In this week’s episode, Robin talks about the keys to living a serene and fulfilling life. Robin puts on her philosophical beret and covers topics such as “acceptance”, “surrendering”, “expectations” and “letting go” and what in the world does that have to do with coming out late?

• Give yourself permission to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently; because we can!
• Nothing changes if nothing changes.
• We ALWAYS have options and choices to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently.
• It’s how we respond to adversity, to challenge, that defines our character.
• We must accept we have no control over people, places, things & situations.
• The key to life, to serenity, and to living a fulfilled life is ACCEPTANCE.
• We learn how to accept by learning how to surrender; we learn how to surrender by learning how to LET GO.
• We need to learn how to let go of - and live free-from - ‘desired outcomes’ and ‘expectations’.
• The myth about chasing ‘ideal outcomes’. What’s the probability of catching our ‘desired outcomes’? What’s the cost of chasing our desired outcomes?
• We’re not in the CONTROL business - that’s codependency’s job!
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

LINKS to RESOURCES:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:

To be put on the email list for these or future retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 24-27

-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-7

In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues her conversation about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives; especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina, another late bloomer themselves, share their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences, not from any kind of ‘expert’ stance. Whether you are in a contractual relationship, a marriage, partnered or non-partnered, it is critical that we late bloomers have a sense of money matters, know our financial rights and have a better understanding of our financial position in our world.

In this episode you will learn… 

• What IS a “Money Mindset”? And how/why does that affect YOU?
• Three steps in budgeting: (1) try to save 10% of your income, (2) know what your monthly fixed expenses are and try to keep them at 50-60% of your income, and (3) put aside about 30% for “spending” or your “fun money”.
• You can only cut-back your expenses so much, but, can you renegotiate your big, big fixed expenses, (i.e., auto insurance, homeowners insurance, your mortgage to a lower interest rate, rent, etc.); the next question is, can you increase your income at all?
• Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, work part time, or even full time, know what value you bring to your marriage and be willing to fight for your value!
• Know what the rental market is in your area and determine what your income needs to be in order to move out and live on your own.
• If neither you and/or your spouse cannot afford to move out, then you both need to ask the question, “...how can we meet our needs within the marriage. Are you ok with me seeing someone else and you seeing someone else…?” (a.k.a., ethical non-monogamy).
• Whether or not you stay in the marriage, there will always be trade-offs. The questions are: What are you financially able to trade-off? And, what are you comfortable trading-off?
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

LINKS to RESOURCES:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:

To be put on the email list for these retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

-PORTLAND, ME: June 19-22, 2025 - ONE SPOT STILL REMAINING

-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 25-27

-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-7

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin shares with us a second conversation she had with a group of queer clergy-folx from her FB Group, “Coming Out Late”. Robin recorded four hours of epic clergy conversations, two of which you heard in Episodes #75 & #76 back in March. The final two hours of those recordings are here, in Episodes #96 and #97.

• The Rev. Wilda C. Gafney, Ph.D., also known as Wil Gafney, (born 1966) is an American biblical scholar and Episcopal priest. She is a specialist in womanistbiblical interpretation, and topics including gender and race.
• Rev. Rufus A. Strother Jr., The Rev. Rufus A. Strother Jr. led a predominantly African-American congregation in northern Westchester County for 38 years and was noted for his work to foster understanding between races and to improve community relations, particularly during the years of the civil rights movement.
• The documentary, “Mama’s Boy” on HBO Max, by Academy Award Winning Screenplay Writer, Dustin Lance Black.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:

To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

-KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025CONFIRMED; -PHILADELPHIA, PA: AugustTENTATIVE; -GRAND JUNCTION, CO: early September TENTATIVE

SMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this unconventional episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin takes a casual, unscripted approach this week, sharing with you a recent ‘thing’ she did. She did a ‘gay’ thing and she wants to share with you her ‘gay thing’ experience, AND share with you the things she learned about herself along the way. These ‘things’ Robin learned about herself are universal lessons we can all benefit from. She also hopes to recruit many of you to join her next year, to do this ‘gay thing’ together in one big happy gay group! Stay-tuned for Part 2 THIS WEEK!

In this episode you will learn… 

• You are stronger, wiser and more resilient than you give yourself credit for.
• Drop ALL expectations and ‘life’ will run like a Swiss watch!
• Be accountable to yourself, and take responsibility for your actions.
• Be yourself, and everything else will fall into place.
• Smile and say “please” and “thank you”.
• Have gratitude and show it.
• Ask for help. (Most people really do want to lend a hand!)
• Cry when needed; then blow your nose, pick yourself up and go to Plan “B”.
• Don’t give up on yourself.
• Trust the process. You are exactly where you are supposed to be in this time and place.
• Nothing changes if nothing changes.
• Feel the fear and do it anyway.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.

‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!
The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!  

The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:

To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.

In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with Late Bloomer Adriana and her co-parent and current husband, Darius. You’ll hear how they walk us through their process of managing their marriage, their families and their futures during and after Adriana’s recent awakening of her sexuality. For reference, Adriana no longer identifies herself as a heterosexual woman.

In this episode you will learn… 

• Wanting something more for yourself, or something different for yourself, doesn’t mean leaving what you have is ever easy.
•  Who leaves the house when a ‘separation’ is the next step?
• How do ‘things’ FEEL in your body? Your body never lies to you - it just takes getting very still and very honest with yourself to ‘feel the truths’ it offers.
• We ALL have those, “...what the hell am I doing?” moments. All of us!
• If you’re not sure about ‘separation’ - try moving into a spare bedroom, or set up a space and a place for you to sleep other than the marital bedroom you share.
• Continuing the strong post-marital bond long into the future, and how do future partners fit into that scenario?
• “...Leaving for a feeling and a thought…? What am I, crazy?”
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.

‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!
The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!  

The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:

To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.blooming.lesbian

• How important it is to listen to those little whispering voices inside us.
• The vital nature in which “communication” really does play a role in the success of all relationships. 
• Take things slowly, and talk things out - talk everything out!
• Be true to YOUR needs and boundaries - even if it costs you your marriage.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with her newest group of Coming Out Late Retreat attendees in a conversation they had immediately following their return from “Women’s Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE.

In this episode you will learn… 

• What happens when we “don’t wear the uniform”?
• What IS ‘the uniform’?
• An insider’s / attendees perspective on Women’s Fest in Rehoboth Beach, DE.
• Volunteer at queer events - its a safe and less scary way to meet new people.
• “...I realized at the Retreat, I’m still me. Being gay is just a part of who I am. It doesn’t change who I am as a person.”
• Dealing with Imposter Syndrome - and what it is.
• What happens when you combine ‘pack mentality’ and ‘alcohol’ at a very large event.
• The need and value of a “safe word”. 
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.

‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!
The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!  

The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:

To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.blooming.lesbian

In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin has gathered with the newest group of Coming Out Late Retreat attendees immediately following their return from “Women’s Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE. You’ll hear from most everyone who attended the retreat with Robin.

In this episode you will learn… 

• Some who attended the retreat opted not to participate in the Recap gathering because, despite being in their first same sex relationship, they are not out to most people in their lives, nor divorced yet, and chose to sit this one out.
• An insider’s / attendees perspective on Women’s Fest in Rehoboth Beach, DE.
• Volunteer at queer events - its a safe and less scary way to meet new people.
• “...I realized at the Retreat, I’m still me. Being gay is just a part of who I am. It doesn’t change who I am as a person.”
• Dealing with Imposter Syndrome - and what it is.
• What is meant by “wearing the uniform”?
• The need and value of a “safe word”. 
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.

‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!
The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!  

The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:

To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.blooming.lesbian

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin has a casual but critical conversation with another late bloomer, Sabrina, about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives - especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina broach the “Money Mindset” subject from their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences.

In this episode you will learn about and hear Robin and Sabrina discuss… 

• What IS “Money Mindset”? And how/why does that affect YOU?
• Three steps in budgeting: (1) try to save 10% of your income, (2) know what your monthly fixed expenses are and try to keep them at 50-60% of your income, and (3) put aside about 30% for “spending” or your “fun money”.
• You can only cut-back your expenses so much, but, can you renegotiate your big, big fixed expenses, (i.e., auto insurance, homeowners insurance, your mortgage to a lower interest rate, rent, etc.); the next question is, can you increase your income at all?
• Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, work part time, or even full time, know what value you bring to your marriage and be willing to fight for your value!
• Know what the rental market is in your area and determine what your income needs to be in order to move out and live on your own.
• If neither you and/or your spouse cannot afford to move out, then you both need to ask the question, “...how can we meet our needs within the marriage. Are you ok with me seeing someone else and you seeing someone else…?” (a.k.a., ethical non-monogamy).
• Whether or not you stay in the marriage, there will always be trade-offs. The questions are: What are you financially able to trade-off? And, what are you comfortable trading-off?
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.

‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!
The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!  

The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

You must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.

https://www.bu

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin has a casual but critical conversation with another late bloomer, Sabrina, about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives - especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina broach the “Money Mindset” subject from their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences, and not from any kind of ‘expert’ stance. Whether you are in a contractual relationship, a marriage, partnered or non-partnered, it is critical that we late bloomers have a sense of money matters, know our financial rights and have a better understanding of our financial position in our world.

In this episode you will learn about and hear Robin and Sabrina discuss… 

• What is a “money mindset”? How do you develop a mindset around money? How does having a ‘money mindset’ affect you and your future?
• Have you ever thought about your relationship with money and what your journey with money has been throughout your life? How did your relationship with money first get formed? How do you feel about money, and handling money? How does ‘money’ make you feel? Do you think you are capable of handling money?
• Currently, what is your mindset around money? How is your relationship with money?
• Having a “money mindset” begins with, “...starting to notice the invisible scripts going on in your head, [surrounding money], and the automatic reactions you have in your body, [as it relates to money matters.] 
• Stop and think about: What do you tell yourself about money and your abilities around handling money? Do you tell yourself, “...I'm bad with money..”, or, “...I'm a right-brained person, I wasn’t born to be good with money…” Or do you tell yourself, “... money is the root of all evil…”? Do you tell yourself, “...money doesn't grow on trees…”? Or, are you in a more positive frame-of-mind about money?
• To develop a healthy money mindset, we must first go through these three steps: First, we must become aware-of, and bring awareness-to our own beliefs around money. In order to understand our own psychology, beliefs and personal relationship with money, we must first become aware of the dialogues and scripts swirling around in our own minds. What are we telling ourselves about money?
• Second, after the “awareness” step, we must then ask ourselves, “...Where do my beliefs around money come from…?” For example: How did your parents talk about money? Did your primary caretakers talk to you about saving or investing? How did your primary caretakers talk to each other about money? Did your mom pay the bills or did your dad take care of everything? Were your parents spenders or savers?
• Once you’ve developed an awareness-of your money belief system and explored where your money beliefs come from, then lastly, it’s time to ask yourself, “...are those beliefs still serving me in living my best life…?”
• Improving your money mindset and becoming proactive about your awareness and understanding of money matters can incrementally impact your future financial security.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LA

In this Part 2 episode of “Coming Out Late in Phoenix, The Retreat”, Robin continues the conversation with her group of not-straight women who braved the queer wilderness in Phoenix, Arizona to attend the very first “Coming Out Late” Retreat! Mostly on their best-behavior, you will hear just how much each person grew, appreciated and reaped in the benefits of meeting and retreating in-person.

In this episode you will hear Robin and the Coming Out Late Retreat group informally talk about their experiences and touching moments from the Phoenix, AZ Retreat:

• What are the benefits of attending an in-person Retreat with other folx who are, or have, come out late?
• How did the “introverts” do on this group retreat of 10-13 queer folx? What was one of the main components of the Retreat weekend that they found to be enormously helpful as introverts in SO many brand new, crowded scenarios?
• The value of in-person connections and support.
• Building your tribe and the importance of community.
• The importance of feeling and being safe with your gay circle of friends.
• What elements are valuable and critical to feeling comfortable in gay social circles.
• Manifesting the courage and strength to dive deep in personal growth.
• Wanna join other like-minded not-straight women in future Coming Out Late Retreats? Send Robin an email, requesting to be put on the Coming Out Late Retreat email list. Email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.

BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:

Have I Got A Deal For YOU!

The Coming Out Late podcast is teaming-up with BARB, a queer-owned & operated brand of hair styling products for people with short hair, like ME. BARB is a pomade, and is sold at select salons and Barbershops across the US, but is ALSO conveniently sold online as well. So, as part of their new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, BARB is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://www.thebarbshop.com and use (all caps) ROBIN15.

THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
More dates and locations for new Coming Out Late Retreats will be announced next week.

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Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesom

In this highly anticipated episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin re-gathers with the group of not-straight women who braved the queer wilderness in Phoenix, Arizona to attend the very first “Coming Out Late” Retreat! Robin instigates the banter and conversation with her new forever friends as they each discuss what the Retreat meant to them. Mostly on their best-behavior, you will hear just how much each person grew, appreciated and reaped in the benefits of meeting and retreating in-person.

In this episode you will hear Robin and the Coming Out Late Retreat group informally talk about their experiences and touching moments from the Phoenix, AZ Retreat:

• What are the benefits of attending an in-person Retreat with other folx who are, or have, come out late?
• How did the “introverts” do on this group retreat of 10-13 queer folx? What was one of the main components of the Retreat weekend that they found to be enormously helpful as introverts in SO many brand new, crowded scenarios?
• The value of in-person connections and support.
• Building your tribe and the importance of community.
• The importance of feeling and being safe with your gay circle of friends.
• What elements are valuable and critical to feeling comfortable in gay social circles.
• Manifesting the courage and strength to dive deep in personal growth.
• Wanna join us at Women’s Fest in Rehoboth Beach, DE this weekend? We have to beds available 2 blocks from the beach. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.

BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:

Have I Got A Deal For YOU!

The Coming Out Late podcast is teaming-up with BARB, a queer-owned & operated brand of hair styling products for people with short hair, like ME. BARB is a pomade, and is sold at select salons and Barbershops across the US, but is ALSO conveniently sold online as well. So, as part of their new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, BARB is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://www.thebarbshop.com and use (all caps) ROBIN15.

THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:

Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”

To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the these Retreats, (Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Coming

In this Part 2 episode of “Coming Out Late In A Hetero Marriage”, Robin jumps right back in with her first-ever conversation with husband David, and his wife and late bloomer, Monique, who are actually going through Monique’s Coming Out Late process in real-time, and SHARING their experiences with us! There’s LOTS to absorb, take-in and learn!

In this episode you will … 

• “Kroger Parking Lot Therapy”, and having those REAL HARD conversations and asking one another the big scary questions, and discussing the really big issues.
• What does David mean by, “...the grass is greener where you water it…”
• Discussing the “pie-chart” of an entire relationship, and which parts are in need of attention.
• Looking at our pasts and getting real and getting honest with one another. Doing our shadow-work - together.
• Women dealing with sexual obligation to please their husbands.
• The Key to Relationship Progress? Communication! Communication! Communication!
• Before throwing the baby out with the bathwater, try problem-solving through creative experimentation and mutually agreed-upon creative solutions. If they don’t work? Pivot, and try something else. (i.e., “naked-time” and “snuggle-time”)
• Is your marriage worth working on? Are you willing to go to any-length to “save” your marriage, AND, work together on incorporating “her” newfound queer sexuality?
• David & Monique answer Robin’s questions: (1) What has been the hardest part, (so far), in Monique’s Coming Out Late process? (2) What’s been the scariest part of Monique’s Coming Out Late process, so far, for each of you?
• Monique and David also answer: (1) What advice would you give to your younger self, knowing what you know now? And, (2) What advice would you give to others on the brink of a similar path?
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.

BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:

Have I Got A Deal For YOU!

The Coming Out Late podcast is teaming-up with BARB, a queer-owned & operated brand of hair styling products for people with short hair, like ME. BARB is a pomade, and is sold at select salons and Barbershops across the US, but is ALSO conveniently sold online as well. So, as part of their new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, BARB is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://www.thebarbshop.com and use (all caps) ROBIN15.

THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “

In this episode, Robin and Chris discuss the essay Robin read in last week’s episode, written by her nomadic traveling friend, Gila. Robin and Chris break down the essay, line-by-line, and compare how Gila’s insights and words seamlessly dovetail with our experiences with coming out late in life.

Here’s a sampling of what you’ll hear Robin & Chris explore…

• "We are shaped by our experiences. Without both the challenges and the joyful moments, there is no path for growth.” -Gila Melamed
• How can ‘joy’ be a catalyst for growth?
• Remember also,  ”The point of change [growth] comes when we can no longer stay the same.”
• ‘Hard’ doesn’t have to mean ‘bad’.
• The day will come for all of us when we realize we can no longer stay the same.
• It’s difficult to have a compassionate heart when you’re in fear.
• The beauty of forgiveness lies in the freedom it gives us.
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

LINKS to RESOURCES:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:

To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

-KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025CONFIRMED; -PHILADELPHIA, PA: AugustTENTATIVE; -GRAND JUNCTION, CO: early September TENTATIVE

SMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Thirty-two years ago, 16-year old David, the new kid in high school, bravely squished his way through a wall of Monique’s clique of high school friends, (congregated around her locker in the hallway), and asked a mutual friend to introduce him to Monique - in front of everyone. That brave move earned David the intrigue and attention of Monique; AND earned David the honor of walking with her to their next class together. It also earned them both the distinct pleasure of nearly three decades of marriage, built on a deep, deep bond of friendship, love and mutual respect. Their lives together were not immune to the typical stressors of married life - but nothing could have prepared either of them for the curveball that life would throw at them in 2019, and the years that followed.. 

In this episode you will … 

• The importance of gay-representation in our upbringings - no matter the level of affluence we grew up with.
• Hindsight really IS 20/20, when looking back, Monique can definitely identify signs of stereotypical queerness in her young childhood experiences.
• In the words of Glennon Doyle, “...I knew how to be desired, I didn’t know desire.” How has that quote come into play in Monique’s Coming Out Late story?
• The kissing scene in the movie “Bad Moms” awakened something in Monique.
• Despite their staunchly different backgrounds and upbringings, we learn how Monique & David’s lifelong friendship and soulful connection were the building blocks of their thirty-plus year relationship. But is their solid foundation of love and alignment enough to sustain their marriage through Monique’s Coming Out Late journey? That question is definitely addressed.
• Learn about the depth and breadth of research that Monique and her husband David have done, and continue to do, (both individually AND together), in order to learn as much as they can about how other couples navigate ‘Mixed Orientation Marriages”. They are reading books and articles; they’ve joined ‘Mixed Orientation’ support groups and Monique has joined Robin’s weekly “Not-Straight Support Group”, and Robin’s “Coming Out Late” Facebook Group as well as other lesbian groups; they’ve watched movies and videos; listened to podcasts and youtube interviews, and together, through a mutual dedication to “communication” make the time to talk together about what they’re learning and how, if at all, do they want to try integrating any of what they’re learning into their relationship to one another.
• Learn the unique ways in which Monique & David are blazing their own path when it comes to reinventing their sexual intimacy and desires.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

If you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always onl

In recognition of International Transgender Day of Visibility last week, Robin dedicated this week’s podcast episode of “Coming Out Late” entirely for the purposes of exploring what “identity” and “representation” looks like through the lens of gender non-conforming and transfeminine artist/poet/performer/activist - ALOK.

In this episode you will … 

• be exposed to the work ‘spoken’ word of ALOK, a gender non-conforming, transfeminine artist, poet, and activist.
• Learn how ALOK dealt with childhood bullying and racism..
• How ALOK used poetry and style to interrupt other peoples’ assumptions, challenge shame, and declare themself on their own terms..
• Alok's performance style is known for their stream of consciousness. They are also known for soundscapes, political comedy, and quite the emotional range.
• For Alok, performance is about world-making; making worlds where the audience can relate to one another with "a commitment to vulnerability, play, interdependence, and magic". —ALOK
• Alok is committed to challenging what they call "the international crisis of loneliness" by creating public spaces for processing pain and establishing meaningful connections. This work includes re-imagining a conduit for intimacy.
• They challenge Western rationalism and an emphasis on reductive categories and instead insist on the complexity and enormity of everyone and everything.
• They challenge Western rationalism and an emphasis on reductive categories and instead insist on the complexity and enormity of everyone and everything.
• The fact that even though gender non-conforming people are the most visible in public, they still remain the most neglected by the mainstream LGBT movement.
• “...why so many mistake injury as identity; calcified grief as a personality; and pain as a virtue.”  —ALOK
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:

BARB is a brand of styling products for people with short hair. They launched their first signature Barb clay pomade in 2021. Queer owned and operated, Barb is not only committed to making the best styling products around, the brand is also working to evolve the hair and beauty industries to a more inclusive and expansive space where we can all express and celebrate our own individuality and show up in this world as we want to. Barb is available at select salons and Barbershops across the US, and is conveniently sold online as well. As a part of a new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, Barb is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://www.thebarbshop.com and use (all caps) ROBIN15.

VALOK Vaid-Menon:

Instagram: alokvmenon

Website:

In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin explores two commonly asked questions that most of us ask ourselves at ‘some’ point along our coming out late journey’s - and those are: “What if I’m NOT Really Gay?” “And, What If I’m Wrong? We want assurances and certainty in life that we aren’t going to blow-up-the-family, be disowned by our parents and/or siblings, be fired at work or be ghosted by our children IF, by some chance, we are wrong about our sexuality.

In this episode you will … 

• NOTHING is going to give you a truer, more deeper understanding of you, yourself and your sexuality than YOU.
• all of the answers you will ever need to guide you, direct you, and fulfill your every need and desire reside right inside you.
• Living Two Lives: Married to A Man, But In Love with A Woman, Written by, Joanne Fleisher, (2005, 2012).
• A partial description of what to expect in Joanne Fleisher’s book, Living Two Lives: “In 1979, Joanne Fleisher was leading the life of a typical suburban wife and mother. That is, until she fell in love with a female friend and her world was turned upside down. Living Two Lives is a guide for women grappling with the difficult process of coming out while being married to a man.
• Switching Teams, Written by, Dawn Elizabeth Waters, (2019).
• Relatable excerpts from the book, Switching Teams, describing Dawn’s realistic rocky road to coming out late: (a) “Dawn's comfortable existence…disappeared as soon as she came out as a lesbian”, (b) “...it would be one of the most difficult experiences of her life, it would also be one of the most liberating…”, (c) “...at long last…[she] was comfortable in her own skin, even as she realized everyone around her was thrown into chaos…”, (d) “even as she realized everyone around her was thrown into chaos…”.
• What is “The Masterdoc”? “The Lesbian Masterdoc” is actually a common nickname for the original document titled, “Am I A Lesbian”, written by Angeli Luz, a life coach and reiki healing specialist. The 30-page piece first appeared as a Google Doc on her Tumblr page back in 2018, and then later showed up as a PDF in various sub-Reddit’s and since, swept through Tik Tok over the last 2-3 years.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:

BARB is a brand of styling products for people with short hair. They launched their first signature Barb clay pomade in 2021. Queer owned and operated, Barb is not only committed to making the best styling products around, the brand is also working to evolve the hair and beauty industries to a more inclusive and expansive space where we can all express and celebrate our own individuality and show up in this world as we want to. Barb is available at select salons an

In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin discusses the topics of fear and confusion as they relate to the coming out late process. Robin explains, “...fear and confusion have been pervasively popping-up in a variety of forums where people gather for support and conversation regarding their coming out late journey’s. We need to have open and honest conversations about the common fears we experience and the mind-blowing confusion we’re hit with when coming out later in life.”

In this episode you will learn… 

• above all else, you are not alone! What you are thinking and feeling and experiencing is not only common and ‘normal’, but temporary as well.
• ways to dispel some common concerns and ‘arm’ you with some understanding of the coming out process, in order to help ease your overtaxed nervous systems.
• that we all share similar feelings of uncertainty, self-doubt, confusion, self-loathing, and a deep, deep visceral fear of the unknown at various points along our coming out transformation.
• there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to approach our coming out; there is no ‘right way’ to confront and resolve the relationships affected by our coming out. In fact, in many cases, we choose not to even act-on our awareness of our awakened queer identities - that for some - simply acknowledging that side of ourselves and possibly sharing that knowledge with a loved one is ‘enough’. 
• fifty to one-hundred women, a WEEK, are requesting to join our ‘Coming Out Late’ FB Group.
• Worry is another form of fear. Worrying is a waste of our energy and a misuse of our imagination. “Worrying” is like praying for something that you don’t want. (What we focus on grows). Worry is also just a way to attempt to control something we have no control over.
• NO amount of worry is going to change the future - none. So, why worry? And if no amount of worry is going to change the future, then no amount of REGRET will change the past.
• But ANY amount of gratitude that you can muster-up during this phase of our awakening, WILL change the present. Any amount of gratitude WILL change the present. 
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:

BARB is a brand of styling products for people with short hair. They launched their first signature Barb clay pomade in 2021. Queer owned and operated, Barb is not only committed to making the best styling products around, the brand is also working to evolve the hair and beauty industries to a more inclusive and expansive space where we can all express and celebrate our own individuality and show up in this world as we want to. Barb is available at select salons and Barbershops across the US, and is conveniently sold online as well. As a part of a new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, Barb is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://<

In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with her first panel of late blooming clergy folx who all found one another within Robin’s Coming Out Late Facebook Group.

In this Part 2 episode you will hear Robin and her panel of late blooming queer clergy discuss… 

How for most of us, it simply never occurred to us to explore our sexuality.

• What do our queer clergy folx say to people who condemn them for being gay?
• Southern Baptist versus Northern Baptist - what is the difference? Was there a difference? Is there a difference today?
• Should we engage in conversations about religion and homosexuality with people outside the gay community? When is it safe to? Is it ever safe to? When is it worth our time and energy to engage in deeper religious conversations with homophobic people?
• What IS “perfectionism”?
• “What advice do you have for someone that still occasionally struggles with feeling like “I’m sinning or disappointing God” by embracing my homosexuality?”
• “I exist in a family who does not believe that one can be homosexual and not be ‘living in sin’. How are you able to reconcile your religious beliefs with who you know yourself to be?”
• “What do you say to those that condemn you being gay?”
• “What does God/the Bible actually have to say about being gay?”
• “I'm getting ready to move and want to find a church that is lgbtqia+ friendly. I've found in searching in my current area that dome churches will say they are affirming, but once I've gone once or twice they try to convert you back to heterosexuality in very backhanded and sneaky ways. I guess my question is, how can I go about finding a church that will respect me as a person and love all of me? It has definitely caused me to question my faith.”
• “My ex’s family believe that homosexuality is not how God made us, but rather that it is a sin. How can I respond to this?”
• “What does God say about pleasure and sensuality?”
• Why we need to ask ourselves, “...Who benefits from this system?” 
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
  
  

Links to resources:

RESOURCES MENTIONED in PART 1 & 2 Episodes:

Pamela Lightsey, Our Lives Matter: A Womanist Queer Theology

Wil Gafney, Link to her Blog and to her Womanist Midrash; https://www.wilgafney.com/

Sonya Renee Taylor, Best-selling author, world-renowned activist, thought leader on racial justice, body liberation and transformational change, as well as International artist, Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/the-body-is-not-an-apology

A great read and interesting criticism of “biblical marriage.”https://www.patheos.com/blogs/keithgiles/2023/02/same-sex-love-celebrated-in-the-bible/

ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men<

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin introduces us to the beginning of nearly four hours of recorded conversations with late blooming queer clergy folx who all found one another within our Coming Out Late FB Group.

In this Part 1 episode you will hear Robin and her panel of late blooming queer clergy discuss the topic of being queer and being Pastors, as well as, together, answer questions submitted by members of Robin’s Facebook Group, “Coming Out Late”…  

• “What advice do you have for someone that still occasionally struggles with feeling like “I’m sinning or disappointing God” by embracing my homosexuality?”
• “I exist in a family who does not believe that one can be homosexual and not be ‘living in sin’. How are you able to reconcile your religious beliefs with who you know yourself to be?”
• “What do you say to those that condemn you being gay?”
• “What does God/the Bible actually have to say about being gay?”
• “I'm getting ready to move and want to find a church that is lgbtqia+ friendly. I've found in searching in my current area that dome churches will say they are affirming, but once I've gone once or twice they try to convert you back to heterosexuality in very backhanded and sneaky ways. I guess my question is, how can I go about finding a church that will respect me as a person and love all of me? It has definitely caused me to question my faith.”
• “My ex’s family believe that homosexuality is not how God made us, but rather that it is a sin. How can I respond to this?”
• “What does God say about pleasure and sensuality?”
• Why we need to ask ourselves, “...Who benefits from this system?” 
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
  
  

Links to resources:

RESOURCES MENTIONED in PART 1 & 2 Episodes:

Pamela Lightsey, Our Lives Matter: A Womanist Queer Theology

Wil Gafney, Link to her Blog and to her Womanist Midrash;

https://www.wilgafney.com/

Best-selling author, world-renowned activist, thought leader on racial justice, body liberation and transformational change, as well as International artist, Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/the-body-is-not-an-apology

A great read and interesting criticism of “biblical marriage.”

https://www.patheos.com/blogs/keithgiles/2023/02/same-sex-love-celebrated-in-the-bible/

ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:
(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023
(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”

In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues her conversation with friend and Lesbian Curiosity Coach, Samantha Fox, to keep talking about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx. 

In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . . 

• A very big part of our coming out process IS awakening to our own sexual desires, our sex drive and defining our own sensuality.
• The taboo of self-pleasuring, masterbation and why no one talks about it.
• Objectification: being the object of the male gaze.
• Is our outlook upon men determined by WHEN you came out? Are lifelong lesbians LESS likely to be objectified by men? Are their relationships with men different than women who come out late?
• The different emotional conditioning for men versus women.
• Sex was an obligation they did ‘for’ their husbands; it wasn’t something they liked, enjoyed or even wanted to do.
• What was wrong with me? Feeling ‘broken’ in our hetero relationships and in our marriages.
• Working through the cultural ‘learnings’ and ‘traumas’ to heal our perceived brokenness.
• NONE of us are ‘broken’. We are just deeply buried under layers and layers of cultural, societal, religious conditioning that needs to be undone; but NONE of us are broken.
• Have experiences so that you can “collect the data” about yourself and get to know WHO you are!
• ‘Lesbian Bed Death’ is NOT exclusive to just lesbians - it occurs in ALL unhealthy relationships.
• Get to know your own sex drive and sexual needs and be true to your needs.
• Communicate! Communicate! Communicate! Not doing so in your relationships is like taking a tourniquet to your relationship and cutting off the blood supply.
• “Fantasizing” is such a great way to get in touch with what you like.
• Dispelling the Myth: Lifelong lesbians *may* not be better at sex than we are.   
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

SAMANTHA FOX - THE LESBIAN CURIOSITY COACH:

Website-https://www.lesbiancuriositycoach.com

TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach

Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/

YouTube-https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ

ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:

(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023

(2) Rehoboth

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin invites back to the podcast friend and fellow Coach, Samantha Fox, to talk about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx. 

In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . . 

• The coming out late journey is fraught with potholes, messy-middles, and a multitude of emotions. But, what about what happens AFTER you’re through the messy middle - what then?
• Post the messy-middle, we are still faced with dealing with feelings and ‘people’ when we begin to date women. Just because we’re now dating women doesn’t mean we are immune from ‘relationship challenges’ and no longer have to deal with ‘personalities’.
• Peeling back the layers of not only comphet, (compulsory heterosexuality), but also patriarchy, misogyny, and capitalism, to realize that most, if not ALL, of our beliefs and traditions and cultural ‘norms’ need to be reinspected by each of us - least of which is the concept of monogamous relationships; or, that there is just “one person” out-there for us; or that, once in a committed relationship, that it is ‘for life’ - it may not be.
• To be open to the possibility that being in a relationship is an opportunity to learn and grow from within - to heal our wounds and grow. And that once a relationship may have run-its-course, that perhaps it was an experience in our life to purposefully teach us a needed lesson. “Relationships” can, and possibly *should*, be looked upon as a beautiful string of experiences with all different kinds of people.
• How “expectations” are the death to every and all relationships and experiences. Let go of expectations and allow yourself to experience the joy and wonder of that particular moment, and then the next moment, and the next.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

SAMANTHA FOX - THE LESBIAN CURIOSITY COACH:

Website-https://www.lesbiancuriositycoach.com

TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach

Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/

YouTube-https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ

ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:

(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023

(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”

To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the these Retreats, (Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutla

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin sits down to chat with the 2023 Rehoboth Beach, DE “Women’s Fest” Co-Chairs.    

In this “Women’s Fest” episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you'll learn . . . 

• That the Coming Out Late Community is organizing a Retreat to Women’s Fest ‘23, located in Rehoboth Beach, DE April 27-30th, 2023.
• The importance of “community” when coming out later in life - finding “community” at safe lgbtq+ events, like, Women’s Fest.
• The history of Women’s Fest and Camp Rehoboth.
• What can we expect to do from Thursday through Sunday at Women’s Fest ‘23.
• From Singles Speed Dating, to an all-female vendor expo, to dances, music, comedy and entertainment, and sports, there are TONS of ways to make new memories, forge new friendships and be out and proud - whether it’s your first time at a gay women’s event, or you’ve been going to them for years - Women’s Fest sure seems designed to provide lots of opportunities for fun-in-the-sun at the beach! 
• Learn all about Camp Rehoboth by visiting their website at: www.camprehoboth.com.
• If you have any questions regarding Women’s Fest, feel free to email either of them at: (Teri) Teri@camprehoboth.com, or (Karen) Karen@camprehoboth.com.
• To join the Coming Out Late Retreat, attending Women’s Fest in April, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• If YOU would like to share your story (anonymously or publicly), on the Coming Out Late podcast, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:

(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023

(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”

To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the these Retreats, (Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

“WOMEN’S FEST” RETREAT, REHOBOTH BEACH, DE

For more information about the details of the “Women’s Fest” weekend itself, keep an eye out for their updated information to be available by the end of February. They are slowly adding information to their website as their event details get solidified; you can go to: https://www.camprehoboth.com//womensfest.

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:

To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word’ for 2023, go to:

@late.blooming.lesbian 

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Support Groups are coming back for 20

In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues her conversation with Krista, a 49-year old late bloomer. Krista never really used any labels for herself regarding how she felt about boys and girls, men and women - but she did know she was never really enamored with ‘guys’, when all of her female school friends were! After a secret relationship with a girl in high school, (they even went to the high school Prom together), Krista moved out of state for college and married a man when she was quite young. The minute she left that 3-year marriage, (and around the time of her college graduation), her very first thought turned to - you guessed it - WOMEN! But, not knowing where to find her community of gay women or how to even begin to date a woman, Krista’s attention was distracted by a very nice young guy, who she would ultimately marry.    

In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will hear Krista talk about . . . 

• WHO and HOW she was outed to her husband.
• Does anyone, besides us, have the ‘right’ to out us to people we know/love?
• Krista’s plans for her future: divorce? Move out?
• Learning to NOT JUDGE someone when they’ve had an affair. “Acceptance” and “kindness” is always the better way to go, versus ‘judgment’.
• What constitutes an ‘affair’? Is the thinking around ‘affairs’ also an old construct that needs to be re-thought and re-visited?
• Letting go of an unhealthy catalyst relationship.
• Am I still gay if I’m no longer with my catalyst?
• Making gay friends is soooooo important! Building healthy friendships and building a gay community should be the priority over a relationship.
• Recognizing unhealthy self-soothing behaviors (i.e., ‘shopping’), and recognizing codependent behavior!
• Get outside in nature; get to know yourself more - spend alone time w/yourself.
• How 1:1 private Coaching w/Robin has helped Krista out enormously; Robin has helped her with her catalyst experience, the messy middle, and moving forward.
• If YOU would like to share your story (anonymously or publicly), on the Coming Out Late podcast, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:

(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023

(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”

To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

“WOMEN’S FEST” RETREAT, REHOBOTH BEACH, DE

For more information about the details of the “Women’s Fest” weekend itself, they are slowly adding information to their website as their event details get solidified; you can go to: https://www.camprehoboth.com//womensfest.

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to:

In this episode, Robin shares the other blog post from her late blooming nomadic traveling friend, Gila Melamed. With this blog post, Robin and Gila force us to take a look at both that which brings us joy, and that which challenges us and makes us realize that without both there can be no growth. And without growth - we die - inside and out.

Here’s a sampling of what you’ll hear discussed…

• "We are shaped by our experiences. Without both the challenges and the joyful moments, there is no path for growth.” -Gila Melamed
• The day will come for all of us when we realize we can no longer stay the same.
•  The ‘road’ to inner peace and liberation is not all unicorns & roses - Gila describes their path like this: “.. .Even though I knew with all my heart, that following my heart was the right thing for me,  my other parts were fighting me, trying to dim my shining light, reflecting their fear so profoundly, that at times, I was on my knees with agony..
• People are doing their best - unfortunately it doesn’t always align with our needs for safety and comfort or our desires. 
• Our emotional health and personal growth is contingent upon our own willingness to get curious and honest while exploring our emotions and feelings.
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

LINKS to RESOURCES:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:

To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. -KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025; -PHILADELPHIA, PA: July or August; -GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Early September

SMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this Part 1 episode, Robin interviews 49-year old late bloomer, Krista. Krista was originally from Nebraska and New Mexico before her family moved to Texas where she lived until graduating from high school. Krista never really used any labels for herself regarding how she felt about boys and girls, men and women - but she did know she was never really enamored with ‘guys’, when all of her female school friends were! After a secret relationship with a girl in high school, (they even went to the high school Prom together), Krista moved out of state for college and married a man quite young. The minute she left that 3-year marriage, (and around the time of her college graduation), her very first thought turned to - you guessed it - WOMEN! But, not knowing where to find her community of gay women or how to even begin to date a woman, Krista’s attention was distracted by a very nice young guy, who she would ultimately marry.    

In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will hear Krista talk about . . . 

• Her early upbringing, and whether or not her parents and siblings were religious or not?
• Krista’s recollection of how she felt about ‘guys’ growing up..
• Krista’s ‘secret’ relationship with a girl in high school, and how was it that they even went to the Prom together!
• Krista married a guy quite young, pretty much at the start of her college career. 
• What were Krista’s first thoughts after the dissolution of her first, brief marriage?
• How did Krista finally confirm her fondness for women?
• If YOU would like to share your story (anonymously or publicly), on the Coming Out Late podcast, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:

(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023

(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”

To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:

To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word’ for 2023, go to:

@late.blooming.lesbian 

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from either 7pm to 8:15pm EST or 8pm EST to 9:15pm sharp. If group members wish to stay longer than the allotted 75 minutes, Robin will leave the Zoom Room open f

In this Part 2 episode of “Life After Coming Out Late”, Robin continues her conversation with late bloomer and Women Loving Women support group friend, Cheryl. Cheryl left us hanging in Part 1, as to what her life looks like now, now that she has settled-into her own place and helping her daughter get settled and adjusted as well. Having no previous experience ‘being’ with a woman, let alone ever having dated a woman, Cheryl was in no rush to get herself ‘out there’ on the dating scene. Instead, she found so much comfort and value in getting to know herself more deeply, and being available to her daughter. Through this conversation with Cheryl & Valerie, once again, Robin shows us the importance of “representation” and how vital it is for us to share our coming out late stories with one another. When others hear our stories, (especially others questioning their own sexuality), they learn that they are not alone, and that there IS hope. What a gift we can give one another, simply by sharing our stories.  

In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will learn . . . 

• Who Valerie is, and what HER ‘Coming Out Lte” story is.
• How Valerie did not necessarily see or find “representation” either, and there really wasn’t anyone around to talk about what she was feeling & experiencing.
• Once Valerie WAS around other queer people, how easy it was to slip right into the group, feel accepted, and understand herself WAY more clearly!
• About Valerie’s very brief and underwhelming experience on the dating apps, and why she chose to take a break from them. 
• How Valerie & Cheryl met and what their life is like now.
• Are long distance relationships worth it?
• What are the pluses and minuses of dating someone from another country?
• If YOU would like to share your story (anonymously or publicly), on the Coming Out Late podcast, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.
There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to:
(a) Florida in March: Jacksonville Beach, FL; March 16, 17, 18, and 19, 2023,

(b) Phoenix / Scottsdale, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023

c) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”

To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held&

In this episode, Robin meets back up with an old Women Loving Women Support Group pal, Cheryl. It’s been a little over a year, and Robin wants to know what Cheryl has been up to since coming out late. Robin asks Cheryl to share with us what her life was like BEFORE coming out, how DID she realize she was gay and come out, and what ‘life’ has been like since surviving the dreaded messy middle. Through this conversation with Cheryl & Valerie, once again, Robin shows us the importance of “representation” and how vital it is for us to share our coming out late stories, so others hearing our stories who are possibly questioning their own sexualities, won’t feel so alone, and know that there IS hope beyond our compulsory heteronormative lives!  

In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will learn . . . 

• How the lack of talking about emotions and ‘things’ in Cheryl’s upbringing led to figuring ‘things’ out on her own.
• How one can be an open-minded, liberal, “feeler”, (and thinker), but without representation, how is one able to understand and learn about LGBTQ+ topics? “Being gay wasn’t really a thing - everyone was hetero and that was that…” 
• How making “safe choices” in life, particularly early in life, turns out NOT necessarily to be “the” way to proceed with life! 
• How lockdown during Covid forced us ALL to look inward; there were no more distractions or ways to stay super busy - forcing us to look within!
• What tools you can use to help with self-reflection and going inward. 
• This Late Bloomers’ reaction to her own coming out - her “Aha!” moment.
• What to do next when we realize: “...I’m not living the life that I should be…”
• To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.
There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to:
(a) Florida in March: Jacksonville Beach, FL; March 16, 17, 18, and 19, 2023,

(b) Phoenix / Scottsdale, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023

c) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”

To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:

To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word’ for 2023, go to:

@late.blooming.lesbian 

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from either 7p

In this episode, Robin sets the tone for 2023 - not only for herself - but she challenges us all to think about setting some conscious intentions for our lives in 2023. Robin asks us to ponder and select one word that will be our battle-cry for all of 2023.

In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will learn . . .

• What is conscious awareness?
• Why is it important to be consciously-aware?
• What does it mean to ‘set-intentions’?
• What are the benefits of setting intentions?
• How can setting-intentions help you on your coming out journey?
• Why you should listen to your body & heart, instead of your mind.
• How focusing on one word can help with personal growth and progress
• To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass 

Links to resources:

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:

To follow Robin on Instagram, and to learn her ‘word’ for 2023, go to:

@late.blooming.lesbian

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Support Groups are coming back for 2023!! The schedule, registration process and cost to attend will be announced very soon. They WILL be held on Wednesday evenings, from 8pm EST to 9:15pm sharp. If group members wish to stay longer than the allotted 75 minutes, Robin will leave the Zoom Room open for as long as you all wish to stay, but Robin will be leaving the group at 9:15pm EST. For more details and to be added to the Support Group Wait List, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. PLEASE NOTE: One Wednesday will be the “Women Loving Women” support group, alternating Wednesdays with “Fifty Plus & Fabulous”, for women close-to 50 years old and over. ANYONE can join the “Women Loving Women” Group.

BISEXUALLY SPEAKING: SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION MEETS WEEKLY:The weekly group, “Bisexually Speaking” continues to be available for anyone who identifies as gay, AND of course, for anyone who identifies or *thinks* they are bisexual. We do not turn anyone away who wishes to try attending a small group discussion, questions where on the gay spectrum you fall, or simply needs a support group.

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” to:(a) Florida in March,

(b) Arizona in mid-April, and

c) “Women’s Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE.

To be put on the waiting list for either the Florida March Retreat OR the April Arizona Retreat, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

In this episode, Robin again breaks the mold in the world of LGBTQ+ podcasting by introducing us to yet another one of her listeners, via a letter she received from Helen. Like the previous letter read in last season’s Episode #55 by Michelle in Australia, Robin received a letter from Helen, outlining her very painful and difficult 2022, complete with Helen’s coming out story. Robin was so struck by Helen’s vulnerability, the pain she is working through, the self-discovery she is experiencing, and of course, her beautiful coming out story, that she knew she had to share Helen’s story with us. In fact, Helen shared her story with Robin as an offering for it to be read on the podcast.  But Robin knew that the impact of Helen’s words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Helen herself. So, Robin asked and Helen agreed to read her own letter, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience.

Helen’s real, raw and relatable story shares with us the following . . .

• How grief, gender dysphoria, autism, intersex, bisexuality, and ultimately, butch lesbian ALL came to light in Helen’s world in 2022!
• How Helen has to deal with the guilt that SHE has survived and is now free to turn away from her deceased husband, after 34 years of marriage, and move on with her life. And, with him now being gone, and her alone, she must now choose a different path to her future than the one in which they had originally planned for themselves together. After all, “Life” is for the Living, is it not?
• What is gender dysphoria? “Gender Dysphoria” is defined as: a term that describes a sense of unease that a person may have because of a mismatch, or incongruence, between their biological sex and their gender identity. This sense of unease or dissatisfaction may be so intense it can lead to depression and anxiety and have a harmful impact on daily life.
• What it means to be Intersex: ​​Intersex describes naturally occurring variations in biological sex characteristics. These differences may be apparent at birth or may not be recognized until later in life. Oftentimes, a person will go through life fully unaware that they have an intersex variation.  Intersex is both a biological state and, in recent years, a group identity for people who have been historically stigmatized for being born with bodies that do not align with the binary definition of "boy/girl," "man/woman," or "male/female."
• The realization of masculine secondary sexual characteristics such as: the need to shave her facial hair, a deeper voice than ‘typical’ of females, and a more muscular physicality.
• Helen’s initial declaration of being bisexual, only later to publicly announce and acknowledge her lifelong butch lesbian inclinations.
• Her realization that, at the moment, ‘living her dream’ has nothing to do with attracting others, but it’s about at last learning how to love and accept herself for who she truly is, AND enjoying being that person.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, HELEN FLACK:

Thank you Helen for sharing your story full of your experience, strength and hope with us, and for taking the time to write and record this episode for us.

To learn more and/or to make a donation in Simon Flack’s name, please visit: https://sitran.org/support-us/how-donate/. The Sheffield Institute for Translational Neuroscience (SITraN) is known for their groundbreaking research into ALS or MND.

In this Part Two episode, Robin continues her conversation with late bloomer and LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach AND Spiritual Mentor, Kari DeWitt. Robin picks back up with the challenging question for Kari, “...how do we help our LGBTQ+ coming out late community overcome debilitating feelings of selfishness while they’re navigating their new trajectory in life as a gay person…?” Kari’s answer may surprise you. Likewise, Robin and Kari also look back at how much about themselves and about their lives have changed, in just one short year.

In this episode you will also hear Robin and Kari talk about . . .

• How Kari’s look has changed over the past year; how she identifies today, as opposed to a year ago, and what she ‘labels’ herself as today.
• There are no rules when it comes to who you are ‘supposed’ to be.
• Give yourself permission to play with the way you look, the way you wear your hair, the way you sound and how you talk. Experiment and play around and when something feels right or you say, “Ooh, I like the way that looks. I like the way I feel when I wear my hair this way…”
• Stand in your power and simply ‘be’. It’s OK to just ‘be’.
• When we act, and live-in authenticity, we give everyone else who hears and sees us living authentically, permission to do the same.
• In accepting ourselves, our queerness, we are taking one step closer in accepting that ‘things’ change in life; things change all the time in life.
• ‘Things’ don’t happen TO-us in life; ‘things’ happen FOR us in our lives.
• We all need to learn to ‘let go’ and trust that we’re always taken care of and everything that’s happening in our lives is happening for us.
• Kari reveals HER secret to living an authentic and soulful life - it’s all in the STARs: Surrendering, Trusting, Allowing, and finally, Releasing.
• Learn to love yourself first; we simply cannot fully love another human being until we learn how to love ourselves first.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass 

Links to resources:

THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, KARI DEWITT:

To learn more about Kari DeWitt and her LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach, AND Spiritual Mentor offerings, go to: https://www.karidewitt.com

TO LISTEN TO EPISODE #5, MY NOVEMBER 2021 CONVERSATION w/KARI DEWITT, GO TO:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000540356354

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

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In this episode, Robin talks with Kari DeWitt, an LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach as well as a Spiritual Mentor. This is not Robin & Kari’s first rodeo or podcast episode together - Robin interviewed Kari back in Episode 5 of the “Coming Out Late” podcast in November of 2021, as her first-ever podcast guest. Back then, they chatted with one another about all-things LGBTQ+, sharing bits ‘n pieces of their own coming out late stories, as well as talking about the enormous growth each were experiencing in their own private Facebook groups, Kari’s “Late Bloomer Lesbians + Support Group”, and Robin’s “Coming Out Late” group. A year later, they pick up where they left off, continuing to address LGBTQ topics, but this time perhaps, in more broader terms as they zoom-out from their microscopic views of simply coming out late, and explore the deeper realms of what their queer awakening may really mean.

In this episode you will hear Robin and Kari discuss . . .

• How has Kari’s coming out late journey changed in the year that passed since Kari was last on the “Coming Out Late” podcast?
• What has Kari learned about herself and about her sexuality in the last year?
• Has the “landscape” of coming out changed at all, in the last year?
• What has ‘spirituality’ have to do with my gayness, my coming out?.
• This is bigger than our sexuality; our awareness and declaration of our queerness is a stepping stone to something greater for each of us.
• What is the difference between ‘woke’, and ‘being awake’?
• Awakening to our true ‘beingness’ also gives space for other doors to open and for you to get curious in your life.
• We each have a purpose here. We came into this life as this particular human to have this particular experience, to learn a specific lesson.
• What is the kryptonite for ‘shame’ and ‘guilt’? Helping women get closer to their authentic self, which is soul - that which is greater than ourselves.
• Getting quiet with yourself long enough to be able to have a relationship with this inner being.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, KARI DEWITT:

To learn more about Kari DeWitt and her LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach, AND Spiritual Mentor offerings, go to: https://www.karidewitt.com

TO LISTEN TO EPISODE #5, MY NOVEMBER 2021 CONVERSATION w/KARI DEWITT, GO TO:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000540356354

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.

Bisexually Spea

In this episode, Robin interviews late bloomer and emotional wellness coach, Dee Burrell. Robin and Dee’s chemistry and easy-conversation style make it easy to ponder the possibilities that our thoughts are not who we are - that they’re just thoughts. Likewise, the two discuss and disclose what it was like to realize you are gay at the age of 5 but living in the south being raised a staunch southern baptist. After four children, eight years of clawing her way out of the closet and fourteen years of a hetero-normative marriage, it is obvious to Robin’s listeners that Dee IS finally living her best life.

In this episode you will hear Robin and Dee talk about . . .

• What does it mean when Dee says, “...we are not our thoughts?”
• What external factors impact and affect our inner knowing?
• How adult questioning, when we’re young, can be SO off-putting and presumptuous. For Dee, *something* didn’t fit their line of questioning.
• Dee recalls thinking, “...I’d grow out of it, I’d marry a man, I’d have kids…you know, I’d do all the things that were expected of me…”
• Choosing the men we are to marry: “...you’ll do just fine; you’re smart, you’re attractive…we’ll have adorable babies…you know, like, this is what I’m supposed to do…”  We convince ourselves that THIS is where we’re supposed to be.
• Our lives, and our marriages, they were definitely NOT what they appeared to be; people looking from the outside in, idolized what they thought we had.
• Typically, NONE of the ‘things’ that we are terrified will happen, ever happen at all. They are all just thoughts in our minds, stories we tell ourselves that don’t even exist.
• Using personal development tools to get through familial betrayal.
• Allowing ourselves to feel ALL the feelings. Do not resist the hard feelings. What we resist, persists.
• Our power is latent in us all; we just need develop the courage to tap into it.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, DEE BURRELL:

To learn more about Dee Burrell and her emotional wellness offerings, go to: https://www.sapphiccoaching.com

THE 2023 VISION BOARD WORKSHOP:Take advantage of the special Presale Offer to join the year-long, 2023 Vision Board Workshop by registering before January 1st in order to snag the $249 presale deal. Starting January 1st, registration into this one-of-a-kind Workshop goes up to $299 per person, for the year-long Workshop. To find out how you can Register and pay NOW, please email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” in Florida in March, and setting up our Retreat in the Phoenix Arizona area in April. To be put on the waiting list for

In this episode, Robin debuts a new segment of her podcast called, “Consider the Possibility”. In “Consider the Possibility”, Robin introduces a particular topic or theme or idea that she hopes will help us all think a little deeper, feel a little more awakened and possibly even inspire us to act a little differently as we navigate through this journey of life and of coming out.

In this episode you will consider the possibility of ‘impermanence’ and learn . . .

• What is the meaning of ‘impermanence’, and why is it important?
• How does ‘impermanence’ affect us: Emotionally? Socially? Intellectually? Mentally? Spiritually? Physically?
• Does the knowledge of ‘impermanence’ affect our daily lives?
• Does ‘impermanence’ impact our mindfulness and being present in the moment?
• What are the benefits of accepting ‘impermanence’?
• What can happen if we do not accept the idea of ‘impermanence’?
• By embracing ‘impermanence’, we learn acceptance and that ‘change’ is inevitable.
• How does the intersection of ‘impermanence’ and ‘comp-het’, ‘homophobia’, and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.Get on the waiting list for the March 2023 Coming Out Late Retreat to be held in the Phoenix or Scottsdale, Arizona area by emailing ARIZONA to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

THE 2023 VISION BOARD WORKSHOP:Get on the waiting list for the January, 4-week Vision Board Workshop. Cost includes instruction and guidance, assessments, four, weekly 90-minute Workshop sessions and three additional quarterly, hour-long accountability meetings throughout the year. To be added to the Waitlist and for more information about the workshop, please email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin is interviewed by Greg Sowell, host of his own podcast called, “Why Am I?” Greg’s premise behind his “Why Am I?” podcast, is that he likes talking to interesting people and tries to trace a path to where they were to where they find themselves today. Nonetheless, Robin makes an excellent guest on his show, because clearly her path to where she was to where she finds herself today is quite an unlikely path indeed.

In this episode, you will hear Greg interview Robin and learn . . .

• How and why Robin became a solopreneur, and what that means. (Hint: an unexpected and abrupt - and illegal - ending to her marital alimony suddenly had Robin scrambling to support herself.)
• Why Robin thinks we are all going through a metamorphosis throughout our lives, explaining why it’s important we embrace change and impermanence, because nothing stays the same - change is inevitable.
• Robin says, “...I always knew there was something more for me to do, to accomplish…always wanting to know my purpose in life…”
• How Robin followed the breadcrumbs along a 10-year journey.
• Recuperating from her nearly three-year divorce and how two and a half years after her divorce, she was faced with a very difficult financial and legal decision.
• How Robin freed herself from being beholden to her ex-husband, wanting to be fully self-sufficient and independent - depending only on herself.
• Theories on why there are droves of people coming out late in the last 4-7 years; and how many come out near their 30th, 40th, 50th, 60th, 70th+ birthdays.
• Coming to terms with being gay and how we choose to express ourselves (as gay people), publicly, AND, reconciling that expression of our gayness.
• Fear paralyzes us. When you’re feeling the fear, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?” Feel the fear and do it anyway.
• What roles do ‘comp-het’, ‘homophobia’, and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: A Conversation with Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More”, and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne & Lena Schwen.You can purchase the RECORDING from this Speaker Summit by sending $27 to either Venmo: @comingoutlater or PayPal: @NovareInternational, THEN emailing Robin at Comingoutlater@gmail.com, to request your copy of the Recording.

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:

Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137

Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST

(Next date

In this episode, Robin talks about a special friend she met over two years ago - a single, female, nomadic traveler who journals her travel experiences in a blog. An intermittent reader of her blog, Robin happened across two entries in particular that she wants to share with you; one this week, and one next week. Enjoy!

Here’s a sampling of what you’ll hear discussed…

• "In life, there is time for everything."
•  The struggles with loneliness are real.
•  In admitting our fears aloud, to trusted friends, we learn that we are not alone.
• Lessons of forgiveness, time well-spent and friendships.
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

LINKS to RESOURCES:

MY NOMADIC TRAVELING FRIEND: “In Life, There Is Time for Everything.”

SUBSTACK: https://substack.com/home/post/p-150225058

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:

To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

-NASHVILLE, TN: April 4-7, 2025FULL

-KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025CONFIRMED

-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July or AugustTENTATIVE

-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: OctoberTENTATIVE

SMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin is interviewed by Abigail, a relatively new, self-proclaimed pansexual, and Host of her own podcast all about relationships called, “The Manic Pixie Weirdo”. The week before this episode aired with Robin, Abigail did a solo episode on her podcast called, “My Relationship with Coming Out”, and therefore wanted to interview Robin to learn more about her own relationship with coming out, and what Robin’s process was like.

In this episode, you will hear Abigail interview Robin and learn about . . .

• My “Aha!” moment, at 54 years young!
• My ten-year span of ‘awakening’ after a lifetime of heteronormativity.
• There’s no puttin’ the genie back in the bottle once she pops out!
• There are two camps of women: those who ‘knew’ but for external societal reasons had to stuff it down; and those of us who stuffed it so far down, (due to implicit societal reasons), that it took decades to ‘know’.
• How inexplicable, confusing infatuations back then, make complete sense now.
• Do we need ‘labels’? Do we want labels?
• Married women liking women: oh my gosh, this IS a ‘thing’!
• How do you know for sure you’re gay, having never been intimate with a woman?
• Is it ‘normal’ to feel resentments about NOT coming out sooner?
• In what ways have I, and do ‘we’, personally grow, since coming out?
• I’ve come out late in life, so, what else don’t I know about myself?
• Everything in my life happens FOR me, not TO me!
• Hetero-dating versus same-sex dating - who makes the first move? How do you flirt?
• Indoctrinating yourself into the gay culture; ask for guidance if you need it.
• When in doubt, just use “ya’ll” for everyone’s pronouns.
• Coming out later: is self-care selfish?
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  

Links to resources:

THE FIRST “COMING OUT LATE” RETREAT OF 2023:

Come join Robin and your coming out late peers at the very first retreat of 2023 in March, in Phoenix Arizona. To be added to the Phoenix Retreat waiting list, email Robin your name to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: A Conversation with Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More”, and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne & Lena Schwen.You can purchase the RECORDING from this Speaker Summit by sending $27 to either Venmo: @comingoutlater or PayPal: @NovareInternational, THEN emailing Robin at Comingoutlater@gmail.com, to request your copy of the Recording.

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:

Women Helping Women,

In this episode, Robin takes us back into an inside look, (“Part Two”), into several really poignant conversations that took place in one of her four weekly support groups she facilitates for women coming out late in life. With permission from all the women in this small group this particular week, they collectively agreed that the conversation that transpired was just too good NOT to share with her podcast listeners.

In this Part Two episode, you will hear and learn about . . .

• We pick up the conversation with the idea that ‘feeling uncomfortable’ and ‘feeling uncertain’ are simply aspects of life that we must accept. That we must get comfortable with being UNcomfortable; that we must learn how to be comfortable while also feeling uncertainty.
• We talk about how “we don’t HAVE to make this moment, or this situation tolerable for everyone else just so that I can tolerate it.”
• We collectively agreed that we WISHED someone would have said to us, as young girls, that it’s ok to disappoint people - that they’ll be ok. We shared what the magnitude of that conversation would have had on our young lives, and beyond, had we been told that it’s ok to disappoint others.
• How much growth and ‘riches’ exist in the sitting-in the unknown, and sitting in the discomfort.
• We learned how to manipulate and control as a result of feeling out of control growing up; those tactics and auto-responses come with us into our adult relationships.
• Learning to feel safe and trustworthy within ourselves.
• As children, we learned coping mechanisms to conform and ‘not disappoint’ in order to keep the peace. As adults, we need to shed these coping mechanisms that no longer serve us when we learn to trust ourselves.
• THIS is it! A declaration - no longer a question!
• Staying (in my marriage or hetero-relationship would have been easier. Easier for who? What IS “easier”?
• Don’t look back(wards). Appreciate the experiences that made us into who we are today. We are the sum of ALL of our experiences!
• Our lives unfold precisely how they are meant to unfold.
• Our lives, our stories do NOT have to look like everyone else’s.
• What does “gay” look like today? How do you represent? If you’re very femme, how do you let others know you’re gay?
• Some Bonus conversation about Episode #55, and if/how we should come out to elderly parents and grandparents.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass 

Links to resources:

SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: How to Handle the Holidays Before, During or After Coming Out!!Join us virtually in Zoom on Wednesday, November 16, from 7pm to 9pm EST when we invite Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More” and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne and Lena Schwen. Who better to talk to us about how to handle the holidays than this family of seven children, and two ex-husbands, than a couple of former Mormons. $27 pp. Register using the Calendly link below. Recordings are available for purchase for $27, by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Register for the Live, virtual event here:https://calendly.com/comingoutlatecommunity/speaker-summit-4

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to

In this episode, Robin shares with us an inside look into one of her four weekly support groups she facilitates for women coming out late in life. With permission from all the women in this small group, on this particular day, they collectively agreed that the conversation that transpired was just too good NOT to share with her podcast listeners.

In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .

• We initially opened the conversation by pondering the following comment/question: “Do you find that it’s much more intense dating women than men?”
• Discussing that first question then morphed into us discussing THIS question: “Have you found it hard to not get caught up in the ‘new relationship energy’ feelings? What are some tools you would suggest to help with those intense ‘new relationship energy’ feelings?”
• Feel the feelings. Feel ALL the feelings. BUT…do NOT let new relationship-energy cloud your judgment!
• What is New Relationship Energy? (NRE)? And is it something to avoid, fear or dive-into?
• How do recovering people pleasers handle the intoxicating feelings from new relationship energy? Are there tools to deal with new relationship energy?
• How do you transition, within a relationship, from ‘new relationship energy’, to something more sustainable? From obsession to success & sustainable?
• The importance of our female friendships and their ability to tell us with loving kindness the difficult things we need to hear about ourselves.
• Setting realistic expectations for yourself, AND within a relationship.
• The value in maintaining personal autonomy within your relationship.
• While sounding cliché, the critical nature of communication in ALL of our (close) relationships.
• Trusting our feelings and our intuition.
• Tools for our personal growth.
• Having everything, but still feeling, “...is this it?”
• If somebody would have just said this to me when I was a little girl . . .
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  

Links to resources:

SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: Handling the Ho-Ho-Ho-mophobia During the Holidays!Join us virtually in Zoom on Wednesday, November 16, from 7pm to 9pm EST when we invite Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More” and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne and Lena Schwen. Who better to talk to us about how to handle the holidays than this family of seven children, and two ex-husbands, than a couple of former Mormons. $27 pp. Register using the Calendly link below. Recordings are available for purchase for $27, by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Register for the Live, virtual event here:https://calendly.com/comingoutlatecommunity/speaker-summit-4

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:

Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDougla

In this episode, Robin is being interviewed by Annie McKinnon, creator and Host of “Talking All Things LGBTQ”. With a full year under her belt, since starting her own podcast and coming out to the world in the first few episodes, this is an interesting inside look at Robin’s recount of her story a year later, as well as her reflecting on the many lessons she has learned along the way. One thing she knows for sure, is that loving a woman has been a beautiful journey and “easier” for her, than loving and being involved with a man, but? It is not always easy either!

In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .

• Sleep-walking through life, then married with children for 28+ years - but the Universe was whispering a different message to me.
• Compulsory-Heteronormativity and deep social conditioning.
• Fearing the unknown; we fear what we do not understand.
• What is homophobia? Is it innate? Is it real? Is it suppressed? Learned?
• Stuffing down and numbing the feelings.
• Unconventional research to figure this sh*t out! And meeting the women who gave me absolute affirmation, confirmation and validation.
• The “Aha!” moment; and how did that feel - in the moment?
• The painful Messy Middle, dealing with my divorce and telling my children.
• That moment when I knew my life, (moving forward), was never going to be the same.
• Coming clean to my loved ones - regardless of their potential reactions.
• Through self-assessment and self-reflection, you will learn your attachment styles, love languages, and self-love.
• Learn by doing: educating ourselves with every interaction and every relationship we have, and asking yourself: are you well-aligned with this person in all aspects of being human?
• Book:, “Attachment Theory: by Joan
• Our awakening to our sexuality is our super power!
• Unlearning old values and beliefs. Is that MY belief or someone else’s ‘voice’?
• Q: “When can I put all this (difficult stuff) behind me?” A: “When you take the time to put it in front of you.”
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass 

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:

Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137

Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST

(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out L

In this episode, Robin discusses the in’s and out’s of relational compatibility, emotional EQ, timing, chemistry and of course, ‘curiosity’ with friend, colleague and Lesbian Curiosity Coach herself, Samantah Fox.

In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .

• Figuring out chemistry: even with video-chatting, and audio-texting constantly, ‘chemistry’ may be evident for some, and not for others; everyone processes at their own pace and in their own way.
• The importance of understanding each other’s ‘intentions’ for meeting, AND, being open and honest about your wants, needs, intentions and expectations. The importance of gaining CLARITY!
• The importance of understanding your own “triggers” and what makes you put your guard-up and what you can do to avoid misunderstandings and miscommunications.
• The importance of REALLY recognizing when you and another person are misaligned. It is SO common, (and SO unhealthy) for us to, (all along the course of getting to know someone), hope and dream for ‘her’ and for ‘things’ to be a certain way, when they really aren’t.
• The necessity of self-assessment and self-awareness in order to figure out what you want and need in a relationship; AND, be open to the possibility that those things you think you need and want may change and evolve.
• How much it matters that two people are, (as much as possible), in very similar points in their lives as they try to enter into a relationship with one another, (i.,e., just divorcing, the messy middle, new to dating, been out for several years, in an open marriage, not out to anyone yet, etc.).
• No matter where you are in the “Coming Out Late” journey, the necessity of learning who you are; being rigorously honest with yourself and others.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass 

Links to resources:

THE LESBIAN CURIOSITY COACH - SAMANTHA FOX

website-https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com

TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach

Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/

YouTube-https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:

Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137

Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST

(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)

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In this episode, Robin continues to break the mold in the world of LGBTQ podcasting by introducing us to one of her listeners, Michelle, hailing all the way from Australia. Robin was so struck by a note she received from Michelle, that she knew she had to share it with her listener’s, with MIchelle’s consent of course. Robin also knew that the impact of Michelle’s words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Michelle herself. So, Michelle agreed to read her own letter to Robin, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience.

Whether covered directly, or implied, this episode touches upon topics which get us thinking about . . .

• The universal nature of coming out late, no matter where in the world we live.
• The effect of women in non-traditional, but male-dominated occupations.
• Is it a woman’s responsibility to help make a man feel ‘whole’ if he feels emasculated or threatened by a woman?
• Being with men, cutting off bits of myself and making myself smaller in order that they would feel like men.
• Many of the late in life stories include complex arrangements and rearrangements of marriage and children and Incredibly courageous and challenging journeys. This guest doesn’t have children, and is not married.
• There is more to “identity” than just our sexuality.
• A life lived out of other people's expectations is a life dominated by fear and resentment.
• Being honest with other women, from the very start.
• Am I an “L”? A “B”? Or maybe a “P”? Do we need labels? How do I flirt with a woman?
• Do I now need to dress differently and wear beanies?
• Which life-lived is my real reality? Everything feels completely flipped upside-down, or sideways, or completely averse.
• Sexual identity versus cultural conditioning; internalized homophobia, people pleasing and the female anatomy.
• It seemed that the rainbow world offered many possibilities for stepping out of one cage and into another.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:

For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet Speaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:

Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137

Fifty Plus & Fabulous

In this episode, Robin continues the candid and informative conversation with the members of her weekly Women Loving Women Wednesday evening support group about Online Dating and Internet Safety with former Detective Sergeant Becky Rodgers. They talk about, and engage others to discuss, how and what it means to stay safe in AND out of the online dating apps as well as in and around the internet in general. This conversation was recorded with permission by ALL participants who attended this support group. Our Women Loving Women Wednesday night support group gives participants the chance to talk-out all of the different feelings, emotions, challenges and celebrations associated with Coming Out Late in ‘today’s’ hetero-world AND gay environment. This casual, open discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.

In this episode, you will learn . . .

• The common patterns & tactics that catfish and scammers use on us.
• To develop the ability to know what to look for and listen-for.
• Where and where not to go on a first ‘date’ with someone you’ve met online..
• Safety tips and tricks to use when you DO go out on that first date.
• How long should you wait before suggesting to meet in-person?
• What kinds of homework you should be doing, before meeting/engaging w/someone online.
• The consequences of sending/sharing nude & suggestive photos.
• Internet safety for your children.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:

For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet Speaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:

Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137

Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST

(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

In this episode, Robin invites the members of her weekly Women Loving Women Wednesday evening support group to join her in a candid and informative conversation with former Detective Sergeant Becky Rodgers. They talk about, and engage others to discuss, how and what it means to stay safe in AND out of the online dating apps as well as in and around the internet in general. This conversation was recorded with permission by ALL participants who attended this support group. Our Women Loving Women Wednesday night support group gives participants the chance to talk-out all of the different feelings, emotions, challenges and celebrations associated with Coming Out Late in ‘today’s’ hetero-world AND gay environment. This casual, open discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.

In this episode, you will learn . . .

• How to spot/identify predators, scammers and catfish.
• To develop the ability to know what to look for and listen-for.
• To be able to identify red flags and not fall into traps.
• How to become a harder target.
• Why do the various predator tactics work on us?
• How to conduct self-assessments, making ourselves a harder target.
• The psychology behind why we get scammed.
• How to spot and understand our own exploitable vulnerabilities.
• How to catch our own catfish.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass 

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE “COMP HET” SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:

For those of you who were unable to attend the LIVE CompHet SPeaker Summit Event, you can still purchase the recording for $27 by going to either PayPal @NovareInternational or Venmo @Comingoutlater. You missed QUITE the event, so grab your recorded copy and catch-up on all things Compulsory Heterosexuality!

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:

Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137

Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues the conversation with the people in her weekly Bisexually Speaking support group continuing to discuss what it’s like to not only come out late, but come out late AND bisexual - it’s a complex journey. Robin’s weekly support group, Bisexually, is not always recorded, but we collectively agreed that it was time to record this conversation in an effort to begin dispelling the many myths surrounding being a bisexual, and coming out late today. The Bisexually Speaking support group gives participants the chance to talk-out and tell their stories regarding all of the different ways that coming out as bisexual can look in ‘today’s’ gay world - all in a virtual, private, safe, and supportive environment. This pre-recroded, casual, roundtable discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, lots to reflect on, and reveals just some of the many challenges a woman might face if coming out late, AND coming out as bisexual.

In this episode, you will learn to question and explore . . .

• What DOES “being bisexual” mean?.
• Why are ‘veteran’ lesbians so judgmental and opinionated toward late blooming bisexuals?
• To ‘label’, or not to ‘label’? Who’s decision is it anyway?
• Can I give myself permission to fall in love with whomever I want to fall in love with?
• Are there different “attraction” categories too?
• Should we react-to and stop “outside forces/strangers” from labeling and boxing-in our young children with hetero-norms?
• The multitude of myths about bisexuality.
• Was there any gay sexuality representation when you were growing up? If not, would it have made a difference in your coming out journey?
• Is “representing” your gay sexuality important to you?
• In what ways do YOU “represent”, or show-up-for your sexuality?
• What is the “default” and do we need to get away from it?
• Ask ourselves: how do I want to GIVE myself to another person?
• What are the different categories of attraction?
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass 

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:

Mark your calendars and plan to join us Virtually on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality and Compulsory Heteronormativity. ALL ARE WELCOME!!

EARLY BIRD SAVINGS ends on 9/21/22!!!

CAN’T ATTEND “LIVE”? Purchase the recording for $27. Learn how by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

Here’s the link to Register and pay IF attending it LIVE:

https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID’s and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

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In this episode, Robin invites the members of her weekly Bisexually Speaking support group to join her in a candid and complex conversation about what does it mean to be bisexual in 2022-2023, AND, what is it like coming out late AND coming out as bisexual. Recorded with permission, the Bisexually Speaking support group gives participants the chance to talk-out all of the different ways that Coming Out as Bisexual can look in ‘today’s’, gay environment; as well as what are some of the challenges a woman might face if coming out late, AND coming out as bisexual. This casual, roundtable discussion covers a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.

In this episode, you will learn to question and explore . . .

• How and why bisexuality is NOT the same as ethical nonmonogamy or polyamory.
• Reconstructing what your marriage looks like versus leaving your spouse/partner.
• Why ‘change’ doesn’t happen overnight.
• As a bisexual, where do I ‘belong’ in terms of “community”?
• What is my ‘relationship capacity’?
• Will my husband agree to me dating a woman, outside my marriage?
• Is bisexuality ‘real’?
• The multitude of bisexuality Myths.
• What is the difference between bisexuality and pan-sexuality?
• When your husband doesn’t want you to fall in love with a woman, (but it’s ok if you have a physical relationship with a woman).
• WHat are the different types & styles of relationship models?
• Will my husband be comfortable with me dating a woman?
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass 

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:

Mark your calendars and plan to join us Virtually on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality and Compulsory Heteronormativity. ALL ARE WELCOME!!

EARLY BIRD SAVINGS ends on 9/21/22!!!

CAN’T ATTEND “LIVE”? Purchase the recording for $27. Learn how by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

Here’s the link to Register and pay IF attending it LIVE:

https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID’s and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin shares with us a story she came across in social media - about a woman who left her husband after a 10-year marriage, then finding herself in a nearly two-year WLW relationship, and was eventually broken-up with. Robin uses this example to illustrate the following…

• Where does our sense of stability really come from?
•  Do we stay in old relationships (marriages), because they're safe & stable?
•  What happens when we chase comfort and security outside ourselves?
•  What can we gain by getting quiet, spending time with ourselves, asking ourselves deep questions & getting curious? 
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

LINKS to RESOURCES:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:

To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

-NASHVILLE, TN: April 4-7, 2025FULL

-KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025CONFIRMED

-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July or AugustTENTATIVE

-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: OctoberTENTATIVE

SMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin introduces you to two new friends of hers - Rebecca and Issy, the co-founders of YES!, via an episode of one of their very own podcasts. YES! is a nonprofit educational organization that provides sex-positive, intersectional, consent-based, sexuality education to people of ALL ages. Yes! stands for Your Empowered Sexuality. They offer anti-oppressive and shame-free educational programs using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums - both virtually and in-person. And YES! has their own podcast too, called, What Is Sex?

So, why does Robin want you to listen to an episode of YES!’s podcast today? To get you familiar with this incredible non-profit, because the Co-Founders of YES! have accepted our invitation to be our guest speakers at the upcoming virtual Coming Out Late Speaker Summit on Wednesday evening, September 28 at 7pm EST. They are joining us on September 28th to talk with us about comphet, (compulsory-heterosexuality), a topic which affects us ALL in the LGBTQIA+ community.

In the meantime, Robin thought it would be fun for you to listen to one of their podcast episodes appropriately called, “How do you know that you’re gay?”, which originally aired in S2:E4 of What Is Sex?, on October 11, 2020.

In this episode of What Is Sex?, “How do you know that you’re gay?”, you will hear YES! Co-Founders Rebecca and Issy talk about . . .

• The question behind the question, “when do you first remember wondering if you are gay?”
• Did you ever think about women/girls romantically? If so, when?
• Why are feelings for women so different and confusing compared to feelings toward men?
• If I’m not feeling aroused from kissing a woman, am I allowed to still say I’m attracted to women? Is it maybe because I’m kissing straight girls/women?
• Gay Gossip; the Gay Straight Alliance (GSA).
• The CompHet Speaker Summit: the link to purchase your ticket to attend the Speaker Summit Live is posted here, (as well as in these Show Notes below).
• Here’s the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3
• If you cannot attend the Speaker Summit Live, not to worry, we got you - you can purchase a recording of the 2+ hour long event by using the email below.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT: COMPULSORY HETEROSEXUALITY

Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!!

Our expert guests are from YES! - Your Empowered Sexuality - a non-profit organization dedicated to providing intersectional, consent-based, shame-free sexuality education to all people using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums. Check them out at: www.yourempoweredsexuality.org

The EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!!

Here’s the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3

Can’t attend the Speaker Summit Live

In this Part Two episode of Coming Out Late & Scared to Date, Robin picks up the conversation where she left off last week. Last week Robin initiated an impromptu group discussion recorded in Zoom, around a topic that seems to be on everybody’s mind lately - navigating dating after coming out late. Whether you are newly out and have never dated a woman, or have had your share of dating experiences, this two-part series titled, “Coming Out Late & Scared to Date”, Robin asks her guests four basic foundational questions, as well as together, venturing off into a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.

In this episode, you will hear other late blooming women talk about . . .

• Why do you want to date? What’s motivating you to date?
• Being ‘Ok’ sitting in silence with yourself.
• All human relationships are complex; and can we learn from one another?
• Are you someone who “has” to be in a relationship all the time?
• Looking for that person who gets me, understands me and doesn’t just like the “theory of dating me”, but actually likes dating me-for-me.
• Is this the right time for you to be dating? Are you going through enormous life changes? Does your job exhaust you? Are you physically available to date?
• What is scary to you about dating?
• Do you fear someone really ‘seeing’ you in this authentic new version of yourself, when newly dating?
• How would it feel or what would it look like if we dated ourselves?
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass 

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:

And the winner is . . . . . . Compulsory Heterosexuality!

Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!!

Our expert guests are from YES! - Your Empowered Sexuality - a non-profit organization dedicated to providing intersectional, consent-based, shame-free sexuality education to all people using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums. Check them out at: yourempoweredsexuality.org

The EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!!

Here’s the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID’s and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin ventures into new territory and initiates an impromptu group discussion recorded in Zoom, around a topic that seems to be on everybody’s mind lately - navigating dating after coming out late. Whether you are newly out and have never dated a woman, or have had your share of dating experiences, this two-part series titled, “Coming Out Late & Scared to Date”, addresses four basic foundational questions we ALL should be asking ourselves, as well as a whole range of topics, things to consider, and lots to reflect on.

In this episode, you will learn to question and explore . . .

• Have you tried dating yet? And if so, what was that experience like?
• What does “dating” mean to you? How do you define “dating”?
• If you met yourself on a dating app or “in-the-wild”, would YOU date “you”?
• What are the red flags you should concern yourself with and how/when should you handle them?
• Dating is never a waste of time, and shall always be looked upon as gaining experience and insight into yourself.
• How much of your past relationships and experiences and childhood impact your approach to dating and the kind of girlfriend you make?
• What are some basic questions we should be asking ourselves and our dates, before and upon-entering into the “dating arena”?
• One late bloomer’s categorization of the various types of women who are putting themselves “out there” and claiming they’re ‘ready’ to date.
• And so much more in this riveting two-part series on “Dating”.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

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COMING OUT LATE SPEAKER SUMMIT #3:

And the winner is . . . . . . CompHet!!!

Mark your calendars and plan to join us on Wednesday, September 28th, (7pm - 9pm-ish EST), in Zoom when we have an all-out lively discussion dissecting Compulsory Heterosexuality; Compulsory Heteronormativity; Compulsory Femininity... ALL ARE WELCOME!!

EARLY BIRD SPECIAL starts....now!!!

Here’s the link to Register and pay:

https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Join any one of our THREE Coming Out Late support groups: Women Helping Women (Tues., @ 12:30pm EST); Bisexually Speaking (Wed., @ 12:30pm EST), and Women Loving Women, (Wed. Eves @ 7pm EST). For Zoom ID’s and Passwords for any one of these groups, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

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Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

FIREFLY RETREAT:

Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only a few slots remaining - so email