We plan our kids’ schedules, our careers, even our vacations down to the hour, and somehow holding our relationship together doesn’t get the same attention. Most marriages, when they end, don’t end in one big blowup —they end quietly; one skipped conversation at a time.
Today we’re talking about connection and the stress that fertility issues, perimenopause, and postpartum can put on our relationship. By the end of this episode, you’ll know what quietly quitting your marriage really looks like, how the mental load of raising kids and caregiving quietly erodes connection, and practical tips you can start implementing today, or even tonight, to build that connection. You’ll also learn what the orgasm gap is, and what can actually close it.
Our guest today is Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy, an AASECT Certified sex therapist and author of Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids. She is also certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and is the co-host of the Under the Hood podcast. Dr. Eudy helps couples navigate sex, desire, and connection in the whirlwind of parenting, even when life and kids make it feel impossible. She works with couples every day who love each other but have quietly drifted into something that looks more like a partnership than a marriage, and she’s here to tell us exactly how they find their way back before it’s too late.
Dr. Lucky Sekhon and Dr. Alicia Robbins ask Dr. Eudy how she helps couples reestablish connection, her thoughts on open marriages, how she uses the biopsychosocial model to analyze low libido, and when should a couple seek out a sex therapist. Dr. Eudy also explains the difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire and why it’s healthy for couples to talk about sex more than they have sex. If you take one thing from this episode, let it be this quote from Dr. Eudy: “You cannot pour desire from an empty cup. Rest, pleasure, and feeling valued are not luxuries, they’re conditions that intimacy requires.”
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