We often find ourselves stuck in a cycle of miscommunication and frustration. We don't know how to convey how we feel OR we burst out and create even more pain. Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill have spent years researching human connection and how to break that cycle. The Connection Codes is the guide to helping couples conquer conflict and it is the tool to break the cycle of pain and live in peace together.
Hosted by Tera Wages of the I Get It podcast.
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Reignite Your Marriage: The Product That is Changing How Couples Connect
Wednesday, April 8, 2026 • Duration 42:20
What if the thing standing between you and better intimacy was something as simple as the mess of a massage oil?
In this episode, Dr Glenn and Phyllis sit down with Justin and Natalie — the couple behind Evree, a 100% natural intimate massage cream that functions as both a massage product and a lubricant without leaving the sticky, oily residue that stops most couples from even trying.
Justin and Natalie share the story behind six years of development, what it cost them emotionally and financially to keep going when experts told them it wasn't possible, and why they believe physical touch and intentional intimacy can quite literally transform a marriage.
They also walk through the Core Emotion Wheel — sharing raw, real moments from their own relationship and inner life. This is a conversation about more than a product. It's about removing the barriers that keep couples from choosing each other.
In This Episode:
The date night that started it all — and why Natalie just wanted to go to sleep
Why massage oils and lubricants have always been two separate products (and the problems each one causes)
The 6-year journey to create a product everyone told them was impossible
Why Justin almost gave up — and what happened when they took one more run at it
How Evree functions as a massage cream, lubricant, moisturizer, and body butter in one
100% natural ingredients, edible, vaginally safe, and non-sticky — the full wish list they achieved
What 15,000 couples are saying about how it's changed their marriage
New products coming: Kiss Balm and a pH-balanced intimate wash
Justin and Natalie each go through the Core Emotion Wheel — and it's unexpectedly personal
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Reclaiming Your Desire: The 5 Things That Will Make or Break Your Marriage, Career, & Mental Health
Tuesday, March 31, 2026 • Duration 45:40
What if everything you've been labeling as a problem — the addiction, the affair, the marriage that feels like a hostage situation, the career that's slowly killing you — is actually a prophet trying to get your attention?
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill sit down with Jay Stringer, psychotherapist, ordained minister, and author of Desire, for one of the most searingly honest conversations about human longing, emotional health, and the hidden roadmap inside every one of us.
Jay spent years studying why people engage in unwanted behaviors — and what he found wasn't weakness or moral failure. He found desire. Vandalized, suppressed, and rerouted desire. And he found that healing the root — not just managing the symptom — changes everything.
In This Episode
Why "just stop doing the thing" almost never works — and what to do instead
The 5 core desires every human has (and why over-indexing on one destroys the others)
The concept of the "provisional self" and why so many people wake up at 60 not knowing who they are
What bells and albatrosses can teach you about the direction your life is asking you to go
The DMZs in your marriage — and why avoiding them is quietly killing your connection
How symptoms are actually prophets (and what they're trying to say)
Jay walks through the Core Emotion Wheel live — with stunning vulnerability about loneliness, sadness, and a midlife chrysalis
About Jay Stringer
Jay Stringer is a licensed psychotherapist, ordained minister, and author based in New York City. His first book, Unwanted, explored the hidden drivers of unwanted sexual behavior. His new book, Desire, offers a research-backed roadmap for developing a healthy relationship to desire across all five domains of human flourishing — wholeness, growth, intimacy, pleasure, and meaning. He holds a master's in counseling psychology and an MDiv from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology.
Walking Through Difficulty Over & Over Again - How Creativity Heals Identity When Life Falls Apart
Tuesday, January 27, 2026 • Duration 46:11
What happens when you lose your identity in a new country, face 65 consecutive rejections, and your creative voice gets buried under the weight of just surviving? Lara Pilcher, actress, author, and ICF-certified coach, shares her raw journey from Melbourne to America—and how creativity became her lifeline when everything else fell apart.
In this deeply vulnerable conversation, Lara reveals:
Why creativity isn't just for artists—it's a life force everyone needs to survive
How she rewrote her entire book after getting dropped by her literary agent
The difference between grief and depression (and why most creatives are actually grieving)
Why we shut down creativity during pain—and how to awaken it again
The "mansion with many rooms" approach to finding your creative voice
How rejection taught her resilience and audacity in a saturated world
This episode is for you if:
You've lost touch with your creative self and don't know how to find it again
You're processing grief, loss, or major life transitions
You feel stuck in the "acquisitions track" and disconnected from who you really are
You need permission to be a beginner again—to skip, dance, paint, or create badly
You're afraid of judgment and need to "embrace the cringe"
Glenn and Phyllis explore how creativity connects directly to identity, emotional health, and relationship wellness. This isn't about becoming an artist—it's about reconnecting with the part of you that says "there I am."
About Lara Pilcher: Lara Pilcher is an actress, author, and ICF PCC-certified coach who has performed on London's West End and now helps creative souls reclaim their voice. Her debut book Audacious Artistry: Reclaim Your Creative Identity and Thrive in a Saturated World releases through a London publisher after a journey of resilience that included 65+ rejections and completely rewriting her manuscript.
Mentioned in this episode:
Brené Brown's research on creativity as life force
Shaping a Compassionate Future for Our Children(112)
Tuesday, May 7, 2024 • Duration 47:09
Tera, Echo, and Bridget discuss the transformative power of respectful communication between adults and children. They explore the significant impact of emotional intelligence on parenting, bringing to the forefront the importance of creating safe, empathetic environments where children are encouraged to express themselves and engage with the world around them confidently. With heartfelt stories and expert insights, this conversation challenges conventional disciplinary tactics, advocating for a connection-first approach that respects children's voices and emotions. If you’re looking to foster deeper connections and understand the profound influence of nurturing communication in shaping the future generation, tune in to this episode!
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help
Chapters:
00:00:00 - Revolutionizing Parenting with Emotional Codes
00:02:24 - Official Start: Unveiling the Connection Codes
00:03:44 - Expanding Kids' Support Networks Beyond Parents
00:06:46 - Discussing Kids’ Rights to Emotions and Choices
00:11:41 - Deepening Understanding of Kids' Emotional Expressions
00:18:57 - Exploring Emotional Regulation Within Families
00:25:17 - Parental Reflections: Aspiring for Change and Healing
00:27:24 - Crafting a Supportive Web for Parents and Kids
00:30:28 - The Intricacies of Emotional Bonds in Families
00:31:49 - Educating Kids on Emotional Intelligence and Safety
00:35:53 - Strengthening Parenting Through Community Support
00:41:04 - Embracing a Spectrum of Emotions in Child Rearing
00:47:48 - Wrapping Up: Embracing Emotional Awareness in Parenting
Is sex a need or just a desire?(111)
Tuesday, April 30, 2024 • Duration 44:04
Dr. Glenn Hill and his wife Phyllis along with Tera Wages unabashedly dive into nuanced territories of sex, intimacy, and emotional transparency within relationships. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis are experts in marital therapy and clinical sexology. Today’s discussion centers around whether sex is a desire or a need, and how this distinction impacts relationship dynamics. Through personal and professional stories, they explore how sexual intimacy intertwines with personal identity and emotional well-being, offering listeners a profound understanding of how to foster deeper connections with their partners. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to enhance their relational depth, navigate complex emotions, and transform their approach to intimacy and connection.
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help
Chapters:
00:00:00 - Kicking Off: The Intricacies of Sex and Candid Conversations
00:00:42 - Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast: Introduction
00:01:36 - Community Vibes: The Strength of Connection
00:03:11 - Emotional Insights: Utilizing the Core Emotion Wheel
00:06:05 - Navigating Emotions: Anger, Fear, and Identity in Personal Connections
00:07:30: - Exploring Anger's Role in Relationship Dynamics
00:09:00: - Fear in Partnerships: Unpacking Vulnerabilities
00:10:45: - Identity Crisis in Relationships: A Closer Look
00:12:15:- How Emotions Shape Connection Dynamics
00:15:20 - Critical Question: Is Sex a Need or Merely a Desire?
00:21:21 - Why Sexual Connection Matters in Deep Relationships
00:25:13 - Debunking Myths: Sex, Identity, and Cultural Misconceptions
00:27:49 - Sexual Identity Explored: Connection and Understanding
00:31:51 - Honoring Each Other: Respecting Individual Sexual Needs
Opening Up About Sex through the Hard Conversations(110)
Tuesday, April 23, 2024 • Duration 42:54
Tera and Wes Wages engage in a candid exploration of intimacy and vulnerability within their marriage. They discuss the often unspoken complicatedness of sexual desires and emotional needs, using their own experiences to illuminate the universal challenges faced by many couples. The couple explains how addressing past traumas and embracing open, honest dialogue can foster a stronger, more connected relationship. This episode not only provides you with practical insights for enhancing intimacy but also offers a raw look at the courage it takes to confront and navigate the intricate aspects of love and partnership. Whether you're seeking to deepen your relationship or understand the delicate balance of support and desire, Tera and Wes’s journey through love’s emotional landscape will resonate and inspire.
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help
Chapters:
00:00:00 Welcome to a Raw and Honest Look Inside Marriage: The Connection Codes Episode
00:00:22 Unpacking the Seldom Talked About: Conversations About Sex
00:03:15 Emotional Connection and Intimacy Challenges
00:06:10 Journey Through Emotional and Sexual Intimacy: A Marriage's Story
00:09:48 How Past Traumas Can Influence Our Current Relationships
00:10:46 Delving Into the Complex Interplay Between Sexual Desires and Emotional Needs
00:11:35 The Crucial Role of Open Communication in Strengthening Marriage
00:13:28 Striking a Balance: Healing and Understanding in Partnership
00:17:45 Healing Together: The Journey of Emotional Recovery in Marriage
00:20:17 Why Recognizing Each Partner's Experience Matters
00:22:19 Adapting to the Different Seasons of Marital Life and Mental Wellness
00:24:05 Postpartum Challenges and Navigating Societal Expectations in Relationships
Finding Joy in the Middle of Pain(109)
Tuesday, April 16, 2024 • Duration 43:56
Join your host Tera Wages, along with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, as they explore the intricate dance between joy and pain through personal stories and the revolutionary use of the core emotion wheel. Discover how facing deep emotional challenges within a family can open up pathways to healing and deeper connections, highlighting the surprising truth that profound joy often coexists with intense sorrow. You are invited to reflect on your own experiences with emotional complexity and the power of vulnerability in fostering true connection. Tune in to learn how embracing all facets of your emotions can lead to a more fulfilled and emotionally rich life.
00:00:00 - Intro to Connection Codes: Bridging Emotions
00:01:34 - Unveiling the Core Emotion Wheel
00:03:08 - Personal Stories of Emotional Courage
00:06:22 - Harnessing Emotion to Enhance Connection: Personal Stories
00:10:15 - Coping with Deep Family Challenges
00:12:32 - The Role of the Emotion Wheel in Family Healing
00:14:00 - Personal Reflections on Sorrow and Support Mechanisms
00:18:22 - Vulnerability in Times of Crisis: A Family’s Testament
00:20:54 - The Strength Found in Open Vulnerability
00:23:09 - Journey Through Emotional Release to Joy
00:25:45 - Comparing Physical and Emotional Pains
00:27:23 - Finding Joy Amidst Deep Sorrow: A True Story
00:29:38 - Why Processing Emotions Matters for Health
00:33:54 - Vulnerability as a Pathway to Emotional Healing
When Internship Turns Into Family with Jordan and Erika Koop(108)
Tuesday, April 9, 2024 • Duration 01:03:21
In this episode we are journeying alongside the Koops, a Canadian family who ventured into the unfamiliar, embedding themselves with the Hills for an experience that transcends mere internship. Through laughter, tears, and moments of profound vulnerability, we explore the life-changing power of connection, the beauty of unexpected lessons, and the courage it takes to embrace authenticity in every facet of life. From the initial leap of faith encapsulated in a cold email to the intricate dance of living and learning together, this episode shows the richness that comes from opening hearts and homes, challenging us to consider the depth of our connections and the spaces we create for growth and genuine interaction. Join us as we navigate the complexities of human relationships, discovering along the way that home isn't just a place, but a feeling cultivated through true connection and understanding.
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off:
Connect with Certified Coaches Jordan & Erika Koop:
www.questforthecore.com
Chapters:
00:00:00 - Embarking on an Unfamiliar Path: Introducing the Koops and their leap of faith.
00:01:04 - From Cold Email to Shared Roof: The story behind the Koops' bold decision.
00:05:56 - More Than Just Interns: Unpacking the reality behind living with the Hills.
00:08:25 - Laughter and Lessons: Discovering life's unexpected teachings.
00:11:02 - Finding Comfort in the Uncomfortable: The magic of opening up.
00:14:17 - Vulnerability's Victory: Embracing the emotional ebbs and flows together.
When Faith Meets Psychology with Dr. Margaret Nagib(107)
Tuesday, April 2, 2024 • Duration 58:19
Today we’re discussing emotional regulation, personal transformation, and the intricate relationship between the mind, body, and spirit with our esteemed guest, Dr. Margaret Nagib. As a Christian clinical psychologist, Margaret shares her profound insights on how integrating spiritual practices with psychological principles can lead to unparalleled growth and healing. Through her personal experiences that she shares and professional insights, we explore the transformative power of connecting with the Holy Spirit, the importance of nurturing our inner lives, and the impact of emotional intelligence on our relationships and sense of self. This episode is a beacon for anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of themselves and their spiritual journey, offering practical advice and encouraging stories of change and healing.
Chapters:
00:00:00 Welcome to Connection Codes
00:02:14 Meet Dr. Margaret Nagib: Unveiling Paths to Healing and Wholeness
00:06:48 Harnessing Emotional Regulation Through Nervous System Awareness
00:08:30 Exploring the Mind-Body Connection: Insights into Emotional Wellness
00:11:05 The Role of Faith in Emotional Health
00:13:47 Techniques for Emotional Regulation
00:16:34 Stories of Transformation: How Integrating Faith Enhances Therapy
00:19:12 The Significance of Self-Awareness in Spiritual and Psychological Growth
00:21:00 Discovering Wholeness: Somatic Practices and Spiritual Insight
00:26:24 Unraveling the Layers: The Quest for an Authentic Self
00:28:00 Awakening to Spiritual Depth
00:30:00 Weathering the Storm: Family, Health, and Hope
00:33:35 Journeying Through Emotions to Find Collective Healing
00:37:52 Integrating Divine Wisdom for Profound Therapeutic Breakthroughs
00:41:08 - Margaret's Methods: Blending Spiritual Practice with Clinical Insights
00:45:12 Vulnerability as a Gateway to Strength and Courage
00:49:44 - Personal Anecdotes of Faith-Fueled Resilience
00:53:17 - Final Reflections: The Journey of Healing and Connection and Heartfelt Thanks
Links and Resources:
When Joy is Damaging(106)
Tuesday, March 26, 2024 • Duration 57:40
In this episode we’re exploring the multifaceted nature of joy, an emotion traditionally viewed through a purely positive lens. Listen in on a thought-provoking journey to uncover the complexities and potential pitfalls of unprocessed joy. From personal experiences to professional insights, we’re shedding light on how unchecked joy can lead to unexpected consequences in both personal health and interpersonal relationships. By exploring the balance between embracing joy and acknowledging its hidden impacts, this episode will offer you a nuanced perspective on managing emotions for deeper connection and understanding.
Chapters:
00:00:00 - Meet Your Guides: The Voices Behind the Connection Codes
00:01:12 - The Complexity of Joy: Its Impact Beyond the Surface
00:02:29 - Joy's Unexpected Consequences: A Story from the Dinner Table
00:05:49 - The Risks of Letting Joy Run Wild
00:08:25 - The Double-Edged Sword of Joy: When Happiness Overshadows
00:10:32 - Joy in the Details: The Impact of Small Moments on Our Well-being
00:15:04 - Joy: Stories That Connect and Enlighten
00:22:57 - The Art of Recognizing and Embracing Joy
00:26:15 - The Intricacies of Joy in Daily Life: Insights and Reflections
00:30:03 - The Ripple Effect of Unprocessed Joy
00:33:03 - A Look at Joy's Influence in Unexpected Places
00:34:08 - The Thin Line Between Aspiration and Acceptance
00:37:41 - Together in Emotion: The Strength of Shared Experiences
00:39:17 - Nurturing Connections Through Emotional Openness
00:45:28 - Facing Life's Challenges: A Family's Journey Through Illness
00:51:52 - A Family's Battle: Fear, Hope, and the Spectrum of Emotions
00:56:51 - Wrapping Up: Embracing the Full Spectrum of Our Emotions
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