Through narrative interviews, Robin Douglass shares real, raw & relatable Coming Out Late stories as well as resources meant to support, inspire and educate you on your own coming out late journey. You can stop living someone else’s life, and start living your own, and know, that you are not alone!It’s better late than never, because it’s never too late!
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Ep. #184: Coming Out Late & Learning to Let Go, (Replay)
Season 3 · Episode 184
Friday, June 13, 2025 • Duration 19:42
In this week’s episode, Robin talks about the keys to living a serene and fulfilling life. Robin puts on her philosophical beret and covers topics such as “acceptance”, “surrendering”, “expectations” and “letting go” and what in the world does that have to do with coming out late?
Give yourself permission to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently; because we can!
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
We ALWAYS have options and choices to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently.
It’s how we respond to adversity, to challenge, that defines our character.
We must accept we have no control over people, places, things & situations.
The key to life, to serenity, and to living a fulfilled life is ACCEPTANCE.
We learn how to accept by learning how to surrender; we learn how to surrender by learning how to LET GO.
We need to learn how to let go of - and live free-from - ‘desired outcomes’ and ‘expectations’.
The myth about chasing ‘ideal outcomes’. What’s the probability of catching our ‘desired outcomes’? What’s the cost of chasing our desired outcomes?
We’re not in the CONTROL business - that’s codependency’s job!
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Ep. #183: Developing A Money Mindset, Part 2 (Replay)
Season 3 · Episode 183
Friday, June 6, 2025 • Duration 46:39
In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues her conversation about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives; especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina, another late bloomer themselves, share their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences, not from any kind of ‘expert’ stance. Whether you are in a contractual relationship, a marriage, partnered or non-partnered, it is critical that we late bloomers have a sense of money matters, know our financial rights and have a better understanding of our financial position in our world.
In this episode you will learn…
What IS a “Money Mindset”? And how/why does that affect YOU?
Three steps in budgeting: (1) try to save 10% of your income, (2) know what your monthly fixed expenses are and try to keep them at 50-60% of your income, and (3) put aside about 30% for “spending” or your “fun money”.
You can only cut-back your expenses so much, but, can you renegotiate your big, big fixed expenses, (i.e., auto insurance, homeowners insurance, your mortgage to a lower interest rate, rent, etc.); the next question is, can you increase your income at all?
Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, work part time, or even full time, know what value you bring to your marriage and be willing to fight for your value!
Know what the rental market is in your area and determine what your income needs to be in order to move out and live on your own.
If neither you and/or your spouse cannot afford to move out, then you both need to ask the question, “...how can we meet our needs within the marriage. Are you ok with me seeing someone else and you seeing someone else…?” (a.k.a., ethical non-monogamy).
Whether or not you stay in the marriage, there will always be trade-offs. The questions are: What are you financially able to trade-off? And, what are you comfortable trading-off?
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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Ep. #174: Queer Clergy Talk About 'Love', 'Sex' and the 'Bible' (Replay)
Season 3 · Episode 174
Friday, April 4, 2025 • Duration 58:46
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin shares with us a second conversation she had with a group of queer clergy-folx from her FB Group, “Coming Out Late”. Robin recorded four hours of epic clergy conversations, two of which you heard in Episodes #75 & #76 back in March. The final two hours of those recordings are here, in Episodes #96 and #97.
The Rev. Wilda C. Gafney, Ph.D., also known as Wil Gafney, (born 1966) is an American biblical scholar and Episcopal priest. She is a specialist in womanistbiblical interpretation, and topics including gender and race.
Rev. Rufus A. Strother Jr., The Rev. Rufus A. Strother Jr. led a predominantly African-American congregation in northern Westchester County for 38 years and was noted for his work to foster understanding between races and to improve community relations, particularly during the years of the civil rights movement.
The documentary, “Mama’s Boy” on HBO Max, by Academy Award Winning Screenplay Writer, Dustin Lance Black.
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
Ep. #90: Out, Wild, & Gay in Wales, Part 1
Season 2 · Episode 90
Monday, June 19, 2023 • Duration 45:45
In this unconventional episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin takes a casual, unscripted approach this week, sharing with you a recent ‘thing’ she did. She did a ‘gay’ thing and she wants to share with you her ‘gay thing’ experience, AND share with you the things she learned about herself along the way. These ‘things’ Robin learned about herself are universal lessons we can all benefit from. She also hopes to recruit many of you to join her next year, to do this ‘gay thing’ together in one big happy gay group! Stay-tuned for Part 2 THIS WEEK!
In this episode you will learn…
You are stronger, wiser and more resilient than you give yourself credit for.
Drop ALL expectations and ‘life’ will run like a Swiss watch!
Be accountable to yourself, and take responsibility for your actions.
Be yourself, and everything else will fall into place.
Smile and say “please” and “thank you”.
Have gratitude and show it.
Ask for help. (Most people really do want to lend a hand!)
Cry when needed; then blow your nose, pick yourself up and go to Plan “B”.
Don’t give up on yourself.
Trust the process. You are exactly where you are supposed to be in this time and place.
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
Ep. #89: Coming Out Late to My Husband, Adriana's Story, Part 2
Season 2 · Episode 89
Monday, June 12, 2023 • Duration 47:28
In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with Late Bloomer Adriana and her co-parent and current husband, Darius. You’ll hear how they walk us through their process of managing their marriage, their families and their futures during and after Adriana’s recent awakening of her sexuality. For reference, Adriana no longer identifies herself as a heterosexual woman.
In this episode you will learn…
Wanting something more for yourself, or something different for yourself, doesn’t mean leaving what you have is ever easy.
Who leaves the house when a ‘separation’ is the next step?
How do ‘things’ FEEL in your body? Your body never lies to you - it just takes getting very still and very honest with yourself to ‘feel the truths’ it offers.
We ALL have those, “...what the hell am I doing?” moments. All of us!
If you’re not sure about ‘separation’ - try moving into a spare bedroom, or set up a space and a place for you to sleep other than the marital bedroom you share.
Continuing the strong post-marital bond long into the future, and how do future partners fit into that scenario?
“...Leaving for a feeling and a thought…? What am I, crazy?”
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
Ep. #88: Coming Out Late to My Husband: Adriana's Story, Part 1
Season 2 · Episode 88
Monday, June 5, 2023 • Duration 50:10
In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin welcomes the married duo of Adriana and Darius to talk about how Adriana’s recent awakening to her sexuality has impacted their marriage, how they have navigated this journey together, and how they plan to move forward.
In this episode you will learn…
How important it is to listen to those little whispering voices inside us.
The vital nature in which “communication” really does play a role in the success of all relationships.
Take things slowly, and talk things out - talk everything out!
Be true to YOUR needs and boundaries - even if it costs you your marriage.
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’! The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!
Ep. #87: Recapping the Coming Out Late Retreat to Women's Fest, Part 2
Season 2 · Episode 87
Monday, May 29, 2023 • Duration 42:42
In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with her newest group of Coming Out Late Retreat attendees in a conversation they had immediately following their return from “Women’s Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE.
In this episode you will learn…
What happens when we “don’t wear the uniform”?
What IS ‘the uniform’?
An insider’s / attendees perspective on Women’s Fest in Rehoboth Beach, DE.
Volunteer at queer events - its a safe and less scary way to meet new people.
“...I realized at the Retreat, I’m still me. Being gay is just a part of who I am. It doesn’t change who I am as a person.”
Dealing with Imposter Syndrome - and what it is.
What happens when you combine ‘pack mentality’ and ‘alcohol’ at a very large event.
The need and value of a “safe word”.
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’! The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!
Ep. #86: Recapping the Coming Out Late Retreat to 'Women's Fest', Part 1
Season 2 · Episode 86
Monday, May 22, 2023 • Duration 44:59
In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin has gathered with the newest group of Coming Out Late Retreat attendees immediately following their return from “Women’s Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE. You’ll hear from most everyone who attended the retreat with Robin.
In this episode you will learn…
Some who attended the retreat opted not to participate in the Recap gathering because, despite being in their first same sex relationship, they are not out to most people in their lives, nor divorced yet, and chose to sit this one out.
An insider’s / attendees perspective on Women’s Fest in Rehoboth Beach, DE.
Volunteer at queer events - its a safe and less scary way to meet new people.
“...I realized at the Retreat, I’m still me. Being gay is just a part of who I am. It doesn’t change who I am as a person.”
Dealing with Imposter Syndrome - and what it is.
What is meant by “wearing the uniform”?
The need and value of a “safe word”.
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.
‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’! The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!
Ep. 85: Developing A Money Mindset While Coming Out Late, Part 2
Season 2 · Episode 85
Monday, May 15, 2023 • Duration 49:36
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin has a casual but critical conversation with another late bloomer, Sabrina, about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives - especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina broach the “Money Mindset” subject from their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences.
In this episode you will learn about and hear Robin and Sabrina discuss…
What IS “Money Mindset”? And how/why does that affect YOU?
Three steps in budgeting: (1) try to save 10% of your income, (2) know what your monthly fixed expenses are and try to keep them at 50-60% of your income, and (3) put aside about 30% for “spending” or your “fun money”.
You can only cut-back your expenses so much, but, can you renegotiate your big, big fixed expenses, (i.e., auto insurance, homeowners insurance, your mortgage to a lower interest rate, rent, etc.); the next question is, can you increase your income at all?
Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, work part time, or even full time, know what value you bring to your marriage and be willing to fight for your value!
Know what the rental market is in your area and determine what your income needs to be in order to move out and live on your own.
If neither you and/or your spouse cannot afford to move out, then you both need to ask the question, “...how can we meet our needs within the marriage. Are you ok with me seeing someone else and you seeing someone else…?” (a.k.a., ethical non-monogamy).
Whether or not you stay in the marriage, there will always be trade-offs. The questions are: What are you financially able to trade-off? And, what are you comfortable trading-off?
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.
Ep. #84: Developing A Money Mindset While Coming Out Late, Part 1
Season 2 · Episode 84
Monday, May 8, 2023 • Duration 52:26
In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin has a casual but critical conversation with another late bloomer, Sabrina, about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives - especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina broach the “Money Mindset” subject from their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences, and not from any kind of ‘expert’ stance. Whether you are in a contractual relationship, a marriage, partnered or non-partnered, it is critical that we late bloomers have a sense of money matters, know our financial rights and have a better understanding of our financial position in our world.
In this episode you will learn about and hear Robin and Sabrina discuss…
What is a “money mindset”? How do you develop a mindset around money? How does having a ‘money mindset’ affect you and your future?
Have you ever thought about your relationship with money and what your journey with money has been throughout your life? How did your relationship with money first get formed? How do you feel about money, and handling money? How does ‘money’ make you feel? Do you think you are capable of handling money?
Currently, what is your mindset around money? How is your relationship with money?
Having a “money mindset” begins with, “...starting to notice the invisible scripts going on in your head, [surrounding money], and the automatic reactions you have in your body, [as it relates to money matters.]
Stop and think about: What do you tell yourself about money and your abilities around handling money? Do you tell yourself, “...I'm bad with money..”, or, “...I'm a right-brained person, I wasn’t born to be good with money…” Or do you tell yourself, “... money is the root of all evil…”? Do you tell yourself, “...money doesn't grow on trees…”? Or, are you in a more positive frame-of-mind about money?
To develop a healthy money mindset, we must first go through these three steps: First, we must become aware-of, and bring awareness-to our own beliefs around money. In order to understand our own psychology, beliefs and personal relationship with money, we must first become aware of the dialogues and scripts swirling around in our own minds. What are we telling ourselves about money?
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To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’! The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!
The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’! The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!
The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’! The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!
The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST
You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.
Second, after the “awareness” step, we must then ask ourselves, “...Where do my beliefs around money come from…?” For example: How did your parents talk about money? Did your primary caretakers talk to you about saving or investing? How did your primary caretakers talk to each other about money? Did your mom pay the bills or did your dad take care of everything? Were your parents spenders or savers?
Once you’ve developed an awareness-of your money belief system and explored where your money beliefs come from, then lastly, it’s time to ask yourself, “...are those beliefs still serving me in living my best life…?”
Improving your money mindset and becoming proactive about your awareness and understanding of money matters can incrementally impact your future financial security.
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LA
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