Many boys are taught from a young age that they must be ‘tough’ and hide their emotions. In this conversation, Dr Justin Coulson and Professor Marc Brackett discuss how parents can give their boys ‘permission to feel’ all of their emotions. Marc Brackett also shares with us how to increase our emotional intelligence and become a better emotion coach for our boys.
Timestamps
- 00:19 Dr Justin introduces Marc Brackett
- 01:29 Establishing the gender of this conversation
- 02:12 Boys and their emotions
- 05:19 Expression of emotions is a nurture not nature issue
- 09:41 How to change the culture?
- 13:25 Effects of masking emotions
- 15:22 Willingness to demonstrate empathy
- 18:05 Nurturing our boys’ emotions
- 24:05 Permission to feel all emotions
- 26:40 Theory vs in-practice
- 29:10 Justin shares an incident - naming your emotions
- 32:20 Deactivating parental emotions
- 35:40 Emotion regulation
- 37:14 Final message
Professor Marc Brackett
Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor in the Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine at Yale University. His grant-funded research focuses on the role of emotions in learning, decision making, creativity, relationship quality, wellbeing, performance, and organizational climate; the measurement of emotional intelligence; and the influence of emotional intelligence training on key life outcomes.
Marc has published over 150 scholarly articles, received numerous awards, and is featured regularly in popular media outlets such as the New York Times, Good Morning America, CBS This Morning, and The Today Show. He also is on the board of directors for the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL).
Marc is the lead developer of RULER, a systemic, evidence-based approach to social and emotional learning that has been adopted by over 3,000 public, charter, and independent pre-school through high schools across the United States and in other countries, including Australia, China, England, Italy, Mexico, and Spain. Research shows that RULER boosts academic performance, decreases bullying, enriches classroom climates, reduces teacher stress and burnout, and enhances teacher instructional practices.
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