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Confessions of the Higher Desire Wife with J. Parker Ep. 69914 Oct 202500:40:40

Mismatched sex drives in marriage? You're not alone—and it's not a problem to fix, but an opportunity to grow together.

Most couples (up to 90%!) will experience periods where their sexual desires don't line up perfectly. It's completely normal—and it's a chance to build deeper understanding, communication, and compassion in your relationship. Getting honest about differences means you can meet each other where you are, as a team.

This conversation is full of encouragement for the couple (or the spouse) who is feeling the disconnect from the different drives. Join Dr. Kim and J. Parker as they talk about normalizing this topic and making your marriage (and sex life) awesome.

Episode Highlights:

Majority of couples face the struggle of mismatched sex drives.

It’s important that the lines of communication are open when talking about desire, frequency and expectation.

Open, ongoing communication is key to building intimacy. 

The way we think about intimacy is often shaped by cultural messages, church teaching, or our upbringing.

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

Mismatched sex drives aren't the exception—they're the norm.

Instead of seeing it as a sign something's wrong, view it as an opportunity to communicate, show compassion, and navigate intimacy as a team.

The old script that ‘men want sex and women want romance' sells everyone short. You can crave both romance and intimacy, regardless of who in your marriage has the higher desire.

A thriving sex life isn't automatic—it's something you cultivate over time, through learning, honesty, and growth together.

Sometimes a gap in desire isn't about your relationship at all, but about real-life pressures.

There are times when speaking up isn't nagging—it's partnership. Express what you need, but do it out of love and with respect, seeking to connect and understand, not just correct.

 

Questions for Reflection:

  1. When was the last time you and your spouse had a conversation about frequency? 
  2. Do you feel comfortable telling your spouse what you need in regards to physical intimacy? 
  3. What’s one small step you could take this week to communicate more openly about your needs and create healthier intimacy together?

 

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How to Rekindle Intimacy & Guarding your Marriage from Emotional Affairs Ep. 69807 Oct 202500:17:17

What do you do when intimacy and connection in your marriage start to fade? How can you rekindle the spark, or better yet, keep it burning strong? In this episode, we talk about practical and biblical ways to nurture intimacy in all its forms. When you intentionally protect and prioritize closeness with your spouse, you not only build a marriage you truly enjoy, but you also guard your relationship against the dangers of emotional affairs.

 

Episode Highlights:

Identify the different types of intimacy shared within marriage.

The wholeness of your marriage matters.

All forms of intimacy must be invested in.

Boundaries keep your marriage protected. 

 

Quotes from this episode:

Your sex life is a thermometer, not a thermostat—it reflects the health of your relationship, but it can't set it.

 

When couples neglect emotional and spiritual intimacy, their physical relationship becomes hollow—a beautiful house with no foundation. Sooner or later, the cracks will show.

 

Without emotional intimacy, sex loses its power to truly bond you together. Without spiritual intimacy, you miss God's vision for marriage—a reflection of Christ and the Church.

 

If you wouldn't say, do, or share it with your spouse present, don't do it. That's your boundary—protect it fiercely.

 

If you have nothing to hide, living transparently should be easy—openness is the glue of trust in marriage.

 

Couple’s Conversation Guide:

  1. When you think about intimacy in your marriage, which type (physical, emotional, spiritual, or relational closeness) feels the strongest right now? Which could use more attention?

  2. How do you personally feel most connected to me—through words, actions, time together, or something else?
  3. What boundaries do we need to set (personally and as a couple) to guard our marriage against the threat of emotional affairs?

  4. What’s one thing you’d love for us to do together that would bring more joy, fun, or connection into our marriage?



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Reclaimed: The Story of Healing with Stephanie Boersma Ep. 69730 Sep 202501:01:42

I’m so thankful for this conversation with Stephanie Broersma about her brand-new resource: Reclaimed: A Course to Guide You Through Betrayal and Infidelity Trauma.

This powerful resource is designed for those walking through the trauma of betrayal, offering hope, healing, and a path forward. In our conversation, Stephanie shares how the course helps you stay connected to the Lord in the midst of grief, while also providing practical next steps and long-term rhythms to move toward restoration. She reminds us that your spouse’s decisions do not define your worth and that there is a real enemy fighting against both your marriage and your identity in Christ. If you’ve been hurting, this conversation will point you back to truth, hope, and healing.

 

Episode Highlights:

What fires together, wires together.

You have options when triggers begin to surface.

Triggers don’t equate to a lack of forgiveness.

There’s no need to rush. Give yourself time to get your emotions regulated before making a major decision.

Allow the Lord the space to work in the midst of the grief and in the midst of the stillness and heaviness.

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

Give yourself time to grieve and heal the right way. -Dr. Kim

God designed emotions to inform us about our world. They are not bad. They give us language to express what we are feeling.- Stephanie

Triggers point you to an experienced trauma in your life and then you have an option. You have a choice. What am I going to do with this trigger?-Stephanie

As you heal, the triggers become less damaging. -Dr. Kim

Sexual addiction, at its deepest level, is a spiritual issue. A disorder of worship, not to God but to self.- Stephanie

Healing does not happen in isolation. You are not meant to be alone in this journey.-Stephanie

Forgiveness is a posture of surrender that says, 'I can't fix him. I don't want to fix him.'- Stephanie

Your spouse does not define you or your future. As long as God leaves, as long as you get that breath, God's got a plan for you.- Dr. Kim

If you’re going to get healthy, there has to be boundaries in place. And they have to be consistent.- Dr. Kim

Hope chooses faith even in the mess.



Questions for Reflection:

  1. In what ways have you been tempted to let someone else’s choices define your worth, and how can you replace those lies with God’s truth about your identity?

  2. What is one practical rhythm you can begin this week to stay connected to the Lord as you process pain or grief?

  3. How can you recognize the enemy’s attempts to attack your marriage or identity, and what steps can you take to guard against them?



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Heart Rehab with Jerry Flowers: Breaking Patterns, Building Disciplines and Finding Your True Self 26 Sep 202500:54:42

This is such an incredible conversation to wrap up our Fridays in the Fall, Wider Lens series. Jerry Flowers is bringing encouragement about the patterns of your life and posture of your heart as we talk through his new book Heart Rehab: Finding the You God Created You to Be. Lean into the discomfort, create disciplines for preparedness, and surrender your need for control in order to step into your true calling as a son or daughter of the Lord Almighty. He loves you, he is for you, and we can trust him with our hearts!

 

Episode Highlights:

Stop blaming everyone else. Take time for self reflection. 

If we invite God in, He can use all seasons for our good and growth.

Intimacy with the Lord allows us to grow into the people God created us to be. 

Discipline and preparation go hand in hand. The more disciplined you are, the more prepared you are for what God has next. 

Culture influences us to mislabel our fears, thoughts and anxieties. Make sure you are labeling them correctly.

Strong core beliefs help us combat the lies of society and satan.



Quotes from Today’s Episode:

I recognize many times, our placement in life isn't just because of problems, it's because of patterns. -Jerry Flowers

Patterns reveal character. -Jerry Flowers

Patterns are one of the ushers to certain seasons. -Jerry Flowers

We want to blame the enemy, but we have to look at ourselves too. -Jerry Flowers

Be aware of the enemy, for sure. But I think sometimes that keeps us from taking responsibility for our part. -Jerry Flowers

It may not make sense right then, but later it’ll make sense. -Jerry Flowers

I see things that God put me through, before we got married, that helped me when I got married. -Dr. Kim

We want to be whole enough where the Lord can pour into us and we can pour back out.- Jerry Flowers

If you want results, you lean into discomfort.- Jerry Flowers

What changed for me is realizing that my mind can lie to me. -Jerry Flowers



A Wider Lens: Questions for Self Reflection

  1. Look at your daily life and identify one unhealthy pattern you’ve grown comfortable with.

  2. What one discipline could you start practicing to combat this pattern and prepare for what God has next?

  3. Identify an area of your life you haven’t fully surrendered to the Lord. Choose a Scripture verse to meditate on as you commit to trusting Him completely.

 

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Breaking Free from Cultural Captivity in Marriage with Dr. John West Ep. 69623 Sep 202501:08:46

In this episode, Dr. Kim and John West discuss “Stockholm Syndrome Christianity” and how cultural captivity can pull Christians away from biblical truth. They explore the impact of these influences on marriage, from weakened faithfulness to the generational effects of broken promises on children. The conversation highlights the need for intentionality in guarding our hearts, shaping our children’s worldview, and staying rooted in truth. Listeners will be encouraged to build marriages that mutually support, advocate, and thrive in a world that often pulls in the opposite direction.

 

Episode Highlights:

As believers, what we are consuming directly affects how boldly we live out our faith.

Too many believers aren’t prioritizing biblical truth and their relationships reflect their culture more than their faith.

The church has not been immune to cultural influences. 

Culture tells us that feelings trump biblical truth.

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

If you live your life oriented towards God's truth, it's designed for our flourishing.- John West

Every spouse needs to be their partner's biggest advocate.- John West

The impact on kids from broken marriages is traumatic. - John West

If you have a certain feeling, you don't have to act it out. - John West

If you're listening to a never-ending stream of lies, you're going to become very reticent about speaking up or living based on your Christian beliefs.- John West

What I saw in the christian community is a lot of christians being culturally captive. - John West

If you’re a christian, especially in industries, you spend a lot of your life around cultural captors. 

Many christians have adopted this secular view that sex isn’t to be reserved for marriage.- John West

If you have a diet in your entertainment consumption for you and your kids, that everyone’s doing it- it’s normalized, it’s going to affect how you live. -John West

It’s really important to be in the world, not of the world. -Dr. Kim

You need to be wise enough and intentional enough to know that putting that stuff inside of you is going to have an impact- and impact your kids.- John West

The number 1 thing is you need to ask yourself- who is really raising your kids?

Couples’ Conversation Guide:

As you reflect on your marriage relationship, where do you see culture influencing you the most?

Are there biblical truths you’ve found harder to live out in today’s world? Why?

Do you believe there are any “outdated” parts of the Bible?

Who or what has the largest influence on your marriage?

Who or what has the largest influence on your children?



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Don't Bench Yourself with Kent Evans19 Sep 202501:06:16

Today we’re diving into Kent’s brand-new book, Don’t Bench Yourself. In it, Kent challenges readers to take an honest look at their lives, at the opportunities they might be missing, the risks they’re avoiding, and the goals left sitting on the table. His message is clear: it’s time to get off the bench and stay in the game. Whether it’s in your career, your marriage, or your parenting journey, you can’t afford to sit on the sidelines. This book will inspire you to move past fear, let go of shame, and trust God’s perfect timing as you keep pressing forward.

 

Episode Highlights:

What is slow quitting?

Fear paralyzes us from stepping into deeper connections. 

Shame kicks in when we try and fail and then we believe the lie that it’ll never get better than this.

Criticism can inhibit someone’s desire to continue pressing forward.

Motivation can decrease when we don’t see quick results.

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

For some of us, what we need to see with our eyes of faith, is a life lived and ended in faith. - Kent Evans

You pull yourself out of the game because you think you no longer qualify to play. - Kent Evans

We get impatient with God so we quit. We draw ourselves out of the game. -Kent Evans

Fear is causing you to be stuck. - Dr. Kim

One of the fastest ways out of a problem is clearly labeling the problem. - Kent Evans

It’s so much easier to point the finger, but yet it doesn’t resolve anything. -Dr. Kim

We have a tendency as guys, when things aren't going well, we have a tendency to withdraw. -Dr. Kim

A big temptation for me is to spend time and energy where there is a really clear report card, a really clear measurable level of success. - Kent Evans

We so desperately want to measure growth and success. However, some of the best things in life can’t be measured. - Kent Evans

We have a tendency to go where we are being affirmed and people think we’re great. - Dr. Kim



A Wider Lens: Questions for Self Reflection

In 12 months how do you want your relationship with your husband or wife to be better?

In 12 months how do you want your relationship with your children to be better?

Name one part of your life where failure kept you from trying again. 

Now that you’ve named it- go try again!



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One-Sided Love: How to Fight for Your Marriage When Your Spouse Won’t Ep. 69516 Sep 202500:29:46

Nancy and I are back together to discuss a topic that frequently shows up in our inbox: one-sided marriages. These are spouses who reach out because, even in the midst of disconnect and hurt, they still desire a healthy, God-honoring marriage, but feel like they’re the only one who cares or the only one willing to put in the work. How do you reconcile and reconnect? That’s the focus of our conversation today. I’m praying this episode encourages those who feel alone and offers hope and next steps for fighting for your marriage.

 

Episode Highlights:

Love like Christ without enabling.

Communicate with curiosity, not accusation.

Persevere in prayer and faithful action.

Seek God’s glory above all else

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

Fighting for your marriage as a Christian means pursuing Christ-like love even when it's not reciprocated

This isn't about becoming a doormat or enabling destructive behavior, but rather embodying the gospel in your relationship.

Approach with curiosity rather than accusation: "I've noticed you seem really tired lately. How can I support you?"

 Continue showing love through actions without demanding emotional reciprocation.

Don't take the bait to defend yourself constantly or prove your spouse wrong—this keeps you stuck in an unhealthy cycle.

But remember, you can't force insight or repentance—that's between them and God.

Humility doesn't mean accepting mistreatment or pretending everything is fine.

Your humble confidence in who God created you to be can actually challenge your spouse to rise up rather than settle.

Standing in the gap means interceding in prayer, maintaining hope when your spouse has lost it, and continuing to live out your marriage vows even when they're not.

The goal is always God's glory and following His heart, which deeply desires reconciliation. 

Couples’ Conversation Guide:

How connected do you feel to your spouse on a scale of 1-10?

Do you feel like you are trying to shoulder the burden of your marriage alone?

Are there unhealthy patterns in your marriage that need to be addressed? 

Are there areas of your marriage that you’ve settled for mediocrity or disconnect? 

 

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Addiction, Sanctification, and the God Who Heals: Wider Lens with Jonathon M. Seidl12 Sep 202500:59:03

It's week two of Wider Lens. This week, Jonathon shares his story of recognizing his addiction, confronting the root causes beneath it, and finding freedom through Christ. From misordered priorities to the hidden struggles many Christians face, this conversation explores recovery, sanctification, and the hope that healing is possible. We are praying that this episode encourages you to reflect, reprioritize and hold tightly to the hope of Jesus!

 

Episode Highlights:

Understanding addiction as a spectrum allows for earlier intervention and support.

Acknowledging one's addiction is the first step towards healing and transformation.

True recovery requires deep honesty and accountability beyond surface-level admissions.

Embracing those with messy sanctification stories fosters healing and growth.

 Identifying and correcting disordered priorities is crucial for recovery.



Quotes from Today’s Episode:

Part of what kept me in a disordered relationship with alcohol is what the devil uses “I don’t look or act like what I think an alcoholic looks like.” - J. Seidl

Radical vulnerability, when you start practicing it, it's contagious and the devil hates it. -J. Seidl

Anything that is misordered is disordered.-J. Seidl

The mommy wine juice culture, mommy needs this to be mommy, right? It's become accepted.-J. Seidl

I finally was able to stop drinking when I stopped trying to stop drinking. When I shot for Jesus, I got sobriety thrown in.-J. Seidl

If you don’t get to the root of those, it’s just going to be something else. -J. Seidl

Jesus is always going to meet us there. He's not going to let us down.- Dr. Kim

I was ultimately addicted to escapism. -J. Seidl

The muscle memory was forged and formed at a very young age. -J. Seidl





A Wider Lens: Questions for Self Reflection

What habits or priorities in my life might be “good things” that I’ve elevated above God, and how are they shaping my heart?

Where might I be numbing pain or avoiding deeper heart work instead of bringing it honestly before the Lord?

What step of accountability, surrender, or fellowship could I take this week to move closer to freedom and wholeness in Christ?



Mentioned in this Episode:

  • Dr. Kim is on Substack. Dr. Kim goes broader than just marriage. You can get wisdom, personal stories, and godly encouragement from him weekly. Sign up today!

 

Our Marriage is Struggling, But My Spouse Thinks Everything’s Fine Ep. 69409 Sep 202500:17:39

Every marriage goes through seasons where spouses see the health of their relationship differently. Our unique physical needs, emotional capacities, and family backgrounds shape the expectations we bring into marriage and the ways we handle conflict. If you’re in a season where you feel unheard or disconnected, this episode offers practical ways to pursue your spouse, tools for having the hard conversations, and encouragement to take ownership of your part in the struggle. Most importantly, it will remind you that God cares deeply about you and your marriage, and you can trust Him to guide and protect it.

 

Episode Highlights:

  • Each spouse has different emotional needs and brings different emotional baggage into a marriage. 
  • It’s important to approach the content spouse with grace.
  • Men and women have different relational needs. 
  • Just because you don’t talk about, or acknowledge issues, doesn’t mean they will just go away.
  • Even if you feel lonely and isolated and unheard in your marriage, you can trust the Lord with your heart. 

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

Some people have a higher tolerance for dysfunction or distance in relationships.

Couples may be sharing responsibilities without sharing their hearts.

Sometimes the content spouse is suppressing their emotions. 

Acknowledging your part opens up the door for real conversation.

It’s ok to feel angry or frustrated, but don’t let that cause you to sin.

You're responsible for learning to manage your emotions.

A healthy marriage requires two people who are both willing to grow.

Timing and approach are everything.

Scripture should be a guide not a weapon. 

 

Couples’ Conversation Guide:

  1. How do you rate the health of your marriage right now? What do you think your spouse would rate your marriage? (If you don’t know, ask them!)
  2. How safe do you feel to be vulnerable in your marriage?  What do you think your spouse would rate how safe they feel in your marriage? (If you don’t know, ask them!)
  3. How can you show your spouse that their feelings matter to you, even when you don’t understand them?
  4. Can you identify an unhealthy pattern or rhythm in your marriage? What one positive step can you take toward changing that pattern or rhythm together?

This week’s challenge: Write your spouse a letter and share something you’ve had a hard time communicating in the past.



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How God is For You When All Seems Against You-Rich Lessons from the Life of Jesus with Joshua Ryan Butler05 Sep 202500:57:57

The next four Fridays I’m getting the opportunity to go a little broader than the topic of marriage and interview some incredible men who are authors, leaders, and strong men of faith. To kick it off, we are interviewing Mr. Joshua Ryan Butler to discuss his new book. God is on Your Side: How Jesus is for You When Everything Seems Against You. 

In this episode, we explore what it really means to receive from Jesus instead of striving on our own. From the healing at the pool in John 5 to the picture of Barabbas’ pardon, we talk about how the gospel frees us from self-sufficiency, restores us in our failures, and feeds us when we feel empty. Together we wrestle with why we resist His help, how to cultivate spiritual hunger in a distracted world, and what it looks like to let Jesus shepherd us through shame, wounds, and wilderness seasons. It’s my prayer that this episode encourages you to believe God is on your side.

 

Episode Highlights:

The Lord’s love is a freely given love.

Earthly relationships may feel transactional, but God offers freedom from the burden of that.

Our God is accessible and He wants to redeem the broken parts of our lives. 

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"God is on your side, particularly when it most feels like life is against you." - Josh Ryan Butler

"Before I called you to use you, I called you to love you." - Josh Ryan Butler

"In the darkest moments, I found God ministering to me through His word and Spirit." - Josh Ryan Butler

"Jesus calls himself the bread of life, and the only requirement to come is that you're hungry and thirsty." - Josh Ryan Butler

"Our deepest hunger is meant to drive us towards God first and foremost." - Josh Ryan Butler

"God's no to our sin is embedded within His bigger yes to who we are created to be." - Josh Ryan Butler

We live in a culture where everybody is rewarded for what they do, and it's hard to believe that God just loves us." - Dr. Kim

"It's almost like it's too good to be true, but it is true." - Dr. Kim

Go Deeper:

  1. Are there parts of your life or your heart you feel like you need to keep hidden from the Lord?

  2. When’s the last time you felt lonely or alone?

  3. Are there places in your life you’re denying restoration because you’re stuck in the cycle of shame?

 

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Everything is Never Enough with Bobby Jamieson Ep. 69302 Sep 202500:43:22

Are you truly satisfied, or always chasing more? This week we sit down with author Bobby Jamieson to talk about his book Everything Is Never Enough and the wisdom of Ecclesiastes. We’ll unpack why your spouse can’t be your joy, your job can’t be your purpose, and your family can’t give ultimate meaning. Real joy comes only from God; the giver, sustainer, and comforter. Anything else leaves us empty. Our hope is this conversation points you back to the only source who satisfies.

 

Episode Highlights:

  • We are searching the world for a satisfaction that only comes from Him.

  • It’s a crushing weight to expect our spouse to meet needs that only the Lord can meet.

  • Desiring happiness and trying to create it will never work. 

  • A life of ease doesn’t equal a life of joy. 

  • Marriage is a gift to be nurtured. It’s daily decisions to care for, to provide for, to invest in your marriage. 

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

  1. Happiness is a byproduct. If you just try to chase happiness directly, you're not really gonna get it.

  2. The world leaves us wanting.

  3. That eternity in our hearts is ultimately a longing for God. Only He can satisfy.

  4. Only He can fill our hearts.

  5. We are often tempted to seek that total good from our spouse.

  6. If you bring that expectation to your husband or wife, you will crush them.

  7. A lot of the joy of marriage arises as your laboring, as your communicating, as your toiling together. 

  8. If you view all of life as a gift of God then you can give up that need for control.

  9. Marriage a whole lot of daily little kindnesses. 

Couples’ Conversation Guide:

  1. When’s the last time you thanked God for your spouse? 

  2. Where do you find it difficult to enjoy your “lot”?

  3. When you consider your spouse, do you consider the fact they are a “gift” from the Lord? 

  4. What’s one way you can serve your spouse today?

 

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Help! My Spouse is Married to Their Job Ep. 69226 Aug 202500:17:01

Is your spouse married to their job, or are you? In today’s episode, we’re talking about what happens when work takes priority over marriage and how couples can recognize the signs before it causes lasting damage. Let’s talk about why this is such a common struggle, what Scripture says about balancing work and marriage, and how to reconnect when work has created distance. If you’re feeling like your relationship is playing second to a career, this one’s for you. Let’s dive in.

 

Episode Highlights:

God gave us ambition and talents for a reason.

Work balance in marriage is a common struggle.

We tried to look at struggles as growth opportunities instead of failures

Society adds to the pressure we feel to pursue success first.

If conversations become logistical or date nights become extinct you may be prioritizing work over your marriage.

There’s a biblical order, that when we get that order right, everything else finds its proper place.

Prayer reminds us who our work is truly for.



Quotes from Today’s Episode:

  • The issue is when our ambition becomes our identity. When we believe our value comes from our next promotion.

  • We are sacrificing our family for our ego.

  • Our culture has us believe rest is laziness.

  • Providing isn’t just about money. Your spouse needs your presence, your attention, and your emotional availability.

  • Scripture makes it clear that work is good. We are created in the image of a working God. Bu work has its place in the greater order, and that place isn’t first..

  • Rest and relationship are sacred.

  • Boundaries aren’t restrictions. They are protections.

  • Create rituals that prioritize connections.

  • Our ultimate provision isn’t in our performance, it’s in God’s faithfulness.

  • See what happens when you’re physically forced to be present with one another.

 

Couples’ Conversation Guide:

  1. What one daily ritual can you begin this week to show your spouse and your marriage the energy it deserves. (coffee in the morning, lunch time phone call, prayer in the evening, etc.)

  2. When you hear the word “boundaries” do you automatically feel restricted? How can we implement some boundaries that feel like protection instead? 

  3. Does our calendar reflect our heart for keeping our marriage first? If not, where can you begin to say “no” so that you can say “yes” to your marriage?

  4. What are some physical distractions we can remove during our time together? 

 

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How to Speak to Your Husband when All You Want to Do is Yell at Him with Ann and Dave Wilson Ep. 69119 Aug 202500:57:34

Joining me today are Dave and Ann Wilson who have written a brand new book about what it looks like to speak life into our marriages; not just with the words we say, but also in the thoughts we choose to dwell on. We’ll talk about why trying to be your spouse’s Holy Spirit never works, why kindness is actually one of the most rebellious things we can do in today’s world, and how reframing our inner dialogue can change the way we manage conflict.

Whether you’ve been shouting to be heard, or quietly holding back the pain of unspoken expectations, today’s conversation will offer biblical wisdom, practical tools, and fresh hope for building a marriage that reflects Christ’s love. We pray this episode encourages you!




Episode Highlights:

 

How you approach the conversation matters. 

 

Hope and joy can only be in the Lord.

 

Your words have the power to build up or tear down your spouse.

 

Gratitude for your spouse can change your perspective of your spouse.

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

Men go where they're affirmed. They go there. - Dave Wilson

I realize like when I'm in the Word, I look at things different. I look at the world different. I look at Dave different. And it started, God's Word started to change me. - Ann Wilson

But there's something that's really holy about seeing greatness in a person and being able to communicate it in some way. - Ann Wilson

I had put all my hopes and dreams in Dave. I'd taken them off of Jesus and I was like, you could make me happy. And it's easy to get into that rut of like, if you would just do X, Y, Z, I could be more content. - Ann Wilson

God’s given us to each other to sharpen one another- Dave Wilson

Speak life to your husband. Bring him back to be the man God created him to be. 

We can help shape how our husbands and how our kids feel about themselves, but we have to first connect with Jesus. - Ann Wilson

What good does it do to only think of the negative?

You can’t say everything you feel!



Couples’ Conversation Guide:

  1. How do we typically approach hard conversations with each other—and what could we do to make those moments feel safer and more affirming?

  2. Have we unintentionally placed our hope or happiness in each other instead of in God? What would it look like to shift that back to Jesus as our source of joy?

  3. What is one thing I genuinely admire or am grateful for in you that I may not say often enough? How can we be more intentional about calling out the good in each other?

 

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Forgiveness and Grace in Daily Life with Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy Ep. 69012 Aug 202500:30:27

Welcome back to the podcast, Nancy is joining me again today. These have become some of my favorite episodes, getting to do this with her!  Today we’re talking about something every marriage needs, and that's forgiveness and grace. We know that even in the best marriages, we hurt each other, sometimes in small ways, sometimes in big ways. The question isn’t if we’ll need to forgive, but how we can forgive well, and extend grace like God extends grace to us. Our prayer is that this is relatable and encouraging, but also that it inspires you to evaluate the opportunities you have every day to extend grace and forgiveness to your spouse.

 

Episode Highlights:

  • It’s important to acknowledge where you are storing up resentment.
  • Forgiveness is key in the big things, but even more important in the little nuances of life. 
  • Marriage isn’t a game to keep score.
  • When you know what a great sacrifice our Savior made, you’re able to come before Him and allow His forgiveness to pour through you onto our spouse.
  • Both spouses must own their part of the conflict. 

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

It’s easy to get in the habit of score keeping.

We have opportunities every day to forgive.

If it's a big deal I need to address it, if it’s not then I need to let it go.

Your marriage is so much happier if you don’t let something derail you.

This is our marriage, we have to figure out what works for us.

When you forgive, it doesn’t make the sin okay. 

The Holy Spirit has the job of conviction, it’s not my job. 



Couples’ Conversation Guide:

  1. Where in our marriage might we be unintentionally "keeping score”?
  2. In what areas do you find it difficult to extend grace? How can we shift our mindset?
  3. How can we better reflect God’s forgiveness towards us in the way we respond to each other’s mistakes

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

 

The Fight for Us with Rebekah and Gabe Lyons Ep. 68905 Aug 202500:51:17

Today on the Awesome Marriage podcast, Dr. Kim is joined by Gabe and Rebekah Lyons to discuss their latest book The Fight for Us. Through 28 years of marriage, they realized as time went on that each of them brought their own differing perspectives, expectations, and emotional maturity to the marriage. The one common thread to connecting through all the differences is and will always be clear and effective communication. It will take a fight and it will take intentionality, but your marriage will thrive and it will absolutely be worth it. We are praying this episode encourages you to keep fighting for your marriage.

 

Episode Highlights:

Husbands and wives are going to bring different levels of emotional maturity into the marriage.

Don’t make an agreement with the idea of “it is what it is.” 

It will take daily, intentional effort to give your marriage the nurturing it needs.

Effective communication is at the cornerstone of a strong marriage.

Differing expectations aren’t bad, they’re different. 



Quotes from Today’s Episode:

  • I want to normalize the fact that, yeah, there's conflict in marriage, but the bigger part is the repair and staying together and fighting for each other.

 

  • A wife or a husband is a mirror and you're going to see parts of yourself that are not healed, that are not whole.

 

  • We're all longing to be seen and known and loved fully in the absence of shame. And women are going to just keep hunting that down until they find it. 

 

  • You're not healing unless you're talking.

 

  • It’s not that it’s right or wrong- it’s different.

 

  • Sin separates, it's the whole goal of sin is to separate and break relationship. 

 

  • We need to be all in. 

 

Couples’ Conversation Guide:

Have you resolved to believe the lie that it is what it is?

Are you giving your spouse space to share their emotions, free from shame and judgement? 

On a scale of 1-10 how intentional are you being right now in fighting for your marriage?

What is one practical thing from today’s episode that you can begin implementing in your marriage to aid in the fight for an awesome marriage?

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

 

Crushing Chaos: God’s Design for Order in Marriage with Manny Arango Ep 68829 Jul 202500:58:23

What if the chaos in your life and marriage isn’t random, but the result of living out of sync with God’s divine order? In this powerful episode, Dr. Kim welcomes pastor, author, and Bible teacher Manny Arango to the show for the first time. Drawing from his book Crushing Chaos, Manny shares how God brings peace by establishing order and how that same truth can transform our marriages. From understanding “Sequence, Authority, Rhythm” to identifying the chaos we invite into our homes, this conversation is full of practical wisdom and biblical depth. Whether you're navigating stress, disconnection, or just longing for more peace at home, this episode will help you move toward order, unity, and rest.

 

Episode Highlights:

God’s first works calm the chaos.

Understanding God’s context changes the way we read the Bible.

God is an expert at not just blessing people with peace, but giving people order.

We can’t make lasting decisions in our marriage based on a temporary rhythm.

Boundaries are necessary for proper order.

 

Quotes from Today's Episode:

Alot of times we are really good at knowing what the Bible says, but not good at knowing what the Bible means. 

He takes our lives which are naturally chaotic and dysfunctional and God begins to create order. 

Most people think the opposite of chaos is peace, but the reality is the opposite of chaos is order. 

Life is full of rhythm. You can’t fight against the rhythm of life. 

God does healthy, biblically inspired boundaries. 

Your feelings aren’t a good indicator of whether or not something is godly or biblical.

The Word of God has to have preeminence. 

 

Couples’ Conversation Guide:

  1. Where might we be living out of sync with God’s order in our marriage or home?

  2. How do we define peace in our marriage? Do you feel like it is based on emotions or God’s order?

  3. What boundaries might we need to set to protect the rhythm and health of our relationship?

 

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Help! My Spouse’s Coworker Is a Problem Ep. 68722 Jul 202500:30:47

In this episode, Dr. Kim opens up about how workplace relationships, especially dealing with negative and/or flirtatious coworkers, can impact marriage. He encourages couples to recognize these concerns, lean on biblical truth, and take intentional, practical steps to protect and strengthen their relationship. This episode reminds us of the power of open communication, the importance of setting healthy boundaries, and the hope we can find in trusting God through every season of marriage.

 

Episode Highlights:

  • Concern about coworkers is a valid issue in marriages.

  • Bad company can corrupt good character, as warned in scripture.

  • It's essential to communicate concerns with love and honesty.

  • Praying for wisdom and protection is crucial in navigating these situations.

  • Strengthening the marriage bond is the best defense against outside influences.

  • Being a positive influence in your spouse's life can counteract negative coworkers.

  • Setting healthy boundaries for workplace relationships is necessary.

  • Knowing when to step back and trust God is important.

  • Focus on building a positive atmosphere at home.

  • Each person is responsible for their own choices before God.

  • 24/7 365 Foreplay

 

Quotes from this Episode:

Walk with the wise and become wise.

The company we keep matters.

Addressing the situation requires discernment not knee jerk reactions.

Even in marriage, where two become one flesh, each person remains an individual.

A spouse is to be respected.

Communicate with love and honesty.

Sometimes the most effective communication comes through questions rather than direct confrontation.

The most important thing Nancy and I have done in our marriage is prayer daily.

Be that uplifting thing that your spouse needs. 

Know when to step back. 

Anytime we are in a situation where we could compromise our relationship with our spouse we have to run. 

Workplace relationships are significant but they aren’t all powerful.

 

Couple's Conversation Guide:

  1. Are there relationships at your workplace that are taking time or emotional energy away from your connection with your spouse? How can you set healthy boundaries?

  2. Do any coworkers influence your attitudes or behaviors in ways that conflict with the values you and your spouse have established for your marriage and home?

  3. How can your faith guide you in responding to difficult or questionable coworkers while maintaining peace and integrity?

  4. What steps can you take to protect your marriage from workplace stress and distractions, ensuring your spouse remains your first priority?

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

  • Find Dr. Kim on Instagram

  • If you strengthen your marriage at home, the affects of work will lessen! Keeping marriage fun means date night can’t be boring. Check out our Date Night Boosters. Reignite the fun and intimacy in your date nights with your spouse.

  • Awesome Marriage swag is now LIVE! Grab a gift for you, your spouse or another couple. There’s something for everyone. 

 

Marriage, Ministry & the Mess: God in Every Season with Amie Seiffert Ep. 68615 Jul 202500:48:11

In this episode of the Awesome Marriage Podcast, Dr. Kim sits down with special guest Amie Seiffert, author, speaker, and pastor, for a rich and real conversation about enjoying and engaging with God in every season. Amie shares her journey of faith and the ups and downs of pursuing her calling while raising a family. Together, they unpack the beauty of grace, the power of humor, and the comfort found in Scripture during life’s hardest seasons. Whether you’re navigating parenting, ministry, or marriage, this episode will remind you that God is present in every season.

Episode Highlights:

  • Grace is a central theme in ministry and relationships.
  • Find opportunities to laugh together.
  • Seasons of life are temporary and ever-changing.

 

Quotes from this Episode:

This for now is not forever.

We are held by grace. 

Humor is such a way to bring things back down to earth.

I don’t want to live offended.

We have buzz words that bring each other back to reality.

If I feel overwhelmed, I learned this at therapy, I will give a number on a scale of 1-10.

It’s hard to say you need help, but it’s rewarding.

 

Couple’s Conversation Guide:

  1. How do you think grace shows up in our marriage—and where could we use more of it?

  2. Amie talked about humor being important in marriage—what are some ways we could be more intentional about laughing together?

  3. What does open communication look like for us during stressful or busy seasons? Do we need to make changes?

  4. Have you ever struggled with self-doubt in your calling or role in our family? How can I better support you in those moments?

  5. What season of life are we in right now, and how can we stay grounded in God while walking through it together?

  6. How can we better support one another in balancing our individual callings with our family life?

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

 

Built to Last: What Makes (or Breaks) a Thriving Marriage08 Jul 202500:36:34

Just when you thought you couldn’t love Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy more—this episode takes things to a whole new level. With honesty and heart, they open up about the real journey of their marriage—sharing the intentional choices, tough seasons, and deep faith that carried them through. From early challenges that could have pulled them apart to the daily decisions that drew them closer, their story reflects what’s possible when a couple chooses to build on the foundation of Christ. Their marriage is both relatable and inspiring—a powerful reminder that when God is kept first, a marriage doesn’t just survive—it thrives.

Episode Highlights:

Intentionality is key.

Marriages won't thrive naturally.

Taking ownership and openly communicating are important tools for successful marriages.

 

Quotes from this Episode:

Don’t be negative. 

I think we were in lust not in love.

I think we had to build true love in our marriage.

We’ve learned to build bit by bit.

I thought if I loved you enough everything was going to be ok.

Until you realize how much God loves you as a person you aren’t truly free to love another person.

Divorce isn’t a word in our vocabulary anymore, commitment is!

We realize now what we were missing.

Just getting married doesn’t mean you won’t feel alone. 

 

Questions for Conversation:

  1. What part of Dr. Kim and Nancy’s story felt most relatable or surprising to you? Why?

  2. Have you ever assumed love alone would be enough to fix everything? How has your view of love and commitment changed over time?

  3. Have there been moments where one (or both) of you felt alone in your marriage? What helped reconnect you—or what could help now?

  4. Is “divorce” or emotional withdrawal ever subtly present as an option in your mindset or language? What does it look like to choose commitment every day?

  5. How can you better prioritize keeping God first in your marriage this week?

  6. What’s one thing you want to be intentional about after listening to this episode—together or individually?

 

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Keeping Your Spouse First and Your Marriage Fun with Arlene Pellicane01 Jul 202500:50:13

This is the perfect episode to kick off July, as this month at Awesome Marriage we’re highlighting the importance of dating your spouse. Arlene Pellicane joins me in the studio to talk about keeping your spouse first and your marriage fun! But what does that actually look like? In the midst of life’s demands, Arlene shares practical tips and loads of wisdom to help you keep investing in your marriage and enjoying your spouse. We pray this episode encourages your marriage.

Episode Takeaways:

  • Marriage and parenting are common pain points for many people.

  • The divorce rate is down, but so is the marriage rate.

  • Men are marrying later and less frequently than in the past.

  • Gray divorce is on the rise, with more older couples divorcing.

  • Couples often stay together for the kids but drift apart afterward.

  • Awareness of vulnerability in marriage is crucial.

  • Gratitude can transform how you view your spouse.

  • Serving your spouse should be unconditional, regardless of their actions.

  • Fun is essential in maintaining a healthy marriage.

  • Finding common interests can strengthen the bond between spouses. Be creative in finding fun activities together.

  • Family meals are essential for daily connection.

  • Prioritizing your spouse can enhance the marriage.

  • It's important to forgive quickly in a marriage.

  • Express gratitude for your spouse regularly.

  • Shared experiences create lasting memories.

  • Nurturing the marriage benefits the entire family.

  • Every day together is a gift to cherish.

  • The book 'Making Marriage Easier' offers practical insights.

 

Quotes from this Episode:

  • "It's never too late to turn that around."

  • "We want to avoid drifting apart."

  • "Play by God's rules in your marriage."

  • "Who can out-serve the other?"

  • "I will try it, even if I'm not good at it."

  • "What can we do all together?"

  • "You don't have to do it like everyone else."

  • "It blesses your kids."

  • "Every day is a gift that we have together."

 

Questions for Conversation:

  1. What practical steps can you take this week to put your marriage first, even amidst busy schedules and family demands?

  2. How can you create more opportunities for fun and laughter with your spouse, making your relationship a joyful priority?

  3. In what ways can prioritizing your spouse help you both feel more connected and valued in your daily life?

  4. What new or creative activities can you plan together to bring more excitement and shared enjoyment into your marriage?

 

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Closer Still: Deepening Your Friendship with God with Special Guest, Faith Eury Cho Ep. 68324 Jun 202500:39:47

What does it really mean to be friends with God—and how can that friendship fill our lives with lasting joy? In this uplifting episode, we talk with Faith about how intimacy with God shifts our desires, strengthens our faith, and sustains us through hardship. We also explore how to take that next step into deeper friendship with Him, and what it practically looks like to live each day knowing God as both Father and Friend. Plus, don’t miss details on our journal giveaway over on Instagram @awesome_marriage!

Episode Highlights:

  • Friendship with God sparks joy in our lives.

  • Joy is referenced over 400 times in scripture.

  • Our default mode is to find joy in God's presence.

  • Joy is not just a moment but a continuous state.

  • The fall of humankind began when joy was sought outside of God.

  • Joy is deeper than happiness; it encompasses peace and confidence.

  • Every season of life has its own joy to discover.

  • Jesus is the source of our completion and joy. Enjoying the Holy Spirit alters your desires.

  • Acknowledging God in daily life fosters intimacy.

  • Practicing the presence of God can be done in all activities.

  • Friendship with God is accessible through salvation.

Questions for Reflection:

  • How would you describe your current friendship with God?
  • What moments in your life have made you feel closest to God? What did those times have in common?
  • What spiritual disciplines or habits help you feel more connected to God on a daily basis?
  • Are there any areas where you feel distant from God right now? What might be contributing to that?
  • Are there any distractions or habits you might need to let go of to prioritize friendship with God?

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

  • "We can be friends with God."

  • "Jesus is where my completion is."

  • "He does the heart work."

  • "Acknowledge Him in all your ways."

  • "God's got answers for all of us."


Mentioned in this Episode:

Help! My Spouse Can’t Leave Work at Work17 Jun 202500:34:25

In today’s episode, we explore how constant connectivity and work stress can quietly invade our marriages. When work becomes all-consuming, it can turn into an idol and create emotional distance between spouses. We discuss why learning to leave work at work is a spiritual discipline and how true support means walking alongside your spouse, not having all the answers. You’ll hear practical wisdom on setting boundaries together, sharing burdens, and seeking counsel early. Marriage is about more than success—it’s about not facing struggles alone.

 

Episode Highlights: 

  • Technology has blurred our boundaries between work and home. 
  • Learning to leave work at work is a spiritual discipline.
  • Being supportive doesn’t mean you have to all the answers- it means you’re walking alongside your spouse.
  • The pace of modern culture doesn’t allow proper mental closure.

 

Quotes from Today’s Episodes:

  • A lot of people in the workplace feel the expectation to be available 24/7/365
  • Work problems begin to feel like personal problems- like they need immediate attention.
  • Our ultimate identity is not in our professional performance. 
  • Work stress can be like an invisible third person in your marriage.
  • When work becomes all consuming it shifts into an idol.
  • Our marriages are about something bigger than career success.
  • Marriage is about sharing burdens- not just the good stuff. 
  • Trying to handle stress alone creates distance in the marriage.
  • There’s something spiritually significant about not facing struggles alone. 
  • The most effective boundaries are the ones you create together.
  • They need to know your concern comes from a place of care not criticism.
  • The earlier you involve wise counsel the more effectively you can address issues before they become entrenched patterns. 



Questions for Discussion:

  • Do you currently have any transitional rituals in place? If not, what rituals can the two of you agree to implement? 
  • Do you currently implement any device free times/ zones?
  • Are you using technology to connect with your spouse in healthy ways? (encouraging text, midday phone call)

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

Faithful Fatherhood: Leading with Love in a Culture of Chaos Ep. 68110 Jun 202500:58:42

In this special Father’s Day edition of the podcast, I’m joined by my good friend Larry Hagner. While we’re focusing on fatherhood, this episode is packed with wisdom for every married couple. From building a stronger marriage, to deepening your connection with your kids, to taking care of your own well-being—Larry shares wisdom that every family can benefit from.

 

Episode Highlights:

  • Community and support are essential for fathers.

  • The relationship between husband and father roles is interconnected.

  • Children learn about relationships from their parents' marriage.

  • Legacy is built through the relationships we model.

  • Seeking help and resources is a sign of strength.

  •  Intimacy is rooted in emotional connection.

  • Understanding your partner's needs is crucial for intimacy.

  • Sex is a celebration of a strong emotional bond.

  • Being a spiritual leader starts with self-leadership.

  • Proactive planning can enhance relationships.

  • Navigating modern parenting requires open communication.

  • It's okay not to have all the answers as a parent.

  • Learning together with your children strengthens bonds.

 

Questions for Reflection:

  1. Which cultural pressures do we feel most as parents right now, and how can we support each other in responding to them with biblical wisdom?

  2. Are there ways we’ve let parenting take priority over our marriage lately? What small changes could help us reconnect more intentionally as a couple?

  3. How do we currently approach discipline and spiritual formation—are we united in our values, and where might we need better alignment or communication?

  4. What habits could we build into our week to stay emotionally and spiritually connected—not just as parents, but as husband and wife?
  5. What specific Scriptures or practices can help you stay rooted as a father (parent)?

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode: 

  • "It's important to show children how to love well."

  • "Creating a strong family foundation is essential."

  • "I want to feel connected to her. I love her."

  • "What we plan for, we can execute."

  • "We can't put our head in the sand."

 

Mentioned in this episode:

 

Unvoiced Expectations: How to put a Name to What you Need Ep. 68003 Jun 202500:28:46

In this week’s episode, Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy unpack the powerful topic of expectations—focusing on how to clearly express what you need from your spouse. With honest conversation, a willingness to listen, and an open heart, you can transform how you communicate and connect in your relationship.

 

Quotes from this episode:

“I just thought you knew. And when you didn’t I would go along and get resentful”

“We were trying to fit each other in the mold.” 

“Our first big argument scared the heck out of me. My unrealistic expectation was that we would never fight.” 

“It’s a good idea to have a signal or cue so that you make your spouse aware.” 



Questions for Reflection:

What are some expectations—spoken or unspoken—that we each bring into our marriage, and how well do we feel they’ve been understood by each other?

When was a time we misunderstood one another because expectations weren’t clearly communicated? What can we learn from that moment?

How can we create more space in our relationship for honest, judgment-free conversations about what we each need or hope for?

What’s one expectation we can both express more clearly this week—and how can we support each other in meeting it with love and grace?

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

 

  • When you’re frustrated, it’s easy to let words fly out of your mouth. Our new FREE resource: 17 Unintentionally Disrespectful Phrases To Cut Out When Speaking To Your Spouse will help couples choose words that bring life instead of cause chaos.

  • Awesome Marriage has a great Premarital course to help couples have important conversations before their big day. Communicate expectations effectively and be proactive in learning your future spouse with this great course. Already married? Share this course with a couple who’s looking forward to their big day.

Dr. Kim: Increasing Marital Satisfaction in a World That's Never Satisfied Ep. 67927 May 202500:21:03

In today’s episode, we’re diving into a powerful truth: the health of your marriage often comes down to what you choose to focus on. It’s easy to fixate on what’s not working, letting small annoyances grow into mountains of frustration. But what if the key to deeper connection and lasting joy is found in a simple but radical posture—gratitude?

We’ll explore how contentment isn’t resignation, but an intentional choice to see the blessings amidst the imperfections. You’ll hear honest reflections on prioritizing your spouse, the life-giving role of quality time, and how to navigate conflict in ways that build satisfaction, not resentment. Whether you're newly married or decades in, this conversation is a fresh reminder that gratitude, not settling, is the foundation of a thriving Christian marriage.

 

Episode highlights:

Feeling content in marriage is different from settling.

There’s a way to work through conflict that makes both spouses feel more satisfied.

Healthy conflict resolution is one of the strongest predictors of marriage satisfaction. 

Silent discontentment leads to resentment that erodes at the foundation of your marriage. 

The key is finding solutions that honor both spouses perspectives.

 

Questions to reflect:

  1. What are three things about our marriage that you’re grateful for right now?

  2. Are there any small annoyances in our relationship that we’ve let build up? How can we address them gently and respectfully?

  3. How can we be more intentional about choosing each other—especially in the areas where our preferences or personalities differ?

 

Quotes from today’s episode:

“I found myself focusing on the things that weren’t working in my marriage instead of thinking about the things that were.”

“Small annoyances can grow into mountains of frustration”

“Settling comes from a place of resignation”

“Contentment flows from gratitude, an intentional choice we make.”

“Contentment says I see the imperfections in our marriage but I choose to focus on the blessings.”

“Nancy comes before my personal preferences.”

“The key word is choice.”

“Have a posture of gratitude while understanding there is room for growth.”

“Quality time is oxygen for your marriage”

"There’s a way to work through conflict that makes both spouses feel more satisfied."

Mentioned in this episode:

 

Restoring What Was Broken : A Conversation with Justin & Trisha Davis Ep. 67820 May 202500:45:06

In this deeply honest and hope-filled conversation, Justin and Trisha Davis open up about their journey through love, ministry, and the real struggles that nearly tore their marriage apart—including infidelity and hidden personal battles. With vulnerability and wisdom, they share how counseling, truth-telling, and taking ownership became the turning points in their healing.

Trisha shares what it looked like to face the pain of betrayal trauma, while Justin reflects on the overwhelming guilt and the hard road to forgiveness. Together, they unpack how our stories, the words spoken over us, and the lies we believe about our worth can deeply affect how we show up in relationships.

But this isn’t just a story about pain—it’s a story about redemption. About the power of grace, the courage it takes to grieve and heal, and the choice to believe that real transformation is possible.

More than behavior change, they point to the heart—the deep, inner work that allows us to discover who we really are and who God has created us to be. Their story is a beautiful reminder that no matter how broken things may feel, healing and hope are always within reach.

 

Episode highlights:

  • Rock bottom is still a solid surface to stand when you come alongside Christ.

  • Intimacy is to be fully known and know that we're fully loved.

  • You never cause someone to have an affair.

  • The truth sets you free because it doesn't give any room for the enemy.

  • Excavating our past helps us understand our present.

  • Redemptive pain can lead to growth.

  • Healthy relationships require vulnerability and trust.

  • Transformation comes from God's grace and our choices.

 

Questions for reflection:

1. What small, everyday choices are we making in our marriage that could either be building connection—or slowly creating distance?

2. Are there areas of hiddenness in our relationship—past wounds, unspoken frustrations, or shame—that we need to bring into the light?

3. What does forgiveness look like in our relationship right now?

 

Quotes from today’s episode:

  • "I had to choose to be a truth teller myself."

  • "You never cause someone to have an affair."

  • "I believed I have to be perfect to be loved."

  • "You can't today, but God still has a plan."

  • "Healing is hard, but then it's worth it."

  • "You are not as stuck as you think you are."

  • "You have to stop gaslighting yourself to grieve."

  • "The heart of the book is about what God can do."



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From Wounds to Wisdom: A Mother’s Journey of Healing From Generational Trauma Ep. 67713 May 202500:42:25

In this special Mother’s Day episode, Dr. Kim Kimberling sits down with bestselling author Melanie Shankle to talk about her latest book, Here Be Dragons. Together, they unpack the complexities of generational trauma and explore what it means to break old cycles in order to build a new legacy of healthy relationships. It’s a conversation that’s honest, refreshing, and full of humor. Whether you're a mother or not, this episode has something for you!

Episode highlights include: 

  • Generational trauma affects emotional growth and relationships.

  • Self-worth can be deeply impacted by parental relationships.

  • Humor can be a coping mechanism for deeper issues.

  • Recognizing unhealthy patterns is crucial for personal growth.

  • Parenting requires intentionality and awareness of past traumas.

  • Melanie embraced her daughter's individuality instead of molding her.

  • Healing can come from being the parent you wished you had.

  • True love is built on friendship and authenticity.

  • Identifying generational trauma requires honest self-assessment.

  • Creating a positive legacy is essential for future generations.

  • God's timing is perfect in relationships.

  • Healing is a journey that takes baby steps.

  • There can be beauty in the ashes of our past.



Couples Conversation Guide: 

 

Main takeaway: 

If you were raised in the midst of unhealthy relationships, take heart—there is hope in Christ for a better future. Healing from past wounds opens the door to the freedom and joy of healthy, life-giving relationships. Along the journey, boundaries will protect your peace, forgiveness will soften your heart, and Christ must remain the foundation of it all.

 

Questions to Discuss: 

What messages or behaviors from our families growing up do we find ourselves repeating—intentionally or not—in our relationship or with our children?

 

When we face conflict or stress, do our reactions feel like our own—or do they echo how our parents or caregivers responded?

 

Are there parts of our past—such as experiences of neglect, abuse, shame, or loss—that we haven’t fully processed and might be impacting how we show up for each other and our children?

 

What do you hope your legacy will be?

 

Quotes from today's episode:

"It's okay to not be perfect."

“You’ve gotta have your truthtellers”

“There are things we may not see as big, but they become big.” 

“I always deflected with humor because I didn’t want to feel anything too deeply.” 

“They’ve achieved all these things that the world says is success, but they’re still empty.” 

“It’s so healing to be the thing in someone else’s life that you wish you would have had in your own.” 

“I didn’t get to have that mother, but I get to be that mother.”

“There is something so beneficial about having someone who’s not your friend, validate some of the experiences you’ve been through.” 



MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

 

Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy: Naked and Unashamed Ep.67606 May 202500:33:15

We're excited to launch a brand-new format for the Awesome Marriage Podcast—and with it, introduce a highly requested new co-host: Mrs. Nancy Kimberling! In this episode, Dr. Kim and Nancy Kimberling take you on a heartfelt journey through the story of their relationship, from their blind date to their early years of marriage and parenting, all the way to the joy of becoming great-grandparents.

Their marriage hasn’t been without its challenges, but what’s carried them through it all is a decision they made early on: to keep God at the center of everything. Their wisdom, authenticity, and love for each other will make them one of your favorite couples to learn from.

We pray this episode encourages and blesses your marriage.

 

Episode Takeaways:

No matter how your marriage starts, everything changes when you invite the Lord in. He can transform the direction of your relationship in powerful ways. Building a strong, healthy marriage and family takes intentional effort and regular reflection on what’s working—and what’s not. Join the Kimberlings for an honest, up-close look at every season of marriage.



Questions to Discuss: 

When’s the last time you reflected on where and when your relationship began?

What scripture could you hold on to to help anchor your marriage to Christ? 

What is keeping your marriage from moving in the direction you want it to move?

Quotes:

“We had fights and I thought what is going on, I made a mistake.”

“You didn’t get the picket fence”

“I could have been the fun dad and still done discipline”

“God taught us He cares about everything”

“The more we brought Him into our conversations, our decisions. He was there. To guide us and to help us. 

“It’s saved our marriage.” 

“God was there when they got married, and He’s still there, and they made a covenant before Him and it matters.” 

“We took divorce off the table and we kept it off the table.”

“The most important thing to do in marriage is prayer.”

“It’s so important to have godly couples who are older than you and come alongside of you with godly wisdom.”

“It’s so important to have a village, a tribe, a life group to do life with.”



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Winning at the Right Things in Marriage with Jimmy Rollins Ep. 67529 Apr 202500:34:19

In this heartfelt and honest conversation, Dr. Kim sits down with Jimmy Rollins to unpack the real-life highs and lows of marriage. They dive into why communication, forgiveness, and a strong support system are so crucial—and how those things have played out in their own lives. From the power of simple daily appreciations to creating a safe space for open conversations, Jimmy and Dr. Kim get real about what it takes to build (and rebuild) a strong relationship. They also reflect on how easy it is to chase success in the wrong places—and how to shift the focus back to what matters most. Whether you're in a great season or struggling to find your footing, this episode is full of practical wisdom and encouragement to help you grow and heal in your marriage.

Episode Takeaways:

  • Every marriage is hard and requires effort.

  • Forgiveness is a decision, while reconciliation is a process.

  • Daily appreciation can reignite connection in marriage.

  • Creating a safe space is essential for open communication.

  • Winning at the wrong things can harm your marriage.

  • Community support is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.

  • It's important to examine your own behavior in marriage.

  • Practical steps can lead to significant changes in relationships.

  • Couples should seek resources and mentorship for guidance.

  • The goal in marriage is to think together, not alike.

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  • Are there areas of your marriage you are trying to ignore?

  • Are there areas you are trying to change your spouse?

  • How would you rate the community you have to support your marriage?

  • What one thing can you say “no” to today, so that you have more margin to say “yes”  in your marriage. 

 

Quotes:

"Forgiveness is a decision."

"Community is what keeps us sober."

"You're not in it by yourself."

"Every marriage is hard."

"The goal is not to think alike."

"The best days are ahead of us."

 

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Is Your Marriage Drifting? How to Recognize the Signs and Reconnect Ep. 67422 Apr 202500:41:30

Main takeaway: 

Every relationship can be prone to drifting if we aren’t paying attention, and our marriage relationship is no exception. In this episode Dr. Kim and Lindsay talk about how easy it is to begin prioritizing good things over the best things, and how those small compromises lead to big disconnect in marriage.  This episode will help you recognize the signs of drift and begin to fight back against it!

  • Recognizing the signs of drifting is crucial for couples.

  • Prioritizing time together is essential to prevent drifting.

  • Good things can distract from nurturing the marriage.

  • Drifting can happen gradually without realization.

  • Communication and emotional intimacy are key to a strong marriage.

  • Common signs of drifting include changes in communication and intimacy.

  • Non-sexual physical touch can enhance emotional intimacy.

  • It's important to address issues early before they become entrenched patterns.

Questions to Discuss: 

Is your marriage reflected on your calendar?

When’s the last time you encouraged your spouse with your words?

Do you feel pressure to say yes to things outside of your marriage that in turn forces you to say no to things that would grow your marriage?

Are you protecting your energy so that you make the most of the time with your spouse?

What’s one thing you can do today to show your spouse you’re pursuing your marriage?



Quotes:

“You drift without even realizing it.”

“Sometimes good things get in the way of the most important things”

“If you’re drifting away you’re more vulnerable to sin.”

“You have to choose the best over the good.”

“There are things I could have done different.”

“In our culture, life gets in the way and we don’t even think about it.”

“I’ve always got to know that Nancy is a gift, and I have to embrace that gift, and treat her like a gift every day.”

“Drifting happens gradually.”

“Show me where you have your marriage on your calendar.”

“It’s on my calendar now.”

“It’s not going great, but everyone’s just accepting it.”

“You can do something!”

“Make sure you go to somebody who can be objective and is for your marriage.”

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Conflict Resolution 101: Fight Fair in a Faith-Centered Way Ep. 67315 Apr 202500:42:38

In this episode of the Awesome Marriage podcast, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the importance of resolving conflict in a faith-centered, biblical way. They debunk the myth that Christian couples do not experience conflict and emphasize that conflict can lead to growth and deeper intimacy in relationships. Learn the biblical principles for handling conflict, practical steps for effective communication, and the significance of humility and selflessness in marriage.

 

Episode highlights include:

  • Timeouts can help manage heated discussions.

  • Keeping short accounts prevents resentment from building up.

  • Using the silent treatment is a form of emotional manipulation.

  • Bringing up past conflicts as weapons is unhealthy for marriage.

  • Involving others in conflicts before addressing them with your spouse can create triangles of conflict.

  • Taking responsibility for one's actions is crucial in resolving conflicts.

  • Prayer is a powerful tool for maintaining a healthy marriage.

  • Biblical principles provide a framework for resolving conflicts effectively.

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: 

You will experience conflict with your spouse, and when you do it’s important to keep the Lord at the center of the conversation. Remember your spouse is not your enemy and words shouldn’t be your weapon. Acknowledge your part and be quick to forgive. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  • Which area of conflict resolution do you need the most help in- bringing up the past, resorting to the silent treatment, or taking responsibility for your part?

  • Have you brought that struggle to the Lord and invited Him into the conflict in your marriage? 

 

QUOTES 

  • Conflict is normal and if done right can help our marriage grow.

  • Even though we are both seeking to follow Christ, we are human.

  • If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security.

  • Having a marriage that’s not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy.

  • When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too.

  • I can’t meet all her needs, but God can.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

 

How to Create a More Servant-Hearted Marriage | Ep. 66708 Apr 202500:47:34

In this conversation, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the concept of cultivating a servant-hearted marriage, emphasizing the importance of serving one another selflessly. They explore how serving each other can create a loving and respectful environment, reflecting God's design for marriage. The discussion includes practical ways to serve, the impact of a servant-hearted marriage on family dynamics, and the barriers that can hinder this service. They also highlight the significance of self-examination and seeking help when facing challenges in marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include:

  • Cultivating a servant-hearted marriage requires daily choices to act in love.

  • Children benefit from witnessing a servant-hearted marriage.

  • A servant-hearted marriage reflects God's design and glorifies Him.

  • Serving one another should come from the heart, not a checklist. Counseling can help break negative patterns in marriage.

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: 

God’s design for marriage goes far beyond just coexisting with your spouse. Serving one another, respecting their wants and needs, and creating a loving relationship reflect the heart of the Lord and His design for the marriage relationship. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

What stands in the way of you selflessly serving your spouse?

Has your relationship with your spouse become transactional?

 

QUOTES 

  • "Serving is saying, sure, I can do that."

  • "Don't stay stuck there."

  • "You don't just grow better."

  • "God sees you."

  • "It's gonna make a difference."

  • “If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security.”

  • “Having a marriage that’s not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy.”

  • “When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too.”

  • “I can’t meet all her needs, but God can.”

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

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Parenting as a Team: How to Stay United Through the Chaos | Ep. 67101 Apr 202500:47:51

Dr. Kim and Lindsay dive into a heartfelt conversation about the power of communication and unity in parenting. They talk about why it’s so important for parents to be on the same page when it comes to raising their kids, facing challenges as a team, and setting a strong example through their own decision-making. Along the way, they explore how to navigate differences in parenting styles, adapt to the ever-changing needs of children as they grow, and lean on prayer for guidance in tough decisions.

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • It's unrealistic to agree on everything in parenting.

  • Children benefit from the security of united parents.

  • It's important to filter parenting advice based on core beliefs.

  • When you disagree, and you will, model respect for your spouse.

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: 

Do you and your spouse struggle to stay on the same page while parenting your children? Are you handling disagreements in a way that adds to the chaos? In this episode, Dr. Kim and Lindsay discuss how to navigate the hard conversations, the power of differing perspectives, and the benefit of a strong relationship as an example to your children. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

Are you and your spouse allowing parenting to divide or unite?

In what ways can you better support your spouse in parenting?

Have you and your spouse set aside time to discuss the goals you have for your children? 

 

Quotes From this Episode:

“There's no shortcut to communication."

"Agreeing on core values is essential."

"Set aside time to discuss your challenges."

"Kids need security and stability."

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

 

What is Purity Culture and How do you Escape it? Special Bonus Episode with Camden Morgante28 Mar 202500:39:22

Dr. Kim and Camden Morgante explore how purity culture has shaped individuals' beliefs and relationships. They break down five harmful myths it promotes and examine how these misconceptions can impact a couple's sex life after marriage — including the unrealistic expectation of a fairy tale marriage as a reward for remaining pure. Dr. Morgante offers guidance to help couples move beyond the shame and guilt tied to these teachings, so they can embrace the beautiful gift God designed for marriage.

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights:

Our God isn’t a transactional god.

Purity culture has been compared to the sexual prosperity gospel. Many individuals only hear negative messages about sex before marriage.

Reclaiming the beauty of sex involves holistic healing of mind, body, heart, and soul.

Teaching children about sexuality should focus on values rather than rules.

Purity culture can lead to feelings of being 'damaged goods'.

Myths of purity culture can cause disillusionment in faith.

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: 

Our motivation for purity before marriage can serve as a stumbling block to intimacy within our marriage. Purity before and within marriage is important, but our relationship with God isn’t transactional. We are missing the point of God’s heart for sex when the focus is on a reward. 

Questions to Discuss: 

How was the conversation surrounding sex approached in your youth?

Looking back, did you desire to stay pure before marriage and what was your motivation for purity?

Did you believe one of the “5 lies” Dr. Morgante mentioned in this episode?

What do you think Dr. Morgante means when she says that the lies of purity culture don’t just live in our minds, they live in our bodies? 

 

QUOTES:

  • These myths didn’t just live in our minds, they lived in our bodies. -Dr. Camden Morgante

  • When you try to control people, it’s really easy for shame and fear to become part of it.

  • The end result may be good, but the way you get there can harm people.

  • Shame and guilt is not from God.

  • God wants us to experience healing.

  • We have to have a deeper why for it.

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

 

Confronting the Destructive Impact of Porn with Nick Stumbo of Pure Desire | Ep. 66925 Mar 202500:59:32

Porn is doing real damage to too many Christians today. This issue is affecting a huge percentage of our brothers and sisters in Christ, and the shame that often prevents us from talking about it leads to secrecy and hinders healing. 

We’re thankful that Nick Stumbo is on the podcast today. Nick is a pastor and the director of Pure Desire Ministries. Along with Barna, Pure Desire recently conducted a study on the impact porn is currently having on the Church in America. Their findings demonstrate how crucial it is to open the conversation about porn among Christians to help them find healing from its destructive impact.  

 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • What the stats tell us about how many Christians are viewing porn regularly

  • Why talking openly is ESSENTIAL for healing 

  • Exposing the progressive nature of porn addiction 

  • How to make church a place where openness is possible 

  • What to do if your church is not a safe place to confess 

  • How to prepare your kids to handle porn exposure safely 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: The enemy would love for you to stay stuck in secrecy and shame. Jesus wants to bring freedom and healing. Take a step toward freedom today. 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. Do you have a safe friend you can be honest with? Are you practicing confession and accountability in your life? What can you do to help cultivate an honest, godly friendship today? 

  2. What is God prompting you need to take responsibility for so that you can grow closer to Him and your spouse today? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “Most people won’t be surprised to know that the numbers are continuing to grow.” - Nick Stumbo 

  • “To my knowledge, it’s the first time in history that the majority of practicing Christians say they are doing pornography.” - Nick Stumbo 

  • “84% of people said there is NO ONE helping them avoid pornography.” - Nick Stumbo 

  • “If shame and secrecy are the sickness, then openness, community and love are what healing is all about.” - Nick Stumbo 

  • “By the time it blows up a marriage, the help was needed 5-10 years ago.” - Nick Stumbo

  • “You’re not alone. There is help and hope for you. - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “True accountability is about me learning to be responsible for my own actions and behaviors.” - Nick Stumbo 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

Decoding 'Needy' Wives: How to Love & Support Her Well | Ep. 66818 Mar 202500:41:16

Husbands, have you ever felt like your wife expects too much from you? Wives, have you checked whether your expectations are realistic? 

Expectations in marriage can be a difficult topic, and they’re a very common source of marriage tension. Which is why today, we want to help break down misunderstandings around spouse expectations today, so that you can experience better connection and more joy in your marriage.  

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Wives may struggle to articulate their needs clearly.

  • Non-sexual affection enhances sexual intimacy.

  • Emotional connection is crucial for a healthy marriage.

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Expectations don't have to be a source of conflict. There's a way to communicate and connect the different wants and needs you have in marriage.

Questions to Discuss: 

  • Are there any expectations that you feel are “too much”?

  • Husbands, do you need more clarity from your wife about her expectations?

  • How would you rate how well you actively listen and engage with your spouse?

  • What would make you a more intentional listener? (time of day, location of conversation, free of distractions, etc.)

  • When was the last time you checked in with your spouse about the overall health of your marriage relationship.

  • What are the priorities in your marriage? Do you know your spouse’s priorities? How do they compare?

QUOTES 

  •  Wives want to be part of the decision making and feel like it’s a true partnership.

  • The better the non sexual connection and intimacy is, the better the physical connection and intimacy will be. 

  • Most men weren’t raised to be emotionally expressive.

  • You don’t have to solve everything. 

  • When I stopped trying to fix it, I heard her better.

  • A wife wants to feel prioritized.

  • Learning to say things in a way your spouse can hear takes practice.

  • You have to accept that God made us different as husband and wife.

  • The small consistent things you do matter more than perfection.

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

 

 

Understanding 'Needy' Husbands: What Do They Truly Want? | Ep. 66711 Mar 202500:40:32

Wives, have you felt that your husband expects too much from you? Husbands, have you checked whether your expectations are realistic? 

Expectations of our spouse can be a difficult topic, and they are a really frequent source of marriage tension. That’s why today, we want to help break down misunderstandings around spouse expectations today, so that you can experience better connection and more joy in your marriage. Don’t let expectations trip your marriage up. Listen today and learn to deal with the wants and needs in your marriage. 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.

Episode highlights include: 

  • Unvoiced expectations in marriage can lead to tension.

  • Communication is key to understanding each other's needs.

  • Wives should express their feelings of being drained.

  • Finding time for connection is essential for couples.

  • Respect and appreciation are crucial for husbands.

  • Physical affection is important beyond sexual intimacy.

  • Teamwork in parenting strengthens the marriage bond.

  • Articulating needs can help avoid misunderstandings.

  • Navigating challenges together fosters a stronger partnership. It's crucial to express needs and expectations in marriage.

  • Vulnerability can be challenging, especially for men.

  • Regular communication opportunities can help clarify needs.

  • Listening without trying to “fix it” is essential in relationships.

  • Understanding each other's perspectives fosters compassion.

  • Setting boundaries can enhance emotional support.

  • Counseling can provide valuable tools for communication.

  • Feeling overwhelmed is a signal for change, not failure.

  • Asking good questions can open up important conversations.

  • Investing in support can rejuvenate a marriage.

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: You can experience better connection and intimacy by learning how to navigate the misunderstandings around expectations.

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. Dr. Kim talked about the importance of framing your spouse in a positive way, are there places where you are negatively framing your spouse's wants or needs?

  2. What boundary could you set today so that you could better meet a need for your spouse?

  3. Are you a safe place for your spouse to voice the expectations that have for your marriage?

 

QUOTES 

  • God didn’t give your husband maternal instinct and that’s ok. He’s a man and that’s actually a good thing for your children to experience.

  • Being overwhelmed as a woman doesn't make you a bad spouse. It’s a signal that something needs to change.

  • If you’re going to frame your spouse as the problem it’s not going to go well. If you frame your spouse as your teammate then you can work together and that’s really important.

  • Love and respect are something that husbands and men are designed to need. 

  • If you’re stretching yourself way beyond your capacity then that’s where the negative things start to happen.

  • Wives, you don’t want your husband going to someone else for emotional support. You want him to go to you. 

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

 

The Do’s and Don’ts of Prayer in Marriage | Ep. 66504 Mar 202500:30:42

 Are you experiencing the power of prayer in your marriage? Prayer is an incredibly powerful habit for your marriages. In fact, research shows that 99% of couples who pray together stay together.  

Prayer can be so simple, but the reality is that most couples do not make prayer a regular part of their marriage. Today we’re talking about how to practically overcome the obstacles that keep you from praying together so you can make prayer a regular part of your marriage. 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 Episode highlights include: 

  • The #1 marriage-building habit - and why most couples don’t do it

  • What makes prayer so powerful for marriage 

  • The sneaky prayer pitfalls to avoid 

  • How to overcome the common obstacles that keep couples from praying together 

  • The do-able DOs to make prayer part of your marriage 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Prayer is so powerful that the enemy will try anything to keep you from making it part of your marriage. Don’t let that happen. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What’s the primary obstacle that prevents you from praying regularly with your spouse? 

  2. What would help the two of you to make prayer a regular part of your day together? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “When you’re praying together, you’re putting God first. That’s where he wants to be.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “It’s probably one of the main things that the enemy doesn’t want couples to do.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “When I can get a couple to pray together, the counseling process goes faster, and the marriage gets better.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Don’t force praying together in a certain way.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

 

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How Hard Conversations Bring Deeper Intimacy with Chad & Adaeze Brinkman | Ep. 66425 Feb 202500:55:36
When Chad & Adaeze Brinkman met while serving together on the worship team at church, they didn’t expect that they would one day get married. They also didn’t expect what it would be like to navigate a new marriage while facing cultural pressures as an interracial couple. But learning to have the hard conversations about their differences ultimately led to deeper intimacy. Today, we’re delighted to have Chad and Adaeze on the podcast to share their story, and equip you with practical ways to value different perspectives as a reflection of God’s design. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Why listening to real stories of different experiences matters 

  • How to become aware of your habitual assumptions 

  • Realistic first steps to grow your perspective

  • Why addressing our perspective on race is essential for the church 

  • The relationship-building process of navigating tough conversations 

  • How to repair the relationship after you’ve hurt your spouse 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Not every couple is in an interracial marriage, but every couple deals with differences. We get a bigger picture of God’s design when we stop fighting our differences and learn to value them. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What have you learned by listening to the diverse perspectives of others in your life? 

  2. Are there places in your life where you encounter differing life stories and experiences among fellow Christian believers? 

  3. How can you make room in your life for diversity that reflects the vision of God’s kingdom? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “We will never know everything there is to know about the Lord, but the beauty is in the pursuit, the relationship and the discovery.” - Adaeze Brinkman

  • “It’s a very humbling lesson to let your spouse have their own perspective, and give room for that to be different than yours.” - Adaeze Brinkman

  • “Everyone does what they do for a reason. They think what they think for a reason.” - Chad Brinkman

  • When we dig in we realize how much we have in common.” - Chad Brinkman

  • “When Jesus returns, it’s not going to be a ‘White Heaven’ or a ‘Black Heaven.’ It’s a diverse Heaven.” - Chad Brinkman

  • “Listening is the most important thing.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Are you growing? A beautiful way to do that is to rub shoulders with people that are different from you.”  - Adaeze Brinkman

  • “The enemy knows there’s so much power in unity and diversity.”   - Adaeze Brinkman

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

Reviving Desire: Tips for Husbands with Low Sex Drive | Ep. 66318 Feb 202500:40:27

Guys, have you lost the spark in your sex drive? If that’s you, you are not alone! Libido is a complex issue. There are so many reasons that male libido can falter, from stress and physical factors, to relational issues in your marriage. But for every factor, there are also solutions. 

Learn the steps to uncover what’s driving your lack of drive so you can revive the desire. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Episode highlights include: 

  • The physical, mental and emotional health factors that affect sex drive 

  • Tips to unpack the issue together in healthy ways 

  • Is there a place for medical advice in understanding libido?

  • Challenging the cultural myths about aging and sex drive 

  • Steps to starting a helpful conversation about improving libido 

 

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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide 

Main takeaway: Husbands, have you lost the passion? Physical, mental and emotional factors all impact your sex drive but you can reignite the spark and enjoy God’s gift of sex in marriage. 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. Dr. Kim said that things like depression, anxiety, financial stress, relational tension or past trauma can reduce libido. Are any of those affecting your sexual relationship today?

  2. What would you like to experience more of together in your sexual relationship? 

  3. What can you do together to make that happen? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “If you’ve got problems from the past that affect you in the present, you need someone to help you work through that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • “When the assumptions got on the table, we realized they were wrong. That made such a huge difference.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • “Low libido doesn’t indicate cheating or porn addiction, it’s usually more complex than that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • The longer you let it go, the worse it’s going to get. - Dr. Kim Kimberling

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

 

Bring Back the Passion: Help For Wives with Low Libido | Ep. 66211 Feb 202500:51:25

Wives, do you seem to be less interested in sex? It’s a common issue, and so many factors affect female libido, from hormonal changes, and emotional disconnection to just plain busyness.

Whether stemming from physical health or the health of your marriage, there are many ways you and your spouse can work together to bring back the passion and renew your sex drive. 

 

Today, we’re troubleshooting the issue with tips for wives with low libido, so you can bring back the passion in your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Tips on healthy communication about sex drive issues 

  • Understanding the effects of stress on a wife’s sex drive 

  • How to work together to share the mental load

  • Is lack of sex drive a sign of infidelity? 

  • Building empathy to help reconnect and rekindle her passion 

 

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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide 

Main takeaway: Ladies, don’t let your sex life struggle! Learn to unpack the factors that impact your sex drive, so you can troubleshoot and get things back on track. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. Are there any factors that you know are affecting your libido in this season? (Stress, exhaustion, depression, peri menopause, postpartum, etc.)

  2. Are there any relationship factors affecting your interest in sex right now? 

  3. What would help you to mitigate the effects of those things today?   

 

QUOTES 

  • “For guys, it’s about how do I meet her where she is right now?” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “If there’s not full trust, it’s going to be very hard to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few 

  • “It’s ok to talk about sex.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “There are so many things that typically the wife does by default. Look at what is weighing on you that keeps you from even having time to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few 

  • “The really good marriages I see are the ones committed to working through things. It doesn’t come easy, but they’re committed to work through it.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

 

 

Healthy Tech Habits That You & Your Marriage Need with Arlene Pellicane | Ep. 66107 Feb 202500:55:41

Is technology bringing you closer together, or leading to disconnection?  

Tech is hitting marriages hard today. Yet research shows that marriage can provide a huge boost to personal happiness. Today’s guest, Arlene Pellicane, has written several books on how technology is impacting relationships, and today she shares tech habits that will help you and your marriage to thrive.    

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include:  

  • The 1 habit that guarantees marriage success 99% of the Time

  • Easy ways to declutter your digital life for deeper connection

  • How modern technology is changing the way we love.

  • Are married people happier? Research tells the truth… 

  • Break the tech spell: Tips for parenting in a digital age

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

QUOTES 

  • “If we seek God and His guidance, He’s always going to have an answer.” Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Is technology bringing you closer together? Or causing you to grow farther apart.”  - Arlene Pellicane 

  • “We're missing all these little times to connect. That’s why you feel disconnected.”  - Arlene Pellicane 

  • “You have to prepare to be unpopular, because as a parent, it’s your job to protect your child.”  - Arlene Pellicane 

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 

 

How to Have A Better Marriage in the Second Half Than Before | Ep. 66004 Feb 202500:46:10

Your marriage doesn’t have to grow old just because you do. The second half of marriage does not have to grow stale - make plans to make these your best years yet! Listen today to learn how. 

 

Whether you’re looking ahead to the second half of marriage, or you’re already there, it is a great time to improve and grow. In today’s episode, Dr. Kim shares tips to avoiding complacency and embracing the best version of your marriage in the second half. 

 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • How to jumpstart marriage growth if you’ve gotten complacent 

  • Practical steps to do the second half of marriage well - no matter where you are today 

  • Tips to bring back the fun and passion later in marriage

  • Simple conversation starters to help you get going 

  • How to find a mentor couple to help your marriage 

 

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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

 

Main takeaway: The second half of marriage does not have to grow stale - evaluate where you’d like to see your marriage go from here, then take the steps to get there. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What do you envision for your marriage in the next 5 years? 10 years? 20? 

  2. What is one thing you can start doing today to move you toward that vision? 

  3. What is one thing you need to stop doing today to move in that direction? 

 

QUOTES 

  • If your marriage has been teetering, it can fall at this stage. - Lindsay Few

  • Nothing is worse than feeling lonely when your spouse is with you. - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • We’d seen couples who were older than us disconnect. We didn’t want that to happen.  - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • It’s never too late. But the earlier you start, the easier the transition will be. - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • If you’re one step ahead, you can help somebody. - Lindsay Few 

 

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Find Your Vision As a Couple with Dedric & Krystal Polite | Ep. 65928 Jan 202500:42:48

Your marriage should be a blessing to you and your spouse, but it does not need to stop there - a healthy marriage can also bless the world around you! Where is your marriage today? Are you and your spouse a healthy team? Are you healthy enough to pour into those around you?

Today we are delighted to welcome Dedric and Krystal Polite to the podcast today to share their unique perspective on finding a vision for their marriage that is making a mark on the world. 

Listen for encouragement on enacting a Godly marriage vision this year!

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

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Episode highlights include: 

  • Breaking the cycle of generational poverty 

  • Developing a life aligned with your values 

  • Tips to date intentionally so that you find a spouse you can partner with 

  • How to make your marriage a blessing to the world around you 

  • Making your spouse your teammate - not your opponent 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Make your marriage strong and healthy so it can become a vehicle for blessing your spouse, family and your community. 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What ways could you intentionally bless others as a couple? 

  2. Think about the legacy you want to create as a couple. How would you define your marriage vision?  

 

QUOTES 

  •  “Never tie your self worth into your net worth.” - Krystal Polite 

  • “We pray together, we stay together, we work together.”  - Krystal Polite

  • “We lean on each other’s strengths.” - Dedric Polite 

  • Faith keeps us steady when the road gets rough.” - Krystal Polite

  • “Our purpose isn’t just to make it - we’re here to make a difference.”  - Krystal Polite

  • “It starts and ends with effective communication.” - Dedric Polite 

 

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Spiritual Intimacy Do's and Don'ts | Ep. 65821 Jan 202500:44:13

Spiritual intimacy is something couples want, but don’t really know how to get there. We can tend to believe a common myth that it should come naturally without any effort, plus it can seem awkward to pray together or pursue spiritual growth. So how can spiritual intimacy be a realistic part of marriage? 

Today we’re talking about tangible ways to grow in spiritual intimacy with your spouse - and what NOT to do. 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

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Episode highlights include: 

  • Why spirituality matters in marriage

  • Common mistakes couples make with spiritual intimacy 

  • Can the wife initiate the conversation about spiritual intimacy, or does the husband need to do that as a spiritual leader? 

  • Practical steps to growing together spiritually 

  • Tips to grow your marriage to become a light and example 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: The spiritual domain is integral to our health and wellbeing. Sharing it with your spouse is an essential part of intimacy in marriage.

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What practices / spiritual disciplines have been most impactful for your personal spiritual growth? 

  2. What is one spiritual practice you would like to share with your spouse? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “If you’re not able to share about spirituality with your spouse, it diminishes your ability to be intimate and know one another.” - Lindsay Few 

  • “We wish we could have an awesome marriage without trying. But it does take effort.” - Lindsay Few 

  • “When you have an expectation, you’ve got to share it with your spouse. Then they can let you know whether it’s realistic or not.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Most guys feel inadequate to be a spiritual leader. But God will equip you: It’s not rocket science, it’s just being intentional.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Most wives just want to see an intentional effort. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • “Any time in the Word is better than none.” - Lindsay Few 

 

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Marriage Reset: Intentional Rhythms For a Stronger Marriage This Year | Ep. 65714 Jan 202500:41:11

It's a new year, but it's still the same you and your spouse ... so how can you make your marriage the best it can be in the new year? With intentionality, you can break out of the habits that are not serving your marriage well, and build new ones that work better. 

Listen today for the tips and tools to help! We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

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Episode highlights include: 

  • Signs that your marriage needs a “reset”

  • What NOT to do during a reset 

  • Where to start if you want a “reset” but you’re not sure what to do 

  • Tips to make sure you don’t fall back into the same old patterns? 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Now is a great time to check in, take stock, and prioritize the healthy habits to make your marriage strong. Listen, then start taking steps today! 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What do you want your marriage to look like in the new year? 

  2. What do you envision that’s different from how things are now? 

  3. Brainstorm 3-5 steps you want to build into your marriage this year. 

  4. Where will you start? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “I think we need this every year.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Don’t just see the red flags and ignore them.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • If we’re intentional in the New Year, we can really close the gap between what we have and what we want our marriage to look like.” - Lindsay Few  

  • “You don’t have to agree on everything, but you have to be willing to compromise.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “God is for our marriage. He is for us. When we invite Him into the process it really changes things.“ -  Lindsay Few  

  • “Sometimes we have to sacrifice good things for what’s most important.” - Lindsay Few  

 

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The Narrow Way to An Expansive Life with Rich Villodas | Ep. 65617 Dec 202400:52:55

 

Obedience to the ways of Jesus can sound closed-minded or restrictive, but in today’s episode we’re breaking down that myth for good.

 

We’re delighted to have pastor Rich Villodas join us today to talk about what it looks like to live on the Narrow Path Jesus taught about, and why it creates the most expansive life you could have. Learn what cultural Christianity gets wrong about the way of Jesus and how to walk the narrow way for a more joy filled life and marriage. 

 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Signs you’re not living out the Narrow Path Jesus taught about 

  • Learn the damaging beliefs of cultural Christianity that don’t align with Jesus’ teaching 

  • Ways that shallow faith shows up in marriage - and what to do about it 

  • Internal shifts to help you value what matters to your spouse 

 

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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

 

Main takeaway:  Dying to self to live in Christ is the path to a full and expansive life. What would it look like to live this out in your marriage today? 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. How are you doing with each of the cultural values of successism, moralism, and hyperindividualism in your marriage? 

  2. What growth step would help you follow the narrow way of Jesus more closely with each of those? 



QUOTES 

  • “It seems restrictive on the outside, but ultimately following Jesus leads to greater spaciousness in our lives.” - Rich Villodas  

  • “Is it possible for Christians to be on the ‘broad path’? Absolutely. Which is why the Sermon on the Mount is a wake up call to the kind of discipleship that Jesus is calling us to live into.” -  Rich Villodas  

  • “Jesus is saying, ‘the kind of life you were designed for is found in my teachings.’” -  Rich Villodas 

  • “We might be on the broad path if we are organizing our lives according to worldly notions of what success is.” -  Rich Villodas

  • “The paradox of the Christian life is that to die in Christ is to actually come alive and truly live.” - Rich Villodas



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Conflict Resolution for Conflict Avoiders | Ep. 65510 Dec 202400:35:54

Conflict in marriage is inevitable: it’s how you handle it that matters most. But what about couples who really never fight? What happens to conflict that is never addressed and only stays under the surface? Does it ever really go away? 

Listen today to learn better ways to handle the issues you don’t know how to deal with.  

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Tips to initiate a hard conversation you’ve been avoiding

  • How to stay grounded when you want to shut down 

  • How conflict can actually lead to better intimacy and connection

  • Helpful nonconfrontational ways to broach difficult topics 

 

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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Dealing with the important issues together paves the way for true peace, and learning effective conflict solving skills is a win for your marriage. 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. Some skills mentioned are: Intentionality - set up a good time to talk, use “I” statements, do not blame your spouse, focus on what you would like to achieve together through the conversation. Pick the one that would help you the most. 

  2. What is one easy issue you can tackle together to practice better resolution skills? Focus on using your chosen skill. 

QUOTES 

  • If a couple said they never had conflict, I would think they’re not being completely honest with each other. - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • I think the more you fear conflict, the less you’re able to resolve it. - Lindsay Few 

  • We want to equip couples to handle it in a healthy way. - Lindsay Few 

  • Conflict is not bad in itself. It’s how we handle conflict. - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • Yes, we want peace in our homes. But you can’t have it if you ignore things that need to be dealt with.  - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • It’s ok if you get stuck, just don’t stay stuck. - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

 

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The Cost of Being "Right" in Marriage | Ep. 65403 Dec 202400:36:47

Marriage conflict is hard, but you know what makes it even harder? Trying to WIN. Because if you win, that means your spouse loses. And that’s not great for your marriage connection. Break out of the “my way” versus “your way” myth and learn what it means to work together to have a win for your marriage. 

Today we’re unpacking the process of how to win TOGETHER. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

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Episode highlights include: 

  • Why taking divorce off the table changes the dynamics of conflict.

  • What does it mean for the marriage to “win” and how can you do it? 

  • Key steps for healthy conflict resolution

  • The importance of empathy and proactive communication to prevent arguments.

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide

Main takeaway:  Marriage conflict is hard. When you try to win, you make it even harder.

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. Are there any issues that have you stuck in a “win/lose” cycle? 

  2. Have you considered any creative “third” options (options that aren’t “your way” or “their way”) that could solve the issue? 

  3. Brainstorm possible options. During brainstorming, no idea is too out there! Just get lots of other options on the table to help you start looking for marriage wins instead of fighting over your individual preference. 

QUOTES 

  •  "If you’re trying to win, that means your spouse loses." - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • "A marriage win creates two winners." - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • "Ask: What's going to make our marriage win?" - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

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What Do You Do When Marriage Doesn't Make You Happy? with Chelsea Damon | Ep. 65326 Nov 202400:51:12

Couples often enter marriage with high expectations, and are then dismayed to learn that marriage is not a fairy tale after all. What do you do when marriage doesn't make you happy? How can we break out of our selfish hopes and become the spouse God intends us to be?

Listen to learn practical ways to reconcile your marriage dreams with your married reality.  

We all have hopes and dreams for marriage, and the reality of life is that they don’t always play out the way we expected. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  

Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!

Episode highlights include: 

  • How your expectations before marriage impact your relationship

  • The hidden role of selfishness in marital issues and conflicts

  • How to cultivating humility helps to understand your spouse better

  • Recognizing the redemptive nature of marriage can lead to deeper connections.

  • Steps to finding a true and deeper joy in marriage

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

Couples Conversation Guide:  

Main takeaway:  Unrealistic expectations of marriage are pretty common, but they can take away from enjoying the marriage you’re actually living. If marriage isn’t making you happy, then that’s your cue to start sowing into it.  

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What expectations did you bring into marriage that you later realized were unrealistic? 

  2. What are some things you’d love to see more of in your marriage, and how can you work together to make that happen? 

  3. Do you have friends who will give you hard feedback when needed? What step can you take to build a friendship like that? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “A lot of people getting married have high hopes for marriage, then a few years into it they realize it’s not going to be their source of identity, hope and happiness. That realization kind of turns their world upside down.” - Chelsea Damon

  • “What does God say about me? I had to do some soul searching to see what God has to say about me without trying to find that sense of security in my spouse.”  - Chelsea Damon

  • “Marriage does a good of showing you who you are, and all of your faults. It’s a good wake up call for who you are as a person.”  - Chelsea Damon

  • “One of the things couples find surprising are the expectations they don’t even know they’re bringing into marriage.”  - Chelsea Damon

  • “I realized so much of my sense of security was not in the right place. I decided to put that back on Christ and find my identity in Him.” - Chelsea Damon

  • “You need someone who’s willing to speak into your life.”  - Chelsea Damon

 

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