Welcome back to Boundaries & Banter — the podcast where sisters-in-law Taryn & Michela get real about family, friendships, relationships, and setting boundaries without the fluff.
In this powerful episode, we sit down with licensed therapist Nicole Nourian (How We Cope) to unpack family estrangement — what it really means, why it's becoming more common in our "blocked and blessed" era, and when it's a healthy choice vs. a reactive one.
Nicole shares clinical insights on patterns of disrespect, unhealed trauma, narcissism vs. workable issues like BPD, low contact vs. no contact, holidays, grandchildren/grandparent access, temporary breaks, and what happens if someone gets sick. We also talk about creating chosen family, the privilege (not right) of access to kids, and why boundaries aren't selfish — they're essential.
If you've ever questioned cutting ties, felt guilty about distance, or wondered if reconciliation is possible, this episode is for you. Raw, honest, and full of compassion.
00:00 Welcome & Intro to Nicole Nourian
01:20 What Estrangement Actually Means (Beyond Google Definitions)
04:00 Blocked & Blessed Era: Therapy Culture vs. Real Patterns
08:30 Obvious vs. Subtle Reasons for Estrangement (Manipulation, Disrespect, etc.)
12:45 When Boundaries Aren't Respected — Pattern Recognition
18:20 Low Contact vs. No Contact: Which Is Better?
24:10 The Buddhist Teaching on Harmful Relationships
30:00 Holidays, Nostalgia, & Creating Your Own Traditions
35:40 Grandkids & Grandparents: Privilege, Not Obligation
41:30 Disrespect in Front of Kids — Safety First
45:00 Can No Contact Be Temporary? Reconciliation Possibilities
48:30 Narcissism, BPD, & Change Realities
52:00 What If They Get Sick? Regret, Safety, & Terminal Illness
56:00 Final Thoughts & Creating Chosen Family
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