom children. 

This interesting conversation explains in detail the grooming process, the types of behaviours offenders use in order to find victims, the research that proves that stops offenders from abusing kids and how parents can actually protect their children from abuse. 

This is a must listen episode for anyone who loves to dive deep into the psychology of offenders. 

Connect with Kelly via her LinkedIn here: linkedin.com/in/kelly-jackson-b49a57150 

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

In this episode, Kristi speaks with We are Womxn co-founder, post-graduate Sexology student and 2024 Young Australian of the Year nominee, Kate Raston. 

Kate talks about her experiences as a consent and healthy relationships educator, working with young people in schools where she helps facilitates safe and open conversations around sex and consent.

This conversation is a ripper for parents of school aged kids in which Kate shares many tools for parents about talking with kids of any ages about consent, healthy relationships and sexual education. 

Follow We are Womxn via social media especially Instagram or check out their website at www.wearewomxn.com.au. 

Other resources mentioned is the 'Talk soon, Talk often' book by WA Department of Health. Get your FREE PDF here: https://www.healthywa.wa.gov.au/articles/s_t/talk-soon-talk-often 

Content Warning -  Child Sexual Abuse, Substance Abuse, Suicide and Self-Harm - If any part of this episode causes distress, please see the resources below for support services and help. 

In this episode, Kristi talks with child sexual abuse survivor and advocate Glen Fisher, author of the book Predators Paradise. 

Glen shares his story of resilience through a childhood of child sexual abuse and neglect from so many predators, which left Glen to a road of self harm, violence and substance abuse.

Glen's turning point was when his own children were born. It was in becoming a parent himself that he realised he needed to heal and make changes so he could be the best father to his kids. 

Glen shares his journey from broken little boy to fierce fighter, advocate and father and the steps he has taken to reclaim his life, recover from addiction and bring some of his abusers to justice. 

This episode is for all the survivors out there, especially men struggling with demons that haunt them, needing to know that 'YOU ARE NOT ALONE'. 

Please check out Glen's Tiktok at: www.tiktok.com/tiger664life66

Glen's FB group Predators Paradise here:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/498114067677692/?ref=share&mibextid=K35XfP&rdid=rGKVHZOKQ5ZpMLz3&share_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fshare%2F6KGFHDBqDatS4bmA%2F%3Fmibextid%3DK35XfP%26wtsid%3Drdr_040VmOAWpiUByCJSR%26_rdr 

Glen's book can be purchased via Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Predators-Paradise-Journey-Survival-Resilience-ebook/dp/B07S45XYNT 

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

Episode 7 - Is it safe to share photos of your kids online?

In this episode, Kristi answers a parents question and does a deep dive into her knowledge, thoughts and experience around the topic of sharing photos of our kids on our social media and online. 

Kristi goes through 3 considerations for deciding whether to post that photo of your kids or not and 7 tips on posting photos of your kids safely based on her recent blog post. 

If you have a question you want answered, you can always email Kristi via admin@cape-au.com or check out the FREE resources on the website at www.cape-au.com. 

CONTENT WARNING - This episode talks about sextortion, cyberbullying and suicide. 

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Carol Todd, founder of the Amanda Todd Legacy not-for-profit organisation based in British Columbia, Canada. 

Amanda was 15 years old when she took her own life by suicide due to being sexually exploited and cyber-bullied online which led to physical abuse and alienation by her peers.

5 weeks before her death, Amanda shared her story on YouTube. Since 2012, the video has been viewed over 50 million times and is used in educating children on the dangers of sextortion and cyberbullying. 

You can learn more about the Amanda Todd Legacy or watch Amanda's last video via the  www.amandatoddlegacy.org. 

For more information on Sextortion and how to help your child check out the Australian Centre to Counter Child Exploitation (ACCCE) at https://www.accce.gov.au/sextortionhelp 

If you want any further resources on helping you keep your kids safe online, check out my FREE resources on www.cape-au.com. 

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Sexual Violence Services in WA - 

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

CONTENT WARNING - This episode talks about child sexual abuse, mental health and suicide. Please listen with caution.

In this episode, Kristi talks with former prison guard, domestic violence and child sexual abuse survivor Mel Watson. 

Mel talks about surviving childhood domestic violence, incidents of child sexual abuse by multiple perpetrators, conquering depression and suicidal ideation as an 18 year old and her experience working in the NSW prison system dealing with child sex offenders and inmates. 

Mel opens up about how dangerous grooming is by both predators and prisoners, the court systems and all the things she wished her parents had done when she was a child. 

Kristi's book, Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention can help parents identify the signs of grooming and child sexual abuse as well as teaching prevention strategies and lessons. Check out the website to purchase.

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Sexual Violence Services in WA - 

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

In this episode, Kristi talks with online safety educator and founder of 'Not My Kid', Jen Hoey.

Jen shares the story of her 11yo daughter being groomed online by a predator despite her hypervigilence and the impact that experience had on her daughter and family. 

Jen turned her families tragedy into helping and supporting other families through her online facebook group and extremely helpful content online. 

Check out Jen's website at www.notmykid.com.au or via her social media on Facebook @notmykid and Instagram at @notmykid_ever. 

If you are also looking for help with managing your child's online usage, check out our website at www.cape-au.com where we have FREE guides, a device controls webinar or a jam packed self-paced online course so you can know EVERYTHING Kristi knows.

Please also don't forget to subscribe and leave a review if you love this episode!

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Alison D'Vine, founder and CEO of SagencyWA, a men's behaviour change and family therapy clinic in Perth WA. 

Alison and Kristi discuss the challenges that couples face when dealing with domestic violence and explore the many reasons for domestic violence including unpacking the 'man box' and societal ideas and pressures on men and families that contribute to the domestic violence cycle. 

For more information about the Sagency's 22 week program, please check out their website at www.sagencywa.com.au 

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Sexual Violence Services in WA - 

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

Welcome back to Season 2 of The CAPE podcast - a child abuse prevention and education podcast. 

CONTENT WARNING - This episode talks about Gloria's experience as a survivor of child sex trafficking and abuse. Listener discretion is advised. 

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Gloria Masters, founder and CEO of Handing The Shame Back, a podcast and Youtube channel with resources, survivor interviews and information for Child Sexual Abuse survivors. 

Gloria shares her personal story of surviving child sex trafficking as a child transforming it into her personal mission of raising awareness and helping survivors heal from their abuse. 

Check out Handing the Shame Back's website at www.handingtheshameback.org or via their social media on Instagram and Youtube with the same name.

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Sexual Violence Services in WA - 

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

Episode 21 The impacts of pornography on our children

In this episode, Kristi speaks with ex-WA Police Officer of over 20 years, Kayelene Kerr where she talks about the impacts of pornography on our children and what we as parents should be talking about with our kids. 

This is a MUST listen podcast for parents of girls and boys with young children and teens especially those parents with children from 8 onwards. 

Kayelene and Kristi leave the podcast with ways to talk with your kids about pornography from little people all the way up to teens and how to help our kids identify why pornography is not a safe 'sexual education' tool. 

Check out Kayelene's website at www.esafekids.com.au or via esafekids on Instagram and Facebook. 

Episode 20 Navigating social media as parents with Maddie Graham

In this episode Kristi speaks with Maddie Graham, co-founder of Changing the Conversation where they talk about Maddie's unique experiences with social media, stalkers, oversharing information and the effects of social media on young people. 

Maddie is a third-year psychology student at the University of Wollongong and also runs Changing the Conversation. Her heart is deeply invested in community development, encompassing school workshops, community engagement, and teaching social and emotional skills. Her mission is to create spaces where authentic conversations flourish, utilising her expertise in human behaviour and social dynamics to make positive impact. 

Maddie and Kristi dive into the risks with 'sharenting' and the need for more social media education and awareness. 

Check out Changing the Conversation via instagram www.instagram.com/changingtheconversationn/

CONTENT WARNING - language warning, discussions around child sexual abuse, domestic violence of First Nations peoples

In this episode, Kristi talks with proud Palawa woman Rachel Dunn, about the impacts of domestic violence and child sexual abuse on First Nations families and the difficulties in calling-out these tragedies in culture and family. 

Rachel shares her story and her experience in calling out abuse within her family unit, as well as trying to advocate and protect other First Nations children and women, against the prejudice and beliefs that perpetuate and prolong harm and trauma within community. 

Connect with Rachel via her LinkedIn here: www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-dunn-7a6060229 

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

13Yarn - 13 92 76. or www.13yarn.org.au  

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

Episode 19 Divorce and separation support with Becca Maxwell 

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Becca Maxwell from Do Divorce Right about the struggles and challenges of separation and divorce when dealing with children and keeping them safe. 

Becca is a divorce coach who coaches women through navigating the choice to separate or in the process of separation and divorce and the conversations and choices that are necessary through the process. 

Kristi & Becca discuss the many aspects of separation from what to consider and managing children in two homes. 

Becca can be found at www.dodivorceright.com or via her Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/dodivorceright. 

For further details about Kristi and her work go to www.cape-au.com 

Episode 18 Cyberbullying solutions and prevention with Maggie Ciobanu from YooChooz

In this episode, Kristi speaks with mother Maggie Ciobanu who turned her own daughters cyberbullying into an app to help prevent kids from sending abusive message and make better choices before they engage in cyberbullying. 

Maggie explains her own daughters and family's experiences that led her to try and help other kids from becoming a statistic and victim of abuse online through the app YooChooz. 

Check out the Yoochooz app via the Apple store or via their website www.yoochooz.com.au 

You can also follow Maggie and YooChooz via Instagram at www.instagram.com/yoochooz/ 

For any further enquiries about this podcast episode, contact via our website at www.cape-au.com. 

Also check out our Device Safety 101 self-paced online course for more in-depth advice and help around keeping kids safe at www.cape-au.com/device-safety101. 

Episode 17 Educate to Empower our children with Jayneen Sanders

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Jayneen Sanders aka Jay Dale, an author of over 100 stories and educational books for kids aged from 3 and up, covering topics such as body safety, consent, inclusion, feelings, respectful relationships and other important conversations for our children in the prevention of child sexual abuse and healthy childhoods. 

Jay is an active advocate who has spent her life ensuring parents and educators have the resources available to help keep kids safe and in this episode she discusses the power of education in empowering children and how simple body safety, consent and respectful relationships education can make a huge difference. 

You can follow and purchase Jay's books here:

www.e2epublishing.info 
www.instagram.com/jayneensandersauthor/
www.instagram.com/educate2empower/ 

For any further information or to speak with Kristi, you can reach out via the CAPE-AU website - www.cape-au.com 

Episode 16 The Better Sex Ed Project with Jess Douglas - Monks

In this episode, Kristi talks with Jess from The Better Sex Ed Project about the importance of open discussions around sexuality education with your children, starting at a young age in age appropriate ways. 

Jess discusses the importance of correct anatomy and how good sexuality education can improve relationships and enhance their life experiences. 

Jess is studying psychology and is a sexuality and consent educator. You can find Jess on Instagram via www.instagram.com/thebettersexedproject/ 

www.cape-au.com 

Episode 15 - How to have better conversations with your kids with guest Mike Dyson. 

In this episode, Kristi talks to legendary human Mike Dyson. Mike is a social and emotional intelligence educator and corporate speaker who facilitates group conversations around mental health and suicide prevention, education wellbeing, healthy masculinity and corporate culture and wellbeing. 

In this conversation, Mike shares his 'Better Conversations with Young People' framework in which he encourages parents to 'lean in' and listen to our young people and help them explore the ideas and topics around what it means to be a human in order to create a much more connected connection with our kids. 

This is a highly informative and inspiring chat that will leave you with tools to help you have better conversations with your kids! 

Mike can be found here: https://www.mikedyson.com.au and Mike's social enterprise Good Blokes Co can be found here: https://www.goodblokes.co 

www.cape-au.com 

Episode 14 - The Cyber Safety Project with Trent Ray

In this episode, Kristi talks with co-founder Trent Ray of the Cyber Safety Project based in the East Coast of Australia about why he started this social enterprise to educate children and young people about digital citizenship and online safety. 

Trent shares his experiences as a teacher along with first hand stories of online child abuse and how parents can prevent their kids from online grooming and protect them with his simple advice.

Find more information about The Cyber Safety Project here: www.cybersafetyproject.com.au 

If you are looking for help in talking to your children about Online and Cyber Safety or need further information on how to protect your children online, check out our online course Device Safety 101 at https://www.cape-au.com/device-safety101  

Content Warning - Discussions about Child Sexual Abuse, Online Child Exploitation and Child Sexual Abuse Material 

Episode 13 - The battle to protect your kids online with Sergio Zaragoza 

In this episode, Kristi interviews Sergio Zaragoza, an advocate and online child exploitation educator living in Spain.

Sergio worked as an investigator and moderator for big tech companies YouTube and Google among other social media companies where he was exposed to Child Sexual Abuse Material (CSAM) for over 5 years, classifying content. 

Sergio offers his experiences to listeners as someone who saw 1000s of videos and images of child sexual abuse material and observed grooming and sextortion via the platforms he was moderating/classifying and the surge in Computer Generated CSAM (AI). 

There is a battle going on between law enforcement, child safety and online safety advocates and educators, parents, big tech companies and legislators in this space and during this conversation, Kristi & Sergio discuss the loop holes and what parents need to know in this fight to keep our kids safe. 

This is a real conversation about the truth of child sexual abuse material, sextortion, self-generated child sexual abuse and computer generated CSAM. 

You can connect with Sergio on LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sergio-zaragoza-752680201/ 

If any part of this discussion was upsetting or overwhelming, please check out the resources on our website for support: www.cape-au.com. 

Please reach out to Kristi via email on admin@cape-au.com. 

Episode 12 - Stranger Danger, Tricky Behaviours and 'how to prevent your child from being groomed' 

Content Warning: Child Sexual Abuse and Swearing 

In this episode, Kristi talks about how to talk to your child about Stranger Danger and Tricky Behaviours after her Sunrise interview 2 weeks ago. 

Kristi also discusses her time in Darwin presenting to the Australian College of Children and Young People's Nurses as well as her 'How to prevent your child from being groomed' workshop on Tuesday night. 

This episode is a collaboration of information and thoughts from Kristi from the last few weeks of news and information as well as what people are asking about in her every day. 

If you want to know more about any of the information mentioned in the podcast episode, check out the website at www.cape-au.com. 

CONTENT WARNING - Child Sexual Abuse and Grooming

In this episode, Kristi talks with child sexual abuse survivor and advocate Imogen Lee about facing her abuser in court after years of grooming, being unheard and the power of persistence. 

Imogen attempted to report her abuse at age 12, 16, 21 and finally at age 28, was able to seek justice. Imogen's story shares her struggles as a child, her process from young child to grown adult reporting her abuse and how she was let down more than once by the systems in place along with the grooming and enabling done by the abuser and parent.

Imogen's ongoing persistence is attributed to her strength and character, however, her story is not uncommon. 

Check out the news article of her court case discussed in the podcast here: 
https://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/national/queensland/queensland-stepdad-jailed-for-sex-offences-20200226-p544jt.html 

You can follow Imogen on social media both on Instagram and TikTok here: 

www.instagram.com/immeelex_thetraumastories/ 
www.tiktok.com/immeeleex/   

For any further information, check out our website www.cape-au.com or email Kristi at admin@cape-au.com. 

If you find any part of this podcast distressing, please check out the links below and seek support:

• Beyond Blue: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/
• Kids Helpline: https://kidshelpline.com.au/
• LifeLine Australia: https://www.lifeline.org.au/
• Blue Knot: https://blueknot.org.au/
• PartnerSPEAK: https://www.partnerspeak.org.au/
• Know More: https://knowmore.org.au/
• Healing Foundation: https://healingfoundation.org.au/ 
• 1800 Respect: https://www.1800respect.org.au/

Thank you for helping in the fight against child sexual abuse!

Episode 10 - Talking safe online exploration and working as a team together online with Sandrine Lexi. 

In this episode, Kristi talks with creator Sandrine Lexi about her card game 'All the Likes' targeted at children aged 6-10 years of age. 

Sandrine is the mother of 3 young humans and after seeing a tragic story of a young persons online abuse and subsequent suicide, decided there was a need for integrating online safety conversations in a safe and fun way, before they get online or before there is potential online abuse. 

Sandrine talks about how her game can help parents, teachers and educators introduce discussions around online safety to encourage early intervention and how by using the game, you can encourage safe exploration and discussions. 

For a short discussion, there is lots to be learnt from this episode to help parents with their kids. 

Sandrine has also offered listeners a 20% discount until 7pm 7th November 2023.

Use the code KRISTI20 on the website before check out to redeem this discount. 

Find Team Together Online at www.teamtogetheronline.com. 

CONTENT WARNING - language warning, discussions about domestic violence and trauma

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Kate Fylan who has over 20 years experience with a Diploma in Social Worker, a qualified Counsellor and Play Therapist, primarily working within in the domestic violence, childhood sexual abuse and harmful sexualised behaviours spaces and portfolios.

Kate offers an interesting viewpoint around gendered based parenting, coercive control, domestic violence, how to have conversations with your kids around these topics and repair your relationships with your children when we make mistakes. 

This is a great conversation for parents of children of any age about the importance of being real with them and how to have conversations with your kids around important social topics. 

You can follow or connect with Kate via LinkedIn at www.linkedin.com/in/kate-fylan-41829aa2.

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

CONTENT WARNING - this episode is intended for adult listeners only. Please don't listen with children in the car or where little ears can hear. 

In this episode, Kristi discusses healthy sexuality education with sexuality expert and author, Vanessa Hamilton from Talking the Talk. 

This episode is a deep dive conversation into what parents need to know in regards to discussing sex and sexuality with their children in their own homes and why leaving sexuality education up to schools and pornography is NOT the way to happy and healthy teenagers. 

Vanessa explains how to have these conversations with your children from early childhood up to teen and poses some great thought provoking questions and information about our perceptions around sexuality education and how good, comprehensive sexuality education can prevent child sexual abuse. 

This is a MUST listen for parents of children at any age or stage of development. 

Check out Vanessa's website here: https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au 

Check out Vanessa's resources for teens here: https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/info-for-young-people

Pre-order Vanessa's book 'Talking Sex - a conversation guide for parents' here: https://ambapress.com.au/products/talking-sex

Get a copy of Kristi's book here: https://www.cape-au.com/book

Check out the WA Health resource mentioned by Vanessa 'Talk soon, talk often' here: https://www.healthywa.wa.gov.au/Articles/S_T/Talk-soon-Talk-often 

Please email Kristi at admin@cape-au.com for any further questions. 

As always, thanks for listening! 

Episode 8 - The effects of child abuse on the body with Genevieve Jones

CONTENT WARNING - discussions of child sexual abuse, torture, domestic violence and abuse

Genevieve Jones is a child abuse survivor, advocate, protective behaviours practitioner as well having a bachelor's degree in social science. 

Genevieve's story of torture and child sexual abuse is way more than what was disclosed in this episode, however, her story of understanding her trauma and the way it is shown in the body is one for everyone to listen to and understand. 

Trauma has an interesting way of presenting and persisting in the body and it takes time and work to heal. If you or a loved one has trauma, this episode will help you understand your body and reactions a little better. 

If you find any of the episode triggering or upsetting, please seek professional support or help or contact one of the services below:

www.beyondblue.org.au  
www.kidshelpline.com.au  
www.lifeline.org.au
www.1800respect.org 
www.blueknot.org.au  
www.partnerspeak.org.au  
www.knowmore.org.au  
www.healingfoundation.org.au 

For more help and information on child sexual abuse or to get a copy of Kristi's book Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention, please check out the website www.cape-au.com. 

Episode 7 - The Online Safety Dilemma with Paul Litherland

Kristi interviews one of the leading online safety educators around the many struggles and issues our young people are having online and what we as parents can do about it. 

Paul was a 2022 recipient of the West Australian of the Year award, is an ex-WA Police officer (like Kristi) and has seen a change in the age of children who are being groomed and abused online. 

Please check out Paul via his website at www.surfonlinesafe.com.au or via Surf Online Safe's social media. 

For further information about how you can support your children with online and device safety, check out Kristi's self-paced online course - Device Safety 101 at www.cape-au.com/device-safety101.

Content warning - this episode contains discussions about child sexual abuse and grooming behaviours which may be triggering for some people.

Listener discretion is advised. Please consider your own mental health and wellbeing before listening. 

In this episode, Kristi takes a deep dive into the horrific childcare abuse case from last week in which 91 children were abused with 1623 child sexual abuse charges being laid against a male child care worker.

Kristi also reads a direct post from one of the parents about how this man tricked and abused her child. 

This is a tough topic and conversation but a much needed one! The length of time this man was able to abuse children was due to his manipulative and cunning methods and the grooming of the adults and parents around him. 

Kristi goes into how this occurs, the behaviours and red flags displayed and how what we can do if we are feeling scared or fearful about sending our young child to daycare. 

If you are triggered at all by the contents of this podcast, please seek assistance and help or contact one of the following: 

www.beyondblue.org.au 
www.kidshelpline.com.au 
www.lifeline.org.au
www.blueknot.org.au 
www.partnerspeak.org.au 
www.knowmore.org.au 
www.healingfoundation.org.au

Trigger Warning - Child sexual abuse and discussions around grooming behaviours

In this episode, Kristi interviews Ruby Mikolaitis, a child abuse survivor and advocate, who talks about the effects of child sexual abuse, grooming and its ongoing effects in adulthood. 

Ruby is the podcast host of The Cocoon Podcast (a podcast produced from The Blue Butterfly Institute) and a recent university graduate. 

This real and raw interview will give you an insight into the effects that grooming has on our children and why it's so important to understand what it is, how it works so that we can prevent it. 

Please check out Kristi's interview on the The Cocoon Podcast  here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ZZJyfT6CXvwlpL71LNBtj?si=dTgAdRSYSpSbfey4LAYOOg 

To find out more about the Blue Butterfly Institute check out the website here: https://www.thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au

For more information about the grooming process, red flags and warning signs of abuse, check out Kristi's book - Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention here: https://www.cape-au.com/links 

If any of this episode was triggering, please take care of your mental health and contact your health care provider or: 

www.beyondblue.org.au 
www.kidshelpline.com.au 
www.lifeline.org.au
www.blueknot.org.au 
www.partnerspeak.org.au 
www.knowmore.org.au 
www.healingfoundation.org.au 

Episode 4 - Welcome to Sex and the psychology of nudes

In this episode, Kristi talks about her conversations and experiences throughout the week and what she thinks about the book 'Welcome to Sex' by Dr Melissa Kang and Yumi Stynes. 

Kristi also discusses the psychology around why teens share nudes and what we as parents need to discuss with our kids. 

If you are looking for help in discussing these types of pics with children and your young people, check out Kristi's book, Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention here: https://www.cape-au.com/book 

or her Device Safety 101 self-paced online course which goes into detail about the sharing of nudes and how to talk with your kids about topics such as sexting, pornography etc. here: https://www.cape-au.com/device-safety101  

For general information check out the Child Abuse Prevention and Education website here: www.cape-au.com 

Due to a glitch in the Spotify system - Episode 3 has been re-released to try and fix the bug.

TRIGGER WARNING - discussions around online grooming and abuse

Episode 3 - Online Predators & the Dark Web with Jessica Smith from ClickSafe Intelligence.

Jessica Smith lives a double life investigating fraud for a private organisation by day and investigating online predators and the dark web at night.

This was a great conversation between Kristi & Jessica about what online predators are doing to prey our kids and how they groom them. 

Check out ClickSafe Intelligence here: www.clicksafeintelligence.com 

You can also follow ClickSafe Intelligence and Jessica on all the socials.

If you are looking for help with your young people in keeping them safe online, check out our Device Safety 101 online course for parents. This self-paced online course is equipped with all the information you need to help keep your kids safe and have difficult conversations about online safety.

For more information click here: https://www.cape-au.com/device-safety101 

Episode 3 - Online Predators & the Dark Web with Jessica Smith from ClickSafe Intelligence.

Jessica Smith lives a double life investigating fraud for a private organisation by day and investigating online predators and the dark web at night.

This was a great conversation between Kristi & Jessica about what online predators are doing to prey our kids and how they groom them. 

Check out ClickSafe Intelligence here: www.clicksafeintelligence.com 

You can also follow ClickSafe Intelligence and Jessica on all the socials.

If you are looking for help with your young people in keeping them safe online, check out our Device Safety 101 online course for parents. This self-paced online course is equipped with all the information you need to help keep your kids safe and have difficult conversations about online safety. For more information click here: https://www.cape-au.com/device-safety101 

In this episode, Kristi talks with Holly-ann Martin, Protective Behaviours facilitator and trailblazer, author of multiple books, keen swing dancer and a friend.

Kristi & Holly-ann talk about the importance of Protective Behaviours in keeping kids safe from abuse, pornography, cyber safety as well as her work in rural communities around Australia.

Check out Safe4Kids website here: https://safe4kids.com.au

If any of today's episode is triggering or upsetting, please check out the links on CAPE-AU's website: https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources

To check out Kristi's book, Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention, her free download or any other resources click here: https://www.cape-au.com/links

Our first episode is an Introduction to the Operation CAPE podcast - a child abuse prevention and education podcast including an introduction of the show's host Kristi McVee.

TRIGGER WARNING - in all episodes we will be talking about child sexual abuse including victim/survivor's stories. This can be triggering and cause distress. Please see the bottom of these show notes for resources to assist if this is the case.

Kristi can be located on social media both on Facebook, Instagram or Tiktok here: https://linktr.ee/capeau

To purchase a signed copy of Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention click here: https://www.cape-au.com/book

For further support on your mission to protect your kids, go to our blog here: https://www.cape-au.com/blog

To get a copy of our free e-book or to check out our self-paced parents course Device Safety 101 - go to https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources

If any of the information, topics or discussions on this podcast cause you distress or upset, please check out the resources here for assistance: https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources

Thank you for joining in the fight to prevent child sexual abuse!

CONTENT WARNING - Talk of child sexual abuse, intra-familial abuse, control and manipulation

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Deb Aldrick, Author, Survivor Advocate and Lived Experience Speaker about intra-familial abuse or child sexual abuse within the family group. 

Deb wrote the book, 'Circling the Wagons' about the different ways in which families hide and protect abusers with control and manipulation and how it effects survivors. 

This episode breaks down the effect and impacts of child sexual abuse and why the lack of protection and belief within our families often creates greater trauma than the abuse itself. 

Deb's book - Circling the Wagons by Deborah Aldrick is available via Amazon and  Barnes & Noble or via Deb's website: www.dragonflyadvocacy.com.au or via LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/deborah-aldrick-188b4530b 

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

Content Warning - talk around child sexual abuse 

In this episode, Kristi talks about child sexual abuse and child safety with survivor, child safety advocate and parent, John Cardamone. 

John shares his own survivor story of child sexual abuse at 6 years old where his perpetrator threatened him and his family to keep it a secret. John's story highlights the importance of body safety education, believing kids and being an approachable parent. 

This podcast episode underlines the 3 important steps of protecting kids and how EVERY parent can keep their kids safe. 

Connect and learn more about John via his LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-cardamone-86632738/ 

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

Content Warning - discussions about domestic and family violence, suicide and self-harm

In this episode, Kristi talks with Shannon Miller, a disability and family violence practice leader from the Centre Against Violence, gender-based violence advocate and father about the lack of visibility for children and young people in the conversations around domestic and family violence and gendered based violence. 

During this episode, Kristi and Shannon discuss the lack of consideration of the impacts of family violence on children and young people, the lack of support of children as their own victim in family violence as well as how to talk to our kids about these topics and issues. 

This is a great conversation for ALL families whether family violence has impacted you or NOT. 

For more information about Shannon, check out his LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shannon-miller1984/ 

Check out the Centre Against Violence here: https://centreagainstviolence.org.au 

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

In this episode, Kristi speaks with veteran Protective Behaviours educator Holly-ann Martin about teaching body safety education to children living with a disability or where english isn't their first language. 

Holly-ann shares a wealth of knowledge on how to simplify the body safety messages to ensure our most vulnerable children understand their body safety rights and education. 

This is a fantastic podcast episode in which even Kristi learnt some valuable and life saving lessons. Be sure to share this episode with your friends and family so that we can all ensure our children, especially those children living with a disability are protected from abuse. 

For more information or to find Holly-ann's resources, go to her website at www.safe4kids.com.au 

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Sexual Violence Services in WA - 

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

CONTENT WARNING - Talk about sexual abuse, child sexual abuse and the death of a perpetrator.

In this episode, Kristi talks with author, youth activist, sexual abuse survivor, sexual assault group facilitator and coach, Renee Simpson. 

Renee is the author of the book 'I want to go home' - a book which explores and shares about her trip across the world on a sailing boat, where she sailed through storms, nearly starved from a lack of food and her journey recovering from child sexual abuse and rape.

Renee now facilitates sexual assault support groups through The Survivor Hub and trauma informed coaching for sexual abuse survivors where she encourages survivors to write their own stories and heal their own lives via her 'Shake the Walls' writing course. 

This is a very interesting conversation about recovering from sexual abuse, exploring trauma and the ways we process trauma and recovery. 

You can find Renee via her social media @reneemariesimpsonauthor.

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

In this episode, Kristi talks about sleepovers and school camps from her experience as a detective and police officer, as well as a parent. 

There is a lot of pressure on parents from many sources about sleepovers, so it is important that we take the time to consider all risk factors of where your child may be sleeping overnight. 

Kristi breaks down her latest blogs and goes through some of the risk factors, sharing stories that have made her reconsider her stance on both school camps and sleepovers. 

Check out both blogs via www.cape-au.com/blog 

If you want help in talking about body safety with your kids, grab a copy of the Conversation with Kids 'Body Safety' cards via www.cape-au.com/conversations-with-kids-body-safety

Want to deep dive into child sexual abuse prevention, grab a copy of Kristi's book, Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention from Amazon via www.cape-au.com/book 

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi is joined by Brooke McIntosh - speaker, endurance runner, and founder of the Just One More movement - for a raw, powerful conversation about mental health, courage, healing, and the ripple effect of choosing to speak when silence feels safer.

Brooke shares the deeply personal story behind her decision to run 14,000 kilometres around Australia - a journey born from suicidal ideation, unspoken trauma, and a life-changing car accident that forced her to confront the reality that she was not okay, despite appearing strong on the outside.

Together, Kristi and Brooke explore how “just one more” - one step, one breath, one conversation - became a lifeline, not only for Brooke, but for countless people she encountered along the road. What began as a mission to spark conversation within FIFO, mining, and construction communities quickly revealed a much wider truth: mental health struggles do not discriminate. They exist everywhere - across families, generations, genders, and professions.

This episode dives into the cost of emotional shutdown, the normalisation of masking pain, and how generational silence around trauma, addiction, and abuse shapes the way adults cope - or don’t cope - later in life. Brooke speaks candidly about childhood sexual abuse, substance use, shame, and the long-term impact of carrying stories alone for decades.

Kristi and Brooke also reflect on the power of vulnerability to break cycles - from the unexpected moment Brooke’s father felt safe enough to say “I’m not okay”, to the way children who saw Brooke running began asking questions that opened conversations within their families.

This is not a conversation about toughness or pushing through at all costs.
It’s about courage, honesty, mental fitness, and choosing connection - even when it’s uncomfortable.

• Suicidal ideation and the turning point that saved Brooke’s life

• The meaning of Just One More as a daily practice

• Mental fitness vs mental health

• Why masking pain is so common - and so dangerous

• The ripple effect of courageous, vulnerable conversations

• Generational trauma, silence, and healing

• Childhood sexual abuse and delayed disclosure

• Addiction as a coping strategy for unprocessed pain

• Running as therapy, regulation, and trauma processing

• Listening to the body instead of pushing through it

• Breaking cycles for the next generation

• Why healing yourself can give others permission to speak

So many people are surviving - not living.

They show up, work hard, care for others, and appear “fine”, while silently carrying trauma, grief, shame, and exhaustion. This episode reminds us that strength is not found in silence or self-abandonment - it’s found in honesty, courage, and asking for support.

Brooke’s story shows how quickly things can change when someone chooses to speak - and how one brave conversation can unlock many more.

You don’t need to run around Australia to make a difference.
Sometimes, just one more conversation is enough to save a life.

Brooke McIntosh is an endurance runner, speaker, and founder of the Just One More movement, using lived experience to spark honest conversations about mental health, suicide prevention, and emotional wellbeing.

Through her run around Australia and her ongoing work in communities, schools, and workplaces, Brooke encourages people to build mental fitness, challenge silence, and remember that pain never gets the last say.

Follow Brooke McIntosh on her socials: 👉 Instagram - Facebook

Brooke McIntosh website: 👉 https://brookemcintosh.com.au/

If this episode has brought up big feelings or difficult memories, Kristi offers trauma-informed education and resources to support healing, prevention, and connection.

🔗 Explore education and resources:
👉 www.kristimcvee.com 

Resources include:

• trauma-informed education

• child safety and prevention resources

• guidance for courageous, supportive conversations

• tools to help adults respond calmly and safely to disclosure

This episode includes discussion of:

• suicidal ideation

• childhood sexual abuse

• addiction and substance use

• trauma and mental health challenges

Some listeners may find this content confronting. Please listen with care and pause or step away if needed.

If you or someone you love needs support, help is available:

• Lifeline – 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au

• Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636 | beyondblue.org.au

• Kids Helpline (ages 5–25) – 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au

• 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au

If you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi sits down with Dr. Justin Coulson to explore a topic that feels increasingly urgent for parents today: raising boys. Together, they dive into why so many young men are struggling to find their footing and what it actually takes to raise a generation that is resilient, purposeful, and grounded.

Dr. Coulson shares his own "failure to launch" story-from failing school to a decade-long radio career before finding his true calling in psychology-and explains why the path to adulthood isn't a race. They unpack the "Hope Theory," the dangers of "vanity careers," and the power of "Autonomy Support," providing a roadmap for parents who want to move from controlling their kids to guiding them. 

 This is a candid, insightful conversation about shifting the narrative for our sons and helping them become men who make the people around them feel "safer and stronger".

• The "Crisis of Purpose": Why kids today have more freedom than ever but less direction and resilience. 

• Dr.  Coulson’s Journey: From the bottom 15% of his class to a PhD in psychology and the "Happy Families" brand. 

• The Value of the Gap Year: Why "earning and learning" through life experiences often leads to more success than rushing straight into university. 

• The 2026 Brain Maturity Update: New research suggesting neurological maturity may not occur until our early 30s. 

• Autonomy Support vs. Control: How to help kids "endorse" rules and values rather than just following them out of fear. 

• The Hope Theory: Breaking down the three essential pillars of hope: Goals, Pathways, and Agency. 

• Screen Time and Lost Potential: The neurological "hijacking" of our youth and how it impacts their ability to discover their values. 

• Healthy Masculinity: Defining a healthy man as someone who helps those around him feel safer and stronger. 

• The "Sunday Chat": A practical family ritual for discussing everything from consent to mental health.

   

We often expect too much from our little kids and not enough from our teenagers. As Dr. Coulson explains, our job as parents is not to slay the dragons for our children, but to prepare them to be "dragon slayers" themselves. 

Many young men are failing to thrive because they lack a sense of worthiness derived from doing hard, productive things. By fostering "Autonomy Support," we can guide our children toward financial viability and personal fulfillment without resorting to "victimhood" or blaming external labels for a lack of progress. This conversation challenges parents to step up, have the hard conversations, and model the character we want our children to inherit. 

Dr. Justin Coulson is one of Australia’s most trusted parenting experts. He is the co-host of Channel 9’s Parental Guidance, the host of the #1 parenting podcast in Australia (The Happy Families Podcast), and the author of 11 books. After a successful radio career, Justin returned to university as a mature-age student, earning first-class honors in psychology and a PhD. He is a father of six daughters and is dedicated to helping families flourish through evidence-based psychological principles.

Connect with Dr. Justin Coulson:
Website: www.happyfamilies.com.au   
Podcast: The Happy Families Podcast

Dr. Justin Coulson’s latest book, "Boys: Building Strong Young Men from the Inside Out," is a culmination of four years of work. It provides a framework for raising boys who are confident, kind, and capable of navigating the complexities of modern masculinity. 

Pre-order Now: Pre-orders are critical for a book's success. You can pre-order your via the Happy Families website happyfamilies.com.au/boys-book-waitlist

 If this episode has inspired you to start more meaningful conversations with your kids, Kristi provides trauma-informed education and practical tools to help you guide them toward a life they can be proud of.

🔗 Explore education and resources:  
👉 www.kristimcvee.com 

If this episode has raised difficult feelings or if you need immediate support:

• Lifeline – 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au

• 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au

• Kids Helpline (ages 5–25) – 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au

If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services (000).

EPISODE SUMMARY:

In this episode of "Conversations with Kristi," Kristi discusses the alarming rise in online child exploitation with Ben Gillenwater, an IT and cybersecurity expert. They explore the challenges parents face in protecting their children from digital dangers, emphasising the importance of education and proactive parenting. Ben shares his personal journey of becoming the "family IT guy" and offers insights into managing children's online presence safely.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• The alarming rise in online child exploitation cases, with significant increases in AI deepfakes.
• The importance of proactive parenting in managing children's online presence.
• Ben Gillenwater's journey from IT expert to family IT advisor.
• The role of education in empowering parents and children against digital threats.
• The impact of social media and online platforms on children's mental health.
• Strategies for setting boundaries and expectations for children's device usage.
• The significance of leading by example in digital habits.
• The challenges of balancing parental control with children's privacy.
• The need for open communication between parents and children about online risks.
• The benefits of community and educational resources in supporting digital safety.

CHAPTERS:

• 00:00:00 Introduction and Background
• 00:06:00 The Rise of Online Exploitation
• 00:12:00 Ben's Journey to Family IT
• 00:18:00 Parenting Challenges in the Digital Age
• 00:24:00 Proactive Parenting Strategies
• 00:30:00 The Role of Education in Digital Safety
• 00:36:00 Managing Children's Online Presence
• 00:42:00 Balancing Control and Privacy
• 00:48:00 Community and Educational Resources
• 00:54:00 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources 

You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/8dg5zBwZKhs 

To learn more and connect with Ben, head over to his LinkedIn page at https://www.linkedin.com/in/bgilly/ or connect with him on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/family_it_guy 

Summary:

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, we delve into the profound impact of trauma on identity, particularly for women as Jessica Ella shares her profound journey of healing from childhood sexual abuse.

Jess discusses her unique approach to trauma recovery, emphasising the importance of understanding complex trauma and its impact on identity. She recounts her personal experiences of abuse, the challenges of navigating family dynamics, and the power of disclosure. The conversation highlights the flaws in the justice system and the necessity of support systems for survivors. Ultimately, Jessica's message is one of empowerment and hope, encouraging others to reclaim their power and heal from their past.

Takeaways:

• Jessica Ella's journey into healing began from her own trauma.
• She developed a unique method to help others heal from trauma.
• Complex trauma can significantly affect one's identity and self-worth.
• The act of abuse is often less traumatic than the secrecy surrounding it.
• Disclosure is a powerful tool for survivors to reclaim their narrative.
• Family dynamics play a crucial role in the experience of abuse.
• Support systems are essential for healing and recovery.
• The justice system often fails to protect victims of familial abuse.
• Survivors can choose how to respond to their abusers.
• Healing is possible, and it requires a commitment to self-discovery. Healing is a continuous journey that requires daily commitment.
• Children often mirror the behaviors of their parents, triggering unresolved issues.
• Seeking justice can be a complex and emotional process.
• Empowerment comes from healing and helping others.
• Trauma can be understood as an open memory that needs closure.
• Creating safe spaces for children to express their feelings is crucial.
• Parents must address their own trauma to effectively support their children.
• It's important to communicate openly with children about difficult topics.
• Healing from trauma is possible and does not define a person's future.
• Resources and education are vital for both parents and children.

Chapters:

• 00:00 - Introduction to Jessica Ella's Journey
• 03:09 - Healing Through Trauma: Jessica's Methodology
• 07:08 - Understanding Complex Trauma and Identity
• 10:24 - Jessica's Personal Story of Abuse
• 13:59 - The Impact of Abuse on Mental Health
• 17:38 - The Power of Healing and Self-Discovery
• 22:08 - The Dynamics of Power in Abuse
• 24:23 - The Role of Family in Trauma
• 27:46 - Recognising Red Flags in Abusive Relationships
• 29:51 - The Challenges of Family Court and Child Support
• 31:07 - Trust Issues with the Justice System
• 32:12 - The Complexity of Child Disclosure
• 34:08 - Factors Influencing Child Recantation
• 35:51 - The Confusion of Love and Abuse
• 37:21 - The Child's Need for Parental Love
• 40:08 - The Impact of Parental Abuse on Self-Love
• 42:15 - The Betrayal of Trust in Family Dynamics
• 44:06 - Navigating the Justice System
• 47:37 - Finding Empowerment Beyond Trauma
• 51:53 - Understanding Trauma and Healing Methods
• 55:54 - Understanding Trauma and Memory Processing
• 01:00:59 - Navigating Difficult Conversations with Children
• 01:05:19 - Healing from Complex Trauma
• 01:09:34 - Supporting Children After Trauma Disclosure
• 01:12:19 - Resources for Parents and Caregivers
• 01:16:07 - Introduction to Child Safety Education

For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources 

You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/zl2VFsIw8qA

To learn more and connect with Jess please head to her Instagram @iamjessicaella and you can grab a copy of the book "Secret or Surprise" at https://www.secretorsurprise.com.au  

Summary

In this special episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi McVee and Cheyenne Carter discuss the critical issues surrounding child safety in early childhood education. They explore Chey's journey in the field, the impact of COVID on childcare quality, and the importance of transparency and communication between parents and childcare providers.

The conversation delves into the dynamics of grooming and abuse, the psychological aspects of offenders, and the need for better training and support for educators. Parents are encouraged to be vigilant and proactive in ensuring their children's safety, while also understanding the systemic challenges faced by educators.

The episode concludes with actionable steps for parents to take in assessing childcare environments and reporting concerns.

Takeaways

• Child safety must be prioritised in childcare settings.
• COVID has exacerbated challenges in early childhood education.
• Grooming behaviours are often subtle and manipulative.
• Parents should be proactive in asking questions about childcare.
• Transparency from childcare providers is crucial for trust. Staff ratios and breaks are essential for child safety.
• CCTV can assist but is not a comprehensive solution.
• Legislative gaps exist in childcare safety regulations. Understanding offender psychology can help in prevention.
• Parents should feel empowered to report concerns.

Chapters

• 00:00 - Introduction to Child Safety Concerns
• 02:28 - Chey's Journey in Early Childhood Education
• 04:25 - Consulting for Better Standards in Education
• 06:18 - The Importance of Child Safety in Education
• 07:39 - Kristi's Background in Child Protection
• 11:19 - Understanding Grooming Behaviours
• 12:02 - Identifying Patterns Among Offenders
• 12:28 - The Role of Grooming in Abuse
• 14:31 - Creating Safe Relationships in Childcare
• 19:15 - Staffing Ratios and Child Safety
• 22:01 - The Role of CCTV in Child Safety
• 23:35 - Legislation and Child Safety Measures
• 26:23 - Working with Children's Checks and Their Limitations
• 29:14 - The Psychology of Offenders and Child Safety
• 31:28 - The Impact of Early Exposure to Inappropriate Content
• 34:55 - Understanding Different Types of Offenders
• 36:24 - Ensuring Child Safety in Educational Settings
• 38:51 - Parental Vigilance and Transparency in Childcare
• 41:47 - Navigating Compliance and Regulatory Standards
• 45:15 - The Importance of Consistency in Regulatory Practices
• 49:37 - Empowering Parents and Educators to Report Concerns
• 52:40 - Advocating for Better Support for Educators
• 01:00:19 - Episode Close & Follow-Up Information

For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources 

You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at 

To learn more and connect with Chey please head to https://www.divergented.com.au/ and follow her on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/cheyannecarter/?originalSubdomain=au 

Episode Summary:

In this heartfelt conversation, Kristi McVee and Jeanie Dean discuss Jeanie's journey from being a survivor of childhood sexual abuse to becoming an advocate for child safeguarding. They explore the challenges of coping with trauma, the impact of addiction, and the importance of supportive relationships. Jeanie shares her experiences working with sex offenders and in child protection, emphasising the need to see the person behind the behaviour. The conversation also touches on parenting through trauma and the struggle to break cycles of abuse, ultimately highlighting the journey of self-discovery and healing. In this conversation, Jeanie and Kristi delve into the complexities of child protection, discussing systemic failures, personal trauma, and the importance of creating safe environments for children. They emphasise the role of organisations and parents in safeguarding children, the need for open communication, and the community's responsibility in ensuring child safety. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by professionals in the field and the necessity for proactive measures to protect vulnerable individuals.

Key Takeaways:

• Jeanie is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and family violence.
• Coping mechanisms often lead to unhealthy behaviours, such as drug use.
• Arrest can serve as a turning point for change and self-reflection.
• Supportive relationships can be life-saving and transformative.
• Parenting through trauma requires awareness and intentionality to break cycles.
• Understanding child safeguarding is crucial for protecting vulnerable individuals.
• Working with sex offenders requires separating the person from their behaviour.
• Therapy and self-discovery are essential for healing from trauma.
• Labels like 'victim' can be triggering and limiting for survivors.
• Personal growth involves accepting oneself without needing a title.
• Systemic failures in child protection lead to repeated trauma.
• Personal experiences shape professional choices in child welfare.
• Creating child safe environments is essential for community organisations.
• Organisations must understand their legal duties regarding child safety.
• Parents should actively inquire about child safety policies in organisations.
• Older children face unique risks that require vigilant supervision.
• Open communication is crucial for safeguarding children.
• Community responsibility is vital in creating safe environments for kids.
• Education and awareness are key for parents in safeguarding their children.
• Child safety policies must be actively lived and enforced within organisations.

Episode Chapters:

00:00 - Introduction and Personal Challenges
05:28 - Coping Mechanisms and Consequences
09:17 - Turning Point: Arrest and Realisations
12:33 - Building a Life Together
17:30 - Breaking Cycles: Parenting and Self-Reflection
21:50 - Navigating Parenting Challenges
26:18 - Career Path: From Personal Struggles to Professional Advocacy
30:23 - The Complexity of Working with Offenders
34:01 - Navigating Personal Bias in Professional Roles
38:05 - The Challenges of Child Protection
43:17 - The Systemic Failures in Child Safety
48:10 - Creating Safe Environments for Children
56:51 - Trust and Disillusionment in Public Service
57:51 - Bridging the Gap in Public Service
58:42 - The Reality of Child Protection Work
01:00:57 - Navigating the Justice System for Children
01:02:29 - Expectations for Child Safety in Organisations
01:04:26 - Empowering Parents for Child Safety
01:06:21 - Understanding Risks for Older Children
01:08:05 - Meeting Children Where They Are
01:10:13 - Creating Safe Spaces for Disclosure
01:12:21 - Safeguarding Starts at Home
01:14:03 - Community Responsibility in Child Safety
01:15:47 - Policies and Culture in Organisations
01:17:34 - Observing Organisational Culture
01:19:43 - Intergenerational Culture in Sports
01:22:02 - Accountability in Child Safety
01:23:57 - The Importance of Compliance
01:26:31 - The Role of Safeguarding Solutions
01:27:42 - Introduction to Child Safety Education

For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources 

You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/GGJWDiFTm9Y 

To learn more and connect with Jeanie please head to https://safeguardingsolutions.com.au/  and follow her on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/jeanie-dean-90a46483

Episode Summary:

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kerri Sloper shares her journey as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and her mission to empower children and parents through her children's books. Kerri discusses the healing power of music and writing, the importance of speaking out, and the role of parents in preventing abuse. She emphasises the need for open communication about good and bad touching and how her books serve as tools for healing and understanding. The conversation highlights the significance of breaking the cycle of abuse and fostering a safe environment for children.

Key Takeaways:

• Kerri Sloper is a musician and author who writes children's books about her experiences with childhood sexual abuse.
• Her books aim to help both children and adult survivors relate to their experiences and find healing.
• Music and writing have been crucial coping strategies for Kerri throughout her healing journey.
• Kerri emphasises the importance of speaking out about abuse to help others heal.
• She believes that forgiveness is an internal journey that does not require forgiving the abuser.
• Kerri's books are designed to be relatable for children and to help them understand their feelings about abuse.
• Parents play a vital role in preventing abuse by trusting their instincts and believing their children.
• Teaching children about good touching and bad touching is essential for their safety.
• Kerri's mission is to break the cycle of abuse and empower future generations.
• The conversation highlights the importance of open communication between parents and children about sensitive topics.

Episode Chapters:

00:00 - Introduction to Kerri Sloper and Her Journey
03:06 - The Healing Power of Storytelling
05:44 - Navigating the Impact of Childhood Trauma
08:50 - Understanding the Complexity of Belief and Truth
11:42 - The Role of Forgiveness in Healing
14:57 - The Journey of Writing and Sharing Her Story
17:41 - Breaking the Cycle of Abuse
20:32 - The Importance of Internal Healing
23:20 - The Process of Writing and Publishing Books
24:24 - The Journey of Writing and Inspiration
26:01 - Understanding the Target Audience for Children's Books
28:48 - Exploring Themes of Healing and Resilience
30:28 - The Importance of Forgiveness in Healing
32:32 - Navigating the Complexities of Disclosure
35:42 - The Role of Art in Healing
38:15 - Spreading Awareness and Reducing Stigma
40:17 - Empowering Parents to Protect Their Children

For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources

You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/O12JXIWLDDw 

To purchase Kerri's books please head to https://www.amazon.com.au/s?i=books-single-index&rh=p_27%3AKerri%2B%2BJ%2BSloper&s=relevancerank&text=Kerri++J+Sloper&ref=dp_byline_sr_book_1 and follow her on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/kerri-sloper-a56420253

Episode Summary:

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi we catch up with Susan Dunlop, Susan discusses her journey through self-development, the challenges of family dynamics, and her understanding of avoidance in personal growth. She reflects on her childhood experiences and the conscious choices she has made to improve her relationships and emotional well-being.

Key Takeaways:

• Self-development requires conscious practice and effort.
• Family dynamics can significantly impact personal growth.
• Avoidance can hinder emotional connections and relationships.
• Recognising patterns from childhood is crucial for healing.
• It's important to make conscious choices in relationships.
• Personal growth often involves confronting difficult emotions.
• Therapy can provide valuable insights into personal behaviour.
• Breaking free from past patterns is a liberating experience.
• Emotional well-being is a continuous journey.
• Connection with others is essential for personal development.

Episode Chapters:

00:00 - Introduction to Child Development and Healing
03:46 - Understanding Abuse and Its Impact on Development
06:46 - The Connection Between Childhood Trauma and Adulthood
09:38 - The Drama Triangle: Roles in Trauma Responses
12:35 - Parenting and Communication: Breaking the Cycle
17:40 - Conscious Choices: Moving Beyond the Drama Triangle
23:04 - Emotional Healing: Feeling to Heal
26:00 - Understanding the Drama Triangle
28:16 - The Impact of Childhood Experiences
30:53 - Empowering Future Generations
33:30 - The Ripple Effect of Change
36:07 - Finding Your Voice and Healing
41:05 - Rediscovering Leadership Through Trauma
42:34 - The Impact of Sibling Sexual Abuse
44:49 - Starting Conversations on Abuse
46:13 - Understanding the Complexity of Abuse
48:09 - Navigating Historical Cases of Abuse
51:34 - Being a Supportive Listener
53:42 - The Importance of Trauma-Informed Leadership
55:48 - Introduction to Child Safety Education

For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources 

You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/hWvGKx-e8vg  

To learn more and connect with Susan please head to https://susandunlop.com.au/ and follow her on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/susan-dunlop-641526142 

Episode Summary:

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, I speak with Diane Tarantini, a body safety educator and author, about the critical importance of conversations surrounding child safety and trauma. We discuss Diane's personal journey as a survivor of childhood abuse, the significance of body safety education, and the alarming statistics regarding child sexual abuse. The conversation emphasises the need for open discussions about difficult topics, the impact of pornography on youth, and the role of therapy in healing. Diane shares valuable tips for parents on how to create safe spaces for their children to talk about their experiences and feelings, highlighting the importance of consistent communication and education in preventing abuse.

Key Takeaways:

• Every conversation about child safety is vital.
• Survivors often hide their trauma until they can't anymore.
• Body safety education is crucial for children.
• Conversations about difficult topics should start early.
• Statistics show a high prevalence of child sexual abuse.
• Peer-to-peer abuse is a growing concern.
• Education on consent and safe touch is essential.
• The impact of pornography on youth is significant.
• Therapy can be a powerful tool for healing.
• Writing can help survivors process their experiences.

Episode Chapters:

00:00 - Introduction and Connection Across Borders
02:09 - Diane's Journey: From Survivor to Educator
06:22 - The Importance of Open Conversations
06:58 - Statistics and Disclosure of Childhood Trauma
10:40 - Understanding Peer-to-Peer Abuse
14:24 - The Role of Pornography in Child Abuse
18:29 - The Impact of Unsupervised Internet Access
22:55 - Consequences of Misguided Sexual Education
27:20 - Navigating Parenting in a Complex World
27:49 - Understanding Body Safety and Consent
30:03 - The Dynamics of Grooming and Peer-to-Peer Abuse
32:54 - The Impact of Family Dynamics on Abuse
35:56 - The Role of Parents in Recognising Abuse
38:54 - The Complexity of Emotional and Physical Abuse
41:48 - The Journey to Therapy and Healing
46:02 - The Role of Trauma in Parenting
50:35 - Exploring EMDR Therapy for Trauma Recovery
56:11 - Healing from Trauma: The Power of Memory Work
59:36 - Understanding Complex Trauma and Its Effects
01:02:03 - Empowering Children: Body Safety Education
01:06:05 - Fostering Open Conversations with Kids
01:12:17 - Navigating Difficult Topics: Communication Strategies
01:15:33 - The Journey of Writing and Sharing Stories

For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources

You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/MboNI4FsHAY 

To learn more and connect with Diane please head to https://dianetarantini.com/ and follow her on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/diane-tarantini-b883938a

Episode Summary:

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, we catch up with Nikki Butler to discuss the importance of teaching protective behaviours to children and instilling a sense of hope for parents who may feel they have missed opportunities in their children's upbringing. She discusses the significance of recognising non-verbal cues and behaviours that indicate harm, and encourages parents to forgive themselves for past mistakes, highlighting that it is never too late to start making positive changes in their parenting approach.

Key Takeaways:

• It's never too late to start teaching protective behaviours.
• Parents should forgive themselves for past parenting mistakes.
• Recognising nonverbal cues is crucial in understanding children.
• There are ways to work with young people effectively.
• Hope is an essential element in parenting.
• Teaching kids about safety is a continuous journey.
• Understanding a child's language of harm is important.
• Parents can always improve their skills and knowledge.
• It's vital to address missed opportunities in parenting.
• Support and resources are available for parents.

Episode Chapters:

00:00 - Introduction to Child Protection and Safety
02:40 - Nikki Butler's Journey in Child Safety
07:39 - Working with Young Mothers and Their Challenges
11:08 - Navigating Teenage Years: Parenting Challenges
16:45 - Understanding Teen Development and Identity
30:56 - Building Communication and Connection with Teens
37:21 - The Importance of Communication in Parenting
39:36 - Understanding Teen Emotions and Self-Expression
45:36 - Navigating Risky Behaviours in Adolescents
50:16 - Recognising Changes in Teen Behaviour
57:33 - Building Connections with Teen Friends
01:01:34  -The Power of Vulnerability and Sharing Experiences
01:08:37 - Introduction to Child Safety Education

For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources

You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/6FiPVbiu4sI

To learn more and connect with Nikki please head to www.nikkibutler.com.au and follow her on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/nikki-butler-577132149/

Episode Summary:

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, we catch up with Colleen Murphy to discuss the importance of teaching children to trust their bodies and recognise their own signals, especially in environments where they may feel uncertain. Colleen discusses the role of adults in fostering this trust and provides practical strategies for empowering children to navigate their feelings and experiences.

Key Takeaways:

• Trusting your body is essential for children.
• Children can rely on their bodies even in uncertain environments.
• Body signals are truthful indicators of feelings.
• Empowerment comes from understanding one's own body.
• Adults play a crucial role in teaching body trust.
• Resilience is built through body awareness.
• Practical strategies can help children trust their bodies.
• Encouraging open conversations about feelings is vital.
• Children need guidance to navigate their experiences.
• Creating a supportive environment fosters body trust.

Episode Chapters:

00:00 - Introduction to Colleen Murphy and Her Journey
07:53 - From Hairdresser to Victim Advocate
12:54  - The My Body Tells the Truth Program
16:54  - Understanding Disclosures from Children
21:15  - The Impact of First Responders on Abuse Awareness
23:35 - The Cycle of Abuse and Its Long-Term Effects
28:50 - Supporting Families of Abuse Survivors
33:23 - Empowering Children Through Education
34:58 - Understanding Consent and Coercion
37:35 - Empowering Children to Speak Up
41:21 - Questioning Authority and Building Confidence
44:17 - The Importance of Parental Guidance
47:39 - Navigating Sleepovers and Safety
51:16 - The Role of Community in Parenting
54:10 - Empowering Children Through Education
57:53 - Validation and Communication in Parenting
01:03:57 - Introduction to Child Safety Education

For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources

You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/fZJUcbJkXjg

To learn more about Colleen and her mission, head to her LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/colleen-murphy-17416a182/