In the first episode of the newly relaunched Clementine Ford's Big Sister Hotline, Clem dives deep into a listener's struggle with intimacy, trust, and the emotional and physical scars we carry with us.

Today's caller shares her painful experience of body-shaming, sexual humiliation, and abuse from a man, leaving her torn between wanting to explore sexual connections and feeling hesitant to trust anyone with her body and emotional well-being.

In this unapologetically honest, yet heart-led session, Clem delivers no-nonsense truths about the toxic dynamics of hookup culture, misogyny, and how some men exploit women’s vulnerabilities to impress other men. From sharp rebukes of damaging behaviour to practical advice on rebuilding sexual trust, Clem reminds us fiercely that your body is your own, and you deserve every intimate encounter to leave you feeling empowered, not diminished.

Content note: This episode contains discussions of body shaming and image-based abuse. If you or anyone you know needs help, please contact 1800RESPECT or call 000 in an emergency.

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Welcome to The Big Sister Hotline: the no-nonsense feminist advice line that doesn’t mince its words but always leads with love.

Best-selling author, writer, and fearless feminist trailblazer Clementine Ford returns with her newly relaunched award-winning podcast, here to guide you through life's most tangled, uncomfortable moments with the kind of wisdom you may not want to hear but absolutely need to.

Each week, Clem answers your calls, cutting through the noise with unapologetic clarity, raw honesty, and a resolute refusal to indulge in patriarchal bullshit. Whether it’s love, boundaries, breakups, body image, politics, sex, career, or finding your voice in a world that constantly tries to silence you, no topic is too taboo, no feeling too big, and no question too difficult.

She’s the big sister you always deserved, the mum you never had, the aunty who listens without judgement, and the friend who won’t let you settle for anything less than the best.

So, plug in, speak your truth, and let Clem help you navigate the chaos and claim your power.

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In November 2020, an Instagram account began to publish anonymous stories of harassment, abuse and

assault in the Australian music industry.These were stories that journalist Ruby Jones had heard whispers about

before. But when she started looking into them, she found that the allegations were much worse than she had

thought, and that they were an open secret in the music industry. Everybody Knows is a new five-part podcast

series from the makers of Australia's number one daily news podcast, 7am. Follow Ruby as she investigates

what has held back the MeToo Movement in Australia, and whether this new wave of women speaking out could

be the start of a true reckoning. 

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CONTENT NOTE: This episode contains discussion of men’s violence against women, sexual assault, rape, historical allegations, and reference to suicide

I’m joined this week by one of my friends and Hotline alum, the marvellous Karen Pickering! Karen is a feminist organiser, an author, host of the feminist salon Churchez La Femme and all round excellent human. We had a frank and candid chat in my kitchen about the disastrous state of affairs with misogyny in Australian politics right now. Imagine you were overhearing our angered conversation in a cafe, discussing all the ways Scott Morrison fails to represent the women of this country, how sexism exists on both sides of the political spectrum and what it means to see rape culture expressed so brazenly in the highest office in the land - that’s what this conversation is.

But it’s also good humoured, warm hearted and funny, just like your big sisters should be! It’s a conversation we need to keep having, because nothing will change unless we make it.

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HELPLINES:

ACT — Canberra Rape Crisis Centre 6247 2525

New South Wales — NSW Rape Crisis Centre 1800 424 017 or NSW Health Sexual Assault Services (visit web page to find the number in your local area)

Northern Territory — Department of Health, Sexual Assault Referral Centres

Queensland — Sexual Assault Helpline 1800 010 120

South Australia — Yarrow Place Rape and Sexual Assault Service (08) 8226 8777 or 1800 817 421 freecall

Tasmania — Sexual Assault Support Service 1800 697 877

Victoria — Sexual Assault Crisis Line 1800 806 292

Western Australia — Sexual Assault Resource Centre (08) 6458 1828 or free call 1800 199 888

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CONTENT NOTE: This episode contains discussion of men’s violence against women, domestic abuse, domestic homicide and men’s behavioural change

In this week’s episode, my wonderful friend Ada Conroy welcomed me into her kitchen to discuss men’s behavioural change, domestic abuse, working in the family violence sector and how our own shame can be confronted to create meaningful change and accountability.

Ada does incredibly important work in the family violence sector, and shares some of her nuggets of wisdom with me. My favourites from this episode are:

• Sorry is a behaviour, not a word
• We are planting seeds in a forest we may not get to spend time in
• If you’re going to bang your head against a brick wall, try to do it where there’s a crack

We also talk about Buffy and its toxic creator Joss Whedon, asking what does it mean to separate art from the artist.

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CONTENT NOTE: This episode contains discussion of fatphobia, eating disorders and disordered eating, sexual experiences involving men’s desires that may be triggering for some people

Hurrah! This week’s episode features the amazing Cara MacB, creator of the brilliant “OBCC Helpline”. As Nanny MacB, she uses TikTok and Instagram to call out fatphobia in an hysterically funny way. We have an incredible conversation in this episode about how people end up co-opted into internalised systems of hatred: internalised fatphobia, misogyny and adherence to patriarchy. Cara and I discuss the choices we can make as parents to change the patterns we both learned about food and bodies when we were growing up and the concept of loving the inside of your body as well as the outside. What does it mean for our relationships with other women - and in particular, our mothers - when we make the (sometimes scary!) choice to walk away from diet culture.

From little sisters, we answered questions about what makes a ‘decent’ man (for those of us unfortunate enough to be attracted to them lololol) and what to do if your new boyfriend’s sexual repertoire is not just out of a porn handbook but how self care extends to the kind of sex we’re willing to tolerate. 

I really love this episode and I know you will too!

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This week, I’m proud to welcome to the Hotline an incredible educator, anti-racism activist, mother and friend KIRSTY RUTHERFORD! Kirsty is a passionate anti racism activist who educates people daily on Instagram, and she joined me to talk about all these things. 

From little sisters, we answered questions about how to deal with the mad that you feel and channel it into something healing, and also how to set boundaries from the get go with potential partners who have experienced a lot of cis-het male privilege in their lives. 

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APRIL HELENE HORTON aka THE BODZILLA returns to the hotline for her second appearance! April has recently become the face of Curvy Swimwear, the first plus size bikini model to feature on a billboard in Australia. What a win! She joined me to talk about what young April would think of this, finding joy in life and how to drown out the haters. 

From little sisters, we answered questions about how to deal with your friend’s loser boyfriend and how to move on from a relationship where you experienced gaslighting, emotional abuse and a lack of support from friends.

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This week, I'm joined by KOA BECK, author of the incredible new book, "White Feminism". The book is a blistering examination of how white feminism aligns with capitalism, individual ambition and, ultimately, patriarchy in order to secure some version of liberation for the minority while ignoring the masses of women whose labour and subjugation is required to maintain those systems. I found myself writing notes furiously throughout it but also feeling deeply uncomfortable in parts, which is what any good book should do!

In this wide ranging conversation, Koa and I discuss the roots of white supremacy in the suffragette movement how white feminism and capitalism have always been bedfellows invested in the same end goals; how heteronormativity and homophobia have worked to placate patriarchal ideals of womanhood even within a movement supposedly invested in women’s liberation; and how all of this supposed “freedom” women enjoy now actually comes at the expense of women still marginalised by race, class, body politics and economics.

One of the resounding things I walked away with both after reading this book and speaking to Koa was the urge to think more consciously about truly collective liberation versus a collective “we” of whiteness that ensures capitalist success for some at the expense of the whole. 

I’ll be thinking about this book for a long time and urging everyone I know to read it. It’s comprehensive and uncompromising, and it’s also profoundly hopeful and visionary. I really hope you enjoy this episode, and if you are white like me I encourage you to discuss it with your friends!

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Welcome to the very first episode of the hotline’s SECOND SEASON!

My guest this week is the extraordinary Laura Bates. She’s a writer, activist and educator based in the UK, and her latest book “Men Who Hate Women” is a blistering take on misogyny and how it proliferates in men’s groups both online and off. She joined me for a very special episode (no listener questions on this one I’m sorry - there was too much to discuss!) to talk about incense, men’s rights activists, pick up artists, misogyny and how all of these things are weaponised against women. We also discuss how these groups specifically work to target men for radicalisation into terrorist ideology - and why this kind of violence against women should be labelled as such.

It’s an intense conversation with moments of levity, but please go gently with it as we discuss some very triggering content.

Laura Bates will be speaking at All About Women this year. You can buy tickets to that here: https://www.sydneyoperahouse.com/events/whats-on/all-about-women/2021/laura-bates-men-who-hate-women.html

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Replaying this amazing episode from season 1, with human right lawyer and all round excellent person, SAYOMI ARIYAWANSA! We talk about Sayomi's work, migrant women and colonialism and answer questions from little sisters.

Season 2 of Big Sister Hotline back on Jan 30!

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In this very special episode of the BSH, I'm joined by the incredible IEOMA OLUO. Ijeoma is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, "So You Want To Talk About Race?" In her latest book, "Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male Power", Ijeoma explores white male medicority, whiteness as a pyramid scheme and white masculinity in general. This is a fasinating conversation with an expert in her field. I hope you enjoy it!

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In this special crossover episode between Big Sister Hotline and Cherchez La Femme, lifelong friends Clementine Ford and Karen Pickering have a gasbag in Clem's kitchen. Topics covered: middle age and why it's powerful to embrace it; the first two episodes of And Just Like That and why revisiting cultural icons from times past can be so deeply cringeworthy; and their respective Best Of lists for 2021.

Hey, let us know if you like this episode and would like to see more of Karen and Clem in this format!

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I'm joined this week in a special DOUBLE HEADER with one of my best friends, LOU SANZ. Lou is a filmmaker, screenwriter, creator and working mother living in Melbourne. In this episode, we talk creativity, mothering, the slow road to career success and how to be patient. .

From little sisters, we answer questions about the healthy sytem and patriarchy, falling in love with your friends, and drilling down more into the emotional conquistador thing.

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This week’s episode features the sensational DANI ADRIANA, a noted body positivity and fat liberation activist living in far North Queensland. Dani has toured workshops around the world speaking about mental health and fat liberation, and she joined me for a wonderfully insightful conversation about bodies, size inclusivity and the evolution of one’s own activism. I had so many lightbulb moments during this, and you will too!

From Little Sisters, we answered questions about how to deal with breakups, even when we’ve initiated them; and whether or not a partner who was formerly emotionally abusive to you can ever be forgiven.

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I was so pleased to welcome someone I admire enormously and am also proud to call friend onto the Hotline this week. NEVO ZISIN is a non-binary, Jewish queer writer who has authored two books (Finding Nevo and the forthcoming The Pronoun Lowdown). They facilitate educational workshops educating workplaces and organisations about gender and trans inclusivity, and we talked at length about how cis people can be allies not just in action but also thinking and language usage. This was such an illuminating and generous conversation, and I’m grateful to Nevo for taking the time to share these views.

From Little Sisters, we answered questions about how to deal with bigotry and intolerance in your family members (important ahead of seasonal celebrations!); how to extricate yourself from toxic friendships; and how to balance the privacy of your loved ones when your work and politics are very public.

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Instagram: @nevozisin 

Buy Nevo’s books here: https://www.booktopia.com.au/finding-nevo-nevo-zisin/book/9781925381184.html

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This week, I’m joined by my good friend JILL STARK to talk about anxiety, lockdown and some of the tools we can use to ground us when we’re feeling fizzy brained. Jill’s first book, “High Sobriety” was about the year she spent sober. She has since become sober again, and we talk about what this means for a person’s mental health and some of the emotional challenges that come with committing to and maintaining sobriety. It gave me a lot to think about in terms of my own relationship to alcohol, and I know it will resonate strongly with listeners!

From little sisters, we answer questions about how to get back into dating without losing yourself in a prospective partner; what to do when the person you’ve been developing intimacy with decides to soft ghost you and insist it’s only ‘casual’; and how to react when a close friend becomes ‘the other woman’.

You can follow Jill and her posts about mental health, sobriety and anxiety at the following places:

Twitter: @jillastark

Facebook: @jillstark

Instagram: @jillstark__

Tracie Egan Morrisey’s Emotional Conquistador article here: https://jezebel.com/dudes-today-the-emotional-conquistador-is-the-new-sexu-5022624

Buy Jill’s books here: https://www.booktopia.com.au/high-sobriety-jill-stark/book/9781922070227.html?source=pla&gclid=CjwKCAiA5IL-BRAzEiwA0lcWYujpMh5xqbP_lEoZ6ucwX8IVb4_40sP8xEGn5XgGj6FZXIB4GJ1yoBoCSZ8QAvD_BwE

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I had an excellent conversation this week with ALEXANDRA COLLIER, a writer, theatre maker and sole mother by choice. Ally is one of the growing number of women choosing to become sole mothers through sperm donorship. She joined me to talk about motherhood, choices, the narratives we set for our own lives and the beauty we find in them, and why we need to separate maternal desires from our romantic ones. 

From little sisters, we answer questions about always being considered the casual FWB and never the girlfriend; the feminist politics of cosmetic surgery and whether we should hide it from our friends; and how to rebuild a life and individual identity when you’ve spent decades in a relationship.

Find Ally’s article here: Why I Chose To Be A Single Mum

Find Tracie Morrissey’s article on emotional conquistadors here: The Emotional Conquistador is the New Sexual Conquistador

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Hello listeners!

So, I was TWO HOURS into the edit on this week's planned episode with Alexandra Collier and Audition crashed and swallowed everything. This happens so frequently that I don't know why I continue bothering. I couldn't take it anymore, so I decided TO STOP TRYING. I am now surrendering all my editing over to a professional who will hopefully also make it sound way better than I ever have.

What that means is that the planned episode for this week will come out next week instead. In the meantime, I'm going to share this bonus episode that I uploaded to my Patreon a few months ago. It's a conversation with my friend Teddy Dunn (a past guest on the hotline) and he and I have a really great conversation about masculinity, fear and feminism. No advice questions in this one because it was a bonus, and we recorded right after the start of stage 4 so there's probably lockdown related chat in there. But I hope you enjoy it!

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This week’s guest is no stranger to the limelight. YVIE JONES became a household name when she joined the cast of Gogglebox. She went on to feature in “I’m A Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here!”, ultimately placing second. She’s the co-host of feminist podcast “Chickstory”, which focuses on women forgotten throughout history.

In this week’s episode, Yvie and Clementine talk about being diagnosed with mental illness in your adolescence, fat shaming, relationships and boundary setting. From little sisters, they answer questions about letting go of guilt; navigating ‘friends with benefits’ when you need to also have honest communication about feelings; and why people (men) are so fixated on women’s body hair.

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Lifeline: 13 11 14 

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I’m so excited to introduce you to this week’s guest! SAYOMI ARIYAWANSA is a human rights lawyer and researcher looking at the circumstances of migrant workers in Australia. In this incredibly in depth chat, we talk about racism, migration, labour and classism and its particular impact on low paid migrant women workers. 

We speak to little sisters about how to extricate yourself from a relationship that no longer serves you AND how to navigate the patriarchal imposed guilt of this; how to best support a close friend or family member when you learn someone has perpetrated sexual assault against them; and some practical tools for how to respectfully break up with someone who you still have lots of love for.

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If this episode has triggered any trauma in you from experiencing sexual assault or rape, please call 1800 RESPECT. There are also these state based services for Australian listeners:

• ACT — Canberra Rape Crisis Centre 6247 2525
• New South Wales — NSW Rape Crisis Centre 1800 424 017 or NSW Health Sexual Assault Services (visit web page to find the number in your local area)
• Northern Territory — Department of Health, Sexual Assault Referral Centres
• Queensland — Sexual Assault Helpline 1800 010 120
• South Australia — Yarrow Place Rape and Sexual Assault Service (08) 8226 8777 or 1800 817 421 freecall
• Tasmania — Sexual Assault Support Service 1800 697 877
• Victoria — Sexual Assault Crisis Line 1800 806 292
• Western Australia — Sexual Assault Resource Centre (08) 6458 1828 or free call 1800 199 888

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Hello everyone! Apologies for no episode last week - I took a much needed break. But we're back this week with the very excellent ALYSSA HO, who you may know from calling out beauty influencers online over their cultural appropriation via the "fox eye trend". Alyssa and I talk about this and much more in this illuminating episode, and it's a must listen for anyone who cares about how to be a good ally while consuming fashion and beauty trends.

From little sisters, we answer questions about evolving beyond your relationship, how to break up with kindness and compassion and what to do when you realise a man has been using the language of feminism to gaslight you.

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How do we know we're doing it right?

This is the question that plagues so many of us, particularly with the excessive influence of social media, the wellness industry, fashion and how we navigate interpersonal relationships in an increasingly plugged in world. These topics and more are all explored in great detail in PANDORA SYKES' debut book, "How Do We Know We're It Right? Essays on Modern Life".

Pandora joined me for a very special in-conversation for this week's episode to discuss her book and some of the many themes covered within: fast fashion, moral judgement, choice feminism, motherhood and what she calls the 'flattening of women'. I loved this conversation and I hope you enjoy listening to it!

You can buy Pandora's new book at your local bookstore, and I'll also be giving away TWO COPIES on my instagram to coincide with the release of this episode, so make sure to check that out!

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This week, I talk to filmmaker, podcaster and story doula, LAURA NAGY. Laura's most recent work is a podcast series on Audible. When Laura experienced a bad break up, she turned to the world of ASMR and 'partner experiences' to find comfort. What she didn't expect to encounter was her own healing from past sexual experiences. This week's episode focuses on:

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT: Portugal has recently announced it will make it illegal for employees to be contacted by employers outside of work hours. What does this mean for workers in creative industries, and could such a thing ever be implemented? We discuss the recent shooting death of Halyna Hutchins on the set of RUSH and the general expectation that crew members eat shit and be grateful for it.

THE MEATY MIDDLE: ASMR and the world of partner experiences, plus how these pursuits can help people to navigate sexual consent and their own past experiences of trauma.

THE JOYFUL BIT: Laura talks about her fondness for 90s' TV dramas.

You can find Laura's website here: http://lauranagy.com/about-1

And her podcast here: https://www.audible.com/pd/Pillow-Talk-Podcast/B09GKZZ5DC

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NOTE: Please note this episode contains discussion of controlled eating and significant weight loss in adolescenceI was joined this week by JAN FRAN, who's a legendary journalist, presenter and host of the popular The Frant. We had an excellent conversation about how women express control under the patriarchy and a much more practical conversation about how someone might go about getting into journalism or writing. Jan had brilliant advice here about just doing "the next best thing" on your path to wherever it is you want to go. Rather than looking just at where you want to be, imagine each next best thing to do that will get you there. This is definitely the episode for young women looking for practical advice on achieving their career goals (particularly in media).

With the little sisters, we answered questions about how to break up with your high school sweetheart; how to navigate serious sexual harassment at work, particularly when it's being brushed under the carpet; and what to do when your in-laws are making the dinner table a hostile place

Next week: The one and only PANDORA SYKES will join me to talk about her new book and answer little sister questions, so submit anything you want answered to bigsisterhotmail@gmail.com!

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If you're not following @thirtysomethingsingle on instagram, do yourselves a flavour and get on it. She is hilarious, insightful and brilliant, and she models excellent boundary setting in the dating world and via the apps. Kate posts a lot about self worth, decoding men's dating profiles and the ways they speak to women (particularly when they are cruel) and how fatphobia is rampant in the dating world. We had such an excellent conversation - you'll notice this episode is a lot longer than usual, but it's because I didn't want to edit out too much of our almost two hour long chat.

Please note this episode, like most episodes, contains a content note for discussion of topics like domestic abuse, self harm, body image and terrible experiences with men.

We talk about navigating emotional manipulation, setting up boundaries, asking for what you want and the difference between performing sex and being in touch with your own pleasure, whether that's for women or men. With the little sister questions, we address image based exploitation, sexual exploitation and what to do if both of these things have been present in your relationship. We discuss catcalling and young feminists being so inspiring, and answer a question from a mother concerned about how to handle her daughter's increasing body anxiety.

Kate is really so wonderful and I have learned so much from her. Please follow her on instagram if you're not: @thirtysomethingsing

This is also the article I reference in the pod by Tracie Egan, "The Emotional Conquistador is the new Sexual Conquistador". I send this piece to so many women, multiple times a year. It's really amazing.

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Australian listeners will all be familiar with Yassmin Abdel-Magied. A writer, TV presenter, podcast host, speaker and former race-car chassis designer (I mean, WOW), Yassmin also became a lightening rod for Australian racism, Islamophobia and misogyny when she posted a simple anti-war statement on her Facebook page in 2017. The reaction was swift and astonishing. She was excoriated across every strata of society, from the media to the public and even within the Federal government. What had this proudly Muslim, proudly feminist, proudly Sudanese-Australian woman said that was so outrageous?

"Lest we forget: (Manus, Naura, Syria, Palestine)"

Yassmin was eventually forced to leave the country to protect not just her life but also her mental health. She has since become an international juggernaut, authoring two YA books that have been optioned for screen, hosting an immersive theatre event at Kensington Palace, presenting podcasts and television shows and commanding stages all over the world.

Yassmin joined me for a very special episode of the hotline to discuss what it means to have life as you know it destroyed and to have to rebuild something more powerful from the rubble. We talked about what it means to be brave and what it means to live a good life. This is an in-conversation episode, so unfortunately we haven't answered questions from little sisters - but I think you'll agree that the rich and illuminating conversation was worth it!

Next week: I'll be joined by the very funny @thirtysomethingsingle from Instagram, who posts about dating disasters, disappointing men, body positivity and fatphobia particularly in romantic scenarios.

In the meantime, you can purchase Yassmin's first YA book, "You Must Be Layla" from all good bookstores!

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*****Part two of the Hotline's episode with AILEEN QUINN comes with a very big content warning for domestic abuse, sexual coercion and manipulation.****

The Hotline received a question submission from a woman whose husband is behaving in a coercive manner and using manipulative tactics to try to force her into sexual engagement with him. I double checked with the Little Sister that she was comfortable having her situation shared so publicly, and she was clear she wanted the discussion to be had. Since recording this episode with Aileen, I've also shared the audio with the LS so she could listen to it privately and safely before knowing it was out in the world. She has since confirmed she is happy for it to be made public, and so I'm sharing this now as a bonus episode.

Please remember to go gently while listening. If you recognise any of what we discuss in your own relationship, please understand that you can seek support and help from 1800-RESPECT.

Sexual coercion is abuse. I am glad to report that our little sister here has since reached out to 1800 RESPECT to receive further advice on what to do, and she is putting some things in place to try to extricate her and her children from this situation.

Our guest Big Sister next week on the Hotline: YASSMIN ABDEL-MAGIED

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Hello friends and sisters! This week's episode is all about the hellscape that is online dating, and joining me to navigate it is guest big sister Aileen Quinn, aka the genius behind the instagram account Tinder Translators (@tindertranslators, follow her and do yourselves a flavour).

We talk about the trash that is online dating and specifically the trash cis-het men get away with on dating apps. We also discuss how to define what it is you want in a relationship and why naming rights with children IS a feminist issue. This is a robust and full bodied discussion friends, so it's a BUMPER EPISODE. Not only is it longer than usual (because I didn't want to cut any of it) but we have an additional BONUS QUESTION that I will be uploading separately because it was actually extremely serious and triggering. So we're going to give you some space to listen to that at your leisure. I'll share the additional content later tomorrow.

In the meantime, tune in here to have a good old fashioned natter about how patriarchy impacts our dating choices and why marriage is bad for women!

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Have you ever been cast in a particular role in your family? Are you the black sheep or the troublemaker, the wild child or the attention seeker? Do you seek your parents' approval, even though they continue to hurt you? Well, this episode is for you! But it's also for any one who has ever had a family, or wants to have a family because the truth is we ALL write narratives for ourselves and other people when we're related to them. The question is, how do we stop? This week, Clementine is joined by writer, academic and author of the new memoir, "No Matter Our Wreckage" (out now through Allen & Unwin), GEMMA CAREY. They talk about Gemma's new book, which details the abuse she experienced as a child and her decision as an older teenager to secretly take her abuser to court. They also discuss grief, forgiveness and patriarchy's impact on young women. From little sisters, they answer questions about those pesky family narratives and how we can work to break free of them.

***PLEASE NOTE, this episode contains mentions of abuse (not graphic) and narcissistic mothers.***

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Thank you SO MUCH to everyone who has been subscribing and reviewing. It is so wonderful to read your words! Please continue to share to your friends so we can fully celebrate the capacity for women to take care of each other and help create an army of sisters!

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Hello little sisters! We're back with another episode of the Hotline, this time with guest big sister JANE GILMORE. You may know Jane from her work running the #fixedit headline series, where she corrects misleading headlines in the media minimising men's violence against women. Jane's book, "FIXED IT: Violence and the Representation of Women in the Media" is essential reading for anyone looking to see patriarchy in action. You can order it from all good bookstores!

This week, we're talking the language of patriarchy, how men avoid confronting the reality of men's violence and how things are slowly, slowly improving. We talk about resisting patriarchy's pressure to silence ourselves, particularly when abuse is weoponised by men against us. How do you learn to speak up without fear? Practice, baby. We also talk about the dynamics of domestic abuse and what to do if you're either in an abusive relationship or you know someone who is.

Remember, if you like the hotline then please consider rating it! And if you're interested in listening to this month's bonus episode with past guest big sister TEDDY DUNN, you can access it on my Patreon which is www.patreon.com/clementineford

Have a great week sisters! Love your big sis, Clem x

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This week’s episode of the Big Sister Hotline is all about solidarity with women, finding joy through playtime, resisting the urge to compare yourself to others, patriarchy’s use of the Cool Girl to divide women, learning when to let go of toxic relationships and how to be a builder instead of a wrecker. Clementine and her guest big sis Bec answer questions about how to let go of past regrets for how lovers have treated us, how to recognise a toxic friend and get rid of them and what to do when your fiance has become a JORDAN PETERSON FAN BOY!!

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Clementine is joined by SOPHIE HARDCASTLE, an author, screenwriter and artist. They discuss trauma in the body, the use of fictional narratives to heal from sexual violence, grief and the time stolen from women subjected to all these things. From little sisters, they answer questions about queer dating, heterosexual conditioning, how to find a great girl gang and how to talk about masturbation with your teenage peers.

PLEASE NOTE THIS EPISODE CONTAINS A CONTENT NOTE FOR DISCUSSIONS OF SEXUAL VIOLENCE AND TRAUMA.

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CONTENT NOTE: Please be advised this episode contains discussion of sexual assault, rape and misogyny.

SALMA EL-WARDANY is a British based poet, writer, broadcaster and feminist firebrand. In this week's episode, she and Clementine discuss the patriarchy's Official Women, how the threat of being accused of "man-hating" is used to silence women, why we shouldn't have to tiptoe gently around men and feminism, and why one of the single biggest acts of self love is making yourself the main event of your own life. This episode will light a fire under you. It will challenge you, soothe you and also encourage you to follow Salma into battle!

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CN: This episode contains discussion of sexual assault and rape, homicide and vigilantism.

Hello there everyone! I've tinkered with the format of the show this week, quite by accident. However, it turns out I like the tinkering and I'm curious to know what you think about it. New format might look something like this: Intro, followed by a short segment called SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT in which my guest and I unpack something that's widely accepted as being standard or traditional but is probably pretty indefensible when it comes down to it, and then a much longer and meatier segment talking about a more specific issue. This might be something that's happened in the news that week or something we've read about or an idea we've had or even the particular specialty of the guest in question (for example, in Aja Barber's episode we would have devoted this segment to discussing her work around fashion and sustainability). Finally, each episode will end with a very short segment on something that's bringing joy or working positively in the world.

My guest this week is hotline regular, KAREN PICKERING. She's a feminist and a community builder, and is currently writing her third book THE MOTHER OF ALL SHOCKS, a book about the industry of motherhood and all the ways we are being failed by it while encouraged to enter it. She's one of my besties! Here's how the episode looks:

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT: Karen used to work at the Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages, and we talk here about the cultural practice of women changing their names after marriage to men. Why is this still happening? Where does it come from? And why is 'choice' such an illusion?

THE MEATY MIDDLE: There's a heavy content note for this segment, because the topic is pretty full on. A tiktok popped into my feed the other night, featuring a man who spent 19 and a half years in prison. The reason he first entered the system (and stayed in it, as so often happens with the prison industrial complex)? When he was 12, he murdered another boy in his neighbourhood as an act of retaliation for the boy sexually assaulting his sister. What disturbed me about the tiktok was both in how unrepentent he still was about the crime and how enthusiastically so many of the comments supported him. It struck me as a really good example of how sexual assault and rape is only seen as real or legitimate if men take it on themselves to avenge women - because when women come forward with their own testimonies of this violence, we are so often disbelieved and further abused, with urgings to reconsider 'destroying' a man's life. Karen and I have a long discussion here about vengeance, testimony and who gets to be championed in situations like this. We touch on 'Promising Young Woman', the Brock Turner rapist trial and the documentary series, 'I'll Be Gone In The Dark'.

POUR SOME SUGAR ON ME: Finally, in the joyfulness close out, Karen and I talk briefly about Ted Lasso and the immense pleasure this show is giving so many people. It's such a wonderful exploration of community and kindness, and it dissects toxic masculinity so well while demonstrating what POSITIVE masculinity looks like!

Don't forget to let me know what you think of this format!

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LIFELINE: 13 11 14

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Previous Hotline alumni Alice Robinson joins Clementine to reflect on the impact of Lockdown 2.0! Together, they answer questions from listeners about how to deal with past trauma related to catfishing, how to negotiate financial inequity in a relationship and what to do when your 13 year old son comes home with some misogynistic nonsense he's been consuming on the internet. Featuring special guest Tobias Ford (Clementine's big brother) who joins the Hotline via phone to help provide some insight into 13 year old boys!

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Florence Given, illustrator and feminist extraordinaire, joins Clementine ahead of the Australian release of her book, "Women Don't Owe You Pretty"! They talk patriarchy, harm minimisation, dating, navigating men's egos and learning to embrace feminism.

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This week, the hotline welcomes its first man into the role of guest Big Sister! Teddy Dunn is a queer, NB trans man working as a dramaturg and performer with a specialty in gender and theatre. He's also an old and dear friend of Clementine's. This episode has been edited for time, but a rich abundance of bonus material will soon be made available.

In the meantime, this week they discuss shame, self love, perfectionism, pride, extra marital affairs, the need to maintain your own 'erotic charge' and how to date as a trans person.

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What does sisterhood mean in a cross cultural context? What does it mean to be a part of the Dead Mothers Club? How do you live 'authentically' online? Clementine discusses these issues and more with Justine Reid, a proud Gangalu woman, social worker and activist. On the hotline, they talk about how to call out offensive language in our friends, whether or not the 'bitter' tag is fair or accurate for happy, single women and how you can best support a friend experiencing domestic abuse and coercive control.

CN: This episode contains discussion of sexually violent language and domestic abuse.

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***The BSH is recorded on the unceded lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin Nation. We pay respect to elders past and present. This podcast is a proud supporter of Djirra, an Aboriginal controlled community organisation assisting Aboriginal women who've experienced family violence.***

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Renowned appearance activist, author and fashion lover CARLY FINDLAY joins the hotline this week to talk clothes, cancel culture, catfishing and disability politics!

This conversation was SO GOOD that we didn't even get time to answer any questions, but Carly has said she'll come back for a future episode to do it all again.

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Is it possible for a romantic interest to be "too nice" or is expecting poor behaviour part of the trick patriarchy plays on us? How do you navigate a hostile workplace when it's just a stop gap while you study? And can people with HPV live without anxiety about it developing into something more?

This week, body positivity campaigner and writer April Watson joins Clementine on the hotline to answer these questions and to talk fat activism, self-love and unlearning the messages of loathing that patriarchy instills in us from childhood.

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In this week's episode, Clementine is joined by Laura from Loud Bossy Gross. On Instagram (@loudbossygross), Laura shares nuggets of empowerment and wisdom, urging all women to put a value on themselves and set a standard for how they want to be treated. This week, they talk about settling in relationships, non-monogamy, knowing what you want and also getting comfortable with being UNCOMFORTABLE, particularly in regards to conversations about patriarchy and racism.

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CN: This episode has discussion of anxiety, OCD, suicidal ideation and internalised homophobia. If you are experiencing thoughts of self harm, please call Lifeline on 13 11 14. 

This week, Clementine is joined by EMILY WRITES, a best selling author, columnist and podcast host from Aotearoa. They discuss the rage of early motherhood, the ethics of posting your children's lives online and the lessons we learn about parenting as it happens. On the hotline, they field questions about how to come out as an adult when you have internalised homophobia; how to grapple with self loathing and self hatred; and what we can do to raise strong children. 

This episode is longer than usual, but Clementine just couldn't edit any more out because the things Emily was saying were SO GOOD! 

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Each week, a specific theme seems to emerge in the questions tackled on the BSH. In episode 15, the big sisters talk about disclosures - when to do them, how to them and if we need to do them at all. How do you return to the dating world when you have an STI? How do you tell a new partner about a past sexual assault? Do you have to disclose that you once had a relationship with a married man? 

Featuring special guest AMY THUNIG, this week's episode also discusses privilege, colonisation and the power of disruption.

Please be advised this episode carries a content note for discussion of sexual health stigma/internalised shame and also sexual assault.

*For support, please contact:

Lifeline: 131 114

1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Health Direct hotline: 1800 022 222*

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How do you build radical self love, particularly in a society that loves to reach for personal insults first and foremost to discredit women's voices? How do you start to build a solid girl gang? Why do so many men say they 'just don't listen to music made by women'?

These topics and more are covered on the hotline this week as Clementine's joined by GEORGIA MAQ, lead singer of Camp Cope and notorious caller-outerer-of-sexism-in-the-music-industry! Clementine and Georgia talk about what happens when male insecurity manifests in online abuse and why it can be exhausting to be known as a flamethrower when sometimes all you want to do is just knit.

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CN: This episode contains very fleeting references to body image, eating disorders and fatphobia. It is the recollections of a teenage girl.

Welcome to a very special episode of the hotline! This week's episode features just me, reading an excerpt from my SO SOON TO BE RELEASED book, How We Love: Notes On A Life!

Remember the insecurity of adolescence? The pain of unrequited love? The school dance, where you hope for it to all come together only to have it spectacularly crash? It's all right here in this chapter, 'The Queen Of Cool'. Come with me as I take you back to 1996 and a little country town just outside of Adelaide, where a caftan-wearing, bargain jazz CD listening Clementine is about to learn some formative lessons about who she is and what she's worth.

If you enjoy audiobooks, you might be pleased to know that the audio version of HOW WE LOVE is being released by Audible Australia. I've read the whole thing (and worked with sound producers who can create a much higher quality than today's podcast, to be fair) and I can't wait for you to listen to it! I don't think it's available for pre-order yet, but as soon as it is I will post the link in these notes.

In the meantime, you can pre-order the print version of HOW WE LOVE from Booktopia!

Normal programming of the hotline will resume next week, but I hope you've enjoyed this excerpt.

Thanks as always to my wonderful supporters at Patreon, and also to my podcast hosts Acast.

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How do you stop yourself from falling too deeply in love too quickly when you've identified this as a problem for you in the past? How do you create a great queer radio show? Have you ever had the lines blur between friendship and romance when you're happily married and is it normal to be attracted to other people even when you're with your partner?

In this week's episode, Clementine is joined by the hilarious comedy writer and satirist, Bec Shaw. They talk about fatphobia under corona, growing up queer in a small country town and how self love can be found through seeing yourself through your mates' eyes.

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In this special episode, Clementine speaks with Christina Hobbs, the CEO of Verve Super, Australia's first superannuation fund 100% dedicated to growing the super and wealth of women.

What's insurance and why is it important? What happens to superannuation in a divorce scenario, particularly if one partner has taken time out of the workforce to raise children?

What do gender equality and super co-contributions have in common? How has Covid-19 impacted the financial outlook of women in Australia?

All this and more in this special collaboration with Verve Super!

*please note this has been a sponsored collaboration with Verve, a superannuation fund of which Clementine is a member and has been happily since long before this podcast began*

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In this very special episode of the Big Sister Hotline, Clementine is joined by the TV host, DJ, actor, writer and all round excellent human, FAUSTINA AGOLLEY. What does it look like to form a connection with a parent years after they've passed away? How can the experience of coming out be a cause for celebration? What does loving someone in 'the right way' look like, and is it reason enough to stay in a relationship? And why must white people be more proactive in undoing the damage and structural existence of white supremacy? This is a wide ranging conversation that is both challenging and vital for those of us committed to the feminist project.

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How do you navigate a relationship when your partner body shames you? And how do you come to terms, as a teenage girl, with the realisation that your feminism will never be taken seriously - not even when you are being harmed by the boys around you?

Clementine is joined by the Twitter firebrand, EM RAZZ (Feminist Next Door) to discuss this and much, much more on this very special episode of the Big Sister Hotline.

***Please note, this episode contains a content note for discussion of sexual violence and body shaming****

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