Explore every episode of the podcast Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling
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| 118: Who will I be without skin picking??? | 23 Jun 2026 | 00:27:31 | |
The version of you that is free from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting is one that feels confident, creative, compassionate, and calm. These are not just pretty words; this is who you are at your core (as research has discovered)! Now the question is, how do we connect more to this part of ourselves? This is where we turn our greatest struggle into our greatest teacher, and we don't do it through guesswork but through using well-researched therapeutic models (that actually help). Listen in to learn:
Resources: No Bad Parts by Richard Schwarz (book) Clarity: Focusing on the 8C's of Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 117: Why You Can't "Just Stop" + A Science-Based Approach to What Works Instead | 16 Jun 2026 | 00:26:53 | |
Did you know there is a specific brain function that is largely responsible for your chronic picking, pulling, and biting? That's right, you're not broken. You never were. It's your brain over-functioning. In fact, it's a really common struggle in this modern, overstimulated world. Look at all the people who are overworking, overeating, overgiving, overexercising, overthinking, overgrooming. We're all chronically overwhelmed and addicted to it. And it's because of something called intermittent reinforcement. In this episode, I share with you how this particular brain function is one of the key drivers behind your BFPA* + tangible steps to rewiring your brain. These steps don't require force, are backed by science, and will pull on your heartstrings. Not to mention, they will actually help you to move forward towards freedom. Journaling prompts from the episode "Needs" list. Which one calls to you?
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References & Resources • Determinants of Addiction: Neurobiological, Behavioral, Cognitive, and Sociocultural Factors • Intermittent Reinforcement: Why Toxic Relationships Feel Addictive • Engineered Highs: Reward Variability and Frequency as Potential Prerequisites of Behavioural Addiction • Wired for Want: How Dopamine Drives the New Epidemic of Everyday Addictions • Stuck in a Toxic Cycle? This Psychological Pattern Might Be Why 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 116: How to Actually Regulate Your Emotions | 09 Jun 2026 | 00:24:28 | |
After this, if you want a guided meditation on how to drop into your body, listen to episode 108: Why You Can't Slow Down + Somatic Practice to Show You How. To truly regulate your emotions, you need to get out of your head and into your body. The frustrating thing is that even if we understand this concept on a logical level, we can still be left feeling lost about how to implement it effectively and consistently. This is because emotional regulation is a felt experience, not a thought process. You've got to stop thinking about how to feel and instead allow yourself to experience it. Like jumping out of a plane and floating to the ground far below. You can't truly appreciate the full experience unless you do it. Anything else is just living in our imagination rather than reality. So let's take that leap together and learn:
💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 115: Chronic Skin Picking is an Addiction, Not OCD | 02 Jun 2026 | 00:26:25 | |
This is why the typical treatments for OCD - CBT and habit reversal - just don't seem to work. You've been falling through the cracks of ill-fitted treatment and blaming yourself for being a hopelessly broken human being. It's not your fault. You've just been misinformed and going about healing the wrong way. If this resonates, then odds are you'll find hope and a path forward in this episode. You'll learn: 🌟How a behaviour can become an addiction In the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate - book Behavioral Addictions: Signs, Symptoms, and Treatment Options - article Introduction to Behavioral Addictions - study The Difference Between an Addiction and a Compulsion - article 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 114: Why You Procrastinate The Things You Know Are Good For You | 26 May 2026 | 00:25:58 | |
It's because of your inner critic. But it's not enough to know this one small fact. In fact, maybe reading this leaves you feeling more lost than before. This is because our mind needs to understand the WHY behind new information to make sense of it and organise it in our brain in a way that is helpful. It's like you're on a long hike and someone adds a new, sparkly tool to your backpack. You get the sense it's important, but you don't know what it's for or how to use it, so it just becomes a burden. This is what it's like when we hoard information without learning how to apply it. In this episode, you'll learn: - Why you procrastinate the things you know are good for you and end up picking/pulling/biting at your body instead - The profound part your inner critic plays in this frustrating pattern - Practical tools and questions to apply this knowledge to help you reduce procrastination, feel more regulated, and create more meaningful moments in your life 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 113: The Origin Of Intrusive Thoughts & How To Stop Them | 19 May 2026 | 00:23:02 | |
You're not a freak. I used to feel like there was something deeply wrong with me because of the thoughts that would barge their way into my head at the most random, inappropriate moments. But judging yourself and trying to force the intrusive thoughts away has much the same effect as when we do the same with skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting - it just makes things worse. Sometimes destructively worse. I hear you. I see you. Let's work on this together. What you'll learn: 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 112: Why Do I Pick More During PMS? | 12 May 2026 | 00:23:13 | |
Yes, hormonal changes are the obvious answer. But let's not forget the medical gaslighting most women have experienced on this topic, AND the unconscious gaslighting we do to ourselves. What is it about all this that makes you want to pick, pull, and bite at your body with a whole new vigour every single month? I think you can feel it. There's something there that isn't being taken seriously that really deserves to be. It's time to understand what that is for you so that you can better care for yourself at every phase of your cycle. Honour your mind. Honour your body. This is how you can reduce picking, pulling, and biting. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 111: Embracing Authenticity to Freedom from Chronic Skin Picking | Yasmin's Story | 05 May 2026 | 00:53:02 | |
Stories of success and healing are few and far between in the BFPA* community (*BFPA = BFRB + addiction science) And even when you hear about someone healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting, there's a little voice that says... "It's not for me." "I'm not like them." That's because you're not getting the full story! You're not hearing the how behind the transformation. In this interview with one of my former clients, Yasmin, that's exactly what you'll get. You’ll not only hear her incredible story of healing and transformation, but also the actions she took and the things we worked on together in our sessions that made all the difference. Who knows, maybe simply through listening, you’ll gain important insight into what you can do to support your own healing as well. Listen in to feel inspired, uplifted, and grounded in your own power through just how real and tangible this healing journey truly is. 🟢Connect with Yamin on Instagram 🟢Email Yasmin at: hello@yasminloeffler.de 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 110: 4 Most Powerful Growth Areas For Skin Picking & Hair Pulling | 28 Apr 2026 | 00:29:18 | |
Are you serious about addressing the root cause of chronic picking, pulling, and/or biting? Are you willing to set aside instant gratification for depth and long-term gain? Then let's talk about the 4 most powerful growth areas! In my 15 years of healing and the 3 years I have spent coaching others, like you, to heal as well, I've observed that the greatest change happens when we stop obsessing over how to control and stop this ONE behaviour and start looking at ourselves as a whole, unique human being. We'll explore community, your relationship with self, how you are with self-care, what your purpose is and how you can find it (it's not as overwhelming as you might think. You've probably already been accessing it!) There is so much more to you than picking, pulling, and biting. There is so much more you have to gain than just not engaging in this behaviour anymore. Let's explore all of you. The depths of you. And see what treasure this episode uncovers. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 109: How to Rest Without Becoming Lazy | 21 Apr 2026 | 00:25:27 | |
Do you feel like you can only rest AFTER all the work is done? While this makes sense for certain tasks, kicking your boots off after a long day's work can certainly feel gratifying. What happens if we struggle to find the time to ever allow ourselves to metaphically "kick off our boots?" When you're stuck on "go", these moments of relief can feel like they're few and far between. And the idea of just giving yourself a break before everything is done feels like a slippery slope into procrastination, avoidance, and laziness. Deep down, you probably know you can't keep living like this, but how in the world can one STOP?? It's simple, profound, and possibly a little uncomfortable. But if you really want to truly and deeply enjoy your life, and you're willing to take full responsibility for that becoming a reality, then let me share with you how it's done and how close that reality actually is for you. We'll talk about:
💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 108: Why You Can't Slow Down + Somatic Practice to Show You How | 14 Apr 2026 | 00:26:08 | |
Chronic skin picking, hair pulling, & nail biting are the result of a disregulated nervous system. So it only makes sense that part of healing involves learning how to regulate it. This means learning how to slow down. AKA - Rest. Easy peasy, right? Right?? Unfortunately, for people like you and me, we didn't really learn how to switch off. Our system is constantly on go, and so it never feels like the right time to stop, or when you do manage it, it's accompanied with anxiety, restlessness, and guilt. Don't panic. You're not broken. You just need an actual system and practice that can help you to learn how it's done. In this episode, we dive deeper into:
This has allowed me to go from a chronic overworker who has no time for self-care or leisure unless forced, to someone who now has an abundance of time for the things that make her heart sing... And I'm even more successful, efficient, and effective than when I was constantly on "go". Allowing yourself to rest does not mean you get lazy. Listen-in to heal xx 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 107: 5 Steps to Create Safety, Intimacy & Depth in Your Relationships | Adam Hudson | 07 Apr 2026 | 01:10:37 | |
We cannot have true safety, intimacy, and depth without hard conversations. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 106: Most Effective Practice to Heal Skin Picking & Hair Pulling | 31 Mar 2026 | 00:20:51 | |
You've tried gloves, covering mirrors, fidget toys, and maybe even CBT or habit reversal, but none of them really seem to get you the results you're looking for. The problem is that they don't address the root cause. Emotion is the driving force behind this behaviour, and when we don't address it, it continues to rule our lives. This looks like urges you can't resist and frustrating patterns of procrastination, self-sabotage, and impulsivity that perpetually get in the way of you living. Why? Because you have been trying to control your behaviour rather than work with the emotion that's fueling it. In this episode, I will walk you through a practice that allows you to address what's under the surface. It will not only empower you to take tangible steps forward in your healing but will transform how you show up in your relationships and with yourself. This is healing. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 105: Why you pick even on a good day and how to stop | 24 Mar 2026 | 00:17:36 | |
It's infuriating and confusing. Why in the world, after a great day, do you end up ruining it with a big old session of picking, pulling, or biting? The answer is actually pretty simple - you're disregulated. AND the best way you've learnt how to calm yourself down is to squish your emotions back down into their box rather than feel them fully. The problem is, knowing the "how" of meditation, breathwork, journaling, and going for a walk doesn't help you to know the "how" of feeling fully. Logical understanding is not enough. There needs to be an emotional connection and understanding between your brain and your body. In this episode:
Enjoy 💛 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 104: Willpower will NEVER work but THIS does | 17 Mar 2026 | 00:16:36 | |
You've tried time and time again to "just stop" picking, pulling, and biting at your body. But if willpower were really the solution, something would have changed a LONG time ago. So either you're a broken human being with no hope of ever feeling better or living better... Or you're simply going about this the wrong way. The first one we fear to be the truth. The second one is the actual truth. The problem is not that you are a fundamentally flawed human being. It's that you've misunderstood how your brain works, why you engage in this behaviour, and what it takes to heal from it. And to be fair, you haven't really "misunderstood"; you've been misinformed or haven't yet had guidance from someone who deeply understands the intricacies of what you're going through. That absolutely makes things harder. No wonder you feel stuck! It's time to remedy this and share with you what you're really searching for when you pick, pull, and bite at your body so that you can finally move forward in a way that lasts. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 103: Why you still feel stuck after all this time | 10 Mar 2026 | 00:14:07 | |
You've spent months, years, if not decades, trying to figure out why you pick, pull, or bite at your body... And yet you STILL do it. Why? What's the missing piece to this infuriating puzzle? It's actually pretty straightforward, though I wouldn't say it's easy, but neither is feeling stuck after all this time. Let me tell you exactly what this missing piece is, and how to implement it into your life in the most effective, life-changing way. Hint - it's about emotions, and the connection between your mind and body. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 102: Hoping it will get better but it never does | 03 Mar 2026 | 00:17:23 | |
If there's one experience we can all agree on... It's the feeling of hoping things will get better. Hoping that this time will be different. That you'll stop picking. You'll let your skin heal, and you'll finally be free. Except that never happens, and we find ourselves feeling afraid to hope and try because we've been let down so many times in the past. But did you know that this is a cycle? And that this cycle has a name and a purpose much bigger than you would imagine? And when you understand what's really going on, you can begin to set yourself free and feel the empowerment that's waiting beneath this perpetual turmoil. You'll find out in the first 60 seconds of this episode what the name of this cycle is, and over the remaining 15 minutes, you'll find out what you can do about it. Good listening and Godspeed! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 101: The most damaging myth about chronic skin picking & hair pulling | 24 Feb 2026 | 00:20:50 | |
The #1 issue I work on with my clients is feeling shame and self-criticism after a picking, pulling, or biting session. Why do I work with clients on this? It's not just about feeling better; it's because how you treat yourself in these moments directly impacts the length, severity, and frequency of picking sessions! When you learn how to lean into real compassion rather than criticism in these moments, you will take huge strides in your healing journey. But there's a problem: most people have a deep-seated feeling that "Being kind to myself after I pick just excuses the behaviour," which holds them back from making this crucial progress. If you resonate with this, let's work through this roadblock together so that you can access the next level in your healing journey. --- Here's the blog post I mentioned - Is self-compassion just making excuses? The science says no 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 100: 6 Life Changing Lessons About Chronic Skin Picking | 17 Feb 2026 | 00:22:00 | |
I've healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking and have spent the past 5 years helping others, like you, to do the same. These are the 6 most life-changing lessons I learnt about healing that I see continue to make a difference in the lives of my clients and those I speak to within this incredible community. They're grounded in science and a deep understanding of what it's like to struggle and then heal from a chronic body-focused repetitive behaviour. Listen in to find out which you feel most drawn to because I guarantee it's probably what you need right now to take the next step in your healing. Don't forget to click on the link below to submit your FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling assessment! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 99: Do You Have To Get Rid of STRESS To Be Free? | 10 Feb 2026 | 00:15:56 | |
Stress is a big root cause of chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting. With this in mind, a straightforward solution to being free from these behaviours would be: remove stress = FREEDOM! It's partly true but mostly a total lie and deeply unhelpful. Yes, there are probably some things in your life that cause unnecessary stress that you'd be better off removing... BUT, we cannot remove stress altogether and trying to do so only causes more of it. So what do we do? We turn inward. I can tell you that, without a doubt, my life is objectively more stressful than it was 5 years ago... and yet, 5 years ago I was in the throes of chronic skin picking. Not only do I now have 10x the responsibility and pressure, but I also love myself and enjoy my life 100x more. Let me share with you the exact steps I took to create this very real and very realistic inner freedom that you were born to have too. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 98: Why We Lose Hope About Healing From Skin Picking & How To Regain It | 03 Feb 2026 | 00:20:15 | |
Hope is hard when you've tried for years to stop engaging in a behaviour that you logically understand is not good for you and yet seem to have no control over. It's hard when you fail again and again to "be better." I've spoken to so many incredible people inside this community who desperately want to hope that healing and freedom from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting is possible... But their experiences have taught them otherwise. Let me share with you why hope feels so elusive and what you can do to rebuild it in simple, easy steps so that you can move forward in your healing journey towards the life and the person you dream of being! I believe you can heal. Let me help you feel that it's possible too. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 97: 6 Steps to Create Powerful Affirmations for Healing Skin Picking | 27 Jan 2026 | 00:26:12 | |
Positive affirmations truly can help you to heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting BUT... You've got to go about creating them in the right way. Most people don't, and so they end up with affirmations that err on the side of toxic positivity. They give the "ick" and make people believe that affirmations are just useless fluff with no substance. Toxic positivity is useless fluff, but true affirmations are deeply powerful and will help you to stay grounded as you navigate your way through the storms of healing.
In this episode, avoid the common mistakes most people make, ground into your greatness, and learn how to build your own unique, healing affirmations through a deep exploration of you. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 96: Why "Healthy Habits" Are So Hard To Maintain | 20 Jan 2026 | 00:12:57 | |
We all have a few abandoned and neglected HEALTHY habits weighing on the back of our minds... "I should journal more, meditate more, exercise more, eat better, or finally get back into that hobby." We know they'd be good for us if we just did them more regularly. If thinking about these neglected habits makes you feel kinda shitty about yourself, then this episode was recorded for you. Find out what might be the real culprit holding you back from following through and what you can do about it that will truly make a difference to your life. It's not as complex as you might think! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 95: The Mental Trap That Will Ruin Your 2026 | 13 Jan 2026 | 00:17:30 | |
There's a 99% chance you've been in this trap. In the three years I've been supporting people heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting, I have yet to meet someone who hasn't struggled with this too. I did for years, and I still catch myself slipping into this self-sabotaging and degrading way of thinking. If you want to feel more content, present, and fulfilled in your day-to-day life, make sure you listen to this because navigating this mental trap is a MUST! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 94: How NOT to Heal From Chronic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling | 06 Jan 2026 | 00:13:34 | |
This is what really works. And it's got nothing to do with willpower or expensive therapeutic treatment. I discovered this at one of the lowest moments in my healing journey and, to this day, it continues to change my life for the better. Because the truth is, you're not struggling with chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting - you're struggling with shame. And I guarantee, the skin picking became a problem because you needed help coping with the shame (and stress and overwhelm), NOT the other way round. To truly heal - feel better in ourselves and finally be able to relax and just "be" - we need to approach healing differently. What I share with you in this episode is the approach that makes all the difference. I can't wait for you to gain this invaluable tool! - What is this moment trying to teach me? - Is there anything I'm avoiding doing or saying in my life right now? - Is there a hard conversation I know I need to have? - Is there a boundary I'm not setting that my heart is telling me I need, but I'm afraid to act on? - Where am I putting too much pressure on myself? 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 93: Plan How You'll Heal From Chronic Skin Picking in 2026 (Science Based) | 30 Dec 2025 | 00:26:11 | |
Most people set really crappy goals for the new year and wonder why, by mid-March, they seem to be no further than they were on January 1st. I personally don't love the idea of New Year's resolutions, but I absolutely love goal setting and teaching others how to do it effectively because goal setting is a skill that will genuinely transform your life! In this episode, I share with you:
Everything I share with you in this episode is science-based methods and skills that I'm constantly using in my day-to-day life. Without them, I wouldn't be who I am today, and my clients wouldn't be getting the incredible results that they do. Listen in to set yourself up for real change in 2026! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 92: 3 Ways to Help a Loved One With Chronic Skin Picking or Hair Pulling | 23 Dec 2025 | 00:12:18 | |
Trying to get them to “just stop” isn’t working. In fact, it’s probably making things worse. There is a right way and a wrong way to support someone with a chronic body-focused repetitive behaviour (BFRB). Unfortunately, there isn’t much information out there explaining what the right way actually is. That’s why I created this episode. It’s short, because supporting your loved one effectively is much simpler than you might think. You may even discover a thing or two about yourself while listening! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 91: This is Why You Chronically Pick, Pull, & Bite | 16 Dec 2025 | 00:18:11 | |
It's not because of genetics, or because you lack willpower, or because you're just a malfunctioning human being. It's because you didn't learn this one vital skill. This skill lies at the core of why you pick, pull, & bite and learning it is the most powerful and effective path to healing you can take. Listen in to find out what this skill is, why you never learnt it, and how you can truly start! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 90: The Habit That Drains Your Joy | 09 Dec 2025 | 00:17:20 | |
You'll be surprised how this is also making you pick, pull, and bite at your body... Somewhere between childhood and adulthood, we lost that zest for life. Rather than waking up looking forward to the day, we wake up not wanting to get out of bed, dreading what the day might bring, or feeling an underlying sense of urgency, like we're already behind. Here's what the solution is not... It's not doing more and trying harder, or quitting your job, selling all your belongings, and moving to a cabin in the woods. The solution is not so drastic or dramatic. In truth, it lies in learning how to slow down despite the never-ending to-do list. It's easier said than done, but when you learn the simple yet powerful practice inside this episode, it will feel so much more achievable than ever before. Oh, and it will help you to reduce picking, pulling and biting. Listen in to find out how and why! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 89: A hidden behaviour that's keeping you stuck in picking & pulling | 02 Dec 2025 | 00:18:22 | |
When you STOP venting, you'll take huge steps towards accessing freedom from chronic skin picking and hair pulling. And when I say "venting", I mean the cathartic act of complaining or offloading about your problems onto a loving and listening ear. We've all done it/do it. Don't even try to deny it! I struggled with chronic skin picking for 15 years, and venting was one of those hidden behaviours that was holding me back. Is it doing to you what it did to me? Find out in this episode what venting really is, how it might be affecting you in BIG ways, and how to transform this cathartic yet limiting behaviour into healthy communication, wholesome emotional regulation, and powerful growth. While you may not be able to "just stop" picking and pulling right now. Many other areas of growth are within your control. This is one of them! Listen in to heal 💛. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 88: You could be missing this vital piece to inner freedom | 25 Nov 2025 | 00:19:15 | |
Skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting won't stop without this vital piece. I've spoken to hundreds of people like you in this community, and they all want the same thing: relief, a break, the space to be themselves without this behaviour constantly getting in their way, like a shackle around their legs or a thorn in their side. What I've noticed is that this "vital piece" holds the key to their chains, and yet almost every person I speak to is missing it, OR they're not as connected to it as they could be. What I'm about to share with you completely transformed my life at 15 years old and has continued to guide me ever since. Listen in to find out what it is and be guided through a powerful exercise to help you access it for yourself today! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 87: Is It Truly Possible To Be Free From Picking & Pulling? | 17 Nov 2025 | 00:15:25 | |
Are you making this big mistake too? "When I stop picking, I'll be free, I'll be able to relax and just be." Yes, finding freedom from skin picking and hair pulling will have a drastically positive impact on your life, BUT what most people describe as freedom is usually not based in reality and is actually keeping them stuck. So is it truly possible to be free? Or have we got our heads in the clouds? Listen in to find out. 🫂Join "Home💛", my free community on Instagram 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 86: How to Beat PMS & Menopause with Strength Training | Vanessa Kerr | 11 Nov 2025 | 00:58:39 | |
If you’ve been feeling moody, foggy, or struggling with PMS or menopause symptoms, this episode is going to shift the way you see your body. My guest, Vanessa Kerr, is one of Australia’s most respected strength coaches and the owner of Hills Barbell Club. She’s also the NSW Head Coach for the High Performance Team and a team coach for the Australian Weightlifting Federation. Vanessa has spent over a decade proving that strength training doesn’t just transform your body, it transforms your hormones, confidence, and long-term health. Together we unpack: Vanessa also shares practical advice for women who want to start lifting, from finding the right coach to learning how to listen to your body and train intuitively through different seasons of life. Whether you’re 25 or 55, it’s never too late to build strength, stability, and confidence in your body. ✨ Listen now to discover how weight training can fix your hormone issues and help you feel like yourself again! 🤝Connect with Vanessa on Facebook here! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 85: "Just Stopping" Doesn't Work... Here's What Does | 04 Nov 2025 | 00:22:35 | |
Most people try to “fix” skin picking or hair pulling by focusing on the behaviour, but that’s why we stay stuck in it. In this episode, I share a radically different approach: how looking at your life as a whole can reveal the real root of your BFRB (body-focused repetitive behaviour) and what’s keeping you stuck in the cycle. You’ll walk away seeing your healing in a completely new light! One that’s grounded, empowering, and deeply personal. Listen to discover: 💛 Plus: I share a special opportunity to receive a personalised holistic assessment. Available for a limited time only! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 84: Why You Pick More in the Evenings & What to Do About It | 28 Oct 2025 | 00:23:26 | |
Are evenings your weak spot for picking? You’re likely overstimulated, not "weak" or “failing.” In this episode, I break down why modern-day overload drains impulse control and heightens emotional reactivity, making nights the hardest. You’ll learn simple somatic practices to reduce daily overstimulation so you can arrive in the evening more grounded, present, and in control. What you’ll learn
You don’t need more willpower. You need less overload and more presence. Grab my free guide below, Stop Chronic Skin Picking: 5 Somatic Exercises + 2 Insider Tips, and start feeling calmer tonight. If this helped, a quick 5-star review means a lot! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 83: Why Confident Women Still Struggle to Speak Up | Harriet Bratt | 21 Oct 2025 | 01:20:15 | |
Many strong, driven, and high-achieving women still find themselves holding back, worried about coming across as rude, arrogant, or “too much.” In this conversation with Harriet Bratt, international speaker, trainer, Firewalk Guide, & global best-selling Co-Author, we explore why high-achieving women often silence themselves and how to reconnect with your authentic voice. You’ll learn: This episode is a must-listen if you’ve ever been told you’re “too much,” “too loud,” or "too quiet." Join Harriet's private Facebook group here! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 82: How to Use Somatics to Heal Your BFRB | 14 Oct 2025 | 00:26:48 | |
If “just stop picking” hasn’t worked, this episode reveals why and what actually does. I share how somatic practices helped me move from coping to healing, so even on hard days filled with stress, migraines, and breakouts, I no longer turn to picking. You’ll learn how reconnecting with your body builds emotional resilience and true self-trust. What we cover:
Somatic healing isn’t a cure; it’s a relationship with yourself. Tune in to learn how to build it! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 81: The #1 Mistake Growth-Minded Partners Make That’s Sabotaging Their Relationship | Adam Hudson | 07 Oct 2025 | 01:00:36 | |
When you’re passionate about personal growth, it can feel frustrating if your partner isn’t on the same page. Many growth-minded people unknowingly make a mistake that actually pushes their partner away, sabotaging the very connection they want to build. In this powerful conversation with women’s empowerment coach Adam Hudson, we explore what happens when one person in a relationship is growing and the other isn’t, why trying to “coach” or “fix” your partner doesn’t work, and the simple shift that creates real closeness instead. What you’ll hear in this episode:
If you’ve ever wondered why your partner pulls away the more you try to help, this episode will show you a better way to connect. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 80: Everything You’ve Been Told About the Ego Is Wrong | 30 Sep 2025 | 00:28:17 | |
We’ve all heard it: “Your ego is the enemy.” But what if that belief is actually making things worse? In this episode, I challenge the popular narrative surrounding the ego and reveal why perceiving it as “bad” or “toxic” keeps you stuck in cycles of shame, self-doubt, and even chronic skin-picking. Instead, I offer a radically different perspective: your ego is not the enemy, it’s your wounded inner child, desperately trying to protect you.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re not good enough, no matter how hard you try, this conversation will show you a new path forward. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 79: The 3 Ingredients Every Relationship Needs (Beyond Just Love) | Adam Hudson | 23 Sep 2025 | 01:19:28 | |
Love might light the spark, but it won’t keep the fire burning. In this episode, coach Adam Hudson breaks down the three core ingredients that make love last and shows how to navigate the messy middle between the honeymoon phase and real life. You’ll learn:
If you’ve wondered why love hasn’t been “enough,” this conversation gives you the missing structure and scripts. Adam also shares his free 28-day communication resource. Check the show notes for the link. - Reset Your Relationships FREE short course by Adam Husdon 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 78: Why the World Feels So Divided - The Real Reason We’ve Lost Compassion | 16 Sep 2025 | 00:28:01 | |
This episode is inspired by recent, saddening events. We live in a world that pushes us toward black-and-white thinking, good or bad, right or wrong, us versus them. But if you want to have a real impact, it starts with something most of us resist: keeping your heart open in the moments you most want to close it. In this episode, I share openly about processing anger, what it really means to speak your truth, and how change starts with the conversations you’re avoiding in your own life. You’ll hear me talk about:
💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 77: From Burnout to Alignment - Emotional Intelligence for High Achievers | Zerina Derveni | 09 Sep 2025 | 01:24:04 | |
High-achieving women are used to getting results, climbing ladders, and mastering challenges, but even with all the success, many secretly feel unfulfilled. Why? Because results alone can’t fill the deeper need for meaning, alignment, and authenticity. In this powerful conversation with life coach and self-discovery expert Zerina, we explore what’s really keeping high achievers stuck, and how shifting from an IQ-driven mindset (focused on results) to an EQ-driven approach (focused on values, resilience, and emotional awareness) creates true fulfillment. You’ll discover:
If you’ve ever achieved the goals you set for yourself but still wondered, “Is this really it?” This episode will give you tools, insights, and inspiration to start creating a life that feels as good as it looks. Follow Zerina on Instagram here 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 76: Why Mindset Doesn’t Work And What to Focus on Instead | Blair Dunkley | 02 Sep 2025 | 01:40:55 | |
We’ve all been told to “change our mindset,” but Blair Dunkley makes a strong case for why mindset doesn’t actually work in today’s world and what to focus on instead. Blair has spent decades researching behaviour and creating mind models: practical, flexible tools that help people move forward, stop self-sabotage, and build resilience in the face of life’s challenges. In this episode, we cover:
This is a conversation filled with fresh perspectives and tools you can immediately apply in your own life. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 75: Turning Self-Care from a Chore into Something You Crave | 26 Aug 2025 | 00:32:06 | |
If you’ve ever told yourself you’ll “do better with self-care” only to watch it slide the moment life gets stressful, you’re not alone. Most high-achieving women know self-care is important, yet it often feels like one more task on the never-ending to-do list! In this episode, I share why that happens, the deeper beliefs behind it, and how to reframe self-care so it feels nourishing instead of draining. You’ll hear about:
💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 74: Use Breathwork to Release Emotional Baggage & Feel Grounded | Karen Theimer | 19 Aug 2025 | 01:03:40 | |
In this episode, I sit down with breathwork facilitator and massage therapist Karen Theimer for a deep, grounded conversation about the power of the breath to release stored emotions, regulate the nervous system, and reconnect you to yourself. Karen shares how breathwork can help you process what you’ve been carrying, sometimes for years or even generations, without having to “figure it out” in your head. We talk about how the body naturally knows how to regulate, why so many of us block that process, and how to use the breath to come back to a place of peace and clarity. In this conversation, we explore:
Karen also shares a short, powerful breathwork technique you can try at the end of this episode to instantly bring yourself back to the present moment when your mind is spinning. If you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected from your body, this conversation is a beautiful invitation to slow down, breathe, and trust your body’s innate wisdom to guide you home. 🌟Follow Karen Theimer on socials, check out her website, or get in contact with her here! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 73: Reclaiming Life after Decades with Skin Picking | Melissa’s Story | 12 Aug 2025 | 01:05:27 | |
In this episode, I sit down with Melissa, one of my clients in my program STRENGTH, whose journey is such a powerful example of what’s possible when you approach healing with self-kindness and curiosity. She shares how she went from self-criticism and perfectionism to cultivating compassion, celebrating her progress, and finding freedom from the shame of skin picking. In this conversation, we talk about:
Melissa’s story is an inspiring reminder that no matter your age, background, or how long you’ve been struggling, it’s never too late to meet yourself with loving kindness and create lasting change. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 72: Friendship as an Adult - Why It’s Hard & How to Make It Easy | Adam Hudson | 05 Aug 2025 | 01:16:15 | |
Making new friends as an adult can feel confusing, awkward, or even impossible, but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode, Adam Hudson returns to break down why adult friendship feels so hard, how your past experiences shape your current relationships, and what to do about it starting today. If you’ve ever felt stuck in surface-level connections or unsure how to deepen friendships without oversharing or people-pleasing, this conversation will hit home. We cover:
Whether you’re craving deeper bonds or just want to feel less alone, this episode gives you a grounded, real-world path forward. And as always, expect personal stories, a few laughs, and a whole lot of authenticity. 🌟Connect with Adam on Facebook! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 71: What's the Point of Personal Development Anyway? | 29 Jul 2025 | 00:26:27 | |
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why am I still not there yet?” or “How much more work do I need to do?”, this episode is for you. I’m unpacking a pattern I see in myself and in so many others who are on a growth journey: doing all the inner work, yet still feeling like it’s not enough. In this episode, I offer a perspective shift that might help you finally see what’s already changed. In this episode, I share:
This is a deeply honest conversation about what we’re really searching for when we commit to this path and how to recognise it when it finally starts to arrive. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 70: Are You Really an Empath - or Is It Something Else? | 22 Jul 2025 | 00:30:25 | |
If you’ve ever described yourself as an empath, this is for you. I’m diving into a conversation I’ve wanted to have for a long time. One that’s honest, direct, and grounded in love. Because what if the thing we often call empathy… isn’t actually empathy at all? In this episode, we talk about:
This episode is about claiming your sensitivity with boundaries, showing up with integrity, and no longer abandoning yourself in the name of being kind. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||
| 69: Parenthood, Personal Power & the Myth of the Perfect Self - A Raw Conversation with Matt Lavars | 15 Jul 2025 | 01:17:45 | |
What does it really take to break generational cycles, build emotional resilience, and feel at home in yourself? In this powerful and refreshingly honest conversation, I sit down with one of Australia’s most trusted coaching mentors, Matt Lavars, to talk about the often-ignored depths of healing, parenting, and personal responsibility. Whether you're a parent, future parent, or someone navigating your own inner work - this one will stay with you. We explore:
This episode is a grounding, perspective-shifting invitation to stop waiting for healing to be easy, and start listening more deeply to yourself. 🌟Click here to connect with Matt Lavars through his website and socials 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery. | |||