Explore every episode of the podcast Bonding
| Title | Pub. Date | Duration | |
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| Why I'm NOT fighting to close the orgasm gap: Edging, Orgasm Control & Denial | 06 Aug 2026 | 00:19:54 | |
This week we’re talking all about edging, orgasm control and denial - one of my favourite kinks as a submissive. But it’s also one of the kinks I see people get very activated about for a number of reasons. And I want to explore today, why that is, what beliefs we might have as a collective around the idea of “denial” and what that means for us, but also to explore the benefits of edging, orgasm control and denial, so we can understand what it is, why we do it, and bust some misconceptions. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| WTF is a Pleasure Dom anyway and why are there so many of them? | 30 Jul 2026 | 00:17:27 | |
In this episode I talk about the rise in the "Pleasure Dom" trend, why I think this term is confusing and somewhat of a "lazy" label, and a few different theories around the Pleasure Dom label that are important to consider. If this episode resonates with you, and you want to explore your Dominance in a way that feels authentic and aligned with your own individual desires then applications are now open for our 8 Week Mentorship: Embodying Authentic Dominance. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Topping from the Top: What if they’re not a bad Dom/me, they just don’t know how to receive your submission | 23 Jul 2026 | 00:18:39 | |
What if you're not a bad Dom/me? What if I told you that you just didn't know how to receive submission properly? In this episode, I talk about what it means to surrender as a Dom/me and the important role it plays in a successful D/s dynamic. We'll dive into people pleasing, "topping from the top" and ways you can feel more confident in receiving submission from your partner, so you both feel the delicious flow of power exchange. In this episode, I also invite you to download our PDF "Co-create your ideal D/s Dynamic" - a 4 page PDF with the EXACT questions Master Carlos and I use to evaluate our dynamic regularly. GET IT HERE! In addition, we now have spots open for our 8 week mentorship program Embodying Authentic Dominance - Starting in September. You can apply now and be Dom/me ready by Halloween! Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| The Sacred Healing Power of Kink | 22 Jan 2025 | 00:11:45 | |
Happy New Year, kinksters! I’m back with another episode of Bonding and this one is a JUICY one! 💦 I’ve recently been reflecting on the work that I do, both as a Humanistic Integrative Therapist and Kink Coach and Educator, and feeling fascinated and privileged at witnessing the amazing transformations that happen when people can embrace their kinky selves. Something I have witnessed when working with these Kink focused clients, is how the topic of sex, kink and pleasure, quickly open up this door to other parts of themselves that could otherwise take much longer for therapy clients to connect with. This is where, and I’ve spoken about this on the podcast before - kink really is a great form of shadow work. I suppose the main point of these reflections is that I have always found the work I do from a kink lens to go a lot deeper a lot quicker, because we’re already in the shadows from the start, which makes it much easier to reach those more vulnerable parts of ourselves. So I’m celebrating this work and sharing with you my insights on how kink can help us to connect to our full authentic selves, both inside and outside of the bedroom! Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Curious about Impact Play? | 17 Nov 2024 | 00:20:27 | |
Greetings, fellow kinksters! I’m back with another episode of Bonding and today’s special focus is on impact play. In this jam-packed podcast, we dive deep into the art of impact - uncovering the science behind why we enjoy pain-based pleasure, discussing essential safety and communication practices, and revealing insider techniques to level up your impact play skills. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Kinky Confessions from our Halloween Underworld | 10 Nov 2024 | 00:20:40 | |
Blood Lust Confessions - Halloween Cocktails & Kink! 🎙️ Join us for a deliciously tantalizing episode as I dive into the wildest confessions from Blood Lust, our latest Halloween cocktail and kink event! This episode, we’re sharing some of the community’s most daring and dirty secrets, straight from the confession box. Get ready for juicy tales of messy play, bold exhibitionism, and fabulous fantasies that reveal just how uninhibited—and creative—our attendees can be. From naughty experiences to their deepest desires, each confession is a glimpse into the seductive underworld of kink. Intrigued? Don’t miss out on the next unforgettable night! Join us on Tuesday, December 17th at Looking Glass Cocktail Club for our next social gathering. Tickets are available now at subinthecity.com. Come for the cocktails, stay for the confessions... 🍸💋 Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Slave vs Service Sub: Exploring the Differences in BDSM | 18 Oct 2024 | 00:13:55 | |
In this episode of Bonding, I dive into the nuanced differences between slave and service submission within the BDSM dynamic. I answer a listener's question about the two terms, discussing how each reflects varying degrees of power exchange and submission styles. While "slave" often evokes stronger emotions due to historical and non-consensual connotations, I explores how, in BDSM, it can also represent a consensual power dynamic. On the other hand, service submission highlights voluntary acts of devotion without the same intensity of control. As always, I share the importance of intentionality and self-awareness in choosing these terms, reminding listeners that BDSM is all about customizing dynamics that feel empowering and consensual for both parties. Tune in to discover how to navigate these roles while being mindful of language and its impact. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| What NOT to say when chatting someone up | 04 Oct 2024 | 00:19:33 | |
Spooky season has begun and I'm back in your earbuds with another episode of Bonding. This week I talk to you about etiquette - the do's and don'ts when you're chatting up potential kinky partners. I discuss how to initiate conversations with like-minded kinksters and the process that can help create authentic connections with awareness. I touch on leading from a place of safety, trust and respect. Tune in to hear me talk about the importance of first impressions online and how just because you're on a sex positive platform doesn't mean you need to lead with sex. I share my thoughts on how to engage in respectful communication and ways to check in with your intensions before and during engagement. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Dom and Sub Mystery Questions | 28 Jul 2024 | 00:32:06 | |
Sarah and Carlos ask each other three mystery questions . The result? A glorious episode of memory sharing, confessions, gratitude and love. Tune in to this bonus episode of Bonding to hear more from Sarah and her Dom/fiancé Carlos. Having established a relationship for a couple of years before bringing in kink dynamics, Sarah and Carlos share how having privacy and going self-employed helped them build a successful D/s lifestyle together. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| PSA Lack of experience is NOT a red flag. Top tips for vetting a partner | 21 Jul 2024 | 00:16:22 | |
Just with any dating process, determining whether someone is right for you, or has the potential to develop something with you takes time and awareness. But remember, this isn’t about finding a good dom or a good sub. Instead, we are simply finding a good human to connect with and explore with safely. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Creativity & Kink: Your Inner Child Loves Kink! | 14 Jul 2024 | 00:12:09 | |
BDSM and kink is all about PLAY! However the censorship of BDSM within mainstream media feeds into this societal misconception that adulting is hard, and boring, and serious. That adults are not allowed to PLAY! Therefore, it is no surprise that BDSM & Kink is still censored today because it is a lifestyle that encourages us to think outside of the box and have fun. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Bratting vs Topping from the bottom: How to get what you want from your Dom whilst remaining in surrender. | 23 Jun 2024 | 00:16:17 | |
Do you identify as a BRAT? Do you love to test your Dom and take control? Or do you wish you could surrender more? I break down some of the behaviours that you might notice when topping from the bottom, ask you some important questions to get clear on your intentions, and give a little reminder about how to co-create a power dynamic that works for ALL involved. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Tapping into your intuition: How to spot red flags, set boundaries from a place of alignment rather than fear. | 16 Jun 2024 | 00:15:48 | |
Today I'm sharing some top tips on tapping into your intuition to help you spot red flags, identify your boundaries, and most importantly, uphold these boundaries. Our intuition is our gut feeling, that sense that we can’t always tell what it is, but it’s a deep knowing that is often never wrong. Of course this doesn’t just apply in kink contexts, but in all of our actions and decisions in life, it’s just that within the world of kink, we get a really good opportunity to practice flexing this wonderful magical muscle of ours. I hope this episode helps you in becoming more conscious in your kinky exploration, and as always, if you have any questions or anything you’d like to hear more of, just drop me a message! Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Ask Me and My Dom Anything: Part 2 | 09 Jun 2024 | 00:24:05 | |
In this episode, Carlos and I are back on the couch answering your kinky questions again. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Kink Magik: Releasing shame through eroticising the taboo | 22 May 2024 | 00:17:18 | |
In this episode, I share with you the ways in which BDSM & Kink can allow us to welcome in our shadows. Whether it be limiting beliefs, insecurities, fears or shame, I explain how eroticising these feelings helps us take back control and embody our most authentic selves with confidence. I’ll also share with you how to get started or to reflect on how kink is already supporting you to release the beliefs that commonly hold us back in life! If you found this episode useful, please give it a like and a follow and a review on Spotify goes a long way to helping me spread the kinky love and education. Also, if there’s anything you want to hear, or a burning kinky question you’re dying to have answered (it can remain anonymous), then drop me a DM on insta or email me, my inbox is always open. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| BDSM is NOT what it says on the tin: Looking beyond the myths & stereotypes of BDSM & Kink | 15 May 2024 | 00:12:23 | |
BDSM – an acronym that can sound incredibly intimidating. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| All About Collars: Symbolism, Practicality and Style | 10 Oct 2023 | 00:23:45 | |
In this episode, I discuss BDSM collars, their meaning, and why we use them. I also touch on the collars I wear, and how you can start to consider using a collar that feels aligned to you in your power play dynamic. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Ask me and my Dom anything! | 08 Jul 2023 | 00:41:26 | |
In this episode, I am joined by my Dom/fiance as we answer some of your questions about our D/s dynamic and kink in general. We go into topics such as navigating your kinkiness in dating, long-distance must-dos, coming out about your kinks, working with your cycle in D/s, communication and so much more. We really enjoyed answering these questions and there will definitely be a part 2! Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| My Kink Journey: Mistakes, mishaps and insights that led me to become a Kink Educator AND find the love of my life! | 27 Jun 2023 | 00:32:57 | |
Welcome back to season 2 of Bonding! In this episode, I open up about my own kink journey, where it began, some of the mishaps and learnings along the way, and give you some of my biggest insights I wish I knew in my early days. I also share how my journey led me to become a BDSM Coach & Kink Educator, AND how letting go of unrealistic expectations led me to find the love of my life. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Kink, Intimacy & Connection: What TF is Conscious Kink and how to practice it | 29 Mar 2023 | 00:08:49 | |
What TF is Conscious Kink? This term “conscious” has become a bit of a buzzword in the spiritual and sexual wellness spaces, but it’s not as intimidating as it sounds! In this episode, I debunk the idea that Kink can’t be conscious, and explain how more likely than not, you’re already practising conscious kink! Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Boredom, Confidence & Stuckness: Signs you've hit a plateau on your kink journey | 15 Mar 2023 | 00:13:22 | |
Have you been feeling stuck recently? Perhaps your kinky play sessions are not quite hitting the spot or you're feeling uninspired and not sure where to go next? In this episode, I discuss some common roadblocks in BDSM & Kink and how to navigate them. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Long Distance BDSM: Tips for keeping the kink alive | 01 Mar 2023 | 00:10:48 | |
How do you keep things fresh when you’re in a long-distance D/s dynamic? BDSM requires commitment and consistency which means LD dynamics can be difficult to navigate at first. Whether you’re fully LD or you need some tips for when you’re apart from your partner, check out this episode on how to keep the kink alive when you’re not together physically. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Pain, Power Exchange and Safewords Debunked! | 22 Feb 2023 | 00:12:24 | |
Isn’t BDSM meant to be painful? Isn’t the risk all part of the fun? …yes and no. There are so many misconceptions around BDSM and how it should be experienced. In this episode, I debunk some common stereotypes and talk about my own experiences of how these misconceptions are only reinforcing the stigma attached to kink. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| BDSM, Sex Parties & Monogamy | 01 Feb 2023 | 00:12:02 | |
Do monogamy and kink really go together? Isn’t playing with others an inevitable part of BDSM? What about kink parties? I get a lot of questions about feeling apart of the kink community when you are in a monogamous D/s dynamic or simply want to explore kink with one person only. In this episode, I debunk some of the common misconceptions and, give you a first look at a new Sub in the City offering! Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Sub Space, is it worth the hype? | 25 Jan 2023 | 00:16:59 | |
What is Sub Space? Have you ever felt it? And how do we get there? In this episode, I am diving into the sought-after state known as Sub Space, discussing the pros and cons, what it might look like for you, and how to navigate it. Not everyone has experienced it, but is it really worth the hype? Also, points for anyone who catches the Friends reference in there! Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| Consistency within Kink & re-framing 24/7 D/s dynamics | 18 Jan 2023 | 00:14:46 | |
How do we fit our kinky lifestyles around our vanilla responsibilities and commitments? The concept of the 24/7 Dominant/submissive dynamic sounds super decadent and inspiring, but also unattainable and unsustainable for many of us with other priorities and responsibilities. In this episode, I talk about what a healthy kink dynamic looks like, and why 24/7 lifestyles are not just defined by how much “play” is in your day. Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||
| New Year, New Kink! | 11 Jan 2023 | 00:14:12 | |
Forget new year’s resolutions, 2023 is all about new kinks. If you want to make 2023 the year you explore your desires in more depth and finally try out that fantasy you can’t get out of your head, then check out this episode of Bonding with Sarah for some quick and easy tips to get started on your kink journey! Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! | |||