Explore every episode of the podcast Breaking the Grip - Finding Faith and Freedom from Toxic People
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| Married To A Narcissist? This Changes Everything. | 07 Aug 2025 | 00:17:18 | |
💔 Married to a Narcissist? This Changes Everything You’ve read the books, watched the videos — but nothing prepares you for when the narcissist is your husband. ⚠️ 3 Myths Keeping Christian Wives Trapped: 1️⃣ “You’re stuck, deal with it.” 2️⃣ “It’s your job to fix it.” 3️⃣ “God just wants me happy.” 🛡 2 Spiritual Shifts You Need: 1️⃣ Pray for His Deliverance
2️⃣ Stand Against the Spiritual Battle 📖 3 Biblical Steps While You Wait: 1️⃣ Set Boundaries — not rebellion, but wisdom. 3️⃣ Rebuild Your Identity — You’re God’s daughter before anyone’s wife. 🎧 Need clarity on divorce in situations like this? Watch: You’re not crazy. Not alone. Not powerless. | |||
| When God Has Enough, He Exposes the Narcissist Like THIS | 31 Jul 2025 | 00:42:00 | |
🎙️ Podcast Episode: When God Has Enough, He Exposes the Narcissist Like THIS
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| 6 'Normal' Narcissistic Habits That Invite Demonic Influence | 24 Jul 2025 | 00:16:57 | |
6 Narcissistic Behaviors That Look Normal — But Are Spiritually Dangerous You’ve forgiven, kept the peace, and even blamed yourself… but what if the narcissist in your life isn’t just emotionally immature — what if they’re being used by the enemy to wear you down spiritually? In this episode, we’re exposing 6 spiritually dangerous behaviors that may look normal — even loving — but are actually meant to confuse, control, and keep you stuck in guilt. 🛑 These are not just emotional issues. They’re demonic traps in disguise. We’ll cover:
⚔️ Plus: Learn how to break free using biblical truth and spiritual authority. 👉 If you’ve been suffering under this abuse, watch this next: 🎁 Grab your Free Narcissist Survival Guide: | |||
| The One Thing That Makes a Narcissist Instantly Lose Control Over You - | 17 Jul 2025 | 00:12:07 | |
The One Thing That Makes a Narcissist Instantly Lose Control Over You They seemed calm… even charming — until you did this one thing. In this episode, we’re uncovering the one simple but spiritually powerful shift that makes a narcissist instantly lose control over you. It’s not yelling. It’s not ghosting. It’s a quiet refusal to engage in their tactics — and it breaks their emotional and spiritual hold. Here’s what we’ll cover: • The emotional “strings” narcissists use to control you This isn’t just about behavior change — it’s about spiritual warfare. 📖 Proverbs 10:19 | Proverbs 29:11 | Ephesians 5:11 | Galatians 1:10 👉 Watch the full episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pVD1IWLaRTg | |||
| This Demonic Trap Keeps Christians Stuck with Narcissists | 10 Jul 2025 | 00:14:41 | |
82% of Christians Fall Into This Demonic Trap With Toxic People
👉 You could be caught in a spiritual trap, one that feels godly but keeps you bound. 5 Common Spiritual Traps: 1️⃣ Confusing Restoration with Reconciliation
2️⃣ Mistaking Passivity for Patience
3️⃣ People-Pleasing Disguised as Humility
4️⃣ Trying to Be Someone’s Savior
5️⃣ Letting Guilt Override Discernment
🎯 Next Step: 🎁 Free Guide: | |||
| 20 Alarming Ways Narcissists Use Demonic Influence to Control You | 26 Jun 2025 | 01:09:19 | |
🎁 Don’t forget to download your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide here: 👉 Don’t miss this episode: 4 Undeniable Signs Narcissists are Influenced by Demons https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IUQcvrR0XXY | |||
| 6 Alarming Signs Your Body is Breaking Under the Weight of a Toxic Relationship | 19 Jun 2025 | 00:12:22 | |
You’re not imagining it. The exhaustion. The weight gain. The brain fog. When you're in a toxic or narcissistic relationship, the emotional strain doesn’t just affect your mind—it shows up in your body. 😔💥 In this powerful episode, Kris breaks down 6 surprising physical symptoms that often appear when you're under chronic emotional stress — and how your body might be trying to warn you. From sleep struggles and gut issues to inflammation and frequent illness, you’ll learn how to discern the difference between “just stress” and something deeper. 🧠💔 This is more than a health issue. It’s a spiritual battle. And healing starts when you begin listening to the body God gave you — and anchor yourself in His truth. 💡 In this episode: 📖 "A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones." — Proverbs 17:22 🎁 Don’t forget to download your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide here: 👉 And if you’ve ever wondered what God does when narcissists go too far… don’t miss this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tEcJlNR3N4Y | |||
| How Demons Turn Narcissists Into Spiritual Assassins (5 Terrifying Truths Christians Must Wake Up To) | 12 Jun 2025 | 00:14:45 | |
You’re not just dealing with a difficult person... you’re facing a weaponized tool in a spiritual war. ⚔️ Every lie. Every manipulation. Every accusation. In this episode, Kris exposes how narcissists, through pride, rebellion, and deception, become vessels of demonic influence — spiritual assassins sent to destroy peace, relationships, and purpose. This isn’t just psychology — this is spiritual warfare, and it’s time to see it for what it is. 🚨 Here’s what you’ll learn:
👁️ You’ll walk away with clarity, spiritual discernment, and the tools to stop fighting the wrong battle — and start standing in victory through Christ. 🛡️ You’re not fighting a personality. You’re facing powers — and God has already equipped you to overcome. 🎁 Grab your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide ▶️ Watch next: What God Always Does to the Narcissist | |||
| Never Call Out A Narcissist, Unless You're Prepared For This | 05 Jun 2025 | 00:12:01 | |
Never Call Out a Narcissist… Unless You’re Prepared for This You finally gather the courage to confront the narcissist, hoping for change or at least clarity. Instead? You’re met with an emotional explosion, word-twisting, and endless blame-shifting—leaving you questioning if you’re the problem. You’re not crazy, and you’re not alone. This episode unpacks why calling out a narcissist almost always backfires and how to protect yourself emotionally, spiritually, and even legally if you do. 👉 We’ll explore:
Throughout, you’ll discover scriptural insights and practical wisdom for dealing with this spiritual and emotional warfare. 🎭 Key Scriptures:
🔚 The Hard Truth 👉 Next Steps: 🎧 Tune in, and let’s walk through this together. | |||
| They Tried To Destroy You - Here's What God Did | 29 May 2025 | 00:35:19 | |
Have you ever wondered what happens when a narcissist targets a Christian? You’ve likely been hurt, manipulated, and maybe even discarded, and now you're left wondering, "Are they just going to get away with it? That's why in this episode, I'm going to walk you through the 3 phases that every narcissist goes through when they have the audacity to attack one of God's children....What God is going to do to intervene AND what you can do to ensure that His justice is served in a timely manner. I assure you, they will not be able to handle what comes next.... ❤️ Watch this episode next to find out What God Will Do After a Narcissistic Relationship. 📘 FREE Narcissist Survival Guide—your toolbox for discernment, boundaries, and healing. Get it here. | |||
| This 5 Second Test Exposes The "Christian" Female Covert Narcissist | 22 May 2025 | 00:15:35 | |
🎙️ This 5-Second Test Exposes the Christian Covert Narcissist (Especially Women) Spotting a narcissist isn’t always easy. She may be soft-spoken, prayerful, and sweet—but beneath the surface is manipulation, confusion, and emotional control. In this episode, Kris Reece reveals how to identify her fast—without guilt, shame, or second-guessing yourself. 🔎 Here are 9 traits to watch for:
🎯 Want to learn the 3 signs God is trying to remove someone from your life? 📘 FREE Narcissist Survival Guide—your toolbox for discernment, boundaries, and healing. Get it here. | |||
| 3 Clues to Spot the Demonic Spirit Behind the Narcissist | 15 May 2025 | 00:10:48 | |
When a narcissist loses control over you, they don’t walk away—they escalate. Their goal has never been love, it’s always been control. Here are 3 common tactics they use and how to protect yourself: 1️⃣ They Play the Victim 2️⃣ They Smear Your Name 3️⃣ They Try to Provoke You These tactics are only part of the narcissist’s playbook. The best defense? Stand firm in your truth and boundaries. 🔥 Next Steps: | |||
| You Thought Boundaries Would Bring Peace—But Then This Happened | 09 May 2025 | 00:25:10 | |
You set boundaries hoping for peace… but instead, it got messy 😬. Ever been there? In this episode, we’re getting real about the unexpected resistance that comes when you start honoring your limits 🚫. Boundaries are biblical ✝️—but that doesn’t mean they’re always easy. Here are 5 hard truths to expect when you start walking in this kind of growth:
If you’ve been questioning your decision to set boundaries—or feeling isolated because of it—this conversation is for you 💬. Let’s walk through it together, with grace, truth, and spiritual clarity ✨. 👉 For your FREE narcissist guide, click HERE. | |||
| 3 Desperate Tactics Narcissists Use When You Stop Playing Their Game | 01 May 2025 | 00:11:37 | |
🎙 3 Desperate Tactics Narcissists Use When You Stop Playing Their Game When a narcissist realizes they no longer have control over you, they panic—not out of love, but out of a deep need for power. Like a gambler who suddenly starts losing, they escalate and become desperate. In this episode, we’ll uncover 3 common tactics narcissists use when they lose control—and how you can protect yourself. 🔹 1. They Play the Victim 🔹 2. They Smear Your Name 🔹 3. They Try to Provoke You 📖 Proverbs 26:24-26 & 26:4 remind us to be wise to deception and avoid engaging with manipulative fools. 💡 Protect yourself: Stick to your boundaries, resist the guilt trips, and let your actions speak for themselves. 🔥 Next Steps: | |||
| The #1 Sign God is Preparing to Remove That Toxic Person | 24 Apr 2025 | 00:10:47 | |
Is God Removing Toxic People from Your Life? 5 Signs to Watch For Are you questioning whether God is removing someone toxic from your life? This episode breaks down the spiritual and emotional signs to watch for and offers biblical encouragement for moving forward. In this episode, you’ll learn:
What to do next:
Biblical Insight: “For nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest…” — Luke 8:17🔥 Next Steps: | |||
| Trying to Love a Narcissist? These 3 Mistakes Will Break You | 17 Apr 2025 | 00:22:15 | |
🎙 Podcast Title: 3 Mistakes That Keep You Emotionally Drained In this episode, we’re unpacking three powerful mistakes that can quietly drain your emotional, spiritual, and mental health—especially in relationships where you’re doing all the work. 🔹 Mistake 1: Emotional Over-Functioning 🔹 Mistake 2: Mistaking Compliance for Connection 🔹 Mistake 3: Believing That Your Love Will Heal Them ✨ This episode will help you identify the hidden patterns that keep you stuck and give you permission to choose peace, clarity, and wholeness. 🙌 Want to know how to handle narcissists the way Jesus did? | |||
| This One Behavior Makes You Impossible to Manipulate | 10 Apr 2025 | 00:10:46 | |
This One Behavior Makes You Impossible to Manipulate Imagine walking through a pitch-black room, filled with hidden traps. You’re stumbling, unsure of your next step. But then—someone flips on the light. Suddenly, you see everything clearly. The confusion ends. The danger loses its grip. Manipulators thrive in darkness—confusion, doubt, and emotional chaos are their playground. But when you develop discernment, it’s like flipping on that light. You begin to see people’s true motives, not just with your eyes, but with spiritual clarity. What Is Discernment? Discernment isn’t just a gut feeling—it’s clarity. It’s the ability to see beyond appearances and recognize what’s really going on beneath the surface. Biblically, it's a gift from God (Hebrews 5:14) that helps you separate truth from lies, care from control. Discernment allows you to:
Think of it as a spiritual lie detector—one that exposes deception before it takes hold. Why Manipulators Lose Power When You Have Discernment
The Catch: Discernment Requires Emotional Stability Discernment is powerful, but without emotional stability, it won’t protect you. Emotional instability makes you vulnerable—even when you see the truth. For example:
Build Emotional Resilience in 3 Steps
When you combine discernment with emotional stability, manipulation loses its power. In the next episode, we’ll explore what to do when manipulators escalate—even after you’ve reclaimed your clarity and peace. 🔥 Next Steps: | |||
| 7 Demonic Attitudes Narcissists Carry Into Every Relationship | 03 Apr 2025 | 00:16:16 | |
A Demonic Attitude is Not Just a Bad Mood Not all bad attitudes are just personality flaws—some are deeply rooted in deception, control, and manipulation. In this episode, we uncover four demonic traits often seen in narcissistic behavior: 1️⃣ Deception & Manipulation (John 8:44) – Twisting reality to control and confuse. 2️⃣ Control & Domination (2 Corinthians 11:14-15) – Using emotional blackmail and fear to gain power. 3️⃣ Blame-Shifting & Accusation (Revelation 12:10) – Never taking responsibility and making you feel guilty. 4️⃣ Hypocrisy & False Righteousness (Matthew 23:27-28) – Hiding behind a facade of goodness while living in contradiction. These behaviors are designed to weaken and control, but God exposes deception so we can step into truth. Once you see the truth, you can never unsee it. 🔥 Next Steps: 📖 Download Your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide: Get it Here | |||
| You've been asking God to change the narcissist - Here's your answer | 27 Mar 2025 | 00:16:54 | |
Have you been pleading with God to change that toxic person in your life, only to feel more frustrated and stuck? What if the real transformation God is working on is within you? In this episode, we’ll dive into:
This isn’t punishment — it’s preparation. If you’re ready to stop feeling powerless and start walking in God’s purpose, this could change everything. 🔥 Watch how God exposes narcissists when He’s had enough: Click Here | |||
| Drop This One Trait and You’ll Never Be Manipulated by a Narcissist Again | 20 Mar 2025 | 00:11:22 | |
Do you ever feel like you're constantly trying to keep others happy, even at your own expense? People-pleasing may seem like kindness, but when it comes from a place of fear or obligation, it can become a tool for manipulation — especially for narcissists. They sense when they can control you by making you feel responsible for their happiness. In this episode, we’re breaking down the signs of people-pleasing and how to reclaim your power:
If any of these resonate with you, know that you’re not alone — and you don’t have to stay stuck in this pattern. It’s possible to be a kind, caring person without being controlled. We’ll cover three powerful shifts to help you break free:
Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first, and guilt may creep in. But remember — guilt is not from God. You have the right to protect your peace. 📖 Download: Your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide → Click Here | |||
| 3 Signs God is Breaking the Trauma Bond with the Narcissist | 13 Mar 2025 | 00:21:50 | |
Why does breaking a trauma bond feel so painful? You’d think that freedom would feel… free. That you’d walk away from the narcissist and instantly feel lighter, happier, and at peace. But instead, you’re feeling lost, confused, maybe even grieving a relationship that you know was toxic. | |||
| 8 Demonic Ways Narcissists Mess With Your Mind | 06 Mar 2025 | 00:18:49 | |
8 Demonic Ways Narcissists Mess with Your Mind Ever feel like something is off in your relationship—like a hidden danger lurking beneath the surface? Narcissists use subtle yet devastating tactics to manipulate and control, leaving you disoriented and trapped.
A Spiritual Battle for Your Mind Narcissists target your mind because the enemy knows that everything begins there. If they can create confusion, self-doubt, and spiritual disconnection, they’ve succeeded in controlling you. But here’s the good news: You don’t have to stay stuck. Recognize these tactics for what they are—tools of the enemy—and arm yourself with the truth of God’s Word. Want to go deeper? Watch my video on “The Signs That Prove Narcissists Are Controlled by Demons” 📖 Download: Your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide → Click Here | |||
| When The Devil Can't Get To You He'll Send A Narcissist And Use These 6 Tactics To Destroy You | 27 Feb 2025 | 00:14:08 | |
If the Devil Can’t Get to You, He’ll Send a Narcissist—6 Tactics He Uses to Destroy You Why This Battle Feels Different
6 Demonic Tactics the Enemy Uses Through the Narcissist 🔥 Confusion and Doubt
💔 Emotional Wounds
🌿 Bitterness and Resentment
⚔️ Spiritual Confusion
🚪 Isolation
🎯 Distraction from Purpose
How to Break Free ✅ Pray – This is your greatest weapon. Ask God for strength, discernment, and protection. Exodus 14:14: “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” Want to Go Deeper? 📺 Watch: How God Deals with Narcissists When He’s Had Enough | |||
| If you see these signs, you're being fooled by a "nice" narcissist. | 13 Feb 2025 | 00:15:13 | |
The "Nice" Narcissist: How They Fool You Why They’re So Hard to Spot
The Deceptive Traits of the “Nice” Narcissist
Why It’s So Hard to Walk Away
How to Break Free ✅ Trust your discernment—If their kindness leaves you feeling confused or trapped, it’s a red flag. Want to Go Deeper? 📺 Watch: 5 Clues to Spot a Christian Narcissist https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/ | |||
| 3 Signs God is Revealing They're Emotionally Immature | 07 Feb 2025 | 00:19:33 | |
FREE Narcissist Survival Guide https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/ Conquering Codependency Biblically Online Course https://krisreece.com/conquering-codependency/ Have you ever felt like you're the only adult in your relationship? No matter how much love or patience you pour in, they just don’t seem capable of handling life maturely. Maybe you’ve asked yourself: Emotional immaturity can look a lot like narcissism, leaving you confused and questioning what you're really dealing with. But here’s the good news—God is revealing their immaturity to help you respond wisely, without losing your peace, faith, or even the relationship. Emotional Immaturity: A Child in an Adult’s Body Dealing with an emotionally immature person is like reasoning with a child who hasn’t learned how to handle life’s challenges. They react impulsively—lashing out, shutting down, or blaming others—because they lack the tools to process emotions healthily. While narcissists manipulate intentionally, emotionally immature people often aren’t trying to hurt you—they're just stuck in survival mode. And that distinction makes all the difference in how you should respond. 8 Signs of Emotional Immaturity 1. Blaming Others They treat responsibility like a hot potato—constantly passing it off to someone else. Instead of owning mistakes, they say things like: 📖 Galatians 6:5 — “For each one should carry their own load.” ✅ How to Respond: Hold them accountable without taking the blame. 2. Emotional Rollercoasters Their mood swings are exhausting—small issues turn into major crises, leaving you bracing for the next high or low. 📖 Proverbs 29:11 — "A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back." ✅ How to Respond: Stay grounded. Don’t absorb their emotions as your own. 3. Defensiveness Every conversation feels like walking through a minefield. Even gentle feedback triggers excuses, counterattacks, or denial. 📖 Proverbs 10:17 — "Whoever heeds instruction is on the path to life, but he who rejects reproof leads others astray." ✅ How to Respond: Keep discussions solution-focused, not blame-focused. 4. Victim Mentality They see themselves as the perpetual victim, blaming others instead of taking responsibility. 📖 Matthew 7:3 — "Why do you see the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye?" ✅ How to Respond: Don’t get pulled into their narrative. Encourage self-reflection. 5. Silent Treatment (Stonewalling) They shut down or withdraw when conflict arises, leaving issues unresolved. ✅ How to Respond: Don’t chase them. Address the issue when they’re ready to talk. 6. Impulsivity Their emotions drive their decisions, often leading to reckless actions or regret. 📖 Proverbs 13:16 — "The prudent act with knowledge, but fools expose their folly." ✅ How to Respond: Encourage thoughtful decision-making with gentle questions. 7. Selfishness The relationship revolves around their needs, leaving little room for mutual care. 📖 Philippians 2:3-4 — "Do nothing from selfish ambition… but in humility count others more significant than yourselves." ✅ How to Respond: Set boundaries that balance give and take. 8. Manipulation They use guilt trips or victim-pla | |||
| God is Revealing Your Relationship is Emotionally Abusive - 5 Signs You Shouldn't Miss | 03 Feb 2025 | 00:43:18 | |
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| When a Narcissist Tries to Destroy a Christian - Here's What Happens! | 23 Jan 2025 | 00:15:16 | |
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There are three phases you can count on every time when dealing with a narcissist. These phases aren’t just predictable—they’re inevitable. But just as sure as the narcissist’s destruction comes, so does God’s intervention, and ultimately, His justice. Narcissists are master manipulators and deceivers, agents of chaos who thrive on sowing confusion and destruction. It’s no surprise that their main targets are often Christians. Why? Because the loving, compassionate, and forgiving nature of a Christian makes it easy for a narcissist to exploit. But it goes deeper than that—they are being used by Satan to distract, derail, and discourage you from stepping into the fullness of what God has for your life. So, stop being surprised that you’re a target. But don’t be afraid, because your weapons are far greater than theirs—if you know how to use them. We’ll get to that soon. Phase 1: Narcissistic Destruction First, understand that the narcissist's plan always follows the same pattern. Phase one? They zero in on their target. Whether their goal is your destruction or simply their personal gain, the strategy is identical—they present themselves as everything you’ve ever wanted. The ideal parent, the perfect partner—the answer to your prayers. This is all designed to weaken your defenses, and it works. You let your guard down, you let them in. Sure, you see red flags, but you convince yourself it’s just a mistake or something you can work through together. And they’ll certainly give you that impression. But soon enough, the mask begins to slip. They can’t keep up the façade and inconsistencies start to show. You start questioning their behaviors, their motives, and that’s when things shift. Suddenly, you’re either hit with an overwhelming dose of love-bombing, or they play the victim. Both tactics are meant to cloud your vision—to distract you from the real issues. And isn’t that exactly how Satan operates? Everything is a carefully crafted illusion—beautiful at first, but dark and destructive beneath the surface. By the time you see the truth, you’re entangled in the web of confusion, manipulation, gaslighting, and invalidation. Here is where you begin questioning your own sanity, doubting your worth. You start feeling guilty for how you reacted to their emotional abuse, ashamed of behaviors you’re not proud of, and left wondering if you’re the problem. It’s like being caught in a tornado—everything seems calm at first, but once you’re in the center of the storm, the destruction becomes clear. Narcissists twist your mind, emotions, and sense of self-worth, leaving a path of destruction that is both internal and external. But remember, the narcissist cannot maintain their illusion forever. Eventually, the storm takes its toll. Their love-bombing fades, the manipulation intensifies, and the gaslighting becomes unbearable. You’re left feeling trapped, confused, and powerless. They don’t just want to break your heart—they want to break your spirit. Phase 2: God’s Intervention But don’t fret, my friend. This is w | |||
| Are they a Narcissist or Just Struggling? | 16 Jan 2025 | 00:18:01 | |
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These days, the word toxic gets thrown around almost as much as narcissist. It’s tempting to slap a label on someone whose behavior feels off, but before you jump to conclusions, let’s dig a little deeper. In this post, we’ll uncover the unmistakable signs of a truly toxic person, explore whether their behaviors stem from toxicity or struggles, and examine traits that mimic toxicity but come from entirely different roots. Let’s Start with an Analogy: Relationships Are Like Shoes Think of relationships like shoes. Some shoes are a perfect fit—they support and comfort you, allowing you to walk confidently no matter where life takes you. Then, there are shoes that just don’t fit—no matter how much you try to break them in. They pinch, rub, and leave blisters. It’s easy to label these shoes as “bad,” but are they really? Or are they just the wrong fit for your foot—or maybe even the wrong shoe for the occasion? Some shoes are your go-to favorites—you reach for them instinctively because they always deliver. Others sit in the back of your closet, gathering dust. You like them in theory, but every time you try them on, you’re reminded why you never wear them. And then, there are the shoes so painful, you wouldn’t wish them on anyone. Relationships are much the same. Some people “fit” your life perfectly. Others might be a mismatch—okay in certain contexts but not for the long haul. And then, there are the truly toxic relationships that cause harm no matter how you look at them. So, how do we know the difference? Universally Toxic Traits We Can All Agree On There are just some traits everyone can agree are toxic—like a pair of shoes that might look pretty but leave you limping after a short time. If someone exhibits the following behaviors, it’s not subjective; they’re harmful to everyone:
Even the Bible, in 1 Timothy 3, tells us to avoid people with such traits. These behaviors infect relationships, creating destruction and pain. Why Do We Stay in Toxic Relationships? If these traits are so clearly harmful, why do so many of us stay? Why don’t we run? The answer might be more complicated than it seems. Sometimes, we see something else within these individuals that makes us question our perception. Or, we might mistake certain behaviors as toxic when they’re actually coming from unresolved pain or struggles rather than an inherently toxic nature. What’s Really Going On Beneath the Surface? Before we label someone as toxic, we have to ask: What’s going on beneath the surface? Theirs—and yours. Everyone comes into relationships with “defaults”—cultural norms, personality traits, past experiences, and wounds. For example, assertiveness might feel like confidence to one person but aggression to someone who’s been bullied. Sarcasm might feel playful to some but cutting to others. Your own “surface”—the way you react, interpret, and label others—can r | |||
| Powerful Prayers That Stop the Narcissist Dead in Their Tracks | 10 Jan 2025 | 00:22:27 | |
FREE Narcissist Survival Guide But here’s the good news: God sees everything, and He is a God of justice. In this post, we’re diving into practical and powerful ways to pray both for and against the narcissist in your life. Yes, that’s biblical—and we’ll explore why. By the end, you’ll feel equipped to approach God with prayers that align with His will, releasing the weight of your hurt and trusting Him to move on your behalf. Life with a Narcissist Feels Like Chaos Whether the narcissist in your life is a spouse, parent, friend, or colleague, one thing is certain: life with them is an unstable, emotional rollercoaster. Their lies, manipulation, and betrayal can leave you furious, broken, and unsure how to pray. But take heart—God’s Word provides both clarity and direction. Romans 12:19 says, “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, ‘Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.’” This promise reminds us that God will handle justice in His perfect way and timing. Praying for Justice: Trusting God’s Reckoning Imagine standing by the ocean, looking out over calm waters. On the surface, everything seems peaceful, but beneath, a strong current tugs at you. That’s what dealing with a narcissist feels like—their manipulation pulls you into confusion and frustration. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to fight this current alone. One powerful prayer is to ask for God’s reckoning. This means asking Him to expose lies, reveal hidden motives, and bring consequences in His way. It’s not about revenge but about trusting God to bring light into the darkness. Psalm 28:3-4 says: This scripture reminds us that God sees deception and will repay accordingly. Similarly, Galatians 6:7-8 tells us, “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.” The narcissist may appear to “get away with it” for now, but no one escapes God’s justice. Praying for Reproof: Exposing Darkness Imagine someone who walks unchecked, leaving chaos everywhere they go. Their harmful behavior seems to have no consequences. How do you respond? By praying for God’s reproof—a holy unveiling of their actions. This type of prayer asks God to shine a light so bright that their behavior can no longer stay hidden. In 1 Corinthians 5:5, Paul commands the Corinthian church to hand a man over to Satan for the destruction of his flesh, “so that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord.” This severe action wasn’t out of hatred but out of love—a way to bring the man to repentance. Similarly, when we pray for reproof, we’re asking God to expose harmful behaviors with the ultimate goal of restoration. Praying for Recompense: Trusting God to Restore Have you ever felt like the narcissist stole everything from you—your peace, confidence, time, or future? It’s easy to wonder if you’ll ever get back what’s been lost. But the Bible speaks of recompense, a divine repayment not just for what was taken but often in double measure. Hebrews 10:30 says, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay,” says the Lord. And Joel 2:25 promises, “I will restore to you the years that the swarmin | |||
| Undeniable Signs Proving Narcissists are Controlled by Demons | 26 Dec 2024 | 00:20:49 | |
Download your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide for more scriptures and support in handling the narcissist in your life. https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/ Have you ever wondered if there’s more to a narcissist’s behavior than just personality flaws? What if the manipulation, emotional chaos, and control tactics aren’t just psychological but something much darker? In this article, we’re going to explore four signs that a narcissist may actually be under the influence of demonic forces. By the end, you’ll have a clearer understanding of what might be driving their behavior—and more importantly, you’ll learn how to protect yourself. Before we dive in, be sure to grab your free copy of the Narcissist Survival Guide. It’s my free gift to you, filled with powerful scriptures and effective responses for dealing with the narcissist in your life. If you’ve spent any time around a narcissist, you’re probably all too familiar with the emotional, psychological, and even spiritual damage they can cause. Narcissists bring chaos wherever they go—yet somehow always make you feel like you’re to blame. And while you’re left picking up the pieces, they continue their pattern of self-centered destruction. But here’s the truth: treating narcissistic behavior without addressing the spiritual root is like trying to cut weeds without pulling out their roots—they always grow back stronger. In many cases, the narcissistic behaviors you see on the surface are just symptoms, but there’s a hidden root system underground, where spiritual forces are at work. When you address only the visible signs, you’re left wondering why the toxic behavior keeps coming back. Let’s go deeper and uncover four clear signs that the narcissist’s behavior may be influenced by something beyond psychology.
1. Manipulation and Deception Imagine sitting across from the narcissist, trying to have a simple conversation. At first, everything seems calm, but soon, the story begins to twist. They subtly twist your words, make you question your own memory, and before you know it, you’re apologizing for something they did. It feels like stepping into a maze—just when you think you’ve found a way out, they move the walls again with gaslighting, denial, or victim-playing. This level of manipulation goes beyond basic dishonesty. It’s an elaborate smokescreen meant to keep you confused, disoriented, and trapped. Isaiah 14:12-15 describes Lucifer’s fall due to his pride and desire for control—qualities that narcissists exhibit as well. Their manipulation serves to draw you away from reality, just as Satan seeks to deceive and divide. Consider also John 8:44, which describes Satan as the “father of lies.” Narcissists, too, are experts at manipulating truth, and this doesn’t come from mere personality; it may be a demonic strategy. Once a person gives in to constant manipulation, they may unknowingly open a door for spiritual influence. This is where deception takes root, leaving both the narcissist and those around them in a web of lies. 1 Timothy 4:1 warns us, "The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons." If you notice a pattern of gaslighting, twisting the truth, or rewriting history, there may be something darker at work behind the scenes.
2. Spiritual Blindness and a Hardened Heart Have you ever looked into the eyes of a narcissist during an argument and felt like you were talking to a wall? You explain, you present the facts, but there’s no understanding—just a blank stare or even cold indifference. It’s as if they’re blocked from seeing the truth. When a person opens the door to demonic influence, one of the first things to go is their ability to see& | |||
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destabilizing it can be. Constantly questioning yourself, struggling to defend against their vicious, victim-like lies—it’s enough to make anyone furious. The temptation to seek justice on your own terms is real. You want to call them out, tell them off, and dismantle every lie they’ve told. Anything to get revenge for the harm they’ve caused. But HOLD ON. What if I told you that there’s a way to achieve far greater justice than you ever could on your own—and that it would actually bring you peace? Stay with me. In this post, we’re going to talk about why taking revenge isn’t the answer—and what God wants you to do instead. Trust me, their downfall is coming, and you’ll have a front-row seat to witness God’s justice. I recently went through a narcissistic attack from someone who was spiteful, vindictive, and deceitful. The lies, manipulation, and malice were worse than ever before. And for the first time, I was the direct target of their abuse. I’ll admit, my flesh rose up. I wanted to tell them off, expose their lies, and undo the damage they caused. But something in my spirit told me to hold on—to ask, What would God want me to do?
As I cried out to God for strength, I heard Him speak clearly to my heart: Put your armor on. Therein lies your strength.
It stopped me in my tracks. In that moment, I pictured Jesus standing in front of me, shielding me from the enemy’s attacks. I saw this powerful shield protecting me from every dart the enemy threw, while the Lord held back the forces of darkness. It brought me to tears.
Then I was reminded of Ephesians 6:12: “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” The Real Enemy Behind Narcissistic Abuse Narcissists are often used as agents of the enemy, though they likely don’t even realize it. They’re sent to trigger and trip us up, causing us to react in the flesh. Now, I’m not excusing their behavior—they are still responsible for their actions. But their willingness to hurt others makes them a tool for evil.
So, what do we do? Should we just give up, roll over, and let them walk all over us? Absolutely not. We prepare for battle. This is spiritual warfare.
Spiritual warfare is the fight to believe God’s truth over the enemy’s lies.
When dealing with a narcissist, you’re battling deception. The enemy attacks through lies, and one of his favorite portals is toxic people—those who come in like sheep but are really wolves. They deceive you about who they are, implanting lies that become strongholds in your mind. The Armor of God: Your Protection Against Narcissistic Manipulation The Bible tells us to put on the full armor of God so we can stand firm against the enemy’s schemes (Ephesians 6:10-13). Each piece of armor was designed to protect us in battles like this.
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| You're a Target for Narcissists if You Have Any of These Traits | 29 Nov 2024 | 00:13:45 | |
Grab your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/ You're not alone. The truth is, there are certain traits that narcissists find irresistible—and chances are, you don’t even realize you have them. In this episode, I’m going to break down what those traits are, why you specifically have been targeted by toxic people, and most importantly, what you can do to stop attracting them and start repelling them. Finding yourself repeatedly in relationships with narcissists can feel like being stuck in an emotional maze. Just when you think you’ve found a way out, you somehow end up right back where you started. It’s exhausting, and it can leave you wondering, “Why does this keep happening to me?” There are several reasons this pattern might repeat, and they often involve a mix of personal history, emotional dynamics, and the traits that narcissists find irresistible. Let’s break down the first trait: 1. Past Trauma or Unresolved Childhood Issues If you grew up in an environment where emotional manipulation, neglect, or narcissistic behavior was common—whether from a parent, caregiver, or family member—you might unknowingly seek out similar dynamics in adulthood. These patterns can feel “normal” or even comfortable because they are what you’ve always known, even if they’re harmful. When your early experiences involve emotionally unavailable or manipulative caregivers, it conditions you to tolerate these behaviors, creating a blind spot for red flags. So, if childhood trauma can condition you to overlook toxic behaviors, what about those traits that are inherently good?
2. Empathy and Compassion Imagine this: You’re the person everyone comes to with their problems because you have a big heart and always know the right thing to say. You’re like the lifeboat in a storm, always ready to rescue others from their emotional struggles. But what happens when the person in the storm doesn’t want to be saved—they just want to keep pulling you under? That’s exactly what happens with narcissists. They see your empathy as a resource they can drain. They cling to you when they’re going under, again and again. It’s like you’re a well, always willing to give, but they never stop to think about whether the well might run dry. Your empathy might be a double-edged sword. Imagine you’re a sponge—able to absorb the feelings and needs of those around you. While this makes you a nurturing, caring person, it also makes you a perfect match for a narcissist, who is like a leaky faucet. They drip constant emotional needs and manipulation, and instead of addressing the root of their dysfunction, they expect you to soak it all up, leaving you drained. But what happens when something even more desperate enters the mix?
3. Low Self-Esteem or Codependency Imagine you’re trying to hold onto something fragile, like a glass vase. You know it’s delicate, so you grip it tightly, afraid that if you let go even a little, it might shatter. | |||
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| This Simple Test Exposes a 'Christian' Narcissist | 07 Nov 2024 | 00:11:09 | |
Grab your Free Narcissist Survival Guide Kind of like a blue light revealing hidden stains ? Well, what if I told you there is a quick and easy way to do just that – no, unfortunately, not with a radar detector but rather with a simple question that can expose a narcissist in less than 5 seconds. In this edition, I’ll reveal the key question you need to ask, the exact reaction to watch for, and what steps to take once you spot it. First, let's understand the motive of a narcissist – yes, even ones that call themselves 'Christians' – and why you've been such an easy target for them. You see, you are likely a caring, empathetic, giving person who enjoys being of value in a relationship. By contrast, narcissists are fragile, self-centered, egotistical, envious exploiters. Their focus is not on pleasing you or even growing the relationship; it's all about self-protection and self-preservation. If it doesn’t serve them, benefit them, or support them, they’re not interested. Shift the Dynamic Instead of focusing on what to say to get them to change, let's focus on what to say to reveal them. Ready? We're going to talk about three scenarios that expose the narcissist every time – IF you know what to look for. Scenario #1: When You Need to Set a Boundary Narcissists can’t stand being told "No." They honestly believe they are entitled to unrestricted access and control over you. If you’ve given it to them before, that’s just more justification for their entitlement. Boundaries threaten their sense of superiority and need for admiration. It's like telling a child "No"; they can't see beyond their self-centered, immature view of the world that just wants what they want when they want it. But there is one key difference between a narcissist and a child, and it's a scary one. Unlike a child, a narcissist knows how they come across, they know what is socially acceptable and unacceptable. That's why they have to find manipulative ways to get their needs met. If you have ever met a charming or conniving narcissist, you know how easy it is to be fooled by their façade. Next time you need to set limits, avoid overexplaining, avoid justifying, and simply say, "I can't agree to that" or "I'm not okay with that." A healthy person will respond with something like, "Oh, OK. No problem." and move on. But a narcissist will continue to press and pry with manipulative questions designed to guilt you into giving them what they want. Here’s the key: no matter what question they ask or what statement they make, simply hold your ground with the same response. When they continue to press, ask this question: "It seems that you're only focused on your needs and not mine. Is that intentional?" Count backward from five in your head, say nothing, and watch their reaction. Don’t defend yourself, don’t formulate what you're going to say next; just be still. A narcissist will respond with any one (or all) of the following:
What’s missing is genuine care and regard for how you feel. The only concern is their image and your perception of them. Scenario #2: When You Challenge Their Lie If you’ve been with a narcissist longer than 10 minutes, you’ve been lied to. Lying is second nature to them. They lie even when | |||
| 5 Things God Always Does to a Narcissist | 31 Oct 2024 | 00:14:23 | |
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This can leave you wondering if they will ever be held accountable for their actions. Five Things God Always Does to a Narcissist That’s why in today’s episode, we’re going to dive into the five things God ALWAYS does to a narcissist. Once these five truths are revealed, you will never again doubt God's righteous justice. So before you start thinking they might get away with what they've done to you, stick with me. Not only will I show you how God ensures justice is served, but I'll also provide you with one practical step to restore your faith and see that justice is done in a timely manner. Before we dive in, be sure to grab a copy of your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide. This is my free gift to you. https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/ So, let’s dive into the 5 things God ALWAYS does to a narcissist. This can best be demonstrated through gardening. Gardening is a process that, when done right, yields beautiful results. However, the process may not always make sense, especially to the inexperienced. But whether you have prize-winning begonias or can’t tell a weed from a flower, this breakdown will cultivate your trust and certainty in God's righteous justice. In gardening, there’s a process to go from an overgrown, ugly garden to a beautiful, flourishing one. Sometimes that process doesn’t seem to make sense, especially if you’re like me and don’t know the first thing about gardening. Step 1: He Leaves the Narcissist to Themselves The first step may seem to happen all on its own, but remember, nothing falls outside of God’s purview. In the case of the garden, it’s overgrown, and the weeds seem to have gotten out of control. An outsider looking in might wonder, "How could someone let this happen?" But God, in His infinite wisdom, will leave a narcissist to themselves. In other words, He’s going to allow those weeds to grow. This is where it feels the most frustrating, the most unjust, like God doesn’t care about you and He’s just like some spaced-out parent letting this little brat get away with murder. But the truth is, this is the most crucial phase. Without this phase, it makes the steps to come less just. He will let them wreck relationships, burn bridges, and do whatever it takes to bring them to rock bottom. Romans 1:24 reminds us of what God did to those who didn’t want to follow Him and instead followed after their own sinful, selfish desires: "Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another." This may seem like God has forgotten what they’ve done to you, but hang with me because He actually has a plan. This is also the phase where you have to recognize whether your actions towards them are truly loving or entirely enabling. Romans 1:24 said, God handed them over... in other words, He didn’t try to change them, He didn’t stop them, He didn’t just ‘love’ on them. He let them be to themselves. That’s why it isn’t always the most loving thing to tolerate their toxic behavior. Step 2: Provides an Opportunity for Repentance Because that can actually prevent the next step—and they REALLY need the next step. In fact, it reminds me of when I was younger and saw one of our neighb | |||
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It seems like they just skate through life using, abusing, and manipulating people without so much as a slap on the wrist. What if I told you that God actually has a plan for dealing with narcissists—even your narcissist? And it doesn’t involve you getting stuck in the mud with them. That’s why today, I want to share with you the biblical proof that God has a strategy to handle these problematic people. By the end of our time together, you’ll clearly see how His plan will bring you the peace you desire and the justice they deserve. Before we dive into the scripture that will forever change how you see God's justice, I want you to come with me while I get my laundry done. No, I’m not multitasking on you. I’m actually here to share that God’s justice works a lot like this washing machine. You see, if you’re like me, your laundry is a mixture of dirty, not-so-dirty, and downright disgusting clothes. We throw them all together in one big bin, turn it on, and then check on it every three minutes... Of course not. We walk away and let it do its thing. That is my hope today, that you will just let God do His thing. In other words, let God be God. So, while we’re waiting, we can go back, grab a cup of tea, and chat. The Scripture That Will Forever Change How You See God's Justice It’s found in the book of Psalms, chapter 37. Shall we start in verse 1? Psalm 37:1-2 "Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away." We could park there for half a day, but let’s keep going. They will soon fade—proof that the Lord is sovereign and knows what He’s doing. Proof that the Lord will not allow this to go on forever, even when it doesn’t look like it. You may be asking, "Lord, where are you? Do you not see what this person is doing to me? Do you not see how they hurt me?" It’s easy to fret and be envious—not envious as in wanting what they have—but struggling because they don’t seem to struggle the way you do. You want it to stop. You want a healthy, loving relationship. But my friend, that ship has sailed. So now the focus is justice (and if you’re being honest, vengeance). Maybe you don’t need to see harm come to this person, but you are tired of there seeming to be no consequences in their life. Every little move they make becomes your focus: every sin against you, every lie they tell, every self-centered, manipulative move. You keep adding it to the bank of bitterness. Before you know it, you’ve taken the enemy’s bait, and he has you right where he wants you. I know, I’ve been there. You pray for two minutes for this person, then go on for two hours about what they’ve done. The thoughts rail in your mind for hours and days until it’s all you can think about. That’s why you think the solution is to just get away from this person. But I’m telling you there is another solution. The Solution to Seeing Justice Served and Regaining Your Peace It doesn’t involve selling your soul and forfeiting your peace to do it. So what are you supposed to do? Is it possible that God just wants us to sit back and do nothing? Psalm 37:3 "Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Should You Endure Abuse? You might be asking, "Kris, are you saying that I should stay and endure abuse?" “Is that what it means to ‘do good’? NO. But if it’s uncomfortable, if there seems to be no way out, if there seems to be no change, no justice, no | |||
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| 5 Signs Someone in Your Life Was Sent by the Devil | 12 Sep 2024 | 00:13:59 | |
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So you might be wondering… if these demonic individuals can appear so ‘normal’ while causing so much chaos, how can you possibly identify them? Look, we all know to walk away from toxic people and party animals, but what about those who deceive you into thinking they’re positive? The real issue with these individuals is that their positivity only shines when it comes to negative things. They only encourage you and seem happy with you when you partake in their destructive behaviors. Misery loves company, after all. The Story of Troy: But first, it’s crucial to understand HOW these demonic forces infiltrate your life. Let’s take a lesson from the legendary city of Troy. Renowned for its impenetrable walls, Troy fell victim to a cunning Greek plan after a long siege. The Greeks constructed a massive wooden horse, hid a select group of warriors inside, and pretended to abandon the siege, leaving the horse as a deceptive gift. The Trojans, believing they had won, brought the horse into their fortified city. When night fell, the hidden Greek soldiers emerged, opened the gates for the rest of their troops, and completely conquered Troy from within. THIS is EXACTLY how Satan operates. His mission is to kill, steal, and destroy. Before you think, “Oh, I don’t give in to Satan,” be careful; you might be giving in to one of his ‘gifts.’ If the devil can’t get to you directly, he’ll send a narcissist. That’s why so many Christians are being fooled by these wolves in sheep’s clothing, applying a Pollyanna mentality and getting slaughtered. And this isn’t a five-minute mistake; the repercussions can last years – even a lifetime. So you may be wondering, if these demonic people look ‘normal’ and can wreak that much havoc, how can you identify them? Here are the signs to spot and walk away from toxic people! Sign #1: Encourages You to Sin We all sin and fall short of the glory of God, but godly people will call you out to bring you to repentance and restoration. People sent by the devil, however, will actually encourage you in bad behaviors. And it’s subtle. We know to avoid negative people, but what about those who fool you into believing they’re positive? The problem is, they’re only positive about the negative. They only encourage and are happy with you when you join them in their destructive behaviors. That’s because sinners love company. 1 Corinthians 15:33 warns, “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.'” These devil-sent ambassadors only celebrate when you do something wrong, with encouragement like “Good for you, I’m proud of you!” after you just drank too much or told off your boss. They might say, “It’s normal… it’s only natural… wouldn’t God want you to be happy? YOLO.” If you resist, they’ll attack you with sayings like, “You’re such a self-righteous stick in the mud… always a buzzkill.” These people often appear as charismatic, fun-loving individuals, seeming like everything you’ve been praying for, but in reality, they’re on a mission to drag you down with them. Sign #2: Manipulation and Control This sign is likely one you’ve endured on countless occasions, and not only ignored but blamed yourself for. It’s because their twisted motives are cunning and hard to spot. If you’ve ever been told your feelings aren’t reality, had you | |||
| Never Call Out a Narcissist - God Says Do This Instead! | 22 Aug 2024 | 00:15:05 | |
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Before you take that leap, you need to know something crucial. What if I told you that calling out a narcissist will backfire in ways you never imagined? In this blog, we’re diving deep into why confronting them is a bad idea, what they’re likely to do in response, and the surprising alternative God has for you. But first, I want to share a story about Brenda. Brenda came to me years ago, overwhelmed by the realization that not only was her mother manipulative, but her 32-year-old daughter exhibited severe narcissistic traits. For years, Brenda believed her mother’s lies, thinking she was damaged and disrespectful. She took on the responsibility of trying to make her daughter more respectful and appreciative, never realizing the true nature of their behaviors. When Brenda finally understood what was really happening, she was ready to confront both her mother and her daughter. With her daughter, she wanted to share what she had learned about narcissism, hoping to open her eyes and stop the abuse. But with her mother, Brenda was done. She was fed up with the lies and the blame that she had suffered her entire life. She saw through her mother's manipulative, gaslighting tactics and was determined to let her know she was onto her. “She’ll have no choice but to stop once she knows I’m onto her,” Brenda told me confidently. “Brenda, are you sure about that?” I asked. “Yes, why wouldn’t I be? Now I know, and she needs to know that I know,” she insisted. Despite my advice to proceed cautiously, Brenda confronted both her mother and her daughter. She was loving but firm, ready to set the boundaries she had rehearsed in her mind for a week. But then, something unexpected happened. Both discussions spiraled into a toxic quagmire, leaving Brenda drained, confused, and feeling out of control. “What went wrong?” she asked me, bewildered. “I was loving with my daughter and firm with my mother. What happened? It’s like it backfired on me.” I kept my mouth shut with the thought "I tried to warn you" lingering in my mind. Brenda’s situation is, unfortunately, all too common. Whether your narcissist is a conniving coworker, a manipulative mother, an entitled child, or a childish spouse... You've likely reached a point where you finally have a name for what you've been experiencing. You finally understand that their behavior is just as destructive as you sensed it was. You're done beating yourself up and you're ready to call it out. You're ready to call out the lies, the inconsistencies, the exaggerations, the half-truths, the manipulations... You're done holding it in. If there's any hope for them to change, if there's any hope to keep your sanity, you feel you have to say something. Maybe you simply want to point out the contradictions in their stories so you can both finally get on the same page. Maybe they consistently say one thing one day and the complete opposite the next. Maybe your husband blames you for him having to work so hard, despite how many times you’ve begged him to retire because “he loves what he does.” So you ask, which is it… you love what you do, or you're doing this because I’m making you? The truth is, the answer is whatever suits that moment, whatever makes them look like the hero and the victim. Neither is true and both are true. But since they can’t take responsibility for themselves an | |||
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| 5 Clues to Spot a Christian Narcissist | 27 Jun 2024 | 00:15:12 | |
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Be sure to grab a copy of your FREE Toxic People Survival Guide to learn how to identity and deal with all the difficult people in your life. Grab your guide here. https://krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guide Do you feel like the magical connection you once had with the narcissist now feels more like a death grip? You, my friend, have likely fallen prey to the narcissist’s deceptive new-age belief that is making Christians everywhere vulnerable to manipulative people— that there is a pre-destined soulmate out there who will complete you. I want to share with you why this new-age belief that you once thought was romantic and biblical is actuallyleading you down a path you may never recover from. I also want to share with you the shocking reasons why the narcissist NEEDS you to believe this, plus how to recover if you've already fallen into this trap. To do that, I want to tell you about Eli. Eli was a talented potter who lived in a quaint village nestled at the edge of a lush forest. Eli was known all over the world for his exquisite pottery, each piece more beautiful than the last. However, Eli had a secret: he claimed a mystical clay from the forest was the source of his pottery’s beauty.
He spoke of a legend, a tale of "The Perfect Clay," a material so pure and adaptable that only the most deserving artisans, destined by the stars, could find and use it.
Intrigued by the promise of creating pottery as beautiful as Eli's, many villagers ventured into the forest, hoping to be the chosen ones to find "The Perfect Clay." Eli encouraged them, saying that only those with a true potter's soul, bound by destiny to the craft, would succeed. Yet, the forest was vast and the search endless. Many villagers became so obsessed with finding the mythical clay that they neglected their own craft, waiting for a destiny that never materialized.
Meanwhile, back in the village, Eli continued to produce his pottery, not from mystical clay, but from the same earth as everyone else.
His true talent lay in his skill and dedication, honed over years of practice—NOT in a magical ingredient. The villagers, lost in the pursuit of an illusory perfection, failed to realize that the beauty of pottery—and indeed, life—lies in the passion and effort, not some magical formula.
Your narcissist is likely just like Eli, but instead of the perfect pottery, they're in search of the perfect partner.
In fact, this new-age belief that there is a perfect, predestined partner is likely what wooed you in the beginning but is now leaving you feeling inadequate and constantly striving for their approval.
Yes, narcissists believe in soulmates.And I'm going to share why.But I also want to share why you shouldn't.
Soulmates are based on thebelief that you are 'complete' once you find that ONE perfect person created just for you.
Believing that there's that one ideal individual that was created to complete you may sound romantic in movies, but it flies in the face of Colossians 2:10 that says, “You are complete in Christ.”
So, my friend, if there is no cosmic connection in the universe that is pulling you toward another person and if the work of the cross is already finished for you, why do narcissists need to believe in soulmates?
Let's break down three primary reasons.
Reason #1: It guarantees lasting admiration Narcissists are addicted to admiration, much like a plant basking in the sun's rays. It's a need.
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