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Reignite Your Marriage: The Product That is Changing How Couples Connect08 Apr 202600:42:20

What if the thing standing between you and better intimacy was something as simple as the mess of a massage oil?

In this episode, Dr Glenn and Phyllis sit down with Justin and Natalie — the couple behind Evree, a 100% natural intimate massage cream that functions as both a massage product and a lubricant without leaving the sticky, oily residue that stops most couples from even trying.

Justin and Natalie share the story behind six years of development, what it cost them emotionally and financially to keep going when experts told them it wasn't possible, and why they believe physical touch and intentional intimacy can quite literally transform a marriage.

They also walk through the Core Emotion Wheel — sharing raw, real moments from their own relationship and inner life. This is a conversation about more than a product. It's about removing the barriers that keep couples from choosing each other.


In This Episode:

  • The date night that started it all — and why Natalie just wanted to go to sleep
  • Why massage oils and lubricants have always been two separate products (and the problems each one causes)
  • The 6-year journey to create a product everyone told them was impossible
  • Why Justin almost gave up — and what happened when they took one more run at it
  • How Evree functions as a massage cream, lubricant, moisturizer, and body butter in one
  • 100% natural ingredients, edible, vaginally safe, and non-sticky — the full wish list they achieved
  • What 15,000 couples are saying about how it's changed their marriage
  • New products coming: Kiss Balm and a pH-balanced intimate wash
  • Justin and Natalie each go through the Core Emotion Wheel — and it's unexpectedly personal

Resources Mentioned:

Evree Intimate Massage Cream — ⁠evreesensation.com⁠

Evree Discount Code — Use code: connectioncodes for 10% off your Evree order

Evree on Instagram — ⁠@evreesensation⁠

Get the Core Emotion Wheel — ⁠connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a Connection Codes Coach — ⁠connectioncodes.co/coaches


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Reclaiming Your Desire: The 5 Things That Will Make or Break Your Marriage, Career, & Mental Health31 Mar 202600:45:40

What if everything you've been labeling as a problem — the addiction, the affair, the marriage that feels like a hostage situation, the career that's slowly killing you — is actually a prophet trying to get your attention?

Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill sit down with Jay Stringer, psychotherapist, ordained minister, and author of Desire, for one of the most searingly honest conversations about human longing, emotional health, and the hidden roadmap inside every one of us.

Jay spent years studying why people engage in unwanted behaviors — and what he found wasn't weakness or moral failure. He found desire. Vandalized, suppressed, and rerouted desire. And he found that healing the root — not just managing the symptom — changes everything.

In This Episode

  • Why "just stop doing the thing" almost never works — and what to do instead
  • The 5 core desires every human has (and why over-indexing on one destroys the others)
  • The concept of the "provisional self" and why so many people wake up at 60 not knowing who they are
  • What bells and albatrosses can teach you about the direction your life is asking you to go
  • The DMZs in your marriage — and why avoiding them is quietly killing your connection
  • How symptoms are actually prophets (and what they're trying to say)
  • Jay walks through the Core Emotion Wheel live — with stunning vulnerability about loneliness, sadness, and a midlife chrysalis


About Jay Stringer

Jay Stringer is a licensed psychotherapist, ordained minister, and author based in New York City. His first book, Unwanted, explored the hidden drivers of unwanted sexual behavior. His new book, Desire, offers a research-backed roadmap for developing a healthy relationship to desire across all five domains of human flourishing — wholeness, growth, intimacy, pleasure, and meaning. He holds a master's in counseling psychology and an MDiv from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology.


SEO Keywords

desire and healing, emotional health podcast, marriage communication, understanding your desires, unwanted sexual behavior, porn addiction recovery, identity and self-worth, self-sabotage meaning, mental health and marriage, relationship emotional intelligence, faith and therapy, midlife identity crisis, Core Emotion Wheel, connection codes podcast, Jay Stringer Desire book

Resources & Links

Get the Core Emotion Wheel — Free Resource

Book a Connection Codes Coach

Jay Stringer's book: Desire

Jay's first book: Unwanted

Jay Stringer’s Website: jay-stringer.com

Follow Jay on Instagram: @jay_stringer_

Take Jay’s Desire Profile Quiz (from the book)

Jay’s Contact Page (Linktree)

Walking Through Difficulty Over & Over Again - How Creativity Heals Identity When Life Falls Apart 27 Jan 202600:46:11

What happens when you lose your identity in a new country, face 65 consecutive rejections, and your creative voice gets buried under the weight of just surviving? Lara Pilcher, actress, author, and ICF-certified coach, shares her raw journey from Melbourne to America—and how creativity became her lifeline when everything else fell apart.

In this deeply vulnerable conversation, Lara reveals:

  • Why creativity isn't just for artists—it's a life force everyone needs to survive
  • How she rewrote her entire book after getting dropped by her literary agent
  • The difference between grief and depression (and why most creatives are actually grieving)
  • Why we shut down creativity during pain—and how to awaken it again
  • The "mansion with many rooms" approach to finding your creative voice
  • How rejection taught her resilience and audacity in a saturated world

This episode is for you if:

  • You've lost touch with your creative self and don't know how to find it again
  • You're processing grief, loss, or major life transitions
  • You feel stuck in the "acquisitions track" and disconnected from who you really are
  • You need permission to be a beginner again—to skip, dance, paint, or create badly
  • You're afraid of judgment and need to "embrace the cringe"

Glenn and Phyllis explore how creativity connects directly to identity, emotional health, and relationship wellness. This isn't about becoming an artist—it's about reconnecting with the part of you that says "there I am."

About Lara Pilcher: Lara Pilcher is an actress, author, and ICF PCC-certified coach who has performed on London's West End and now helps creative souls reclaim their voice. Her debut book Audacious Artistry: Reclaim Your Creative Identity and Thrive in a Saturated World releases through a London publisher after a journey of resilience that included 65+ rejections and completely rewriting her manuscript.

Mentioned in this episode:

  • Brené Brown's research on creativity as life force
  • Dr. Echo Hill on grief vs. depression
  • Will Palomo on creativity as "connecting the seemingly unconnected"
  • Diane Collards' I Choose to Forgive

Resources:

Keywords: mental health, emotional wellness, creativity and identity, overcoming rejection, marriage communication, grief vs depression, emotional regulation, relationship coaching, creative identity crisis, finding yourself again, emotional health tools, leadership development, creative resilience

Shaping a Compassionate Future for Our Children(112)07 May 202400:47:09

Tera, Echo, and Bridget discuss the transformative power of respectful communication between adults and children. They explore the significant impact of emotional intelligence on parenting, bringing to the forefront the importance of creating safe, empathetic environments where children are encouraged to express themselves and engage with the world around them confidently. With heartfelt stories and expert insights, this conversation challenges conventional disciplinary tactics, advocating for a connection-first approach that respects children's voices and emotions. If you’re looking to foster deeper connections and understand the profound influence of nurturing communication in shaping the future generation, tune in to this episode!

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:

  • 00:00:00 - Revolutionizing Parenting with Emotional Codes
  • 00:02:24 - Official Start: Unveiling the Connection Codes
  • 00:03:44 - Expanding Kids' Support Networks Beyond Parents
  • 00:06:46 - Discussing Kids’ Rights to Emotions and Choices
  • 00:11:41 - Deepening Understanding of Kids' Emotional Expressions
  • 00:18:57 - Exploring Emotional Regulation Within Families
  • 00:25:17 - Parental Reflections: Aspiring for Change and Healing
  • 00:27:24 - Crafting a Supportive Web for Parents and Kids
  • 00:30:28 - The Intricacies of Emotional Bonds in Families
  • 00:31:49 - Educating Kids on Emotional Intelligence and Safety
  • 00:35:53 - Strengthening Parenting Through Community Support
  • 00:41:04 - Embracing a Spectrum of Emotions in Child Rearing
  • 00:47:48 - Wrapping Up: Embracing Emotional Awareness in Parenting
Is sex a need or just a desire?(111)30 Apr 202400:44:04

Dr. Glenn Hill and his wife Phyllis along with Tera Wages unabashedly dive into nuanced territories of sex, intimacy, and emotional transparency within relationships. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis are experts in marital therapy and clinical sexology. Today’s discussion centers around whether sex is a desire or a need, and how this distinction impacts relationship dynamics. Through personal and professional stories, they explore how sexual intimacy intertwines with personal identity and emotional well-being, offering listeners a profound understanding of how to foster deeper connections with their partners. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to enhance their relational depth, navigate complex emotions, and transform their approach to intimacy and connection.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:

  • 00:00:00 - Kicking Off: The Intricacies of Sex and Candid Conversations
  • 00:00:42 - Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast: Introduction
  • 00:01:36 - Community Vibes: The Strength of Connection
  • 00:03:11 - Emotional Insights: Utilizing the Core Emotion Wheel
  • 00:06:05 - Navigating Emotions: Anger, Fear, and Identity in Personal Connections
  • 00:07:30: - Exploring Anger's Role in Relationship Dynamics
  • 00:09:00: - Fear in Partnerships: Unpacking Vulnerabilities
  • 00:10:45: - Identity Crisis in Relationships: A Closer Look
  • 00:12:15:- How Emotions Shape Connection Dynamics
  • 00:15:20 - Critical Question: Is Sex a Need or Merely a Desire?
  • 00:21:21 - Why Sexual Connection Matters in Deep Relationships
  • 00:25:13 - Debunking Myths: Sex, Identity, and Cultural Misconceptions
  • 00:27:49 - Sexual Identity Explored: Connection and Understanding
  • 00:31:51 - Honoring Each Other: Respecting Individual Sexual Needs
  • 00:33:30: - Challenges in Sexual Relationships: Expert Insights
  • 00:35:10: Individual Needs vs. Relationship Expectations
  • 00:36:45: Techniques for Enhancing Sexual Intimacy
  • 00:38:20: Overcoming Stigmas in Sexual Health
  • 00:41:10 - Seeking Help: The Importance of External Guidance in Sexual Matters
Opening Up About Sex through the Hard Conversations(110)23 Apr 202400:42:54

Tera and Wes Wages engage in a candid exploration of intimacy and vulnerability within their marriage. They discuss the often unspoken complicatedness of sexual desires and emotional needs, using their own experiences to illuminate the universal challenges faced by many couples. The couple explains how addressing past traumas and embracing open, honest dialogue can foster a stronger, more connected relationship. This episode not only provides you with practical insights for enhancing intimacy but also offers a raw look at the courage it takes to confront and navigate the intricate aspects of love and partnership. Whether you're seeking to deepen your relationship or understand the delicate balance of support and desire, Tera and Wes’s journey through love’s emotional landscape will resonate and inspire.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:

  • 00:00:00 Welcome to a Raw and Honest Look Inside Marriage: The Connection Codes Episode
  • 00:00:22 Unpacking the Seldom Talked About: Conversations About Sex
  • 00:03:15 Emotional Connection and Intimacy Challenges
  • 00:06:10 Journey Through Emotional and Sexual Intimacy: A Marriage's Story
  • 00:09:48 How Past Traumas Can Influence Our Current Relationships
  • 00:10:46 Delving Into the Complex Interplay Between Sexual Desires and Emotional Needs
  • 00:11:35 The Crucial Role of Open Communication in Strengthening Marriage
  • 00:13:28 Striking a Balance: Healing and Understanding in Partnership
  • 00:17:45 Healing Together: The Journey of Emotional Recovery in Marriage
  • 00:20:17 Why Recognizing Each Partner's Experience Matters
  • 00:22:19 Adapting to the Different Seasons of Marital Life and Mental Wellness
  • 00:24:05 Postpartum Challenges and Navigating Societal Expectations in Relationships
  • 00:26:00 Managing the Demands of Modern Life While Sustaining a Healthy Relationship
  • 00:30:30 Vulnerability and Openness: The Building Blocks to Deeper Connection
  • 00:35:07 Utilizing the Core Emotion Wheel: Tools for Deeper Emotional Insight
  • 00:40:13 Celebrating Growth: Reflecting on the Evolution of a Relationship and Mutual Support
Finding Joy in the Middle of Pain(109)16 Apr 202400:43:56

Join your host Tera Wages, along with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, as they explore the intricate dance between joy and pain through personal stories and the revolutionary use of the core emotion wheel. Discover how facing deep emotional challenges within a family can open up pathways to healing and deeper connections, highlighting the surprising truth that profound joy often coexists with intense sorrow. You are invited to reflect on your own experiences with emotional complexity and the power of vulnerability in fostering true connection. Tune in to learn how embracing all facets of your emotions can lead to a more fulfilled and emotionally rich life.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass

Chapters:

  • 00:00:00 - Intro to Connection Codes: Bridging Emotions
  • 00:01:34 - Unveiling the Core Emotion Wheel
  • 00:03:08 - Personal Stories of Emotional Courage
  • 00:06:22 - Harnessing Emotion to Enhance Connection: Personal Stories
  • 00:10:15 - Coping with Deep Family Challenges
  • 00:12:32 - The Role of the Emotion Wheel in Family Healing
  • 00:14:00 - Personal Reflections on Sorrow and Support Mechanisms
  • 00:18:22 - Vulnerability in Times of Crisis: A Family’s Testament
  • 00:20:54 - The Strength Found in Open Vulnerability
  • 00:23:09 - Journey Through Emotional Release to Joy
  • 00:25:45 - Comparing Physical and Emotional Pains
  • 00:27:23 - Finding Joy Amidst Deep Sorrow: A True Story
  • 00:29:38 - Why Processing Emotions Matters for Health
  • 00:33:54 - Vulnerability as a Pathway to Emotional Healing
  • 00:36:30 - Techniques for Effective Emotional Processing
  • 00:38:15 - Using Emotional Tools to Foster Resilience and Connection
  • 00:40:45 - Conclusion: Taking the Steps Towards Emotional Maturity
When Internship Turns Into Family with Jordan and Erika Koop(108)09 Apr 202401:03:21

In this episode we are journeying alongside the Koops, a Canadian family who ventured into the unfamiliar, embedding themselves with the Hills for an experience that transcends mere internship. Through laughter, tears, and moments of profound vulnerability, we explore the life-changing power of connection, the beauty of unexpected lessons, and the courage it takes to embrace authenticity in every facet of life. From the initial leap of faith encapsulated in a cold email to the intricate dance of living and learning together, this episode shows the richness that comes from opening hearts and homes, challenging us to consider the depth of our connections and the spaces we create for growth and genuine interaction. Join us as we navigate the complexities of human relationships, discovering along the way that home isn't just a place, but a feeling cultivated through true connection and understanding.


Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass


Connect with Certified Coaches Jordan & Erika Koop:

www.questforthecore.com


Chapters:

  • 00:00:00 - Embarking on an Unfamiliar Path: Introducing the Koops and their leap of faith.
  • 00:01:04 - From Cold Email to Shared Roof: The story behind the Koops' bold decision.
  • 00:05:56 - More Than Just Interns: Unpacking the reality behind living with the Hills.
  • 00:08:25 - Laughter and Lessons: Discovering life's unexpected teachings.
  • 00:11:02 - Finding Comfort in the Uncomfortable: The magic of opening up.
  • 00:14:17 - Vulnerability's Victory: Embracing the emotional ebbs and flows together.
  • 00:17:09 - The Essence of Connection: Unveiling the strength found in genuine bonds.
  • 00:18:46 - The Fabric of Family: Weaving together bonds that last.
  • 00:20:57 - The Beauty of Being Seen: Learning the art of visibility and presence.
  • 00:24:01 - Everyday Empathy: Turning understanding into action.
  • 00:26:14 - Heart Over Hesitation: Prioritizing deep connections and daring to be vulnerable.
  • 00:31:22 - Growth Amidst Discomfort: Confronting and growing through personal challenges.
  • 00:34:53 - The Authenticity Effect: How true selves enhance relationships.
  • 00:39:47 - Challenges as Catalysts: Facing fears head-on for personal evolution.
  • 00:42:18 - The Sanctuary of Safety: Building spaces where vulnerability thrives.
  • 00:45:33 - Riding the Emotional Waves: Staying true through life's ups and downs.
  • 00:47:50 - Joy in the Journey: Celebrating the highs amidst the lows.
  • 00:49:34 - The Echoes of Emotion: Learning to listen to what feelings offer.
When Faith Meets Psychology with Dr. Margaret Nagib(107)02 Apr 202400:58:19

Today we’re discussing emotional regulation, personal transformation, and the intricate relationship between the mind, body, and spirit with our esteemed guest, Dr. Margaret Nagib. As a Christian clinical psychologist, Margaret shares her profound insights on how integrating spiritual practices with psychological principles can lead to unparalleled growth and healing. Through her personal experiences that she shares and professional insights, we explore the transformative power of connecting with the Holy Spirit, the importance of nurturing our inner lives, and the impact of emotional intelligence on our relationships and sense of self. This episode is a beacon for anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of themselves and their spiritual journey, offering practical advice and encouraging stories of change and healing.

Chapters:

  • 00:00:00 Welcome to Connection Codes
  • 00:02:14 Meet Dr. Margaret Nagib: Unveiling Paths to Healing and Wholeness
  • 00:06:48 Harnessing Emotional Regulation Through Nervous System Awareness
  • 00:08:30 Exploring the Mind-Body Connection: Insights into Emotional Wellness
  • 00:11:05 The Role of Faith in Emotional Health
  • 00:13:47 Techniques for Emotional Regulation
  • 00:16:34 Stories of Transformation: How Integrating Faith Enhances Therapy
  • 00:19:12 The Significance of Self-Awareness in Spiritual and Psychological Growth
  • 00:21:00 Discovering Wholeness: Somatic Practices and Spiritual Insight
  • 00:26:24 Unraveling the Layers: The Quest for an Authentic Self
  • 00:28:00 Awakening to Spiritual Depth
  • 00:30:00 Weathering the Storm: Family, Health, and Hope
  • 00:33:35 Journeying Through Emotions to Find Collective Healing
  • 00:37:52 Integrating Divine Wisdom for Profound Therapeutic Breakthroughs
  • 00:41:08 - Margaret's Methods: Blending Spiritual Practice with Clinical Insights
  • 00:45:12 Vulnerability as a Gateway to Strength and Courage
  • 00:49:44 - Personal Anecdotes of Faith-Fueled Resilience
  • 00:53:17 - Final Reflections: The Journey of Healing and Connection and Heartfelt Thanks

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass

When Joy is Damaging(106)26 Mar 202400:57:40

In this episode we’re exploring the multifaceted nature of joy, an emotion traditionally viewed through a purely positive lens. Listen in on a thought-provoking journey to uncover the complexities and potential pitfalls of unprocessed joy. From personal experiences to professional insights, we’re shedding light on how unchecked joy can lead to unexpected consequences in both personal health and interpersonal relationships. By exploring the balance between embracing joy and acknowledging its hidden impacts, this episode will offer you a nuanced perspective on managing emotions for deeper connection and understanding.

Chapters:

  • 00:00:00 - Meet Your Guides: The Voices Behind the Connection Codes
  • 00:01:12 - The Complexity of Joy: Its Impact Beyond the Surface
  • 00:02:29 - Joy's Unexpected Consequences: A Story from the Dinner Table
  • 00:05:49 - The Risks of Letting Joy Run Wild
  • 00:08:25 - The Double-Edged Sword of Joy: When Happiness Overshadows
  • 00:10:32 - Joy in the Details: The Impact of Small Moments on Our Well-being
  • 00:15:04 - Joy: Stories That Connect and Enlighten
  • 00:22:57 - The Art of Recognizing and Embracing Joy
  • 00:26:15 - The Intricacies of Joy in Daily Life: Insights and Reflections
  • 00:30:03 - The Ripple Effect of Unprocessed Joy
  • 00:33:03 - A Look at Joy's Influence in Unexpected Places
  • 00:34:08 - The Thin Line Between Aspiration and Acceptance
  • 00:37:41 - Together in Emotion: The Strength of Shared Experiences
  • 00:39:17 - Nurturing Connections Through Emotional Openness
  • 00:45:28 - Facing Life's Challenges: A Family's Journey Through Illness
  • 00:51:52 - A Family's Battle: Fear, Hope, and the Spectrum of Emotions
  • 00:56:51 - Wrapping Up: Embracing the Full Spectrum of Our Emotions

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass

Anger in Depth: Exploring Its Role in Connection and Disconnection(105)19 Mar 202400:47:07

We’re discussing the complex nature of anger, distinguishing between its roles as both a primary and secondary emotion. Through a compelling conversation with hosts Tera Wages, Dr. Glenn Hill, and Phyllis Hill, we explore how anger can serve as a protective shield and a driver for change. By breaking down the misconceptions and uncovering the true roots of anger, the episode offers you a unique perspective on using this powerful emotion to enhance connectivity in relationships and personal growth. Through personal experiences and expert analysis, this episode not only will enlighten you but also will empower you to harness your anger in constructive ways, paving the way for deeper connections and a more fulfilling life.

Chapters:

  • 00:00:00 - Exploring Anger: Primary and Secondary Emotions Uncovered
  • 00:05:23 - Personal Insights: The Transformative Role of Anger
  • 00:09:05 - Vulnerability and Its Crucial Role in Understanding Anger
  • 00:13:17 - Anger as Protection: Insights from Personal Experiences
  • 00:17:23 - Leveraging Anger: Catalyst for Change and Personal Growth
  • 00:20:08 - Overcoming Physical and Emotional Pain
  • 00:22:18 - The Complex Dance of Anger and Relationships
  • 00:24:56 - The Transformative Power of Pausing in Moments of Anger
  • 00:27:29 - Loneliness, Partnership, and Emotional Connection
  • 00:29:09 - Beyond the Surface: Anger in Individual and Social Contexts
  • 00:33:39 - Unlocking Emotional Intelligence: Core Emotions and Beyond
  • 00:37:19 - The Core Emotion Wheel: Pathway to Emotional Insight
  • 00:44:54 - Empowerment through Emotional Education: A Vital Call to Action

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off:

https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass

An update we wish we didn't have to give (104)12 Mar 202400:44:20

Life changes in an instant and this change has rocked all of our worlds. Today, we are sharing an update on what the Hill family is experiencing with a cancer diagnosis for their daughter-in-law. We talk about why laying the foundation for connection and processing is key before hard times happen and how we are navigating living in the moment today.


To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Podcast featuring Meg & Sky Hill on Parenting:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520?i=1000577108464

Podcast featuring Sky Hill on living with intention:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520?i=1000593408564


Stop feeling what you are feeling (103)05 Mar 202400:38:25

We live with the expectation that we can fully control our emotions. But, emotions happen to us. We don't get to choose when they fire. BUT, we do get to choose what we do with them. And there lies the power. Today, we are going to talk about societal norms and the role emotions play in our lives.


Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help


From Judgment to Curiosity: What Judgment Is Costing You and What Changes When You Get Curious20 Jan 202600:55:59

What if the harshest critic in your life isn't someone else—it's you?

We judge ourselves constantly. Our fears, our bodies, our parenting, the way we show up in relationships. And while we think judgment is motivating us to change, it's actually keeping us trapped in cycles of shame, anger, and disconnection.

In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill, Phyllis Hill, and Tera Wages unpack the destructive patterns of self-judgment and reveal the powerful alternative that transforms everything: curiosity.

You'll discover:

  • Why toddlers don't judge themselves and what we can learn from their natural self-acceptance
  • The shame-anger cocktail that fuels judgment and keeps you stuck
  • How 10 seconds of curiosity can completely change any interaction or internal struggle
  • Why keeping your struggles secret feeds shame and makes judgment grow
  • The question that stops judgment cold and opens the door to compassion
  • How to recognize your personal trigger topics so you can respond differently next time
  • Why social media has created a judgment epidemic and how to protect yourself
  • Real-life examples of shifting from judgment to curiosity in marriage, parenting, and everyday moments
  • What to do when someone shuts down (the "still face" phenomenon) and you feel flooded with shame

Whether you're battling negative self-talk, living in fear of others' opinions, or finding yourself quick to criticize people around you, this conversation will give you practical tools to break the judgment cycle and step into genuine emotional freedom.

What you'll walk away with:The understanding that judgment isn't helping you grow—it's keeping you isolated. But when you get curious about yourself and others, everything shifts. Compassion replaces criticism. Connection replaces division. And you finally get the space to be your authentic, vulnerable self.

Keywords: self-judgment, mental health, emotional regulation, marriage counseling, shame and anger, curiosity vs judgment, self-compassion, relationship communication, emotional intelligence, breaking negative patterns, therapy tools, mental wellness, emotional freedom, self-criticism, Nashville therapist

How to process childhood pain with parents with Echo Vetter (102)01 Mar 202400:56:57

No matter how "ideal" parents are- we are all humans and make mistakes that leave pain. As we evolve into adults we find ourselves reliving moments from our childhood that have left scars. Today, we talk about how to navigate that conversation with our parents.


We also share the impact of what can happen when we create a home where these conversations begin early on.


This podcast is for anyone needing to have an open conversation with their parents- but more importantly, it is for parents of adult kids sharing insight on how you can build connection and create the conversation yourself.


To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off:

https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass

Receive writings from Echo:

https://echohillvetter.substack.com/p/coming-soon

To book a session with Echo:

https://calendly.com/echohillvetter

Shifting from burnout to energy with Echo Vetter (101)20 Feb 202400:59:16

How are you sourcing your energy? Echo Vetter shares the key components she looks for to determine if she is functioning from a joy point or a pain point.

Pain is unavoidable, but creating moments of joy can bring the balance and energy we need to avoid burnout.

This episode shares just how to do that.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

The Key to Sexual Liberation: Reclaiming Joy and Connection in the Bedroom (100)13 Feb 202400:57:07

In this special 100th episode, we discuss the limitations that society imposes on sex. They explore the concept of "the box" and how it restricts us from fully experiencing and expressing ourselves in our sexual relationships. They dive into the history of these limitations and the detrimental effects it has on couples.


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Download the Core Emotion Wheel:

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How to be a bold wife with Alisa DiLorenzo (099)06 Feb 202400:47:55

If you struggle with confidence in your marriage-- this is the episode for you! We are joined by Alisa DiLorenzo of the One Extraordinary Marriage and Bold Wives Club.

We'll be exploring the journey of experiencing confidence in our bodies in the bedroom as women, reflecting on the messages ingrained in us during childhood, and understanding how they influence our marriages today.

We'll be uncovering the essential tools that can empower us to gain confidence within the intimate spaces of our homes. Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Learn more about Bold Wives Club, download a free habit tracker (scroll down), & connect with Alisa:

https://boldwivesclub.com/


The Role of Emotions in Sex (098)30 Jan 202400:50:29

We answer a question from a listener about how she can connect sexually with her husband when he has turned his emotions off.


We dive into how our emotions affect our sex life and how to communicate with our spouses about the need for emotional connection. Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Slicing it thinner-- going deeper to get to the root (097)23 Jan 202400:53:25

In this episode, we discuss the concept of "slicing it thinner" in relationships. We explore the idea of getting to the core of issues and emotions beneath the surface, avoiding the extra fluff that often clouds authentic connection. We provide tips on how to recognize when you need to go deeper and share insights on fostering true vulnerability and authenticity in relationships. This episode offers valuable advice for anyone looking to improve their connections and deepen their understanding of themselves and others. ⁠⁠

Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠


Enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠


Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Pushing Through the Pain: Tools for Perseverance and Growth (096)16 Jan 202400:53:20

We often put an expiration date on how long we are willing to try something new and when the results don't come when we expect, we often give up.

We are sharing the emotions that arise when we are ready to quit and how to process them out to keep going.

Download the Business meeting (now called Family Connect Guide):

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Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠


Enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠


Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: ⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

How to actually achieve the goals you set (095)09 Jan 202400:51:12

In this episode, we dive into the power of the weekly business meeting and how it can transform your life. Whether it's for personal development, building stronger relationships, or achieving your goals, the weekly business meeting provides a structured framework for staying connected and intentional.

Join us as we share practical tips and insights to help you take control of your life and maximize your potential. Discover the transformative power of the weekly business meeting and start building a stronger team in your family.


Download the Business meeting (now called Family Connect Guide):

https://connection-codes.ck.page/808ef2cff8


Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠


Enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠


Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

How to increase longevity in your life (094)02 Jan 202400:49:33

The majority of growth is about your mindset. In today's episode, we discuss the emotions that can arise when we think about setting goals or learning new skills. We share tips on how to increase life expectancy and live with intention and purpose.


To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To listen the episode featuring Sky Hill:

⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520?i=1000593408564⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help


How to stop creating massive blow ups in your relationship (093)26 Dec 202300:45:01

We dissect the all-too-familiar concept of 'The Dam' in relationships and how often ignored 'debris' can lead to major roadblocks.

Join us as we explore effective tools for identifying and addressing these emotional hindrances, from elusive fears to thundering conflicts. Unearth practical advice on personal introspection and the art of candid communication. Illuminate common issues like sex, money, and devices, and the potential wreckage they can unleash when left unattended. With reflections on the past and fresh outlooks for the new year, this episode is a must-listen for those seeking to live a 'dam-free' life and experience the joy of being truly connected.


To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

To listen the episode featuring Sky Hill:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520?i=1000593408564


*While this episode is created by a therapist Dr Glenn is not acting as your therapist, this is not medical or therapy advice. It is important to consult a physician for any medical help. This podcast is sharing experiences and offering perspectives on topics.

When Pain Becomes Home: Breaking the Pattern That Keeps You Stuck13 Jan 202600:46:13

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to stay in painful patterns—even when you know they're hurting you? In this powerful episode, we explore why pain becomes a "home base" for so many people, how depression and emotional suffering can feel safer than joy, and what it actually takes to break free.

In this episode, you'll discover:

  • Why homeostasis keeps us returning to painful patterns (even when we desperately want change)
  • The psychological phenomenon of anhedonia—the inability to experience joy—and how to recognize it in your own life
  • How pain can become a badge of honor and part of your identity
  • The three essential ingredients for lasting transformation: pattern disruption, new environment, and time
  • Why all eight core emotions (including pain AND joy) are designed to protect and guide you
  • Real stories of radical pattern breaking—from career changes to selling everything and starting over
  • How to recognize when you're living in emotional survival mode versus thriving

Key insights from this episode:

Glenn shares his experience of living with depression as his baseline for decades, where his daily goal was to "claw my way up to zero." Phyllis reveals the moment she knew their marriage pattern had to break—when she told Glenn to quit his construction job and go back to school, even though she'd never supported the family before.

Tera opens up about her own relationship with pain, realizing she wore it as a badge of honor—even laughing through physical pain because she wanted to be seen as strong, not weak.

The message of pain is simple: there's a problem. But too many of us have become numb to it, accepting suffering as "just the way it is." This episode will help you identify where pain has become your comfort zone and give you the courage to disrupt the pattern.

Keywords: emotional health, mental health, depression recovery, marriage transformation, breaking patterns, emotional regulation, identity crisis, joy and pain balance, relationship coaching, emotional processing, therapy tools, mental wellness, overcoming depression, emotional awareness, self-discovery

Resources mentioned:

How to connect when you don't feel like you "fit" (Episode 092)19 Dec 202300:47:07

In this episode, we discuss the challenge of feeling like the "black sheep" during family gatherings and offer tools to navigate such situations. They emphasize the importance of embracing one's unique identity and reframing societal expectations. By getting curious about each other and practicing empathy, we can open up new avenues of connection with their families. Ultimately, this episode guides listeners to find peace in family dynamics and create a safe space for their authentic selves during the holiday season.


To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Processing holiday loneliness (Episode 91)12 Dec 202300:50:08

In this episode, we delve into the topic of loneliness and its impact on our lives. We discuss the different dimensions of loneliness, from feeling alone in tasks to feeling left out in social situations.

We share the science behind loneliness and its effects on our well-being. We explore the impact of processing loneliness and how it affects our health when we don't.

Tune in to discover how to navigate loneliness and transform your relationships.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help


Timestamps:

- Introduction and welcoming guest (00:00)

- The definition and different dimensions of loneliness (04:30)

- Loneliness as a common human experience (10:15)

- The science behind loneliness and its impact on the brain (13:45)

- How to support each other in loneliness (18:10)

- Redefining loneliness and understanding its different forms (23:20)

- The power of processing emotions and the Connection Codes (28:00)

- The importance of sharing emotions and creating deeper connections (32:15)

- Loneliness as a societal issue and the role of businesses (36:45)

- The practical implications of implementing the core emotion wheel (40:30)

- The power of connection in preventing loneliness (45:20)

- How to recognize and address loneliness in ourselves and others (48:50)

- Closing remarks and gratitude (52:30)


*While this episode is created by a therapist, this is not medical or therapy advice. It is important to consult a physician for any medical help. This podcast is sharing experiences and offering perspectives on topics.


090: Managing the Mental Load: Tools for a Successful Partnership with Zach Watson05 Dec 202300:48:03

In this episode, Zach Watson joins the podcast to discuss the impact of the mental load and emotional labor in relationships. He shares his own experiences and insights, highlighting the importance of understanding and addressing these dynamics. Through open conversations and building partnerships, couples can navigate the logistics of domestic life and share the weight, fostering deeper connection and trust. Through his work, Zach aims to empower individuals to overcome the challenges of the mental load and find balance in their relationships.

Get Zach's Mentalload 101 download or book a Relationship Goals consulting call: https://stan.store/zachthinkshare?fbclid=PAAab73S2b0gQi4_SuCGgZUsEdigqXH5sBejjs32aFH_CPG5JYs2ZwBTvG5tE_aem_AdLdzC__ha5rJeK_8Wim1Z-42Q1va9_U22891caPiGgzK80Zzs43rvqMbrvS_3xe_8Q To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

089: The Art of Listening: Insights from Connection Coders Fab and Claire28 Nov 202300:43:48

In this episode, Fab and Claire, leaders of a school for Christian actors and dancers, share their journey with Connection Codes and the transformation it has brought to their lives and the lives of others in the entertainment industry. From struggling believers to empowering missionaries, they discuss how Connection Codes have helped them bridge the gap between faith, relationships, and their passion for the arts.


This episode dives deep into the power of connection and provides practical insights for a more fulfilling and purposeful life.


To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠


To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠


To buy or leave a review on the book: https://a.co/d/ciXVqwJ


Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

088: Can we change our emotions? A Conversation with Josh Haas21 Nov 202300:54:55

In this episode, we are joined by Josh Haas to discuss the topic of emotional transformation. We explore the question of whether it is possible to shift our emotions and how to go about doing so. The conversation delves into concepts such as fear, shame, anger, and joy, and the role they play in our lives. Josh shares personal experiences and insights from his journey of exploring emotional change.


To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠


To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠


To buy or leave a review on the book: https://a.co/d/ciXVqwJ


Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

087: How we got here: Tera's story to the Connection Codes14 Nov 202300:47:02

In this episode, we're talking about sharing a little bit more about how our team was created with the Connection Codes. Tera Wages shares her personal journey and how she came to be a part of the Connection Codes. She discusses her background, the challenges she faced in her relationship, and how she found transformation through the Connection Codes. Emphasize the importance of emotional intelligence and how it can lead to deeper connections in relationships. We will be sharing the story of the three of us and how we ended up sitting at my dining room table. To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

086: Finding Unity amidst Division: The Role of Identity in War07 Nov 202300:53:57

Today's episode is raw and emotional. We are sharing the impact of what the loss of identity can lead to when it is on a massive scale and repeated.

Drawing from current events in the Middle East, we explore how loss of identity can lead to wars and the importance of finding unity and creating space for each other. With a focus on connection and understanding, we navigate the emotions and challenges associated with divisive moments, offering insights and tools for you to apply in your own lives.






Article about Daryl Davis who convinced Ku Klux Klan members to give up their robes: https://www.npr.org/2017/08/20/544861933/how-one-man-convinced-200-ku-klux-klan-members-to-give-up-their-robes



085: How to talk to your kids about sexuality with Clint Davis31 Oct 202300:49:44

Historically parents have often dreaded the lingering need to have "the talk" with their kids. Therapist Clint Davis has spent years researching this very topic. Today we talk about when to begin talking with your kids about sex, what those conversations could look like, and how to navigate the changes your kids will experience over time.

Order Clint's Book: https://a.co/d/4DoLbpD

Listen To Clint's Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/asking-why/id1527892108

084: Growing Together: A Conversation on Intimacy and Emotion24 Oct 202300:37:15

In this episode, Brian and Krista share their journey of using Connection Codes to strengthen their marriage and create authentic connections. They discuss the transformative power of vulnerability, the importance of emotional depth, and the joy of feeling truly heard. Their story serves as a source of inspiration and hope for anyone looking to improve their relationships and find greater intimacy. Tune in to discover the impact of Connection Codes on Brian and Krista's lives and how it can transform yours too. To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ To buy or leave a review on the book: https://a.co/d/ciXVqwJ Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

083: Understanding the Purpose of Shame and How It Can Help Us Grow17 Oct 202300:31:55

In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill and Phyllis Hill discuss the purpose of shame and challenge the common narrative that shame is solely negative. They explore how shame can actually serve as a messenger, guiding us toward becoming a better version of ourselves.


The episode delves into the misconceptions surrounding shame and highlights its role in personal growth and human connection. Listeners are encouraged to embrace shame as a valuable tool for self-improvement and to shift their perspective on this often misunderstood emotion. To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Why Your Emotions Are Throwing a Temper Tantrum (And What to Do About It)06 Jan 202600:36:57

What if the "temper tantrums" in your life—whether from your kids, your partner, or even yourself—aren't misbehavior at all, but a desperate cry to be heard?

In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill and Tera Wages unpack a powerful truth: our emotions are pitching a temper tantrum when they're not being acknowledged. From the three-year-old crying over a scraped knee to the adult who shuts down completely, we explore what happens when our emotional energy is resisted instead of received.

In This Episode:

  • Why saying "you're okay" to a crying child creates two problems instead of solving one
  • How emotional resistance shows up differently in adults (yelling, shutting down, or exploding)
  • The powerful three-phrase framework that stops tantrums in their tracks
  • Real stories of transformation when couples learn to follow each other's energy
  • Why our culture teaches us that suppressing emotions is mature (and why it's actually destroying us)

Whether you're parenting young children, navigating marriage conflict, or trying to understand your own emotional patterns, this episode will help you recognize when energy is being resisted—and how to create connection instead.

Key Concepts:

  • Emotional regulation and emotional health
  • The "ooh" response and following energy
  • Temper tantrums in children and adults
  • Marriage communication and conflict resolution
  • Parenting with emotional intelligence
  • Mental health and self-awareness
  • Leadership through emotional presence

Resources Mentioned:

  • Connection Codes Three-Phrase Magnet (available on our website)
  • The Core Emotion Wheel
  • Foundations Course

Ready to stop resisting and start connecting? This episode will change how you see every "temper tantrum" in your life.

Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
Book a Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coaches

082: Strengthening Family Bonds with Connection Codes10 Oct 202300:36:51

Join us in this episode as we dive deep into the power of Connection Codes and how they can transform your relationships. Our special guests, Rachel and Tyler, share their personal experiences with Connection Codes and how it has revolutionized their marriage and family dynamics. Discover the incredible benefits of using Connection Codes to navigate emotions, build authentic connections, and enhance your communication skills. Whether you're single, in a serious relationship, married, or a parent, this episode will provide valuable insights and practical tips to enhance your emotional intelligence and strengthen your relationships.


To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help



081: Below the Surface: The 90% We Hide from the World02 Oct 202300:53:01

In this episode, Dr Glenn & Phyllis explore the concept of hiding our true selves beneath the surface. They discuss how societal expectations and personal conditioning have led us to present only a fraction of who we are to the world. They emphasize the importance of finding safe people with whom we can share our hidden depths and encourage listeners to break free from the loneliness and vulnerability of living in the 10%. By embracing authenticity and vulnerability, we can foster deeper connections and create a supportive community.


To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To buy or leave a review on the book: https://a.co/d/ciXVqwJ

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help


*While this episode is created by a therapist, this is not medical or therapy advice. It is important to consult a physician for any medical help. This podcast is sharing experiences and offering perspectives on topics. We do not condone keeping criminal activity from authorities and encourage you to seek help.




080: Finding Freedom: How Uncovering Childhood Pain Transforms Relationships26 Sep 202300:54:44

In this episode, guests Elijah and Christina Runyon share their personal journey of using Connection Codes to uncover childhood trauma and find true healing and connection. They discuss the impact of acknowledging and processing emotions, the transformation this has brought to their own relationship, and the importance of cultivating empathy and understanding for oneself and others. Through their vulnerability and insights, they inspire listeners to explore their own emotional journey and find deeper connections in their lives.


Enroll in our Foundations Course at 20% off: https://connectioncodes.thrivecart.com/foundations/?coupon=PODCAST

Listen to Episode 044 featuring Elijah & Christina: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520?i=1000596209550


Elijah and Christina Runyan are pastors based in Santa Rosa, California. They are advocates for emotional healing and connection. They have embarked on a transformative journey using Connection Codes to unpack childhood trauma and bring about profound changes in their lives and relationships. Their personal experiences and insights serve as an inspiration for others looking to heal and connect on a deeper level. To learn more about their journey, you can listen to their podcast at: https://open.spotify.com/show/400IxHifxOucJAf9nEtA2U?si=fb018b3279b4eea or learn more about their church at https://www.thepursuitsoco.com/

078: Long term effects of criticisism19 Sep 202300:49:27

In today's episode, we dive deep into the delicate dance of partner criticism. How does criticism impact our relationships, and more importantly, how can we communicate better without tearing each other down? Join us as we unpack the psychology behind criticism, share personal stories, and offer actionable steps to foster understanding and compassion in our relationships. Whether you're in a new romance or decades into a partnership, this episode promises insights that could transform the way you communicate with your significant other.


To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

077: Being weighed down by life & how to soften the load12 Sep 202300:47:23

We are talking about how we are often functioning at such a lower capacity because we are carrying around the heaviness of life. We talk about the impact this weight is having on our relationships and how it is keeping us from experiencing all life has. We also share our proven tool to help experience a more joyful life.


Download our Free Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcast

Enroll in Foundations at 20% off by using code PODCAST: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online

Buy our Book: https://a.co/d/fiEh0Gj



076: Flirting & sexual banter setting expectations for sex05 Sep 202300:51:05

Does your partner want you to be more flirtatious throughout the day? Do you feel a block in what even to say? OR are you the partner asking for the occasional eggplant emoji dropped in your text messages?

Today, we have Tera's husband Wes on the episode to discuss his desire for more sexual banter & what is blocking her from feeling comfortable. And find out the awkward moment Tera had over the weekend leading into this conversation 😂. This is a fun episode that we hope you enjoy!

Click here to enroll in Foundations & Late Night at 20% off

075: In-Session: Janet & Rich change the dance after 42 years29 Aug 202300:51:48

Janet & Rich were "good" after being married for 42 years. They had the dance down. They knew the steps. But, they had no idea how much deeper it could be and how they could live with a deep connection having the language to dissect the moments that previously caused pain. Today, they share what their biggest ah-ha moments have been. This episode is filled with hope and lessons on friendship, transitions, and breaking years of patterns.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/foundationscourse






074: Learning to process your emotions is the most important thing you can do this year-- but why?22 Aug 202300:42:12

All over social media, thought leaders are telling people that processing and regulating their emotions is the most important skill they can have. But-- why? Why do you need this skill and HOW do you regulate your emotions?


This is exactly what the Connection Codes is about & today we are going to share our experience of what this skill has done for us. And share our tool to get you there.


To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/foundationscourse


073: The Human Experience of Concealed Pain and the 'Happy Face' Mask15 Aug 202300:45:16

It is uncomfortable being human when we are afraid of feeling or talking about hard things. We tend to project positivity or joy instead of being able to process the pain. We are designed to move to joy but we cannot get to true joy without walking through the pain. Today, we are talking about how can we show up in friendships as our authentic selves without fear of being a "Debbie Downer" and why is it so uncomfortable to share our pain.


To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠




072: How to spark joy when there are so many "negative" emotions08 Aug 202300:30:42

We want more happy things on the Core Emotion Wheel! We get it! 😉 Today, we talk about how you can spark more joy in your life to share with your partner even when 7 out of 8 emotions on the CEW feel bad. Our goal isn't to be doom and gloom or to "stir the pot" it is to create a system that will be lasting & that touches on what is happening in your core each day. So you can identify each emotion-- especially joy!


To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠


To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

The Monday Mindset: Breaking The Cycle & Actually Starting Fresh in 202630 Dec 202500:55:47

What if the secret to actually starting fresh in 2026 isn't about making better resolutions—but about stopping to process what 2025 is trying to tell you?

In this transformative year-end episode, marriage and family therapist Dr. Glenn Hill shares why he loves Mondays, New Year's, and fresh starts—and the framework that makes them actually work. Glenn and his wife Phyllis get vulnerable about their year of burnout, chronic pain, and the pivotal moments that changed everything. Tera Wages guides them through a reflection process that goes beyond surface-level goal-setting to create real, lasting transformation.


You'll discover:

  • The "Monday Mindset" approach to fresh starts that actually creates change
  • Why your high pain tolerance is keeping you stuck (and how to recognize it)
  • The year-end reflection framework: what went well, what didn't, and what to do about it
  • How to stop the cycle of ignoring pain and hoping things will "just get better"
  • The difference between processing pain and managing pain (one leads to breakthrough, one leads to burnout)
  • Why "letting bygones be bygones" guarantees you'll repeat the same patterns in 2026
  • How to identify what to replicate vs. what to eliminate as you enter the new year


Key Topics: New Year goals, fresh starts, emotional health, mental health, marriage counseling, burnout recovery, chronic pain management, year-end reflection, goal setting, emotional intelligence, relationship coaching, leadership development, self-care, mental wellness, therapy tools, emotional processing, work-life balance, New Year's resolutions alternative


Powerful Moments:

  • Glenn opens up about barely celebrating the holidays a year ago due to burnout—and where he is today
  • Phyllis shares her journey from standing at the Grand Canyon unable to walk to reclaiming her body and future
  • The "hot stove competition" analogy that will change how you view pain tolerance forever
  • Why Echo's confrontation became the catalyst for Phyllis's transformation
  • The truth about psycholation (psychological isolation) and why "don't air your dirty laundry" is destroying us
  • How Connection Codes is expanding in 2026 with the School of Connection and more in-person events


The Framework:

  1. Look backward - What went well? (Find your bullseye to replicate)
  2. Process the pain - What didn't go well? (Identify what needs to shift)
  3. Take action - What specific steps will eliminate the pain and pour gas on what's working?


Resources Mentioned:

If you're tired of the same cycle of New Year's resolutions that fade by February, this episode will give you the Monday Mindset framework to make 2026 actually different. Because fresh starts only work when you stop ignoring what your emotions are telling you.


Connect with us:Instagram: @connectioncodesWebsite: www.connectioncodes.co

071: Adding depth to your relationship & working with your partner, not against them... 01 Aug 202300:54:41

If you are in a happy, loving relationship where you feel safe but have moments that suddenly your partner feels like the enemy... Ooooo... you aren't alone. It is easy to feel like they are the ones in the "wrong." Today, we talk about reframing our thoughts and having deep conversations to experience new depth and peace in your relationship.


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00:00 - Emotional Struggles And Communication Breakdowns

03:52 - Dr. Glenn & Phyllis: Dedication To Helping Others

07:40 - Importance Of Deep Connections In Relationships

18:34 - Power Of Vulnerability In Relationships

22:48 - Partnering Against The Cyclone: Unity And Protection

27:55 - Building Deep Connections Through Connection Codes

31:16 - Effects Of Physical Pain On Behavior And Parenting

42:31 - Three Steps To Connect And Communicate

46:02 - Power Of Consistency In Improving Relationships

50:45 - Emotional And Physical Pain: Loneliness, Guilt, And Fear







070: Increase learning capacity in kids with Mark & Teresa Lubovich25 Jul 202300:53:39

Mark & Teresa Lubovich know all about helping kids reach their goals academically- and have witnessed over and over that it is often emotions due to life circumstances that are causing kids to be blocked. They share how they connect with kids to help them increase brain function so they can thrive in the classroom. These same ideas and tools can be applied to the workplace or to help your kids prep for the school day.


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068: Trauma, Natural Consequences, and Parenting with Echo Vetter11 Jul 202300:37:00

Trauma Informed Coach Echo Vetter comes on the podcast today to discuss how teaching our kids emotional intellegence is in no way a hallpass to let them "get away" with poor behavior. She share her own parenting transformation and what she has intigrated into her home to see a major shift in her family.


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