Explore every episode of the podcast Beyond Sexual Brokenness - Real Time Stories of Recovery
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| Episode 51: Real Talk - Sexual Identity, Childhood Wounds, and Resilience | 23 Nov 2025 | 01:01:37 | |
In this episode, Dayne and Sean sit down with Josh, whose journey through questions of identity, childhood trauma, and emotional struggle reflects the deep complexity many of us carry. Josh shares how he navigated pain, confusion, and shame while growing into a devoted husband and father, and what resilience has looked like at every stage of his healing. This conversation is an honest look at the weight we sometimes carry—and a reminder that transformation is possible, even in the most complicated stories. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 50: Would I Want My Daughter to Date a Porn Addict? | 18 Nov 2025 | 00:46:39 | |
In this episode, Sean and Dayne open with a few new recovery resources for listeners, then dive into one of the most gut-punching questions we’ve ever asked ourselves: Would we be okay with our daughters dating a porn addict? What starts as a hypothetical quickly becomes a raw conversation about fear, responsibility, empathy, and the standards we hold for ourselves as men in recovery. This episode isn’t about judgment—it’s about reflection, honesty, and confronting the parts of our story we still need to grow through. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 41: Receiving Beauty Without the Chase | 06 Jul 2025 | 01:04:31 | |
In this episode, John and I explore the idea of rescuing beauty inspired by John Eldredge’s Wild at Heart—but we take it further. We talk about how beauty isn’t just found in a woman or romance but in the simple moments of life we often overlook. As we walk the road of recovery from sexual addiction, and our dopamine levels begin to reset, we start to see the world with fresh eyes: the quiet of an early morning, the color of a summer sky, the feeling of contentment without chasing constant stimulation. Join us as we reflect on how learning to pause, to notice, and to appreciate the ordinary can heal our hearts and rewire our desires for something truer and deeper. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 40: Not Too Young, Not Too Late: Recovery for Every Man - Part 2 | 28 Jun 2025 | 00:51:46 | |
In this follow-up conversation with two college students courageously battling porn and sexual addiction, we explore the real-life impact of their struggle on friendships, dating, and daily routines. They open up about how setting boundaries—like stepping away from social media, limiting video games, and accepting parental controls—has reshaped their social life and identity in college. With raw honesty, they reflect on their last relapse and share how self-compassion helps them build a healthier roadmap forward. Join us as they reveal the practical strategies and mindset shifts sustaining their recovery, even when it means sacrificing some of the typical “fun” of their age group to protect what matters most. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 39: More Than Sobriety - A Man’s Journey Back to His Heart | 19 Jun 2025 | 01:25:40 | |
In this episode, we explore Wild at Heart by John Eldredge and its powerful vision of masculinity—that every man longs for a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue. These themes resonate deeply with the recovery journey, where men are called to reclaim their strength, confront their past, and fight for lasting transformation. We’re also joined by Greg, who shares his inspiring story of over 1,000 days of sobriety and a growing list of hard-fought victories. His testimony brings these themes to life and reminds us what’s possible when a man chooses to live with courage, purpose, and heart. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 38: Not Too Young, Not Too Late: College-Age Recovery for Every Man - Part 1 | 06 Jun 2025 | 01:05:14 | |
In this two-part conversation, Sean sits down with Joe and JT — two young men in recovery — to unpack the unique challenges of addiction in the college years. From the pressures of campus life to the complexities of dating, they explore what it means to pursue sexual integrity in a culture pushing the opposite. But this isn’t just a conversation for college students — it’s a wake-up call for fathers, mentors, and any man wondering how to start the conversation that changes everything. Joe and JT share how their first talks with their parents about addiction unfolded — the good, the awkward, and the redemptive. These episodes will challenge you to take ownership, rethink your role in others’ healing, and ask yourself: What kind of man am I becoming — and who am I helping become free alongside me? Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 37: The Gift of Truth: How Accountability Transforms Recovery | 01 Jun 2025 | 01:04:19 | |
In this episode, Sean is joined by John to dive into one of the most essential—and difficult—aspects of recovery: learning to give and receive the truth. We explore what real accountability looks like, how to build relationships where truth can be spoken with love and received with humility, and why truth is not just a correction, but a catalyst for change. Drawing from our own experiences in the recovery community, we share stories of the hard truths that challenged us—and the ones we weren’t ready for. This is an invitation to every man listening: surround yourself with people who love you enough to tell you the truth, and become the kind of man who welcomes it. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 36: When the Past Still Hurts | 25 May 2025 | 01:12:46 | |
Our unwanted behaviors don’t come from nowhere. In this episode, Sean and Dayne unpack how childhood wounds, emotional neglect, abuse, and unmet needs lay the groundwork for compulsive sexual behavior and addiction. We explore how triggers are often echoes of unhealed pain—and why healing doesn’t mean living in the past, but learning not to be controlled by it. This is a raw and honest look at the stories that shaped us—and how grace, truth, and brotherhood can help us rewrite them. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 35 - Why No Amount of Porn Is Okay | 04 May 2025 | 01:02:16 | |
In this episode, Sean and Dayne go deeper into a hard but necessary truth: there’s no such thing as “safe” porn—because porn isn’t just videos or websites. For those in recovery, porn includes anything that fuels sexual fantasy, lust, or escapism. Whether it's a “quick scroll,” a steamy scene, or a moment of mental indulgence, it all weakens the integrity we're fighting to rebuild. We speak directly to those who already know porn is not okay but keep relapsing by holding onto loopholes and blurred lines. If you’ve ever justified “just this once” or “it’s not really porn,” this conversation is for you. No shame—just honesty, clarity, and a path forward. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 34: Hijacked by Pleasure: The Dopamine Trap of Addiction | 28 Apr 2025 | 01:15:38 | |
In this raw and honest episode, Sean is joined by guest co-host John to dive deep into the war raging inside the addicted brain — a war fueled by hijacked dopamine pathways. Drawing from Dopamine Nation and their own brutal recovery journeys, they expose how the endless chase for easy pleasure leaves men empty, numb, and enslaved. This is a wake-up call for anyone stuck in the cycle: your brain isn't broken — it's been hijacked. It's time to fight for something real again. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 33: The Lie of Novelty! | 12 Apr 2025 | 00:55:38 | |
In this raw and emotionally charged episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne dive deep into the dark spiral of the novelty effect of porn—how the pursuit of something “new” quickly becomes a trap. With brutal honesty, Sean shares how his addiction pushed him further into genres he never imagined, chasing a dopamine high that was never enough. What started as “curiosity” became compulsion, even distorting his sense of sexual identity and desire. Together, Sean and Dayne confront how this craving for novelty chipped away at their integrity, identity, and relationships. Sean powerfully declares that porn doesn’t deserve to be called “novel” at all—it’s deceptive, corrosive, and enslaving. This episode is a gut-check for anyone wondering where the road of unchecked consumption can really lead. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 32: Does an Addict Have Integrity? | 31 Mar 2025 | 01:08:11 | |
In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne dive deep into a tough but crucial question: Does an addict have integrity? Joined by their accountability brother Gaines, they wrestle with the true meaning of integrity—how it shaped their lives, how addiction distorted it, and the painful reality of recognizing where they fell short. They explore the emotional weight of not living up to their own expectations, the strain on their relationships, and the disconnect between their actions and their values—especially as husbands, fathers, and men of faith. But beyond the pain, they also discuss the hope of rebuilding integrity in recovery, striving to become the men they were meant to be. Raw, real, and unfiltered—this is a conversation every addict in recovery needs to hear. Tune in now. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 49: Let's Talk Pain and Addiction - Chicken or Egg? | 15 Oct 2025 | 01:07:05 | |
In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne sit down with Connor to talk openly about pain—how it shapes addiction, how addiction fuels pain, and the vicious cycle between the two. Together, they explore why so many men struggle to acknowledge emotional pain, how cultural expectations play a role, and why unspoken wounds often lead to deeper struggles with addiction. Through raw personal stories and honest conversation, they offer new perspectives on facing and managing pain in recovery. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 31: Beautiful Boy - Watching Addiction From the Outside | 21 Mar 2025 | 01:10:24 | |
In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, co-hosts Sean and Dayne, along with their accountability brother John, dive deep into the raw and complex narrative of Beautiful Boy — the gripping story of addiction and family struggle captured in the acclaimed book and film. Together, they explore the parallels between Nick’s journey and their own experiences with addiction recovery, asking challenging questions about family dynamics, personal responsibility, and the often-overlooked impact of addiction on loved ones. How do past experiences of parents, like Nick’s father experimenting with drugs, influence the course of addiction for future generations? Does a lack of stability in the home play a deeper role than we often consider? And do we show more grace toward those struggling with chemical dependencies than those facing sexual addiction? By examining key characters and pivotal moments, Sean, Dayne, and John consider how their own growth in recovery would shape their perception of Beautiful Boy today. They reflect on the themes of connection, the desire to belong, and the pain of feeling “homeless” — a cycle familiar to those trapped in addiction. Tune in for an honest and vulnerable conversation that goes beyond the surface, offering insights not only for those in recovery but also for the families and friends who walk alongside them. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 30: Is Addiction a Simple Choice? | 07 Mar 2025 | 00:57:06 | |
In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, cohosts Dayne and Sean dive into the complex question: Is addiction a simple choice? The two engage in a heartfelt debate, unpacking how this question has shaped their own recovery journeys. Dayne wrestles with the tension between not wanting to victimize his struggles while also acknowledging how powerless he has felt at times. He shares how this year marks the first in 30 years that addiction hasn't owned him — raising the question: was there a choice involved in breaking free, or was something deeper at play? Sean opens up about the painful paradox of recovery — how greater clarity brings greater pain, and how that pain forces him to confront the nature of his own choices. Together, they reflect on the early moments of their addiction — was watching porn or masturbating for the first time truly a choice? And if it was, does that even matter now? Through raw vulnerability and honest disagreement, Dayne and Sean explore the relationship between choice, accountability, and the disease model of addiction. Whether you're in recovery yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode invites you to wrestle with the nuanced reality of addiction — where willpower, pain, and grace all collide. Listen in as they ask the hard questions without easy answers — because sometimes the most healing conversations are the ones we can't tie up in a neat bow. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 29: Does Sobriety Define You? Should it? | 27 Feb 2025 | 00:53:51 | |
In this thought-provoking episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne go head-to-head in a deep and honest debate: Should sobriety define who you are? Or is it just a part of your journey—not your identity? Some say sobriety is the foundation of healing, the proof of real change. Others argue that making it your identity can be a dangerous trap—what happens when you relapse? Does that mean you've lost yourself? If you’re not "sober enough," does that mean you’re not recovering? Sean and Dayne take different stances, pushing each other—and you—to critically examine your relationship with sobriety. They reflect on how their perspectives have shifted after a year of committed recovery. Sean shares why he fought against letting relapse define him, while Dayne questions whether avoiding that definition makes it harder to stay accountable.
Join the debate and reflect on what sobriety means for you. Does it define you? Should it? Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 28: 'Under the Bridge Downtown' | 23 Feb 2025 | 00:36:08 | |
In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne take a deep dive into Under the Bridge by Red Hot Chili Peppers, exploring how its haunting lyrics resonate with their journeys of recovery from sexual and compulsive behavior addiction. "Sometimes I feel like I don’t have a partner, sometimes I feel like my only friend is the city I live in, the city of angels..."—Sean reflects on the deep isolation he felt at the height of his addiction, how he gave away years of his life, his integrity, and his sense of self. Dayne considers the line, "I don’t ever want to feel like I did that day," and how it mirrors his shift in recovery—from just trying to stop destructive behaviors to finding purpose, setting goals, and embracing inspiration. Together, they discuss how music takes on new meaning in recovery, the power of loneliness and redemption in the song, and how their own experiences align with its themes of loss, longing, and healing. Tune in for an honest and heartfelt conversation on the intersection of music and transformation. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 27: Building Habits for Recovery - A Review of Atomic Habits by James Clear | 02 Feb 2025 | 01:10:10 | |
In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne dive deep into James Clear's bestselling book Atomic Habits—but not your typical book review. They don't just talk about the four key laws of habit formation, they share real-life examples from their own journeys of recovery and how these strategies have impacted their sobriety and healing. While Atomic Habits isn’t specifically a book about addiction recovery, its practical advice on creating positive habits is incredibly relevant for anyone working through addiction. The strategies James Clear outlines can be game-changers in building a life of stability, self-control, and personal growth—and Sean and Dayne prove that by sharing their own successes, struggles, and ongoing efforts to implement these methods. In this episode, you’ll hear about:
This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to build lasting habits in their recovery journey or personal life. Whether you’ve read Atomic Habits already or not, Sean and Dayne provide a practitioner's perspective on how these principles can apply directly to overcoming addiction and living a more intentional life. Remember, "We can't stumble into recovery." It takes intentional action, and with consistent practice, positive habits will lead you to a transformed life. Tune in and start taking action today! Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 26: Rebuilding Love At Home - LMFT Andrew Engstrom Interview | 19 Jan 2025 | 01:13:54 | |
In this heartfelt episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Andrew Engstrom addresses vital questions provided by a supportive recovery community, focusing on rebuilding love, trust, and intimacy in marriages affected by addiction. The conversation begins with a prayer, asking for blessings on marriages and encouraging hearts to open to recovery and freedom. With Andrew's extensive experience in therapy and addiction recovery, the episode provides insightful guidance for spouses and partners walking alongside addicts in their recovery journey. The questions addressed in this episode are split into three core themes: sensitivities around discovery and disclosure, managing the fear of relapse (including PTSD), and rebuilding love and trust. Topics discussed include:
Andrew dives deep into these questions, emphasizing the importance of honesty, transparency, and the painful yet necessary journey of healing. He reflects on the power of sharing difficult truths, saying, “If you do truce, you will rejoice.” “Intimacy is probably the scariest thing on the planet.” But he also encourages listeners with the idea that when a marriage survives hardship, it demonstrates a deep, resilient kind of love: “When the house is still there after the tornado, then you find out there is real love.” One of the central themes of Andrew’s therapeutic approach is “tension holding,” where couples are encouraged to engage in difficult conversations rather than avoid them. He stresses that the depth of a marriage is reflected in the ability to share struggles, with statements like, “The limit to which you can speak about something is the limit to which you are married.” Andrew highlights the beauty in how deeply a person can be hurt by betrayal, acknowledging that it is a testament to the heart’s capacity for commitment. Andrew warns against “staggered disclosures." “Staggered disclosure is death for the mind,” he notes, advocating for open, transparent conversations guided by a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). Andrew emphasizes that, while relapses are a painful reality in recovery, there must be hope. “Suffering builds character, and character builds hope,” he reminds listeners, encouraging them to face their fears together. Throughout the episode, Andrew reminds spouses and partners that even though recovery can feel uncertain and painful, the ability to listen and understand each other's hearts is a powerful tool in healing. “Let me hear your heart,” he says, “You want to hear their heart. It hurts, but you are winning.” Find Andrew: Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 25: The More I Heal, the More I Uncover | 09 Jan 2025 | 00:42:16 | |
After over 300 days of sobriety, Sean and Dayne reflect on the emotional challenges they still face. While their addiction recovery has brought progress, the journey is far from over. In this episode, they explore how their health and healing are interconnected and why the more they heal, the more they uncover areas that still need attention. What's Still Bothering Us After 300 Days of Sobriety? "I still deal with issues of self-esteem and measuring my worth and value." Even with the progress made in recovery, old struggles don’t simply disappear. Both hosts discuss the persistent challenges they face around self-worth, especially when life outside of recovery—like career challenges—brings stress that can trigger old patterns. Stress, Life Challenges, and Addiction Triggers Life doesn’t stop, and neither do the stresses that can push them toward old habits. Dayne opens up about how career challenges and life rejections can feel like affirmations of his failures, causing his brain to make unhealthy connections between those experiences and his ability to maintain sobriety. "When I get declined for a job interview, does it say something about my worth? Does it trigger my brain to think of myself as a failure?" Insecurity and the Impact on Sobriety "Anything that triggers my insecurities can challenge my sobriety." Even though some insecurities may not be directly related to their addiction, their minds can still make harmful correlations. They discuss how insecurity, even in areas unrelated to addiction, can bring about dangerous thoughts that threaten their recovery. "Long-term sobriety has helped me start to separate my emotional pain from my old acting-out patterns." The Ongoing Battle: Recognizing Patterns and Growth "I love that you’re noticing emotional patterns in your life more proactively." Despite the progress, Sean recognizes that recovery is a long-term process. "I can’t overcome years of issues in just one year." Sobriety and the Root Cause: The Necessary First Step Sean emphasizes that sobriety was essential to uncovering the root causes of his addiction and emotional struggles. "Sobriety and finding the root cause is not a chicken-and-egg problem for me." He explains that he needed sobriety first to begin addressing the underlying issues—issues that had been buried for years. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 24: Need a Fresh Start? | 09 Jan 2025 | 00:48:36 | |
If you've been struggling with addiction for as long as we have, you've likely experienced countless attempts to start fresh. We all remember those moments—birthdays, Christmases, and New Year's Eves—when we promised ourselves that this would be the time we turned things around. The day after a relapse, motivated by the hope of a fresh start, we dive in once again, only to face new challenges. In this episode, Sean and Dayne share their personal experiences with "fresh starts" in their recovery journey. Reflecting on their past struggles and triumphs, they also discuss their hopes for the future, especially as they look ahead to their first clean year in decades. This conversation highlights key aspects of starting fresh, from rebuilding relationships to developing healthier habits. Fresh Start and Its Impact on Our Loved Ones: "I didn't realize how disconnected I was with my wife and kids." Recovery isn't just about the individual—it's about reconnecting with the people who matter most. Sean and Dayne talk about the sometimes painful realization that their addiction led to emotional distance from their loved ones. Fresh Start and Continuous Learning: "The healthier I get, the more I realize how unhealthy I have been." The journey to recovery is a process of continuous learning. Both Sean and Dayne explore how the more they heal, the clearer it becomes how deeply their addiction impacted their lives, shaping unhealthy patterns and mindsets. Fresh Start and Building Consistent, Positive Patterns: "I have not done anything more consistently and repeatedly than porn and masturbation for over 20 years." Consistency is key, but it often works against us in addiction. In this segment, Sean and Dayne discuss how they've had to rebuild their lives from the ground up, creating new, healthier habits in place of destructive routines they've held onto for years. Fresh Start and Reconnecting with Your Community: "If your community doesn't know your story, it's not part of your support system." Recovery is rarely a solitary journey. Both hosts emphasize the importance of being open with your support network—without sharing your struggles, that community can't truly support you. Finally, the episode concludes with Sean and Dayne sharing examples of realistic goals and positive patterns they are focusing on for the new year, illustrating what a fresh start looks like in the context of real recovery. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 23: Sobriety is Tough During the Holidays - With Greg and John | 07 Dec 2024 | 01:00:22 | |
The holiday season can be especially tough for those in recovery, often bringing up feelings of loneliness, stress, and the pressure of unrealistic expectations. With love, family, and tradition at the forefront of every movie, song, and gathering, how do we stay sober and true to ourselves? In this episode, we hear from two guests with different lengths of sobriety: one early in his journey, and the other with 890 days of sobriety under his belt. Together, they share their struggles, insights, and strategies for navigating the complexities of the holidays while staying sober. Some key takeaways from our discussion:
Tune in to hear honest reflections and practical advice for navigating sobriety during the holiday season. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 22: Am I Getting Complacent? Discussion w/ Nick. | 29 Nov 2024 | 01:22:07 | |
In this episode, we dive into the topic of complacency in the sobriety journey. Is complacency about:
Join three men as they share their personal experiences navigating addiction recovery. Together, we explore how complacency has shown up in their lives and the strategies they use to stay grounded in their recovery. This is a powerful conversation on how to stay committed to healing, growth, and mental health in the long run. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 48: Rebuilding Trust After the Storm - The Intimacy Pyramid with the Raabsmiths | 22 Sep 2025 | 00:58:08 | |
In this Beyond Sexual Brokenness episode, we sit down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith to talk about healing relationships at home after addiction and betrayal. Drawing from their own recovery and years of research and clinical work, they walk us through The Intimacy Pyramid—honesty, safety, trust, vulnerability, intimacy—and share simple, practical steps couples can start today. Explore more of their work at raabsmithteam.com and in their book Building True Intimacy. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 21: Do I Have Traps In My Sobriety? With Kevin and Dennis. | 23 Nov 2024 | 01:25:22 | |
In this episode, we dive into the mental complexity of sobriety with two guests sharing their recovery journeys. We explore the subtle yet powerful gaps and loopholes that can threaten long-term sobriety—how our brains often battle between setting boundaries and subconsciously searching for ways to bypass them. This conversation sheds light on the challenges of recognizing these patterns and staying committed to the path of recovery. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 20: Asking 11 Men: Why Do You Want to Stay Sober? | 21 Nov 2024 | 00:14:28 | |
Take a moment to revisit a powerful question from Episode 17, where a panel of men in recovery share what sobriety truly means to them. This re-listen offers an inspiring opportunity to reflect on their stories and energy—giving you a chance to consider your own motivations and drivers for sobriety in your life. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 19 - Is Masturbation Ok? | 20 Nov 2024 | 00:39:15 | |
In this episode, we tackle the complex question: Is masturbation okay? Focusing on its impact on dopamine levels, we explore how the act of masturbation can influence the brain's reward system, especially for those in recovery from porn addiction. Can frequent masturbation derail sobriety, or is it a harmless release? We also debate whether masturbation itself can become addictive, leading to negative consequences in one's life. Join us for an in-depth conversation about the role of masturbation in addiction recovery and its potential to impact mental health and personal growth. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 18: Is Porn Dangerous? With LCSW A. Brakhaneh | 19 Nov 2024 | 01:21:39 | |
In this episode, we explore the hidden dangers of pornography with LCSW Aaron Brakhaneh (www.compassCC.org, www.betterhelp.com). Together, we dive into the social, psychological, and mental health impacts of porn addiction. From its effects on relationships to its role in shaping unrealistic expectations, we examine how pornography can be detrimental to emotional well-being and personal growth. Tune in to hear expert insights on why breaking free from this addiction is crucial for mental health and healthy connections. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 17: A Powerful Panel - 11 Men in Recovery Share Their Journeys | 13 Nov 2024 | 01:51:22 | |
Together, they answer questions submitted by others on a similar path, covering topics such as:
This raw and candid conversation offers valuable insights for anyone navigating their own recovery, and serves as a reminder that healing is possible, no matter where you are on your journey. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 16: Why Do I "Need" Porn? | 09 Nov 2024 | 01:16:23 | |
- Why do we watch porn? Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 15: "I Felt Like a Bird Living in a Cage!" | 13 Oct 2024 | 01:21:01 | |
Welcome to today’s episode of BSB, where we explore the transformative journeys of those in recovery. In this inspiring installment, we sit down with a remarkable guest who is 95 days sober—a milestone that marks a significant turning point in his life. He bravely shares his powerful story of overcoming pain, embracing rigorous honesty, and discovering the strength within himself. Our guest reveals the daily tools and activities that have become essential to his sobriety, offering practical advice for anyone on a similar path. Join us as he reflects on what it means to be nearly 100 days sober for the first time, and how this journey has reshaped his identity as a man. Get ready to be inspired by his courage and insights on the road to recovery! Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 14: Pride and Confidence - Too much? Too little? Good? Or bad? | 06 Oct 2024 | 00:57:48 | |
In this emotional episode, we explore the delicate interplay between pride and confidence as individuals navigate their sobriety journeys. Join us as we discuss the importance of celebrating milestones without tipping into complacency, and how self-confidence can empower recovery while maintaining humility. Whether you're in recovery or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights and practical tips for fostering a healthy mindset on the path to lasting sobriety. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 13: Brain Evolution and Addiction Recovery - Interview with LCSW Aaron Brakhane | 25 Sep 2024 | 01:02:57 | |
We’re diving into the fascinating intersection of brain evolution and neuroplasticity, particularly in the context of addiction recovery. Join us for an in depth discussion with LCSW Aaron Brakhane as we explore how our brains adapt and change over time, reshaping pathways and responses in the wake of addiction. We’ll discuss the science behind neuroplasticity, share inspiring stories of recovery, and uncover practical insights that can help guide the healing process. Whether you’re on your own recovery journey or just curious about the brain’s incredible capacity for change, there’s something here for you. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 12: It's All About Boundaries - Perspective of a Courageous Guest! | 15 Sep 2024 | 01:30:36 | |
This episode is 100% dedicated to Nathaniel and everybody sharing his strength and courage to fight porn addiction and all the pain and misery that comes with it. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 47: Fundamental Series - Why Objectifying Women Keeps Us Stuck | 15 Sep 2025 | 01:24:49 | |
In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne sit down with Gaines for an honest update on his recovery journey. Together they explore one of the most overlooked drivers of porn and masturbation addiction—the objectification of women. This isn’t just a conversation about why objectifying women is wrong; it’s a candid debate about why changing how we view women is essential if we want true recovery and to become the men we’re called to be. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Quick Call to Action - Mid Journey Hello and Thank You! | 15 Sep 2024 | 00:03:00 | |
Thank you for all the positive emotions and support from our listeners. We wanted to say a quick hello and give a mid-journey introduction to our series. Looking forward to engaging with more of our listeners in our upcoming episodes. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 11: Recipe for Sobriety - CSAT Perspective - Interview with Chris Chandler | 13 Sep 2024 | 00:42:03 | |
This episode features an in-depth conversation with a certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT). Topics covered include the impact of pornography addiction, the challenges of maintaining long-term sobriety, the effect on personal integrity, and the influence of the wounded inner child, among other related issues.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 10: Never Alone - Importance of Community in Recovery | 02 Sep 2024 | 00:39:20 | |
In this episode we talk with Chandler Rogers, the founder of Relay about the power of community and how Relay has been able to create that for people stuck in addiction. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 9: SOS Help Needed - The Power of Sharing Your Story & Asking for Help | 17 Aug 2024 | 00:42:05 | |
In this episode we get to speak with Charlie about his journey towards recovery and how asking for help has allowed him to move towards giving back and helping others.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 8: From Fantasy to Fallout - Pornography's Impact on Intimacy | 08 Aug 2024 | 00:43:09 | |
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 7: Shattered Mirrors - The Truth Behind Shame and Addiction | 30 Jul 2024 | 00:41:52 | |
Shame is a powerful and controlling feeling. In this episode we discuss the impact of shame on the addictive cycle and how it kept both of us in bondage for years.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 6: Relapsing and Relapsing Again - Make it Stop! | 22 Jul 2024 | 00:46:36 | |
One of the difficulties with sexual addiction is fighting and overcoming the relapsing pattern. In this episode we discuss our early journey and how we overcame this part of the addiction cycle.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 5: The Unwanted Nature of Sexual Compulsive Behaviors | 15 Jul 2024 | 00:37:15 | |
Join us for a discussion on the book "Unwanted" by Jay Stringer and the impact it had on us early in our journey towards recovery.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 4: Never Thought 100 Days Was Possible! | 10 Jul 2024 | 00:46:27 | |
The journey of sexual sobriety can be filled with lots of unknowns and learning. In this episode we discuss what it is like to be over 100 days and the things we have discovered about ourselves and our journey.
Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 3: Finding a Program - Kitchen Sink Approach? | 30 May 2024 | 00:40:46 | |
Establishing strong accountability relationships are critical to your recovery journey. In this episode we explore the need to lean into honesty with close relationships and the power of sharing your story and struggles openly.
This two-part episode focuses on how we came about the programs that have worked for us for the last 3 months of sobriety. Listen to our success and failure stories to help you pick a program that works for you. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 46: Fundamental Series - The 3 Pillars of the Recovery Zone | 05 Aug 2025 | 01:15:07 | |
In this foundational episode of our Fundamental Series, we explore what it really means to live in the Recovery Zone—a space defined not just by abstinence, but by the integration of three essential pillars: boundaries, self-care, and sobriety. These aren’t standalone ideas—they’re interconnected forces that support and reinforce one another. When one is missing, the whole system can collapse. Sean and Dayne break down each of these pillars, reflecting on their personal journeys and sharing insights from the broader recovery community. What does an effective boundary list actually look like? Why is self-care often the hardest to build, especially after years of self-neglect? And how can all of this help make abstinence something sustainable, not just survivable? Whether you're early in recovery or reevaluating your routine, this episode offers practical tools, honest reflection, and a framework for building a life that heals—not just one that avoids relapse. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 2: No Longer a Secret - What Now? | 24 May 2024 | 00:37:46 | |
Finding the right program is crucial for embarking on a successful addiction recovery journey. It's about aligning with a supportive community, tailored resources, and evidence-based approaches that resonate with individual needs and goals.
This two-part episode focuses on how we came about the programs that have worked for us for the last 3 months of sobriety. Listen to our success and failure stories to help you pick a program that works for you. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 1: Day 1 of Recovery | 24 May 2024 | 00:33:03 | |
Day one of recovery marks the courageous first step towards a life of healing and liberation. It's a pivotal moment filled with both vulnerability and strength, where one bravely confronts their demons and acknowledges the need for change.
Join us as we relive our first day of recovery and hope to share an uplifting perspective on what to take away from an important and difficult start of the journey. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 45: The Fall and the Fight: Learning from Tyler’s Recovery Story | 26 Jul 2025 | 01:15:18 | |
In this episode, Sean and Dayne sit down with their friend Tyler, a fellow brother in recovery, to unpack a familiar but powerful story—one that began in early adolescence with porn and masturbation, and followed him into adulthood, deeply affecting his relationships. Tyler opens up about a season of long-term sobriety, the devastating fall that followed, and the pain and disorientation that relapse brought. Together, we reflect on the deeper questions of what it means to be a good man, how addiction distorts that pursuit, and the specific battles Tyler continues to face in his journey toward lasting freedom. This honest conversation reminds us that the road to recovery is rarely linear—but it’s always worth it. Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||
| Episode 44: Relapse. Confess. Repeat. Is That Recovery? | 20 Jul 2025 | 00:44:07 | |
In this episode, Sean and Dayne unpack a hard but honest question: Are we actually progressing in recovery—or have we just upgraded our relapse cycle? We take a raw look at the pattern we often see in recovery communities: relapse, confession, repeat. The timeline may stretch, the guilt may lessen, and we may get better at sharing—but is that real healing? Or have we simply learned to manage our shame instead of breaking free from it? This episode invites deep self-examination about how we use community—are we leaning in for transformation, or just to feel better for a moment? Twitter: @beyondbrokeness | |||