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#259: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant27 Aug 202400:30:20

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we're diving into the world of love avoidance and how to navigate new relationships when you're healing from it. We'll talk about understanding intimacy disorders, recovering from those avoidant patterns, and how to communicate your needs in a healthy way.


Whether you're just starting in your recovery, you're in a new relationship, or even in a long-term one, this episode is packed with tips to help you stay balanced and build stronger connections.


In this episode, we cover…

  • 01:33 Understanding Love Avoidance
  • 02:30 The different archetypes of intimacy disorders 
  • 03:22 How to navigate love addiction and avoidance
  • 05:26 Practical tips for love avoidants
  • 10:12 Ways to share your life as a recovering love avoidant
  • 19:00 How to initiate compliments and kindness
  • 25:09 Why you should embrace vulnerability


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#258: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Addict20 Aug 202400:34:16

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the intricacies of managing romantic relationships for those in recovery from love addiction. 


We discuss the importance of staying in touch with your body, practicing self-affirmation, and maintaining your own life and identity. These actionable tips are geared to help you stay balanced while developing healthy, secure connections. Whether you're in a new relationship or already partnered, these strategies will guide you towards emotional stability and personal growth.


In this episode, we cover…

  • 01:08 Understanding love addiction
  • 02:22 Symptoms of love addiction
  • 04:07 Keys to staying balanced in relationships
  • 13:38 The importance of self-affirmation
  • 21:14 Why you should maintain your own life


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#250: How to Feel Deserving25 Jun 202400:36:36

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth. 


You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke your growth, including energy-draining relationships and perfectionist tendencies. Additionally, we discuss the importance of self-love, self-compassion, and clearing stored trauma from your body. 


This episode aims to guide you through the first step of the four-step bloom method to help your relationships flourish, ensuring you are on the path to feeling truly deserving of love and happiness.


In this episode, we cover…

  • 01:03 Understanding deservingness
  • 03:04 Identifying emotional weeds
  • 05:13 Clearing emotional blockages
  • 05:29 Identifying energy drains in your relationships
  • 09:43 How perfectionism plays a role in low self-worth
  • 22:39 Tools for healing
  • 27:24 Why you need to consider bodywork to heal trauma


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Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.



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#162: Dealing with Seasons of Conflict01 Nov 202200:43:10

In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to deal when you are in a season of conflict. Whether it be with people from your past or in the present, my hope is that the 4 things I share in this episode will support you navigate this season.


Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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#161: Going from Love Avoidant to Love Available25 Oct 202200:39:09

In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model.


MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

No Contact & Detox Support Kit

The Recovery School: Self Healing Track


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#159: Don't Text Them (Sit on Your F'ing Hands)11 Oct 202200:45:43

In this episode, we're talking to anyone who is currently in a love addictive cycle and needs to pull back to reset and regain their sense of self.

This is not a full no contact episode, but just a challenge to pull back and not initiate for week to gain some clarity.


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Bonus Episode: October Catch Up with Shena06 Oct 202200:55:55

In this bonus episode, you can catch up with me about the things I am personally learning and applying in my life for pleasure, fun and healing that I'd like to share. A tiny bit of tea is spilled, and though impromptu lessons may happen, this is not a full teaching episode.

Feel free to stay and listen if you'd like to learn more about me or binge our archive. Either way, we hope you enjoy!


Things Mentioned:

Astro.com

Cosmic Vibrations (the TikTok astrocartographers I follow)

Book: The Art of Receiving and Giving by Dr. Betty Martin


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#158: Heart to Heart: Not Losing Your Self in a New Relationship04 Oct 202200:59:25

In this episode, Shena coaches an audience member on how to not lose herself in her new relationship.


 Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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#157: Making Running the Household Fair with Laura Danger30 Sep 202200:52:48

What happens when running the household feels imbalanced, unfair, and it's causing discord with you and your partner?

In this episode, Laura Danger joins us to talk about the tool of the Fair Play Method and how to implement it into your relationship.

Connect with Our Guest

Website: thatdarnchat.com

Tiktok: @thatdarnchat

Instagram: @thatdarnchat


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#156: It Gets Better...22 Sep 202200:39:26

In this episode, we want to normalize that, even though the healing process can be difficult at first, it does get better and evens out.

We hope breaking down what happens and what to expect helps you know that the light is coming soon.


Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?

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#155: Setting Unrealistic Expectations Based on Fantasy13 Sep 202200:38:19

Can we "break our own heart" by creating unrealistic expectations for others based on our fantasies of who we want them to be?

Let's talk about it in today's episode.


Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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#154: The Healed and Loved Woman: From Love Addicted to Love Balanced06 Sep 202200:47:42

It's time for our annual recap of our Healed and Loved Woman Framework. In this episode, we talk about the characteristics of going from being Love Addicted to Love Balanced.


Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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#153: When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant30 Aug 202200:40:21

What does it look like to be available to others after you've been working on your love avoidance symptoms.

In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way.


Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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#249: Conquering the Fear of Being Seen18 Jun 202400:40:34

In today’s episode, we get into the topic of the fear of being seen, exploring the underlying trauma that leads to avoidance behaviors and vulnerability in relationships. 


We discuss the common thoughts, actions, and patterns that arise when individuals struggle with feeling exposed and unworthy. Additionally, we address the impact of childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and exclusion on the development of these fears. 


Episode 249 also highlights the symptoms of low self-worth and how they manifest in perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment. 


In this episode, we cover…

  • 04:04 Common patterns when you have a fear of being seen
  • 04:48 The risk of personal development
  • 07:55 Using perfectionism and people-pleasing as ways to exempt yourself from criticisms
  • 11:09 Self-abandonment as a means to hide yourself
  • 12:09 Making a list of things you're proud of about yourself
  • 13:16 Why being humble is actually quiet confidence
  • 14:47 Why you're afraid of people getting access to you
  • 15:45 The traumas that lead to fear of being seen
  • 21:08 How the fear of being seen manifests for love addicts
  • 25:04 How the fear of being seen manifests for love avoidants
  • 26:45 Disassociating to keep yourself safe
  • 31:28 How to work on your fear of being seen



Resources mentioned in the episode:


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Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.



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#152: When You Like Someone as a Love Addict23 Aug 202200:43:17

What does it look like to be balanced and still available after you've been working on your love addiction symptoms.


In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way.


Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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#151: Grieving Being Let Down at Your Big Events16 Aug 202200:47:46

Sometimes family and loved ones don't rise to the occassion and show up for us as we need them to at our big events (i.e. weddings, graduations, birthday parties, child births, etc). This abandonment is a real form of trauma.

In this episode, I discuss what to do to emotionally prepare yourself if you have an event coming that you fear you may be disappointed and also coping with your feelings if something hurtful has happened before.

 

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?

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#150: Feeling Whatever You Need to Feel About Your Past Relationship09 Aug 202200:34:44

When relationships do not work out (Friendship, romantic, familial, or otherwise) we can have a variety of emotional responses: neutrality, intense longing and love, hatred and rage, and any combination in between.

In this episode, we talk about how you are allowed to have whatever emotions you need to have about this relationship in this season.

 

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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#149: Enabling vs Empowering02 Aug 202200:38:33

In this episode, we talk about the difference between disempowering helping (enabling) and empowerment.


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#148: Breaking the Habit of Self Criticism28 Jul 202200:26:06

Pulling from the title of the book, "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself," we're talking about the importance of doing the actions that you have learned to do to create change.


Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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#147: Hurt Feelings, Codependency, and Letting What I Give Be Enough19 Jul 202200:39:04

Even healers can overgive and need to be mindful of triggers. I break down a recent event and how it triggered me and next steps I'm taking to move forward. 

 

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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Transitions13 Jul 202200:06:43

Things are changing. It's time to grow.



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#146: 5 Truths for Love Addicts Healing from Heartbreak28 Jun 202200:37:06

Heartbreak is really hard for love addicts. Especially when we're still holding on. This episode is to give 5 truths for love addicts healing for heartbreak.

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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Now introducing our brother podcast, For the Fellas19 Jun 202200:06:05

I'm sooo excited to share the debut of our brother podcast, For the Fellas

Click here to listen now on Apple Podcasts

Follow our website: forthefellas.org

Follow us on IG: @forthefellaspodcast

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  • Join our weekly text inspiration list by texting PODCAST to 832-219-7815
  • Enroll in our Coaching Signature Program for single and partnered women: From Addicted & Avoidant to Available
  • Come to our next Healed and Loved Woman Retreat


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#145: The Importance of Bids and Repairs in Your Relationship14 Jun 202200:39:08

Pulling from the work of Dr. John Gottman, we talk about the importance of bids and repairs to the health of a relationships.

Click here to learn more about Dr. John & Dr. Julie Gottman's work  

 

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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#248: Getting Out of the Negative in Relationships10 Jun 202400:54:21

In this episode, I discuss the importance of moving from negative relationship patterns to positive, healed, and love-filled connections. I also talk about the common pitfalls of remaining in negative relational spaces, the impacts of childhood emotional neglect, and the signs of low self-worth. 


You’ll get to know what it means to reach a baseline in emotional health and relationships and, ultimately, how to grow towards a healed and loved woman status. Listen to get actionable advice on stepping away from unhealthy relationships, identifying roadblocks, and embracing one's personal needs. 


In this episode, we cover…

  • 06:45 Why you operate in a deficit in relationships
  • 12:19 How childhood emotional neglect affects you and your relationships
  • 16:54 What it looks like to be in a relationship with a dominant and passive partner
  • 18:44 The risk that happens when you still don't get to the baseline of relationships
  • 22:12 Why you still struggle with low self-worth (even if you don't think that you are)
  • 25:50 Why you need to make yourself available for happiness
  • 31:13 The healed and loved woman standard for relationships
  • 32:40 What it looks like to be in the negative baseline in relationships
  • 33:44 What the baseline standard is for relationships
  • 40:06 Why you're encouraged to do healing work in a community
  • 41:09 Shena's personal story of healing in a community
  • 41:57 Why you need to share your story
  • 42:48 No contact as a healing agent


Resources mentioned in the episode:


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Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.



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#144: How to Let Your Partner Have Their Own Feelings07 Jun 202200:33:31

Your partner is their own person with their own feelings. But sometimes those feelings can be triggering to us even when they don't intend it to be.

In this episode, we go over 3 things to keep in mind to help you allow your partner to have their own emotional experience. 

 

Ready to let your loved ones in or provide space for those who want to love you? Check out the Let Them Love You Workshop to gain skills and make love easier.


Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled

 

Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?

Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements

 

CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE

Website: Blackgirlsheal.org

Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal

TikTok: @blackgirlsheal

Facebook: Black Girls Heal



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#143: 5 Signs You Feel Protected in a Relationship02 Jun 202201:00:09

To feel protected in a relationship is one of the biggest blessings but should ALSO be a standard that you hold for every partnership and friendship you have.

In this episode, I will talk about 5 signs that you are in a relationship where you are feeling protected and seen.

 

Ready to let your loved ones in or provide space for those who want to love you? Check out the Let Them Love You Workshop to gain skills and make love easier.


Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled

 

Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?

Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements

 

CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE

Website: Blackgirlsheal.org

Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal

TikTok: @blackgirlsheal

Facebook: Black Girls Heal



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#142: Just checking in with you and sending love26 May 202200:07:49

The last few weeks have been tough.

 

I just wanted to send you all some love.


Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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#141: Musings about ADHD, Diagnoses, and What Works for Me17 May 202200:16:38

Touching base this week in a mini-epiosde talking about learning to take space to figure out what works for me with my ADHD.


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#140: Your Trauma and Your (Conflictual) Relationship w/ Your Daughter03 May 202200:57:01

If you're a mom and have a conflictual relationship with your daughter, part of it *might* be because your unresolved inner child wounds that resurface when faced with a part of yourself you have not embraced.

In this episode we're going to talk about what it may look like along with 9 steps for you to take to work through this.


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#139: Grieving The Relationship You Never Had With Your Mother26 Apr 202200:28:41

If you have felt sad or disheartened because you haven't been able to build the relationship you want with your mother, this podcast is for you. Let's talk about how to grieve your relationship with your mother even if she is physically present.

 

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#138: Getting unstuck via self-forgiveness19 Apr 202200:28:05

Let's break down was living in self forgiveness looks like so we can move forward!

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#137: 4 Ways to Exit Love Deprivation13 Apr 202200:59:53

Let's take a deeper look at love deprivation including it's symptoms, the impact of withdrawal, and ways to exit the cycle.

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#136: On Being Triggered (My Repair Episode)31 Mar 202200:53:35

Let's talk about what it looks like when we're triggered, how we respond, and healthier next steps to take.

This episode is a replacement of the episode aired earlier this week.

 

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#135: Inspiration for You - Bodywork Healing, Motivation, and the Power Inside22 Mar 202200:39:22

We're drawing from our text inspiration messages for this week's episode. We hope you find it inspirational!


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#247: 3 Signs You've Grown and Are Healthier03 Jun 202400:24:09

In this episode, let’s discuss the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal growth. Reflecting on past conversations with coaching students, I explore three key signs that show how much you've evolved: pausing before reacting even when hurt, becoming open to alternative viewpoints, and feeling and validating your emotions. Alongside these insights, we discuss the impact of sharing emotions with safe individuals and re-evaluating your social circle for healthier relationships. 


We have been very attuned to keep our focus on our shortcomings but rarely do we allow ourselves to celebrate the progress that we’ve been making in our inner work.


Tune in to learn how to acknowledge your progress, appreciate your journey, and break unhealthy patterns for a better tomorrow.


In this episode, we cover…

  • 02:49 The inspiration for this episode
  • 04:00 How labels from your past are keeping you stuck from growing
  • 05:16 Why you should give yourself credit for the progress you've made
  • 06:49 Why you need to pause before reacting
  • 09:15 Are you open to seeing alternative perspectives?
  • 10:21 A tool to use when you're triggered
  • 14:43 Example of seeing the alternative perspectives in dating
  • 16:41 Example of seeing the alternative perspectives in inner work
  • 18:38 Feeling your emotions and validating them
  • 20:15 Why people *don't care* about your emotions
  • 21:14 What to do when you don't have safe people around you


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#134: Lessons Learned from Divorcing15 Mar 202200:33:45

Making the right decision for yourself is hard, and it can make you go through a lot of back and forth. 

In today's episode, I talk about some lessons I learned during this process.

 

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#133: Finding Your Voice in Your Recovery Journey08 Mar 202201:17:41

As you're recovering, it takes so much work and inner reflection to find your voice and what's true for YOU and the relationships you want to cultivate.

In today's episode, we talk with our amazing student Shandalla about the journey she has taken to find her voice and the lessons learned along the way.

 

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#132: Asking for What You Need Emotionally in Friendships02 Mar 202200:24:51

To maintain safety and love with your relationships, it's important for you to know how to ask for what you need emotionalyl when sharing with your friends and how to repair when there's a disruption. Let's talk about what that looks like in today's episode!

 

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#131: Fighting Perfectionism with Dr. Marcuetta Sims22 Feb 202200:47:01

In this episode, Dr. Marcuetta Sims breaks down what perfectionism looks like in our lives and how to work through it.


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#130: When They Undervalue You on Valentine's Day (or you Birthday, Anniversary, Etc...)15 Feb 202200:45:07

It is totally okay for you if the holidays are important for you in a relationship. You deserve to feel special.

This episode is in support of women who may have felt overlooked and forgotten by partners on special holidays like Valentine's Day, Birthdays, Anniversaries, and others habitually.

 

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#129: Being a Healed and Loved Woman08 Feb 202200:40:12

We are recapping the Healed and Loved Woman Framework to embody being balanced, available, and worthy in our relationships.

 

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#127: Internalized Misogyny & Love Addiction25 Jan 202200:54:50

In a current social trend that is pushing misogyny at length as self help, in this episode, we're looking at some common examples of internalized misogyny love addicts and codependents may face due to trauma, examples of alternative mindsets, and encouragement to be kind with oneself and self-forgive while unlearning these patterns.

 

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#126: 5 Things I'm Doing to Cultivate Friendships11 Jan 202201:04:48

Five things I'm currently doing to cultivate my friendships in this season in spite of avoidant tendencies.


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Checking In - It's Okay to be Tired (Covid related)06 Jan 202200:05:06

It's okay to be over it. Checking in a little bit.


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#124: Why You Gotta Take a Break!07 Dec 202100:47:04

Rest is SOOO important. It's really about how we treat ourselves and how we feel about ourselves.

We talk about how not resting is a fight or flight response and the importance of being aggressive about protecting your peace.


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#246: The 4 Seasons of Healing28 May 202400:39:58

In this episode, I go over the 4 seasons of healing everyone will go through when healing from unresolved trauma and relationship issues.


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#122: The 3 Things You Don't Need to Apologize For23 Nov 202100:32:41

There are three things we never need to apologize for. Our boundaries, our identity, and our voice are so important and valuable to us.

 

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#121: When You're Afraid to Try Again in Relationships16 Nov 202100:39:27

Have you been procrastinating putting yourself out there and making yourself available to get to know others? Then this one is for you. It's time to stop living in fear and actually create the life you want for yourself.


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#120: Why Your Deep Intimacy & Trust Should be Earned03 Nov 202100:27:18

Opening up and building trust to others is super important. But also so is being discriminate with who you allow into your heart.

In this episode, I talk about why this is important.


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