Explore every episode of the podcast Confessions of a Recovering Micromanaging Perfectionist Martyr
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| Summer Rewind #1: Putting Too Much Weight on Weight – Breaking Free from Decades of Shame | 20 Jun 2025 | 00:04:34 | |
Confessions Teams Up with C2 care—redefined Tuesday, June 24th @ 10:30 AM EST Join a free weekly phone call with like-minded women: To learn more about the call: CLICK HERE On this week's Summer Rewind... Weight gain and self-acceptance can feel at odds, especially when societal pressures linger. In this episode, we explore a new perspective on embracing life’s changes with compassion. From stepping into family photos to easing self-criticism, this journey is about finding peace with your body at any size. Tune in to discover how self-acceptance can empower us to live freely—no matter the stage we’re in. | |||
| Wrapping Season 9 - Rest, Rewinds, and a Little Summer Connection | 13 Jun 2025 | 00:05:48 | |
Season 9—done and dusted! 🎉 This wrap-up covers what we learned, what’s ahead, and why “less phone, more rest” might be the perfect summer plan. ☀️📴 Plus, a sneak peek at a special summer rewind collab with C2 Care Redefined and my dream of bringing guests into the studio. 👀🎙️ | |||
| Overcorrecting - Caring Too Much About Kids’ Feelings | 11 Apr 2025 | 00:07:08 | |
Ever wonder if we’re swinging too far the other way when it comes to parenting? 😬 Let’s talk about choices, feelings, and aunts who smells like mothballs—in a completely loving way. ❤️ A little discomfort can go a long way. Come hang with us for a fresh take on raising brave humans. Link from this episode: | |||
| A Tiger In A Cage - Breaking Free From the Constraints of My Own Obsessive Thinking | 28 Apr 2023 | 00:03:20 | |
Like a tiger pacing in an imaginary cage, we sometimes limit ourselves with patterns of negative thinking. In this episode, we explore how easy it is to trap ourselves in cycles of stress and frustration, overlooking the expansive freedom available in our lives. Join us as we discuss ways to recognize these mental cages and embrace a more open, positive perspective on the world around us. And this, which has really been a golden nugget of recovery for me… | |||
| Acting Like a Child - Pretending Myself Into the Person I Want to Be | 21 Apr 2023 | 00:03:23 | |
Sometimes, pretending is more than just play—it’s a powerful tool for handling life’s unexpected spills (like oatmeal everywhere). In this episode, we explore how “faking it till you make it” can help you manage difficult moments, build confidence, and grow into the person you want to be. Tune in for a lighthearted take on using the art of pretending to handle frustrations, challenges, and everyday moments with a little extra grace. | |||
| The Cycles of Life - Ride ‘Em, Don’t Fight ‘Em | 14 Apr 2023 | 00:03:32 | |
Family life can feel like a whirlwind of shifting moods and cycles, especially with teenagers in the mix. In this episode, we discuss the value of recognizing life’s natural rhythms instead of jumping to fix every minor crisis. By learning to ride out the ups and downs, we can reduce stress and find peace amidst the chaos. Tune in for insights on managing family dynamics with patience, perspective, and self-compassion. | |||
| Easter’s Here - Let’s Talk About Resurrecting This… | 07 Apr 2023 | 00:02:47 | |
Generosity can be tough when fears of scarcity creep in. Inspired by singer Jewel's perspective on generosity, this episode explores the struggle with sharing what’s closest to us and the deeper faith it requires. Join us as we examine the value of giving, the illusions of control, and the journey to believe that, in life, there’s always enough to go around—even if it means holding our "stuff" a little more loosely. | |||
| Putting Too Much Weight on Weight - Breaking Free from Decades of Shame | 31 Mar 2023 | 00:03:16 | |
Weight gain and self-acceptance can feel at odds, especially when societal pressures linger. In this episode, we explore a new perspective on embracing life’s changes with compassion. From stepping into family photos to easing self-criticism, this journey is about finding peace with your body at any size. Tune in to discover how self-acceptance can empower us to live freely—no matter the stage we’re in. | |||
| When Something’s Not Working - Maybe It’s Time to Fix the Oven, Not Me | 24 Mar 2023 | 00:03:27 | |
Sometimes, we blame ourselves when things go wrong, whether in the kitchen or in life. In this episode, we explore how a broken oven became an unexpected teacher, revealing the importance of examining the “systems” around us instead of always blaming ourselves. Join us for a lighthearted look at why sometimes, it’s not you—it’s the oven—and how shifting our perspective can open new doors in life, work, and yes, even cooking! When I vowed to never cook…(maybe this is how long my crappy oven’s been broken!) | |||
| Ambition Revised - It’s Not Just a Work Thing | 17 Mar 2023 | 00:03:32 | |
Ambition isn't just about career milestones or financial success—it’s the quiet, everyday determination to show up in every area of life. In this episode, we redefine ambition beyond society’s standards, exploring how it shows up in relationships, home life, personal growth, and all the little, repeated efforts that keep us moving forward. Tune in for a refreshing perspective on success and the power of simply showing up. | |||
| Who’s Really Teaching the Lessons Around Here? Learning How Not to Get Zapped! | 10 Mar 2023 | 00:03:08 | |
Parenting often feels like a game of Operation, where every misstep can "zap" our connections. In this episode, we explore how adjusting our reactions can transform our relationships with our kids. Instead of expecting children to change, what happens when we adapt our approach? Join us as we share insights on building trust, respect, and patience—one careful move at a time. This episode is for anyone who wants to improve family dynamics with empathy and a steady hand. | |||
| Dry Sponge - When Everything and Everyone Bends Me Out of Shape | 03 Mar 2023 | 00:02:37 | |
Winter blues and close quarters can amplify even the smallest frustrations—like a “borrowed” clipboard! In this episode, we discuss how seasonal shifts impact our patience, especially in parenting, and explore how keeping ourselves “filled” with self-care can make those annoyances easier to handle. Whether you're feeling drained or just need a reminder that "this too shall pass," this episode brings a lighthearted take on embracing the season’s challenges. | |||
| Exhaustion is the Language of Never Enough - But this Energy List Can Help | 24 Feb 2023 | 00:02:42 | |
Ever feel like everything, even the fun stuff, is just draining? In this episode, we explore the concept of an energy list—a tool to help you identify what drains and restores you. We discuss how shifting focus to activities that bring balance can transform your day-to-day, making it easier to say “no” when needed and rediscover joy in simple moments. Tune in to find out how a little awareness can bring a big boost to your overall serenity. | |||
| Give Your Kid the Biggest Leg Up In Life - Teaching Manners | 04 Apr 2025 | 00:06:34 | |
Can good manners really give kids a leg up in life? In a world where “please” and “thank you” are becoming rare, we’re diving into how teaching respect and gratitude can open doors for your kids. From little phrases to big life lessons, it turns out that manners matter more than we might think. Curious how? Tune in and see if you agree. | |||
| Freeing Myself from Manipulation - First, I Have to Know I’m Being Manipulated | 17 Feb 2023 | 00:04:25 | |
Passive aggression is a whole different kind of conflict—sneaky and confusing, leaving you questioning what even happened. This episode dives into those subtle, manipulative behaviors that can feel like ninja moves on a playground. We explore ways to recognize passive aggression and respond with strength, clarity, and a sense of humor. Tune in to discover how embracing your truth can help you stand firm, even when facing life’s most mysterious “ninjas." | |||
| Valentine’s Day is Coming - Let’s Talk About Fighting | 10 Feb 2023 | 00:03:00 | |
Ever catch yourself avoiding conflict just to keep the peace? As someone who grew up in a tense environment, I still find myself dodging tough conversations. But I’m learning that speaking my truth with kindness isn’t about controlling how others react—it’s about showing up honestly. Join me as I unpack Brene Brown’s wisdom on accountability, and how facing conflict, like hitting the gym, gets easier with practice. Ready to embrace your voice in relationships? Let’s dive in! | |||
| Hitting the Reset Button on Love | 03 Feb 2023 | 00:02:14 | |
Ever feel stuck in a cycle of frustration with someone, seeing red with everything they do? In this episode, I share how I'm working to let go of resentment by carving out quiet reflection time. When I focus on what I appreciate in that person and practice compassion, I can start to see past my anger. Join me as I explore how shifting focus inward, rather than trying to “fix” the other person, is helping me find peace in even the toughest relationships. | |||
| What are You REALLY Hungry For? Remembering the Good Feed | 27 Jan 2023 | 00:02:07 | |
Ever reach for something to feel better, only to realize it wasn’t what you really needed? Lately, while supporting Mom through her chemo journey, I’m learning to ask myself: “What am I truly hungry for right now?” Inspired by the Good Feed concept, I’m focusing on tuning in to my real needs, rather than just going through the motions. Join me as I explore how honoring our true needs can make us feel genuinely nourished—mind, body, and soul. | |||
| Do You Really Know How to Take Care of Others? Creating a Mission Statement for Everything | 20 Jan 2023 | 00:03:16 | |
Ever wonder what it truly means to take care of someone? Recently, as our family navigates a new season with Mom’s health, I’ve been rethinking how I show up for others. Instead of focusing on what I think she “needs,” I’m learning to listen, honor her comfort, and respect her wishes. Join me as I share how a personal mission statement is guiding my approach to caregiving—and showing me that sometimes, the best care is simply being there. | |||
| Helping - The Sunny Side of Control | 13 Jan 2023 | 00:03:22 | |
Ever catch yourself saying the same thing over and over, trying to “help” someone? Me too! In this episode, I share what I’m learning about stepping back, saying it once, and letting loved ones make their own choices—even the mistakes. It turns out, meaningful growth happens when we feel free to trust our own path. If you’re ready to give the people in your life the space to learn and grow on their terms, join me as I explore how saying less can mean so much more. | |||
| Lots of Developments - Here’s to Deciding When Seasons Should Change | 06 Jan 2023 | 00:03:16 | |
Life has a funny way of throwing curveballs when we least expect it. After planning to dive back into full-time podcasting, I found myself adjusting for a new season of family responsibilities and challenges. Join me as I share what it’s like to adapt, let go of “perfect timing,” and keep moving forward despite life’s unpredictable twists. TeamConfessioners, I’m so glad to be back, and I can’t wait to bring you fresh episodes and updates. Tune in for a dose of real talk about resilience, timing, and the power of staying connected. | |||
| For Every Season There’s a Reason | 20 May 2022 | 00:02:42 | |
Nearly every blog post I’ve ever written for Confessions of a Recovering Micromanaging Perfectionist Martyr can now be listened to on the most commonly used podcast hosting sites… | |||
| My Twelve Steps of Parenting - Things I’ve Learned in the Last Eighteen Years | 13 May 2022 | 00:05:34 | |
As I wrap up my blog, I’m sharing a list that’s been years in the making: My Twelve Steps of Parenting. From prioritizing my own peace to letting my kids learn through their mistakes, these steps reflect what I’ve learned as we prepare our oldest for graduation. Join me as I reflect on what it truly means to parent with love, wisdom, and humility. If you’re navigating the challenges of parenting, I hope this list inspires your journey. | |||
| What Do You Really Want? Truly Listening to My Inner Adolescent | 06 May 2022 | 00:03:10 | |
Ever find yourself breaking your own rules, only to regret it later? Recently, I’ve been rethinking that inner voice—the one I’ve labeled as “weakness” or “lack of willpower.” Instead of viewing it as a shortcoming, I’m considering that it might be my deeper needs trying to get my attention. Join me as I explore how pausing to listen to what I really need, rather than battling my inner critic, is bringing new peace. If you’re ready to show yourself some compassion, this one’s for you. | |||
| Does Parenting Get Easier? That Depends on Me | 28 Mar 2025 | 00:05:01 | |
Ever feel buried under your kids’ to-do lists? Let’s chat about a little parenting shift that could lighten your load and help your kids grow up a bit faster. In this episode, we explore how letting go of certain responsibilities can make parenting feel a lot easier. Curious about the balance between helping and hovering? Tune in and see if this approach could work for you! Now, if you enjoyed this post, you’ll probably like this one too! | |||
| Do I Protect the Offender or the Offended? Standing Up for What I Believe In | 29 Apr 2022 | 00:03:00 | |
Ever feel torn between keeping the peace and standing up for yourself or others? Lately, I’m learning how speaking up—even when it feels uncomfortable—is a way to set boundaries that honor my values. In this episode, I share my journey from people-pleasing to advocating for respect, whether it’s for me or those I love. If you’re ready to find your voice and feel empowered by setting boundaries, join me for some real talk on balancing assertiveness with compassion. | |||
| Editing the Family Manual - Cut and Pasted from Generation to Generation | 22 Apr 2022 | 00:02:43 | |
Ever get frustrated by behavior that seems obviously “wrong” to you? I get it. In this episode, I share a memory that helped me realize we all carry different “manuals” based on our unique upbringings. Instead of holding onto judgment, I’m learning to edit my own beliefs to fit my current values and family needs. If you’re ready to embrace compassion and rethink some of your own “rules,” join me for a fresh perspective on adapting our life manuals. | |||
| What’s That Stench? The Smell of Denial | 15 Apr 2022 | 00:02:41 | |
Ever find yourself “nose-blind” to issues that slowly creep into your life? In this episode, I explore how certain problems—like stress, poor self-care, or even toxic relationships—can settle in so gradually that we barely notice them. By listening to trusted people and tuning into our inner knowing, we can clear the air and make positive changes. Join me as I share how reaching out to others has helped me recognize the “smell” of issues I might otherwise miss. | |||
| The Fear of Dying - From Comfort Zone to Living Zone | 08 Apr 2022 | 00:02:34 | |
Ever find yourself so focused on “what could go wrong” that you miss out on what’s right in front of you? In this episode, I share how I’m learning to shut the door on fear, especially when it tries to hold me back from living fully. Inspired by Julia Louis-Dreyfus’s advice to always have “something to look forward to,” I’ve found that planning moments of joy helps silence my inner doubts. Join me as I explore letting go of fear and embracing a life full of things worth looking forward to. | |||
| April Fools - I’ve Been Focused on the Wrong Darn Thing | 01 Apr 2022 | 00:02:52 | |
Ever focus so much on what you’d like to change about yourself that you forget to appreciate what you love? Inspired by Marie Kondo’s approach to tidying, I’m shifting my “inner spring cleaning” to honor the qualities that spark joy in me. In this episode, I share how practicing self-acceptance helps counter negative judgment and invites lightness. If you’re ready to let go of constant self-critique and celebrate the best in yourself, this one’s for you. | |||
| Gaslighting Prices Are Rising - The Perfect Time to Prioritize My Comfort | 25 Mar 2022 | 00:03:04 | |
Ever feel uncomfortable in a conversation but struggle to speak up? Lately, I’m learning to trust that uneasy feeling as a signal to advocate for myself. In this episode, I share my journey of pushing past the fear of hurting others’ feelings and standing up for my comfort. If you’ve ever put someone else’s ease over your own, join me as I explore the power of honoring discomfort and speaking up—one small step at a time. | |||
| Where Are You Picking Up the Idea That Something’s Wrong with You? | 18 Mar 2022 | 00:02:57 | |
Ever feel like people are subtly telling you that something’s “wrong” with you? In this episode, I share a recent experience where I caught myself feeling this way and explore how our differences don’t make anyone “wrong.” Join me as I reflect on learning to accept myself, even when I feel misunderstood. If you’re ready to let go of trying to meet everyone’s expectations and embrace your unique self, this episode is for you. | |||
| Emotional Greed - When Someone is Never Enough | 11 Mar 2022 | 00:02:52 | |
Ever find yourself wanting more from someone than they can give? Recently, I came across the idea of “emotional greediness,” which has helped me shift my perspective. In this episode, I explore what it means to take responsibility for our own needs rather than expecting one person to fulfill them all. Join me as I reflect on the difference between healthy expectations and demanding “more”—and how embracing this lesson has helped me find deeper fulfillment within myself. | |||
| My Way or the Highway - Forcing My Will on the Family | 04 Mar 2022 | 00:02:02 | |
Ever felt like family life needs to revolve around you to work? Same here. But over time, I’ve learned that stepping back and letting go of control actually brings more harmony to our home. Inspired by a scene in The Crown, I reflect on how shifting from active participant to supportive spectator is changing our family’s dynamic. If you’re ready to embrace a new perspective on family life, tune in for insights on making space for everyone’s happiness—not just your own. | |||
| Did Anyone Ask You? Three Issues With Giving Unsolicited Advice | 25 Feb 2022 | 00:02:45 | |
Ever find yourself jumping in to fix someone’s problems without them asking? In this episode, I share how my habit of “helping” often turns into unwanted advice, exhaustion, and even resentment. I’m learning that sometimes people just want to be heard, not fixed. Join me as I explore how embracing a supportive role, rather than a fixer, creates healthier relationships. If you’re ready to listen more and solve less, this one’s for you. | |||
| Letting Go of One-Way Relationships - Finding Balance in Connection | 21 Mar 2025 | 00:03:15 | |
Do you find yourself always reaching out but rarely hearing back? Let’s talk about one-way relationships and how to find balance without bitterness. In this episode, we’re diving into the tricky art of letting go (without the guilt) and focusing on the connections that truly matter. Ready to feel lighter? Tune in and see if you relate. | |||
| Should I Even Bother Giving If I Can’t Give with Love? My Foolproof Giving Meter | 18 Feb 2022 | 00:02:38 | |
Recovering from knee surgery has given me a fresh perspective on the experience of receiving help. It’s clear how much attitude matters—when people help me with kindness, it feels amazing. But if they seem stressed or resentful, it feels entirely different. In this episode, I share how these insights have helped me rethink my own approach to giving. If you’re ready to give with intention, joy, and healthy boundaries, tune in for a thoughtful take on the art of helping others. | |||
| Rejection - What I Can Learn from Assertive People | 11 Feb 2022 | 00:02:26 | |
Have you ever felt stung by rejection, only to realize it might be a lesson in setting boundaries? In this episode, I share how a young athlete’s assertiveness opened my eyes to the beauty of standing up for our needs. Learning to view assertive people as role models instead of taking things personally has helped me grow. If you’re looking to strengthen your own boundaries and see assertiveness in a new light, tune in for a refreshing perspective on self-advocacy and personal growth. | |||
| If I Love Wasting Time, Why Don’t I Waste More Time? | 04 Feb 2022 | 00:02:34 | |
Ever find yourself rushing through life, convinced you can’t afford to slow down? After a recent injury forced me to move at a snail’s pace, I discovered that slowing down isn’t just okay—it’s actually delightful. In this episode, I share how taking time for “small” things, like a mindful morning routine, has changed my perspective on rest and self-care. If you’re ready to give yourself permission to savor the quiet moments, tune in for a fresh take on slowing down. | |||
| Another Trip to the ER - The Vulnerability of Asking for Help | 28 Jan 2022 | 00:02:21 | |
Ever struggle with asking for help? Same here. After a knee injury and a surprise surgery, I’m facing a huge lesson in vulnerability and learning to ask for what I need. In this episode, I share my journey through accepting help, especially when it feels uncomfortable. If you’ve ever found it hard to lean on others, tune in for some relatable insights on embracing support and realizing our worth—even when we’re not 100%. | |||
| Change War - Maintaining Serenity When the Plans Keep Changing | 14 Jan 2022 | 00:03:01 | |
How do you handle life when plans change constantly? Years ago, a remarkable person taught me that it’s possible to be both structured and adaptable—a lesson that’s carried me through all the unpredictable changes of the past two years. In this episode, I share how Linda Stuhlman’s balanced approach to planning and flexibility transformed my mindset and prepared me for today’s constant schedule shifts. If you’re looking for a way to navigate the chaos with grace, tune in for a dose of inspiration and gratitude. | |||
| Going In with a New Kind of Intensity - The Key to Sticking With It | 31 Dec 2021 | 00:02:29 | |
Ever start something new with all-out intensity only to burn out? Same. This time around, I’m trying a gentler approach. In this episode, I share how shifting my goal from “going hard” to “just showing up” has made my commitments stick. When I stopped rushing and embraced patience, I found real, lasting change. If you’re tired of unsustainable routines and want a fresh approach, join me as I explore the power of simply showing up and letting the rest fall into place. | |||
| All I Want for Christmas V - Standing Up to the Bully of My Inner-Voice | 24 Dec 2021 | 00:02:32 | |
Starting a new workout routine can be tough, but what’s even tougher? Battling that loud, negative voice that says I’m not doing enough. In this episode, I share how I’m tackling that inner critic and reframing my daily workout as an exercise in self-compassion. Join me as I explore the challenge of silencing the “interject” voice and replacing it with the supportive, kind voice we all need. If you’re ready to stop letting negativity call the shots, tune in! FEND FOR YOURSELF DAY is only a few days away! | |||
| Tis’ the Season - The Circle of Taking and Giving | 17 Dec 2021 | 00:02:28 | |
Ever feel like you have to “repay” a kindness the moment you receive it? I totally get it. In this episode, I dive into the strange compulsion to immediately return the favor and how it actually holds me back from experiencing genuine gratitude. Join me as I explore what it really means to give and receive freely, without keeping score, and the joy of simply accepting love. If you’re ready to let go of the strings and embrace giving as a circle, tune in! | |||
| Correcting People When They Talk - You Knew What I Meant! | 10 Dec 2021 | 00:02:06 | |
Do you feel the urge to correct people when they misspeak? I get it, but in our family, we approach it a bit differently. In this episode, I share why I rarely correct others and how it’s become a way of teaching my kids that mistakes don’t define us. Instead of focusing on being “right,” we focus on making others feel heard and valued. Tune in if you’re ready to let go of unnecessary corrections and create more compassionate conversations in your home. | |||
| Living in a Dyslexic/ADHD Marriage - Happy Anniversary To Me | 03 Dec 2021 | 00:03:24 | |
After 20 years of marriage, I’ve finally gained a deeper understanding of how my husband and I function at our best—he thrives under pressure, and I need a slower pace to stay balanced. In this episode, I share the eye-opening realization about our differences and how learning to honor my own pace is transforming my mental health. Join me as I explore the value of respecting our unique needs in relationships and the power of slowing down to be our best selves. | |||
| 3 Things to Ask Before Responding or Sending Emotional Texts | 14 Mar 2025 | 00:06:20 | |
Ever felt the urge to fire off a text in the heat of the moment? Yeah, me too. Before you hit send (or reply), let’s chat about three simple questions that can save you from potential regret—and maybe even preserve your sanity. Whether it’s emotional texts from loved ones or a knee-jerk reaction of your own, this episode is all about pressing pause before texting. Curious? Tune in and see if you relate. Some links from this episode: Other episodes on pausing: | |||
| Monkey See, Monkey Do - If I Don’t Know What It Looks Like, I Can’t Do It | 26 Nov 2021 | 00:02:07 | |
Ever feel like you need to see someone else model self-care before you know it’s possible for you? This Thanksgiving, I’m reflecting on the women who’ve shown me what it looks like to set boundaries, slow down, and pursue my dreams. Join me as I explore the power of leading by example and how caring for ourselves can inspire the next generation to do the same—minus any Sesame Street-inspired wardrobe changes! | |||
| Happier Thanksgiving - The Manipulation of Inauthentic Questions | 19 Nov 2021 | 00:02:01 | |
Ever catch yourself asking family questions that sound helpful but come off as judgmental? This Thanksgiving, I’m reflecting on how shifting from “why” questions to “how do you feel” questions can make all the difference in family harmony. Join me as I explore how showing trust and curiosity, instead of subtle criticism, opens the door to feeling truly connected. If you’re ready for a more peaceful holiday, tune in for a fresh take on family conversations. | |||
| Every Good Idea is Not a Good Idea - Pausing Before I Take Action | 12 Nov 2021 | 00:02:19 | |
Ever find yourself diving headfirst into every idea you have, only to end up overwhelmed? Same here! In this episode, I reflect on how my constant brainstorming—though well-intentioned—has been a major source of chaos. By simply waiting 24-48 hours before acting on a new idea, I’m learning to create a little breathing room and avoid unnecessary stress. If you’re looking to simplify your life by doing less, join me as I share how pressing pause has brought more peace into my days. | |||