Bravely Connected Podcast – Details, episodes & analysis

This blog post is about shifting from the concept of safe spaces to brave spaces—environments that focus on resilience, personal responsibility, and deep connection rather than self-preservation. It explores how trauma shapes perceptions, the limitations of safe spaces, and the importance of building brave spaces through curiosity, empathy, trust, and relationships. The post also emphasizes long-term community transformation and practical strategies for parents, teachers, and leaders to foster meaningful change.

Dive into the art of setting boundaries to foster healthy, sustainable relationships in every area of life—whether with children, partners, family, or colleagues. In this episode, we explore why boundaries matter, especially during high-pressure times like the holidays.

Learn how to manage your inner world, advocate for your needs, and practice the Bravely Connected Method to nurture resilience and connection.

Discover actionable steps for:

- Understanding your emotions, thoughts, and behaviours.

- Identifying what’s within your control.

- Creating boundaries using simple, empowering formulas.

- Differentiating between boundaries and walls to protect relationships worth preserving.

Join me to reflect on how you hold your end of the rope in relationships and take your first step toward building belonging—from the inside out.

Bonus: get a paper and pen and do the 4 steps to finish with your complete boundary plan!

In today’s world, we face an epidemic of disconnection. Loneliness, avoidance, and procrastination have become pervasive as people struggle to engage in life, collaborate, and innovate. Because of this, I am guiding you through a year of learning how to create connection. Connection is essential not just for individuals but for entire communities.

In this week's episode I share 3 keys to creating a welcoming environment that lessens anxiety.

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Have you ever had a dream you thought was impossible?

A few years ago, I dreamed of doing a national conference. I thought to myself, “Who do I think I am to pull that off?”

What I’ve learned from dreaming big:

1. It takes time to see your dream happen.
2. You need to find your niche, a special market edge.
3. Look for opportunities when others see obstacles.
4. I had to build a foundation from the ground up in order to have a nationwide conference.
5. Overcome that voice that whispers, “Who do you think you are?”
6. Plant your dream and watch it grow.

Rebellions are built on hope.

• Rogue 1 Star Wars

What is burning on your heart to rebel against that our society is just settling for?

Society’s issues are only there because you and I decide to put up with them.

What happens when we decide not to put up with them any longer?

All mass movements are built on hope and people like YOU and me showing up with what we have to create change.

I’m calling out to the revolutionaries to rise up. 

Hope is nothing more than YOUR GREAT AWAKENING.

Little us saying a brave YES!

Heroes rise in crisis.

Reference to the Calgary Dream Centre

https://calgarydreamcentre.com/

Join our Canada wide mental health conference on Bell Let’s Talk Day, January 28

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/129606874651

So what is burning in your heart?

It’s time to turn your intention into action.

This one exercise will FOCUS your 2021 so your dreams can happen.

There are people out there WAITING for your message, your book, your course.

The longer we wait to step out, the longer others wait for the solutions we hold in our hearts. 

This exercise I mention is in The Third Door by Alex Banayan

https://www.amazon.ca/Third-Door-Uncover-Successful-Launched/dp/0804136661/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1S317I6T9U395&dchild=1&keywords=the+third+door&qid=1607992393&sprefix=The+third+door%2Caps%2C199&sr=8-1

Podcast course I took with Jenna Kutcher

http://thepodcastlab.jennakutcher.com/

Set a realistic time frame and focus.

Dean Cayman:

If you want to go off and do big things be prepared for them to take much longer than you ever thought, cost way more than you expected, and be full of failures that are painful, embarrassing, and frustrating.”

Give yourself a 3-month goal for everything you are about to do.

People have asked me how I’ve done all I do? 

I just chisel away day by day at things. Showing up working on projects bit by bit. 

This is why I created the Brave Tribe Membership: daily tasks that will allow you to this time next year to have:

• written a book
• launched an online course
• social media set up
• membership or coaching program

What if you had all of this done before next year? Do you want to look back and still not see these dreams happen, or do you want to be able to look back and see your dreams HAPPEN?!

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What if it COULD HAPPEN?

People are waiting for you to show up.

This is my secret sauce of success!

It’s counter-cultural

It’’s rebellious

This ONE THING continues to bring me to new levels

The word that has saved my life is the word CONSTRAINT.

So not sexy.

Wait, don’t we want to hear YOU ARE LIMITLESS as a new year message?

My business partner taught me constraints.

I dream big. I think big. What constraints?!

Vanessa sharpened me. 

She has shaped my life because she has taught me to think objectively.

DREAMS TAKE TIME.

Constraint is your best friend. It burns the chaff.

It makes you focus.

I have been refined.

My message has been refined.

My niche has been refined.

The more focused you are the better.

Constraint comes in the gift of team.

Submitting your gifts to others.

sharing the burden, the glory, the profits.

This takes us laying down our ego.

The word “submission” has been abused. It brings up emotion.

When we lay down our need to be in the spotlight.

When we submit to one another’s strengths we can glean from one another’s strengths.

I learn how to lean in and allow others to shine.

Other’s strengths can be ours.

This is what tribe looks like.

In order to be a part of a team, we have to lay a part of ourselves down.

We celebrate one another’s winning without jealousy or comparison.

What if we could reach our goals together?

I’m now an employee working for someone else and I have grown so much more by serving someone else’s vision. What I have been able to build WITH people did not come from being SELF-made or doing this by mySELF. I have found more joy and growth in working with others.

Acceleration happens in tribe.

If you want to grow, work with others. Join a team. Serve someone.

Those who build great kingdoms know when to lay theirs down.

2021, how can you do this with someone else?

Belonging is the key to pressing forward in our lives yet it feels so complicated. People hurt and wound us. We are constantly looking around for someone to see us.

Belonging sometimes feels out of reach.

When was a time you felt like you really belonged?

In order to discover this, I had to think about the times in my life where I had experienced rejection.

What was common? I gave the gift of myself to people who didn't value me, understand me, or receive me. Instead of seeing this for what it was, I tried harder, strived more, and became more of a people pleaser only to find that I was never good enough.

Belonging is something that has to be discovered alone.

I can’t expect anyone to provide that for me.

We often show up desperately looking for others to tell me who we are, and who others need us to show up as?

In that, we lose ourselves.

What if we were never meant to fit?

We cannot create belonging for anyone unless we have owned it for ourselves.

I’m not for everyone and that’s ok.

If you were for everyone you would never find a tribe.

We give the gift of ourselves to people and expect them to tell us of our significance but that is our own responsibility

The people who love you are already around you.

Stop looking for those from who you want acceptance.

What would happen like you already have significance? What would change for you to be able to live out your dreams FULLY YOU?

There will always be people who don’t accept us.

We have to be careful to not pass on heart wounds to others.

We can only do this by finding our own belonging. 

Keep being brave when there’s no inspiring music behind you.

I often repeat this to myself: No one owes me anything: my husband, my kids, my closest friends - this keeps my expectations checked.

They are not responsible to create belonging for me.

The Tribe’s role is to AFFIRM and SURROUND.

What would it look like to know who you are and be able to come to a community fully you to be able to receive this?

Belonging to yourself comes first, then others can lift you.

People are human - they will let you down.

YOU do your own grit of your own life and search the crevices of your soul and then show up like that to a community that can now affirm you, hold you, and extend arms of welcome to you.

Twist: be careful what tribe you give the gift of yourself to. If you feel you can’t show up fully you, then that tribe may not be for you.

Remember

You belong.

Belonging is your birthright.

You are enough.

There’s a place for you in our tribe.

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If you want to have influence: you are going to have to learn how to overcome opposition.

It used to destroy my heart, but influence is on the other side of opposition.

What do I mean by opposition?

It can mean a lot of things:

• your child not doing well mentally
• losing a job or income
• losing friendships
• betrayals
• jealousy

Opposition invites us into deep work.

My mantra is “Watch over your heart with all diligence for from it flows LIFE.”

My heart condition is crucial to my parenting, the ability to show up and use my voice of influence.

Opposition reveals something in us.

If I don’t know how to handle disappointment I can’t handle influence.

Disappointment forms us.

I must be able to trusted with loss, to be trusted with life. 

Plant your loss and dream from the dirt again.

Being brave is dreaming from the dirt.

Plant your loss.

Book mentioned: Significance by Bill Johnson

https://www.amazon.ca/Born-Significance-Bill-Johnson/dp/162999877X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=19TXTRNNIMKF3&dchild=1&keywords=significance+bill+johnson&qid=1605825332&sprefix=Significance+Bill%2Caps%2C204&sr=8-1

Does the word “influence” scare you?

Have people, experiences, labels put you in the corner?

Is bravery for ME?

You may say, “I’m not talented. I lack skills.”

It’s time for what is dead inside of you to come to life again.

It’s a new season.

Where you are buried is where you are PLANTED.

If you’ve been buried life can happen again.

Where there is death there is life.

REAL culture change happens here.

What has made you?

The darkest moments of my life has shown me WHO I AM.

I found my bravery in defeat.

Show up for yourself because you’re worth showing up for!

Influence is about empowering others - grabbing them by the hand and not letting go until they remember who they are.

I SEE YOU.

You don’t have to do this alone.

Welcome to the podcast where we are buiding BRAVE TOGETHER.

What does it actually look like to step past crippling anxiety to step out to be brave?

My commitment to bravery has been tested numerous times in my life. 

To be brave is just to SHOW UP

We often don’t see the small things we do to be brave.

I dare you to move.

I didn’t think I had what it takes.

Bravery isn’t formed by great talent, or by having our dreams achieved or our goals met.

Bravery is in the dirt.

Bravery happens when you show up to hard things.

Growing our capacity on the inside is mentally, emotionally, physically and even spiritually exhausting.

We live in a culture that tells us to hustle.

REST is where bravery slow-cooks.

The balance is knowing when to get out of bed and when to stay there.

Shut off the noise and listen to what you need.

Once bravery is formed in you in the fire, it can never be stolen.

The statement: 

I CAN’T.

I DON’T HAVE WHAT IT TAKES.

Replace it with “This is hard”

say it as many times as needed.

This is hard doesn’t sugar coat the fact that this IS hard.

“But I can do hard things.” 

You’re reminding yourself of the truth.

Our minds like to lie to us and tell us, “You’re not cut out for this”

This is shame.

We see you shame and we call you out and we declare war on you.

It’s not ok that shame has

• ruled your mind
• crushed your dreams
• held you prisoner

Every part of you has been wired to handle hard things.

It’s not the talented who win at the end it’s the consistent.

The ones consistent to show up - even in the dirt, hair messed, no make up on, sweatpants with nothing to offer other than a broken heart.

Those ones who show up in pain and suffering…

Those are the ones who will win.

Show up when it’s hard and then show up more.

You are not alone.

Your days of journeying alone are over.

Shame loses its power in the light, but really loses in community.

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