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One summer they’re in Year 6 doing the school show, and the next they’re in secondary school, pulling away and wanting to do everything on their own. Nobody prepares us for that part.

Therapist Nicki Cohen is back! Nicki works with teenagers, was the mental health lead at a large secondary school, and is a mom to three boys aged 13, 16 and 19. Last week I talked about how we become a mom over and over again as our kids grow. This week Nicki shows us what that looks like in the teenage years, and how to stay close to your teen when they don’t need you in the same way anymore.

In this episode:

• Why pulling away from parents is a normal, healthy part of adolescence, even when it hurts
• Why your job as a parent doesn’t get less important, it just gets a new job description
• Why Nicki thinks 16 to 18 might be the hardest age to parent
• Small language swaps that stop your teen’s back going up
• Moving from the driver’s seat to the passenger seat
• How Nicki handled her 16-year-old going to Reading Festival without doing everything for him
• Side-by-side communication: why the best conversations happen in the car
• Getting into your teen’s world by being curious, even if you know nothing about football or rap
• One-to-one time, and why the quiet ones can get lost in bigger families
• What to do when you can see something’s wrong but they won’t talk to you
• Why letting go can feel like grief, and how two things can be true at once

Nicki’s 3 questions to ask before you step in

1. Can they do this alone?
2. Can they do it with me alongside them?
3. Or is this something I genuinely need to take control of?

Theirs, ours, mine
When your teen falls out with a friend, for example:

• Theirs: deciding what to do and whether to repair the friendship
• Ours: listening, empathising, and sharing our own experience
• Mine: managing the urge to pick up the phone to the other child’s mom!

Language swaps to try

• “What did you do?” → “What’s happened? Do you want to tell me?”
• “You need to do this.” → “What do you think you’re going to do about it?”
• “I told you so.” → “That sounds really hard. What do you need?”

“It’s not about letting go of them. It’s about letting go of control while holding onto connection.” — Nicki Cohen

Episodes mentioned

• Last week: Motherhood Isn’t One Change: How I’ve Grown With My Kids at Every Age 👉 Buzzsprout
• Nicki’s first episode: The Mental Load: What It Really Is & How to Manage It 👉 Buzzsprout

Connect with Nicki
Nicki is a therapist offering counselling for teenagers and adults, as well as sessions for parents to help them better communicate with their teens. She also provides consultancy to charities and organisations on anything mental health related.

 Website: www.nickicohencounselling.co.uk

💛 Back to Me
As Nicki says, when the kids need us less there’s often a “so, what now?” moment for us too. Back to Me helps you get to know who you are now, in whatever season you’re in, whether your youngest is 6 months or 16 years old.
👉 Back to Me! by @itscharliedadia | Stan

Free guide: 7 Signs You’re Drowning in Motherhood
👉 Charlie Dadia (@itscharliedadia) | Stan

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We talk about becoming a mom like it happens once, the day your first baby arrives. But I’ve found that every new age and stage changes you all over again. I’ve been becoming a mom over and over for 12 years.

In this episode I share who I was when I first became a mom and who I am now, what each phase has asked of me, how looking back at my own childhood helps me understand my kids, and why I didn’t enjoy every part of it (and why that’s okay).

In this episode:

• Why becoming a mom isn’t one moment but something that keeps happening
• What the baby and toddler years, starting school, the friendship years and the pre-teen years have each asked of me
• Why the newborn phase feels never-ending the first time, and calmer once you know it’s a season
• Learning to listen instead of rushing to fix things
• What I’ve noticed as my eldest steps into the teenage years: more privacy, more independence, and more grown-up conversations
• How my own first day of high school shaped the way I talked to my son about his
• 3 simple questions to help you understand your child at any age
• Why you can love your children with your whole heart and still find some phases really hard
• Why feeling lost again in a new phase isn’t you going backwards

Try this week: 3 questions to ask yourself

1. What was I like at my child’s age?
2. What did I need back then from the grown-ups around me?
3. Can I give my child some of that now?

I’d love to hear what came up for you, so come and tell me on Instagram @itscharliedadia.

Coming up next week
Therapist Nicki Cohen is back to talk about parenting teenagers. She’ll cover how our job as parents doesn’t get less important when our kids become teens, it just changes, and how to let go of some control while holding onto the connection. Nicki works with teenagers and adults, was a mental health lead at a large secondary school, and is a mom to three teenage boys herself.

Episodes mentioned

• The Night I Became Someone’s Mum 👉 Buzzsprout
• The Separation Anxiety Nobody Talks About 👉 Buzzsprout
• The Mental Load: What It Really Is & How to Manage It (with Nicki Cohen) 👉 Buzzsprout

💛 Back to Me
Back to Me isn’t about going back to who you were before kids. It’s about getting to know who you are now, in the season you’re in. It works whether your youngest is 6 months or 16 years old. It includes the Identity Audit, which you can come back to every time a new phase changes you, and the Regression Rescue Guide for when you feel yourself slipping back into old patterns.
👉 Back to Me! by @itscharliedadia | Stan

Free guide: 7 Signs You’re Drowning in Motherhood
👉 Charlie Dadia (@itscharliedadia) | Stan

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⚠️ This episode talks about domestic abuse, coercive control and financial abuse. Please listen when you feel ready. If you are in danger right now, call 999.

Hannah Wrixen is back on Chat with Charlie! Last time she joined us, Hannah, a mortgage broker and former mortgage underwriter, talked us through how new parents can get on the property ladder. This time she's sharing something much more personal: how she got out of a mentally and financially abusive relationship with a toddler, and rebuilt her life from scratch.

Hannah met her ex at 19 and had her son Adam at 21. The control started small. "You don't need your own bank account, just use mine." "Why see your friend when you can have a coffee with me?" Slowly she lost her money, her friends and her family, while living in another country with no one around her.

In this conversation, Hannah shares:

• How financial and emotional control can creep in so quietly you don't see it happening
• The moment a friend said out loud what Hannah couldn't yet admit
• How she quietly saved money, and how she got herself and Adam on a plane home
• Going back to work, claiming benefits, and the help that's available now that wasn't then
• Getting a court order so Adam could live with her, and how Cafcass and mediation work
• Being skint, the friend who bought her lunch for weeks, and how that pushed her into a career in mortgages
• Buying her own home as a single mom through shared ownership
• Therapy, triggers, learning to trust again, and finding real love
• Why one chapter of your life doesn't define you, and why there is always a way out

📘 My How To Handbook: Universal Credit and other benefits
A step-by-step guide to applying for Universal Credit and checking which other benefits you might be entitled to.
👉 The ‘How to’ Handbook by @itscharliedadia | Stan

If you need help right now

• In immediate danger: call 999. If you can't speak, call 999 from a mobile, stay silent and press 55 when prompted. This tells the operator you need help.
• National Domestic Abuse Helpline (run by Refuge): 0808 2000 247, free, confidential, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. They also have live chat and can help you find refuge accommodation. nationaldahelpline.org.uk
• Women's Aid: information, live chat and a survivors' forum. womensaid.org.uk
• Men's Advice Line: 0808 801 0327, for men experiencing domestic abuse. mensadviceline.org.uk
• Ask for ANI: in many pharmacies (including Boots and Superdrug), ask the pharmacist for "ANI" and they'll take you somewhere private and help you get support.
• Clare's Law: you can ask the police whether a partner has a history of abuse. Search "Clare's Law" on gov.uk.

Financial abuse and money

• Surviving Economic Abuse: support and guides if someone is controlling your money, debt or access to your finances. survivingeconomicabuse.org
• Help with childcare costs: Universal Credit can pay back up to 85% of your childcare costs. If you're starting work and can't afford to pay childcare upfront, ask your work coach about help with upfront childcare costs. You don't have to pay this back. gov.uk/guidance/universal-credit-childcare-costs
• Benefits calculator: check what you might be entitled to at turn2us.org.uk or entitledto.co.uk
• Child Maintenance Service: if the other parent isn't paying towards your child. gov.uk/child-maintenance-service

Custody, Cafcass and legal help

• Cafcass (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service): Cafcass works with families going through the family court in England. Their website has guidance and a free parenting plan you can use to agree arrangements for your children. cafcass.gov.uk
• Family mediation: find an accredited mediator through the Family Mediation Council (familymediationcouncil.org.uk). The government's Family Mediation Voucher Scheme can give up to £500 towards mediation about your children. Mediation isn't always safe or appropriate where there's domestic abuse, so please talk to the mediator or a solicitor about this first.
• Legal aid: if you've experienced domestic abuse, you may be able to get legal aid for family cases. Check at gov.uk/check-legal-aid
• Rights of Women: free legal advice for women on family law and domestic abuse. rightsofwomen.org.uk
• Many family solicitors offer a free first consultation, like the one Hannah had, so it's worth asking.

Emotional support and moving forward

• NHS Talking Therapies: you can refer yourself for free therapy, no GP needed. Search "NHS Talking Therapies" plus your area.
• Gingerbread: advice and community for single parents. gingerbread.org.uk
• Shared ownership: the government scheme that helped Hannah buy her first home. ownyourhome.gov.uk

💛 Staying safe online: if you're worried someone checks your phone or computer, use private/incognito browsing and clear your history after visiting these sites. Refuge has a tech safety guide at refugetechsafety.org.

Connect with Hannah

Email: hiwrixen@outlook.com 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannah_financial_coach/

Tik Tok: Hannah_financial_coach

Listen to Hannah's first episode: How First Time Parents Can Get on the Property Ladder (Even When It Feels Impossible)
👉How First Time Parents can get on the Property Ladder (even when it feels impossible) with Financial Advisor | Hannah Wrixen

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Sources:

• National Domestic Abuse Helpline – Hestia
• Universal Credit childcare costs – GOV.UK
• Universal Credit and childcare – GOV.UK
• Family mediation voucher scheme extended – Family Law

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Pacing the hallway at 3am with a baby who won't settle? On your fourth load of potty training washing before lunch? Sitting in the car after the school run with a lump in your throat?

When you're in the thick of a hard season, your brain tells you this is how life will be forever. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on why these phases feel so all-consuming, why feeling like you're drowning in motherhood is far more common than anyone admits, and how to find your breath when a season feels like too much.

In this episode

- Why hard phases feel permanent (and why you've already survived 100% of them)

- The truth about drowning in motherhood, especially without a village

- Why social media makes you think everyone else is coping better

- 3 practical steps for when a season feels too much: lowering the baseline, staying in the next 15 minutes, and claiming your 10-minute anchor

- A moment to look back at how far you've already come

*Free guide:* Grab 7 Signs You're Drowning in Motherhood (And What Helps) you can get it on my website  https://stan.store/itscharliedadia 

*Ready for more than survival mode?* I help you feel like yourself again in 5 weeks, even if right now you feel like you're drowning in motherhood. Back to Me is my 5-step system for reclaiming your identity, your time and your headspace. Back to Me! by @itscharliedadia | Stan 

*In the potty training trenches?* My simple potty training course takes the stress out of it. Potty Train Like a Pro by @itscharliedadia | Stan

*If this episode helped, you might also love:*

- Why Motherhood Feels So Hard (Even When You Love Your Kids)

- Why "Just Ask for Help" Doesn't Work for Moms (And What Actually Does)

- Self Care for Busy Moms: Small Habits That Make a Big Difference

If this landed for you, please follow the show and leave a quick review. It helps another mom who's drowning find her way here

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If you've felt like the last thing you want after a long day of parenting is to be touched by your partner — even when you love them, even when nothing's wrong — this episode is for you. I'm joined by Becky, a sexologist and relationship psychotherapist, to talk about what actually happens to desire after having a baby, and why it's so much more about your nervous system and your mental load than it is about your relationship.

About Becky: Sexologist, relationship psychotherapist, and tantra practitioner, with 10 years of experience as a yoga teacher before moving into this work. She sees individuals and couples for issues around sex, sexuality, and relationships, and has created a course specifically on rebuilding intimacy after having a baby. 

Becky Crepsley-Fox COSRT, MCCP

Website: https://www.beckycrepsleyfox.com

Company: https://www.connectionclinic.co.uk

Instagram: @becky_crepsley_fox Instagram

Sex after Baby Course: https://www.beckycrepsleyfox.com/challenge-page/sex-after-baby?programId=029c8303-91e2-4d75-95ef-d4c9d3ad98d9

In this episode:

• Why "do you want them, or do you want to want them?" is the real starting question
• Spontaneous vs. responsive desire — and why most women are responsive while media and porn only show spontaneous desire
• Accelerators and brakes: what actually needs to be in place before desire can show up
• Why feeling "touched out" is a real safety mechanism, not something wrong with you
• The nervous system, the mental load, and the "tiger" analogy — why you can't feel sexy while your body still thinks it's in danger
• The 5-minute breathing exercise that regulates your nervous system (and why it's the actual foundation for everything else)
• How to talk to your partner about the mental load without it turning into a fight
• "Simmering": the missing middle layer between being teammates and being sexual, and what it can look like in real life
• Why temporarily taking sex off the table can bring you closer, not further apart

Mentioned in this episode:

• Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski (the book Becky recommends for understanding spontaneous vs. responsive desire)
• Becky's course on sex and intimacy after having a baby https://www.beckycrepsleyfox.com/challenge-page/sex-after-baby?programId=029c8303-91e2-4d75-95ef-d4c9d3ad98d9

If this one hit home, you might also like:

• How to Talk to Your Partner About the Mental Load (Without Starting a Fight) — Aug 9
• The Mental Load: What It Really Is & How to Manage It (with Nicki Cohen) — Jul 26
• Keeping Love Alive After Baby (and Kids) — Mar 22

The mental-load-and-intimacy connection Becky breaks down here is exactly the kind of thing we work through inside Back to Me — if navigating your identity and your relationships after kids is something you're ready to actually work on, that's where I'd point you.

If someone in your life needs to hear this, please send it their way. And thank you, as always, for listening.

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In this episode, Charlie breaks down why the all-or-nothing rebound keeps burning you out, why rigid routines fail in busy family homes, and the single mindset shift that changed everything for me: learning to lower your floor instead of your ceiling.

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If you are sitting in your car outside the nursery or school gates with tears streaming down your face, take a deep breath. 

We spend so much time preparing our children for separation anxiety, but nobody prepares you for the sheer heartbreak of your own. Handing over your baby to someone else never gets easier on your heart, no matter how many times you do it. 

In this episode, I share the honest truth about drop-off heartbreak, what actually happens the second you drive away, and why your clingy toddler might just shock you. Plus, a funny story about why my husband is actually weaker at drop-offs than I am!

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If you feel like you have just crawled across the summer holidays finish line on your hands and knees, covered in sand, suncream, and snack wrappers, take a deep breath. You are not alone.

Every year we tell ourselves that summer will be slow and magical. But running entertainment, catering, dispute resolution, and schedule management for six solid weeks is mentally and physically exhausting. 

In this episode, we talk about what actually happens when the house goes quiet, and why forcing yourself into a rigid, military-grade productivity routine on day one is a recipe for burnout. 

Instead of sprinting, let us talk about how to gently reclaim your brain, your breath, your rhythm, and your identity after summer.

In this episode, we cover:

The post-summer hangover and the big lie we tell ourselves on day one

Step 1: The 48-hour decompression buffer (why you need a landing pad, not a sprint)

Step 2: Emptying the 47 open tabs in your brain and setting up simple home rotas

Step 3: Protecting your non-negotiable 15-minute crack of time

Step 4: Putting mom guilt on trial so you can take up space in your own home

The tiny reclaim: your one action step for tomorrow

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Even the best-laid plans change once baby arrives. In this episode, Charlie shares the five essential conversations that help couples stay connected, share the load, and remember they're on the same team — even when running on empty. With real-life wisdom from five babies and practical frameworks from Back to Me, this episode is for any mom who wants to move from resentment to real communication.

What You'll Learn

* Why conversations feel harder in the newborn phase (and how to have them anyway)

* The Time Audit: making the invisible visible so both partners feel supported

* How to take meal management and scheduling off one person's plate

* Why self-care matters for both parents — and how to protect it

* Practical tips for staying a team when you're both exhausted

* Charlie's personal story of learning the hard way (and what changed everything)

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The first 12 months of motherhood aren't just hard — they're identity-shifting. You can prep the nursery, read all the books, and still feel like a stranger in your own life once baby arrives.

In this episode, I'm walking through the real feelings of that first year. The ones no one warns you about. The grief for who you used to be. The blur of sleepless nights. The way your body, your time, and your entire world change overnight.

And I'm sharing small, gentle ways to start finding yourself again — even in the chaos.

What we cover:

* The overnight shift from "you" to "mum" — and why it's so disorienting

* How time and sleep take on a completely new meaning

* Why your body doesn't feel like yours anymore (and what to do about it)

* The slow shrinking of your world — friendships, spontaneity, sense of self

* Running your entire day around baby's schedule

* Small, doable ways to start reclaiming tiny moments for yourself

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In my recent Instagram poll, the number one answer to "what would make the biggest difference right now?" was help without having to ask for it. And that part hit me. Because it's not really about the help. It's about being the only one who sees, tracks, and assigns everything.

In this episode, I'm sharing the simple systems that finally got me off the mental load hamster wheel, including the car rota that sounds ridiculous but changed my mornings.

In This Episode:

* Why "just ask for help" is actually exhausting (and what's really happening underneath)

* The car rota story that took one tiny question out of my head forever

* How I gave everyone in my house actual responsibilities, not just chores I nag about

* The four-week meal rota that stopped me dreading the "what's for dinner" question

* What real help looks like (hint: it's structural, not dramatic)

* How to start with just one friction point this week

Resources Mentioned

 * Back to Me course: Home Friction Audit, 2-Minute Fix Framework, Rhythms That Work For You module

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Feeling like you're carrying everything in your head while your partner has no idea? This episode is for you.

Charlie shares the one calm conversation that changed everything in her relationship — and walks you through exactly how to have it yourself. No guilt-tripping. No explosions. Just a simple framework to make the invisible visible.

In this episode:

* What the mental load actually is (spoiler: it's not the dishes)

* Why most conversations about this go wrong

* The exact words Charlie used with her partner

* The difference between "helping" and "owning" — and why it matters

* A 5-step framework you can use tonight

* What to do when the conversation doesn't land

Resources mentioned:

* Back to Me — the 5-module course for moms ready to feel like themselves again

* Home Friction Audit worksheet

* 2-Minute Fix Framework

* Weekly Planning Template

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If you've ever been handed a rare moment of free time and completely blanked on what to do with it, this episode is for you. Charlie digs into why so many mums feel disconnected from their own interests, how survival mode becomes the default setting, and what it actually takes to find (and protect) time for yourself. Spoiler: you're not broken. You've just been buried under everyone else's needs for too long.

What You'll Learn in This Episode

Why "what are your hobbies?" feels like an impossible question for most mums

How survival mode was supposed to be temporary but somehow never ended

The truth about time: why it's not about having more hours, it's about making yourself a priority

Charlie's personal story of running on empty and how building simple systems changed everything

Practical tips you can try this week to find and protect pockets of time

What's possible on the other side: reconnecting with yourself after motherhood consumed you

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In this episode, Charlie sits down with therapist and mom of three, Nicki Cohen, to have an honest conversation about the mental load. Together they unpack what the mental load actually is (hint: it's not the to-do list), why moms carry it so silently, and practical ways to start letting go without the guilt spiral. From the glass vs rubber ball analogy to the 30% good enough parent rule, this one is full of permission slips.

**What You'll Learn:**

- What the mental load really means (it's not the doing, it's the constant thinking)

- How to figure out which balls you can drop and which ones you can't

- Why your kids and partner are probably more capable than you give them credit for

- The 30% good enough parent rule that will make you exhale

- How to put mom guilt on trial

- Why struggling alone isn't a badge of honour

- Small ways to find time for yourself (even with little ones)

**Resources Mentioned:**

- Donald Winnicott's 30% Good Enough Parent research

- Back to Me course (includes the "Mom Guilt on Trial" framework and Time Audit

**Connect with Nicki Cohen:**

Nicki is a therapist offering counselling for teenagers and adults, as well as sessions for parents to help them better communicate with their teens. She also provides consultancy to charities and organisations on anything mental health related.

 Website: www.nickicohencounselling.co.uk

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The summer holidays are coming — and whether you're excited or already exhausted at the thought, this episode is for you.

Charlie shares how she actually prepares for six weeks at home with five kids: the practical stuff (loose planning, meal prep, night-before routines) and the mental stuff (checking in with yourself, protecting your energy, and remembering you're a person too).

In this episode:

* Why there's no "right" way to feel about summer

* The power of loose weekly themes (not rigid schedules)

* How night-before prep saves your sanity

* Balancing big days with recovery days

* The mental check-in questions to ask yourself before the holidays start

* Protecting your identity when you're surrounded by kids 24/7

Resources mentioned:

* Back to Me — the 5-module course for moms ready to feel like themselves again

* Home Friction Audit worksheet

* 2-Minute Fix Framework

* Weekly Planning Template

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Summer's here and so is that familiar stress: trying to get your little ones to drink water when they'd rather do literally anything else. In this episode, Charlie shares her tried-and-tested tips from raising five kids through many hot summers. From sneaky hydrating foods to warning signs every mum should know, this episode will help you keep your kids safe and hydrated without turning into the water police.

What You'll Learn in This Episode

☀️ Why hydration stress is so real for mums (and why your toddler keeps dodging that water bottle)

🍉 Hydrating foods that do the work when water won't: watermelon, cucumber, frozen grapes, yoghurt, ice lollies, smoothies and more

🥤 Simple tricks to make drinking more appealing: fun cups, flavoured water, pour-it-yourself stations, and family hydration reminders

⚠️ Early and serious signs of dehydration to watch for (and when to seek help)

🌡️ Timing and temperature tips: avoiding the hottest part of the day, finding shade, and keeping little bodies cool

💛 How to enjoy summer without the constant worry

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* Back to Me — my 5-week programme for moms ready to feel like themselves again. Back to Me! by @itscharliedadia | Stan

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Ever sat in a room full of people — your kids, your partner, maybe even friends — and still felt completely alone?

In this episode, I'm talking about the kind of loneliness no one prepares you for. The kind that has nothing to do with how many people are around you, and everything to do with how disconnected you feel from yourself.

I'm sharing my own story of losing my sense of identity after becoming a mom, why friendships feel so different now, and what I've learnt after five babies about where that loneliness really comes from.

In This Episode:

* Why you can be touched all day and still feel unseen

* My experience of "disappearing" from my old life after having my first baby

* Why friendships shift after kids (and why that's okay)

* The real root of mom loneliness — and it's not what you think

* One small shift that helps you start reconnecting with yourself

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* The Identity Audit (inside Back to Me)

* Back to Me — my 5-week programme for moms ready to feel like themselves again. Learn more Back to Me! by @itscharliedadia | Stan

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Had two, three, maybe four kids and thought you'd have it figured out by now? This episode is your permission slip to stop pretending.

In this episode, I'm getting honest about why more kids often means more chaos, not more confidence — and what it actually looks like to start finding yourself again when your schedule is bursting and you've got zero hours that belong to you.

What we cover:

* Why experience doesn't automatically mean you've got it together

* The myth that motherhood should get easier with practice (and why that voice is lying to you)

* How every child brings a completely new identity shift — and why we never give ourselves space to process it

* The moment in my kitchen that broke me open (and woke me up)

* Tiny reclamations: how I started building myself back in without spa days or solo trips

* How to put your mum guilt on trial and separate real guilt from noise

This episode is for you if:

* You've had multiple kids and feel more lost than ever

* You're wondering when you'll finally feel like yourself again

* You're tired of advice that doesn't fit your real life

* You're ready to stop waiting for "when things calm down"

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Do you ever catch your reflection and wonder where YOU went? In this episode, Charlie opens up about the exact moment she realized she'd lost herself — standing in her kitchen during lockdown, surrounded by chaos, and crying because she couldn't recognize the woman staring back at her.

If you've ever felt like you're "just mom" and nothing else, this one's for you.

Charlie shares why this happens to almost every mom (and why it's NOT a character flaw), plus practical ways to start noticing who you want to become again — without going back to who you were before kids.

In this episode:

* The moment Charlie realized she'd lost herself after 5 babies

* Why identity loss happens to almost every mom (and why it's a phase, not a life sentence)

* How to start noticing the "breadcrumbs" back to you

* The mindset shift that changed everything

* How to put your mom guilt on trial

* A sneak peek into Module 1 of Back to Me

Resources mentioned:

* Back to Me — Charlie's 5-week programme: Learn more Back to Me! by @itscharliedadia | Stan

* The Identity Audit (included in Back to Me)

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In this episode, Charlie gets honest about the parts of motherhood no one prepares you for: the bone-deep exhaustion, the guilt of wanting five minutes alone, and the shock of realising you don't recognise yourself anymore.

What we cover:

* Why loving your kids doesn't automatically refill your cup

* The guilt that comes with wanting space (and why it's completely normal)

* The "identity split" — losing yourself between who you were and who you are now

* How to reconnect with yourself without choosing between being a good mum and being you

Resources mentioned:

* Back to Me — Charlie's 5-week programme: Learn more Back to Me! by @itscharliedadia | Stan

* The Identity Audit (included in Back to Me)

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In this deeply personal episode, Charlie shares her experience of four c-sections — two emergency, two elective — and breaks down everything mums need to know about this often misunderstood birth experience.

What You'll Learn:

* Charlie's full birth story across five babies (including why her second birth became traumatic)

* The real difference between emergency and elective c-sections — emotionally and physically

* Why the "easy way out" myth needs to end

* Practical tips for preparing mentally and physically for a c-section

* Recovery essentials every c-section mama needs to know

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Just because you didn't have surgery doesn't mean your body didn't go through something massive. In this episode, Charlie shares her honest experience recovering from her first natural birth — and why the "you should be fine" narrative is harmful.

In this episode, you'll learn:

* Why natural birth still requires serious recovery (and why the "hierarchy of birth" is a myth)

* What's actually normal in postpartum recovery — bleeding, soreness, hormones, and the emotional weight no one warns you about

* The 4 biggest recovery mistakes Charlie made (so you don't have to)

* What actually helps: rest, support, and giving yourself permission to struggle

* The identity shift no one talks about — grieving your old self while loving your new life

Key takeaways:

* Your body grew a human for 9 months, shifted organs, expanded your pelvis, and pushed out a baby — that is not nothing

* You're allowed to say no to visitors, ask for help, and not feel okay

* Recovery isn't just physical — it's about your whole identity shifting, and that takes way more than 6 weeks

Resources mentioned:

* Back to Me — Charlie's program helping moms reconnect with who they are beyond "just mom" Back to Me! by @itscharliedadia | Stan

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Your body just did something miraculous — so why do we spend so much time hating it?

 In this episode, Charlie gets real about postpartum body image: the impossible "bounce back" expectations we're sold, what actually affects your body's recovery (spoiler: it's not willpower), and how to start being kinder to yourself when the mirror feels like the enemy.

If you've ever stood in front of your reflection and not recognised the woman looking back — this one's for you.

You will Learn:

* The lie we've been sold about "bouncing back" after baby

* Expectations vs reality: why your body isn't "failing" you

* The 4 things that actually impact postpartum recovery (hormones, sleep, nutrition & movement)

* Why being kind to yourself is harder than any workout — and how to start

* 5 practical steps to rebuild your relationship with your body

* A reminder of what your body has been through — and why it deserves your respect

🔔 Back to Me is coming at the end of May 2026 to help moms with exactly this. Follow @itscharliedadia on Instagram to be the first to know.

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You can love being a mum and still need space to breathe.

In this episode, Charlie dives into something that could genuinely change your entire experience of motherhood: boundaries.

 Not the aggressive, wall-building kind. The gentle, honest, "this is what I need" kind.

 We're talking about why we don't set them (hello guilt, people-pleasing, and fear), why we desperately need them, and exactly how to start — without the crushing guilt that makes you want to take it all back five minutes later.

If you've ever said yes when you meant no, let someone hold your baby when every fibre of you wanted to say "not right now," or answered the door to visitors when you hadn't eaten all day — this one's for you

🔔 Something new is coming at the end of May to help moms with exactly this. Follow @itscharliedadia on Instagram to be the first to know.

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Following last week's deep dive into losing yourself in motherhood, this episode lifts the energy with real, doable self-care — not the "book a spa day" kind, but the small-but-mighty moments that keep the "you" in motherhood.

What We Cover:

* Why self-care feels impossible for moms (and what happens when we skip it)

* What self-care actually looks like — for me, it's my hair and makeup routine

* Permission to prioritise yourself without guilt

* 8 affirmations to carry with you on hard days

* 5 practical action steps you can start this week

* A sneak peek at something launching end of May

🔔 Something new is coming at the end of May to help moms with exactly this. Follow @itscharliedadia on Instagram to be the first to know.

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You were one person your whole life — with dreams, opinions, passions, and a sense of who you were. Then you became a mum… and suddenly, you don't know how to connect the two anymore.

In this episode, Charlie opens up about losing yourself in motherhood — even when becoming a mum was part of the dream. She explores:

 → Why something still feels missing, even when you're living what you always wanted

 → How motherhood asks us to give constantly from the moment baby arrives — and why no one teaches us how to refill the cup

 → Why you're allowed to make space for your needs too (and how to actually do it)

 → Small shifts that helped Charlie regain herself after 5 babies

 → A mindset shift that changed everything

Charlie also shares the mistakes she made along the way — and what she learned from them. Because she's been putting it all together to help you find an easier path: one where you can enjoy motherhood AND love yourself again.

🔔 Something new is coming at the end of May to help mums with exactly this. Follow @itscharliedadia on Instagram to be the first to know.

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Charlie dives deep into one of the most Googled topics in motherhood: sleep. From what newborn sleep actually looks like (spoiler: it's not what you expect) to the 4-month sleep regression, she shares what she learned across five babies. This episode covers sleep safety essentials, practical survival tips for exhausted mums, and how to cope when you're running on empty — without the judgement.

What You'll Learn

* What newborn sleep really looks like and why your baby isn't broken

* How to help with day-night confusion in the early weeks

* The key sleep safety guidelines every parent needs to know

* Why mum sleep matters and practical ways to protect it

* What the 4-month sleep regression actually is (and how to survive it)

* Seven actionable tips for sleep-deprived mums

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Charlie opens up about the reality of 3am feeds — the loneliness, the exhaustion, but also the unexpected tenderness of those quiet hours. Whether you're breastfeeding or bottle feeding, this episode is packed with practical tips to help you survive (and even enjoy) the night shift, from prepping bottles in advance to finding your night time Netflix companion.

What You'll Learn

* Why you're never really alone at 3am (welcome to the club)

* How to set up simple "feeding stations" around your home

* The bottle prep hack that saves your sanity during night feeds

* Why room temperature bottles might be your best friend

* How to steal sleep before the night shift begins

* Finding comfort in podcasts, shows, and mum friends who get it

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Ever felt like leaving the house with your baby requires the same level of planning as a two-week holiday abroad? You're not alone — and you're definitely not doing anything wrong.

In this episode, Charlie shares everything she learned (the hard way, across five babies) about actually getting out the front door with a newborn. From the mental load that makes a simple trip to the shops feel impossible, to the practical systems that finally made outings manageable — this is the honest, no-judgement guide every first-time mum needs.

Whether you're struggling to leave the house at all, or just want to feel less frazzled when you do, this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and ready to try again.

What You’ll Learn:

* Why leaving the house with a baby is genuinely hard (and why it's not your fault)

* The mindset shift that changed everything for Charlie

* How to have a bag that's always ready to grab and go

* The "feed just before you leave" trick that stops the endless cycle

* How to find your local "reset spots" for when things go sideways

* What to do when it all falls apart in public

* Why getting out — even imperfectly — matters more than you think

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In this episode, Charlie breaks down the parenting admin that catches so many first-time mums completely off guard — the paperwork, the deadlines, and the government websites nobody warns you about.

From registering the birth to claiming Child Benefit to navigating free nursery hours, Charlie shares the practical steps and emotional reality of managing it all while sleep-deprived and in the newborn fog.

After five babies, she's been through this admin more times than she can count — and she's here to make sure you don't have to figure it out alone.

What you’ll Learn:

* Why nobody talks about parenting admin (and why that needs to change)

* The Big Three: Birth registration, Child Benefit, and free nursery hours

* Key deadlines you can't afford to miss

* Why this hits so hard emotionally — and why it's not your fault

* Practical tips to make admin less overwhelming

* How the How To Handbook can help

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In this week's special episode, Charlie welcomes her FIRST EVER GUEST — Hannah, a financial advisor with 11 years of experience in the financial sector (9 years in specialist mortgage sector). Together, they unravel the often overwhelming world of finances for young couples, first-time parents, and single parents who dream of gaining financial stability and getting on the property ladder.

Hannah shares her journey from high street banking to becoming a mortgage broker after having her youngest, and opens up about her own experience buying a home as a single parent. This is real talk, no jargon — just practical advice for families who feel like homeownership is out of reach.

What You'll Learn

* Why mortgages aren't as scary as they seem (and where to start)

* Options if you haven't been able to save a deposit

* What shared ownership actually is and how it works

* The truth about 100% mortgages and why Hannah doesn't recommend them

* Practical budgeting tips for young families in survival mode

* How to meal plan and shop smarter to save money

* Teaching your children about saving from an early age

* What a Lifetime ISA is and how it can help you buy a home

Resources Mentioned

* Lifetime ISA (LISA)

* Skipton 100% Mortgage

* Shared Ownership Scheme

* Martin Lewis Money Saving Expert

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In this honest and heartfelt episode, Charlie opens up about what happens to your relationship once babies arrive. Drawing from 13 years of marriage and five children, she shares what worked, what didn't, and what she wishes she'd done differently. This isn't therapy — it's real talk from a mum who's been in the trenches, offering support and practical steps to help you stay connected with your partner through the chaos of early parenthood.

What You'll Learn

* Why your relationship will change after having a baby — and why that's not a bad thing

* How resentment creeps in quietly and what to do about it

* Small, consistent ways to look after each other (no grand gestures required)

* Why remembering you were a couple first matters more than you think

* 7 practical action steps to stay connected — even when you're exhausted

* What Charlie wishes she'd known in those early years

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In this deeply honest episode, Charlie unpacks mom guilt — when it starts, how it shows up, and why it can feel impossible to shake. From the moment you see those two lines to the daily battles with comparison and self-doubt, Charlie shares her own stories from five pregnancies and offers practical ways to manage the guilt without letting it consume you. This is your reminder that the worry itself is proof you're a good mum.

What You'll Learn:

* Why mom guilt begins during pregnancy, not after birth

* How guilt shows up in feeding, sleep, and your emotions

* The comparison trap and why social media makes it worse

* Charlie's personal mum guilt stories across five babies

* Five practical strategies to manage (not eliminate) guilt

* How to reframe guilt as a signal of what you value

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In this heartfelt episode, Charlie opens up about one of motherhood's most unspoken struggles: losing yourself in the process of becoming someone's everything. She shares her own 2am kitchen moment of realisation with her first baby and offers gentle, practical advice for any mum feeling like she's disappeared into the role. This episode is a reminder that you're not gone — you're growing.

What You'll Learn

* Why identity shifts happen so suddenly after becoming a mum

* The emotional rollercoaster of loving your baby while missing yourself

* Charlie's personal experience of feeling "lost" in early motherhood

* Small, practical ways to reconnect with who you are

* Why "bouncing back" isn't the goal — moving forward is

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In this deeply personal episode, Charlie opens up about the quiet, overwhelming moment when motherhood truly hit her — not during pregnancy or birth, but in the still of the night, holding her baby when the world was finally quiet. She explores the identity shift that no one warns you about, what it really means to "become a mum," and why growing into motherhood is messier, slower, and more beautiful than anyone tells you.

*What You'll Learn:*

- Why the "I'm a mum" realisation doesn't always happen straight away

- The identity shift of matrescence — and why it's completely normal to feel like a different person

- What Charlie wishes someone had told her as a first-time mum

- How to give yourself grace while growing into motherhood

- 5 gentle action steps to help you in the early days

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In this episode of Chat with Charlie on Mum Matters, Charlie shares honest and compassionate reflections on breastfeeding, bottle feeding, combination feeding, and making baby feeding choices without guilt or pressure. From early feeding struggles to rediscovering confidence across five children, this episode reassures mums that fed is best, support matters, and your mental health matters too.

Perfect for pregnant women, first-time mums, and parents navigating newborn feeding decisions, this episode encourages you to make informed, pressure-free choices that work for you and your baby.

If you’re looking for ongoing mum-to-mum support, reassurance, and real-life guidance in early motherhood, you can join the Mum Matters Community via my website below.

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In this episode of Chat With Charlie on Mum Matters, Charlie shares honest insights on choosing a birth partner, managing visitors after birth, and protecting your recovery in the postpartum period. This episode is perfect for first-time mums preparing for labour, birth, and the early days with a newborn, especially if you’re unsure how you’ll feel about support, boundaries, and family visits.

For more guidance, there’s a dedicated section on birth partners, postpartum recovery, visitors after birth, and early motherhood support inside the First Time Mum Ultimate Handbook course, available on my website below.

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As your due date approaches, the emotional preparation for motherhood can feel just as big as the physical preparation. In this episode, we talk about the mix of feelings before labour and simple ways to prepare your heart and mind for meeting your baby. A gentle reminder that you don’t need to feel completely ready to become a mum.

If you’d like more step-by-step support, my First Time Mum Ultimate Handbook course walks you through pregnancy to baby’s first birthday with practical advice, tools, and checklists. You can find the link below for my website.

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In this episode Charlie shares the essential conversations every couple should have before having a baby — and how to gently have them even if your baby is already here.
This episode covers:
Why communication matters before and after baby arrives
Key conversations about visitors, housework, finances, and support
How unspoken expectations can affect your relationship after birth
Practical ways to talk without blame, resentment, or overwhelm
Reassurance for parents who feel they’re already “behind”
If you’re pregnant, preparing for a baby, or navigating newborn life, this episode will help you feel more connected, supported, and like a team — not two exhausted people trying to cope alone.
A must-listen for expectant parents and new mums wanting to protect their relationship, reduce stress, and feel more grounded during early parenthood

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In this episode Charlie gently explores the feeling so many mums carry — the quiet fear of not being good enough.
We talk about:
Mum guilt, comparison, and feeling like everyone else has it together
Why the “not good enough” voice shows up in motherhood
The truth behind social media and invisible struggles
What being a “good enough mum” really means
Gentle reassurance for mums who feel exhausted, overwhelmed, or disconnected
This episode is a compassionate reminder that struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing — it means you care. If you’re doubting yourself as a mum, feeling burnt out, or questioning your parenting, this conversation will help you feel seen, supported, and less alone.
Perfect for mums needing reassurance, comfort, and a reminder that they are already enough 

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In this episode we talk honestly about the real magic of being a mum — not the picture-perfect moments, but the quiet, unseen work that happens every day.
This episode explores:
What the “magic of motherhood” really means
The mental load and emotional labour mums carry
Why motherhood is unpaid but never worthless
Feeling invisible, exhausted, or disconnected as a mum
Reassurance for mums who aren’t feeling the magic right now
If motherhood feels heavy, overwhelming, or far from magical, this episode is a gentle reminder that your love, effort, and presence matter more than you realise.
Perfect for mums listening during nap time, car rides, or those quiet moments when you just need to feel seen and understood.

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I'm so happy to have you here and that you are about to embark on this wonderful journey with me. It was so important to me that I managed to get the message across ands the mission of this podcast and that is where 'Mum Matters' was born. Because not only are we going to discuss all of the Mum Matters there are on this incredible journey of motherhood but it really is as true as I say.... Behind every child is a Mum who Matters. I'm so excited to take this journey with you. And if these episodes are enough support then there is my Mum Matters community that offers ongoing support, helping you even more on your motherhood journey. 

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 Back to Me — My Signature 5-week Programme for moms ready to feel like themselves again. Learn more Back to Me! by @itscharliedadia | Stan

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Welcome to Chat with Charlie on Mum Matters! I'm Charlie, mum of 5, and this podcast is for mums who feel overwhelmed, exhausted, or like they've lost themselves somewhere along the way. Each episode brings honest conversations, practical tips, and the kind of support I wish I'd had as a first time mum. No judgement. No pressure. Just real talk for the early days of motherhood and beyond. Hit subscribe — new episodes coming soon.

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 Back to Me — My Signature 5-week Programme for moms ready to feel like themselves again. Learn more Back to Me! by @itscharliedadia | Stan

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YouTube:  Charlie Dadia | Mom Support - YouTube

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