Explore every episode of the podcast Change The Odds

When one partner reaches for connection through sex and the other pulls away, it’s not about rejection—it’s about repair. This Fight Club dives deep into attachment, intimacy, and the emotional work beneath the surface.

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What happens when one partner carries the weight of everything—while the other says, “you never asked”? We unpack the fight about invisible labor, attachment styles, and how to stop the burnout spiral in your relationship.

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What happens when he’s late (again), she’s overwhelmed, and neither feels seen? We break down the anxious-avoidant loop, love styles, and what actually helps couples change the odds when the same fight keeps happening.

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From grey divorce to Gen Alpha’s AI-assisted dating future, we break down how each generation is reshaping marriage, sex, and relationships—and what it means for your love life in 2026.

In a first-ever father-son episode, Kevin sits down with 17-year-old Silas Thompson for an unfiltered, moving, and often vulnerable conversation about parenting, faith, legacy, and growing up as a pastor’s kid.

Why do we love the way we do—and how can we change it? Kevin Thompson and Mark Clark break down attachment theory, love styles, and how to build healthier relationships in every area of life.

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He said $800, he spent $2,000. Can a little Christmas magic justify a big financial betrayal? We break down the fight, the fallout, and how to stop money issues from ruining the season.

Christmas is supposed to be joyful—but for many couples, it’s anything but. We unpack one couple’s holiday dilemma and dive into boundaries, triangulation, and how to stop dreading December.

Kevin and Jenny Thompson join us to talk love, ministry, parenting challenges, and what makes a strong marriage work—even when you don’t cry at dedications.

When sex turns into another task on the to-do list, what’s really going on in the marriage? We unpack pursue-withdraw cycles, anxious attachment, and how real connection begins outside the bedroom.

What happens when “because I said so” meets “let’s stay connected”? Blaine and Adrienne unpack a listener-submitted parenting fight and explore how control and connection can work together—not against each other.

What if a fight over lost keys isn’t really about the keys? We break down how everyday conflict reveals deeper personality traits, attachment styles, and the hidden strength of a healthy fight.

Struggles, spelling, and spiritual growth—this episode unpacks five signs your marriage might be aligned with God’s will (and why pain might actually be proof you’re on the right path).

Forget the cookie-cutter advice—this episode dives into five bold spiritual practices that build real connection, intimacy, and purpose in your marriage. It’s time to change the odds, together.

From smashed wedding cakes to CrossFit crushes, we’re talking marriage red flags, rebuilding trust after betrayal, and how to guard your relationship from subtle dangers—without sounding like your spouse’s preacher.

We bust the “logical vs. emotional” myth, unpack the head–heart–gut framework, and share practical tools—“it felt like…”, absorbing the first jab, and naming emotions—to strengthen marriage, conflict, and parenting.

Q&A time: staying connected with unpredictable schedules, business meeting vs date night, high/low drive and physical touch, dividing housework fairly, and how to align individual dreams into a shared one. Real talk, practical moves.

What happens when truth and love collide in marriage? We unpack why honesty, maturity, and intentionality are essential to unity—and how speaking truth in love transforms relationships.

We unpack how couples truly grow: build connection first, then stack skills. Growth mindset, tiny daily habits, community, and safety over nagging. Prehab > rehab. Practical steps you can start tonight.

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We share how a retreat reshaped our view of marriage, rest, and partnership—and why dreaming together may be the most important thing you do as a couple.

We unpack the “window of tolerance”—hyper vs. hypoarousal, co-regulation, and simple tools (hello, breathing) to handle conflict, parenting chaos, and work stress—so you can fight for calm, not control.

Discover the neuroscience behind attending and attuning, why emotional safety boosts intimacy, and practical ways to connect deeply with your spouse every day.

Discover how the simple habits of attending and attuning can radically strengthen your marriage, deepen connection, and create emotional safety in every relationship.

Blaine and Adrienne celebrate 14 years of marriage—from sweet surprises to lost rings and everything in between—and reflect on what they’ve learned (and unlearned) along the way.

Why do some couples fight better? In this episode, Kevin unpacks the overlooked secret to healthy conflict: intellectual humility—and how it could transform your marriage.

Discover how to turn conflict into connection and stop letting emotions drive your relationships with Kevin A. Thompson’s guide to fighting fair.

What if your biggest marital conflict is actually a God-given strength? Kevin unpacks Psalm 139 and shows how embracing differences can lead to deeper love and lasting connection.

Marriage isn’t about losing yourself—it’s about building something new together. Kevin shares a powerful message on trust, individuality, and the beauty of integration in relationships.

How do you keep your marriage strong while parenting kids with big personalities? Kevin and Blaine unpack five keys to unity in marriage—even when life gets chaotic.

What if generosity is the secret to a thriving marriage? Kevin sits down with generosity expert Jim Sheppard to explore how giving changes relationships—and lives.

We open the vault on a raw, insightful live Q&A with Dr. Barbara Wilson—covering everything from spiritual intimacy to sex after 70, toys, trauma, and turning vulnerability into connection.

Learn how open conversations about sex can transform your marriage, strengthen your parenting, and break old taboos—with expert tips from Dr. Wilson and real talk from Blaine and Adrienne.

Discover how couples can reignite intimacy, navigate vulnerability, and make sex meaningful again—featuring clinical psychologist Dr. Barbara Wilson and real-life marriage insights.

Discover why intimacy starts outside the bedroom. Kevin, Blaine and Adrienne welcome Dr. Barbara Wilson to unpack how trust, respect, and vulnerability shape connection and lasting love.

Kevin dives into Sue Johnson’s three types of recurring fights in marriage—Find the Bad Guy, Protest Polka, and Freeze & Flee—offering tools to break the loop and build deeper connection.

Discover how the stories we tell ourselves shape our feelings, actions, and relationships—with practical tools for deeper, more compassionate communication in marriage and beyond.

What if you never had to fight about money again? We unpack how financial trust, team systems, and intentional spending can transform your marriage.

Is money hurting your marriage? Kevin and Adrienne dive into the five mistakes couples make with money—and how to fix them for good. This episode is part one of a two-part conversation you don’t want to miss.

What does disrespect really look like in marriage? Kevin, Blaine, and Adrian unpack the subtle ways we dishonor our partners—and how to rebuild trust and connection with intentional respect.

Respect isn’t just a nice-to-have in marriage—it’s essential. In this episode, we dive into what respect is, what it isn’t, and how to cultivate it in your relationship. Plus, real-life moments that prove respect makes all the difference!

Is apathy the true enemy of marriage? In this episode, we unpack why drifting apart—not adultery, finances, or poor communication—is the real cause of divorce. Learn how small, intentional actions can transform your relationship and keep you and your spouse connected.

Is your marriage thriving or just surviving? In this episode, we unpack how to intentionally build a relationship rooted in friendship, partnership, and intimacy—before drifting into something you never intended.

What does it take to become a power couple? In this episode, we explore the keys to building a thriving relationship—shared vision, secure attachment, personal growth, and more. Whether you’re in a great place or facing struggles, these insights will help you grow and inspire others along the way.

Are differences in marriage a weakness or a strength? In this episode, we unpack how contrasting personalities, perspectives, and habits can actually strengthen relationships—if handled with respect and understanding. From dishwasher debates to financial mindsets, Blaine and Adrienne explore how their differences bring balance, growth, and unity.

Grief looks different for everyone—but what happens when two people in a marriage process loss in completely different ways? Blaine and Adrienne share their deeply personal miscarriage story, revealing the unexpected challenges, the healing power of community, and how suffering can either pull couples apart or make them stronger than ever.

Your childhood experiences shape your relationships more than you think! In this episode, we dive into attachment theory—the science behind why we connect, argue, and love the way we do. Learn how to break old cycles, build secure attachments, and strengthen your marriage.

Do you greet your kids or your spouse first when you walk through the door? This episode dives into the science of personality, exploring how different perspectives shape relationships, communication, and connection in marriage. Discover how to use your differences as strengths and build a stronger family dynamic.

How do personality and autopilot behaviors impact your marriage? Kevin Thompson dives into agency, bonding, and certainty with Blaine and Adrienne Neufeld, exploring the Enneagram, parenting, and rewiring your relationship dynamics.

Explore the five biggest marriage trends of 2025 with Kevin Thompson. From delayed marriages to flourishing relationships, this episode unpacks the changing dynamics of love, partnership, and family.

Start 2025 right! Kevin Thompson sits down with Blaine and Adrienne Neufeld to explore five game-changing marriage trends for the year, tackling myths about marriage happiness, overcoming distractions, and sharing simple ways to deepen connection daily.