About two years ago, a guy friend said to me "I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn't do it." Because of this podcast I'm sworn to secrecy, so I couldn't tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends, we can't imagine that someone we know would ever have an emotional or physical affair. This is why it is not uncommon that I hear from betrayed partners, "I was blindsided when I found out!" This is what happened to my guest Shea. Shea is her real name because with the support of Shea's husband, they decided together that appearing on Cheating: When Love Lies would be a part of Shea's healing. Beth Miller, relationship coach and owner of Soulifywellness is back to share her relationship expertise. Do you think that your partner would never ever cheat on you? Well, so did Shea. @cheatingwhenlovelies @soulifywellness https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link (https://www.facebook.com/groups/ infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link)

Let’s call this episode the Halloween edition because I am spooked by guest’s husband’s very odd behavior—like getting fake restaurant receipts to prove he was dining somewhere when actually, he wasn’t. My guest caught her husband in countless lies by tracking his car. She even found a bag in her husband’s closet containing the most shocking, damning evidence of cheating one could possibly find, and yet she refuses to confront him to let him know that she’s on to his cheating ways. Why does she do this? And what was in that bag? You’ll never guess, so join me now for this spooky Halloween edition of CWLL to find out. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Tony and Nicole were secret lovers who became a couple after they cheated on and eventually left their spouses. They have that super passionate kind of love that takes you over, and you cannot deny. But what does an affair cost your children and the spouse you've left behind? They say, "he'll never leave his wife" or "she'll never leave her husband" but Tony did and Nicole did - right before Thanksgiving. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe like and share with anyone you know who's been affected by infidelity. Thank you!

What if you suspected your partner had a secret lover. You could just feel in your gut. Something in your relationship changed, and you're convinced your partner is seeing, or even worse, having sex with someone else. Maybe you start snooping and sniffing around to see what this could-be cheater is up to. You might try to get into their phone and their computer, or do some low-key stalking. But what if this lover was right there in plain sight? Maybe your spouse's secret lover is your best friend, your neighbor, or your cousin. As horrible as that sounds unfortunately it's not sooooo uncommon. What if your spouse moved their lover right into your OWN house? You think it's impossible, then you need to hear my guest today! (My guest's name and voice has been changed to protect her identity)

When I was growing up a “hall pass” was the thing you needed in middle school in order to leave class and go to the bathroom. That’s not what a “hall pass” is anymore. Today’s definition is a lot sexier. According to my guest, a “hall pass” let’s you cheat without begin called a cheater. Lets you explore without having to explain. Lets you have sex with someone else without exiting your relationship. It’s time to get schooled on the “hall pass”with my guest relationship coach and top selling author Stacey Herrera. You can find Stacey at: https://twitter.com/StaceyNHerrera https://medium.com/@staceyherrera https://staceyherrera.com

On this episode I meet one of the Internet’s most successful and sought after cheating consultants. Yes, a cheating consultant - as in someone who will teach you how to cheat most effectively. Dark Horse, is what he calls himself and his blog https://cheatershandbook.com/ is the go to spot for advice on how to cheat, and how not to get caught. But don’t contact Dark Horse to find out how to have your first affair because he’ll caution you not to start cheating. Then he’ll block your emails to make sure he’s not the one encouraging you to begin having affairs. Dark Horse advises how to cheat successfully, yet counsels not to start cheating in the first place? Seems complicated. So join me as I find out this wildly successful cheating consulting business actually works.

Your relative tells you they have proof your spouse is cheating on you, which eliminates all speculation as to whether or not cheating rumors swirling around are true. On this episode we learn how a betrayed wife blamed the messenger for exposing the details of her cheating husband’s escapades. If only the messenger had kept his mouth shut, the marriage could have hummed along as a surreptitiously unfaithful and seemingly happy union: at least that was the wife’s point of view. Was the messenger wrong to tell? Should he have kept his mouth shut? Would you tell? Does the wife blaming the messenger make sense? Join me as we explore the question … do you tell, or don’t you? (Names + places have been changed to protect the guest’s privacy).

Is cheating ever justified or perhaps your only way out? This episode's guest, (we'll call her Bethany) suffered for years in a highly toxic home and relationship. It wasn't until Bethany's abusive partner discovered that she was having an affair that Bethany was immediately forced to flee her primary relationship and find solace in her forbidden lover's arms. Is there ever a world in which cheating is not only right, but the only way to right a wrong?

Is it love, or an obsession? What is it when you give and give to someone who not only takes and takes, but abuses your kindness then intentionally seeks to hurt you. I rarely use the word narcissist on Cheating: When Love Lies, but the man that my guest Diane (not her real name) fell in love with and helped get a green card, seems to fit the definition of a narcissist to a tee. This person Diane describes is so incredibly mean and cold hearted. What's particularly heartbreaking is how long Diane endured her husband's abuse and neglect. Time after time she trusted him although his lying, cheating ways were not only reprehensible, but at times criminal.

Listeners may remember a past episode called “I Am A Christian Conservative Leader Having An Affair.” It was about a young woman who espoused the tenets of her religion, namely fidelity and honesty, despite her having a lesbian affair with her partner who is married to a man. Christine is back because although her affair has now been exposed, Christine’s affair partner is still unable (or unwilling) to leave her marriage and commit to her relationship with Christine. Christine lives in a constant state of flux, as her partner is determined one day then hesitant the next to leave her husband. All this back and forth has made Christine feel insecure and undervalued - like a pawn in her lover’s chess game. Tired of living in a constant state of uncertainty, Christine has come to explore the question: when is it time for the ‘other woman’ to end the affair?

If you suspect your partner is cheating, do you seek out tangible proof, or do you just trust your gut feeling? Suppose you trust your gut, but your spouse or partner swears to you, promises you, “there’s nothing going on.” Do you suppress your instincts and convince yourself that covert operations to discover the truth aren’t necessary? My guest today relied first on her gut, and second on her fact-finding skills to try and nab her husband in what she believed were two different affairs. Was she right? Was she wrong? Did her husband lie to her face? Was all that surreptitious snooping worth it? And where did her marriage end up? Join me to find out!

My guest today lived his traditional family life and his ultimate affair fantasy. He had the suburban dream of a devoted wife and two small children, but the moment he stepped foot in the cosmopolitan city where he worked, he became a slick, handsome playboy with a stunning, sexy, lover. But slowly he noticed his lover started to change. Her attitudes and behaviors became disturbing. He became afraid of her. My guest talks about his guilt and deep self loathing for having this 16 year affair, and about his quandary: should he leave his affair partner who appeared to be falling apart? This is a guilt ridden, shamed and fragile man. Join me to hear his story.

Can being cheated on be the best thing that ever happens to you? Brendan Fitzgibbons, comedian and host of the podcast "Spiritual Asshole," joins me to talk about his transition from needy, codependent, boyfriend to self confident, single guy. With a mix of humor, vulnerability and common sense thinking, Brendan explains how being cheated on took him on a journey that changed his life from sad and directionless to purposeful and full of joy.

You meet the man of your dreams and you fall madly in love. He's from another country, and his homeland is far from yours. One day he gets his dream job abroad and you agree to follow him to a foreign country, then back to his homeland to start a family. Years later the relationship starts to fall apart and he winds up having an affair. This is what happened to my guest whom we'll call Susan. When Susan decides she wants to leave her cheating husband, she soon finds out that the worst part about following him wasn't leaving her homeland, her parents or giving up her own career, but something far, far worse than she ever could have imagined. Joining Susan and me is Beth Miller, owner of Soulify Wellness. Beth's 12 week program teaches women how to transform themselves in order to transform their lives and relationships. Using Beth's Soulify Wellness method, Lee and many women explore memories and unprocessed emotions which are often the real reasons for the unhealthy patterns and communication issues in a marriage or partnership. Find Beth at: www.freemarriageguide.com/ www.instagram.com/soulifywellness/ www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ www.soulifywellness.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen Share your own story at Jillianhamilton.online. Follow, subscribe and share @cheatingwhenlovelies Tik tok Jillianhamilton23

A 2 minute loyalty test-Yup! Boyfriends and girlfriends can find out in just minutes if their partner is faithful or a cheater. My guest Ayrel, better known as IknowAyrel, has developed a huge following to the tune of 91M likes, 3.9M followers on Tik Tok, and almost 300,00 Instagram followers, by conducting his signature loyalty tests on college campuses and in public venues. On this episode we find out what Ayrel’s loyalty test is, and how he does it. Ayrel and I also discuss what he’s learned about how young people view fidelity in relationships. Finally, we get up close and personal when Ayrel talks about how he views cheating, truth and honesty in his own personal relationships.

How many wives would choose to meet their husband’s lover? Would you sit down and have a discussion with your spouse and his lover about their affair? What would you hope learn from that conversation? Perhaps something that could justify, rationalize or at least explain why your spouse cheated on you. This is what happened to my guest (let’s call her Tiffany.) Tiffany confronted her husband, his lover and her husband. But when Tiffany told me how her husband’s young lover described their affair, I thought “Wow — this husband really got duped!”

Gaslighting is a term we often hear, but would you know if it was happening to you? Gaslighting is when an abuser manipulates you and tries to create doubt and confusion around something you know to be true. The abuser will deny what they said or did ever happened, which in turn makes you question yourself, your observations, and your sanity. My guest today whom we’ll call Wende, was was gaslighted throughout her nine year relationship, so she never really knew if her partner cheated on her. I have my own point of view on that, but I’ll let you decide what you think was really going on. It will amaze you to learn what Wende’s job is! It reminds me how trusting we can all become when love and lust drives our emotions.

Her recent Spectator article called “I Regret My Promiscuity” and the intense social media interest it sparked, reminded me just how provocative writer, comedian, and podcast host Bridget Phetasy truly is. https://spectatorworld.com/topic/regret-casual-sex-promiscuity-slut/ When a woman tells me “Big dicked womanizers were my kyptonite … I loved them” I stop and listen.  Only a woman as funny, vulnerable and authentic as my guest Bridget Phetasy could get away with statements like this.  On this episode, Bridget shares her personal stories of affairs and heartbreak: “I thought I would be a prisoner of loving him forever…. I’d be a sad mistress who would never love anyone again,” she said. Bridget also describes with unapologetic candor how she weaponized her sexuality to seduce men all over the world. Told by anyone else, Bridget’s stories of love, lust, seduction, and rejection would be utterly dreary. But true to her nature, Bridget finds both humor and heartbreak in her incredible love life journey. Bridget Phetasy is a Spectator columnist and contributing editor. She is also the host of the Weekly Dumpster Fire on YouTube and the Walk-Ins Welcome podcast.

You’re married and you’ve been cheated on. You end your marriage because you feel that the trust and integrity of your relationship is gone forever, and you’ve lost all hope that the life you dreamed of - with your spouse by your side- can ever be achieved.  You’re devastated, and the demise of your relationship is about to be compounded by shame. Your community is about to shame you and shun you because you chose to divorce your cheating spouse. It seems inconceivable, but it’s exactly what happened to my guest.

You’re in a bad relationship. You’ve tried to make it work, but you’re still  very unhappy. You’re easily tempted to have an affair with someone who love bombs you: that’s someone who showers you with attention, gifts and promises for the future. This love bomber appears to be in love with you, and you get completely swept up. In some cases you agree to marry, live with, or even have children with your suitor because isn’t this what love is meant to feel like? Um….? Fast forward and you discover it isn’t love, but obsession, and this person who pays so much attention to you turns into your stalker. Or what about when your spouse’s lover stalks you? Now not only do you have to contend with your partner’s cheating, but also having their lover obsess over you and stalk you! On this episode I welcome Jaimie  Beebe and Jake Deptula hosts of the hit podcast “Strictly Stalking” to talk about when cheating leads to stalking.

It’s still vacation time so this week we’re featuring another one of our favorite episodes “from the vault.” Listeners loved this short fictional story about affairs, and the panel discussion about infidelity that followed. Stay tuned - fresh new episodes of Cheating: When Love Lies are coming soon!  What if you’re married but secretly sending DMs and sexy pictures to someone you're attracted to. What if you’re in a long term relationship, but once or twice a year you give yourself permission to have sex with a random person on a business trip. What if you don’t tell your girlfriend that after each yoga class, you and another hot yogi hang out and get smoothies. Are any or all of these cheating?  This episode addresses all of these questions in a short fictional story I've written called “Is It Cheating, Or Not Quite?”  After reading the story I’ll host my panel of guests: Justin, John, and Amy, who will react to the story and share their own thoughts on infidelity. 

Summer is here. It’s vacation time — so we are taking some of our fav episodes from the vault while everyone here at “Cheating: When Love Lies” gets some well deserved R+R. This episode features a panel discussion about infidelity. 3 diverse people all comment on a story (based on true life events) about an affair. This crew of panelists is opinionated, raw, diverse, unapologetic and a hell of a lotta fun! The Cheating Story: A husband is suspected of having an affair with not just 1, but 4 different women- simultaneously! After the wife gets a bizarre and suspicious phone call in the middle of the night, this husband and wife question whether it’s time to divulge long held secrets and face serious issues that threaten their marriage. Jillian narrates the story, then follows it up with the panel discussion.

Your wife has been sleeping with her assistant. Your partner has been doing the naughty-nasty in the park with the dog walker. Your boyfriend decided to go to his college reunion alone and ran into his ex: the ex he once called the “love of my life.”  Uh oh.  What if when you find out you’ve been cheated on, you refuse to become the devastated, dejected partner who feels cast aside, and instead you immediately start a new, passionate relationship with someone else. Conventional wisdom says take time for yourself to heal after an affair. But my guest Dr. Jennifer Guttman shares inspiring stories of betrayed spouses and partners who immediately went on to find new love - that flourished!  Dr. Jennifer Guttman is a clinical psychologist and motivator specializing in cognitive-behavior therapy featuring the Sustainable Life Satisfaction ® brand. 

My guest Lishone is a true provocateur. Her forceful criticism of men’s behavior as juvenile and lacking self control has caused an uproar on social media. An opinionated writer, some of Lishone’s recent titles implore women to “Stop Begging Men,” and remind women that “Accountability Is Not Hate.”  Lishone’s position on Black men versus Black women is particularly divisive: she declares that Black men “are beneath” Black women, and this is one explanation for why Black men cheat on and mistreat Black women. Lishone is an entrepreneur, marketing executive, author and provocateur. Together she and I will explore the question: “When Women Tolerate Men’s Bad Behavior, Are Men Encouraged To Cheat?”

Your husband‘s affair partner has a brand new car, and you’re driving a 10 -year-old model. Your husband‘s affair partner has a brand new air conditioning system, and you’re sweltering in the heat because your A/C is broken. Your husband seems to have endless resources for his affair partner, and little for you. This is what happened to my guest whom we call Vicky, when she discovered her husband’s untruths, and a multi-year affair partner whom he lavished. What would you do if you discovered your spouse’s affair partner was receiving as much or more emotional and financial support than you? What happens when you discover an affair partner who seems more like your spouse’s main course than their side piece? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for highlights from the show. Tik Tok: Jillianhamilton23 Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.

A mature married man who’s been with his wife for 20 odd years decides to go off and have an affair with a hot young 20 or 30- year-old. Nothing newsworthy there. In fact, some more cynical types might say it’s commonplace. But what about a mature married woman in her 40s or 50s having an affair with a married 20 or 30 something? It feels like she’d be tarred and feathered on Twitter. There’s a double standard for women. On this episode we’re going to talk to a mature married woman (we’ll call Lisa) about her torrid affair with her married, much younger, hottie neighbor. Was it all she expected it to be? Lisa is not her real name is and her voice has been altered.

For the July 4th holiday, we relaunch one of our most popular episodes. A married woman is tortured by the chaos and ever-changing dynamic of her affair with a married man. The woman's lover claims his wife is mean and neglectful and makes his home life miserable. These two married cheaters have a deeply emotional affair peppered with intimacy and fantasies, yet soured by episodes of his ghosting, lies and manipulation. The story is a journey from the day they meet through the months of passion and disappointment the woman faces until she comes to the realization of what their relationship truly is. This short fictional story called “I Cheat Because My Wife Is Mean & Neglectful” is based on true life events. I begin the episode by reading the story then follow it up with a roundtable discussion with my guests Inna Swinton, comedian, lawyer and author of “The Many Lives of Mila”. Ilyssa Panitz, host of “The Divorce Hour with Ilyssa Panitz” on CRN ; reporter and editor of “5 Things You Need to Know to Survive and Thrive During and After a Divorce,” and Director of Content for the NADP. Also joining us is my friend Blake. My guests will react to the story and share their own thoughts about infidelity. If you have a story you’d like to see featured on the show please send it to:JillianHamiltonpodcast@gmail.com

About 20 years into your marriage, you find out that your husband has been cheating on you with your neighbor. You and he go to therapy to try and fix the marriage. While you’re devastated, you remain hopeful because you believe that therapy is going to help your communication, right the wrongs, and ultimately heal the marriage. Fast forward, and you find out the reason he wanted to go to therapy was to break up with you, ask you for a divorce, and leave you and your three children behind. Should you tell your children the truth- can you tell them why daddy is leaving and what he did? Or do you keep your husband’s secret and withhold the truth from your kids? Conventional wisdom tells the wife “keep your mouth shut and don’t involve your kids.” But is that point of view outdated? Why should the betrayed wife suffer in silence and participate in her cheating husband’s cover up? Is it right to be evasive with the kids when they start asking questions? What do you think? What would you do? The guest’s name has been changed and her voice has been altered to protect her privacy.

You’re a wife. You’re fed up. You’re tired. You’ve talked yourself silly trying to be heard, recognized and appreciated by your husband (or partner). When your husband barely responds or is dismissive, you stop trying to communicate with him, and you start seeing your marriage as unsalvageable. This is when a wife can develop walk away wife syndrome. But does walk away wife syndrome literally mean a wife packs her bags and leaves, or is it something even more menacing? How many walk away wives are cheating on their husbands? On this episode I welcome back Ossiana Tepfenhart, writer and social provocateur, to explain the correlation between walk away wife syndrome and affairs.

You’re a devoted husband with a loving, committed and intelligent wife. You want to family; a traditional American dream with a wife, kids, and a cozy home. But secretly you’re in love with another man. You and he have an emotional, passionate and sexy love affair that you can’t seem to put aside. For my guests today, Mark and David (not their real names or voices) this was their life, until more than a decade after they met, their lives were changed forever.

You’ve cheated. You’ve done the deed. Whether that’s sleeping with, having oral sex with, or hiding an emotional affair with a person outside of your relationship, you’ve done it: you’ve created the time and space to have an affair. Now you lie incessantly to cover it up. Your conscience is telling you that you’ve got a decision to make. Do you come clean, or do you deny, deny, deny the affair at all costs? On this episode I welcome Marie Murphy who is a relationship coach with a PhD in the sociology of sexuality. Dr. Murphy uses a unique, individualized and non - judgmental approach to help her clients answer the question: Should you tell your partner if you've cheated on them?

This is a classic case of what would you do? What would you do if just two weeks before your wedding you found out your partner was cheating on you? Would you confide in a family member or tell a friend? Would you confront the cheating partner or exist in uncertainty? Would you immediately cancel the wedding, or take time to consider your options? Would you even walk down the aisle? This nightmare of a predicament happened to my guest Greyson Ferguson. Greyson is a betrayed partner who went on to write very candidly about his experience. Find out what happens to this totally unsuspecting fiancé, when just days before his wedding he finds out his bride-to-be is having an affair.

Is it possible to be a beautiful, accomplished woman in your 30s, and have never once cheated on a partner - not even a secret emotional flirtation? My guest Joanne Nosuchinsky, co-host of the show “Mornin’ with Bill and Joanne” is that woman. Joanne has managed to remain faithful in her relationships even at times when a partner has cheated on her. Conversely, her very good friend and co-host Bill Schulz has slept with “many married women” (his words not mine). I plan on asking Bill how many is many, and why he thinks they all slept with him. Bill says the married women he’s been with “don’t expect very much.” (Umm… what does that mean?) Bill, Joanne and I also play a game that tests their knowledge of modern dating terms and tactics. It’s a show filled with LMAO moments, and some pretty surprising revelations from both Bill and Joanne.

You can’t stand the sight of your spouse. You feel nothing but contempt for your partner. You’re obsessed with idea that someone who actually deserves you is out there. In your mind, nothing could be worse than living out the rest of your life with the person laying next to you, eating meals with you, vacationing with you, and yes - once or twice a year - having sex with you! So you - like the 75 million plus people on Ashley Madison and other married but dating sites - give yourself permission to have an affair. You’re imagining the incredible sex, affection, and understanding you’re going to get from your affair partner. But what happens when the fantasy falls short, your affair ends miserably, and your spouse finds out you’re cheating? Moreover, what if your affair is brought on, in part, by mania or compulsive tendencies? We’re not talking clinical research or medical advice here, but my guest and I do take a completely unscientific yet imaginative look at the relationship between mania and affairs. Inna Swinton, author of the witty, captivating, and Kirkus lauded novel “The Many Loves of Mila,” joins me to talk about how her protagonist discovers the role mania plays in her infidelity, and if her character’s struggles actually occur in real life.

My guest today whom we’ll call Pam, was a pastor’s affair partner. She is married, and so is the pastor. Pam believes that she wasn’t the only secret lover in this pastor’s life. She thinks she is one among many women whom this pastor groomed to become his affair partner. Are Pam’s suspicions correct? How is it that a faith leader whom we trust and look to for moral guidance can carry on an affair? Join me to find out. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for highlights from the show. Tik Tok: Jillianhamilton23

We’ve all heard scandalous stories of Christian conservative leaders who commit adultery. They cheat on their spouses with all kinds of secret lovers and hide it from their congregations, communities, neighbors, and friends — then lie about it to the world. We can’t understand how and why these self professed beacons of morality can espouse the virtues of honesty and truth, yet act so deceptively. On this episode we speak to one of these Christian conservatives. She’s not a headliner, but she’s known and respected in the Christian conservative community. Why, why is she having an affair? How does she live with herself? Does she really believe she’s going to get away with it? You’re about to find out ….

Would you go see a psychic to find out if your partner was cheating on you? I would, and I’d want the answer the minute I walked through the door. My guest today, world renown psychic, psychotherapist, lecturer, and best selling author Vincent Genna says “No,” that’s not the right approach when seeking guidance from a psychic. Vincent Genna’s eagerly anticipated new book called “The Secret That’s Holding You Back” is an eye opening, hopeful and optimistic look at how healing yourself from past pain can affect so many outcomes in your life including your career and relationships- it can even affect if your partner will cheat on you! It was a challenge for me to embrace the full scope of Vincent’s assertions about optimism and the laws of attraction, and you’ll hear that in our point counterpoint. However, I have to admit by the time we got to the end of our conversation, I couldn’t help but question myself: can I improve my attitude to help bring out the most positive outcomes in my life- relationships and otherwise? My best friend Suzy is my co-host on this episode. She’s here to weigh in because we are both fascinated by psychic ability, and she was thrilled to join in my conversation with the inimitable Vincent Genna.

My guest Novi Brown stars on the hit series Tyler Perry’s Sistas on BET and on BET Her. She’s also the creator and host of the podcast Conversations & Constellations with Novi Brown. Novi talks about how knowing your astrological chart and understanding astrology overall can possibly help: - predict cheating and betrayal in your future -identify what signs may be more likely to cheat or be faithful -show how the planets affect your love relationships, and -guide you to make better choices about your romantic life While Novi openly says “ I’m a student of life, so please do your own research…” (in other words, use her words to guide you while understanding your own free will) I have to admit, Novi nailed it when she talked about my astrological characteristics and pattens. We had a great time together! Join us in our fun and insightful conversation.

It’s everyone woman’s biggest nightmare. You find out your best friend is having an affair with your husband. In one fell swoop you loose your partner, and the person you believed was your ride or die bestie. You can’t believe the betrayal. It seems completely inexplicable, or is it? You may never think this situation is justified, but maybe you can comprehend how it can happen although you won’t ever sanction it. Laura (not her real name), my guest to today is a great mom who is killing it in business. She’s pretty and smart, someone you could easily imagine being your best friend. Laura was also that mistress: the woman who had an affair with her best friend’s husband.

Can your own mother set you up to live life as a betrayed partner? Fran ( not her real name) my guest today says “yes”. Fran says that her childhood and adolescent years spent under her mother’s roof primed her to become a betrayed partner. Considering 3 out of 4 of Fran’s most recent lovers cheated, I thought her theory about why her mom was to blame was one worth investigating.

Imagine a lavish life with a wealthy husband where you feel secure that you and your children will be taken care of forever. Imagine the thrill of first-class vacations to your family’s luxurious homes in the most exotic places. Imagine your husband spoiling you with expensive jewels and clothes. Imagine all this with a husband you’re only mildly attracted to. On the other hand, what if you’re a single mom, struggling financially to make ends meet - wondering from month to month how you’re going to survive. Would you accept the proverbial man on a white horse coming to rescue you financially and emotionally? Even if that man is married? Even if you don’t love him, or can barely bring yourself to have sex with him? Most women (at least publicly) say they would never find themselves in either circumstance, but given either situation what would you do? Lisa, my guest on this episode experienced not one, but both of these circumstances. Find out what she did to make it through.

If you found out your husband was cheating on you, how long would it take for you to serve him, get him out of the house, then fall madly love with another man? When best-selling author Gabrielle Stone found out her husband was cheating on her with a teenager, it only took weeks for her to dissolve her marriage. Gabrielle had zero tolerance for her husband’s lies, cheating and very young paramour. Heartbreaking as it sounds, the outcome was actually a gift to Gabrielle and to all of us because it led her to find love like she’s never known before, and to write the best selling books “Eat, Pray FML” and “The Ridiculous Misadventures Of A Single Girl” that recount her journey from heartbreak to self-discovery.

How is it that some people always seem to have an unfaithful partner? Time after time they’re cheated on, lied to and betrayed. Often these people appear to have the perfect spouse or doting partner, until the whole facade comes crashing down in a torrent of lies. Then there are those who willingly accept to be the OTHER. In most of their relationships they’re not THE one - they’re mostly the OTHER one. But what if always being #2, the hidden lover, and the side piece was your own damn fault? On this episode my guest Ossiana Tepfenhart and I explore the notion of side piece energy: what is it, how to know if you’ve got it, and how to get rid of it (if you choose to do so).

What if you suspected your partner had a secret lover. You could just feel in your gut. Something in your relationship changed, and you’re convinced your partner is seeing, or even worse, having sex with someone else. Maybe you start snooping and sniffing around to see what this could-be cheater is up to. You might try to get into their phone and their computer, or do some low-key stalking. But what if this lover was right there in plain sight? Maybe your spouse’s secret lover is your best friend, your neighbor, or your cousin. As horrible as that sounds unfortunately it’s not sooooo uncommon. What if your spouse moved their lover right into your OWN house? You think it’s impossible, then you need to hear my guest today! (My guest’s name and voice has been changed to protect her identity)

What would you do if you found out your partner was cheating on you? Would you accept it, deny it, or seek revenge? How would you respond if a sexy someone tried to lure you into an affair? Could you resist or would you even want to? What if seeking out conflIct with your spouse could actually strengthen your relationship and save your marriage from infidelity… My guest Jayson Gaddis, renowned relationship coach, founder of The Relationship School, and author of “Getting To Zero: How To Work Though Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships” says conflict is the key to a deep and meaningful love partnership. So if you want to hear how conflict is a proven way to nurture your relationship or heal after an affair, put your headphones on and get your dukes up !( Figuratively, of course !)

Could you be paid to keep your affair silent? Would a big fat check keep you from exposing your affair when your married affair partner goes back to his wife? How much would it take to keep you quiet?

On this episode we talk about fantasy: erotic fantasy worlds that men create in their minds inspired by scrolling social media. It’s not about an addiction to porn, it’s something else. A whole new world of fantasy that many men are addicted to despite the disastrous impact it has on marriages and partnerships. In my conversation with leading psychologist Dr. Jennifer Guttman we explore a whole new genre of cheating, that prior to social media, just did not exist.

Jordan Harbinger, host of "The Jordan Harbinger Show" is one of the biggest names in podcasting and my guest on this episode. He’s interviewed some of the greatest minds and celebrities of our time including: Mark Cuban, Ray Dalio, Malcolm Gladwell, T-Pain, and Matthew McConaughey. But on this episode of Cheating: When Love Lies, Jordan is the one answering the questions —lots of them, about infidelity and cheating. Considering his extensive background as a human dynamics expert, internationally acclaimed self-help guru and respected attorney, Jordan is perfectly positioned to answer questions such as: —How to outmaneuver someone who’s gaslighting you —How to get the truth out of anyone —What to do when you find out you’re being cheated on and lied to —How to get a lover to commit Jordan is witty, smart and super experienced in the relationship space, so not only will you be entertained, but you’ll also hear useful relationship strategies and tactics. Whether you’re a cheater or betrayed partner, you’ll learn from this interview with one of the top names in relationship dynamics and podcasting.

Do most rock legends cheat on tour or is that simply a myth? Is it possible to resist the temptation of men and women who revere you for your talent and star power, then make themselves available to you as intermittent sex partners while you’re on tour? The answer may surprise you. On today’s show I welcome John Malkin, former MTV executive, lead singer of the rock band The Simple Radicals and a self professed rock aficionado. John shares some great stories about rock legends from the 80s, 90s and beyond who’ve cheated big time, and some who haven’t been unfaithful at all. You’ll hear about rock legend Mark Farner from Grand Funk (We're an American Band; Some Kind of Wonderful)— stories John first heard when he interviewed Farner on his podcast “Music and A Brew.” We’ll also hear about Metallica in stories John culled from VH1s “Behind The Music.” In this episode we hear all this more, as we take a look at cheating and fidelity in the world of rock n’ roll.