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	Title	Pub. Date	Duration
	160 \| Living the Dream, Working with NBA Stars, and Building a Brand on Your Terms with Dr. Tyler Lesher	22 juin 2026	01:13:20
About the Guest Dr. Tyler Lesher is an accomplished NBA performance therapist and former athletic trainer. With a diverse background that spans working with elite teams like the Cavaliers, Hornets, and UCLA, Tyler's experience in athletic performance and sports medicine is extensive. He has been involved in developing high-performance training regimens for athletes across various levels and sports, leveraging his expertise to also build a substantial online presence and business. Tyler's transition from his traditional role into a more entrepreneurial space is a testament to his innovative approach and dedication to the industry. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone® , host Dr. Toby Brooks engages with Dr. Tyler Lesher, a renowned NBA performance therapist, to explore his extraordinary career path and personal growth in the field of athletic training. Tyler recounts his journey from humble beginnings in Wyoming to working with world-class athletes at the pinnacle of professional sports. His narrative unveils the passion and perseverance that have shaped his professional trajectory, moving through network connections, leveraging opportunities, and strategically transitioning from sports team roles to developing his own enterprise and social media presence. The episode delves into Tyler's insights on the challenges and opportunities within athletic training. He boldly highlights systemic issues in the industry, such as undercompensation and limited recognition, and underscores the value of side hustles and self-marketing as crucial tools for career sustainability and growth. Tyler also shares candid moments from his personal life that have informed his resilience and dedication. His story illustrates the often complex blend of identity, professional aspirations, and personal evolution. Key Takeaways Leveraging Networks: Tyler's career trajectory exemplifies the importance of building robust professional networks, which can open doors to unforeseen opportunities. Industry Challenges: The talk highlights systemic issues in athletic training like low pay and high demands, challenging aspiring professionals to think creatively about circumventing these hurdles. Value of Social Media: Emphasizing that social media isn't just recreational but a potent professional tool. It can effectively function as a modern resume, enhancing visibility and career prospects. The Power of Reinvention: Tyler showcases how embracing change and being willing to pivot professionally can lead to fulfilling work and personal growth. Mental Resilience: Sharing his personal losses, Tyler underscores the vital role of resilience and personal health in navigating challenging professional and personal landscapes. Notable Quotes "Have you ever noticed that some of life's biggest transitions don't happen because we failed? Sometimes they happen because we succeed." - Dr. Toby Brooks "You need to have your own side hustle, your job is not enough." - Dr. Tyler Lesher "This was always the goal from the beginning." - Dr. Tyler Lesher "Life doesn't stop, business doesn't stop, sports don't stop." - Dr. Tyler Lesher Resources Dr. Tyler Lesher on Instagram: Dr. T. Lesh Advanced Rehab Certification: ARC Website Connect with Dr. Toby Brooks on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn: @DrTobyBrooks Science of the Comeback Listeners are encouraged to immerse themselves in this thought-provoking episode that navigates the intersection of professional ambition and personal revelation. Join in to glean insights from Tyler's experiences and discover how steadfast resilience and proactive reinvention can illuminate new paths to success. Stay tuned for more transformative discussions on Becoming Undone. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	159 \| The Art of Discipline: Dre Baldwin’s Blueprint for Success	16 juin 2026	01:14:04
About the Guest Dre Baldwin, also known as Dre All Day, is a former professional basketball player turned entrepreneur, author, and motivational speaker. With a nine-year career in professional basketball, Dre has transitioned into a highly influential voice in mindset development, discipline, and mental toughness. He is the founder of “Work on Your Game,” a company providing tools and techniques for personal development and success. Dre has authored several books and conducts workshops focusing on confidence-building, entrepreneurial pursuits, and performance improvement. Episode Summary In this insightful episode of Becoming UnDone® with host Toby Brooks, former professional basketball player Dre Baldwin shares his extraordinary journey from an overlooked high school athlete to a successful nine-year professional basketball career. Dre explains the drive and discipline needed to achieve his childhood dream of playing at a professional level despite facing numerous challenges. This episode offers an in-depth look at how Dre transitioned from being an athlete to establishing himself as an entrepreneur, leveraging his sports discipline to succeed in the business world. Dre delves into the mindset and execution strategies that underpin his philosophy, articulated through his company "Work on Your Game." Drawing parallels between his sports career and entrepreneurial ventures, Dre discusses the importance of discipline, mental toughness, and personal initiative in achieving long-term success. He emphasizes the power of building confidence through consistent effort and dedication, stating, "When you don't want to do the work anymore… you stop feeling the sense of loss when you're not doing it, you know it's time to transition." This episode is not only an engaging story of persistence and transformation but also an inspirational guide to developing a future-ready mindset. Key Takeaways Pivot with Purpose: Dre Baldwin effectively demonstrates how one can prepare for and transition to a new career while still thriving in a current one. Discipline Over Confidence: Baldwin emphasizes that discipline is a precursor to confidence, dispelling the myth that confidence is the starting point of success. Embracing Change: Instead of fearing change, Dre sees it as a vital component of growth and encourages others to prepare themselves for eventual transitions. Resources in Rejection: Dre discusses how initial setbacks with basketball teams fueled his drive, shaping his future in both athletics and entrepreneurship. Mentorship Matters: By implementing advice from mentors and gaining results, Dre illustrates the importance of being proactive in personal and professional development. Notable Quotes "When you don't want to do the work anymore… you stop feeling the sense of loss when you're not doing it, you know it's time to transition." "Confidence is often the result of action, not the prerequisite for it." "Discipline is not a personality trait. It's a behavior descriptor of action." "You can like LeBron, but you cannot relate to LeBron." "When you did what I told you to do… that validated that the information I was giving out wasn't useless." Resources Dre Baldwin's Company: Work on Your Game Dre Baldwin on Social Media: Dre All Day Books Mentioned: "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" by Robert Kiyosaki "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill Host Toby Brooks' Socials: Toby Brooks, PhD on Linktree Immerse yourself in this episode to uncover more about Dre Baldwin's journey and gain insight into the intricacies of transitioning careers while maximizing personal growth and discipline. Stay tuned for future episodes bringing you more transformative stories and powerful insights. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	158 \| Unravel Your Guilt: The Hidden Power of Embracing the Fourth Quarter: W3W	05 juin 2026	00:17:30
About the Host Dr. Toby Brooks is a renowned professor, author, speaker, and performance scientist with over 20 years of experience as an athletic trainer and strength coach, spanning professional, college, and high school levels. His current focus lies in studying high achievers, understanding their unique attributes, and how setbacks can be transformed into success. As the host of the podcast Becoming UnDone® , Toby shares insights and lessons from his extensive career, providing listeners with a deeper understanding of personal growth and achievement. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone® , Dr. Toby Brooks dives into the metaphor of the fourth quarter, drawing insights from both his personal experiences and a well-known parable. With a focus on understanding the importance of perseverance and recognizing growth opportunities, Toby offers a fresh perspective on the inherent guilt and responsibility often felt by coaches, mentors, and leaders when their efforts don't yield visible results. He recounts a conversation with Chris McCormick, a former Division 1 strength coach turned pastor, whose words on pressure and formation have continuously influenced Toby's outlook on personal and professional growth. The podcast delves into the Parable of the Sower from Matthew 13, reflecting on how the farmer's lack of concern over unsuccessful seeds imparts a vital lesson on recognizing where true responsibility lies. Toby eloquently discusses how leaders shouldn't feel burdened by outcomes they can't control and highlights the significance of focusing efforts on those ready to accept change, termed as the "fourth quarter" in this context. Listeners are encouraged to recognize their own fruitful engagements, celebrate their impact, and let go of frustration over the seeds that don't take root. Key Takeaways Leaders should focus on their "fourth quarter," celebrating the growth and success of those ready to accept change. The Parable of the Sower serves as an essential metaphor, illustrating how results often are beyond one's control. Emotional resilience in leadership is vital, as individuals aren't responsible for outcomes when readiness isn't present. Continuous self-assessment and reflection can help redirect efforts towards areas where growth is possible. Trusting the process and letting go of the results frees leaders from unnecessary guilt and empowers persistence. Notable Quotes "Pressure's gonna expose what's forming." "The farmer isn't in therapy over the rocky ground." "Some soil just isn't meant for us." "The harvest isn't there. My harvest is in the fourth quarter." "Stop measuring your success by the first three quarters and start celebrating the heck out of your fourth." Resources Dr. Toby Brooks' website: tobybrooksphd.com Chris McCormick, pastor at Reliant Church "State of Your Life" survey available at Toby Brooks’ website Upcoming guest Dre Baldwin's achievements and works Listen to this thought-provoking episode to gain insightful perspectives on leadership, growth, and the importance of identifying and celebrating your own "fourth quarter." Stay tuned to Becoming UnDone® for more compelling discussions and expert guests. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	157 \| Finding Identity Beyond Achievement: Courtney Beck Dreams Big, Goes Bold	17 mai 2026	01:11:35
About the Guest Courtney Beck is a former elite gymnast and NCAA All-American at the University of Florida, where she was a part of two SEC championship teams. A high achiever in academics as well, she has earned multiple master's degrees and a PhD in sport management. In addition to her impressive athletic and academic achievements, Courtney is a corporate leader and founder of the "Plenty of Positivity" podcast. Currently, she serves as an adjunct professor and is an esteemed voice on positivity and resilience, focusing on community building and personal development. Episode Summary In this illuminating episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks engages with Dr. Courtney Beck, who shares her remarkable journey from elite gymnastics to academia and entrepreneurship. Courtney opens with her initial foray back into gymnastics after a three-year break, recalling how her resilience and determination enabled her to walk on to the University of Florida's gymnastics team. This transformative experience set the foundation for her fearless approach to life. The discussion ventures into her post-athletic career, shedding light on Courtney's struggles and eventual triumphs as she navigated identity shifts and new opportunities. As the episode unfolds, Courtney delves into how she transitioned from a structured, perfection-driven athletic identity to master the realm of business, academia, and eventually, social entrepreneurship. She speaks candidly about the importance of continuous learning and setting intentions that align with one's inner values. Courtney introduces her concept of positivity, advocating for choosing a positive mindset every day, while acknowledging life’s challenges and setbacks. This conversation is an inspiring testament to how embracing the unseen moments of struggle and growth can lead to new beginnings that better align with one’s true self. Key Takeaways Fearlessness and Boldness: Emphasizing the importance of taking the first step, no matter how intimidating, can lead to valuable life lessons and personal growth. Transitioning Identities: Successfully navigating the shift from athlete to professional requires accepting change and finding new purposes. Building a Positive Mindset: Real, impactful positivity starts with acknowledging life's challenges and choosing how to respond to them every day. Evolving Through Challenges: Courtney’s journey shows how vulnerability and resilience in the face of challenges can open the door to new, fulfilling paths. Community and Connection: Creating supportive environments and networks is crucial for personal development and overcoming isolation, as demonstrated by Courtney's initiatives. Notable Quotes "Never be afraid to take that first step. And if it was not for her allowing me to walk onto that team, I don't quite know if I would have that sense of fearlessness." "I'm Courtney Beck, and I am Undone." "I was out, I was holding on to how do I still pull the quote, exercise as my form of gymnastics and sense of sport into it." "Let go of that ego, letting go of all the titles when I would introduce myself but feeling comfortable in the unknown." "The whole concept behind Plenty of Positivity was…every story I was reading was sheer negativity." Resources Courtney Beck on LinkedIn: Courtney Beck Plenty of Positivity Podcast: Courtney's Podcast Website Dive into this episode for a deep understanding of how Courtney Beck's story exemplifies resilience and positivity, offering insights that inspire transformation. Stay tuned for more enriching content from Becoming UnDone®. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	156 \| The Concussion That Changed Everything: Dr. Shawn Eagle's Path to Purpose	03 mai 2026	00:55:39
About the Guest Dr. Shawn Eagle is an assistant professor in the Department of Neurological Surgery at the University of Pittsburgh, where he is regarded as a global expert on concussion and traumatic brain injury. With more than 150 peer-reviewed publications, Dr. Eagle’s work has significantly influenced how concussion and brain injuries are understood, treated, and recovered from. His journey from a collegiate athlete suffering injuries to a prominent researcher underscores his dedication to improving athletes' lives and health outcomes through cutting-edge research. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone® , Dr. Shawn Eagle joins host Toby Brooks to discuss the intricate journey from athlete to renowned concussion expert. Dr. Eagle candidly recounts his own experiences with sports injuries during his undergraduate years and how they inadvertently steered him toward a groundbreaking career in traumatic brain injury research. His story is a testament to resilience, underscoring significant themes of identity, failure, and ultimately redemption. The conversation delves into the science behind concussion and how modern treatments have evolved to provide more effective recovery pathways. The episode also highlights the importance of understanding the long-term effects of concussions, particularly in athletes, and how early interventions can make a significant difference. This informative dialogue not only sheds light on critical advancements in concussion research but also serves as an inspiration for those grappling with personal and professional setbacks. Toby Brooks and Dr. Eagle reflect on personal growth, the power of perseverance, and the evolving landscape of sports medicine, attracting listeners interested in sports science, personal development, and medical innovation. Key Takeaways Personal experiences with injuries can pave the way for future professional paths, as demonstrated by Dr. Eagle’s shift from athlete to researcher. Modern concussion treatment emphasizes immediate activity and symptom monitoring, moving away from outdated practices like prolonged rest in dark rooms. Athletic trainers play a critical role in concussion management due to their proximity and understanding of athletes' baseline behaviors. CTE (Chronic Traumatic Encephalopathy) narratives often overshadow the treatability and hope associated with concussions. Resilience and adaptability are vital, as illustrated by Dr. Eagle's career journey and dedication to advancing science in traumatic brain injuries. Notable Quotes "I think this is a big part why I'm so passionate about the CTE side of things; I don't know what I would be without football." "I want people to understand that the brain is plastic and will respond and can respond." "Athletic trainers are kind of perfectly trained to manage concussion in the modern understanding…" "For Sean, it wasn't just an injury. It was confusion, anxiety, a sense that something wasn't right." "The very thing that could have been the end of his story as an athlete became the beginning of his purpose." Resources University of Pittsburgh, Department of Neurological Surgery Dr. Shawn Eagle on LinkedIn Dive into this enlightening episode to explore how overcoming setbacks can lead to profound personal and professional transformation. Stay tuned for more compelling content from Becoming UnDone®. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	155 \| Transforming Trials into Triumphs: US Olympian Sarah Warren's Journey to Becoming Undone	26 avr. 2026	01:05:46
About the Guest Sarah Warren is a U.S. Olympic speed skater who competed in the 2026 Milan Cortina Winter Games. Before embarking on her skating career, Sarah was a Division 1 soccer player at the University of Illinois. Her journey to the Olympics was marked by resilience and determination, overcoming ten surgeries, including multiple ACL surgeries. Beyond her athletic endeavors, Sarah has aspirations of becoming an orthopedic surgeon, inspired by the impact of her own medical experiences. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks delves into the inspiring journey of U.S. Olympian Sarah Warren. Known for her exceptional speed skating prowess, Sarah's path to the pinnacle of Olympic success was set against a backdrop of considerable adversity. From her beginnings as a Division 1 soccer player to overcoming significant physical challenges, including ten surgeries, Sarah's story is a testament to resilience, community support, and finding strength amid setbacks. Sarah articulates how her journey through pain and doubt shaped her identity and spurred her toward her Olympic dreams, painting a vivid picture of personal growth and grit. Throughout the episode, Toby and Sarah explore the importance of mindset and community in overcoming challenges. As Sarah shares candid moments from her recovery and training, listeners gain insights into the mental fortitude required to navigate high-stakes sports amid injuries. The conversation also highlights Sarah's future aspirations in orthopedic surgery, drawing a parallel between her sports achievements and her professional goals. As Toby unpacks Sarah's narrative, key themes surface around resilience, positivity, and the transformative power of adversity—making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking motivation or a deeper understanding of what it takes to triumph against the odds. Key Takeaways Resilience in Adversity: Sarah Warren's story underscores the power of mental toughness and persistence in overcoming physical injuries and challenges in sports. Community Support: The role of family, friends, and community is crucial in navigating and rising above setbacks, providing a support system that contributes significantly to success. Finding Purpose in Adversity: Challenges and setbacks can serve as opportunities for growth, shaping one's identity and future aspirations. Mindset is Key: Approaching challenges with a positive, solution-focused mindset can lead to breakthroughs in both performance and personal development. Career Transitions: Sarah's transition from competitive sports to her aspirations in orthopedic surgery illustrates the alignment of personal experiences with future professional goals. Notable Quotes "I got humbled with that first ACL. It was not a typical ACL… And that it was my worst fear." "The Olympic dream was very alive for four and a half years and about for a month and a half, it almost died." "It's hard. It is very tempting to not want to be a bother… But honestly, no matter what, whether you achieve the goals that you initially set out or not." "It's very easy to look at destination. But no matter what, if you're working through that journey and you work through those challenges, you have proven to yourself." "If you don't see a light at the end of the tunnel, it's possible. And if that means one athlete believes in themselves again." Resources Follow Sarah Warren on her journey on Instagram. Learn more about the podcast, Becoming UnDone®, at undonepodcast.com. Listen to previous episodes featuring other high-achievers in sports and performance. Embark on this engaging episode as Sarah Warren shares he Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	154 \| Courageous Career Changes: Embracing Uncertainty and New Beginnings with Pastor & Coach Chris McCormick	12 avr. 2026	00:56:36
About the Guest Chris McCormick is a former Division 1 strength and conditioning coach who worked at Gardner-Webb University and Florida Atlantic University. Throughout his career, he played a crucial role in athlete preparation and development, initially with aspirations of ascending to an Athletic Director role. However, McCormick's journey took an unexpected turn when he transitioned from collegiate sports to full-time ministry. Today, he serves as the lead pastor at Reliant Church, passionately investing in spiritual growth and fostering community, leveraging his strengths as a coach to guide his congregation. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks delves into the transformative journey of Chris McCormick, a former Division 1 strength and conditioning coach who transitioned into ministry. The conversation opens up with Chris's journey of how he achieved his dream job but found himself disillusioned and striving for more fulfillment. Brooks and McCormick explore how pivotal experiences, such as family commitments and community engagements, guided Chris toward a spiritual calling, eventually leading him to become the lead pastor at Reliant Church. Throughout the episode, themes of identity and purpose take center stage. McCormick shares intimate reflections on the pressures and expectations that come with high-performance roles in sports, shining a light on burnout and the internal struggle of aligning personal values with professional aspirations. He candidly discusses the crossroads he faced during the COVID-19 pandemic and how it steered him toward a path of church planting and community leadership. The adaptation from cultivating physical strength to nurturing spiritual growth highlights Chris's inspiring pivot and the newfound significance he finds in pastoral work. Key Takeaways Identity beyond profession: Chris McCormick illustrates the challenge of disentangling personal identity from professional roles, learning through his journey that he was not defined by his position as a coach. Navigating career transitions: The episode explores the emotional and spiritual journey of pivoting from a career in collegiate sports to pursuing full-time ministry, driven by a deeper purpose. The impact of burnout: Reflecting on his path, McCormick discusses how burnout and pressures in his former roles demanded careful evaluation and ultimately, a career shift. The essence of adaptability: Chris's journey highlights adaptability and resilience, showing how skills accrued in one profession can fuel success in another. Purposeful living: Emphasizing his faith journey, McCormick inspires listeners with the message that profound change is possible when following a higher calling. Notable Quotes "Gardner-Webb was like everything I ever wanted in a job. And it was like it wasn't what I wanted it to be." "Pressure is going to essentially expose what's forming you. And once we figure that out, it might be a good thing or a bad thing." "There was such an excitement about this new venture jumping out." "If you don't love every single thing about it, you will get swallowed up." "You are not your job, and you will be replaced in a heartbeat if you think you're more important than you really are." Resources: Reliant Church Chris McCormick on LinkedIn This insightful episode of Becoming UnDone® with Chris McCormick offers a unique perspective on navigating life's unexpected turns and finding fulfillment beyond conventional success metrics. Tune in to hear the full conversation and stay engaged for more episodes that dive deep into the transformative stories of high achievers. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	153 \| Matt Sayman's Journey from Baylor Basketball Scandal to Redemption	29 mars 2026	01:28:43
About the Guest Matt Sayman is the head boys basketball coach at Midway High School in Waco, Texas, and a former professional basketball player in Iceland. Previously, he played collegiate basketball at Baylor University during one of its most tumultuous periods, amidst a major scandal. He is the author of "The Leftovers: Baylor, Betrayal, and Beyond," which chronicles his experiences during this challenging period. Additionally, Sayman was a Division 1 athlete who played a significant role in the challenging 2003-2004 Baylor basketball season. Episode Summary Join Toby Brooks in this episode of Becoming UnDone® as he sits down with Matt Sayman, a former Baylor University basketball player, who shares his journey through adversity, basketball, and faith. Matt recounts his experiences at Baylor during the 2003 basketball scandal, capturing the trials and tribulations that unfolded when his dream almost fell apart. Alongside his personal narrative, Matt reflects on the profound influence of Coach Scott Drew, who took over the Baylor program amidst chaos and laid the foundation for future success, leading the team to a national championship in 2021. Delving into Matt's personal transformation, this episode explores his struggles with identity, the temptations of a partying lifestyle during his senior year, and the pivotal moments that prompted a shift towards a more purposeful and faith-guided path. Sayman candidly discusses his transition from a collegiate athlete to professional sports, the challenges encountered along the way, and the eventual pivot to a coaching career. This episode not only highlights Sayman’s resilience but also underscores the role of unwavering faith and supportive relationships in navigating life's tumultuous seasons. As listeners follow his remarkable journey, they are encouraged to reflect on their own moments of becoming undone and rebuilding stronger. Key Takeaways Matt Sayman recounts how his family's decision to move to Texas significantly impacted his path to becoming a Division 1 basketball player at Baylor University. The 2003-2004 Baylor basketball season was plagued by turmoil, including a murder scandal and NCAA sanctions, which tested Sayman's identity and resilience. Coach Scott Drew's positive culture and belief in a championship future had a significant impact on the Baylor basketball program despite initial skepticism. Sayman's post-basketball struggles with identity and faith are depicted, illustrating how he overcame personal challenges and rediscovered his purpose. The episode underscores the importance of perseverance, faith, and support systems in overcoming life's adversities and laying the foundation for future success. Notable Quotes "I just really wanted, I think, to go somewhere that I was wanted." – Matt Sayman reflects on choosing Baylor University. "Wanted to get out of there. Matt Saman here. And I am undone." – Matt Sayman on feeling lost after the scandal rocked Baylor. "You know, it is March Madness time… it's still a special, it's the most special sporting event to me." – Matt Sayman sharing his passion for March Madness. "We love stories about championships… But what we don't see is what comes before all of that." – Toby Brooks on building towards success. "For years after that, my senior year, I thought nobody cared." – Matt Sayman reflecting on the impact of his senior season years later. Resources Matt Sayman's Book: "The Leftovers: Ba Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	152 \| Navigating Grief and Identity After Life's Unexpected Changes with Sports Chaplain Roger Lipe	21 mars 2026	00:50:18
About the Guest Roger Lipe is a seasoned sports chaplain and ministry leader with over 30 years of experience, primarily working with the Fellowship of Christian Athletes (FCA) at Southern Illinois University (SIU) Carbondale. Throughout his career, he has dedicated his life to providing pastoral care and guidance to athletes, coaches, and sports teams, assisting them through both triumphs and challenges. Recently, after a series of personal trials and the passing of his wife, Sharon, Roger has stepped into a new chapter of his life, focusing on mentoring and supporting leaders in the sports and sports ministry landscape. Episode Summary In this poignant episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks welcomes back Roger Lipe, marking him as the first repeat guest on the show. Roger opens up about a life-changing text message that set into motion a whirlwind of events, including his wife's battle with cancer, his decision to retire early, and their subsequent move to be closer to family. Roger shares deeply personal insights into how these events reshaped his perspective on life, faith, and his identity beyond his career. With his characteristic humility and faithfulness, Roger reflects on themes of surrender, purpose, and the transformative power of love in the face of trials. Throughout the episode, key topics include resilience, caregiving, and the journey from loss to finding new purpose. Roger Lipe speaks candidly about the vulnerability of feeling inadequate in caregiving roles, the importance of processing grief authentically, and the redefinition of intimacy and love in marriage. As he navigates through a season of immense change, he looks forward to his new mission of supporting and mentoring sports leaders. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own journeys and consider the courageous steps they can take when life becomes undone. Key Takeaways The Power of a Single Moment: A text message can alter life profoundly, setting one on an unforeseen path that tests resilience and faith. Importance of Authentic Grief Processing: Avoiding the rush to return to normalcy and allowing oneself to fully grieve can lead to deeper healing and understanding. Love and Caregiving: True love is embodied in selfless caregiving and maintaining dignity for loved ones during difficult times. Identity beyond Career: Embracing one's identity in faith rather than career achievements can provide a steady foundation during life's upheavals. Mentorship and Legacy: Transitioning into mentorship roles can help bridge the gap left by retiring leaders, preserving organizational values and history. Notable Quotes "The moment that changed everything and set the course of our lives was that text message." "I can't control anything about this process. She doesn't need me to control it. So what can I do to serve my wife well?" "Sharon had nothing to give, so it required me to give selflessly, to love extravagantly." "I am always pleasing to him because of who Christ is in me. That's a big deal." "True healing involves fully dealing with grief and all its challenges." Resources Roger Lipe's Website: rogerlipe.com Contact Roger via email: roger@rogerlipe.com Book: "The Rest of the Gospel" Book: "Tired of Trying to Measure Up" by Jeff VanVondren This episode of Becoming UnDone® with Roger Lipe offers profound insights into facing life’s unexpected challenges with courage and grace. Listen to the full episode and stay tuned for more transformative stories that inspire bravery, resilience, and purposeful living. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	151 \| Breaking Free from Destination Addiction: Embrace the Present Moment	06 mars 2026	00:26:12
About the Host Dr. Toby Brooks is a renowned professor, author, speaker, and performance scientist. With over two decades of experience working with elite athletes and high achievers, he specializes in performance psychology and resilience training. Dr. Brooks is the creator of the Science of the Comeback, an approach designed to help individuals navigate transitions and rebuild their identities after setbacks. He also hosts the podcast Becoming UnDone®, where he delves into the stories of individuals who have faced and overcome significant challenges. Episode Summary In this engaging episode of Becoming UnDone®, Dr. Toby Brooks reflects on the theme of Destination Addiction—the continual chase for the next milestone while missing the significance of the present. He shares a personal anecdote from a visit to an In N Out Burger, where he unexpectedly encountered the Lubbock Christian boys basketball team, involving a poignant moment of realization about enjoying the present. This story sets the stage for a deeper exploration of how we often tie our happiness to future achievements, neglecting the value of the current moment. Dr. Brooks draws from his extensive experience with high achievers and athletes to underscore the universal tendency to focus on future accolades and achievements at the cost of missing the joy inherent in our current experiences. He articulates the dangers of defining one's identity based on outcomes and the importance of practicing last-night awareness to fully appreciate life's fleeting moments. Through the lens of performance science and personal anecdotes, this episode uncovers practical strategies to combat Destination Addiction and fosters a mindset that cherishes the journey as much as the destination. Key Takeaways Destination Addiction Defined: The episode explores the concept of Destination Addiction—pursuing future goals at the cost of appreciating the present. The Value of Presence: Highlighting the importance of savoring current experiences instead of rushing toward the next big goal. Rituals of Arrival: Dr. Brooks suggests creating 'arrival rituals' to adequately honor and celebrate achievements before moving forward. Identity Beyond Outcomes: It's crucial to separate one's identity from successes or failures, focusing instead on consistent qualities like effort and integrity. Practical Strategies: Implementing practical methods such as last-night awareness to ensure fully experiencing and valuing the present moment. Notable Quotes "Those are the moments that define us, not by just the collapse, but by what comes next." "The weird thing is now I'm exactly where I want to be… I wish there was a way to know you're in the good old days before you've actually left them." "If your first instinct after a win is to chase the next thing, you might be addicted to destinations." "Ambition isn't the enemy, neither are growth or high performance. But when our peace is always postponed, trust me, that’s a problem." "Resilience isn’t just about rising after we fall. It’s about not outrunning our own life in the first place." Resources Becoming UnDone® Podcast Website: undonepodcast.com Science of the Comeback: scienceofthecomeback.com Toby Brooks' Website: tobybrooksphd.com Follow Toby Brooks on Instagram & Facebook: @TobyBrooks, Ph.D. Dive into this episode for an insightful examination of how to overcome Destination Addiction and embrace the now. Stay tuned for more enlightening content from "Becoming Undone" as Toby Brooks continues to unpack valuable lessons in resilience and performance. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	150 \| Vonn & Liu: Two Olympians, Two Comebacks. Grit Meets Freedom in Olympic Dreams	22 févr. 2026	00:32:25
About the Host Dr. Toby Brooks is the host of Becoming UnDone®, a podcast that delves into the stories of high achievers who have navigated failures and setbacks on their path to success. With a strong background in performance science, Brooks is dedicated to helping individuals rebuild their identities and develop resilience through his app, Science of the Comeback. He is also actively engaged in personal coaching and engaging keynote speaking, offering insights drawn from his own experiences and those of his podcast guests. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone®, Dr. Toby Brooks shares his personal journey and deep love for the Olympics, reflecting on seminal moments such as the 1992 Olympics Triplecast and the impact sports have on shaping ambition and dreams. Drawing a parallel between the challenges faced by Olympians and personal comebacks, Brooks delves into the stories of Lindsey Vonn and Alysa Liu, two athletes whose paths to the Winter Olympics were marked by profound comebacks that offer rich insights into the nature of resilience, grit, and the motivation behind elite performance. Amidst a narrative of personal reflection and awe, Brooks examines how individuals like Lindsey Vonn exemplify relentless determination and grit, while Alysa Liu's journey is characterized by rediscovered joy and autonomy. By weaving their stories into the broader theme of becoming undone and then choosing a path towards reinvention, Brooks challenges listeners to question their own motivations. Highlighting the psychological differences in motivation, he presents a thought-provoking discourse on how one's purpose can redefine the journey of a comeback, urging listeners to reflect on their own narratives of achievement and identity. Key Takeaways The Power of Grit: The episode underscores how overcoming physical and emotional hurdles requires sheer determination, as shown by athletes like Lindsey Vonn. Embracing Autonomy: Alysa Liu’s story highlights the importance of reclaiming joy and autonomy, presenting a comeback fueled by personal choice. Identity and Purpose: Dr. Brooks discusses how high achievers often face identity foreclosure, where self-worth becomes narrowly tied to achievement. Purpose-Driven Motivation: The episode explores how intrinsic motivation, driven by mastery and meaning, can lead to sustainable joy. Reflective Growth: Listeners are encouraged to question their motivations for coming back from setbacks, emphasizing growth and self-discovery over external validation. Notable Quotes "Being great necessitates being unbalanced. You have to be unbalanced to find every bit of energy and strength that you have to pull it off." – David Goggins "Because the medal wasn't the comeback, the ownership and the liberty was." – Dr. Toby Brooks "Intrinsic motivation, on the other hand, is driven by autonomy and mastery and meaning." – Dr. Toby Brooks "Grit without refined purpose can pretty easily become self-destruction." – Dr. Toby Brooks Resources Toby Brooks' website Science of the Comeback app: scienceofthecomeback.com Follow Becoming UnDone® on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn: @BecomingUndonePod Follow Toby Brooks: @TobyBrooksPhD For the full experience of this engaging discussion on resilience and the journey of becoming undone, listen to the complete episode. Stay tuned for more insightful content from "Becoming Undone" as Dr. Toby Brooks continues to explore the stories and lessons of high achievers. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	149 \| Caught in the Spotlight: Secrets of a Celebrity Business Manager with Jonathan Schwartz	14 févr. 2026	00:53:14
About the Guest Jonathan Schwartz is a former top-tier entertainment business manager who was prominently recognized for managing the fortunes of A-list celebrity clients, including globally iconic artists like Beyonce, Alanis Morissette, and Mariah Carey. In his career pinnacle, he was deeply entrenched as a trusted advisor in rooms that many can only imagine. However, his life took a drastic turn when his gambling addiction and subsequent criminal activities resulted in a six-year federal prison sentence for embezzling millions. From that downfall, Jonathan has since rebuilt his life, becoming a marriage and family therapist specializing in addiction and trauma recovery. He aims to help others avoid the pitfalls that trapped him. Episode Summary In this compelling episode of Becoming UnDone®, Toby Brooks delves into the gripping and often heart-wrenching journey of Jonathan Schwartz, who once stood at the pinnacle of the entertainment business management world. Known for representing colossal talents like Alanis Morissette, Jonathan fell into the abyss of gambling and substance addiction, which led to embezzling millions from his clients and ultimately served six years in federal prison. In a barren landscape of broken trust and lost reputation, Jonathan has risen with a new mission: to aid others grappling with addiction. This poignant episode explores his descent, the salvation found in being caught, and the gradual yet profound rebuilding of his life. Throughout the conversation, key themes of addiction, accountability, and redemption are interwoven with Jonathan’s stark honesty about his past misdeeds and his newfound purpose. Emphasizing the importance of humility and personal accountability, Jonathan shares insights into life behind bars, the struggle with familial guilt, and his ongoing efforts to mend his strained relationships—particularly with his children. As Jonathan reflects on his past, it becomes a powerful narrative about the opportunity for transformation within adversity, brought to life through six years behind bars and leading towards a vocation driven by empathy and healing. Key Takeaways Transformation from Adversity: Jonathan Schwartz’s story showcases how severe hardship can be a catalyst for profound personal change, redirecting life towards meaningful service to others. Importance of Accountability: Jonathan emphasizes personal responsibility as a crucial element of genuine recovery and rebuilding relationships. Gambling and Substance Addiction: The episode explores how Jonathan's unchecked gambling and substance use spiraled into major financial and personal losses but also acted as a unique opportunity for growth. Role of Community in Healing: The significance of constructive community circles, personal support systems, and a healthy environment that fosters healing is highlighted. Educational Pathway to Redemption: Post-incarceration, Jonathan pursued a career in therapy, focusing on addiction recovery, and underscores the importance of continuous learning and adaptation in life. Notable Quotes "Ultimately, my higher power sent me a signal and he said, you need to go to addiction studies school, get your kdac, and then I want you to go to grad school and become a marriage and family therapist with an emphasis in addiction and trauma." – Jonathan Schwartz "I don't live in my past, but I don't forget my past. And it was tough, it was really hard. But I'm not seeking empathy from others." – Jonathan Schwartz "I needed to go to prison. I needed time to remove some of my defects of character, if you will, and start to learn who I really want to become as my authentic self." – Jonathan Schwartz "Asking for help is an expression of courage and vulnerability. It's about taking personal accountability in our paths." Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	148 \| From Pro Athlete to CEO: The Science of Reinvention with Idris Haroon	02 févr. 2026	01:03:10
About the Guest Idris Haroon is a former professional football player who had a noteworthy journey through college and professional sports. He played as a defensive lineman at the University of Arizona and later in the Canadian Football League (CFL) with the Hamilton Tiger-Cats. Post his athletic career, Haroon transitioned into the business world, leveraging his leadership and teamwork skills to excel in corporate America. He now serves as an executive and entrepreneur, founding DWD Moving Services, a logistics company that specializes in niche markets like research lab and college coach relocations. As an advocate for resilience and adaptability, Haroon continues to inspire with his dedication to building businesses and leading teams. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone® Toby Brooks sits down with Idris Haroon to explore the transformative journey from college athlete to professional football player, and finally to a successful entrepreneur. Haroon shares his experiences at the University of Arizona, under the guidance of Coach Dick Tomey, and how Tomey's philosophies on team and leadership have continued to influence his life. Despite not making it to the NFL, Haroon's career in the CFL provided valuable life lessons that he later applied in the corporate and entrepreneurial realms. Through his company, DWD Moving Services, Haroon identifies niche opportunities and leads with a commitment to excellence and innovation. The conversation delves deep into the life-changing moments Haroon experienced post-football, highlighting the resilience required to transition from sports to business. With insightful anecdotes, Haroon discusses the challenges of founding a logistics company, navigating personal and financial risks, and overcoming doubts. His unique approach to treating corporate America as his "NFL" showcases the importance of adaptability and the role that perseverance plays in achieving success beyond the field. Listeners will gain insight into Haroon's entrepreneurial spirit, his ability to turn setbacks into strategies, and how he champions others to redefine what it means to win. Key Takeaways Idris Haroon reveals how playing football taught him valuable leadership and teamwork skills which are transferable to any career, especially entrepreneurship. The episode highlights Haroon's transition from professional sports to corporate America and his eventual step into entrepreneurship with DWD Moving Services. Haroon underscores the importance of resilience and perseverance in the face of setbacks, drawing on lessons learned under Coach Dick Tomey. The discussion touches on the power of identifying niche markets within a saturated industry to achieve business success. Haroon shares personal success strategies, emphasizing the significance of treating career transitions as new opportunities rather than endings. Notable Quotes "The beauty of having coaches in your life is you see great examples of leaders at a young age." "Having multiple voices in your head is a healthy thing. You're not crazy." "I'm going to treat the real world like it's my NFL." "Once I was able to switch that mentality, it worked out for me." "We made a business to build a legacy for our daughters." Resources: DWD Moving Services LinkedIn: Official company page for Haroon's logistics business. Idris Haroon on LinkedIn Tune in to the full episode to immerse yourself in Idris Haroon’s inspiring narrative on resilience, adaptability, and entrepreneurial spirit. Stay connected with Becoming UnDone® for more insightful discussions on overcoming adversity and embracing growth. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	147 \| The Quiet Power of Consistently Showing Up for Growth	22 janv. 2026	00:15:36
About the Host Toby Brooks, PhD is the host of the Becoming UnDone® podcast, a speaker, author, performance scientist, and professor. With two decades of experience in the professional and collegiate sports realms, Dr. Brooks specializes in understanding what sets high achievers apart. He serves Baylor University, although the podcast operates independently as an avenue for sharing his research and insights on the mindset necessary for achieving excellence. Episode Summary In this rejuvenating episode of Becoming UnDone®, Dr. Toby Brooks delves into the transformative power of consistently showing up, especially when life seems to pull you apart. As the new year brings a wave of resolutions and renewed commitments, Dr. Brooks challenges the notion that personal growth happens naturally. Instead, he emphasizes intentionality in combating entropy and reaching new levels of personal and professional achievement. Dr. Brooks introduces the concept of Kaizen, the Japanese principle of continuous improvement, illustrating through the legacy of John Wooden how marginal yet consistent efforts lead to monumental outcomes. This episode navigates through themes of persistence, dedication, and incremental progress, particularly in challenging moments when motivation dwindles. With anecdotes from his personal life and professional journey, Toby provides listeners with actionable strategies to nurture a growth mindset, strengthen resilience, and achieve lasting transformation. Key Takeaways Growth Needs Intentionality: Personal development is not passive; it requires deliberate, consistent efforts to counteract disorder and decline. Principle of Kaizen: Small, regular steps, as demonstrated by John Wooden's coaching techniques, lead to significant and sustained improvements. The Ripple Effect: Your persistence can inspire those around you, creating positive ripple effects in your community and personal circles. Holistic Growth: Inspired by Jesus' model of development, balance mental, physical, spiritual, and social growth. Resilience as Leadership: Showing up consistently, even when difficult, can provide hope and courage to others. Notable Quotes "The heart of kaizen is that small steps taken consistently lead to big, lasting change." "Every time you choose to show up…you're literally readapting your brain and maintaining your momentum." "Your persistence gives someone else hope." "Even Jesus showed up to grow…what excuse do we have?" "Being Undone isn't the end of your story. It might just be the start of your best chapter yet." Resources Visit scienceofthecomeback.com for the "Becoming Undone Coaching App," aimed at guiding high achievers through their next chapter. Follow Toby Brooks, PhD, on social media for additional insights and content surrounding personal development and high achievement. Explore past episodes of the podcast, such as the conversation with Brandon McCoy in Episode 146, for more discussions on personal and professional growth. To delve deeper into the art of personal transformation and resilience, tune into the full episode. Stay connected with "Becoming Undone" for more empowering insights to help reclaim your story and ignite your journey toward success. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	146 \| Brandon McCoy: Turning Passion for Custom Paint into a Thriving Career	18 janv. 2026	01:02:40
About the Guest Brandon McCoy is a distinguished custom paint artist and graphic designer based out of Broken Arrow, Oklahoma. Known professionally as Gooch Customs, Brandon has garnered a nationwide reputation for his unique approach to car graphics, pinstriping, and mixed media art. His journey from a small-town upbringing to becoming a respected name in the automotive art scene highlights his dedication and passion. With a style deeply rooted in '90s mini-truck culture, his work spans from custom vehicles to viral objects like intricately designed toilets that capture a nostalgic yet contemporary aesthetic. Brandon's expertise extends to teaching custom paint classes and his work is highly sought after by clients and advertisers alike who value his bold and authentic designs. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks invites Brandon McCoy, the mind behind Gooch Customs, to share his enthralling journey from a small-town Kansas upbringing to an eminent name in custom automotive artistry. The episode delves into how Brandon navigated his early life challenges, transitioning from restoring cars to embracing art as a full-time career, driven by social media's transformative power. With over two decades of honing his craft, Brandon infuses an unapologetic boldness into everything he creates—from mini-trucks and bike tanks to unusual objects, like the famous painted toilets, that have made waves at renowned events such as SEMA. Brandon offers insights into his creative process, emphasizing the significance of trusting one's style and the pursuit of authenticity over perfection. Social media's role in Brandon's rise is discussed, showcasing how it allowed him to reach a global audience and exploit unconventional ideas that captivate the masses. Highlighting themes of resilience, passion, and innovation, this episode is a testament to the power of a determined, creative spirit and the adventures of establishing oneself as a noteworthy artisan in a competitive field. Listeners will find inspiration in Brandon's story of forging a distinctive path and embracing every artistic challenge with courage and commitment. Key Takeaways Authenticity Over Perfection: Brandon underscores the value of authenticity in art, asserting that "it's impossible for art to be perfect, if it's perfect, it's not art." Social Media Influence: The pivotal role of social media in expanding Brandon’s reach and client base, exemplified by his viral paint jobs on unconventional canvases like toilets. Challenges as Catalysts: Brandon's journey emphasizes embracing obstacles, with experiences like being fired and working from a small garage fueling his drive. Community and Relationships: The importance of community is highlighted through Brandon's connections within the mini-truck scene and his commitment to teaching upcoming artists. Passion and Persistence: The enduring theme throughout is the relentless pursuit of passion, where art serves as both livelihood and sanctuary. Notable Quotes "If it's perfect, it's not art. It's as simple as that." "As long as I can wake up and do whatever I want to do and not have to answer to anybody and not have a Monday, I'm doing something right." "It's impossible for art to be perfect. Perfection is in the eye of the beholder." "I consider myself absolutely obsessed with custom paint. So there's nothing out there that, if you thought of it, I’ve probably thought of it." "Nothing leaves my shop unless I'm proud of it." Resources Gooch Customs on Instagram: Gooch Customs Instagram Gooch Customs on TikTok: Gooch Customs TikTok Becoming UnDone® Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	145 \| From Abuse to Advocacy: Maxwell Leadership Mentor & Entrepreneur Marissa Nehlsen's Journey to Empowerment	16 déc. 2025	01:31:34
About the Guest Marissa Nehlsen is a renowned financial strategist, transformational coach, and motivational speaker recognized for her journey from impoverished roots to managing billions in assets. Born into generational poverty and raised in a home rife with trauma and dysfunction, she forged a path of resilience, later becoming a powerhouse in the financial industry. Beyond her role as a financial expert, Marissa is a member of the John Maxwell leadership team and an author of the book "Live Life Rich." She is passionate about empowering others through her journey of overcoming adversity to achieve success and fulfillment. Episode Summary In this compelling episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks dives into the extraordinary journey of Marissa Nehlsen, a financial strategist and transformational leader who rose from adversity to success. From enduring childhood abuse and poverty in North Dakota to becoming a mentor in the John Maxwell team, Marissa's story is not only inspiring but profoundly educational. This episode explores themes of resilience, empowerment, and overcoming challenges to find purpose and change lives. Throughout the conversation, Marissa recounts her harrowing experiences from childhood, highlighting the pivotal moments that steered her towards resilience. The episode richly showcases Marissa's transformational journey, emphasizing her belief that adversity can be a stepping stone to one's highest potential. Discover how Marissa's faith, philosophy of living victoriously, and her endeavor to redefine 'wealth' interlink across her life story. Her narrative beckons us to consider how our pasts shape us, but do not define us, and how we possess the power to rewrite our destinies starting today. Key Takeaways Resilience as a Driving Force: Marissa underscores the potency of resilience in rising above adversities and transforming obstacles into stepping stones for success. The Power of Choice: A central theme is Marissa's belief in choosing victory over victimhood, as instilled by her mother during times of hardship. Redefining Richness: Learn how Marissa redefines 'rich' beyond monetary wealth, encompassing emotional, relational, spiritual, physical, and financial richness. The Role of Forgiveness and Boundaries: Essential tools in her journey, Marissa shares how forgiveness and boundaries shaped her path to personal and professional fulfillment. The Importance of Vision: Despite losing her eyesight to Stargardt disease, Marissa illustrates the profound difference between sight and vision, advocating for a life led by purpose, not limitations. Notable Quotes "Get up, you've got to get up right now." - Marissa Nehlsen recalling a pivotal moment in her childhood that taught her resilience. "You can choose to be a victim, or you can choose to be victorious. What will you choose?" - Marissa's mother's powerful words that shaped her outlook. "Remove from me what is no longer for me." - Marissa's guiding prayer that illustrates her understanding of growth and necessary change. "People don't follow you because of your eyesight. They follow you because you're a leader." - A reflection on leadership and vision. "The world needs you rich." - Marissa's advocacy for embracing wealth in all its forms to create broader impacts. Resources Marissa Nehlsen's Book: "Live Life Rich" John Maxwell Team: John Maxwell Team Website Today Matters by John Maxwell: Available on Amazon Fourth Turning by William Strauss and Neil Howe: Available on Amazon Embrace this invigorating episode that beckons l Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	144 \| Nadalie Walsh: Embracing Change and Championing Mental Wellness in Gymnastics	24 nov. 2025	00:55:56
About the Guest Nadalie Walsh is a seasoned former NCAA Division 1 gymnastics coach known for her servant leadership style and transformative impact on athletes and teams. With a history of coaching at various universities like the University of Wisconsin Oshkosh, Ball State, Utah State, and the University of Illinois, Nadalie's coaching career is distinguished by dedication, resilience, and a commitment to mental wellness. As a coach, she has won a national championship, had multiple All-Americans and Big Ten event champions, and been honored as the Region 3 co-head coach of the year in 2022. Nadalie is now the owner and CEO of Timber Ridge Ventures and Events and BeREADY, focusing on coaching, mentoring, and the development of young athletes. Episode Summary In this enriching episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks invites Nadalie Walsh, a distinguished NCAA Division 1 gymnastics coach turned entrepreneur, to share her inspiring journey of transformation, resilience, and leadership. From her early beginnings coaching due to unforeseen circumstances to leading programs at top universities, Nadalie's story is a testament to embracing change and leveraging past challenges as stepping stones to new paths. Her insights into how personal faith, servant leadership, and unyielding dedication have shaped her professional life create a compelling narrative. The transition from a highly successful coaching career to entrepreneurship has opened new avenues for Nadalie Walsh, enabling her to pursue a calling closely aligned with her values and vision. By embedding mental wellness and identity-building at the core of her current work, Nadalie is filled with enthusiasm for the positive impact she can continue to have on individuals and organizations. This episode resonates with themes of reinvention, the importance of a growth mindset, and the vital role of mentorship in cultivating future leaders—all essential for navigating life's unexpected turns. Key Takeaways Servant Leadership: Nadalie emphasizes the importance of supporting and empowering others as a cornerstone for building trust and effective teams. Faith in Transition: Leaving a long-term role was challenging, but Nadalie’s faith provided a framework to embrace new opportunities with optimism. Championing Mental Wellness: Her commitment to mental well-being and preparedness in sports is pivotal, influencing her current business endeavors. Rejecting Bitterness: Nadalie highlights avoiding bitterness through reflection and reshaping experiences into positive growth for oneself and others. Continual Learning and Growth: Nadalie's career and personal journey exemplify dedication to lifelong learning, as seen in her current business pursuits aligning with her leadership. Notable Quotes "I wanted to make her better. So I got out of the wheelchair and I crawled and I helped choreograph on my knees." "The ceiling that I was put under, it was a slow, like, kind of death to my spirit in a lot of ways." "What the enemy means for harm, that God takes and turns around for good." "As a leader, you have the most authority, but you have that authority given to you so that you can shift the atmosphere." "This was the thing that brought everyone together…because community connection and transparency is what actually heals people's hearts." Resources Nadalie's Website and Contact: Nadalie Walsh Kim Walker-Smith’s Music: “How He Loves” and “Where You Go I Go” are prominently featured as inspirational tracks. We encourage you to dive into this insightful conversation with Nadalie Walsh for a deeper understanding of leadership, resilience, and the power of positive transition. Listen to the full episode and discover how to embrace Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	143 \| Morgan Detrixhe's Journey: From Struggle to Sobriety and Redemption	17 nov. 2025	01:02:51
About the Guest Morgan Detrixhe is an accomplished athletic trainer with a journey marked by resilience and personal growth. Originating from Lubbock, Texas, Morgan was heavily involved in competitive soccer, which influenced her career path into sports medicine. She has worked as an athletic trainer at FC Dallas and currently holds a position at Children's Health Andrews Institute for Orthopedics and Sports Medicine in the Dallas area. Morgan is celebrated for reaching three years of sobriety and actively shares her recovery journey to inspire and offer support to others. Episode Summary In this compelling episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks engages with Morgan Detrixhe, exploring her profound journey from a promising athletic career, through personal and professional challenges, to her inspiring recovery from addiction. Morgan candidly discusses the pressures faced as a competitive adolescent athlete, the toll that these ambitions sometimes take, and how her career in sports medicine unfolded. Her narrative offers invaluable insights into how one's identity, deeply interwoven with athletic performance, can impact mental health and lead to significant life changes. Delving deeper, Morgan shares how her experiences in professional settings such as FC Dallas influenced her understanding of work-life balance and addiction. She touches on her realization that recovery called for vulnerability, community support, and a newfound spiritual connection. Her testament to overcoming adversity and reshaping her life's purpose presents a narrative filled with courage, clarity, and redemption. This episode is a must-listen for those interested in how personal resilience can lead to newfound directions, especially in high-pressure professions like sports medicine. Key Takeaways Societal Perceptions of Addiction: The conversation underscores the importance of understanding addiction as a chronic brain disease rather than a moral failing, emphasizing the need for a supportive approach within professional circles. Navigating Identity and Pressure: Morgan's struggle with finding an identity beyond sports highlights the psychological challenges that athletes face when transitioning out of competitive environments. The Role of Community in Recovery: The episode emphasizes the critical role that community plays in recovery, highlighting the power of human connection and shared experiences in fostering healing. Spiritual Growth and Recovery: Morgan attributes a significant part of her successful recovery to finding a spiritual connection, illustrating the importance of faith in personal transformation. Redefining Success and Purpose: Through Morgan’s journey, the episode reflects on how life’s unexpected challenges can lead to a deeper, more fulfilling understanding of success and purpose. Notable Quotes "I really hit this place where I couldn't imagine my life with alcohol anymore, but I couldn't imagine not living with it." "I like to say that I recover out loud so that other people know the way out." "Let us love you until you can love yourself." "This has been a new way of life that I can enjoy and be of service to others and be present at my job." "I'm not a bad person, I was just sick." Tune in to this compelling episode of Becoming UnDone to delve into the transformative journey of Morgan Detrixhe as she reshapes her identity amidst the challenges of addiction and recovery. Stay connected for more stories that inspire courage and growth in the face of adversity. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	142 \| Josh Beaumont Talks Navigating Career Transitions From Pro Sports to Sports Science	15 nov. 2025	00:39:07
About the Guest Dr. Josh Beaumont is a seasoned athletic trainer and sports scientist with a vast experience in professional sports, particularly in soccer. Over his career, Josh has transitioned from being a competitive soccer player and athletic trainer in Major League Soccer (MLS) to working as a sports scientist specializing in performance analytics. Dr. Beaumont holds a Ph.D. in a related field and has a strong interest in recovery science and data-driven performance enhancement, working at Proactive Sports Performance. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks engages in an enlightening conversation with Dr. Josh Beaumont, a professional who has successfully pivoted from athletic training in Major League Soccer to a fulfilling career in sports science. Josh shares candid insights into his personal and professional journey, highlighting the challenges of identity loss after leaving his dream job in pro sports and how he found a new path in data-driven athletic performance. Beaumont delves into the intrinsic connection between athletic training and sports science, emphasizing the critical importance of recovery and recognizing actionable patterns rather than relying solely on data. The discussion touches on Josh's ability to adapt amidst transitions, the invaluable role of gut instinct alongside scientific metrics, and the evolving landscape of both athletic training and sports science, particularly with the integration of AI and advanced performance analytics. His journey offers a compelling narrative for those at the crossroads of their careers, illustrating the power of resilience and reinvention. Key Takeaways Transitioning out of professional sports allowed Josh to realign his identity and rediscover his passion through sports science. Recovery is paramount in achieving peak athletic performance, and data should be used to guide, not decide, actions. The dynamics of athletic training have evolved, with current trends emphasizing the integration of digital analytics tools and performance science. Staying strategic and prepared when contemplating a career move can help minimize the risks associated with leaving a dream job. Understanding and adapting to the intersection of AI within sports science represents the next frontier in the industry. Notable Quotes "Whatever is good for health is good for performance." – Dr. Josh Beaumont "Recovery has always been massive. Sometimes the most powerful performance metric isn't in your spreadsheets; it's in your gut." – Dr. Josh Beaumont "It's easy to sit and complain, but you have to look within yourself and ask if you're doing what you need to do." – Dr. Josh Beaumont "Data should guide, not decide." – Dr. Josh Beaumont "Being strategic in purpose means not moving before we develop a plan and then not quitting until we execute on the plan." – Toby Brooks Resources Josh Beaumont on LinkedIn: Josh Beaumont Proactive Sports Performance: Proactive Sports Performance Contact Josh via Email: joshuab@herbalife.com For more insights on transitioning careers and maximizing performance potential, listen to the full episode. Stay tuned for more inspiring stories of resilience and self-improvement from "Becoming Undone." Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	141 \| Ilana Golan: Turning Setbacks into Success with Strategic Career Leaps	09 nov. 2025	00:58:19
About the Guest Ilana Golan is a groundbreaking entrepreneur, tech executive, and former Israeli Air Force commander. Known for being the first woman to command an F16 training squad, Ilana's career trajectory has been far from conventional. She has made her mark in Silicon Valley, succeeded in raising significant venture capital, and established herself as a respected voice on resilience and adaptive change. Currently, she is the CEO of Leap Academy, which offers strategic guidance to individuals seeking transformative career and life transitions. Ilana's journey is a testament to grit, resilience, and the power of reinvention. Episode Summary Prepare for an inspiring episode of Becoming UnDone with Toby Brooks as he engages with Ilana Golan, a formidable force in entrepreneurship and personal transformation. This week's conversation delves deeply into the trials and triumphs that have shaped Ilana's bold journey—from her early years training fighter pilots in the Israeli Air Force to her innovative ventures in Silicon Valley. Through heartfelt anecdotes and candid reflections, Ilana shares how setbacks have fueled her drive and commitment to aid others on their paths of reinvention. Throughout the episode, Toby and Ilana explore pivotal moments of crisis and the clarity they can offer. The conversation touches on the concepts of resilience when facing unforeseen professional upheavals, and how Ilana has used her experiences to forge a new path with Leap Academy. This venture was born out of her tumultuous startup journey, teaching career strategy and empowering others to take charge of their professional trajectories. Offering insights into entrepreneurship, personal growth, and future directions, this episode is a rich tapestry of motivational themes interwoven with practical advice. Key Takeaways Resilience in Setbacks: Ilana Golan discusses how being ousted from her startup became a catalyst for future success and personal reinvention. Power of Reflection: The significance of self-awareness and strategic planning in career transitions is highlighted as Ilana reflects on her journey. Strategic Career Leaps: A portfolio career approach and multiple income streams are essential strategies for living with purpose and adaptability. Phases of Life and Success: Ilana emphasizes understanding one's phase of life to redefine personal metrics of success. Community and Support: Creating a network of like-minded individuals who are also high achievers and driven can provide invaluable support and opportunities. Notable Quotes "Sometimes wrong turns are the very ones that lead to the right place." – Ilana Golan "I needed to feel that regret. That regret was something I never want to feel ever again." – Ilana Golan "Every twist, every setback, every leap, she's redefined what it means to be resilient." – Toby Brooks "It's not easy, but it's simple. Execution can be difficult." – Ilana Golan "You want to be leap ready, even if you're staying there." – Ilana Golan Resources Leap Academy: leapacademy.com - Ilana Golan's platform offering transformative career guidance. Ilana Golan on LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile Ilana Golan on Instagram: Instagram Profile Podcast Episodes and Updates: Becoming Undone Tune in to this enlightening episode to fully grasp the depth of Ilana Golan’s story and the inspirational insights she offers. Stay connected with future episodes of Becoming UnDone, where compelling stories of personal transformation and growth are shared. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	140 \| From Refugee to CEO: Quang X. Pham's Journey of Grit, Toughness, and Effort	01 nov. 2025	00:57:06
About the Guest Quang X. Pham is a Vietnamese-American entrepreneur and former United States Marine Corps aviator. Initially arriving in the United States as a 10-year-old refugee fleeing a collapsing Saigon, Pham eventually became a decorated Marine Corps aviator. He is now the CEO of Cadrenal Therapeutics, a leading biotech company focused on innovative therapies. In addition to his professional endeavors, Quang Pham is a published author, capturing his incredible journey and insights in various books. His latest work, "Underdog Nation," conveys the themes of resilience and the power of seizing opportunities in America. Episode Summary In this enlightening episode of "Becoming Undone," host Toby Brooks converses with Quang X. Pham, a former refugee who rose through extraordinary circumstances to serve as a US Marine Corps aviator and biotech CEO. The discussion delves into Pham's dynamic journey—from navigating life as a Vietnamese refugee in Arkansas to achieving remarkable success in the Marine Corps and the biotech sector. Highlighting themes of grit, gratitude, and transformation, Pham shares how his early life challenges molded his path and helped him rise above expectations. Throughout the episode, Pham and Brooks examine the nuances of overcoming fear, integrating relentless action, and breaking through barriers that seem insurmountable. Pham emphasizes the significance of the ER principle—effort and result—advocating for a success mindset anchored in persistent action rather than passive aspiration. From recounting his love for baseball as a gateway to American culture to his ambitious professional ventures, Pham offers a paradigmatic illustration of the power of resilience. This episode is fully packed with discussions that encourage redefining setbacks into stepping stones and seeking out mentors across varied backgrounds. Key Takeaways From Refugee to Resilience: Quang X. Pham illustrates a profound transformation from navigating life as a refugee to taking decisive steps that shaped his successful career in aviation and biotechnology. Overcoming Fear with Action: Pham emphasizes not letting fear stifle potential by focusing on action-oriented practices to achieve set goals. Effort and Results Principle: A core theme of the episode, the principle of aligning effort with expected results is explored as a pathway to personal and professional success. Global Sports as a Connector: The role that sports played in Pham's adjustment to American culture underscores the value of community and shared experiences. Mentorship Across Boundaries: Pham advocates for learning from diverse mentors—referred to as "admirables"—to foster personal growth irrespective of racial or cultural similarities. Notable Quotes "I've never been a dreamer or a visionary. I was all about the mindset, which means taking action." "This is the number one country for underdogs. If you don't have the name, culture, or education, you could become whoever you want to become." "Learn English, learn how to speak, how to present, how to convince people. It's the greatest tool to be communicated." "Pursue your childhood dream, but look back, it's about paying back and honoring my family." "Just don't get frustrated. Always do best where you are because things will be good." Resources: Quang Pham on LinkedIn Cadrenal Therapeutics Books by Quang X. Pham: Sense of Duty Underdog Nation Eager to explore how setbacks can pave the way for success? Tune into this inspiring episode with Quang X. Pham—his journey serves Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	139 \| Finding Purpose and Truthfulness Amid Life's Unexpected Turns	26 oct. 2025	00:16:53
Episode Summary In this episode of the Professor's Playbook/Becoming UnDone, Toby Brooks shares his transformative journey from discontentment and frustration to fulfillment and gratitude. Relaying his personal experiences of being passed over for a desired job in Lubbock, Toby opens up about the emotional turmoil and ultimately finding peace in unexpected changes. As time progressed, an opportunity at Baylor University emerged, aligning perfectly with his professional aspirations and family needs. This narrative artfully illustrates the podcast's theme: waiting for "something more" to come, as Toby strategically aligned his career goals with his core values. Listeners will gain insight into Toby's perseverance and the role truthfulness played throughout his journey. Through self-reflection and deliberate action, Toby demonstrates the importance of living an 'unconcealed' life—known as 'alethea' in Greek—and how this virtue underpins effective leadership, integrity in data management, and authentic relationships. The discussion further delves into how truthfulness bridges gaps between spoken ideals and practiced realities, ensuring that personal and professional lives are deeply rooted in accuracy and integrity. Key Takeaways Embrace Change: Sometimes, life's unforeseen circumstances lead to greater opportunities, as seen in Toby's journey from Lubbock to Baylor. Truthfulness as a Virtue: Living an unconcealed life is vital, aligning words, actions, and intentions with reality. Balance in Leadership: Authenticity, feedback with care, and courageous advocacy define effective leadership and team culture. Integrity in Data Practices: Accurate data collection and reporting build trust and inform sound decision-making in healthcare professions. Personal Growth: Waiting periods often serve as preparation stages for more significant outcomes, emphasizing patience and faith. Notable Quotes "I have every confidence that this was the something more that was coming, that all the while I was too impatient to wait for." "Truthfulness isn't about what we say. It's about who we are." "Sometimes we just need to wait. If I'd had my way, I would have rushed to any of a hundred jobs just to make my ego feel better." "In the Greek, the word for truthfulness is alethea, which literally means unconcealed—Not just being honest, but living unhidden." "Truthfulness in our systems equals trustworthiness in our leadership." Resources Connect with Toby Brooks on Linktree Explore more episodes of Professor's Playbook and Becoming Undone on major podcast platforms like Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and iHeartRadio. Tune in to this enlightening episode of the Professor's Playbook to understand the power of truthfulness and patience in personal and professional spheres. Discover more inspiring content and stay ahead in your journey of continuous learning and growth. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	138 \| From Athlete to Redemption: Jonathan Shorten's Journey of Resilience	05 oct. 2025	01:34:44
About the Guest Jonathan Shorten is a highly successful car salesman recognized as one of the top auto salesmen in the country. Emerging from a challenging past, Jonathan navigated through various adversities to carve out a prosperous career in the auto industry. At 28, he now leverages his life experiences, including a background in athletics and his innate resilience, to connect with a diverse clientele, including high-profile college athletes benefitting from NIL (Name, Image, Likeness) opportunities. His journey reflects a compelling story of redemption, faith, and the pursuit of excellence. Episode Summary In this engaging episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks introduces Jonathan Shorten, a standout figure in the auto sales industry who has transformed personal adversities into professional triumphs. From a promising high school athlete faced with challenges, including a failed drug test and a disqualifying transfer delaying his sports career, Jonathan's journey is one of resilience and reinvention. Anchored in faith and supported by a serendipitous intervention by a mysterious figure at a pivotal moment, Jonathan shares his transition from despair to remarkable success in car sales. Throughout this inspiring conversation, Jonathan delves into the ups and downs of his life, from navigating legal challenges to mastering social media for business growth during the COVID-19 pandemic. His insightful reflections highlight significant themes like perseverance, community, and the importance of authentic relationships. Jonathan emphasizes the role of faith, recounting impactful moments, including the life-altering guidance of his father and crucial advice from mentors. Delivered with candor and clarity, this episode touches upon the essence of redemption and finding purpose in the unlikeliest of circumstances. Key Takeaways Resilience in Adversity: Jonathan's story is a testament to the essential role resilience plays in overcoming life's challenges. The Power of Reinvention: Through strategic use of social media, Jonathan successfully pivoted his career during the pandemic, showcasing the importance of adaptability. Faith and Redemption: Jonathan's experience underscores the power of faith and spirituality in personal growth and finding purpose. Authenticity and Connection: His success in the auto industry highlights the value of building genuine relationships and staying true to oneself. Learning from Failure: Jonathan's journey emphasizes embracing failures as learning opportunities and the stepping stones to future success. Notable Quotes "I went from hero to zero overnight." "To my knowledge, I'm the first person I know that really utilized Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook to sell cars." "The fall is harder the higher you are." "You need to learn how to be comfortable being uncomfortable." "I was just as vulnerable as everyone else, and I didn't know that." Resources: Jonathan Shorten on social media: @jshor10 Follow Jonathan on Facebook for updates: Jonathan Shorten In this episode, Jonathan Shorten’s inspiring journey offers invaluable insights into resilience and transformation amidst life's most challenging storms. As you ponder his story, tune in for more transformative narratives on Becoming UnDone, where the journey from undoing to becoming your best self continues to unfold. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	137 \| Transforming Adversity into Purpose: Shaun Murphy's Journey to Empowerment	27 sept. 2025	01:07:19
About the Guest Shaun Murphy, known as Mister Motivation, is a dynamic speaker, veteran, educator, and transformational leader. Born and raised in Brooklyn, Shaun overcame significant adversity, including the loss of his father at age six and growing up in poverty. As a former military service member, Shaun honed his leadership skills and values, which he later translated into his roles as a father and educator. Committed to empowering others, he has blended his passion for spoken word and music with motivational speaking, creating a unique and engaging approach to personal development. Episode Summary In this riveting episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks introduces Shaun Murphy, aka Mister Motivation, who shares his inspiring journey from adversity to empowerment. Growing up in Brooklyn without a father and amidst poverty, Shaun was born into challenging circumstances but refused to be confined by them. He describes a life driven by gratitude and self-improvement, guided by the principle of imagining the father figure he wished he had and amplifying that vision for his own children. Shaun discusses the profound impact of his military service, where he developed key personal values that continue to inform his work as an educator and motivational speaker. His powerful insights on resilience and continuous self-improvement are intertwined with his artistic talents in spoken word and music, offering a fresh perspective on overcoming failure. Highlighted in their conversation are Shaun's unique methods for learning, using hip hop and storytelling to create captivating motivational experiences. Listeners will gain valuable lessons on courage, identity transitions, and the importance of pursuing a purpose-driven life. Key Takeaways Overcoming Adversity: Shaun Murphy shares how he converted his challenging childhood into a source of drive and motivation, dreaming of the father he wished for and becoming even better for his own children. Military Influence: The discipline and values Shaun acquired during his military service significantly shaped his personal and professional outlook, grounding him in selfless service and empathy. Transformative Storytelling: By incorporating hip hop, spoken word, and motivational speaking, Shaun creates a distinctive and engaging platform that captivates diverse audiences. Pursuing Purpose: Shaun emphasizes the importance of sitting still, listening to the universe, and tirelessly working towards one's purpose for personal and professional fulfillment. Continuous Self-Improvement: Shaun advocates for embracing failure as a necessary step towards success, encouraging individuals to get comfortable with discomfort and to bet on themselves. Notable Quotes "I just dreamt what I wish I had, and I 10x'd that." "My present to them is being present." "Failure is not the end; it's a chance to get data points on what doesn't work." "You gotta formulate what's gonna work for you…wherever you are, that's where you're supposed to be." "I'm leaving it all on the table, all on the field. When Murph goes out, he gave it all to the world." Resources Shaun Murphy's Website Follow Shaun on Instagram Shaun's Music on Spotify: "W.H.Y." by Mister Motivation Book Recommendation: "Go for No!" by Richard Fenton and Andrea Waltz For more enriching stories and insightful lessons, listen to the full episode, and stay tuned for more transformative content from Becoming UnDone. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	136 \| VISION: Kijuan Amey's Journey From Tragic Accident to Resilient Recovery	19 sept. 2025	01:07:06
About the Guest(s): Kijuan Amey is the Chief Motivational Officer at Amey Motivation, a company focused on inspiring individuals to overcome life's challenges. A former Staff Sergeant in the U.S. Air Force and an in-flight refueling specialist, Kijuan's life took a transformational turn following a devastating motorcycle accident that left him blind and with numerous physical injuries. Despite these challenges, Kijuan has become a motivational speaker and author, sharing his journey of resilience and purpose. Episode Summary: In this gripping episode of Becoming Undone, hosted by Toby Brooks, we delve into the emotional and inspiring journey of Kijuan Amey. Once an ambitious airman dreaming of piloting military aircraft, Kijuan's trajectory dramatically shifted after a motorcycle accident. The episode begins by painting a vivid picture of Kijuan's early dreams and ambitions in sports, engineering, and the military, before the narrative takes a dramatic turn, highlighting the incident that left him blind and changed his life's course. As Kijuan recounts the momentous day of his accident and the extensive recovery process that followed, listeners gain profound insights into the resilience and mental fortitude required to overcome life-altering challenges. Through an engaging conversation, the episode highlights themes of resilience, faith, and the power of reimagining one's identity after trauma. Kijuan discusses the mental and physical hurdles post-accident and how he has come to see his journey not as a setback, but an opportunity to inspire and motivate others. By exploring his concept of having lost sight but not vision, Kijuan sheds light on his approach to turning adversity into a platform for motivation and leadership through Amy Motivation. He shares poignant examples of how he's lived a full and adventurous life, even after blindness, leading to a powerful message of undeterred spirit and purpose-driven existence. This episode is a testament to human resilience and the capacity to grow and thrive beyond one's wildest expectations. Key Takeaways: Resilience in Adversity: Kijuan Amey's story exemplifies how resilience can transform life-altering challenges into opportunities for personal growth and leadership. Faith and Purpose: Kijuan discusses how his faith played a crucial role in reshaping his purpose, providing a sturdy foundation during his recovery. Overcoming Physical Challenges: Despite losing his eyesight, Kijuan has engaged in activities like skiing and rock climbing, proving that physical limitations do not define one's capabilities. Mental vs. Physical Vision: Kijuan emphasizes the distinction between physical sight and mental vision, maintaining that although he lost his sight, his vision and drive remain intact. Impact of Positive Influence: Through Amy Motivation, Kijuan has embraced the role of a motivational speaker, aiming to inspire others who find themselves facing their own adversities. Notable Quotes: "I lost the physical sight, but I didn't lose my mental vision." - Kijuan Amey "The purpose—the why—we have to continue to hold to it. If you forget what your why is, you forget why you are here." - Kijuan Amey "Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning." - Kijuan Amey "The devil thought he had me… but that's when someone greater stepped in my situation." - Kijuan Amey "Why not you? In order to have a message, you have to deal with the mess." - Kijuan Amey Resources: Kijuan Amey's Website: amymotivation.com Book: Don't Focus on Why Me by Kijuan Amey, available on Amazon, Kindle, Audible, and Apple Books. Social Media: Kijuan Amey on LinkedIn, Instagram, a Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	135 \| From The Professor's Playbook: All-Nighters, Strategic Planning, & Aristotelian Generosity	09 sept. 2025	00:15:23
About the Host Toby Brooks is an academic professional specializing in athletic training and sports medicine. Currently serving as the Director of the Academy for Teaching & Learning and a Clinical Professor at Baylor University, Toby has a rich background in athletic training, having previously worked as the head football athletic trainer at Liberty University. With a proven track record in educational settings and significant experience in content creation as a former director for RPM Magazine, Toby brings a wealth of knowledge in sports medicine and strategic planning. Episode Summary Join Dr. Toby Brooks in this thought-provoking episode of the Professor's Playbook, also streamed as part of his popular podcast, Becoming UnDone. Toby delves into the challenging balance of strategic planning and liberality in the realms of athletic training and sports medicine. With personal anecdotes from his blue-collar upbringing and insights into strategic planning, listeners gain a valuable understanding of the importance of balancing work ethics with smart resource management. In this episode, Toby explores the concept of liberality or generosity — not to be confused with political connotations — in the context of Aristotelian virtues. The discussion centers around strategic thinking and wise stewardship in high-performance environments, emphasizing the significance of aligning actions with values for long-lasting impact. By integrating SEO keywords such as "strategic planning," "liberality," "athletic training," and "sports performance," listeners get an enticing glimpse into Toby's insights about living responsibly while pursuing high goals. Key Takeaways Strategic thinking is vital in athletic training and sports medicine, where aligning everyday actions with long-term goals defines success. Liberality, as an Aristotelian virtue, involves wise stewardship of resources, not limited to just financial wealth. Building and optimizing high-performance units rely heavily on effective people, process, and place synergy. Systems trump goals: Successful outcomes are achieved through well-established habits and processes rather than ambition alone. Regularly auditing and improving systems ensures sustainable and strategic resource use in professional and personal capacities. Notable Quotes "You don't rise to the level of your goals; you fall to the level of your systems." "Strategic thinkers don't just do more, they do better." "Liberality isn’t just about money; it's the moral orientation toward wise stewardship of all resources." "What separates good professionals from the great ones is the ability to think strategically over time." "Everybody loves to set goals, but goals are outcomes." Resources Toby Brooks' Linktree - Connect with Toby Brooks for more insights and updates. "Becoming Undone" Podcast - Explore more episodes where Toby discusses personal and professional growth strategies. RPM Magazine - An automotive publication once directed by Toby Brooks, highlighting his expertise in feature writing and magazine production. Stay tuned for further fascinating discussions in upcoming episodes, where you'll gain deeper insights into strategic thinking and professional development. Don't miss out on unlocking the powerful strategies discussed, and explore more on 'Becoming Undone' with Toby Brooks. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	134 \| Legendary: John Lopez's Hall of Fame Journey in Athletic Training	07 sept. 2025	00:51:11
About the Guest John Lopez is a renowned figure in athletic training with a storied career that spanned over five decades. Starting as an electrical engineer major, John pivoted to the athletic training profession, emerging as a pivotal contributor and mentor to countless individuals in the field. He served in various capacities, including being the head athletic trainer for the Baltimore Colts and an assistant with the Tampa Bay Buccaneers. Known for his resilience and mentorship skills, John Lopez was inducted into the National Athletic Trainers' Association (NATA) Hall of Fame in 2012. Now retired, he continues to impact the industry with his insights and reflections on the evolving landscape of athletic training. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone, host Dr. Toby Brooks delves into the extraordinary journey of John Lopez, a pioneer in athletic training who scaled the heights of the profession amid various challenges. This conversation unfolds with John sharing his unconventional path into athletic training, fueled by missteps in his early academic career and eventual redemption through perseverance. Today, he reflects on the essential role of mentorship, the evolution of the athletic training profession, and the cultural shifts needed to empower young professionals entering the field. Key Takeaways Mentorship is Critical: John Lopez underscores the irreplaceable role mentorship played in his career, advocating for increased focus on mentorship for the current generation of athletic trainers. Adapting to Change: There's an expressed need for the athletic training profession to adapt and evolve to provide better salary conditions and work-life balance. Burnout is Real: Lopez candidly discusses his experiences with burnout and the importance of having a supportive family to navigate and overcome challenging times. Professional Misalignment: Concerns about the disconnect between the number of accredited training programs and viable job opportunities highlight a pressing issue for the profession. Community Support: Building strong networks and connections within the field is essential to support athletic trainers' professional and personal growth. Notable Quotes "I crashed and burned twice big time. But thank God I had a wife who was strong enough to hold me up." – John Lopez "Our kids are far, far better educated than I was, or any of the people that were to us." – John Lopez "If you have a good support system if you have a good spouse, a good family, and they understand what you're doing, that's important." – John Lopez "In many respects, when you work for the athletics part of the organization, you're the one who basically is going to have to live by their rules." – John Lopez Resources John Lopez's NATA Hall of Fame Bio Bubs Naturals Collagen Products Join the full episode for an enthralling discussion that not only serves as an inspiration but also provides actionable insights for those navigating their career paths in athletic training. Stay tuned for more engaging stories and lessons from Becoming UnDone. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	133 \| Derrick Rose's Journey: A Lesson in Temperance and Resilience	02 sept. 2025	00:12:49
About the Host Dr. Toby Brooks is a seasoned expert in athletic training, sports medicine, and movement science. He is well-respected in his field for his deep understanding of sports injuries, rehabilitation, and the virtues necessary for effective clinical practice. He is the host of "The Professor's Playbook" and the podcast "Becoming Undone," where he synthesizes complex sports and medical topics into actionable advice. His expertise is rooted in a thorough knowledge of biomechanics and a commitment to fostering long-term health in athletes. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone: from the Professor's Playbook host Dr. Toby Brooks takes a deep dive into the concept of temperance within the context of athletic training and sports medicine, using NBA star Derrick Rose's career as a pivotal case study. At the height of his career, Rose faced a life-altering ACL injury that forced him to choose between short-term success and long-term health, a choice emblematic of temperance, which Brooks explores as a critical virtue for healthcare professionals. Through a detailed exploration of Derrick Rose's journey, Dr. Brooks weaves in the broader implications of temperance, both in decision-making processes and professional boundaries within sports medicine. Brooks discusses the pressures athletes and clinicians face to fast-track recovery to return to competition, highlighting Derrick Rose's controversial decision to undergo a full meniscus repair instead of quicker-fix surgeries. The episode further delves into the broader relevance of temperance in maintaining ethical standards, navigating professional boundaries, and fostering lasting trust between clinicians and their patients. Filled with insightful commentary, Brooks frames his discussion with philosophical and ethical perspectives, bringing in Greek philosophy and biblical teachings to ground his arguments on temperance as balance and measured action. The episode not only highlights the moral complexity of sports medicine decisions but also offers actionable guidance for restoring balance in clinical practices. Key Takeaways Derrick Rose's journey underscores the critical importance of temperance—a virtue reflecting balance and long-term thinking in decision-making. Decision-making in sports medicine should focus on long-term health over short-term gains to ensure the well-being of athletes. Professional boundaries and ethical practices in healthcare are essential, requiring restraint and careful judgment to maintain trust. Clinicians must balance empathy with clear judgment to avoid becoming over-identified with their patients, thereby maintaining professional effectiveness. Temperance is not simply about withholding desires but making the "right" decisions that align with ethical responsibilities and patient care. Notable Quotes: "They don't come much more idiotic than Skip Bayless or Stephen A. Smith." — Toby Brooks "Temperance isn't about less; it's about right. The right measure, the right moment, the right motive." — Toby Brooks "That sweet spot. That's compassionate clarity and it's cool-headed confidence." — Toby Brooks "Temperance helps you hold the line…It says I care, but I also have a job to do and I'll do it with integrity." — Toby Brooks "He knew that a short-term return could cost him his entire career…just because you can doesn't always mean you should." — Toby Brooks Resources Connect with Dr. Toby Brooks on Linktr.ee for more insights and updates. Subscribe to "The Professor's Playbook" and "Becoming Undone" on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or iHeartRadio for more episodes. Engage with the complete episode for a comprehensive exploration of temperance in sports medicine and stay tuned for future enlightening discussions with Dr. To Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	132 \| MAX OUT: Lubbock Christian Head Football Coach Chris Softley's Playbook for Life and Leadership	31 août 2025	00:52:50
About the Guest Chris Softley is the head football coach and athletic director at Lubbock Christian High School in Texas. With a strong background in athletics, he played collegiate football until injuries led him to pivot towards coaching. Known for his leadership, grit, and deep faith, Coach Softley has made a significant impact in the realm of high school sports, molding young athletes into not only talented players but also well-rounded individuals. His approach focuses on leveraging sports as a platform to instill life lessons, emphasizing the importance of identity, resilience, and holistic development both on and off the field. Episode Summary In this inspiring episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks sits down with Chris Softley, the influential head football coach and athletic director at Lubbock Christian High School. Chris shares his journey from a promising young athlete in Nebraska with dreams of playing for the Nebraska Cornhuskers, to a transformative leader in high school athletics in Texas. Through candid reflections on his own experiences with injury, identity, and unfulfilled dreams, Chris delivers powerful insights about the pathways to personal growth, leadership, and the pursuit of meaningful impact beyond athletic achievements. Coach Softley discusses the pivotal moments that shaped his career, including the life-changing injury that redirected his path towards coaching. At Lubbock Christian, Chris is celebrated for crafting an unparalleled culture of excellence that extends beyond the weight room and playing field—all rooted in faith, integrity, and authentic relationships. His strategic focus on strength, conditioning, and character building, intertwined with a deep compassion for every student-athlete, underscores his commitment to preparing young individuals for challenges in sports and in life. The conversation highlights the importance of empathy, understanding, and nurturing each person’s unique talents, echoing the sentiment that true success is measured by the lives we positively impact. Key Takeaways Holistic Approach to Leadership: Coach Softley underscores the need for an integrated approach to coaching that nurtures both the athlete and the individual grounded in core values and identity. Empathy in Coaching: Softley emphasizes the power of empathy in leadership, advocating for coaches who connect deeply with their players' experiences and challenges. Resilience and Identity: The episode highlights the importance of redefining personal success by concentrating on building resilience and maintaining a robust sense of self-identity, independent of athletic accomplishments. Legacy Beyond the Game: Through his narrative, Chris demonstrates how to leverage sports as a significant avenue for imparting life skills and enabling personal growth. Maximizing Potential: Softley advocates for continuous improvement and maximizing one's talents, whether in athletics, academics, or personal life. Notable Quotes "I felt like I was born to be a quarterback… but apparently not for very long." "We want young men and young women to leave here and say, that wasn't just lessons I learned. That’s a lifestyle.” "At the end of the day, if you can check your heart, and you can truly love well… that just changes worlds." "My pregame talk is about one thing: identity…letting them play with freedom no matter the outcome." "If you can be your authentic self at all times, that's when you can maximize. That’s when you can flourish." Resources Chris Softley's Twitter Lubbock Christian High School Athletics Coach Chris Softley’s conversation is a testament to the profound impact thoughtful and int Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	131 \| Nick Peck: Finding Purpose and Healing Through Storytelling and Faith	22 août 2025	00:36:37
About the Guest Nick Peck is an accomplished author and former collegiate athlete, known for his compelling storytelling, particularly in his latest work, Only Way Out. Growing up in an abusive, alcoholic household in California, Nick faced significant trauma and adversity. He eventually found refuge in sports, earning a scholarship in football. Transitioning into journalism and authorship after retiring from athletics, Nick has made it his mission to inspire and help others through his genuine and heartfelt narratives. His works are informed by his personal experiences, motivating readers by illustrating resilience and the transformative power of storytelling. Episode Summary In this captivating episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks interviews author and former collegiate athlete Nick Peck, exploring themes of resilience, identity, and healing through storytelling. Nick shares his tumultuous upbringing in California, detailing how sports served as his escape from a life marred by trauma and instability. His latest book, "Only Way Out," is a compelling testament to his journey and an inspiration for others seeking solace and purpose amidst chaos. The conversation delves into how Peck used writing as a therapeutic outlet, crafting a narrative that resonates with many. Touching on the power of family, forged in adversity, and the community found in sports, Nick offers valuable insights into how identity can be formed and reformed in the face of life's challenges. The episode also highlights Nick's journey of faith, mentorship, and the impactful role of writing in processing his past. This episode is a profound exploration into overcoming adversity and finding new purpose through creative expression. Key Takeaways Sports can provide structure and a surrogate family for those growing up in chaotic environments, offering a path to new beginnings and opportunities. Writing and storytelling can serve as powerful tools for healing, allowing individuals to process trauma and speak truth from their scars. The importance of perseverance and gratitude is emphasized, with Nick underlining the mantra of "don't quit" as key to overcoming life's challenges. Faith evolved from a latent childhood connection into a guiding force, providing strength and perspective in overcoming adversity. Journaling is highlighted as a beneficial practice for mental and emotional health, encouraging reflection and preemptive coping strategies. Notable Quotes "I think there's one thing that separates all great people from everyone else, and it's just that they don't quit." "Even though I loved my journalism gig, I was kind of looking for a purpose." "I was always questioning, 'Oh, why me?' But now I'm more grateful for it because it made me the person I am." "There's something so valuable about actually writing stuff down, especially in this ever-changing digital world." "Having faith in God has really helped me…there's always one person on my team, and that's God every single day." Resources Nick Peck's Book: Only Way Out Nick Peck's Website Social Media: Instagram @nickpeckauthor Dive into this enriching episode to hear more about Nick Peck's incredible journey and the wisdom he shares. Stay tuned for more inspiring content from Becoming Undone, where high achievers transform their setbacks into stepping stones toward success. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	130 \| Jacyln Emery: Navigating Identity and Resilience Beyond College Basketball's End	11 août 2025	00:44:32
About the Guest Jaclyn Emery is a high school athletic trainer working at McKinney Boyd High School, just outside of Dallas, Texas. She has an extensive background as a multi-sport athlete, having excelled in basketball and track during high school and continued to play basketball at the collegiate level at Hardin-Simmons University. Jaclyn is passionate about advocating for student-athletes and helping them transition through the challenges of their sports careers. Alongside her professional responsibilities, Jaclyn is also building a significant presence on social media, sharing insights on athletic training and her experiences as an athletic mom. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks talks to Jaclyn Emery, a high school athletic trainer whose personal journey sheds light on the complexities of ending a sports career and redefining one's identity post-sport. The conversation begins with Jaclyn discussing her early years as an athlete, where she excelled in basketball, dreaming of playing for elite teams like UConn and pursuing a career in the WNBA. As life unfolded, she found herself at Hardin-Simmons University, balancing her athletic career with her educational pursuits in athletic training. Jaclyn shares the intense pressure she faced, the challenges of a coaching change during her college years, and how her competitive spirit powered her through those difficult times. Throughout the episode, Jaclyn reflects on the key moments that shaped her outlook on life beyond basketball. She candidly shares how the unexpected end of her college sports career due to a coaching change was a pivotal moment that required emotional resilience and introspection. Her experiences have fueled her passion for helping young athletes navigate personal challenges and maintain a balanced identity that goes beyond sports. Toby and Jaclyn also delve into the broader implications of athletic identity, touching upon the significance of mental health and the crucial support networks that bolster athletes during transitions. Key Takeaways The transition out of sports requires a redefinition of personal identity, moving beyond being solely an athlete. Supportive relationships, including family and mentors, play a crucial role in navigating challenging transitions. Mental health is a key consideration for athletes and should not be overlooked amidst physical training and achievement. The role of athletic trainers goes beyond physical care, assisting athletes in managing emotional and mental challenges. Personal setbacks and experiences can fuel one's passion to serve and guide others facing similar challenges. Notable Quotes "Basketball was really where my passion was. I liked the pumpkin thump, thump." "It was the hardest year of my life, I can tell you that." "My dad having a conversation at the dinner table… said, you can be a mom and still be a former athlete." "God works in weird ways. That little voice was saying, it's okay, it's good." "You never know what's going on between that kid's ears." Resources: Jaclyn Emery's Social Media: Instagram: @jme_ATC TikTok: @jemeryat Facebook: Jacqueline Emery Immerse yourself in Jacqueline Emery's transformative journey as she shares valuable insights into resilience, identity, and the impact of mentors and family in overcoming challenges. Tune into the full episode for an inspiring conversation that blends personal stories with professional wisdom, and stay connected for more enlightening content from "Becoming Undone." Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	129 \| Part 15: Celebrating Coach Dick Tomey’s Legacy of Leadership and Love	10 août 2025	00:33:30
About the Host Toby Brooks is a dedicated podcaster and storyteller, passionate about exploring the human story behind success and adversity. Known for his insightful and compelling docuseries, Toby seeks to uncover life lessons from influential figures across various domains, including sports, leadership, and personal growth. His podcast, "Becoming Undone," delves deep into transformative journeys and provides listeners with valuable insights into overcoming challenges. Episode Summary In this heartfelt finale of the docuseries on Coach Dick Tomey, Toby Brooks ties together the narratives of leadership, resilience, and the indelible impact of coaching beyond the confines of the football field. As Toby navigates through listener interactions and personal reflections, he highlights the profound influence of Coach Tomey on countless athletes, coaches, and individuals enriched by his legacy. This episode dissects the core values instilled by Coach Dick Tomey, such as leadership, loyalty, and culture-building, which transcended his remarkable career achievements. Toby Brooks delves into lessons learned throughout the series, emphasizing the legacy left by Dick Tomey that continues to inspire both in sports and life. Through compelling anecdotes and interviews with former players and colleagues, the narrative crafts a blueprint of purpose-driven leadership, illustrating how Tomey's vision cultivated a lasting legacy of character and connection. Key Takeaways Leadership Beyond Titles: Dick Tomey exemplified that true leadership is about trust and making individuals feel valued, rather than relying solely on positional authority. Building Belief Through Belonging: Tomey’s coaching philosophy centered on creating a sense of belonging before instilling belief, fostering environments where athletes could thrive personally and professionally. Legacy of Loyalty: Tomey’s unwavering loyalty to his team and community highlighted the importance of commitment over personal advancement. Cultural Architect: Through his approach to team culture, Tomey established an ethos of relentless effort and unity that laid the foundation for success. Notable Quotes “People perform best when they feel like they're part of something that values them as individuals first.” “Belief can be the seed, not the fruit; let it tip the balance for someone to start believing too.” “His loyalty inspired theirs…it’s about commitment to a place and a people, even a contentment, but never a complacency.” “Culture shapes behavior when no one is watching, setting the standard for how people treat one another.” “True impact isn't about how many people know your name; it's about how many lives you can make better.” Resources: Becoming Undone Podcast: Listen to more episodes here. Contact Toby Brooks: Email - toby@undonepodcast.com Bubs Naturals: bubsnaturals.com/undone Dive into the complete episode to experience the full journey encapsulated in Coach Tomey's legacy, and stay tuned for more impactful stories from "Becoming Undone." Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	128 \| Surviving a Nightmare: John Ulsh's Journey from Tragedy to Purpose	02 août 2025	01:24:23
About the Guest John Ulsh is an inspiring public speaker, author, and survivor who has transformed personal tragedy into a powerful mission of resilience and motivation. At 37, John's life dramatically changed following a nearly fatal car accident involving his entire family. Despite undergoing over 45 surgeries and extensive rehabilitation, John emerged with a renewed sense of purpose. Now, he dedicates his life to inspiring others as a motivational speaker and author of his book, The Upside of Down, while balancing his career in real estate and his family life in Pennsylvania. Episode Summary In this compelling episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks engages with John Ulsh, whose life was irrevocably changed by a devastating car accident. With unyielding courage and resilience, John recounts the physical and emotional barriers he overcame after the collision that nearly claimed his and his family's lives. John's journey to recovery, marked by over 45 surgeries, serves as a testament to human perseverance. He shares how he turned immense pain into purpose, aiding his transformation from adversity towards helping others facing their own "purpose storms." Throughout the episode, John explores the deeply personal psychological journey he undertook en route to recovery, including suffering from survivor's guilt and battling narcotic dependency. He introduces key concepts such as finding meaning through serving others, embracing the process over the finish line, and being intentional in the face of life's upheavals. Both Toby and John reflect on the delicate balance between humility and the imperative to share one's story to uplift and inspire others with its authenticity. This conversation not only inspires, but also equips listeners with tangible strategies for overcoming their own life obstacles. Key Takeaways The importance of community and support systems in navigating severe trauma and recovery. The role of intentional decision-making in shifting from survival to recovery and thriving. Finding new purpose and contributing to others' healing as a means to heal oneself. Overcoming psychological barriers like survivor's guilt and the complexity of mental health issues post-trauma. The power of physical fitness and setting intentions in reclaiming control over one's life and body. Notable Quotes "I survived, only to have to undergo years of intensive rehab and over 45 surgeries and counting." "Somewhere in that nursing home, I kind of realized I wasn't going to die. Now somewhere in the nursing home, I started wishing I would have died." "I miss my old daddy, the one who would come out and train with me." "In the end, it's this constant, like I was battling it today…to how much to let things pull you and how much to push it." Resources: John Ulsh's Website John Ulsh on Instagram John's Book: The Upside of Down (Available for pre-order on Amazon) BUBS Naturals Experience John Ulsh's transformative story and gain insights into resilience and purpose in the face of adversity. Tune in to listen to the full episode and stay update Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	127 \| The Life, Lessons, and Legacy of Dick Tomey Part 14: The Untold Love Story of Coach Tomey & Nanci Kincaid	12 juil. 2025	00:54:23
About the Guest Nanci Kincaid is a celebrated novelist known for her emotionally resonant storytelling and authentic voice. She gained notable acclaim for her book Balls, published in 1998, which offers insights into the life of coaches' wives. Nanci was married to the late legendary coach Dick Tomey, whose coaching career spanned several successful programs, including Hawaii, Arizona, and San Jose State. Nanci has been an influential voice among spouses of sports professionals, providing a unique perspective from the sidelines of major college football. Her insights into life with a prominent coach and her own career as an author make her a compelling storyteller and personality. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks engages with Nanci Kincaid, the widow of iconic football coach Dick Tomey, to explore the legacy and lessons left by her late husband. Known for transforming underdog teams into contenders, Coach Tomey's leadership style was both demanding and compassionate, a hallmark of his illustrious career. His driving belief that "great coaches go into impossible places and make them possible" embodies his approach to coaching and life. Nanci shares memories and insights from their life together, painting an intimate portrait of a man who, despite the demands of a high-stakes profession, maintained deep personal connections and a commitment to character-building. The episode delves into the challenges of the 2000s season, a pivotal point in Coach Tomey’s career, capturing the emotional weight of leading through difficult times. Nanci recounts how Tomey's belief in forgiveness, optimism, and continual growth helped both him and his teams succeed against odds. From discussions on leadership principles to personal anecdotes about life beyond the field, this episode offers a profound exploration of the values that Dick Tomey instilled not just in his players, but everyone around him. The conversation encapsulates the essence of maintaining cultural integrity, choosing happiness as a decision, and the significance of leaving a legacy defined by love and loyalty. Key Takeaways Legacy of Leadership: Coach Dick Tomey's leadership style was marked by compassion, forgiveness, and a commitment to developing character in his players. Life Beyond Football: For Coach Tomey, football was not only about winning games but was a medium to teach important life lessons and foster personal growth. Resilience Through Challenges: The 2000 season was a testament to Tomey's resilience and ability to remain focused on team and individual values amidst professional turmoil. The Power of Forgiveness: One of Tomey’s greatest strengths was his ability to forgive, enabling others to grow and learn from their mistakes without fear of retribution. Cultural Impact: Coach Tomey's influence went beyond his formal coaching role, as he developed lasting relationships and left a timeless legacy in multiple communities. Notable Quotes "Great coaches go into impossible places and make them possible." – Nanci Kincaid "I'm a learner. And that was the most romantic feeling thing I had ever heard anybody say." – Nanci Kincaid "Happiness is not something that happens to you if you're lucky. All happiness is, is a decision you make to be happy." – Nanci Kincaid "He was never a golden boy. Everything came hard." – Nanci Kincaid "We lost Coach Dick Tomey to cancer in 2019, but if anything, I've seen his fingerprints… in my own life more since then." – Toby Brooks Resources Nanci Kincaid on Amazon Books Learn more about Coach Dick Tomey and his legacy through the Hawaii Bowl Foundation Highlights of Dick Tomey’s coaching career and continu Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	126 \| The Impact of a Purpose Storm: Transforming Loss into New Beginnings	30 juin 2025	00:08:09
About the Host Toby Brooks is an introspective speaker, coach, and author with experience in helping high-performance athletes and high achievers from diverse industries such as the arts, military, and entrepreneurship to navigate significant transitions in their lives. Through his personal journey from being an athlete to becoming a mentor and coach, Toby developed a keen insight into the identity shifts that accompany career and life changes. He has developed the UN.D.O.N.E. (tm) coaching model, aimed at helping individuals rebuild their lives and careers from the inside out. Episode Summary In this podcast episode, Toby Brooks explores the deep emotional journey many face as they transition from roles that once defined them. As someone who once sat in a locker room dealing with the loss of his identity as an athlete, Toby draws parallels between his experience and the struggles others face when their professional or personal identities change. He delves into what he terms "purpose storms," moments when individuals must confront the daunting question of who they are now that their previous roles have ended. The episode further unpacks the journey of self-discovery and identity evolution. Toby highlights that losing an identity, whether it's as an athlete, a military leader, or a corporate executive, does not mean an end but rather a shift towards becoming something new. Using the story of Olympian Michael Phelps, he illustrates the profound impact identity loss can have and the need to grieve one's past identity to embrace new opportunities. This thoughtful discourse also introduces Toby's own UN.D.O.N.E. Method (tm), a framework for personal growth and transformation designed to guide people through significant life shifts with intention and courage. Key Takeaways: Identity transitions are a common and challenging experience that many people face, irrespective of their profession or achievement level. Experiencing the end of a significant role or identity can lead to a deep period of introspection referred to as "purpose storms." Grieving past identities is essential to moving forward and embracing new opportunities and roles in life. The "Undone Method," Toby Brooks' coaching model, offers a structured approach to navigating personal and professional transitions. Identity does not disappear with the loss of a role; it evolves, and with support, the shift can lead to new, fulfilling paths. Notable Quotes: "Endings aren't just about what stops. They're about what shifts." "Identity doesn't evaporate. It evolves." "You might not be the athlete anymore, but maybe you're the mentor, the coach, the author, the entrepreneur." "You have to grieve the old before you can greet the new." "Even when it feels like it's over, it might just be the beginning." Resources: Toby Brooks' Website: tobyjbrooks.com Tune in to the full episode to engage with Toby Brooks' insightful journey and learn more about navigating life's transitions. Stay tuned for more compelling discussions on identity, purpose, and transformation in upcoming episodes. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	125 \| San Jose State Football Head Coach Ken Niumatalolo Reflects on Leadership Lessons from Coach Tomey (Part 13)	28 juin 2025	00:55:25
About the Guest Ken Niumatalolo is a renowned American football coach recognized for his tenure as head coach at the Naval Academy, where he became the winningest coach in program history. With a career emphasizing leadership, discipline, and teamwork, Niumatalolo has cultivated a legacy of developing successful athletes and resilient teams. Currently serving as the head coach for San Jose State Spartans, Niumatalolo embodies the principles of humility, service, and culture that he learned from influential mentors, including the legendary Coach Dick Tomey. Episode Summary In this enlightening episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks engages in a heartfelt conversation with Ken Niumatalolo, head coach for San Jose State Spartans. The dialogue begins with a nostalgic recounting of Niumatalolo's roots, from his humble beginnings selling newspapers in Hawaii to becoming a celebrated football quarterback for the Rainbow Warriors, eventually transitioning into coaching. Through personal anecdotes, Niumatalolo shares the profound influence of Coach Dick Tomey on his personal and professional life, illustrating the timeless lessons imparted by Tomey on leadership, integrity, and cultural inclusivity. Niumatalolo's portrayal of Coach Dick Tomey as a master strategist and compassionate leader underscores the enduring impact of Tomey's philosophies in modern coaching practices. The episode highlights Tomey's universal approach to building cohesive teams from diverse backgrounds, emphasizing the importance of heart, trust, and authenticity. As Niumatalolo expounds on Tomey's legacy, he reflects on the invaluable guidance and support that shaped his coaching journey, reaffirming the narrative that effective leadership transcends the playing field, impacting players' lives beyond their athletic careers. Key Takeaways Impactful Leadership: Ken Niumatalolo emphasizes how Coach Dick Tomey's leadership style focused on inclusivity, heart, and genuine care for his players, driving them to succeed both on and off the field. Cultural Integration: Coach Tomey's ability to unify players from diverse backgrounds set a standard for building teams characterized by cohesion, respect, and a shared commitment to excellence. Enduring Legacy: The principles and legacy of Coach Tomey continue to resonate within the San Jose State Spartans football program, showcasing a lasting influence on players and staff. Personal Growth: In an era of transactional leadership, Niumatalolo advocates for a people-first approach that prioritizes individual development and authentic engagement with team members. Coaching Beyond Wins: Niumatalolo's insights reveal that the ultimate measure of a coach's success extends beyond game victories to the lasting impact on players' lives and personal growth. Notable Quotes "Coach Tomey was more of an orchestrator of a mentality. I mean, he was a master psychologist, you know. He was a great motivator." – Ken Niumatalolo "He might be gone physically, but Coach isn't gone. His life lessons carry on with people that knew him." – Ken Niumatalolo "The thing I learned from him is that's not what it's about. It's about changing people's lives, having an impact on people's lives." – Ken Niumatalolo "When the leader decides that people matter more than power, that values matter more than hype, and that long-term impact is worth the cost of the slow, steady investment." – Toby Brooks "It's awesome that you're doing this, Toby, to remember Coach Tomey, but rest assured, brother, he's not going anywhere." – Ken Niumatalolo Resources: San Jose State Spartans Football Program: San Jose Athletics Previous related guests: Jesse Sapolu, Mike Flores, Dino Babers Learn more about Coach Dick Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	124 \| Dick Tomey Part 12: Heart and Hustle with Arizona Wildcat Legend Kelvin Eafon	19 juin 2025	00:47:22
About the Guest Kelvin Eafon is a former athlete known for his remarkable leadership and resilience on and off the field. Initially recruited as a basketball player to the University of Arizona under legendary coach Lute Olson, Kelvin switched to football under Coach Dick Tomey, where he became a standout leader and co-captain of the 1998 Arizona Wildcats football team. Kelvin is known for his heart and ethos, contributing to one of the most memorable football seasons in Arizona's history. Presently, he is deeply involved in coaching and mentoring young athletes, fostering a culture of leadership and personal development. Episode Summary In this insightful episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks connects with Kelvin Eafon, a versatile athlete and an acclaimed leader from the 1998 Arizona Wildcats. This conversation takes the listeners on Kelvin's journey, transitioning from basketball to becoming a celebrated football player under the mentorship of Coach Dick Tomey. Kelvin shares how pivotal Tomey's leadership style was, emphasizing the core values of family, resilience, and integrity that he instilled in his players—an ethos that Kelvin carries forward in his current coaching endeavors. Kelvin delves deep into the dynamics that created a historic season for the Wildcats, celebrating the leadership and camaraderie cultivated by Coach Tomey. The dialogue is rich with themes of undeterred belief, transformation, and the nurturing of potential, making it a compelling narrative about what it takes to be a formidable leader both in and beyond the realm of sports. Kelvin’s reflections underscore the underlying principles that this podcast series explores, portraying transformative stories of individuals becoming more than just athletes but influential leaders in their own right. Key Takeaways The transformative power of belief, where Kelvin attributes much of his success to Coach Dick Tomey's persistent encouragement and recognition of his potential. The pivotal role of leadership in sports, illustrated through Kelvin's experience as co-captain, highlighting the immense responsibility and influence that accompanies athletic leadership. Insights into Coach Dick Tomey's coaching philosophy, emphasizing player empowerment, love, and integrity, which fostered a strong family-like culture within the team. Kelvin’s post-athletics career focuses on paying it forward by coaching young athletes, continuing the legacy of mentorship he experienced under Coach Tomey and Lute Olson. Reflections on the essence of personal relationships and leadership dynamics that extend beyond the sports field, impacting life decisions and career paths. Notable Quotes "Love you, I love you." - Dick Tomey, highlighting the deeper, personal connections he fostered with his players. "Coach used to say, you're either coaching it or you're allowing it to happen." - Reflecting on Tomey's firm belief in accountability and leadership. "It just that he… he just made… he just showed me that, you know, being a leader and understanding that that leadership sometimes is more important than actually running the ball." "He was a short guy in stature, but if we had to measure him in heart, probably eight feet tall." - On Coach Tomey's monumental influence. "To me, it was more about my team. I didn't care about individual stats. All my life, all I ever wanted to do was win." Resources Kelvin Eafon University of Arizona Athletics Dick Tomey Bio and Legacy This episode encapsulates a timeless tribute to mentorship and leadership under Coach Dick Tom Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	123 \| Part 11: Discovering Leadership Lessons from Coach Dick Tomey's Legacy with 1998 Arizona Football Co-Captain Barrett Baker	31 mai 2025	00:48:41
About the Guest Barrett Baker is a former walk-on turned team captain of the 1998 University of Arizona Wildcats football team, which is known as the most successful team in the school's history. After his collegiate football career, Baker went on to serve with the Tucson Fire Department, where he has been a firefighter for 25 years, working in various capacities and achieving the rank of Assistant Chief. Married to his college sweetheart and a father of three, Baker continues to carry the lessons he learned under Coach Dick Tomey into his personal and professional life. Episode Summary In this captivating episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks converses with Barrett Baker, former University of Arizona Wildcats team captain, about his journey from a walk-on to a key player on the 1998 team that made history. Barrett shares insights into the profound influence of Coach Dick Tomey on his life on and off the field. Through engaging stories, Barrett illustrates how Coach Tomey's lessons in leadership, resilience, and teamwork continue to shape his approach to life and work as an Assistant Chief with the Tucson Fire Department. The conversation deep dives into themes of leadership, resilience, and personal growth, highlighting Coach Tomey’s unique approach to fostering team unity and individual belief. Barrett's anecdotes about his experiences under Coach Tomey not only illuminate the legendary coach's character but also serve as timeless lessons in perseverance and integrity. This episode offers a nuanced look at the lasting impact of Tomey's legacy, emphasizing how meaningful relationships and dedicated mentorship can transform lives. Join Toby Brooks and Barrett Baker for a heartfelt exploration of leadership, community, and the enduring spirit of becoming. Key Takeaways Leadership through Unity: Coach Dick Tomey was renowned for his ability to build unity and trust, focusing on the team’s collective strength and fostering a family-like atmosphere. Opportunity and Resilience: Barrett Baker’s transition from a walk-on to team captain illustrates the power of persistence and taking advantage of opportunities to define success. Impactful Mentorship: Tomey’s personalized approach to coaching, such as writing handwritten notes, had a profound impact on players, encouraging them to push beyond their limits. Life Beyond Athletics: The lessons learned on the field have translated into Barrett’s career and personal life, driving his leadership in the Tucson Fire Department. Legacy of Love and Integrity: Tomey’s emphasis on treating others with respect and kindness resonates through the personal and professional lives of his former players. Notable Quotes "You have to believe in the mirror because that person is going to question you more than any other person in your life." - Barrett Baker "Your actions are speaking so loudly that I can't hear what you are saying." - Coach Dick Tomey, as quoted by Toby Brooks "If he believed in me, then I can believe in me." - Barrett Baker "He rewarded you if you worked hard and paid off what you put into things." - Barrett Baker "It's about the team, the team, the team." - Coach Dick Tomey, as shared by Barrett Baker Resources Follow Toby Brooks on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. Explore insights and more episodes of the podcast through Toby Brooks' Linktree. Tune into this insightful episode to understand the full depth of Barrett Baker's journey and the enduring legacy of Coach Dick Tomey. Stay connected with "Becoming Undone" for more enlig Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	122 \| The Science of the Comeback: Rebuild with Purpose and Clarity	22 mai 2025	00:04:52
Episode Summary In this episode, Toby Brooks delves into the profound impact of reaching career milestones and the subsequent existential challenges that can follow. Reflecting on his personal journey, Toby describes the moment when achieving tenure, a lifelong academic goal, ironically ushered in a period of stagnation and introspection, leading to a deep existential crisis. This realization of "now what?" profoundly shaped his understanding of professional achievements and personal identity. Throughout the episode, Toby Brooks shares insights on "The Science of the Comeback," a methodology he developed through personal experience and rigorous study. Centered on the "three Rs": Reflect, Realign, and Rebuild, this method helps individuals navigate the unsettling aftermath of professional accomplishments and burnout. The episode emphasizes the importance of reassessing personal values and crafting a resilient identity aligned with one's true purpose. Toby's narrative serves as a motivational guide for listeners seeking to transition through life's pivotal moments with clarity and intention. Key Takeaways Achievement and Crisis: Achieving significant professional milestones can sometimes lead to feelings of emptiness and existential crisis. The Three Rs Framework: Toby proposes a strategic approach for personal and professional comebacks: Reflect, Realign, and Rebuild. Identity Beyond Titles: Success isn't just about titles or positions but understanding and letting go of past identities tied to them. Purpose and Clarity: Realigning with core values rather than external validation can reignite passion and purpose. Continuous Growth: The unraveling of one's identity is not an ending but an opportunity for growth and new beginnings. Notable Quotes "The comeback isn't magic, it's method. There's a science to rebuilding when your world goes silent." "Reflect on what was lost. Not just the job or the title, but the identity behind it." "Stop chasing applause and start asking better questions. Who am I becoming?" "Your comeback isn't a matter of luck or timing. It's a matter of strategy, surrender, and showing up one disciplined step at a time." "Because when you become undone, you realize… you aren't done yet." Resources To learn more about Toby Brooks and his work, listeners may want to explore linktr.ee/tobyjbrooks. Discover more about overcoming professional plateaus and personal growth by tuning into the full episode. Stay tuned for more insightful discussions that promise to inspire and educate on navigating life's pivotal moments. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	121 \| Part 10: Celebrating Coach Dick Tomey’s Legacy of Pioneering Athletic Trainers with Magie Lacambra	21 mai 2025	01:06:35
About the Guest Magie Lacambra is a trailblazing figure in athletic training, currently serving as the Team Sport Manager for Gatorade and Gatorade Sports Marketing. An accomplished professional, Lacambra began her career in Tucson, Arizona, where she followed in her mentor Sue Hillman's steps, breaking barriers as two of the first female athletic trainers in NCAA Division I football, creating a path for future generations in a field traditionally dominated by men. Her tenure included working closely with legendary coach Dick Tomey at the University of Arizona, where she spearheaded medical care and team support. Magie is recognized for her leadership, resilience, and unwavering dedication to athlete welfare and professional excellence. Episode Summary In this enlightening episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks engages with Magie Lacambra, a pioneer in the field of athletic training, as they reflect on the legacy of Coach Dick Tomey. The episode delves deep into the dynamics of being one of the first women athletic trainers in Division I football during an era where diversity in sports management was rare. Magie recounts her initial apprehension, the groundbreaking support from Coach Tomey, and the challenges she faced in a predominantly male-dominated setting. Through a genuine conversation, listeners are offered a glimpse of what makes Dick Tomey's philosophy of leadership so impactful and timeless. As the conversation unfolds, Magie shares inspirational stories of resilience and determination that characterized her journey through the University of Arizona. Emphasizing the intricate balance between athletic training and maintaining athlete well-being, she sheds light on how Coach Tomey's leadership style, which was grounded in integrity and empathy, cultivated a culture of inclusiveness and trust. Through personal insights and heartfelt anecdotes, the episode honors Tomey's enduring legacy, highlighting the importance of caring leadership, his dedication to personal development, and the impact of believing in people to unleash their fullest potential. Key Takeaways Breaking Barriers in Athletic Training: Magie Lacambra's path as one of the first female athletic trainers in Division I football underscores the importance of diversity and inclusion in sports. Leadership through Empathy: Coach Dick Tomey's legacy is marked by a unique blend of care, cultural integration, and holistic player development, setting a standard in leadership. Resilience and Determination: Despite the challenges posed by the era, Magie's unwavering commitment to her role emphasizes the necessity of resilience in achieving professional success. Cultural Richness and Inclusion: Tomey's approach to embracing diverse cultures within his teams fostered a sense of unity and family among players and staff. Legacy of Care and Connection: Dick Tomey's leadership style was characterized by deep personal connections and a genuine belief in nurturing potential, elevating both team and individual accomplishments. Notable Quotes "It's fitting that we close this chapter of the series with someone who not only worked beside Coach Tomey but who lived out the very values he championed." - Toby Brooks "Coach Tomey believed in Magie. She, in return, became the kind of leader who could inspire belief in others." - Toby Brooks "As difficult as those times were, the memories are amazing." - Magie Lacambra "He cared a lot, and he showed that every day. And just letting everybody be, and love each other." - Magie Lacambra "Coach Tomey modeled a different kind of strength, one rooted in care, culture, and in connection." - Toby Brooks Resources Follow Toby Brooks on Instagram and LinkedIn: Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	120 \| Part 9: Arizona Football Head Coach Brent Brennan Reflects on Coach Dick Tomey's Lasting Legacy	02 mai 2025	00:43:35
About the Guest Brent Brennan is the head football coach of the University of Arizona Wildcats. Previously serving as the head coach at San Jose State Spartans, Brennan's career is marked by notable achievements in college football coaching. With a deep connection to the legacy of Coach Dick Tomey, Brennan has carved a path filled with challenges and accomplishments, maintaining a player-first mentality that honors Tomey's enduring influence. Notably, Brennan has coached at various institutions, including Washington, Arizona, Cal Poly, San Jose State, and others with each stop contributing significantly to his development as a renowned football coach. Episode Summary Join host Toby Brooks in an insightful episode of Becoming UnDone®, where he delves into the profound impact of legendary coach Dick Tomey through the experiences of Arizona Wildcats Head Coach, Brent Brennan. This episode doesn't just explore a storied coaching legacy, but a journey of life lessons that shaped Brent's career and personal ethos in coaching young athletes. Gain an understanding of how one man's leadership and love for the game transcended generations, leaving an indelible mark on college football's landscape. In this engaging installment, discover how Brennan's interactions with Tomey molded his approach at San Jose State and now, the University of Arizona. Keywords such as "leadership," "legacy," "mentorship," and "college football coaching" drive the narrative. Listen as Brennan reflects on pivotal moments with Tomey, emphasizing principles like integrity, connection, and the importance of caring deeply for the development of young players beyond the field. Also explored are the challenges of modern coaching amidst the paradigm shifts in college football, including the impact of the transfer portal and NIL policies. Key Takeaways Leadership Through Legacy: Coach Dick Tomey's emphasis on integrity, love, and relationship-building continues to influence current coaching philosophies. The Coaching Journey: Brent Brennan highlights the invaluable lessons he learned under Tomey, which guide his approach to coaching at the University of Arizona. Adapting to Change: The episode discusses the modern challenges in college football, such as the transfer portal and how they affect coaching dynamics. Cultural Appreciation: Explore how Tomey's embrace of Hawaiian and Polynesian culture shaped his coaching career and how Brennan continues that tradition. Mentorship in Action: Real-life examples illustrate the enduring impact of Tomey’s mentorship in shaping not just football careers but personal lives. Notable Quotes "You didn’t have to talk to Coach Tomey for very long to know that he was actually listening." - Brent Brennan "Coach Tomey's magic was… finding a way to connect and push you to levels that you didn’t think you could get to." - Brent Brennan "You're either coaching it or you're allowing it to happen." - Dick Tomey's philosophy shared by Brent Brennan "He built men… modeled what it meant to lead with integrity, to listen deeply, to love fiercely." - Toby Brooks on Coach Tomey's legacy "I think it’s rare when you think about somebody every day of your life on the job." - Brent Brennan on Coach Tomey’s lasting influence Resources Brent Brennan’s LinkedIn: Brent Brennan University of Arizona Football: Arizona Wildcats Football Coach Dick Tomey's legacy information: Various online articles and tributes (URLs not explicitly mentioned) Engage with this compelling episode of Becoming UnDone® to witness how the values instilled by Coach Dick Tomey c Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	119 \| Part 8: Positive Coaching Alliance’s Rich Tomey Reflects on the Lasting Impact of his Dad, Coach Dick Tomey	04 avr. 2025	01:02:48
About the Guest Rich Tomey is the son of the late Dick Tomey, a revered football coach known for his impactful leadership at institutions such as the University of Hawaii, University of Arizona, and San Jose State University. Rich is a dedicated advocate for character-driven coaching and currently works with the Positive Coaching Alliance, where he continues to build upon his father's legacy by promoting positive and effective coaching techniques. Raised on the sidelines of football fields, Rich has first-hand experience with the impact his father had on many lives both on and off the field. Episode Summary In this heartfelt episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks delves into the life and legacy of legendary college football coach Dick Tomey, through the eyes of his son, Rich Tomey. Throughout the episode, Rich vividly recounts memories of his father, revealing both personal anecdotes and professional insights that highlight Coach Tomey’s unique approach to leadership and personal growth. Known for his mantra, "football isn’t complicated; people are," Coach Tomey’s consistent focus on relationship-building and personal development are themes repeatedly echoed by those who knew him best. The discussion centers around the enduring influence of Dick Tomey's values, particularly the importance of perseverance and the prioritization of people over results. Rich shares how his father’s life lessons have shaped his own career path with the Positive Coaching Alliance, where he strives to instill character and integrity in coaching. The episode also explores Coach Tomey’s career from his early years in Hawaii to his noteworthy achievements at Arizona and San Jose State University, highlighting his commitment to nurturing grit and character in athletes. Key Takeaways Coach Dick Tomey was a master of building relationships and personal development, famously saying, "football isn't complicated; people are." Rich Tomey’s childhood was profoundly shaped by his father's presence and values, emphasizing the importance of love and support in family and coaching alike. The Positive Coaching Alliance carries forward Coach Tomey’s legacy, promoting character-driven coaching that emphasizes life lessons through sports. Coach Tomey instilled the belief in perseverance, teaching that adversity reveals one's true character and often serves as a stepping stone to success. Despite the pressures of the coaching profession, Dick Tomey remained committed to prioritizing the development of his athletes as individuals, valuing people over results. Notable Quotes "Football isn't complicated; people are." – Dick Tomey "He truly loved his team, his guys. Every team was his favorite team." – Rich Tomey "Anything you want in your life, you can get. You just got to put your mind to it." – Advice from Dick Tomey "Life is full of adversity, and this is where you find out what you're made of." – Rich Tomey "He had a real knack for getting the most out of his guys, believing in them, and developing them into better people." – Rich Tomey Resources Positive Coaching Alliance Becoming Undone Podcast Coach Dick Tomey Legacy Fund and the Positive Coaching Alliance's initiatives in Hawaii, Arizona, and San Jose Embark on this riveting journey through the life of an exceptional coach and father. Tune in to hear more about the profound impact of Coach Dick Tomey's life lessons and how they continue to resonate. For more engaging stories and leadership insights, be sure to listen to the full episode and stay updated with the Becoming UnDone® series. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	118 \| Part 7: Coach Dave Fipp Reflects on Coach Dick Tomey's Enduring Legacy and Leadership	27 mars 2025	00:46:22
About the Guest Dave Fipp is a highly respected coach in the National Football League (NFL), currently serving as the Special Teams Coordinator for the Detroit Lions since 2021. Before joining the Lions, Fipp contributed his expertise to several NFL teams, including the Philadelphia Eagles, where he played a pivotal role in their 2018 Super Bowl victory, as well as the Miami Dolphins and the San Francisco 49ers. His coaching journey began under the mentorship of the legendary coach Dick Tomey at San Jose State and includes valuable experience as a Graduate Assistant at the University of Arizona. Fipp's career is characterized by his commitment to developing players not only athletically but also personally. Episode Summary In this enriching episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks presents a heartfelt exploration of the lessons and legacy of renowned football coach Dick Tomey, examining his profound influence on both the game and his athletes. Throughout the episode, Brooks connects personal anecdotes with insights from his guest, Dave Fipp, creating a vivid portrayal of the enduring impact of a coach who lived by the philosophy of caring deeply for his players. The conversation delves into Dave Fipp's journey in the world of football, accentuating the transformative role Coach Tomey played in shaping his career. Emphasizing Tomey’s forward-thinking approach, Fipp illustrates how treating players with genuine interest and respect transcends traditional coaching tactics. By doing so, he offers a blueprint for fostering meaningful relationships that contribute to both personal growth and collective team success. This episode not only honors Dick Tomey’s remarkable contributions to football but also offers invaluable lessons on leadership, honesty, and the enduring power of mentorship. Key Takeaways Impact of Leadership: Dick Tomey's approach to coaching transcended traditional win-loss metrics, focusing instead on personal development and honesty, which left a lasting impact on his players and colleagues. Genuine Care: Tomey's philosophy of genuinely caring for players as individuals, not just athletes, was ahead of its time and remains a model for effective coaching and leadership. Career Path Insights: Insights into Dave Fipp's decision to leave a full-time coaching position for an opportunity to learn under Tomey as a Graduate Assistant, showcasing the value of mentorship in career development. Relational Coaching: The importance of relationship-building in coaching, highlighted by Fipp's observations on how genuine concern and honesty - "I love you so much, I'm going to tell you the truth" - foster trust and respect. Legacy and Influence: Dick Tomey's legacy is exemplified through ongoing influence, as seen in his former players and staff who continue to reflect his values across various coaching roles. Notable Quotes "What you do speak so loud I can't hear what you say." – Reflecting Tomey’s belief in the power of actions over words. "He meant that with every player, every coach, every person he was around, it really didn't matter how you got there." – Dave Fipp "I love you so much, I'm going to tell you the truth." – A signature phrase from Coach Tomey that illustrates his integrity and fondness for his players. "The number of lives he's changed and the impact he made and the number of people he's made that impact on is incredible." – Dave Fipp, on Tomey's legacy. "Truth is all anybody wants. As long as you know you're getting it, you can handle either the good or bad news." – Dave Fipp Resources Dave Fipp's NFL coaching profile Books referenced: H.G. Bissinger’s "Friday Night Lights" Additional insight< Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	117 \| Part 6: Coach Dino Babers Talks Roaches, Man Hugs, and the Art of Building a Team with Love	23 mars 2025	00:59:27
About the Guest Dino Babers is the former head coach of the Syracuse Orange football team and has a storied career in college football. His previous roles include being an offensive coordinator at the University of Arizona from 1998 to 2000, where he worked under Coach Dick Tomey. Babers also served as the head coach at Eastern Illinois, earning the title Ohio Valley Conference Coach of the Year twice, Bowling Green, and at Syracuse was honored as the AP ACC Coach of the Year honor in 2018. Babers began his coaching career as a graduate assistant at Hawaii with Coach Tomey in 1984. Episode Summary In this captivating episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks delves into the life and legacy of the legendary Coach Dick Tomey through the eyes of one of his former assistants, Coach Dino Babers. From an unforgettable 1998 football season at the University of Arizona to Babers' first encounter with Coach Tomey during a home visit, this episode provides an in-depth look at the man behind the coaching philosophy that shaped countless careers. Drawing attention to Tomey's emphasis on team unity and cultural integration among diverse players, Babers offers an enriching perspective on what it meant to coach and be coached by Tomey. The conversation unfolds around Babers' personal anecdotes like dealing with roaches during recruitment visits and the classic football wisdom imparted by Tomey. The Hawaii native shares poignant reflections on Tomey's ability to cultivate family (ohana) within his teams—a culture that valued consistency, loyalty, and love for each other as essential elements of success. Brooks and Babers also explore how Tomey's coaching methods would adapt to today's era of college football transformations like NIL, transfer portals, and analytics, drawing lessons that align with the central themes of leadership and legacy embedded throughout the discussion. Key Takeaways Coach Dick Tomey's approach centered on profound human connection and team culture, emphasizing that "football isn't complicated, people are." Babers attributes his own coaching style to Tomey's teaching: "you're either coaching it or you're letting it happen," highlighting the importance of accountability. Through humorous and earnest stories, Babers illustrates Tomey's strategy of employee empowerment, placing trust in players and coaches alike. The episode examines meaningful cultural integration within teams, presenting diverse backgrounds as a strength and fostering inclusivity. In today's shifting landscape of college sports, the adherence to Tomey's lessons on consistency and teamwork retains timeless relevance and empowers current and future coaches. Notable Quotes "You're either coaching it or you're allowing it."—Dino Babers, reflecting on accountability and responsibility. "He mixed different cultures; he instilled ohana."—Dino Babers, on Tomey's innovative team-building methods. "It meant making men love one another; it meant creating ohana out of chaos."—Dino Babers, summarizing Tomey's legacy. "He had the ability to walk into anybody's living room."—Dino Babers, acknowledging Tomey's adaptability and charisma. "Football isn't complicated. People are."—Dino Babers, recounting Tomey's famous wisdom and approach. Resources Undone Podcast Website: undonepodcast.com/ep117 Becoming Undone Social Media: Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn Toby Brooks' Social Media: Facebook, Instagram, Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	116 \| Part 5: Coach Rip Scherer: Coach Dick Tomey's Legacy of Leadership and Resilience	07 mars 2025	01:00:26
About the Guest Rip Scherer is a seasoned American football coach with over 51 years of experience across collegiate and professional levels, including the NFL. Scherer’s impressive career began at Penn State and included coaching roles at major programs such as the University of Virginia, LSU, Georgia Tech, and Alabama. He also served as the head coach for James Madison University (JMU) and the University of Memphis. Scherer has significant history with the late Dick Tomey, having worked under him at the University of Hawaii and the University of Arizona. Currently, he serves as an analyst at the University of Alabama at Birmingham (UAB) under head coach Trent Dilfer. Episode Summary In this episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks invites esteemed coach Rip Scherer to share engaging and enlightening memories of working alongside legendary football coach Dick Tomey. Scherer highlights the professional journey and personal influences Tomey had on his career, recounting initial encounters at the University of Hawaii and later collaboration at the University of Arizona. The cherished anecdotes illuminate how Tomey, beyond X's and O's, perfected the art of building meaningful relationships, impacting lives well beyond the field, which ripples through Scherer's own coaching philosophy. Scherer offers listeners a behind-the-scenes glimpse into Tomey's recruitment strategies, coaching style, and his profound impact on players and coaches. Words like "compassionate leadership," "relationship-driven coaching," and "innovative recruiting techniques" capture pivotal moments from the transcript, painting a multifaceted portrait of Tomey. As Scherer recounts his career-defining transitions, the dialogue underscores how Tomey was not just a remarkable coach but a relentless mentor, personally investing in others' successes. Detailing Tomey’s legacy, the episode is both a tribute and a call to extend similar values in leadership roles today. Key Takeaways Relationships First: Dick Tomey built his coaching career on a foundation of nurturing genuine relationships. He was as invested in personal dynamics off the field as he was in achieving on-field success. Innovative Recruiting: Tomey's recruiting techniques set him apart. He championed unique and personal approaches, ensuring prospective players felt valued and understood beyond their athletic abilities. Mentorship Role: Tomey's influence extended deeply, often advocating for and aiding others in securing positions, regardless of his personal gain—an exemplification of selfless leadership. Family-Centric Culture: He consistently emphasized the importance of family in coaching environments, advocating for coaches to maintain a work-life balance and develop strong family ties. Enduring Legacy: Despite not meeting the conventional wins benchmark for the College Football Hall of Fame, Tomey's impact on football culture and leadership showcases his timeless influence. Notable Quotes "Dick didn't want to be just like any other offense either…We had to be creative and innovative." "The further up you were on the structure, the lesser your quarters were. I mean, Dick would sleep on the couch." "My career would not be anywhere near it was if it weren’t for Dick. He bailed me out…He bailed me out." "If they know that you care about them and you spend time getting to know their family, they’re going to play better for you." "They don’t care what you know until they know that you care." Resources Becoming Undone: Visit the Becoming Undone Podcast Toby Brooks: Follow him on Facebook, Instagram, Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	115 \| Part 4: 4X Super Bowl Champ Jesse Sapolu Discusses Coach Dick Tomey's Legacy: Transforming Lives Through Football and Culture	04 mars 2025	00:53:23
About the Guest Jesse Sapolu is a former professional American football player who played his entire career with the San Francisco 49ers. A native of Hawaii, Sapolu is of Samoan descent and played college football at the University of Hawaii. Over his NFL career, he achieved remarkable success, winning four Super Bowl rings with the 49ers. Beyond his playing career, Jesse is known for his dedication to his roots, exemplified by his decision to remain in Hawaii for his college education, influenced greatly by his coach, Dick Tomey. Episode Summary In this episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks dives deep into the incredible journey of Jesse Sapolu, a former NFL player and four-time Super Bowl champion. Jesse shares his inspirational story from his teenage struggles in Hawaii, where he faced educational challenges and a tumultuous high school experience, to becoming a professional football player. A pivotal moment was meeting Coach Dick Tomey, whose profound understanding of culture and community shaped Jesse’s decision to stay at the University of Hawaii, altering the course of his life. Through engaging narratives and vivid recollections, Jesse describes Coach Tomey’s unique recruiting style that emphasized cultural respect and family values. This episode captures the essence of what made Tomey a transformative figure in football, particularly highlighting his impact on the Hawaii football program and his ability to cultivate talent and loyalty among his players, even without the allure of high-profile national championships. Listeners will gain insights into the enduring legacy left by Coach Tomey, showcased through Jesse’s path of personal and professional development. Key Takeaways Coach Dick Tomey’s respect for and understanding of Samoan culture profoundly influenced Jesse Sapolu’s decision to remain at the University of Hawaii. Jesse Sapolu’s career illustrates the role of perseverance and right opportunities in achieving professional success, emphasizing that early challenges can lead to great achievements. The unique recruiting approach of Coach Tomey, focusing on familial bonds and cultural respect, helped shape a strong community-oriented football program in Hawaii. Despite not winning national championships, Coach Tomey’s ability to build character, community, and culture led to lasting impacts on his players' lives. The episode serves as an inspiring testament to how leadership rooted in respect and understanding can transform individuals and build enduring legacies. Notable Quotes "Coach Tomey attended church, and Coach joked about that because the church is conducted in the Samoan dialect. So, you know, he's sitting there for an hour and a half not understanding what's going on." - Jesse Sapolu "Jesse was one of the most highly touted local products coming out of Farrington High School in Honolulu." - Toby Brooks "What Coach Tomey did was just connect the culture with how he was going to coach me if he was going to be the guy that was going to take care of me for the next four or five years." - Jesse Sapolu "I think what Coach Tomey means to me is that he brings people together." - Jesse Sapolu "He didn't recruit players, he recruited people. He didn't just build teams, he built cultures." - Toby Brooks Resources: Becoming Undone Podcast Nitrohype Creative Toby Brooks on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn Jesse Sapolu on Instagram, Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	114 \| Part 3 of the Life, Lessons, and Legacy of Dick Tomey: Coach Dick Vermeil Reflects on Coach Tomey's Impact	22 févr. 2025	00:41:55
About the Guest Dick Vermeil: A legendary American football coach renowned for his passionate coaching style and impeccable leadership. Vermeil has been named Coach of the Year at four levels (high school, junior college, NCAA Division I, and NFL) and has an illustrious career, including a Super Bowl victory with the St. Louis Rams. His extensive experience in football spans over decades, having coached and worked alongside some of the sport's most iconic figures. Episode Summary In this illuminating episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks dives deep into the storied legacy of Coach Dick Tomey, a revered figure in college and professional football. Speaking with Hall of Fame coach Dick Vermeil, Brooks unravels the unconventional and impactful journey of Tomey, known beyond his technical aptitude for his empathetic and transformative coaching style. The episode highlights how Tomey's genuine care and teaching shaped not only successful athletes but also principled individuals off the field. Over the course of the conversation, Vermeil shares captivating anecdotes from Tomey's time at UCLA and the University of Arizona, underscoring Tomey’s unique ability to turn underdogs into champions. The discussion is interspersed with thoughtful reflections on leadership, legacy, and the understated art of connecting with and inspiring people to achieve their best. Through personal stories and insights, Vermeil articulates why Coach Tomey, although not having won national championships, left an indelible mark on so many lives. Key Takeaways Leadership Philosophy: Dick Tomey was celebrated for his ability to coach people, not just football players, focusing on building individuals capable of exceeding expectations. Impact and Legacy: Tomey's influence extended beyond the football field, with many players and assistants crediting him with life-changing lessons that carried into their personal and professional lives. Empathy in Coaching: Tomey's approach combined toughness with compassion, setting high standards while demonstrating profound care for the personal development of his athletes. Underdog Champion: Throughout his career, Tomey thrived in roles considered challenging, consistently outperforming expectations and fostering a culture of winning against the odds. Respect and Admiration: Despite not having the glitter of championship titles, Tomey's true legacy lies in the respect and admiration he commands even years after his passing, as described by Dick Vermeil. Notable Quotes "Football isn't complicated. People are." – Toby Brooks reflecting on Tomey's coaching philosophy. "He loved to coach the guy that wasn't quite good enough to be good enough." – Dick Vermeil on Tomey's commitment to all athletes. "To be demanding and compassionate at the same time is a hard mixture." – Dick Vermeil discussing Tomey's unique coaching methodology. "He was no pushover as a technician, X and O's, he was excellent." – Vermeil highlighting Tomey's technical prowess. "He's special. He's choked me up. Think about it. Special." – Dick Vermeil fondly remembering Coach Tomey's impact. Resources Visit Undone Podcast for more episodes and information. Connect with Toby Brooks on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. Follow the "Becoming Undone" series for further insights and episodes. For a truly engaging exploration of Dick Tomey’s legacy, listen to the full episode. Stay tuned for more inspiring content that delves deeper into the people and philosophies t Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	113 \| Part 2 of the Life, Lessons, and Legacy of Dick Tomey: Beginnings with Mike Flores	13 févr. 2025	01:01:25
About the Guest Mike Flores is a seasoned executive leadership coach and former assistant football coach. Throughout his impressive career, Flores has worked at institutions such as UCLA, the University of Hawaii, San Jose State, and the University of Arizona under distinguished figures like Dick Tomey and Dick Vermeil. Currently, he is the founder and president of Inner Champion Consulting, where he provides executive coaching and leadership training to upper-level executives and sports professionals. Episode Summary In this captivating episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks takes listeners through the inspiring journey of legendary football coach Dick Tomey, focusing on his lesser-known early years. The episode opens with a powerful story about how one small act of kindness can lead to monumental change, ultimately setting the stage for a series of discussions on the cascading effects of positive mentorship and leadership. Brooks passionately narrates the lineage of renowned coaches and athletes whose lives were touched by these moments, emphasizing the ripple effects of effective leadership. As the episode progresses, Brooks delves deeper into Tomey's journey, reflecting on the early days of his coaching career before joining the University of Hawaii's program. Notable guest Mike Flores shares firsthand insights into Tomey's remarkable ability to unite diverse staff and athletes, bringing them together under a single vision. Enriched by the narratives of Tomey's contemporaries and protégés, this episode provides an introspective look at how Tomey's leadership style transformed various athletic programs and impacted the lives of countless individuals. Integral themes explored include the importance of people-centric leadership, fostering respect and unity among a diverse team, and the enduring influence of a beloved mentor. Key Takeaways Mentorship's Impact: The influence of early mentors like Edward Kimball and Hank Johnson had massive ripple effects, akin to that of Dick Tomey's in the athletic world. Leadership Style: Dick Tomey's unique ability to unite diverse individuals and instill respect and a sense of community is underscored. His people-first approach was pivotal in his transformative leadership journey. Challenges and Triumphs: Tomey's transition to Hawaii is a testament to his resolve in overcoming initial obstacles to build a respected program and culture. Enduring Legacy: His ability to push individuals to their limits while deeply investing in their personal development is highlighted as a hallmark of his career. Personal Memories: Insightful anecdotes from Mike Flores reflect personal and professional experiences with Coach Tomey, painting a vivid picture of a coach who led with intensity intertwined with compassion. Notable Quotes "Football is easy. People are complicated." - Dick Tomey "Dick was the toughest…most intense person I've ever been around. His intensity was contagious." - Mike Flores "He believed in Dick Tomey and that belief helped shape the foundation of a coaching career." - Toby Brooks "Just think about it, do you ever get nervous?" - Mike Flores reminiscing about pre-game talks with Tomey. "I want them to be their best, and so that also means pushing beyond our limits." - Mike Flores discussing the direct influence of Tomey's coaching philosophy. Resources Inner Champion Consulting: Inner Champion Consulting - Mike Flores' executive coaching company. Becoming Undone Podcast: Visit the podcast's website for more insights and episodes. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	112 \| Part 1 of the Life, Lessons, and Legacy of Dick Tomey: Rise of the Rainbow Warriors with Lance Tominaga	07 févr. 2025	00:38:50
About the Guest Lance Tominaga is a seasoned sports journalist and ESPN Honolulu web editor known for his deep understanding of the college football landscape, especially concerning the University of Hawaii. He is the co-author of "Rise of the Rainbow Warriors," which chronicles the journey of Hawaii football from 1977 to 1987 under the leadership of Coach Dick Tomey. Tominaga has built a career on documenting the moments that shape teams, programs, and lives within the sports world. Episode Summary Delve into the riveting journey of legendary college football coach Dick Tomey in this episode of Becoming UnDone. Host Toby Brooks sits down with respected sports writer Lance Tominaga to explore the remarkable life and legacy of Coach Tomey, spanning his transformative years at the University of Hawaii, his pioneering spirit, and the enduring impact he left on players, staff, and the sport itself. In this episode, Toby Brooks and Lance Tominaga walk through Dick Tomey's initial years in Hawaii, highlighting his inclusive philosophy of treating the football program like a family. They discuss how Coach Tomey embraced Hawaiian culture, significantly influencing his coaching success. The conversation touches on the challenges of coaching in modern college football, where NIL (Name, Image, and Likeness) deals and the transfer portal have reshaped the landscape, making the traditional role of a coach far more complex. Through captivating stories and insights, they underscore how Tomey's approach remains a gold standard for leadership in sports. Key Takeaways Cultural Immersion and Family Values: Dick Tomey's success at the University of Hawaii was significantly shaped by his ability to immerse himself in and embrace Hawaiian culture, treating the football program as a family. From Humble Beginnings to Impactful Leadership: Despite lacking head coaching experience, Tomey's hard work, honesty, and relationship-building were key to his development into a transformative leader in college football. Challenges of Modern-Day Coaching: The complexities and demands of today's college football landscape, influenced by NIL and transfer portals, contrast sharply with Tomey's era, exemplifying his timeless leadership style. Legacy Beyond Wins and Losses: Though Tomey never won a national or outright conference championship, his legacy is defined by the profound personal impacts he had on those he coached and worked with. Personal Stories and Anecdotes: Shared memories from players and staff illustrate how Tomey's personal touch and care for his players’ growth extended far beyond the football field. Notable Quotes “Coach Tomey wasn't just teaching football, he was teaching life.” – Toby Brooks “In Hawaii, family ohana is very important, and he immersed himself into that culture.” – Lance Tominaga “Football isn't complicated. People are.” – Coach Dick Tomey “He made you feel important, even if it was the first and last time he was meeting with you.” – Lance Tominaga “The program has never really recaptured that magic that coach had… because it was something new, it was something exciting.” – Lance Tominaga Resources Rise of the Rainbow Warriors: Book co-authored by Lance Tominaga, detailing the history of Hawaii football under Dick Tomey. ESPN Honolulu: Where Lance Tominaga serves as web editor. Undone Podcast: Add insights and more content from the Becoming Undone series. Dive deeper into the life and legacy of Coach Dick Tomey by listening to this insightful episode. Stay tuned for further enlightening discussions in the Becoming Undone series as it continues to highlight impactful leaders in sports and beyond. Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
	111 \| Embracing Change with Mary Reiss Farias: From Gymnastics Success to Mindset Mentor	31 janv. 2025	00:49:36
About the Guest Mary Reiss Farias is a former Division 1 gymnast, successful business owner, transformational mindset mentor, and author. A decorated collegiate gymnast from the University of Arizona, she transitioned into a dedicated coach before becoming a self-development coach. Mary is passionate about helping others reframe their self-image and achieve their full potential. She co-authored the book "Discovering Something Greater" and wrote the Gym Rat book series to inspire young gymnasts. Her journey is a testament to persistence, reinvention, and the courage to embrace new challenges beyond gymnastics. Episode Summary In this episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks engages in a compelling dialogue with Mary Reiss Farias, a remarkable former gymnast whose journey of self-discovery and growth is both inspiring and transformative. As a collegiate athlete, Mary thrived not just on the mats but also in the nurturing environment of the University of Arizona, where her passion for gymnastics was matched by her desire to excel as a person. Through a narrative that intertwines personal struggles with professional achievements, Mary shares the pivotal moments that shaped her life after gymnastics, as she transitioned to coaching and later embraced her role as a mindset mentor helping others discover their true potential. Mary's story is one of reinvention and resilience. She vividly recounts her journey from being a gymnast to operating a successful gymnastics gym, only to bravely shut it down in pursuit of something greater—a role in self-development coaching. This interview explores the emotional challenges of identity shifts, the power of setting audacious goals, and growing through change. In the face of adversity, Mary exemplifies what it means to embrace transition and thrive in a new arena. Her journey underscores a universal theme: that while life's chapters may close, new opportunities await for those willing to step into the unknown with courage and faith. Key Takeaways Self-image transformation: Mary's journey highlights the significance of altering one's self-image to embrace new roles and challenges effectively. Resilience and growth: She illustrates that true growth comes from consistently pursuing new goals and evolving beyond past achievements. Navigating transitions: Mary’s career shifts serve as a powerful lesson on the courage needed to step away from comfortable identities and into new arenas of growth. Belief and audacity: Her story emphasizes the power of belief in oneself and the audacity to pursue dreams regardless of challenges. Role of mentorship and support: The value of nurturing environments and supportive mentors is highlighted as crucial elements for achieving success. Notable Quotes "I realized I was one of the only ones who still loved the sport." – Mary Reiss Farias "I had to make a major self-image shift in order to realize that it was, that wasn't me… it's okay to move on." – Mary Reiss Farias "You have to act as if you're that new version of you in order for that version to come alive." – Mary Reiss Farias "Our duty is to be as much as we can be in this lifetime." – Mary Reiss Farias "We're built to keep growing throughout our entire lives… not just until we're 22 and gymnastics is over." – Mary Reiss Farias Resources Follow Mary Reiss Farias on Facebook for more insights into personal development. Discover more about her work with Proctor Gallagher and explore Bob Proctor's book, "You Were Born Rich." Check out the "Gym Rat" book series authored by Mary for aspiring young gymnasts. For a deep dive into Mary Reiss Farias's transformative journey and more inspiring Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here! Support the show Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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