Coming Out Stories – Details, episodes & analysis

We talk with Manchester-based poet Amy about growing up without queer role models, first love with a best friend, and learning to claim “lesbian” with joy. The chat ends with her live poem about a double coming out in Wetherspoons.

• childhood in Grimsby with little queer visibility
• legacy of Section 28 shaping silent classrooms
• first crushes, confusion, and a secret relationship
• telling mum and dad in small, human moments
• TV and history as lifelines for representation
• reclaiming lesbian and standing with trans siblings
• haircut, visibility, and letting beauty be ours
• poetry from slam urgency to crafted page work
• practical advice on safety, timing, and community
• live reading: Coming Out In Wetherspoons

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Presented by Emma Goswell

Produced by Sam Walker

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A goodbye note found on a computer. 

A father who says, “I don’t understand, but I love you.” 

A marriage that proves joy can grow in places once ruled by fear. 

From rural West Virginia to an online audience that shows up for humour, makeup, and honesty, we sit with Bobby Jean Spears as he traces a path from secrecy to self-belief.
 
 If you’re weighing how and when to come out, you’ll find practical advice: start with a trusted friend, build a small circle, and save the family talk for when you feel safe. 

If you’ve faced rejection, you’ll hear how life can still open up in surprising, ordinary, wonderful ways. 

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This episode also honours the legacy of Anne Algar, a lesbian trailblazer whose activism for lesbian mums shaped the ground we stand on for so many of us.

Presented by Emma Goswell

Produced by Sam Walker

We'd love to hear YOUR story. Please get in touch www.comingoutstoriespodcast.com or find us on twitter @ComeOutStories and on Instagram @ComingOutStoriesPod

We have a book! Coming Out Stories is available at all major shops now!

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Coming Out Stories is a What Goes On Media Production

What does it take to come out after 55 years of hiding your true self?

Kevin O'Connor, an author and a gay man found the courage to embrace his identity after decades of living a different life.
In this episode, you’ll hear Kevin's reflections on his early inklings of being gay in the 1960s, his struggles with authenticity, and the pivotal moment when his youngest son came out at 16, prompting Kevin to finally confront his own buried feelings.

This episode delves into the complexities of coming out later in life and the transformative power of embracing your true self.

Kevin's unique upbringing in a Victorian house-turned-funeral home provides the backdrop for his memoir "Two Floors Above Grief,"

Kevin's story isn't just about his personal journey; it's a testament to the evolving landscape of LGBTQ+ acceptance and rights.


Find out more about Kevin and his work here

Presented by Emma Goswell

Produced by Sam Walker

We'd love to hear YOUR story. Please get in touch www.comingoutstoriespodcast.com or find us on twitter @ComeOutStories and on Instagram @ComingOutStoriesPod

We have a book! Coming Out Stories is available at all major shops now!

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Poet, comedian and theatre maker Jackie Hagan identifies as bisexual, or queer.  She has a very unique list of her first childhood crushes!

Presented by Emma Goswell

Produced by Sam Walker

We'd love to hear YOUR story. Please get in touch www.comingoutstoriespodcast.com or find us on twitter @ComeOutStories and on Instagram @ComingOutStoriesPod

We have a book! Coming Out Stories is available at all major shops now!

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Oskar grew up in Trinidad  and identifies as trans masculine, but non binary.  In terms of their sexuality they identify as pansexual.  Suppressing the urge to transition for 20 years had a huge impact on their mental health.

Presented by Emma Goswell

Produced by Sam Walker

We'd love to hear YOUR story. Please get in touch www.comingoutstoriespodcast.com or find us on twitter @ComeOutStories and on Instagram @ComingOutStoriesPod

We have a book! Coming Out Stories is available at all major shops now!

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Kate McCabe is a stand up comedian. She grew up in Pensylvania, but then went to University in New York City, where despite having a gay best friend you will never believe who she chose to come out to first…

Presented by Emma Goswell

Produced by Sam Walker

We'd love to hear YOUR story. Please get in touch www.comingoutstoriespodcast.com or find us on twitter @ComeOutStories and on Instagram @ComingOutStoriesPod

We have a book! Coming Out Stories is available at all major shops now!

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A story that really proves it’s never too late to come out.  Naomi is a film maker and lives in Berlin, but grew up in South Africa and Namibia.  She was married to man for 23 years before coming out.

Presented by Emma Goswell

Produced by Sam Walker

We'd love to hear YOUR story. Please get in touch www.comingoutstoriespodcast.com or find us on twitter @ComeOutStories and on Instagram @ComingOutStoriesPod

We have a book! Coming Out Stories is available at all major shops now!

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Lev AC Rosen is an author.  He grew up in a liberal household in New York in the 1990s.  He didn’t feel he should have to come out as gay, because straight people don’t have to come out as straight!  He never could have guessed his mother’s reaction!

Presented by Emma Goswell

Produced by Sam Walker

We'd love to hear YOUR story. Please get in touch www.comingoutstoriespodcast.com or find us on twitter @ComeOutStories and on Instagram @ComingOutStoriesPod

We have a book! Coming Out Stories is available at all major shops now!

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Coming Out Stories is a What Goes On Media Production

Yvy De Luca is the author of the memoir  “Tainted Beauty” She identifies as an Indian trans woman, who is also a pansexual

She really struggled to come out in the Muslim community of 1990s Blackburn and for a while, led a double life.

Presented by Emma Goswell

Produced by Sam Walker

We'd love to hear YOUR story. Please get in touch www.comingoutstoriespodcast.com or find us on twitter @ComeOutStories and on Instagram @ComingOutStoriesPod

We have a book! Coming Out Stories is available at all major shops now!

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Matthew Schaffer is an actor, dancer, choreographer and author. 

He’s so out and proud he’s written a book called “Dancing Out of the Closet” .

He wasn't always so proud though, and lived in the closet for years, worried his sexuality would ruin his career and friendships.

Presented by Emma Goswell

Produced by Sam Walker

We'd love to hear YOUR story. Please get in touch www.comingoutstoriespodcast.com or find us on twitter @ComeOutStories and on Instagram @ComingOutStoriesPod

We have a book! Coming Out Stories is available at all major shops now!

JKP.com | Queerlit | Waterstones | Amazon

Coming Out Stories is a What Goes On Media Production