Explore every episode of the podcast Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
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| Navigating ADHD and Demand Avoidance in Relationships | 28 Jan 2025 | 00:27:57 | |
This week Luke Gordon joins Alana as he opens up about living with ADHD and demand avoidance. Luke and Alana explore how these dynamics impact their interactions and the steps they take to maintain a balanced and empathetic relationship. This episode offers a real-time glimpse into their ongoing journey individually and relationally of self-awareness, accountability, and mutual support. Luke Gordon is a certified addiction recovery and betrayal trauma coach and co-founder of Choose Recovery Services. Listen to his podcast Beyond the Facade or schedule a free consultation. Register Now!
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| From Triggered to Grounded: Tools for Managing Betrayal Trauma Triggers | 21 Jan 2025 | 00:44:33 | |
Sometimes it can feel like triggers are overwhelming and impossible to handle. Listen in as Amie and Alana explore triggers - what causes them, why they persist, and most importantly, how to manage them in a healthy way. Together they share their personal experiences with triggers and outline several exercises and tools for emotional regulation that you can implement immediately in your healing journey. Referenced in this episode:
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| REPLAY - Couples Healing After Infidelity, Cheating, or Sexual Addiction | 19 Nov 2024 | 01:08:02 | |
Join us this week as we revisit one of our most popular episodes from 2022. The road to recovery can be a long and difficult road. When you don't know where you are headed and how to get there, it can feel even more daunting. Join Alana, Amie, and their guest, Luke Gordon, as they unpack the stages of individual and relational healing. They emphasize the necessity of humility, transparency, vulnerability, and empathy. Whether your partner is participating in recovery or not, learn actionable strategies and gain hope for a journey towards trust, emotional stability, and genuine connection. Download a visual of the recovery map here. Coming Up!
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| Trusting Yourself First: Healing After Betrayal Trauma | 04 Apr 2023 | 00:24:08 | |
How can you start to trust yourself again after betrayal? Being betrayed by a partner is traumatizing physiologically, emotionally, and mentally. This can leave trauma on your body even long after the betrayal has occurred. When you’ve had this kind of blow in your life, it affects your sense of self, sense of safety, and self identity. This makes trusting yourself difficult. This is a very natural response when you’ve experienced betrayal, but learning to trust yourself again is the first key to healing. Join Amie Woolsey in this episode as she shares:
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| Building Trust In The Relationship; Brené Brown's BRAVING Tool | 28 Mar 2023 | 00:47:18 | |
Today Amie and Alana talk about trust using the work of Brené Brown, and American professor, who created specific elements of trust by using the acronym BRAVING. Because it's BRAVE to trust, especially after betrayal. When you are trying to watch your partner's feet move back up the ladder of trust, it can be confusing to know what you are even watching for! So they break down these tools she offers as elements of trust and make them more tangible and betrayal trauma relatable. These are NOT all the ways that trust is restored and yet this gives a nice place to start and easy to remember way that can help you begin leaning into trust. The Acronym BRAVING B- Boundaries R- Reliability A-Accountability V-Vault/Vulnerability I- Integrity N- Non-judgment G-Grace
Remember, when there is no honesty and safety in the relationship, there can't be trust. So please evaluate your own situation as to if this is ready to be practiced in a relational way at this time. Join Amie next week as she will talk about rebuilding trust with YOURSELF FIRST. Link to the original Brene Brown's Talk on BRAVING Finding Yourself After Betrayal -Amie Woolsey and the ladder of trust in more depth Making Amends Choose to Be Podcast Episode Don't miss these new groups by Choose Recovery Services: ❤️🩹 Choose Recovery for Couples - A comprehensive support group for couples to get the support they need to work through the pain of infidelity and betrayal and begin rebuilding their relationship. Taught by Luke and Alana Gordon. Learn more. 👩 Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more. 🧑 Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from addiction, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more. 💕 YSA Healthy Dating & Empowerment Course - For young, single women who are navigating the dating scene, Amie Woolsey from Choose Recovery Services educates and empowers women with the knowledge to understand boundaries, self-care, red flags, 7 levels of intimacy, and so much more! Learn more. 💪 Believing in You - Program to help you work with your brain rather than against it with Amie Woolsey. You’ll learn tools and concepts to gain a better awareness of your thoughts and emotions and how to gently push back on automatic thoughts. Learn more. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - FREE, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags in your relationship. Connect with us on social media:
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| Passive Aggressiveness and Betrayal: How to Recognize and Overcome It | 22 Mar 2023 | 00:28:54 | |
.What would you guess is the #1 thing people want help with when they go to see a therapist or a coach? Here’s a hint…whether you’re dealing with betrayal, trauma, or just simple disruptions in a relationship growing apart, all these roads lead to a need for better communication. We are hard-wired for connection, and a core part of connection is communication. Join Alana on this episode for the first step to better communication in your relationship – learning the difference between communicating in a way that is passive, aggressive, passive aggressive, and assertive. A few topics covered on this episode include:
Don't miss these new groups by Choose Recovery Services: ❤️🩹 Choose Recovery for Couples - A comprehensive support group for couples to get the support they need to work through the pain of infidelity and betrayal and begin rebuilding their relationship. Taught by Luke and Alana Gordon. Learn more. 👩 Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more. 🧑 Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from addiction, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more. 💕 YSA Healthy Dating & Empowerment Course - For young, single women who are navigating the dating scene, Amie Woolsey from Choose Recovery Services educates and empowers women with the knowledge to understand boundaries, self-care, red flags, 7 levels of intimacy, and so much more! Learn more. 💪 Believing in You - Program to help you work with your brain rather than against it with Amie Woolsey. You’ll learn tools and concepts to gain a better awareness of your thoughts and emotions and how to gently push back on automatic thoughts. Learn more. Connect with us on social media:
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| A Light In The Dark; Answering Your Questions | 14 Mar 2023 | 00:31:49 | |
🎙️ We’re closing out the last episode of a 3-part series on the topic of adult children of sex addicts featuring Dr. Kenneth M. Adams Ph.D., CSAT-S, and author of the new book, A Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts. This week, we respond to listener questions such as:
Amie and Alana are excited about the questions this book has brought up for you, and they encourage you to keep asking questions as you heal. Your path to healing will be filled with pain and fear, but as you do this difficult work, there is healing, beauty, strength, and post-traumatic growth to be found along the way. Amie and Alana referenced Vicki Tidwell Palmer’s Bill of Rights in this episode. You can find the full list here. Don’t miss these new groups offered by Choose Recovery Services: ❤️🩹 Choose Recovery for Couples - A comprehensive support group for couples to get the support they need to work through the pain of infidelity and betrayal and begin rebuilding their relationship. Taught by Luke and Alana Gordon. Learn more. 👩 Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more. 🧑 Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from addiction, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more. 💕 YSA Healthy Dating & Empowerment Course - For young, single women who are navigating the dating scene, Amie Woolsey from Choose Recovery Services educates and empowers women with the knowledge to understand boundaries, self-care, red flags, 7 levels of intimacy, and so much more! Learn more. 💪 Believing in You - Program to helps you work with your brain rather than against it with Amie Woolsey. You’ll learn tools and concepts to gain a better awareness of your thoughts and emotions and how to gently push back on automatic thoughts. Learn more. Connect with us on social media:
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| A Light In The Dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts; With Dr. Kenneth M. Adams | 07 Mar 2023 | 00:53:37 | |
Join the conversation today as Amie and Alana interview Dr. Kenneth M Adams, Ph.D., CSAT-S and author of the new book, Alight in the dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts co authored with Mary E Meyer, Ph.D., LMFT, and Culle L Vande Garde, LCSW where they detail the unique issues experienced by adult children who grew up with a sexually addicted parent. We are thrilled to share this powerful conversation with you in hopes that as a child of a sexually addicted parent, you will find the pieces that you have been carrying and find hope and healing. We also hope that for those who are the addicted parent or betrayed parent, this book will help you to understand your children's experiences so you can be a source of healing for them as well. If this book brings up any questions or concerns in your personal journey please reach out to Alana, Amie or Luke. NEW Support Groups available starting in April. For more information or to register click HERE Ready to take your healing to the next level? Choose Recovery for couples is for those who are ready to lean into the relationship and do that next level work. This comprehensive support group is designed to provide you and your partner with the tools and support you need to work through the pain and begin rebuild your relationship. Alana and Luke tag team teaching and support to guide you through the healing process and help you communicate effectively, regain trust, and begin to move forward. Click HERE for more information and to see if you are ready. Believing In You Coaching Program starts April 5th! This group is for women who are ready to take their individual healing up a notch. Learning to trust yourself, love yourself and believe that you can truly create the life you want. We do that by digging into more awareness and leaning into more acceptance so that you can experience the life in the way you choose. To find out more information on that or get your spot click HERE Follow on Instagram to stay caught up on whats happening! @Chooserecoveryservices @therapywithalana @amiewoolsey | |||
| Courage To Face The Fire; Healing Generational Trauma | 28 Feb 2023 | 00:34:55 | |
Join Amie and Alana today as the first part of a three part series around adult children of sex addicts. Todays episode preambles the much anticipated interview with Dr. Kenneth M Adams Ph.D., CSAT-S and author of the new book, A light in the dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts co authored with Mary E. Meyer, Ph.D., LMFT, and Culle L. Vande Garde, LCSW where they detail the unique issues experienced by adult children who grew up with a sexually addicted parent. This book offers a path to unburden their shameful legacy and embrace sexuality and intimacy without the intrusion or constraints from the past. Today Amie and Alana share thoughts to help prepare you for next weeks episode with Dr Adams and help those of you who are ready to gain more awareness and curiosity around this piece of your healing journey both for the addict, and the betrayed, and your children. Mentioned in todays episode: A list in the dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts NEW FREE WOMENS SUPPORT GROUPS with Choose Recovery Services starting in April. These are for those who are navigating their betrayal journey and staying in the marriage and those who are leaving the marriage or divorced. For more information around these groups and to see if they are a right fit for you at this time Click HERE Believing In YOU Membership or those who are ready to take their healing to the next level and practice tools that will help you move forward after betrayal, abuse and or around divorce. This new membership now comes with 2 free 2:2 sessions with Amie every 12 weeks and at least 20 hours of coaching every 12 week cycle. You will now have access to Marco Polo for coaching around stuck points in between sessions, Facebook support group, worksheets, recorded sessions and more. To see if you are ready for this group feel free to book a consultation with Amie or email Vanessa at info@chooserecoveryservices.com Interested in the Mens support groups and addiction recovery groups? Get on the interest list and find out more information by emailing info@chooserecoveryservices.com The Body Love Course- to help you lean into the awareness of you body and become more at ease in it. The Empowered Divorce Podcast- for those who are leaning towards divorce Should I Stay Or Should I Go- for those who feel stuck in making the decision. This groups coaching session can help you gain clarity around your thoughts and help you make the decision that is most wise for you. Connect with us on Social Media:
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| Owning Your Beautiful Sexuality; Reintegration to the body after betrayal | 21 Feb 2023 | 00:35:40 | |
Do you feel fear, shame, insecurity, or pressure when you think about your sexuality? Join Amie and Alana as they help you consider if you’re ready to lean back into your sexuality after betrayal, and why it’s okay to embrace your sexuality. Tune into the episode to think about:
Resources mentioned in todays episode Healthy Sexual Dimensions: Nurturing: The capacity to receive care from others and provide care for self Sensuality: Mindfulness of physical senses that creates emotions, intellectual, spiritual and physical presence Self Image: A positive self-perception that includes embracing your sexual self Self Definition: A clear knowledge of yourself, both positive and negative, and the ability to express boundaries as well as needs Comfort: The capacity to be at ease about sexual matters with oneself and with others Knowledge: A knowledge base about sex in general and about one's own unique sexual patterns Relationship: A capacity to have intimacy and friendship with both same and opposite gender Partnership: The ability to maintain an interdependent, equal relationship that is intimate and erotic The Body Love Course- to help you lean into the awareness of you body and become more at ease in it. The Empowered Divorce Podcast- for those who are leaning towards divorce Should I Stay Or Should I Go- for those who feel stuck in making the decision. This groups coaching session can help you gain clarity around your thoughts and help you make the decision that is most wise for you. Connect with us on Social Media:
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| Buy Yourself Flowers; Loving YOU first | 14 Feb 2023 | 00:19:14 | |
Valentine’s Day is meant to be a day for celebrating romance, but for those who have experienced betrayal, this day can serve as a reminder of what you’ve lost. We want to hold space today for the triggers, the pain, and the hard you may be feeling around this holiday. Whether you’re in a relationship, divorced, or single, you may find yourself grieving the expectations that were never realized in your romantic relationships. But perhaps you can take a minute this week to think about how you might be able to create a new tradition of loving you. On this episode, Amie and Alana share:
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| Becoming a Healthy, Independent Woman | 07 Feb 2023 | 00:31:54 | |
Have you seen yourself swing from a submissive role to a strong, independent perspective as you've begun the work of healing from betrayal trauma? Maybe you've found yourself feeling stuck and a little confused as you've tried to find the right balance of independence and interdependence? Think through some of these questions with Amie and Alana on this week's episode:
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| Bonus Episode: What does it mean to let the old relationship die? With Guest Luke Gordon, Men's Mental Health and Addiction Recovery Coach | 31 Jan 2023 | 00:26:07 | |
Join us this week as we tackle the topic of letting the old relationship die after infidelity, betrayal, cheating, or compulsive acting out. We have with us Luke Gordon, men's mental health coach. Together we dive into why its recommended to let the old relationship die, what the looks like in real life, and how to move forward as a couple. New Courses: Transforming Your Triggers - A 6 week course taught by Hali Roderick about dealing with triggers from Betrayal Trauma Next session starts March 13th, Mondays at 10am PT Choosing to Stay | Choose Recovery Services - Are you choosing to stay, but still find yourself struggling to find your individual worth and identity? 12 weeks of coaching in a small group setting (3-4 women or 3-4 men) where you will have the opportunity to receive individual support as well as connect with a few other women (or men) who are going through similar experiences. Starts March 13th Ongoing Groups and Classes: Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Director of The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program -Led by Amie Woolsey Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 7; What Comes Next? | 12 Nov 2024 | 00:33:02 | |
Join Amie and Alana as they conclude their series on full therapeutic disclosures by discussing why disclosure is not the end of the journey and what steps to take next. They explore the importance of shared grief, the significance of building a plan for rebuilding trust, and the pitfalls to avoid post-disclosure. Learn about crafting personalized aftercare plans that include therapy, support systems, and empowerment practices to continue the healing process effectively. Get our FREE eBook “Is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure Right For Me?” delivered straight to your inbox. Sign up here! Referenced in this episode:
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| Why Do The Work? | 24 Jan 2023 | 00:32:45 | |
It's a great question. Why are you doing the work right now and being aware of that why, will help you more than you perhaps realize. Today we discuss the fears, the concerns and the rewards of continuing on in the journey of healing for both the betrayed and the betrayer. Ongoing Courses: Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Transforming Your Triggers- Led by coach Hallie Roderick Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| Sexual Consent In Marriage; with Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT | 17 Jan 2023 | 00:52:06 | |
We are thrilled to have joining us in todays conversation Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT He is one of the leaders in the field of addiction and betrayal, host of the podcast, From Crisis To Connection, Geoff joins our conversation today to discuss an important topic, sexual consent. Most importantly, sexual consent in marriage. This is a powerful episode for both the betrayed and the betrayer to understand, and gain more awareness around. If you feel there is further work to do around this topic personally, please reach out to one of our trained coaches and seek help. You have a right to a healthy sexual experience. To learn more about Geoff check out his website HERE Ongoing Courses: Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Transforming Your Triggers- Led by coach Hallie Roderick Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| Should I Be Prepared For Him To Relapse? | 10 Jan 2023 | 00:31:33 | |
Relapse, slips, close calls........these are all scary and triggering for the betrayed partner. So how do you prepare for this to happen, what if you don't want to have this happen, and how many times should this happen? All these questions and more are what Alana and Amie discuss in todays conversation. Ongoing Courses: Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Transforming Your Triggers- Led by coach Hallie Roderick Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| Polygraphs Better Understood; With Polygraph Examiner Jared Rockwood | 03 Jan 2023 | 00:48:26 | |
Amie and Alana have a very informative and powerful conversation with Jared Rockwell who is not only a polygraph examiner but a LCSW with over 18 years experience. He is nationally recognized leader in his field and offers his expert thoughts today around how a polygraph works, why they are so important to rebuilding trust in a relationship and what they are NOT. We debunk some common myths around the polygraph and it's purpose as well as offer some guidelines around what questions to ask and not ask. Ongoing Courses: Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| How to do I begin to thrive? I want to do more than just survive! | 27 Dec 2022 | 00:49:26 | |
In todays episode Alana and Amie have a conversation about what it looks like to thrive and step out of victim mentality. When you have been a victim of someone else's choices that created chaos and pain in your life. Sometimes undesirable pain, it's understandable how it feels powerless and overwhelmingly paralyzing. Sometimes the term victim takes on a negative connotation, and so it's a place we can often judge ourselves in. There are so many subtle ways that we, often subconsciously, keep ourselves in victim mentality and yet are trying so hard to move forward and can't figure out why it's so difficult. Stepping in to your power and seeing what you do have to move forward, one step at a time, will help you not just survive, but thrive! Join us today, leaving your own self judgment aside, and with curiosity see what your next move is to step into THRIVING! Karpman Drama Triangle was referenced today Ongoing Courses: Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| Reclaiming & Rewriting Your Holiday; Healing from betrayal | 20 Dec 2022 | 00:29:42 | |
When you have experienced betrayal, the holidays can trigger a lot of heartache rather than joy and sadness rather than happy. For those of you who are right in the middle of hard we want you to know we are thinking of you and praying for you. We know you do hard things. Part of the healing journey is reclaiming, rewriting, rediscovering, YOUR holiday and deciding what that will look like, even in the middle of hard. Today we share some thoughts with you about how to do that and offer a few ideas to begin with. Most importantly, we hope you choose healing, choose recovery and choose YOU during the holiday season. Ongoing Courses: Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| Navigating Narcissism With Tony Overbay | 13 Dec 2022 | 00:50:53 | |
You are not going to want to miss todays conversation!! Ok, you really don’t want to miss any of our conversations, but today it a special one as we have joining us the amazing Tony Overbay. We are talking about narcissism today with Tony and how to grasp the bigger picture in healing and recovery. Learning how to build a higher emotional IQ is often left out in most addiction recovery programs and this is a key piece to healing, recovery and just being a more functional human. If you want to learn more about the tools that Tony talks about today such as the 4 pillars, his marriage course, or Facebook support group check hi out HERE His podcasts are The Virtual Couch and Waking Up To Narcissism Ongoing Courses: Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| Couples Healing After Infidelity, Cheating, or Sexual Addiction: Couples Road To Recovery | 06 Dec 2022 | 01:09:13 | |
The road to recovery can be a long and difficult road. When you don't know where you are headed and how to get there, it can feel even more daunting. Join Alana, Amie, and their guest, Luke Gordon, for a discussion around healing and what the road to recovery after infidelity, cheating, or sexual addiction can look like. To have a visual of the recovery map, download it here. To schedule a session with any of our therapists or coaches, go to Chooserecoveryservices.com or email us at info@chooserecoveryservices.com Ongoing Courses: Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| How Long Will Healing Take and How Will I know He's Changed? | 29 Nov 2022 | 00:36:24 | |
It can feel so frustrating to not see change in your partner and in yourself and how will you know if your partner is really changing? Alana and Amie answer another listeners question about this concept today and how to recognize change. This can be tricky to recognize they give you some ideas to consider and get curious about to help you determine for yourself if you are seeing the kind of change that you want. The episode referenced in todays podcast is called Active Recovery in Betrayal Trauma and you can find the episode here: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/t3mQwDermvb Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| Holding Space For Grief AND Gratitude | 22 Nov 2022 | 00:17:12 | |
Sometimes the holidays can be triggering and it's hard to feel grateful for anything. join Amie in todays episode where she offers some thoughts around how to navigate this holiday while you are also navigating big emotions. Because the truth is, you don't always have to feel grateful AND you can hold space for all emotions. Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 6; The Role of Polygraphs | 05 Nov 2024 | 00:49:53 | |
Amie and Alana have an informative and powerful conversation with Jared Rockwell, a polygraph examiner and a LCSW. He is a nationally recognized leader in his field and offers his expert thoughts today around how polygraphs works, why they are so important for rebuilding trust in a relationship, and what they are NOT used for. Learn how this tool can be an important part of the full disclosure process. Get our FREE eBook “Is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure Right For Me?” delivered straight to your inbox. Sign up here! Referenced in this episode:
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| Listener Question: Needs and Wants; Healing after betrayal | 15 Nov 2022 | 00:41:40 | |
In today's episode Amie and Alana talk about needs vs wants in a relationship as they answer a listers question. This episode is geared specifically towards the betrayed in the relationship. Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| When Healing Tools Don't Take Away The Pain; Navigating Betrayal Trauma | 08 Nov 2022 | 00:27:02 | |
When you start navigating the healing journey, you learn all kinds of tools and concepts, and you start applying them in hopes that change happens, in hopes that healing happens. But what if you are using ALL the tools and you are still feeling pain? What if you are trying to do all the things professionals say. to do but you are still feeling hurt? Today Amie and Alana discuss the in's and out's of healing and how to view pain in a different way. Most of all, to know that you are not doing it wrong, and not going backwards. Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| Affair Recovery with Betrayal Trauma coach Hali Roderick | 01 Nov 2022 | 00:40:55 | |
In todays Episode we welcome one of our amazing coaches Hali Roderick who is addressing the aspect of recovery when there has been an affair in the marriage, but no pornography. Many women are navigating this aspect of betrayal and often find it hard to feel supported and not sure how to heal from this kind of betrayal. Join us today and Hali shares key point to help you navigate your journey to find hope and healing. Want to work with Hali? Check out chooserecoveryservices.com Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support. | |||
| Announcing a New Resource ; Navigating divorce after betrayal trauma | 25 Oct 2022 | 00:12:33 | |
Today Amie has an exciting announcement for an additional resource for those of you who are needing help navigating divorce after betrayal trauma. So tune in and listen to what she has been up to! She also offers powerful thoughts around accessing your own empowerment and what that looks like, and how supporting each other as women is something she wants more of. No matter where you are at in your journey this is a powerful episode. Feel free to share with someone you know! Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. | |||
| Safe Space; Announcing a NEW resource for navigating abuse | 18 Oct 2022 | 00:30:16 | |
Join Amie who is with therapist Kimberly Day as Kim announces the launch of her new website SAFE SPACE for those who are experiencing destructive elements in their relationships. It can be overwhelming to start learning about what's actually been going on in your relationship and when it's been destructive and down right abusive there can also be a lot of shame, which can keep many form getting help and talking about it. Kim Day has created a SAFE SPACE for women to come and explore the different dynamics they are experiencing in the relationship. Worksheets, videos, community, podcast, free office and opportunities to get regular help are all available and so much more! Even if you don't think you are experiencing this in your relationship this is a great episode to share because someone you know is nad most liely feels alone and doesn't know where to go to receive accurate information safely. Check out onesafespace.com today and remember OCTOBER 24th is the official lunch day Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. | |||
| Empathy For Him | 11 Oct 2022 | 00:43:06 | |
Last week Amie and Alana talked about empathy and different aspects of it with yourself as well as how to manage being empathic. Today they discuss how men in recovery can gain empathy and what that looks like, and what it doesn't look like. Men, this is a great episode to listen to and get curious about for yourself and where you might be in your journey to recovery as gaining healthy empathy is critical to not only recovery but a healthy relationship. Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Upcoming Events: Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck **Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. | |||
| What Healthy Empathy Looks Like Through Betrayal | 04 Oct 2022 | 00:49:45 | |
This topic came up in a group when someone asked us, “What if I have too much empathy – what if my empathy is coming back to bite me on the butt?” Empathy is so complex when we're talking to women in betrayal trauma. And even within this specific container, there are so many nuances: having too much empathy, having too little empathy, how betrayal trauma affects your capacity for empathy with your children. As we hone in on one area for the sake of starting somewhere, we encourage you to discern for yourself how you’re doing in these different areas. Ultimately, we hope to guide you towards embracing empathy in a way that’s healthy for you. Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Upcoming Events: Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. | |||
| Creating Safety After Trauma | 27 Sep 2022 | 00:34:39 | |
Whether you're in a romantic relationship or not, learning to create psychological safety for yourself after trauma is a huge principle of healing. When we talk about betrayal and all the loss that comes with betrayal trauma, we include the loss of your central nervous system to PTSD, the loss of trust, the loss of your self esteem, the loss of emotional regulation, and the loss of safety. Many of us don’t even know that we’re in charge of our own safety, and since we didn’t have it in place before the betrayal happened, our next best option is to put it in place now. How to start creating psychological safetyIn the recovery world, it’s often asserted that the partner who’s caused the betrayal needs to create safety. And that’s true… to an extent. But the second we rely on an external source to be the answer, we give away our power. The truth is, you don’t have to wait on your partner to take action to feel safe. You already have the power to start creating the safety you need. You’ll Learn:
Mentioned in the show: Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stefanie Carnes, PhD Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Upcoming Events: Body Love Workshop- Monday October 3rd @ 6:00pm PT Join this FREE upcoming workshop where Amie walks you through some basic steps to lean to love your body again after betrayal. Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. | |||
| Navigating Betrayal Trauma With Tony Overbay (An Interview with Alana & Luke on the Virtual Couch Podcast) | 20 Sep 2022 | 01:19:46 | |
If you’re new to the work of Tony Overbay, we’re so glad to be the ones to introduce you. Tony is, among many things, a licensed marriage and family therapist and host of The Virtual Couch podcast. Today’s episode is a real treat, because it’s an interview with Luke and Alana on The Virtual Couch for a betrayal trauma podcast. In conversation with Tony, Luke and Alana share vulnerable insights from behind-the-scenes in their marriage – including their history with betrayal trauma and their subsequent healing journey. It was (and is) a long journey to navigate betrayal trauma and embark on a healing journey. Through PTSD, separation, no-contact periods, recommitting to the relationship, and raising five kids, Luke and Alana’s story is full of moments you can relate to no matter where you might be in your recovery journey. You’ll Learn:
Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing. Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect. Upcoming Events: Body Love Workshop- Monday October 3rd @ 6:00pm PT Join this FREE upcoming workshop where Amie walks you through some basic steps to lean to love your body again after betrayal. Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!! Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more. Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery. | |||
| Step One In Healing After Betrayal Trauma | 13 Sep 2022 | 00:26:42 | |
When you experience trauma from betrayal, abuse and/or divorce, the first step is self care- caring for the self- your own wellbeing. Its more of our natural tendency to go the opposite- to take care of, to control, fix and look for al the things outside of us that we think are creating the inside chaos. We often justify, rationalize, and minimize our need for wellbeing, for time, 10 minutes of time to just be silent, still, center, grounded, IN and with the self. When we are in overdrive, we are now not living in the present, we are not in the moment we are not really living. Today Amie shares what self care is NOT. Debunking myths about self care and offering you new ideas to consider. Some episode Highlights: -Self care is NOT selfish -Self Care is NOT for those who are weak -Self care is NOT a one and done -The term self care can be changed! -Emotional first aid kit and what that looks like for you If you are struggling with step one in your healing journey you are not alone. thats why Amie creates a foundational healing group for these basic healing principles that often get overlooked or ignored. Dive deep into your foundational healing as the next group starts in September. contact chooserecoveryservices@gmail.com for more information. From the episode: Ongoing Courses: Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free self paces workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship. Upcoming Events: Body Love Workshop- Join this FREE upcoming workshop where Amie walks you through some basic steps to lean to love your body again after betrayal. to get on the interest list for that click the link! Divorce Retreat October Prepare to Thrive- early marriage course September | |||
| Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 5; Starting the Process For Both Partners | 29 Oct 2024 | 00:54:25 | |
Curious about where to even begin when thinking about full therapeutic disclosures? Join Amie, Alana, and guest, Luke Gordon, as they discuss the emotional preparation needed for both partners, especially focusing on the betrayer’s steps toward full transparency. Learn how to navigate the complexities of disclosure including the importance of empathy, the role of professionals, how to approach questions, and the value of impact letters. Whether you're the one who betrayed or the one betrayed, this conversation offers valuable tools and validation for building a foundation of healing and possible reconciliation during the disclosure process. Get our FREE eBook “Is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure Right For Me?” delivered straight to your inbox. Sign up here! Referenced in this episode:
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| BONUS EPISODE: Healthy Attachments With Dating Expert Loni Harmon | 09 Sep 2022 | 00:37:23 | |
If you think this is just for you single ladies, think again! You will all love this episode. but, yes all you single ladies this is also to give you a little preview of what you will be getting at our next DIVORCE RETREAT in October! Loni Harmon is amazing and so fun and will be one of our guest speakers at the retreat. Did I mention you don't want to miss this?! We’ve got an awesome bonus episode for you today, because we’re talking to THE dating expert, Loni Harmon. Loni is a licensed clinical social worker with over 10 years of experience helping singles create secure, lasting relationships. Loni is also a guest speaker for our upcoming divorce retreat in October. Clearly we were meant to cross paths, because we share passions about very similar things. We love helping women and men who are trying to navigate dating and really date healthy. And when you’re setting your priorities in a healthy relationship, one of the first things you want to consider is what we’re discussing today: healthy attachment. What’s the big deal about attachment?Attachment theory came about in the 1950s and essentially theorizes that early experiences with our primary caregivers set the tone for how we attach in other major relationships throughout our lives. And depending on how that caregiver showed up, that’s how we learned how to interact with the world. But it’s important to note: you are not your attachment style, and it’s not set in stone. So you can absolutely go about healing your attachment style and cultivate healthy attachments in dating. Attachment style summaryWe cover three different attachment styles in this conversation, which include:
***In this episode you will get a basic idea of what attachment styles look like, and how you might identify with the different styles. If you want to learn more about his we recommend the book Attached, where you can also take the assessment to find out your style. ****If you are divorced, it's time to treat yourself- click here for more information on the retreat coming up in October. *****If you are looking for resources for your young single adult , or know one who could use tools and concepts for healthy dating and self empowerment, (who doesn't?!) then share this link with a YSA you know. Next course starts September 11th! *****Check out Loni Harmon on Instagram Don't miss out! Follow Amie & Alana on Social Media | |||
| Trauma Bonding Part 2 & Over-functioning | 06 Sep 2022 | 00:37:06 | |
In this continuation of our discussion on trauma bonding from last week, we’re bringing a second topic into the mix: over-functioning. Over-functioning in relationships is a pattern where one person tends to take on all the thoughts, feelings, and responsibilities for both people in the relationship. It’s a way of establishing a sense of control – a common result in cases of trauma bonding where the balance of control is disproportionate. A lot of times we miss the signs of over-functioning, particularly within relationships in recovery, because we don’t really see that it’s not healthy. It can be tricky to identify if you’re a natural caregiver. We think that’s how we should be functioning, or we may use it as a way to manage (ie: avoid) our own feelings. So how do you move forward once you recognize patterns of over-functioning in yourself? You’ll Learn:
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| Trauma Bonding | 30 Aug 2022 | 00:37:54 | |
We’re going to tackle a hard topic for our 100th episode today: trauma bonding. Many women don’t realize they’re either in trauma bonds themselves or they know someone who is. It’s a lot more prevalent than most of us expect. Let’s get some clarity around the term ‘trauma bonding’ and what it means, so we can better understand our relationships and experiences. What is a trauma bond? To quote Jourdan Travers, LCSW, “Trauma bonds are the attachments we have with our abusers. It's when we have fond feelings or miss individuals who have abused us because we've developed a connection to them. One minute things are good, and then the next, they're not.” It's possible to become trauma bonded to a parent or any other person in your life. But our focus is on trauma bonding in romantic relationships. There are so many nuances and complications around this topic. But we want this episode to serve as a starting point for you to get curious about your own experiences, and decide if and how you want to create different experiences moving forward. You’ll Learn:
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| Loving Your Body After Betrayal Trauma | 23 Aug 2022 | 00:46:07 | |
So many of us, mostly women, have a really hard time with loving their bodies. The world tends to work against us as well- even if well intended, many messages are offering this idea that our bodies are not ok and they need to be different. Many feel they have the wrong body or something is wrong with their body. We are constantly judging our bodies against others’ and now days, against social media. Today Amie shares 7 tools to help you lean into loving your body again, or perhaps for the first time! ~Getting To The Root ~Tapping Into Intuition- Trusting Your Gut ~Letting It Flow- Emotions ~Personal Empowerment- Ignite the Fire Within ~Expand The Heart- Choosing Love ~Having A Voice- Know Your Truth ~Connection- Access Your Higher Self Connecting with your body is such beautiful work and I invite each of you to lean into this work, intentionally. To help you further your healing in this area, I will be hosting a live workshop for those who really want to dive deeper into this for themselves. Join the interest list by clicking the link below. https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/body-love-class/ FREE YSA Webinar Registration- August 30th!! | |||
| The Power of Do Overs | 16 Aug 2022 | 00:23:37 | |
When you have your next out-of-body experience of watching yourself scream at your kids, instead of waiting until they’re asleep to cry or sneak in their bedroom to hug them and kiss them and feel so much guilt… What if you gave yourself permission for mistakes and do-overs as a parent? What if we could make a mess and have the privilege of cleaning up our mess? Sometimes we show up in a way that we wish we could do over. It’s inevitable - we’re not perfect. Particularly as you progress through the stages of healing after infidelity, it can feel like every mistake is the end of the world. But there are ways to have healthy do-overs with your children and even your partner - when you make the conscious decision to learn to show up differently. We’re joined in conversation today by Luke Gordon, whose story of recovery has been so powerful, and who has done the work to show up as a strong parent willing to heal the parent-child relationship. You’ll Learn:
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| Processing Betrayal Trauma | 09 Aug 2022 | 00:09:41 | |
The Power of Processing and How It Can Help You Move Through Betrayal Trauma How do you know if you’re doing the work it takes to heal? One big aspect of doing the work and healing is learning to process what's happening and allowing yourself to feel all your feelings. But there can be some confusion about what that actually looks like - especially when it comes to processing versus venting. We're going to cover the main differences between the two, and how knowing these differences will keep you out of unhealthy patterns and progressing toward healing from betrayal trauma. You’ll Learn:
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| Blaming In-Laws | 02 Aug 2022 | 00:21:19 | |
We know how important it is as a parent to connect with your child in order to establish a healthy attachment, create safety, and encourage them to talk to you when they’re facing unhealthy issues or addictions. So when it’s your partner that’s struggling with sexual addiction, it’s common to blame their parents or be frustrated with their parents, looking for justice or validation for the issues you’re now facing. We’re taking this opportunity to talk about some of the common thoughts our brains offer when we’re feeling threatened, when we’re facing sexual addiction or progressing through the stages of healing after infidelity, and shed some light on new ways to interpret the impact of the relationship between us and our partner’s parents. You’ll Learn:
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| What To Share, When To Share & How Much To Share With Kids | 26 Jul 2022 | 00:40:00 | |
A question that comes up a lot in our women’s groups dealing with sexual addiction is, “Should I be talking to my kids about this?” And experts are divided on this question. Which just goes to show - every situation is incredibly nuanced. We're giving you some points to consider about sharing with your kids, but since every situation is different, there’s no universal checklist (we know - it sucks). And because we can’t speak to every possible situation in one conversation, we’re talking in broad, general terms. We highly recommend working with a therapist or coach to navigate your particular situation. You’ll Learn:
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| Talking To Your Kids About Pornography...On Purpose! | 19 Jul 2022 | 00:31:17 | |
As much as we may want to, we can’t protect our kids from everything. They’re going to see porn, and their bodies are going to react, but they need to know it doesn’t mean they’re bad or wrong. Our job as parents is to bring these issues out into the open, talk about them, and not let them hide away to become a source of shame. Talking to your kids about porn can be tough. But no matter how old your kids are, having conversations around sexuality is important. Just know: you don’t have to know everything and have all the answers immediately. Today's conversation will show you how to communicate openly and effectively about healthy sexuality using the tools and resources from our conversation. You’ll Learn:
Want support navigating your own journey? Check out our coaches here at CHOOSE RECOVERY SERVICES Up and coming courses: Dating After Divorce- August 26th-28th Young Single Adult Dating and Self Empowerment Course- September 11th Believing In You Group Coaching Program - August 10th Resources we discussed in todays episode and for your consideration: | |||
| Responding To Your Child When You Find Out They've Been Looking At Pornography | 12 Jul 2022 | 00:47:19 | |
In this episode of Choose To Be, we’re walking you through some simple tools and how to respond when you discover your kids are looking at porn. In this day and age, with the sexually saturated culture we have, our kids will be exposed to pornography. So when that happens, how are we going to respond? What will that look like? We are giving you the tools to handle this situation when it comes up, whether your child comes to you with questions or disclosures or you discover the behavior yourself. Some topics we cover today:
If you are suffering from betrayal trauma and want to know what your next step is, book a free consultation with us to find what is best for you and your needs. Your path to healing awaits. Please leave a review on APPLE PODCAST so we can reach more men and women who are looking for tools to choose recovery and choose healing We referenced Matt Fradd today, you can check out his talk HERE | |||
| Take Back the Holidays - With Sarah Morales | 25 Oct 2024 | 00:27:11 | |
The holidays are quickly approaching. Are you emotionally ready for them? Today we are thrilled to welcome Sarah Morales, the "deconstructing gaslighting guru," as she shares strategies for taking back control of the holiday season. Sarah offers practical insights on recognizing toxic patterns and protecting your emotional wellbeing. She previews her upcoming workshop that will help you move from merely surviving the holidays to reclaiming them on your own terms. Register for Sarah’s Take Back the Holidays Workshop
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| When Your Spouse or Ex Emotionally Hurts Your Children | 05 Jul 2022 | 00:31:01 | |
Amie and Alana address the issue of when your spouse or ex is emotionally hurting your children or disappointing them over and over and over, and the impact that has on your children and on you. A lot of big feelings come up when you see something affecting your children, and this can be a particularly difficult situation. Addiction makes it really difficult to connect with other humans, including your kids. You want to protect them, and you’re also trying to repair the relationship that could still be causing them pain. When there is this level of conflict in a marriage, all kids are going to be impacted. They’ve already been impacted. They feel it. Rather than trying to protect our kids from this (which probably isn’t even possible), we can offer them the space to feel the feelings that are showing up. Some topics we cover today:
If you are suffering from betrayal trauma and want to know what your next step is, book a free consultation with us to find what is best for you and your needs. Your path to healing awaits. Please leave a review on APPLE PODCAST so we can reach more men and women who are looking for tools to choose recovery and choose healing | |||
| Help! My Kids Don't See Why I Need Healing | 28 Jun 2022 | 00:32:59 | |
Join Amie and Alana in today's conversation around how to navigate relationships with your adult children when they don't see your healing work the way you do. Healing from betrayal trauma can be complex, and this shows up often when it comes to navigating your trauma with your kids. Do you ever find yourself trying to explain to your children why you need healing or why you are trying to have healthy boundaries? Do you ever fall into the trap of trying to get them to see your side of things? When children don't see the changes, boundaries and healthy independence as a positive thing it can almost feel like another betrayal. We of course want our children to be happy for us, support us and totally understand why we are making the changes in our lives! Yet, not all children will. Some topics we cover today:
Most importantly, you doing your work truly will show them what healthy looks like and it's up to them if and when they choose to be healthy too. Keep choosing healing, recovery and of course, keep choosing YOU! Check out Amie's TEEN and Young Single Adult programs so your child can learn some of the amazing tools you are learning as well, but applied to their own life and situations. Alana holds an amazing interactive in-person TEEN group- check that out HERE Are you a man who wants to understand better his wife's trauma and wants to learn more empathy? Join Alana's Help Her Heal Group or Choose's Men's 180 Group Need more support? Check out all our amazing resources and team at chooserecoveryservices.com including workshops, webinars, healing retreats, full disclosures, and more! Please leave a review on APPLE PODCAST so we can reach more men and women who are looking for tools to choose recovery and choose healing | |||
| Young Single Adults Sharing Wisdom | 21 Jun 2022 | 00:37:44 | |
Today Amie interviews a few women who were apart of the Young Single Adult Dating and Self Empowerment Course. The messages these women have for you today is inspiring to say the least. They have been through their own traumas and trials and have learned how to apply tools and concepts to help them heal, move forward in their journey and have a whole new outlook on life. Sound too good to be true? Listen for yourself. They are truly inspiring women. If you know someone who is between the age of 18-24 share this episode along with the previous episode titled Hope For The Future. The next YSA Dating and Self Empowerment Course will be starting September 11th. You can register for your spot HERE If you are single and over the age of 24 and would like to learn these same tools and concepts Amie FINALLY has her date for the long anticipated Dating After Divorce Course August 26th-28th. No, you don't actually have to be ready to date in order to take this course! To register for that click HERE For more groups and courses available to help you along your journey head over to chooserecoveryservices.com | |||