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(BPM #157).

• • daily building tool #3;
    • becoming a mashpia, a giver;
    • all 5 love languages are forms of healthy giving;

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(BPJ #159).

• • Strength #11.
    • they don't neglect their marriage relationship;
    • renewing your commitment to your marriage with positivity, hope and hischadshus!

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(BPM #156).

• • daily building tool #2. (Part 2.);
    • judge your wife favorably, as a whole person;
    • background factors and how every weakness has its corresponding strength;

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(BPJ #158).

• • Strength #10. (Part 2);
    • they don't expect the marriage relationship to meet all their needs;
    • listing 10 Basic Needs to provide one another;

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(BPM #155).

• • daily building tool #2. (Part 1.);
    • judge your wife favorably;

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(BPJ #157).

• • Strength #10. (Part 1);
    • they don't expect the marriage relationship to meet all their needs;

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(BPM #154).

• • daily building tool #1. (Part 2.);
    • practice gratitude;
    • not taking your wife for granted;

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(BPJ #156).

• • Strength #9. (Part 2);
    • they don't forget the beautiful qualities that drew them to each other;

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(BPM #153).

• • daily building tool #1. (Part 1.);
    • practice gratitude;

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(BPJ #155).

• • Strength #9. (Part 1);
    • they don't forget the beautiful qualities that drew them to each other;

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(BPM #152).

• • avoiding complaining and blaming;
  • being happy with your lot in life and with your wife;
  • gratitude;
  • the healthy approach to shame;
  • to turn to Hashem (and your wife) and not away;

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(BPJ #154).

• • Strength #8. (Part 2);
    • they don't blame each other for their problems;

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(BPM #151).

• • daily interactions with your wife;
    • avoid criticizing which hurts your marriage;
    • exercises on how to stop criticizing;
    • the only person you can change is yourself;

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(BPJ #153).

• • Strength #8. (Part 1);
    • they don't blame each other for their problems;

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(BPM #150).

• • foundational weapon #2;
    • decode all messages of "lack" as messages from the yetzer hora;
    • I have everything I need;
    • resist the urge to disconnect from your wife;

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(BPM #149).

• • foundational weapon #1;
    • battling against the El Zar;
    • in every case, when spouses argue the real question is "Do I choose connection or disconnection?";

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(BPJ #152).

• • Strength #7.
    • they don't communicate with disrespect;

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(BPM #148).

• • foundation of sholom bayis;
  • moving out of Olam HaZarus (world of estrangement) into the Olam HaYedidus (world of connection);
  • acts of giving, smiles, compliments, emotional support, giving the benefit of the doubt bring you into the Olam HaYididus;

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(BPJ #151).

• • Strength # 6.
    • they don't try to fix each other;

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(BPM #147).

• • your three relationships (with yourself, with Hashem, with your wife);
  • this shiur focuses on the crucial importance of having a healthy relationship with your wife;
  • Rav Chaim Vital "a man's character traits are measured exclusively by his relationship with his wife";

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(BPJ #150).

• • Strength # 5.
    • they don't use their emotions as weapons;

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(BPM #146).

• • your three relationships (with yourself, with Hashem, with your wife);
  • this shiur focuses on the crucial importance of having a healthy relationship with Hashem;
  • the key to loving Hashem is to feel loved by Hashem, and to develop hakoras hatov (gratitude);

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(BPJ #149).

• • Strength # 4.
    • they don't become martyrs (feeling like a korban);
    • learning to accept help and kindness from one another;

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(BPM #145).

• • your three relationships: with yourself, with Hashem, with your wife;
  • this shiur focuses on the critical importance of having a healthy relationship with yourself;

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(BPJ #148).

• • Strength # 3.
    • they don't hesitate to set boundaries;
      • why we hesitate setting boundaries;
      • setting boundaries within your marriage relationship and outside of it;
      • don't confuse boundaries with controlling behavior;
      • how to start conversations regarding boundaries;

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(BPJ #147).

• • Strength # 2.
    • they don't keep secrets (as strong general rule);
      • guidelines for a balanced way of sharing things;
      • how being open helps you feel stronger;
      • don't share your spouse's secrets with others, especially close family members;

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(BPM #144).

• • introduction;
  • Hashem primarily judges us on how we treat our wives;
  • the only person you can change is yourself;
  • we have 100% control of our outflow pipe (our words and actions) and 0% control over our inflow pipe of what happens to us, which is totally in Hashem's control;

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(BPJ #146).

• • Strength # 1. (Part 2);
    • they don't ignore their problems;
      • defining the problem;
      • accepting inherent differences;
      • how addressing the problems helps you grow stronger;

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(BPM #143).

• • discussing delicate issues;
  • obesity;
  • hygiene;
  • exclusive husband- wife connection;
  • communicate type of sex needed;
  • making your spouse feel safe, secure, loved;
  • hakoras hatov to your spouse and Hashem for the gift of physical intimacy;

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(BPM #142).

• • practical suggestions on how to open up discussions about sexual intimacy with one another;

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(BPJ #145).

• • Strength # 1. (Part 1);
    • they don't ignore their problems;

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(BPM #141).

• • the 'elephant' in the room;
  • talking about sex;
  • why it's important;
  • what holds us back;
  • to overcome the uncomfortableness of it and to engage in meaningful conversations about it;

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(BPJ #144).

• • more on delayed gratification and self-motivation;
  • summary of important emotional intelligence concepts;

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(BPM #140).

• • davening for healthy sexual intimacy;
  • when you are too exhausted to have sex;
  • how to prioritize and make room for sexual intimacy by finding ways to counteract the fatigue;
  • scheduling sexual intimacy;
  • how this aspect of married life is Hashem's Ratzon that it thrives;

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(BPJ #143).

• • keeping a gratefulness journal;
  • expressing gratitude to Hashem and your spouse;
  • healthy self-talk and the EQ of delayed gratification;

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(BPM #139).

• • when sex drives differ significantly;
  • factors that affect sex drive, and working through it;

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(BPJ #142).

• • learning to listen with empathy;
  • maintaining hope and optimism within yourself and in your relationship with your spouse;

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(BPM #138).

• • to meet your wife's needs emotionally and sexually;

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(BPJ #141).

• • understanding and expressing emotions;
  • developing empathy;

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(BPJ #140).

• • beginning with self-awareness;
  • utilizing your past, and your relationship with your parents in the past to influence you in a healthy way as an adult;

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(BPM #137).

• • deepening the spiritual and emotional connection with your wife will enhance the physical sexual connection;
  • even the "mundane" kindness for and with each other promotes deep intimacy;

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(BPJ #139).

• • 6 essential EQ/self esteem characteristics;
  • health and fitness;
  • adequate sleep;
  • healthy eating;
  • exercise are all crucial aspects of EQ that will increase your spiritual life and marriage significantly;

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(BPM #136).

• • husband learning not to take a "no" from his wife personally;
  • avoiding unhealthy escaping or withdrawing emotionally and avoid feeling rejected;
  • davening, then accessing your healthy communication and emotional connection will help greatly to avoid feelings hurt;

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(MSC #1).

• • turning to Hashem to help us be a good husband and treat our wives with respect and love;

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(BPJ #138a).

• • healthy autonomy and self-esteem;
  • healthy emotions;
  • a list of attributes describing both self-esteem and EQ;

Insight from Rav. Cahan on BPJ # 138

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(BPJ #138).

• • healthy autonomy and self-esteem;
  • healthy emotions;
  • a list of attributes describing both self-esteem and EQ;

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(BPM #135).

• • importance of husbands to open up emotionally to their wives, this will promote sexual interest;
  • sexual activity does open up naturally the emotions of men so husband need to use sexual release and gratification to open up emotionally towards their wives;

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(BPJ #137).

• • we have the ability to transform ourselves despite a difficult background;
  • you can love yourself when you see yourself accurately;
  • appreciate what you see, and are excited about the prospect of who you can become;

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(BPM #134).

• • a husband's need for mutual satisfaction, and how to express them the right way to your wife;
  • knowing that sometimes a typical husband's need could be a strong need in some wives;

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(BPJ #136).

• • EQ requires building healthy self esteem;
  • to develop the courage and resiliency we all have within us;

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