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This week, we’re chatting with Amanda Bolan, a woman who somehow manages to juggle big life changes, motherhood, and a little bit of chaos — all with a smile. From unexpected turns to heart-led decisions, Amanda’s story is full of love, laughter, and those wild moments that make life beautifully unpredictable.

🎧 Tune in for an honest and uplifting conversation about choosing chaos, finding joy in the curveballs, and saying “yes” to the life you were meant to live.

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Today on Choosing Chaos, I’m chatting with Reema, also known as The Choice Mom Coach. Reema is a certified coach who helps women bring ease, confidence, and clarity to the Single Mother by Choice journey.

Drawing on both personal and professional experience, Reema empowers women to navigate the emotional highs and lows of this path, helping them approach motherhood with confidence, clarity, and meaningful support.

If you’re considering single motherhood, feeling hesitant, or simply curious about what this journey really looks like, Reema shares practical guidance and heartfelt insights to help you move past fear and self-doubt — and embrace the incredible gift that awaits on the other side.

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In this episode of Choosing Chaos: Solo Motherhood by Choice, we sit down with Linzay Davis, founder of Hello-Bundle, to talk about navigating parental leave as a new parent. After struggling to figure out paid leave, job protection, and postpartum support herself, Linzay created Hello-Bundle to help thousands of parents maximize their benefits and thrive while spending precious time with their newborns. Tune in to learn how to get the parental leave you deserve and make the transition back to work smoother—because every parent deserves a little support. Check them out at hello-bundle.com to learn more!

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In this episode of Choosing Chaos: Solo Motherhood by Choice, Sara shares her journey to solo motherhood, from combining IUI and IVF to the surprise of identical twins. She opens up about pregnancy bedrest, early motherhood anxiety, and the lessons learned raising her girls into their teenage years. A story of resilience, love, and embracing a little beautiful chaos along the way.

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In this episode of Choosing Chaos: Solo Motherhood by Choice, Lakeisha shares her journey to becoming a mom on her own terms—from prioritizing motherhood when dating took a back seat, to embracing the sweet surprise of discovering her baby’s gender at birth. She reflects on the joy of raising her daughter and the unique connections she’s built through dibling meetups, while also opening up about the emotional shifts that come with postpartum life. Most importantly, Lakeisha reminds us that seeking help when you’re struggling is not a sign of weakness, but of strength. By speaking candidly about postpartum depression and the courage it takes to ask for support, her story highlights the resilience, honesty, and love that define solo motherhood. Every path to parenthood is unique, and Lakeisha shows that even in the chaos, reaching out for help can make all the difference.

📞 Immediate Help

• Emergency: If you ever feel like you may act on thoughts of harming yourself or your baby, call 911 (US) or your local emergency number.
• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US): Dial 988 anytime to connect with trained crisis counselors.

🌸 Postpartum-Specific Support

• Postpartum Support International (PSI):
  • Helpline (US & Canada): Call or text 1-800-944-4773 (English & Spanish available).
  • Website: postpartum.net
  • Offers a provider directory, online support groups, and peer mentors.
• Postpartum Progress:
  • Website: postpartumprogress.com
  • Community-focused site with stories, blog posts, and mental health resources.
• The Motherhood Center (NYC-based, with virtual options):
  • Website: themotherhoodcenter.com
  • Offers therapy, classes, and day programs.

📚 Self-Help & Education

• Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts by Karen Kleiman (book with illustrations, very approachable).
• The Postpartum Stress Center – postpartumstress.com

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Amanda found out she was having twins at just three weeks pregnant — surprise! In this episode, she shares what it’s like to raise two babies solo, flee a state mid-pregnancy, and survive postpartum with the help of friends, caffeine, and a synchronized nap schedule. Chaos? Yes. Regrets? Zero.

In this episode, Amanda shares her thoughtful journey into single motherhood by choice (SMBC), offering a wealth of practical advice and personal reflections:

• Community Support: Amanda highlights the value of SMBC-focused Facebook groups as a vital space for connection and shared experience.
  
  
• Tapping Into Benefits: She urges listeners to explore their employer-provided benefits, sharing how her insurance provider and HR department offered unexpected resources. Amanda emphasizes that HR reps often love to help and can even connect you with external brokers if needed.
  
  
• Fertility Support: Her company offered Progyny as an enhanced IVF support program, and Amanda shares how her Progyny caseworker was instrumental—supportive, informative, and a true advocate.
  
  
• Advocating for Benefits: Amanda encourages building relationships with HR reps—especially at smaller companies, where HR can influence future benefits based on employee needs.

Favorite Resources:

• Emily Oster’s books for data-driven insights into pregnancy and planning.
  
  
• “An Excellent Choice”, a memoir that deeply resonated with Amanda during her SMBC journey—one of the few she could find that spoke directly to her experience.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone considering or navigating the SMBC path, especially those looking to make the most of their workplace support and benefits.

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In this powerful episode of Choosing Chaos, Lindsey opens up about her path to solo motherhood—from choosing to become a single mom by choice to the unexpected detour of navigating life in the NICU with her preemie. We talk about fertility, preeclampsia, advocacy, and the emotional strength it takes to keep going when nothing goes as planned.

💛 NICU Support Resources:

• Hand to Hold
  
  
• Graham’s Foundation
  
  
• NICU Parent Network
  
  
• March of Dimes – NICU Support
  
  
• Peekaboo ICU
  
  
• Ronald McDonald House Charities
  
  
• UnitedHealthcare Children’s Foundation Medical Grants (UHCCF)
  
  
• Early Intervention Services (via CDC)
  
  
  

🩺 Preeclampsia Resources:

• Preeclampsia Foundation
  
  
• Count the Kicks
  
  
• March of Dimes – Preeclampsia Info
  
  
• Every Mother Counts
  
  
  

🎧 Tune in now wherever you get your podcasts and find all the links in the show notes!

#ChoosingChaos #PreemieStrong #SMBC #NICUMama #SoloMomByChoice #FertilityJourney #DonorConception #PreeclampsiaAwareness #MotherhoodUnfiltered #NICUAwareness #PreemieLife

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Thinking about becoming a single mom by choice and not sure where to start? In this episode, I’m joined by Megan from 412 Fertility, a fertility nurse and founder who’s helped countless women navigate the complex (and sometimes overwhelming) world of reproductive treatment.

We dive into:

• What fertility testing actually looks like
• The difference between medicated vs. unmedicated IUI
• Understanding hormone injections without losing your mind
• What to ask your doctor—and when
• How to stay grounded through the emotional ups and downs

Whether you’re egg-freezing, browsing donor profiles, or trying to decode what day you’re supposed to take which med—this conversation breaks it all down with honesty, empathy, and zero judgment.

🎧 Hit play and take your next step toward solo motherhood with confidence.

Follow Megan on Instagram: @412Fertility
More support + resources: 412fertility.com

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For every woman who’s ever asked herself if she’s ready to become a Single Mom by Choice—this episode is your brutally honest, slightly sweary, emotionally empowering pep talk about tuning out the noise and tuning into your gut. 

We’re diving into the big question: Am I ready to be a Single Mother by Choice? From emotional readiness and financial planning to scrolling sperm donor profiles like it’s Bumble, we’re breaking it all down—no pressure, no judgment, just real talk for anyone thinking about taking the plunge into solo motherhood.

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After years of searching for love—and finding heartbreak—I stopped waiting for the "right" relationship and decided to pursue motherhood on my own terms. In this episode, I share the emotional highs, medical hurdles, and deeply personal moments that led me to become a Single Mother by Choice. From fertility consults and failed IUIs to a life-changing Instagram message and finally... two pink lines. This is the start of my journey into solo motherhood—and it’s just the beginning.

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