Explore every episode of the podcast Black Coochie

In Episode 8 of Season 3, Ebony and Lacette explore the powerful influence of family relationships on personal growth and sexuality. They discuss how childhood dynamics, family expectations, and generational patterns shape adult relationships. The conversation touches on setting boundaries, redefining family roles, and embracing chosen family as a form of healing and liberation. The hosts offer practical insights on navigating difficult family dynamics while honoring the love and lessons that family provides.

Show Notes & Closing Prompts:

• Reflect: Who in your family do you need to forgive or create boundaries with?

• Prompt: What has been the most impactful aspect of creating a chosen family?

• Resources: Will I Ever Be Good Enough? by Karyl McBride and The Color of Water by James McBride provide valuable insight into family dynamics and healing.

In Episode 7 of Season 3, Ebony and Lacette tackle the emotional terrain of heartbreak and healing. They share personal experiences of grief, letting go, and rebuilding after the end of relationships. The conversation highlights the importance of feeling your emotions without judgment, recognizing unhealthy coping mechanisms, and cultivating healthier strategies for moving forward. The hosts remind listeners that healing isn’t linear and that laughter, self-compassion, and community can be powerful tools in the recovery process.

Show Notes & Closing Prompts:

• Reflect: What in your life are you grieving, and how can you create space to heal?

• Prompt: Create a ritual that helps you release emotional ties to a past relationship.

• Resources: Try Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff and Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach to support your healing process.

In Episode 6 of Season 3, Ebony and Lacette dive into the world of situationships—casual and non-traditional relationships that don’t follow the typical relationship escalator. They discuss how clarity, communication, and setting boundaries are key to navigating situationships without losing yourself. They also explore the benefits of emotional and sexual freedom, the importance of self-awareness, and the potential red flags that can surface when expectations aren’t aligned. Listeners are encouraged to embrace the present while managing their expectations for the future.

Show Notes & Closing Prompts:

• Reflect: What are you looking to fulfill in this moment/with this connection?

In Episode 5 of Season 3, Lacette and Ebony explore the complexities of liberating partnerships—relationships where both partners can show up authentically and experience mutual growth, intimacy, and honesty. They break down what it means to create partnerships rooted in radical honesty, respect, and trust, while acknowledging the challenges that come with navigating trauma, ego, and societal expectations. They highlight how communication, vulnerability, and knowing your values are essential to sustaining liberating partnerships.

Closing Prompts:

• Reflect: What are specific aspects of past partnerships that have been liberating for you sexually or spiritually?

In Episode 4 , Lacette and Ebony celebrate the power of liberating friendships—those authentic, intentional connections that nurture growth, support, and mutual care. The conversation unpacks what it means to cultivate friendships that honor your true self and elevate your journey toward healing and freedom. Through personal stories and practical insights, the hosts discuss overcoming common barriers such as envy and judgment, and emphasize the importance of accountability, humor, and radical acceptance in sustaining these bonds. Listeners are encouraged to assess their own friendships, recognizing those that empower them while letting go of relationships that no longer align with their values.

Closing prompt or practice

• What friendships do you have that are aligned with this season of your life? Send them a note of thank you or set up some time to hang out and catch up.

• What connections would be potential friendships or connections that you could cultivate? Ask them to go to coffee, lunch or happy hour? See if there is alignment.

• What friendships do you need to let go of OR readjust your expectations of?

In Episode 3, Ebony and Lacette explore the multifaceted experience of singleness as Black women over 40. They dive into what it means to be single—from self-love and contentment to navigating dating apps and intentional connections—while challenging societal expectations that dictate partnership as the only path to happiness. With candid reflections on the freedom and opportunities found in solitude, the hosts share personal stories about balancing curated sexual encounters and deep inner work. Listeners are invited to reflect on their own journey of singleness and consider how embracing self-acceptance and intentionality can enhance their

Closing prompt or practice:

• What has defined your singleness or if you are partnered (your sense of why you want to be partnered)
• What have been the cornerstones that have helped you navigate singleness?
• If you are partnered? How do you maintain your space for growth, solitude, purpose and other relationships?
• If you are single and want to be partnered, how can you deepen your relationship with yourself?
  

In episode 2 of season 3, Lacette and Ebony zero in on the knowledge, skills, abilities, and tools (KSAT) that form the backbone of liberated relationships. They break down how understanding trauma, systemic oppression, and our own emotional patterns can help us show up authentically. Listeners learn why strong communication, conflict resolution, and emotional intelligence are vital “mad skills,” and how resources like Nonviolent Communication and self-awareness tools (e.g., Enneagram, Myers-Briggs) can foster deeper connections. Whether you’re exploring new ways to communicate or working through past baggage, this episode offers practical steps toward healing, wholeness and freedom in your relationships.

Ending Prompts & Resources

Prompts:

Name one KSAT (Knowledge, Skill, Ability, or Tool) you already excel at.

Identify one KSAT you’d like to improve. Which resource can help you?

Resources:

All About Love by bell hooks

My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem

Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg

Therapy, Coaching, or Retreats for deeper exploration

In the Season 3 premiere of the Black Coochie Podcast, hosts Ebony and Lacette dive deep into what it means to cultivate liberated relationships. They explore how freedom, choice, and authenticity guide us in building connections that honor our sexual and spiritual identities as Black women. Reflecting on personal inspirations—like bell hooks and Alice Walker—they unpack the difference between relationships that expand and those that confine. The conversation also charts the roadmap for the season, covering topics like communication, monogamy vs. non-monogamy, family ties, online dating, and more. Join the journey to discover how embracing vulnerability, mutual care, and emotional honesty can set the stage for truly liberated love.

Ending Prompts & Resources

• Prompts:

• Name two or three relationships in your life that have felt liberating.

• Define “liberated relationships” for yourself.

• Identify one area—sexual or relational—that you want to free yourself from.

In the Season 2 finale of the Black Coochie Podcast, hosts Ebony and Lacette take a reflective journey through the powerful conversations of the past nine episodes, recapping key discussions on building a healthy sex life, understanding sexual identity, expressing sexual desire, making aligned decisions, and communicating with partners. The episode highlights recurring themes of self-awareness, the integration of sexuality and spirituality, and the importance of humor and vulnerability. As they share personal insights and listener feedback, Ebony and Lacette celebrate the impact of the podcast on their lives and its role as a resource for Black women. The hosts also offer a sneak peek into the exciting plans for Season 3, which promises to dive deeper into liberated relationships. Tune in for a heartfelt recap and a look ahead to the next chapter of Black Coochie.

In Episode 9 of the Black Coochie Podcast, hosts Ebony and Lacette dive into the world of "Sexual Accouterments," exploring the accessories and tools that can elevate your sexual experiences to new heights. They break down what sexual accouterments really mean, from solo play essentials from vibrators to partner play with swings, feathers, and more. The conversation touches on how to set the stage for an intimate encounter and the importance of exploring and expanding your sexual toolkit. Whether you're curious about creating a sex room or just looking to add a little spice to your love life, this episode is packed with tips, recommendations, and prompts to inspire you to be healed, whole, and free.

In Episode 8 of the Black Coochie Podcast, hosts Ebony and Lacette tackle the crucial topic of "Sexual Safety." They explore what it means to protect your body, mind, and emotions in sexual experiences, offering insights into how to establish boundaries, communicate openly, and maintain an ethic of care in intimate connections. The episode covers the importance of consent, directness, and preparedness while also addressing the challenges that detract from safety, such as deception. Whether you're looking to enhance your sense of security or navigate tough conversations about sexual health, this episode is packed with tools, tips, and prompts to help you be healed, whole, and free in your sexual life.

In Episode 7, we continue our enlightening conversation with Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah, diving deeper into the concept of "Building a Healthy Sex Life." Nana shares her personal definition of sexual health and how it intersects with healing, wholeness, and freedom—key themes that resonate throughout her work and our podcast. We also explore practical tools, resources, and pivotal moments that have shaped Nana's journey to sexual empowerment. As we wrap up this two-part series, Nana offers her top recommendations for those seeking to explore and celebrate their sexuality as Black women, inspiring us to live healed, whole, and free.

In Episode 6 of the Black Coochie Podcast, we’re thrilled to be joined by Ghanaian feminist writer and blogger Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah. As the co-founder of the award-winning blog "Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women" and author of the widely celebrated book The Sex Lives of African Women, Nana shares her journey into the world of storytelling and activism. Together, we dive into the stories and experiences of Black women across the African Diaspora, uncovering what these narratives reveal about sex, sexuality, and the quest for a healthy sex life. This episode is the first part of a two-part conversation where we explore the profound insights Nana has gained through her interviews with women worldwide and discuss the commonalities that unite us all in our pursuit of sexual freedom.

Welcome back to the Black Coochie Podcast! In Episode 5, Lacette and Ebony embark on a journey of sexual communication. From self-awareness to empathy, we explore the essential elements of fostering open and honest dialogue about our desires and boundaries as Black women. Join us as we uncover the conditions that promote high-quality communication and share practical tools for improving communication in all areas of life. Tune in for insights, tips, and exercises to enhance your ability to speak your truth and nurture authentic connections.

In Episode 4, Ebony and Lacette dive into the realm of sexual decision-making. From discernment to alignment, we dissect the complexities of making choices that honor our true selves as Black women. Join us as we explore the liberatory work involved in unlearning societal expectations and navigating personal boundaries. We empower listeners to make decisions that align with their values and lead to a healthier, more fulfilling sex life.

Welcome back to the Black Coochie Podcast! In Episode 3, Lacette and Ebony explore the flames of sexual desire and its multifaceted nature. They embark on a journey to understand and celebrate our desires as Black women. From arousal to exploration, they define sexual desire in six words and examine its origins and influences. Join us as we navigate the terrain of passion, curiosity, and self-acceptance, uncovering the liberating power of embracing our authentic desires.

In Episode 2, hosts Ebony and Lacette explore sexual identity. They discuss the significance of understanding and articulating our sexual selves as Black women. In this candid conversation, they talk about the importance of self-determination and embracing the expanding language of identity. Join Ebony and Lacette as they unravel the layers of unlearning societal norms and shame. Tune in for insights, reflections, and personal stories that illuminate the path to self-awareness and acceptance.

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 1 of the Black Coochie Podcast. This season, Ebony and Lacette will engage listeners in a conversation on "Building a Healthy Sex Life." We delve into the importance of adopting a sexually healthy lens for Black women, addressing stereotypes and the impact of societal narratives. Exploring trends and personal stories, we aim to equip listeners with tools and reflection activities to nurture a healthy sex life. From self-awareness to communication, we dissect the building blocks of sexual well-being. Tune in for insights, discussions, and reflections on Season 2's roadmap ahead.

Welcome to Episode 10 of the Black Coochie Podcast, titled "Season 1 Recap and Reflection." Lacette guides our reflection on the first nine episodes, connecting three essential themes: agency, information, and pleasure. Ebony reflects on the themes of liberation, exploration, and integration, addressing topics from defining Black Coochie to the power of music. In this special recap, we share insights, favorite moments, and a taste of what's to come in Season 2.

In Episode 9, the Black Coochie Podcast delves into "The Role of Resources." Lacette guides a conversation on the pivotal role resources play in our sexual and spiritual evolution. Ebony joins in, discussing the significance of resources as catalysts for our spiritual/sexual evolution. Exploring the concept of a "healing blueprint," they outline methods fostering wholeness and freedom. Throughout the episode, they dissect experimental healing technologies, transformative experiences like hypnotism, sound baths, and alternative healing modalities, emphasizing their impact on reshaping perceptions of the body, sexuality, and spiritual growth. Join them in unraveling the journey toward healing and freedom.

In Episode 8 of the Black Coochie Podcast, Ebony and Lacette embark on a soulful exploration of "The Soundtrack of Our Sexual-Spiritual Lives." They unpack the profound role music plays in shaping our sexual identity and spirituality. Reflecting on personal experiences, Ebony and Lacette discuss how music acts as a mirror, marking life's various phases and expressing their evolving sexual selves. From impactful love songs to the spiritual resonance of gospel, they delve into songs that influenced their understanding of themselves, life, love, spirit and sex/sexuality. Join them as they navigate the intricate relationship between music, sexuality, and spirituality, offering insights and personal anecdotes on their quest to be healed, whole, and free.

In Episode 7 of the Black Coochie Podcast, Ebony and Lacette dive into the captivating world of "Sex Edutainment." They explore what sex edutainment is, emphasizing its role as media that delves into sexuality while offering educational value. The hosts discuss the importance of media in shaping our perceptions of sexuality and evaluate what constitutes quality edutainment. They share their  top 5 list of impactful sex edutainment resources and discuss the qualities that led to their selections. Furthermore, Ebony and Lacette examine how sex edutainment contributes to their personal journeys of sexual wholeness. They end by translating their insights into personal reflection exercises. Tune in to discover some fantastic sex edutainment options and how they can contribute to healing, wholeness, and freedom.

Resources - Our Combined “Sex Edutainment” List

How to Create a Sex Room, Sex Education, Sex, Love and Goop, The Principals of Pleasure, Sex and Love Around the World, Harlem and She’s Gotta Have It.

Closing prompt or practice:

• What are your top 5 sex edutainment resources?
• Which show, movie or media has had the most profound impact on your sexually? What shifted or changed for you?
• Is there any resource we mentioned that you'd like to watch?

Episode 6 of the Black Coochie Podcast delves into the captivating realm of the "Pleasure Principle," guided by hosts Ebony and Lacette. They explore what pleasure entails, how to embrace it, and why it's a potent act of liberation. The hosts emphasize that pleasure extends beyond the sexual realm, and they dissect why it is essential for self-determination and transcending societal constraints. Listeners are also provided with practical tools and resources to embrace pleasure fully. In this engaging episode, Ebony and Lacette encourage you to personally define pleasure, create a pleasure mantra, and practice it daily as a path to healing, wholeness, and freedom. Join this empowering and enlightening conversation on the Black Coochie Podcast.

Closing prompts:

• Take some time to define pleasure for yourself. Create a pleasure mantra
• What new thoughts have been sparked around pleasure?
• Find 1 way to practice pleasure daily

Resources Discussed:

• Pleasure Activism by adrienne maree brown
• Pussy Prayers by Black Girl Bliss
• Erotic Blueprint - https://goop.com/wellness/sexual-health/how-to-find-your-erotic-blueprint
• Principles of Pleasure on Netflix
• Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski

In episode 5, Lacette and Ebony explore the powerful framework created by Lacette—the Womanist Sexual Ethic Discernment model. Ebony interviews Lacette, unraveling the inspiration and steps behind this discernment model. They discuss the need for such a framework and how it supports the internal process of healing, wholeness, and freedom. Lacette shares the central questions and activities embedded in each step, encouraging listeners to dance with their memories and shape something new. They reflect on the transformative themes, impressions, and lessons experienced by women who have gone through this model. Additionally, Lacette offers a glimpse into her personal sexual ethic as an example. Tune in as we unlock a framework that leads to liberation and explore the process and products of this transformative journey.

Episode 4 delves into the concept of a sexual ethic—what it means, why it's important, and how to create one. Lacette starts by defining a sexual ethic as a personally constructed statement that guides our sexual identity, expression, and decision-making. Ebony shares her social experiment, interviewing friends and family about their sexual ethics and the lessons she learned. The hosts explore the significance of connection, owning our bodies, and effective communication of our desires and sexual boundaries. Lacette introduces tools and resources for creating a sexual ethic, emphasizing the power of intention, agency, and liberation. Join us as we unravel the intricate threads that shape our sexual lives.

Resources discussed:

Hot and Unbothered: How to Think About, Talk About, and Have the Sex You Really Want ( Yes, no, maybe list) by Yana Tallon-Hicks, Kristin Condon, et al.

Closing prompt:

• What new thoughts do you have about a sexual ethic?

• Who can be your conversation partner to start your sexual ethic journey?

• Take some time to set the terms of your engagement i.e. the foundation for your sexual ethic.

In Episode 3 of the Black Coochie podcast, Ebony and Lacette delve into the significance of our tagline "healed, whole, and free." They explore the meaning behind the tagline, their personal connections to it, as well as the importance of healing, integration, and liberation in sexual experiences. The episode includes stories from women who have navigated healing and wholeness in the context of sexuality, highlighting the impact of shame, trauma, and personal growth. Tools and resources for achieving healing, wholeness, and freedom are also discussed, including journal prompts, Instagram accounts, websites, dancing, and various courses. The episode concludes with a closing prompt, inviting listeners to reflect on their own paths towards healing, wholeness and freedom. What’s present in your life that needs to be healed? To share your stories, visit @blackcoochiepodcast on Instagram or email ⁠blackcoochiepodcast@gmail.com⁠. 

Liberating Resources Shared in Episode 3:

• Rashida Khan Bey Miller  - Sensual Movement Artist & Coach @ohtemptress  

• Richmond Burlesque Shows - @burlesquerightmeow 

• OMG Yes - Findings and techniques from the largest-ever research study into women’s pleasure.  www.omgyes.com 

In Episode 2, Ebony and Lacette delve into how sex, sexuality, and spirituality are defined, and how they intersect, in order to lay the foundation for Black Coochie's conversational journey. They share their own definitions and experiences as well as quotes from women they’ve interviewed to offer diverse perspectives on sex and its role in life. Lacette introduces the Explore, Deconstruct, Reconstruct model as a helpful tool for bridging sexuality and spirituality and reconciling sex and faith. Ultimately, this episode encourages listeners to embrace their own definitions of sex and sexuality as a entryway to liberation and wholeness.

In the inaugural episode of Black Coochie, co-hosts Ebony Walden and Lacette Cross introduce this new podcast and explain their motivations for creating a space for Black women to discuss sex and sexuality. The term "Black Coochie" is both a celebration of Blackness and an invitation to have honest conversations about sexuality and its intersection with spirituality with a focus on the unique experiences of Black women. Ebony and Lacette discuss their personal reasons for embarking on this project, including exploring their own sexualities as they enter their 40s and creating a community for Black women to want to live their best sex lives, healed, whole and free. They aim to break the silence surrounding Black women's sexuality and empower listeners to embrace their whole selves and experience pleasure. The hosts hope to inspire joy and liberation.