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| Episode 250: Not All Men—But How Do We Tell? | 12 Sep 2024 | 00:55:38 | |
We know it’s not all men who are predators. But it’s far too many. And a recent horrible court case in France is reminding women all over the world that far too many men are willing and eager to do the unthinkable. The only way to tell who is safe is to look at their words and their actions. And the words of far too many evangelical leaders and authors and pastors are straight up rape culture. After what happened to Gisele Pelicot, I’m not willing to put up with it anymore. No more Every Man’s Battle rape culture mindset in the church!
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| Episode 249: Rebecoming: Figuring Out Why You’re Stuck feat. Dr. Merry Lin | 05 Sep 2024 | 00:57:11 | |
It’s a complete therapy session—in one book and one podcast! Dr. Merry Lin joins us to explain why we so often feel stuck—and how to move forward. If you’ve been confused by terms like trauma, attachment theory, the Stone Age brain, and more, Dr. Merry Lin joins us for a primer that can help us get unstuck—and rebecome who we were meant to be!
HELP US OUT AFTER THE HACKING!
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| Episode 240: Breaking Away from Christian Patriarchy (feat. Cait West) plus Why People Deconstruct | 04 Jul 2024 | 01:14:00 | |
What happens when your family gets sucked into fundamentalism, and your father insists on controlling your life, including who you will marry? You grow up under Christian patriarchy, and you experience serious emotional abuse. Today Cait West joins us to talk about her absolutely beautiful memoir Rift, about how and why she had to break free. Then Keith and I talk about why people are deconstructing, and why it’s so desperately important to listen to stories like Cait’s.
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| Can We Stop Talking About Girls Being Stumbling Blocks and Causing Men to Lust? (Rerun Summer Episode) | 14 Jul 2022 | 00:53:29 | |
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| Unconditional Respect is NOT a Thing! (Rerun Summer Episode) | 07 Jul 2022 | 00:55:39 | |
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| Episode 152: What is Killing Women's Libido? | 30 Jun 2022 | 01:01:44 | |
We wrap up what can cause women’s libidos to plummet–and what men can do about it! Links to things Mentioned in This Podcast: The Great Sex Rescue
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| Episode 151: Why John Piper Should Stop Speaking on Marriage -- and turning the other cheek! | 23 Jun 2022 | 00:59:14 | |
Recently John Piper had a podcast telling a woman how to deal with a “harsh” husband.
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| Episode 150: Escaping a Sex Cult: Alyssa Wakefield's Story Part 2 | 16 Jun 2022 | 01:02:47 | |
Let’s face the fact that fundamentalist Christianity in North America is basically a sex cult.
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| Episode 149: Groomed for an Abusive Arranged Marriage: Alyssa Wakefield's Story Part 1 | 09 Jun 2022 | 01:01:23 | |
What if you grow up in what you now call a sex cult, and you marry because your dad told you to?
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| Episode 148: Is Sex a Yes Space For Men? And What Does That Do to a Woman's Libido? | 02 Jun 2022 | 00:57:30 | |
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| Episode 147: The Porn Triage | 26 May 2022 | 01:01:23 | |
Can we have a nuanced discussion about porn and the likelihood of recovery?
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| Episode 146: Let's Talk Attachments Styles and Marriage with guests Milan & Kay Yerkovich | 19 May 2022 | 00:54:47 | |
How do our attachment styles–or love styles–affect our marriage?
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| Episode 145: Connection Not Punishment: A Better Way to Parent feat. Wendy Snyder | 12 May 2022 | 00:58:28 | |
What if discipline and spanking aren’t synonyms?
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| Episode 239: Who Are Exvangelicals? feat. Sarah McCammon | 27 Jun 2024 | 00:58:33 | |
People who deconstruct are often accused of never believing in the first place, or of just wanting to sin. But those who deconstruct are often those who have been hurt the most by toxic teachings. Today Sarah McCammon joins us to talk about who are “ex-vangelicals”, and her own story of deconstruction. And then Keith and I talk about what it means to create a safe and just community that honors people’s fears, betrayals, and concerns.
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| Episode 144: How To Misuse Statistics for Dummies - feat Wendy Snyder | 05 May 2022 | 00:54:47 | |
In the last of our three podcasts with Joanna where we talk stats, we tackle a few more ways that research is often handled poorly, using the research around spanking as one example.
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| Episode 143: Do You Know Your Attachment Style? (Start Your Engines) | 28 Apr 2022 | 00:58:42 | |
Attachment research is the science of how we relate to others. We can all have different attachment styles, based on whether we’ve got insecure attachment or secure attachment with our primary caregivers or loved ones (or even God!) Links to things mentioned:
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| Episode 142: No, Christians Don't Always have Better Marriages and Sex Lives--a response to Josh Howerton | 21 Apr 2022 | 01:11:10 | |
Last month Josh Howerton, lead pastor at Lakepointe Church in Dallas, wrote a Twitter thread sharing research with 5 reasons Christians are doing better than the media gives us credit for. Matt Chandler, head of The Acts29 Network and lead pastor at The Village Church, retweeted it.
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| Episode 141: The Most Misunderstood Women in the Bible - and Research! ft Mary DeMuth | 14 Apr 2022 | 00:54:49 | |
We misunderstand women in the Bible–and we misunderstand gender aspects of research!
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| Episode 140: A Victim of Bill Gothard's Story: Escaping a Cult & Finding Freedom with Emily Elizabeth Anderson | 07 Apr 2022 | 00:59:17 | |
Today Emily Elizabeth Anderson from Thriving Forward joins us to tell her story, and to tell what she’s passionate about now. And especially how she found the actual Jesus after she left what she now sees as a cult.
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| Episode 139: How Many Men Are Sexually Safe? | 31 Mar 2022 | 00:50:55 | |
We talked about the findings from our survey, as described in this post last week on how many Christian guys are sexually safe. To Support Us:
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| Episode 138: Echoes of Menstruation (...really, Focus on the Family?!) | 24 Mar 2022 | 01:00:58 | |
Rebecca noticed that in Focus on the Family’s PluggedIn movie review for Turning Red, they had put references to menstruation under “sexual content”, including cramps and pads. And they warned that some people may hear an “echo of menstruation” in the title of the film. To Support Us:
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| Episode 137: New Research Blows Away the Evangelical Idea About Lust | 17 Mar 2022 | 00:56:38 | |
We saved some of our most important findings from our men’s survey for this special podcast!
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| Episode 136: The Uncomfortable Truth About Waiting for Marriage for Sex | 10 Mar 2022 | 01:02:15 | |
Does waiting for marriage really guarantee a great sex life? Sheila, Rebecca, and Keith weigh in on this week's podcast! To Support Us:
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| Episode 135: How Much Sex Have We Rescued? Plus, Elizabeth Fisher Good! | 03 Mar 2022 | 00:57:18 | |
It’s the one year anniversary since The Great Sex Rescue was published!
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| Episode 238: The Problems with Lies Young Women Believe by Dannah Gresh and Nancy Wolgemuth | 20 Jun 2024 | 01:41:05 | |
Why is a frequenty-used book in teen girls' Bible studies focusing on Satan and not Jesus? And listen to our interview with Sam about the book! To Support Us:
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| Episode 134: What Guys Can Do If They've Messed Up | 24 Feb 2022 | 01:03:39 | |
Because our church culture teaches guys that they need sex the way newborn babies need to be fed in the middle of the night or the way an invalid needs water brought to them, men often don’t realize that they are being the selfish ones. They’re taught this is an absolute need they have, a life and death need, and so if she doesn’t want sex, that must mean she’s being selfish.
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| Episode 133: Birth Control & Lust Control | 17 Feb 2022 | 00:57:27 | |
Special thank you to our guest Patrick Weaver for joining us today! We look forward to having him on the podcast again in the future! Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and help us get our research into peer reviewed journals. Plus you can join our rocking Facebook group and get unfiltered podcasts!
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| Episode 132: All About the Sexual Response Cycle | 10 Feb 2022 | 01:02:47 | |
Too many people don’t understand the sexual response cycle–so let’s spell it out and figure out why this lack of info has become so prevalent in evangelicalism! The Intimately Us app!
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| Episode 131: The woman who was crying in the shower is here! | 03 Feb 2022 | 00:58:52 | |
We are so honoured to have on the podcast today the woman who wrote that letter we discussed back in episode 129. She joins us to share her story, give some updates, and shed some light on what toxic teachings in practice actually resulted in. To Support Us:
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| Episode 130: It's Time to Jump out of the Boiling Water | 27 Jan 2022 | 00:45:40 | |
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| Episode 129: The Podcast Where Emerson Ignores Marital Rape | 20 Jan 2022 | 01:02:32 | |
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| Episode 128: How YOU Can Make the Church a Healthier Place for Marriage | 13 Jan 2022 | 00:57:01 | |
Should you stay in such a church? Some people should, because the church is changing, and you feel called to be a “missionary” of sorts there. But maybe more should leave. I know I stayed too long, and Rebecca shares some passionate thoughts about her opinion on going to a church “because it has a good kids’ program” or “because it has a good youth program.”
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| Episode 127: Putting the 'Christ' back in Christian Marriage | 06 Jan 2022 | 01:14:49 | |
Welcome to a new year with the Bare Marriage podcast! We're glad you're joining us again after our break for the holidays!
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| Episode 126: The Disease That Must Be Named + feeling less homeless! | 16 Dec 2021 | 00:53:28 | |
Today on the podcast we hear Rachel Perry’s story of vaginismus, and then I get cozy in my yellow chair where I work and just tell you how I see the Christmas story interacting with our own (and yours!).
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| Episode 125: Why is Marriage Advice Mostly Aimed at Women? | 10 Dec 2021 | 01:06:03 | |
Ever noticed that most marriage books center the majority of their advice on women?
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| Episode 237: Do We Have to Frame All Dads as Heroes? | 13 Jun 2024 | 01:07:51 | |
Every Father’s Day, there’s a rallying cry in many conservative evangelical spaces that men are losing out and fathers are under attack. Where’s the truth in this? And what are the problems with talking about marriage like this? Plus we rewrite Harrison Butker’s commencement speech! And listen to our interview with Sam about the book! To Support Us:
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| Episode 124: Does Your Vagina Have a Brain? The Mind-Body Connection | 02 Dec 2021 | 00:55:58 | |
How do we live our feelings through our bodies? How do we learn to inhabit our bodies more? Join us as Rebecca and I jumpstart this series, and then Keith and I get all scientific about arousal non-concordance and mindfulness! Our wonderful sponsor Femallay. Check out their vaginal melts, and their innovative menstrual cups that allow you to empty them while they're still inserted. To Support Us:
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| Episode 123: Let's talk Sexual Favours Postpartum | 25 Nov 2021 | 01:04:50 | |
Rebecca’s postpartum! So we thought it was the perfect time to look at the postpartum advice given in evangelical circles to women. Our wonderful sponsor Femallay. Check out their vaginal melts, and their innovative menstrual cups that allow you to empty them while they're still inserted. To Support Us:
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| Episode 122: The Making of Biblical Womanhood ft Beth Allison Barr | 18 Nov 2021 | 00:59:27 | |
The amazing Beth Allison Barr is joining me today to talk about women and the history of the church. To Support Us:
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| Episode 121: Finding Your Own Path ft hosts of NeuroDiverse Christian Couples Podcast | 11 Nov 2021 | 01:01:32 | |
We’ve got two different segments on today’s podcast, both regarding what it means to make your own way as a couple:
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| Episode 120: Why Too Many Can't Let Go of the 'Obligation Sex' Message | 04 Nov 2021 | 00:59:51 | |
What if the reason authors can’t give up the obligation sex message is that they fear women won’t have sex otherwise? Femallay! We love what they're doing to help women experience more pleasure and more comfort in our own bodies. Please check them out.
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| Start Your Engines Ep. 17: How To Be Sex Positive Without Being Creepy | 28 Oct 2021 | 00:57:33 | |
We try to show how men and women may approach sex information differently. Thanks to our sponsor Femallay! Check out their vaginal melts, and my post on how your vagina changes as you age
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| Episode 118: What Are Christian Resources NOT Telling You About Abuse? ft. Gretchen Baskerville | 21 Oct 2021 | 00:59:57 | |
We are thrilled to have a wonderful guest joining us this week! We hope you enjoy Sheila's conversation with author Gretchen Baskerville, as they discuss some extremely important points we need to include in our conversations around divorce in the Christian church. To Support Us:
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| Episode 117: All about BOOBS! | 14 Oct 2021 | 00:55:09 | |
We have a VERY special guest joining later today! For the first time ever we have Sheila's mother, Elizabeth, here to share all her wisdom! We hope you enjoy today's episode all about boobs, and breast cancer awareness!
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| Episode 116: Why Teenagers SHOULD know lots about Sex! | 07 Oct 2021 | 00:43:03 | |
For this special edition of the Bare Marriage Podcast we created an episode that you can listen to WITH your teenagers! Rebecca and Connor walk through their own 'Sex-Ed' experiences, and discuss how they plan to talk to their own children about sex and sexual health one day.
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| Episode 115: Are 'Pink Brains' and 'Blue Brains' Real? | 30 Sep 2021 | 00:49:12 | |
Today it's Rebecca and Connor coming to you, to discuss some neuropsychology! We know, it's a lot, but bare with us! We hope you enjoy this ramble through some statistical and psychological studies that can give us all a clearer picture on how we should be talking about the differences between men and women's brains. To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
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| Episode 236: The Sex Talk You Never Got with Sam Jolman | 06 Jun 2024 | 01:01:53 | |
What if purity culture didn’t just steal sexual health from women, but stole it from men too? What does it mean for a man to have healthy sexuality? Today licensed counselor Sam Jolman joins us for The Sex Talk You Never Got.
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| Episode 114: Life Hacks to Help Know Which Christian Book are Toxic | 23 Sep 2021 | 00:59:34 | |
Many of you have asked for a step by step guide to clarify how to gauge whether a book is harmful or helpful. So today, we thought we'd do just that, and help walk everyone through the process we use when critiquing Christian resources we see being used today. Sign up for our email list! To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
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| Episode 113: Are You Doing Sex on Hard Mode? | 16 Sep 2021 | 00:48:53 | |
We are thrilled to bring you another weekly edition of the Bare Marriage podcast, with a special guest appearance by friend of the show Andrew Bauman for a short segment today. Please remember to read the blog post that accompanies this podcast for more context into the topics we discussed. Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
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| Episode 112: You're Supposed to be a TEAM! | 09 Sep 2021 | 00:59:58 | |
Thank you to our lovely guest Micah for joining us today! You can find her online here. Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
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