Welcome to Chat By The Pitch โ the soccer podcast that goes beyond the game.
Hosted by Ian Babcock, Chat By The Pitch is built around real conversations with the people shaping soccer from every angle โ coaches, players, parents, club leaders, educators, entrepreneurs, analysts, and innovators. This isnโt a highlight show and it isnโt built around hot takes. Itโs about the stories, lessons, challenges, and experiences that actually define the modern game.
Whether youโre a parent trying to better understand youth soccer, a coach looking to grow, a player chasing the next level, or simply someone passionate about the sport, Chat By The Pitch gives you honest, long-form conversations that dig deeper than surface-level opinions.
Every episode explores what really happens behind the scenes:
โข The realities of youth soccer culture
โข Coaching philosophy and player development
โข Leadership and communication
โข Parenting athletes in todayโs environment
โข The mental side of competition
โข Building healthy club culture
โข Technology changing the game
โข The pathway from grassroots to elite levels
โข Mistakes, lessons, and success stories from people living the game every day
Guests range from grassroots coaches and academy directors to former professional players, educators, authors, performance specialists, and creators working to improve soccer at every level. Some episodes focus on tactics and development. Others focus on leadership, culture, parenting, business, and the human side of sports.
What makes Chat By The Pitch different is the conversation style. These are not rushed interviews with canned answers. Ian approaches each episode as a passionate soccer parent, coach, and student of the game, creating open discussions that feel authentic, relatable, and educational. The goal is to ask the questions many people in soccer are already thinking about โ but rarely hear discussed honestly.
Listeners come to Chat By The Pitch for:
โข Real conversations instead of scripted interviews
โข Practical insights coaches and parents can actually use
โข Different perspectives from across the soccer world
โข Stories that inspire growth on and off the field
โข Honest discussions about the challenges in youth sports
โข A deeper understanding of player development and leadership
If you care about soccer beyond the scoreboard โ the people, the process, the culture, and the future of the game โ this podcast is for you.
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Player Pathways: Roman Torres on FC Dallas, JUCO, and the Road to Pro Soccer
Season 1 ยท Episode 188
Thursday, September 24, 2026 โข Duration 01:12:09
Zero college offers in his U18 year. A first-round MLS SuperDraft pick a few years later. Released after one pro season โ and still chasing it. Roman Torres has lived nearly every turn of the youth soccer player pathway, and heโs only 24.
Roman grew up in Dallas, starting on a rec team at the Y before coming up through FC Dallas, Classic League, and the clubโs ECNL team. From there his road ran through Germanyโs fifth division at 19, junior college at Iowa Western, a breakout season at Creighton, a first-round pick by Minnesota United, a loan to Birmingham Legion, and now Forward Madison FC in USL League One.
Ian and Roman get into what that pathway really asks of a player and a family: raffle tickets and long drives to practice, choosing high school soccer and his friends over a move to the academy, why JUCO can be a smart route to the pros, and what it felt like to walk into an end-of-season meeting confident and walk out released. Roman also shares what heโd tell his 12-year-old self โ touches, left foot, scan โ why strength work at 10 misses the point, and why parents should care less about the league badge and more about the quality of every training session.
For soccer parents, youth coaches, and players chasing the next level who want an honest look at development over winning โ and the grit it takes to keep going.
Obsessed With the Process: Chris Rich on Building an Elite Eight Program
Season 1 ยท Episode 187
Thursday, September 17, 2026 โข Duration 01:05:53
Chris Rich has passed on talented recruits because of what he saw from their parents on the sideline. The UNC Greensboro head coach explains what else he's watching.
In this episode of Chat By The Pitch, Chris opens up the college soccer recruiting process from the coach's side of the table. He took over UNCG men's soccer ten days before the 2019 season, used the COVID pause to rebuild the culture, and turned a program ranked in the 100s into a 2022 Elite Eight team that beat Stanford in PKs on the road.
Ian and Chris get into the questions soccer parents actually ask: Is my kid good enough to play in college? How do players get seen when they aren't on the biggest showcase teams? How much does playing time really spread across a 28-man roster? Chris walks through how his staff evaluates recruits on the field, over FaceTime, and on visits, why his team's GPA climbed from a 2.7 to a 3.4, and why the word he leans on most is obsessive โ obsessed with the process of development, not just the trophy.
He's also honest about the hard parts: a 2023 season that came crashing down after losing eight pros, a transfer portal that's squeezing young players, and 9.9 scholarships stretched across a full roster.
For soccer players, parents, and youth coaches mapping out the pathway from club soccer to college โ and anyone who wants to know what a college coach is really looking for.
Key Talking Points
โข From Tampa youth soccer and Barry University to assistant roles at FIU, Virginia Tech, UNC, and Duke โ and learning as much from peers as from bosses
โข Hired ten days before the 2019 season: leading with culture, standards, and non-negotiables before a game model
โข How the COVID pause became a silver lining for recruiting, training, and building the program block by block
โข Transparency, accountability, and "I will always have your back" โ the promise Chris makes to every recruit
โข Why "obsessive" is the most important word in the program, and how an elite mindset lifted the team GPA from 2.7 to 3.4
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The Medal in the Trash: Preston Pomykal on Winning, Losing, and Respect
Season 1 ยท Episode 186
Thursday, September 10, 2026 โข Duration 46:23
A parent pulled a second-place medal out of a trash can and brought it to Preston Pomykal, disgusted that his son had thrown it away. Preston asked her three questions about how the boy behaved on the field โ then told her he had no problem with the trash can.
Part 2 of the conversation moves from coaching to letting go. Preston walks through what youth soccer player development looks like once a dad hands his sons to somebody else: staying useful without hovering, reading effort honestly when a kid's body has an off day, and knowing which battles are worth a word in the car.
He tells the story that put Paxton on a different track โ a Manchester United staff coach who quietly swapped groups for two days just to watch a 10-year-old, and the four a.m. conversation in a Vegas bar that ended with twenty-something North Texas families pulling their kids into a charter school so they could train from noon to four every day for two years.
Then the part every soccer parent eventually faces. Preston on why "we raised them all the same" isn't true, why his three boys pushed each other harder than he ever did, and what it felt like to walk through the gates at Columbia and know his oldest was going there โ four hours away by plane, out of reach for the first time.
He closes with the show's signature question: the greatest influences on him as a player, and separately as a coach.
For soccer parents, youth coaches, and club leaders learning when to step in and when to step back.
Key Talking Points
Be a parent, be a coach, be a parent โ where the line sits when you're both, and why the car ride is where most parents cross it
Hard work is relative: why an 80-minute effort one weekend and 60 the next may be the body, not the attitude
The second-place medal in the trash โ respect for the opponent on the field, and what a kid does with his own disappointment after
The FC Dallas coach who took Paxton in at U15 โ a talented kid dealing with size doubts and a hard stretch at his former club โ and watched him come out of his shell
Why "we raised them all the same" isn't true โ parents change between kids, and children read every bit of it
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Youth Soccer Player Development: Preston Pomykal on Raising Two College Players and a Pro
Season 1 ยท Episode 185
Thursday, September 3, 2026 โข Duration 35:04
A Hall of Fame ballplayer was asked about his favorite little league memory. His answer was about his mom, and an ice cream cone. His worst memory was the car ride home with his dad.
That story changed how Preston Pomykal parented โ and it's the one he says every soccer parent needs to hear. In Part 1 of this conversation, Preston walks through youth soccer player development from the inside: he grew up playing in Dallas, coached his own three boys until age ten, never took a paycheck to do it, and watched all three come up through the North Texas system โ two on to college soccer, and one, Paxton, into a professional career.
Ian and Preston get into what a real technical foundation looks like before age twelve, why the best 10-year-old is so often gone by 16, and the difference between a coach who develops players and one who just picks them. Preston explains why you don't want your kid to be the best player on the team, what he learned from a Barcelona staffer who ran the identical 30-minute skills routine six days in a row, and how he replaced summer camp for 40 families with one skills coach and six weeks of real work.
He also tells the hardest conversation he ever had โ telling a starting left back's parents, in January, to start looking elsewhere โ and why that mom still thanks him years later.
For soccer parents, youth coaches, and club leaders who care more about the player at 25 than the trophy at 10. Part 2 continues the conversation.
Key Talking Points
Why Preston wouldn't let anyone else coach his boys until age ten โ and why he gave up paid coaching roles to do it
A ball in every room and Saturday mornings watching the Prem instead of cartoons: love of the game built at home, not scheduled
The chicken salad analogy โ talent has to be there first, and "you didn't build him, you honed him"
Technique before everything: striking, passing, receiving, both feet, and why the window before twelve outweighs anything after fifteen
Training up as the real developmental lever, and why your player shouldn't be the best or the worst kid on the team
The Barcelona camp coach who ran the exact same 30-minute routine six days straight โ and the American football and basketball logic behind it
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Coach the Players in Front of You: Andy Cook on Systems vs. Individuals
Season 1 ยท Episode 184
Thursday, August 27, 2026 โข Duration 47:47
Andy Cook took a left back, put her at number nine, and she scored 22 goals and won a league. Thatโs not a hunch โ thatโs a coaching philosophy.
In Part 2, Andy Cook gets into the part of youth soccer player development that doesnโt fit on a session plan: culture, trust, and reading the player in front of you. He took over a Nottingham Forest side sitting one place above relegation and, four years later, won the league and the cup with several of the same players whoโd been there on day one. The thing he changed first wasnโt the formation. It was telling every player, every week, exactly why she was starting or why she wasnโt.
Heโs blunt about systems, too. If youโve got a Ford Mustang in the garage, you donโt work on it like itโs a Lamborghini โ and the coaches he rates most, Pep included, are the ones who bend the shape to the players rather than the other way around. For anyone coaching youth, his line is simple: until 18, the individual is everything, and the team is a scoreboard that doesnโt matter yet.
Thereโs also a straight conversation about why England has caught up to the United States in the womenโs game, two non-negotiables heโll build any program on, and the answer he gives parents when they ask what to look for in a coach. Plus the signature closer โ his greatest influence as a player, and separately as a coach.
Key Talking Points
Becoming a dad while coaching Sunderlandโs academy โ and how watching his own son learn changed how he coaches
Nottingham Forest: taking over a side one place above relegation and winning a league and cup double four years later
The one rule he set on day one โ every selection decision gets explained, however long it takes
Moving Charlotte Greengrass from left back to number nine, and the 22-goal season that followed
Coaching the players in front of you instead of the formation in your head โ with Pep, Haaland, and Bayern as the case study
Why the individual is paramount until 18, and why teams at youth level donโt win anything on their own
Protecting joy: at 27 you should still play the game like youโre 7 โ and what screaming from the sideline does to a 7-year-old
Why England caught up to the US womenโs game, and where he ranks the technical nations
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Youth Soccer Player Development: Spotting Talent Early with Andy Cook
Season 1 ยท Episode 183
Thursday, August 20, 2026 โข Duration 52:28
Andy Cook coached Beth Mead at 14 and Leah Williamson at 15. He wasnโt looking for tactics or trophies โ hereโs what he was actually watching for.
In Part 1, UEFA A licensed coach Andy Cook takes Ian Babcock through a youth soccer player development story that starts with a season ticket at Middlesbrough and ends up inside Arsenalโs womenโs program. He got his first coaching badge at 16, in a country where full-time coaching jobs in the womenโs game simply didnโt exist yet, and stacked qualification on qualification for a decade on nothing but what he calls blind determination.
Along the way he coached two future England internationals before either of them could drive. His answer for what made them stand out is refreshingly plain: could they control it, could they pass it, could they dribble it. Everything else โ speed, tactics, position โ got built out from the ball. He also talks openly about the parts that didnโt work: leaving Arsenal too early, and a first head coaching job at Oxford United where the football was fine and the man-management wasnโt.
If youโre a parent trying to understand what a good coach is actually looking at, or a coach wondering whether the badges are worth it, this oneโs for you. Part 2 picks up with culture, trust, and why the individual matters more than the team until 18.
Key Talking Points
Falling for the game as a Middlesbrough season-ticket kid in the mid-'90s, and playing local club football until 16
The moment he realized he'd never reach his best friend's level as a player โ and why that pushed him straight into coaching
Getting his first FA badge at 16, UEFA B at 19, and the UEFA A license at 26 โ a decade of qualifications with no job market waiting on the other side
"Blind determination" as a career strategy: planning a future in a profession that didn't exist yet
Coaching Beth Mead at the Middlesbrough Girls' Centre of Excellence โ two evenings a week, a gym session, and a Saturday game
What he looked for in young players as a young coach: control it, pass it, dribble it โ the physical stuff built out from there
Arsenal at 24 under Laura Harvey โ U17s, reserves, and a 15-year-old Leah Williamson training up with older players
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From Houston to Denmark: The Cappis Family on Christian Cappisโ Path to Pro
Season 1 ยท Episode 182
Thursday, August 13, 2026 โข Duration 50:56
Turning down MLS. Walking away from an SMU scholarship. A trial at Bayern. Jay and Carey Cappis share how Christian Cappis bet on development โ and won.
In Part 2 of this conversation, the Cappis family walks Ian Babcock through Christianโs player pathway from club soccer in Houston to the professional game in Europe: captaining a national-champion FC Dallas Academy side, youth national team call-ups, an MLS rights battle between Houston and Dallas, and the decision to start at the bottom of the Danish Superliga instead โ because development beats badges, free boots, and even bigger money.
Jay and Carey get honest about the hard parenting moments too: letting go when Christian moved to Dallas his senior year, the summer he came home with no prospects while his friends left for college, and the day he was deported from Denmark over a paperwork mistake. It ends with the advice every soccer parent needs to hear: itโs their journey, professional soccer is a business, and your job is to support with eyes wide open.
Key Talking Points
Why Christian turned down bigger clubs โ he scouted their recruiting versus their developing and knew where he wouldnโt grow
Free boots, kits, and warmups are enticements, not development โ how the family saw through the sales pitch
โIn charge from day oneโ: making his own decisions from a YMCA rejection at age two and a half through every club choice after
Playing up with older kids, scoring the winning goal against the Texans, and how one bold team choice opened the next door
Letting go: the senior-year move to FC Dallas Academy โ and living like a pro (groceries, laundry, driving to work) before ever signing
Youth national team life: โHey Dad, Iโm going to Spain todayโ
The MLS rights battle between Houston and Dallas โ and why Christian took his chances in Denmark instead
Walking away from the SMU scholarship, the Bayern trial that almost happened, and the quiet summer where Christian never doubted
Deported from Denmark with 24 hours to leave โ the life education no classroom offers
Player identity beyond soccer: marriage, cooking with a Michelin chef, and advice for parents โ itโs their journey, and pro soccer is a business
The Cappis Family: How Soccer Parents Raise a Pro Without Pushing
Season 1 ยท Episode 181
Thursday, August 6, 2026 โข Duration 58:36
What does it actually take to raise a professional soccer player โ without pushing? Jay and Carey Cappis, parents of U.S. pro Christian Cappis, open up the family playbook.
In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, Ian Babcock sits down with the Cappis family to talk soccer parenting and youth soccer player development from the very beginning: a toddler with a ball glued to his foot, a kid so competitive he challenged the neighborhood to a foot race in his sleep, and parents who made one rule non-negotiable โ itโs his journey, not theirs.
Jay and Carey share how they evaluated clubs and coaches (including interviewing a club director before joining Texans Soccer Club), why development beats winning at every age, and how a family of six divided and conquered life in Houston โ from parenting in the front seat of the car to a university model school that gave them their family time back. If youโre a soccer parent wondering how to support your player without being that parent, this oneโs for you.
Key Talking Points
Raising four very different kids โ and letting each one find their own sport and path
Christian the early bloomer: walking at nine months, kicking a ball at his first birthday, and sleepwalking down the street at 6:00 AM looking for a foot race
How Jay made sure soccer stayed Christianโs passion โ including forcing breaks to prove he played because he wanted to, not because Dad was around
Letting the child drive the journey instead of pushing it โ and the school decision Christian made himself to chase the youth national team
โDevelopment is your A number one jobโ โ the family standard at every level of play
How to vet a youth soccer coach: watch multiple games, look for week-to-week improvement, and check who actually gets on the field
Why the Texans Soccer Club culture of development over early-season results produced pros like Christian Cappis and Chris Richards
Divide and conquer: managing four kidsโ activities across a huge city, one activity per child, and parenting from the front seat of the car
Turning long drives to training into relationship-building conversations โ and knowing when your player just needs the radio
Why Pay-to-Play Youth Soccer Is Failing American Players with Alex Lubyansky
Season 1 ยท Episode 180
Thursday, July 30, 2026 โข Duration 52:01
Is pay-to-play youth soccer actually developing players โ or just monetizing false hope? Alex Lubyansky says it's the latter, and he's building the proof.
Alex is the General Manager and Head Coach of Detroit Metro FC, a completely free, senior-level football club run on the European model โ on American soil. He's also an M&A attorney, an A-licensed coach, a former sporting director in Europe, a soccer parent, and an immigrant from Kyiv whose first ball came out of a trash can. In this conversation with host Ian Babcock, Alex breaks down why there's no real pyramid in American soccer, why 99.9% of kids belong in rec, and why free play โ not expensive coaching โ is what actually develops players.
If you're a soccer parent wondering whether club soccer is worth it, a coach frustrated with the system, or anyone asking how to fix US soccer, this episode gives you a clear-eyed map of how the machine works โ and a working model for what comes next. Rooted in North Texas, heard around the world.
Key Talking Points
Detroit Metro FC's mission: a completely free, senior-level European model on American soil, built to reform US soccer from outside the system
Why Alex says there is no real pyramid in American soccer โ just a "circle" of pre-professional leagues, MLS included, that avoid playing each other
The one honest test for any youth program: is a child being charged a subscription fee to participate? If yes, it's pay-to-play โ no matter the badge
The case that 99.9% of kids belong in recreational soccer, and why free play develops players faster than structured, expensive coaching
How the pay-to-play machine monetizes false hope โ and why frustrated parents and coaches misunderstand what the system is actually built to do
The ID camp myth: why college rosters are filling with international players and what that means for American families chasing scholarships
Alex's anti-nepotism rule: no owner, coach, or staff member's child is ever allowed to try out for Detroit Metro FC
How the club is funded: capital plus belief, an ROI model over a vanity play โ and lessons from the Wrexham story
What real senior-level football looks like: open trials, honest cuts, and a merit-based roster spanning a 16-year-old to a 40-year-old
From Small Club to D1: Jada Davis on Betting on Yourself in Youth Soccer
Season 1 ยท Episode 179
Thursday, July 23, 2026 โข Duration 01:02:12
She didn't commit to soccer until the summer before her junior year โ and still earned a Division I scholarship from a small club no college coach was watching.
Former NCAA Division I player Jada Davis joins Chat By The Pitch to break down youth soccer player development from both sides of the touchline. A multi-sport kid from the DFW Metroplex who bounced from karate to dance to basketball before soccer ever stuck, Jada shares how a competitive streak, ID camps, and pure hustle carried her from a small private club to Prairie View A&M โ where she collected an offer from every other school in the conference first, just to prove a point.
Now a youth coach in Dallas with a background in personal training and sports nutrition, Jada opens up about the injuries that cut her college career short, the unexpected path into coaching, and how she builds a player-led culture where even her eight-year-olds run their own warmups and hold each other accountable. She also digs into the psychology of coaching girls through the Girls Academy Credential of Coaching Excellence โ why words land differently than we intend, and why culture has to be player-driven.
If you're a soccer parent heading into tryout season, a young player wondering if your club is โbig enoughโ for college, or a coach trying to balance development over winning, this conversation is for you. Jada's advice is simple: find a coach who cares about the person first โ and never let the size of your club decide the size of your dream.
Key Talking Points
A multi-sport childhood โ karate, dance, basketball, volleyball, track, and cross-country โ and how cross-training made her stronger and always in shape when she committed to soccer
Falling in love with competing before falling in love with the sport, and why she didn't choose soccer until the summer before her junior year of high school
Playing for a small private club instead of a big-name academy โ and how ID camps, game film, and self-advocacy got her in front of college coaches anyway
Choosing Prairie View A&M: putting an HBCU at the top of her list, having no plan B, and earning an offer from every other school in the conference first
Two season-ending foot fractures, the decision to play through the pain, and what she'd tell players facing the same choice today
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โข Staff-selected captains, a leadership committee from every class, and players policing the locker room
โข College soccer playing time explained: six substitution moments, 15 to 16 players per game, and the role of the closer off the bench
โข College soccer recruiting: why UNCG targets North Carolina, Texas, and Florida, plus the transfer portal and international players
โข What coaches watch beyond talent โ reactions to mistakes and referees, the parents on the sideline, and the FaceTime call
โข Taking ownership of your pathway: ID camps, gap years, JUCO, and staying patient in the transfer portal era
โข "I was just a sponge. I was learning from everybody that I worked with."
โข "You can't just throw your game model on players that don't fit that."
โข "We're always gonna adapt, and we're always gonna try to thrive in the new situation. I'm never gonna be a complainer."
โข "The one thing I will always guarantee and always promise our players in the recruiting process, I will always have their back."
โข "Probably the most important word that I use all the time is obsessive."
โข "Everybody wants to lift the trophy. Everybody wants to win, but what is the process that gets us to that point?"
โข "I'm not gonna say, 'I'm gonna be a terrible father today, but I'm gonna be a good coach.' You're either gonna strive for greatness or you're not."
โข "There's been many good players I've identified that we didn't take because of mom and dad."
โข "Take ownership of your process. Instead of waiting on somebody to do something for you, go to the environment where coaches are."
โข "Sometimes you gotta take a gap year. Sometimes you gotta go to a JUCO for a year. And that's okay."
Accountability and respect as the only two non-negotiables โ right down to how you leave the away changing room
His answer for parents: look for honesty, and check whether what the coach says shows up on the pitch
โEvery decision I make, Iโm gonna explain it to you. It doesnโt matter whether it takes me an hour or whether it takes me two minutes.โ
โMy eyes donโt lie. If Iโve got a group of footballers in front of me, my first instinct is always to go, what can they do now?โ
โIf a guy brings a Ford Mustang into your garage, youโre not gonna deal with it like you would a Lamborghini.โ
โTeams at youth level donโt do anything. Itโs the individual.โ
โAt 27, you should still play the game like youโre 7.โ
โIf at 7 years old youโre having the fun kicked out of you because somebody on the sideline is screaming, whether thatโs a parent or a coach, I think itโs so wrong.โ
โYou put her up front, and it was like youโd freed her from the shackles of a defender.โ
โThe two biggest ones for me are accountability and respect, and that really starts with me.โ
โI want a team that leaves the changing room better than what it was when we got in there.โ
โThe first thing that a parent needs to look out for is honesty.โ
His theory on why today's young women's players may be more robust: more minutes, earlier, than the generation before them
Leaving Arsenal for the FA โ the regret, and the coach-education years that taught him to plan a session properly
Oxford United, the smallest budget in the league, and the man-management lesson he's built the rest of his career on
โI always felt that I had different ideas to what I was being told as a boy.โ
โIt was just blind determination. There was no job. There was no career.โ
โYou have to plan your future based on something that you don't know.โ
โI thought, that is it, I've completed coaching. I've learned more every season since than I did in the first ten years.โ
โCould they control the ball? Could they pass the ball? Could they dribble with the ball? It all started from the ball, and then it built out from that.โ
โShe was the best trainer, she was the one that had the best questions. She would stay back and want to do more.โ
โI'm always a little bit hesitant to say that's because of the work I did as a coach, because a youth player goes through so many different moments.โ
โIf I'm really honest, I wish I didn't leave Arsenal. That's a regret I have.โ
โIt was now trying to influence the coaches to then influence the players, and that is a completely different task, a completely different skill set.โ
โI never told them why I was picking them. All those man-management skills that I think are essential.โ
โHeโs been in charge from day one.โ โ Jay Cappis
โEverybody wants you until they see you.โ โ Jay Cappis
โYour choice, your responsibility, your consequences โ all the way across the board.โ โ Jay Cappis
โHe could basically tell you, โI will not develop there. Theyโre great at recruiting the top players, but theyโre not great at developing them.โโ โ Jay Cappis
โHe very calmly just kinda looks at me, and heโs like, โItโs okay. Donโt worry. We got this.โ He never doubted.โ โ Carey Cappis
โYou have a finite shelf life as an athlete... You can go back to college anytime.โ โ Jay Cappis
โYouโre on a journey with that child. It is not your journey. That is theirs to live.โ โ Jay Cappis
โProfessional athletics is a business... They will do whatโs best for the club, and if that means itโs not good for you, that is not their problem.โ โ Jay Cappis
โWe never really set out with the goal of getting a college scholarship or even the goal of him being pro... it was more of just, well, whatโs next?โ โ Carey Cappis
โIโm not so much proud as I am pleased. He had a vision of what he wanted to do, and he pursued it.โ โ Jay Cappis
The trust that paid off: why Christianโs first call was to his dad when Danish immigration showed up at the club
Quotes from the Guests
โHe was so competitive, even when he was sleepwalking, he was going down the street going, โHey, you wanna have a foot race?โโ โ Jay Cappis
โI really honestly believe he probably could have been a professional at whatever sport he chose.โ โ Carey Cappis
โIt was his passion, and he couldnโt go three days without getting his foot on a ball.โ โ Jay Cappis
โDevelopment is your A number one job, no matter what level youโre at.โ โ Jay Cappis
โItโs incredibly difficult to know what youโre getting with any particular coach until you get some hands-on experience with them.โ โ Jay Cappis
โI donโt really care as a parent whether or not they are the best team in the league. What I care about is every week, do I see the team improving?โ โ Jay Cappis
โI felt like I was parenting from the front seat of the car.โ โ Carey Cappis
โIt suddenly occurred to me that if we didnโt have that long drive, we would have never had this particular conversation.โ โ Jay Cappis
โWe didnโt get it right all the time... thereโs lots of learning to go around for everybody in the family.โ โ Jay Cappis
โWe did our best to make sure every child had a parent.โ โ Carey Cappis
The unexpected call from TOCA that turned a personal trainer into a youth soccer coach โ and why she almost said no
Building a player-led culture with eight-year-olds: player-run warmups, accountability between teammates, and zero tolerance for negative talk
The Girls Academy Credential of Coaching Excellence: the psychology of coaching girls and why it doesn't matter what a coach means โ it matters how players interpret it
Parent buy-in, over-communication, and the ongoing conversation about development versus winning at the youth level
Her tryout-season advice for families: find a coach who values the person before the athlete, and a club with real standards, culture, and a pathway
Quotes from Jada Davis
โI just like to compete. You could put Uno in front of me, and I'm probably gonna win nine out of 10 games.โ
โI don't think it matters what club you play on if you wanna play in college. You just have to make the effort yourself.โ
โShe offered me the least, and I truly believed all I need is one season, and I was absolutely correct.โ
โI wanted to stick with something where I could just create my own path.โ
โI kinda steered away from coaching 'cause I was like, 'I don't wanna turn into the coaches that I hated.'โ
โIt doesn't matter what we mean when we say it, it matters how they interpret it.โ
โIt's their team. It's not my team. They're playing. I'm not playing.โ
โI don't care if you make mistakes as long as you fix them.โ
โYou don't have respect for people when they don't care to get to know you.โ
โSydney looked at me and she said, 'We got this.' It's something I live by. I think about it every day.โ