Why do parents think school is going great, while many kids feel disengaged and uninspired? In this Facing the Dark episode, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack research revealing the growing gap between how parents and students experience school. Together, they explore why learning often feels passive, why awe and wonder fade as kids get older, and how families can re-ignite curiosity by connecting schoolwork to real life. From dinner-table conversations to creative family rhythms, this episode equips parents to help kids move beyond grades and tests toward meaningful, integrated learning rooted in purpose, faith, and joy.

Technology is shaping our kids, often more than we realize. In this Facing the Dark episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender help parents move beyond fear or frustration toward clarity, compassion, and leadership. Drawing on research, Scripture, and real family experience, they explore how screens quietly train attitudes like entitlement, impatience, and self-centeredness, and how families can reclaim joy, peace, and connection through intentional, gradual change. This episode equips parents to lead tech conversations wisely, create family plans kids can buy into, and choose whom their household will truly serve.

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In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the concept of flourishing in children and what drives their success in an ever-evolving world. Drawing insights from Sarah Hernholm's recent Forbes article, Dr. Kathy discusses how Gen Z is becoming the most entrepreneurial generation yet, with traditional preparation methods no longer sufficient. She highlights five essential skills that kids need to cultivate: entrepreneurial skills, AI literacy, public speaking and communication, real-world problem-solving, and financial literacy through practice. The conversation centers around how these skills can empower children to thrive in their future careers and contribute positively to society. Tune in to explore how we can better prepare the next generation for success in a rapidly changing cultural landscape.

In this episode of The Celebrate Kids Podcast, the daily episode Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new research on parenting benchmarks and trends, especially the growing movement of "cycle-breaking parenting" among Gen Z moms and dads. Together, they unpack what it means to parent with both wisdom and grace, moving beyond negative family patterns without shaming past generations. Dr. Kathy shares practical insights on being unified as parents, balancing correction with encouragement, and raising kids who know their God-given strengths. Wayne connects these themes to Ezekiel 18, showing how Scripture reminds us that every generation can step into fresh mercies and new beginnings.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the profound impact of scripture on identity and personal growth. She reflects on the tendency many have to rely on their own problem-solving abilities rather than turning to prayer or the teachings of the Bible, especially when facing challenges as parents. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of embracing the truth of scripture to foster a deeper understanding of oneself and to experience the goodness of God. She also discusses insights from the American Bible Society's study, "The Eighth Chapter," which examines the state of the Bible in the USA, highlighting the necessity of scripture in rebuilding identity for both adults and children. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that encourages listeners to seek out the light of truth in their lives.

How do we talk to kids about violence, fear, and brokenness without overwhelming them, or pretending it doesn't exist? In this Facing the Dark episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender help parents navigate hard conversations sparked by news, school lessons, and cultural realities. They explore how to give children real security (not just reassurance), how to recognize emotional "pressure points," and how to create healthy release valves for stress using the ways kids are uniquely wired. This episode equips parents to replace fear with faith, confusion with clarity, and isolation with connection—anchored in the hope and security found in Christ.

In this Facing the Dark conversation, Dr. Kathy and Wayne Stender engage the growing concern around "sharenting," a term popularized by legal scholar Leah Plunkett to describe how parents and trusted adults share children's lives online. While often well-intentioned, constant posting can subtly communicate that a child's value lies in how they appear, how well they perform, or how much attention their moments generate.

Dr. Kathy explains how children can internalize the belief that they exist to make parents feel proud, connected, or validated. When everyday life becomes content, kids may begin to feel responsible for maintaining a highlight reel rather than simply living their childhood. Over time, this can affect identity formation, confidence, and a child's ability to own and narrate their own story.

Wayne reflects on the tension many parents feel: wanting to capture meaningful moments while also wanting to stay present in those moments. Together, they challenge families to reconsider the rhythm and ratio of posting, to create private spaces for memory-keeping, and to invite children into owning their memories rather than outsourcing them to a feed.

Grounded in Scripture and child development, this episode invites parents to pause, put the phone down, and choose presence over performance, so kids can grow up known, secure, and free to become who God created them to be.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the critical issue of student engagement in education. She highlights the findings from a recent Brookings Institution survey revealing that only one-third of children are enthusiastic about school by age 13, contrasting sharply with parents' perceptions. Dr. Kathy addresses the reasons behind children's boredom and disinterest in learning, emphasizing the importance of making education relevant and beneficial. She also explores how parents can respond to their children's frustrations with school, acknowledging that while some level of boredom can build resilience, it can also lead to a diminished love for learning. Tune in for valuable insights on fostering enthusiasm in education and maintaining a positive learning environment for children.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about how teens are forming opinions through social media and AI, even while doubting the credibility of what they find. They unpack why uncertainty affects security, identity, and confidence, and how parents can teach kids to evaluate truth with wisdom.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we explore the importance of remembrance in education. Wayne discusses the overwhelming pressure students face today, with numerous graduation requirements and expectations. Drawing on research and biblical concepts, the segment emphasizes the need for students to take time to reflect on their learning and the positive experiences they've had. Dr. Kathy highlights Connecticut's graduation requirement, which asks students to assess their own learning growth over four years. This episode encourages parents and educators to facilitate moments of remembrance, shedding light on the significance of acknowledging past achievements and God's influence in students' lives.

What happens when a parent's identity becomes built around being needed? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about the quiet crisis many parents face as children grow older and need them differently. They explore the difference between identity, purpose, and competence, why parenting must be rooted in Christ rather than control, and how parents can model a whole, healthy life for their children.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the challenges faced by today's children and the pressures they encounter in various environments, including school, church, and family life. She reflects on the shifts in children's behavior and performance over the years, sparked by a Reddit discussion among teachers about the noticeable changes they have observed since they began teaching. With insights on how to communicate positively and supportively with our kids, Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of understanding and guiding them through these complex cultural moments. Join us as we explore ways to encourage our children and cultivate resilience in the face of modern life's pressures.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy and Wayne Stender discuss the challenges parents face when trying to nurture their children's faith, especially when it seems like their efforts aren't yielding the desired results. They emphasize the importance of having meaningful conversations that go beyond faith discussions, engaging with kids on various topics that interest them. The episode features insights from Dr. Kathy, who highlights findings from George Barna's American Worldview Inventory Report. This report reveals that many adults are open to the idea of God under certain conditions, presenting both a troubling reality and a powerful opportunity for fostering faith in children. The conversation aims to equip parents with the understanding that having a trusted person in a child's life is crucial for building their faith. Tune in to explore how to guide children in their spiritual journey without overwhelming them.

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As debates over gender identity and medical care for minors grow louder across the country, parents are left asking a deeper question than politics alone can't answer: how do we help our children know who they are? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss identity formation and why parents must be the clearest, most trusted voices in their children's lives. This is a conversation about speaking truth with love and helping kids find their identity in Christ rather than confusion.

Some children seem easy to raise. They do not ask for much, and they rarely create conflict. But what if that "easy" child is not thriving at all? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why quiet, low maintenance children are often overlooked, how unmet needs can hide behind calm behavior and what parents can do to make sure every child feels seen and deeply loved.

In a world that constantly pushes kids toward the next thing—next assignment, next achievement, next version of themselves—what if the most important habit we could teach them is to pause and look back?

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the power of remembrance. Drawing from research, real-life parenting moments, and biblical truth, they unpack why reflection is one of the most overlooked tools for building identity, resilience, and faith in kids today.

You'll discover why today's kids rarely evaluate their own growth, how simple rhythms like "highlights and lowlights" can transform your family conversations, and how remembering what God has done prepares your child for the hard moments ahead.

If you've ever wondered how to help your kids grow deeper, not just faster, this episode will give you practical and meaningful ways to start.

When kids say school feels boring, parents can be tempted to panic, rescue, or simply push harder. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why relevance matters so much in learning, why boredom can become dangerous when kids disconnect, and how parents can coach children to stay engaged even when school feels hard or uninteresting.

In this episode, we explore the challenges of parenting preteens and teens, focusing on the shift in dynamics as children enter their teenage years. Many young people express feelings of being scrutinized by their parents, questioning why they suddenly feel like they are under an interrogation just because they've turned 13. We discuss the importance of support and understanding in the parent-child relationship, emphasizing the need for open communication. The episode also touches on how parents can effectively support their kids during this transformative phase, even when it feels like their efforts are not being recognized. Join us as we navigate these complex emotions and work towards fostering a nurturing environment for our growing teens.

Just because a child is older does not always mean they are more mature. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the difference between chronological age and character age, why maturity should shape freedom more than birthdays, and how parents can wisely adjust their expectations as children grow.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about teens who say "not every home is safe" and why some kids seek belonging in risky places. They unpack how parents can build homes marked by safety, attention, correction without criticism, and meaningful connection.

Some of the loneliest kids do not look lonely at all. They have friends and plenty of social activity, yet still feel deeply unknown. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the difference between being alone and being lonely, why emotional loneliness is often hidden, and how parents can help children feel truly known, not just constantly connected.

Writing does more than capture thoughts. It can calm the brain and organize emotions, which helps kids grow in resiliency. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why putting thoughts on paper matters, how journaling helps children process hard moments, and why handwritten words may still be one of the most powerful tools for clarity and growth.

Artificial intelligence can make life faster and easier, but what if it also makes our kids more fragile? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why failure and curious critical thinking still matter, and how parents can raise resilient kids in a world that keeps trying to remove struggle.

As our kids grow, something powerful replaces control. That something is influence. And influence is built on relationship.

Influence grows where conversations feel safe. It deepens where respect is mutual. It strengthens when our kids know they are valued not just for what they do, but for who they are.

This shift mirrors a beautiful picture from Scripture. In 1 Thessalonians, Paul describes his relationship with others not through authority, but through gentleness, encouragement, and shared life. He speaks as both a nurturing mother and an encouraging father, showing us that lasting impact comes through relational investment.

When we move from controlling behavior to cultivating connection, we position ourselves to remain a meaningful voice in our children's lives.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack how parents can move from control to influence and respond when adult kids name old hurts in ways that build relationships that stay strong for the long haul.

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In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the challenges and struggles that come with parenting, especially for those who are also caring for aging relatives. With an estimated 1.3 million "sandwich carers" in the UK, this segment addresses the pressures faced by individuals juggling multiple responsibilities. Dr. Kathy discusses the feelings of isolation and doubt that can arise during tough times, reminding listeners that it's essential to acknowledge the reality of life's struggles rather than promoting a false narrative of perfection in faith. Tune in for insightful advice on navigating these complexities while raising children and supporting loved ones.

In this episode, we delve into the insights shared by Dr. Kathy, focusing on the concerning trends highlighted by author Jonathan Haidt in his book, "Anxious Generation." Haidt discusses the alarming increase in high school seniors who feel their lives are useless, with the percentage doubling since 2010. We explore the impact of storytelling on youth, emphasizing the moral order present in narratives from previous generations and how this contrasts with the current environment. Additionally, we highlight the importance of nurturing creativity in children through resources like Creating a Masterpiece, which offers guided art projects that inspire and awaken their creative potential. Tune in to learn more about these critical issues facing today's youth and the tools available to support their emotional well being.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the ongoing discussions surrounding gender identity within the church, particularly in light of a leaked training video from North Point Community Church. The video showed a ministry director instructing leaders to use affirming language for transgender students aged 11 to 14. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of truth in guiding youth, expressing concern over the confusion that can arise from misleading ideas propagated by leaders. She offers insights on how to navigate these challenging conversations with children, highlighting the necessity of making sure that the church remains a place of truth while ensuring that all students feel safe and supported. Tune in as Dr. Kathy shares helpful strategies for parents and leaders facing this complex issue.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the importance of self-efficacy in children and how daily chores contribute to this vital character quality. Drawing on research conducted by pediatrician Rebecca Schraff at the University of Virginia Medical School, Dr. Kathy discusses the findings that children who regularly participate in household chores develop a stronger sense of capability compared to those who do not. This episode delves into the benefits of assigning age-appropriate responsibilities to kids, emphasizing how chores can foster independence, confidence, and a positive mindset about their abilities. Tune in for insightful tips on how to integrate chores into family life in a way that feels rewarding rather than burdensome.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, host Dr. Kathy discusses the importance of building resiliency in children amidst a societal focus on ensuring their happiness. She emphasizes the need for parents to model resilience by overcoming challenges rather than complaining about daily struggles. Dr. Kathy highlights the role of negative experiences in personal growth, drawing from her own journey of faith and resilience. She addresses the concerns surrounding children's mental health and the tendency to create overly protective environments, urging listeners to embrace challenges as opportunities for growth. Tune in for insights on how to help kids develop the skills they need to face life's obstacles with confidence.

Online platforms like Roblox promise fun, creativity, and connection, but for millions of kids, those promises are breaking. In this episode of Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack the rise of digital gaming and the dangers hidden behind "safe" online play. From lawsuits and predatory risks to the loss of imagination, they contrast artificial worlds with the kind of real play God designed to shape hearts, build courage, and foster identity. Drawing on the story of David's childhood play and its role in forming his bravery, Dr. Kathy reminds us that kids don't just need entertainment; they need formation. Discover why parents stepping in to set boundaries isn't control; it's love, and how playing together as families restores joy, resilience, and faith in a distracted age.

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In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss the common habit of using screens to calm kids in cars, restaurants, airports, and other stressful moments. They explore why screens can weaken emotional regulation over time and how parents can gradually help children build patience and self control.

When your son or daughter says, "I'm just not good at math," it's easy to focus on the subject, but the real issue often runs deeper. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack why math struggles are rarely just about numbers and more often about identity, mindset, and connection.

They explore how culture, family language, and learning styles shape a child's confidence, and why interest, not pressure, is the key to growth. You'll discover practical ways to make math meaningful in everyday life, how to shift from performance to progress, and why learning to do hard things matters far beyond the classroom.

Plus, they'll walk through how the 8 Great Smarts can unlock your child's ability to engage math in a way that actually makes sense to them.

If you've ever wondered how to help your child move from frustration to confidence, this conversation will equip you with both perspective and practical next steps.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the complex impact of social media on children and the potential consequences of removing access to these platforms. She emphasizes that simply taking social media away from kids may not be enough to address the underlying issues they face. Instead, she advocates for a proactive approach where parents and educators step in to teach children about the challenges posed by social media. The discussion touches on the increasing number of lawsuits against major social media companies, highlighting concerns about their effects on youth and the strain they place on resources in schools. Dr. Kathy provides valuable insights to help parents better understand the topic and navigate the challenges of raising children in a digital age.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the challenge of entitlement in children and offers valuable strategies for parents. She begins by sharing her frustration with entitled behavior in her own kids and emphasizes the importance of helping children learn to tolerate frustration instead of removing it. Drawing from insights by Dr. Becky, she highlights the significance of acknowledging and validating children's feelings when they face challenges. Dr. Kathy encourages parents to resist the urge to immediately solve their kids' problems, allowing them the opportunity to wrestle with difficulties and develop resilience. Tune in for practical tips on fostering a healthier mindset in your children and guiding them toward a more appreciative attitude.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the prevalent issue of anxiety in children and explores innovative methods to support them. Traditional cognitive behavioral therapy has been the go-to approach, but Dr. Kathy considers a new technique known as Childhood Independence Therapy, developed by the nonprofit Let Grow. This therapy focuses on fostering independence in children by encouraging them to take on new challenges on their own, with parental permission but without direct involvement. The discussion highlights the benefits of this approach, including reduced anxiety, increased confidence, and enhanced independence, providing parents with practical strategies to help their children navigate anxiety both now and in the future. Tune in to learn how these methods can serve as a form of preventative medicine for your child's emotional well-being.

Culture tells kids to "find strength within," but what if that's not enough? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack inner strength, self efficacy, and why true confidence is built on Christ rather than self.

Test scores say kids are falling behind, but is that the full story? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack post-COVID learning gaps, the power of reading, and why curiosity, not scores, may be the real measure of success.

Are today's kids really falling behind, or are we measuring the wrong things? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack the debate around intelligence and what truly matters. Discover why "People Smarts" may be the most important skill your child can develop in today's world.

New research shows that when parents play with their kids, their brains actually sync. But this isn't just science, it's a powerful reminder of how God designed connection. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore how play, shared rhythms, and presence build belonging and lifelong bonds.

Location tracking apps promise safety and peace of mind, but are they quietly undermining trust and confidence in our kids? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the tension between protection and control and how parents can use technology wisely without damaging relationships.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we explore the significance of everyday moments spent with our children, particularly during car rides. Wayne reflects on a cherished experience with his family, emphasizing how these simple interactions can create lasting memories and foster connections. Dr. Kathy joins the discussion, highlighting the positive impact that mundane engagements have on children's identity and sense of purpose. Inspired by a Men's Health article by Ben Falcone, the episode delves into the joys and challenges of parenting, encouraging listeners to appreciate the little moments that shape family life. Tune in for insights on nurturing relationships and building connections through everyday activities.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about Pizza Hut's returning Book It program and whether rewards help or hurt a child's love of reading. They explore how parents can motivate reluctant readers, make reading relational, and build habits that last longer than the reward.

In this episode, we explore the fascinating trend of "kidults," adults who are rediscovering their love for toys and play. Dr. Kathy discusses how companies like Hasbro are tapping into this nostalgia driven market, with adults investing in intricate Lego sets, trendy plush toys, and even matching outfits with their American Girl dolls. We delve into the implications of this phenomenon on adult culture and consumer behavior, highlighting how play is not just for kids anymore. Sponsored by Creating a Masterpiece, the episode also emphasizes the importance of encouraging creativity in children through art projects and trainings. Join us as we unpack the intersection of play, nostalgia, and creativity in today's society.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the important topic of building resiliency in children. As parents increasingly seek guidance on this subject, Dr. Kathy explores the concept of "panda parenting," a style that emerges from permissive parenting. This approach emphasizes a balance of warmth, support, and the encouragement of exploration and independence, allowing children to navigate challenges with minimal rules or boundaries. While some experts argue that this method can be detrimental, others believe it fosters self-confidence and resilience. Dr. Kathy provides valuable insights on how to effectively guide children in developing these essential life skills, enhancing their ability to face adversity. Tune in for practical advice on nurturing resilience in the next generation.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, host Dr. Kathy addresses the challenges parents face when their children struggle with friendships or are influenced by negative peers. Drawing on the importance of self-awareness and shared experiences, Dr. Kathy emphasizes the need for parents to communicate their hopes and strengths for their children while teaching them discernment in choosing friends. The segment, titled "Facing the Dark," provides valuable insights to help guide kids toward positive friendships and community involvement. Additionally, Dr. Kathy touches on a recent event where Melania Trump advocated for a bill aimed at protecting individuals from the non-consensual posting of intimate imagery online, highlighting the relevance of consent in the digital age.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the nuances between normal anxiety and chronic anxiety in young people. She highlights the alarming statistics surrounding depression among teens, emphasizing the importance of creating a safe environment for open conversations about mental health. Dr. Kathy encourages parents to foster courage in discussing these sensitive topics, reassuring them that while it may lead to uncovering troubling issues, engaging in these conversations is crucial for supporting their children's well-being. Tune in for valuable insights on navigating mental health discussions with your kids.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the concept of parenting beyond merely raising well-behaved children. She challenges the notion that the primary goal of parenting should be to produce obedient kids who do the right things at the right times. Instead, Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of encouraging children to be comfortable in their own skin and to embrace their true selves. Drawing on insights from Elizabeth Tenty's article in Motherly, the discussion highlights four key practices of parents with well-behaved kids: listening to their children, validating emotions, explaining decisions, and maintaining consistent boundaries. Join us as we explore a more holistic approach to parenting that focuses on nurturing individuality and self-acceptance in children.

Gentle parenting has become one of the most popular parenting trends among millennials. But when warmth replaces structure, experts warn it can backfire. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the difference between permissive and authoritative parenting and why boundaries are one of the greatest gifts parents can give their children.

Remember when teens spent weekends wandering the neighborhood and doing things just for fun, without documenting it online? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy reflect on what young people have lost in the age of constant connectivity and why kids still need unstructured time, real relationships, and room to grow in independence.

Artificial intelligence is quietly entering children's toy boxes. New reports show dozens of toys marketed to kids using AI systems, despite restrictions meant to keep children away from these technologies. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss how AI toys shape identity and relationships, and why parents must pay attention.