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Ever felt stuck in decision-making especially when it comes to relationships? There's no need to worry because I've got a super simple method that'll help you figure out what you really want, without all the stress.

By the end of this episode, you'll feel way more confident about making these decisions. So, tune in. Your future self will thank you.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• How to approach decisions without feeling overwhelmed.
• The importance of being true to yourself in the decision-making process.
• Why there's no one-size-fits-all answer, only what feels right for you.
• Tips to break free from the paralysis of indecision.
• The power of choosing thoughts that serve you positively.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

Ever felt the struggle with pelvic issues that no one seems to understand? I hear you. In this episode, Dr. Susie Gronski and I unravel the secrets to free you from the grip of pelvic challenges.

It's more than physical. Tune in to find out why your emotions matter in the world of pelvic health.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• how stress impacts your intimate life and discover the keys to achieving mind-body harmony.
• the profound connection between emotions and pelvic health
• practical tips for a healthier and happier intimate life regardless.
• insights on building confidence in discussing men's health topics.
• how to redefine body image, and embrace self-compassion for a fulfilling sexual journey.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

Ever wondered why dating can sometimes feel a bit tricky?

Well, in today's episode, I'm breaking down the top 5 dating mistakes I see inexperienced men make. It's like getting a secret map to make dating way better!

Hit play now – your dating life's about to get a serious upgrade!

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• Why being clear about what you want is super important!
• How to tell someone what you really, really want (without being scared!)
• The secret power of asking questions (and why it's totally okay!)
• What to do when things don't go the way you hoped (spoiler: it's not about you!)

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

Imagine your brain as a superhero filter, letting in only what it thinks is crucial. In this episode, let’s learn how it decides what's important in dating, impacting your choices without you even realizing it. Understand how your thoughts shape your feelings in dating. And, I'll show you how to edit your narrative for a more empowering dating life.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• how the stories we tell ourselves influence our beliefs, perceptions, and experiences in dating and life
• how our beliefs shape the filters through which we perceive the world.
• importance of consciously choosing the stories we tell ourselves
• how to recognize and reshape personal narratives

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

Stuck in the "Let's Just Be Friends" whirlwind? And wonder how to decode this loaded phrase? If yes, don't miss this episode! It's a topic that's been causing unnecessary drama and confusion in the dating realm. And I’m here to bring clarity and make the dating process smoother than ever for you!

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• Difference between true friendships and mere acquaintances and why it's a game-changer.
• Learn to distinguish whether your interest in friendship is true, or if you're secretly yearning for something more.
• Discover why starting with what you genuinely want is the secret ingredient to building a meaningful connection.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

If you are afraid of asking a person out because the probability of something happening is low and holding back seems the best option available, then this episode is for you.

Let's explore how the mindset of possibility vs. probability helps radically change how we approach dating and creating a relationship.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• The key difference between operating from a place of probability and one of possibility.
• How both perspectives can impact on how you show up in dating and relationship experiences.
• Why approaching dating with probability in mind rather than possibility is likely the wrong approach.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

This week I am talking with therapist and meditation teacher Jeremy Mohler about a topic that's often underestimated in the world of dating – boundaries.

We tend to think of a boundary as something that pushes people away, but Jeremy's examples show how it can actually be a way of bringing someone in closer.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• How embracing boundaries can be your ultimate tool for establishing healthy connections.
• How having clear boundaries around sex can help you if you experience sexual dysfunction.
• How to think about boundaries in a way that will lay the foundation for a lasting connection with a woman.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

In today's episode, we dive into a topic that's crucial for every man navigating the dating world – the idea of "leading someone on." 

Join me as we break down the concept of leading someone on and uncover what it truly means. We'll distinguish between genuine connections and the pitfalls of miscommunication. This episode is packed with valuable insights to help you navigate dating with clarity and confidence.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• How to make sense of the dualing voices in our heads: the part that doubts ourselves and the part that says "What if?"
• How the desire to know the future can create unnecessary drama and doubt.
• Recognizing the difference between leading someone on and having genuine doubts or questions.
• The role of honesty in navigating uncertainty and questions in relationships.
• A single, powerful thought that can help shift how you approach uncertainty in relationships.

Together, we'll explore practical strategies to approach dating with authenticity and vulnerability. By the end of this episode, you'll gain valuable insights to enjoy getting to know a woman without the fear of leading her on.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

This week we're taking a deep look into a fundamental truth that can change the way you approach dating and relationships forever. 

Have you ever wondered why certain words or actions from others seem to affect you so intensely? Well, here's the thing – it's not about them; it's about you.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• Real-life examples of how interpretations shape your emotions and affect your dating experiences.
• The importance of recognizing that you cannot be responsible for someone else's emotions.
• Practical tips on choosing empowering thoughts to rewrite your love story.
• The value of emotions as messengers guiding you towards self-awareness.
• How to navigate dating with clarity and confidence by taking control of your thoughts.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

Join me, Erika Davian, on this episode of the Bachelor to Boyfriend podcast as we take a look at the idea of the friend zone. If you've ever felt confused, hurt, or stuck in this zone, this episode is a must-listen! 

Join me to learn how to escape the friend zone and embark on a journey of self-discovery, connection, and fulfilling relationships.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

1. Unveiling the truth about the friend zone: It's a mindset you choose, not a place others put you in.
2. Mastering the art of effective communication to navigate romantic connections.
3. Discovering the importance of self-reflection and personal growth in building meaningful relationships.
4. Breaking free from limiting beliefs and opening yourself up to limitless dating potential.
5. Learning how to embrace vulnerability and authenticity to create genuine connections with others.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

In this episode, we delve into the often misunderstood field of coaching in comparison to therapy. As a dating and sex coach for men, I have had the unique opportunity to experience both therapy and coaching, and I want to shed light on their similarities and differences.

Join me in this episode as we explore the similarities and differences between coaching and therapy, uncovering how each modality can help you on your path to self-improvement and fulfillment. Whether you're considering therapy, coaching, or both, understanding these distinctions will guide you in making the best decision for your unique needs.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• Differences between coaching and therapy
• How coaching and therapy can complement each other
• Fundamental purposes of therapy and coaching
• The role of licensed mental health professionals in Therapy
• And more…

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

This week I am responding to one of the questions I most commonly hear: “What do women want?” I’ll discuss why you probably don’t want to be asking yourself this question, as well as what you DO want to focus on instead.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• Why this common question is so problematic
• Why it won’t help you figure out how to date better
• 3 questions that will help you instead

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

I am beyond thrilled to share with you this episode of a conversation between me and one of my former clients. Dominic is in his 30s, on the autism spectrum, and prior to completing the Bachelor to Boyfriend program, had never had a girlfriend before. He recently wrote me to tell me he is now officially in a relationship with his first girlfriend ever. Tune in to learn how he made this happen.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• Some of the obstacles to finding a girlfriend that he faced
• How his approach changed as a result of working together
• How coaching has helped him in other areas of his life
• His advice if you are not sure what action to take

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

Dating is a process. It has ups and downs and often comes with lots of disappointment. This week’s episode will help you make the shift from seeing your goal as “unlikely” to “inevitable” so you can keep going even when there is no hope in sight.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• Why having clarity around what you want is so important.
• How to cultivate a feeling of inevitability, even without proof from the past.
• A sense of your own determination to create love in your life.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

This week we’re fixing a common misconception: the idea that we should all want to be happy 100% of the time. Even if this were possible, I would never want this for you. Tune in to hear what I think is even better than being happy in order to create the results you want.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• Why I would never want you to be happy 100% of the time, even if it were possible.
• Why an effective mindset is more important than a positive mindset (and how to tell the difference)
• How you can choose the right emotions to fuel your actions.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

This week we’re talking about the label of virginity. I work with men from all kinds of backgrounds, but one group I hear from frequently are adult virgins.

There is so much shame and anxiety around being a later in life virgin, and I want to share some insights from my work as a dating and intimacy coach for men. Join me as we break down this label and have you feeling a little bit better by the end of the episode.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

• Why virginity is a problem of the mind, not of the body.
• A real life example of someone who thought the problem was in his body.
• Why being an adult virgin may not be such a bad thing after all.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

Disappointment is inevitable. It is going to come up at some point in dating and sex, so let’s talk about how to work with it! Whether you've experienced heartbreak, rejection, or unmet expectations in the dating world, understanding how to deal with disappointment is crucial for cultivating resilience and moving forward.

What you will learn:

• How intensity of our feeling is determined by what is happening in our minds.
• Why avoiding disappointment ends up creating more disappointment.
• Two options for when disappointment comes up.
• Why building a tolerance is important for creating the relationship you want.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

Our love lives are created by the countless decisions we make in dating and relationships. In this episode, men’s dating and intimacy coach Erika Davian shares personal stories and experiences to show the importance of managing your mind in decision making, so you can make decisions quickly and confidently, without looking back. 

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:
- What makes something a "right" or "wrong" decision
- Why managing your mind is so important to living a life without regret
- What it means to find evidence for a decision

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

This week, we're delving into the powerful connection between your mind and your quality of sexual experiences. Regardless of your experience level, this episode is packed with valuable insights for you.

We'll address common unhelpful thoughts that can trigger negative emotions and hinder your ability to enjoy sex. By reshaping your thoughts now, you'll be better equipped for incredible moments in the future.

Join me as we explore the power of your mind in creating great sexual experiences. Let's transform the way you approach sex for the better!

What you will learn:

• The feeling state that helps the body tap into the parasympathetic nervous system and experience pleasure fully.
• How to identify unhelpful thoughts that are keeping you from being in this state.
• Which thoughts will help support you in creating a great sexual experience with someone.

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

While an erection is something that you experience in your body, it is largely a product of your mind. This episode breaks down the phrase “it’s all in your head” to help you understand the relationship between your body and brain and why it is so important to change what is in your head if you want different results in bed.

What you will learn:

• How the parasympathetic nervous system regulates erections.
• Why your arousal level how your body performs don’t always match up
• When not creating an erection is part of the body’s good design
• What tarantulas and erections have to do with each other

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

If you notice yourself holding back because you're afraid of getting yourself into relationship that you don't really want to be in, then this episode is for you. Whether you're new to the concept or consider yourself a pro, dating and intimacy coach for men Erika Davian breaks down how to create super simple, healthy boundaries that will lead to deeper connections and make sure you never get stuck in a relationship in a relationship that doesn’t work for you.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• What most people have it all wrong when it comes to boundaries
• 4 things to consider before making a boundary
• How to make a boundary that works 100% of the time and with very little drama
• A super simple formula that you can use on the spot the next time you need it

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

In today's episode we talk about a common concern many men share: how women will react.  This easily ranks high among the things that I see holding good men back from pursuing connections with women they like.

Tune in to hear how you can shift this concern (and where to focus your energy instead.)

Things you'll learn:

• The real reason why you are worried about how she will react
• What you have control over (and what don't)
• What to focus your energy and attention on instead

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

We have a general sense that lowering our standards when looking for a partner is a bad idea… but is it? This week I’m challenging this idea to help you see when it makes sense (and when it doesn’t) to lower your standards in love.

Things you’ll learn:

• Changing your standards can be downright strategic
• To recognize the kind of thoughts you
• How to know when you are playing big and when you are playing small

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

This week, I’m going to cover the 5 biggest reasons I have seen in my clients for why they are stuck in dating or sex AND I’m going to explain the antidote to overcome each of them.

Things you will learn:

• How to recognize where you are stuck
• That you are not broken
• The five most common reasons why it feels hard to move forward
• How to move forward from where you are here, today

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

We say we’re planning to go on vacation, quit our job, or buy a house… why don’t we say we are planning for love? This week explores why having a mindset of planning vs. hoping helps radically change how we approach dating and creating a relationship.

Things you will learn:

• The difference between planning and hoping for something to happen (and why it matters)
• How your energy and intention shifts when you are planning to do something versus when you are simply hoping that it will happen
• If you really value something, then you plan for it to happen
• You can plan for love

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.

This week I’m sharing with you everything I know about limiting beliefs: what they are, how they're preventing you from showing up and living your life to your fullest potential, and most importantly, how to overcome them.

What you will learn:

• The kinds of limiting beliefs that often show up in dating
• How limiting beliefs are affecting your ability to meet great women
• How to overcome your own limiting beliefs

Want to take your investment in your confidence and well being to the next level? Check out Bachelor to Boyfriend, my 12-week program where I can give you one-on-one coaching that fits your exact situation.