Awesome Marriage Podcast – Details, episodes & analysis

Your mindset greatly impacts your day to day life. If you’re stuck in unhealthy or unhelpful thought patterns, both you and your marriage will suffer. But there are simple ways to unpack your thought patterns and replace the unhelpful with a biblical perspective. In today’s episode we’re looking at practical ways to adopt a gracious, life-giving perspective in marriage. 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Episode highlights include: 

• Common perspective mistakes in marriage and what causes them 

• Practical tips to resolve perspective issues and create a Biblical perspective

• What do secret sin and perspective have in common?  

• Ways to communicate more effectively and seek to understand your spouse's perspective 

• Tips to cultivate oneness and a spiritual foundation of unity

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Is your perspective of your spouse realistic? For most issues, a generous perspective and good communication can get you through it together. 

Questions to Discuss: 

1. Do you have any unrealistic expectations of your spouse today? If you’re not sure, check them out together. 

2. Are you and your spouse at odds over an issue? Take the time to learn what matters most to your spouse about their position on it. 

3. Do you have thought habits that are leading to bitterness or resentment in your marriage?  

QUOTES 

• "It's hard to step into your spouse's shoes or take the time to do that, to have empathy for them." - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

• "Resentment can be a huge thing and it's so dangerous because if we don't stop it, it continues to grow." - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

• “Perspective is your lens on the world. If your lens is covered with smudges and you’re not seeing clearly, that’s not the world’s fault. You’ve got to clean your lens.” - Lindsay Few

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

• If you are ready to have a better perspective – and a better marriage, then the biblically-based 4 Week Reframing Challenge is for you! 

• Turn to God and ask him to renew your mind with our NEW resource, 11 Prayers To Stop Thinking Negatively About Your Spouse

• 15 Better Assumptions To Make About Your Spouse is a free printable to help you set your mind on what is true, right and good. Learn more here! 

• Join the Marriage Changer Movement! Because a world full of awesome marriages can change the world
• Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more!

An affair doesn’t have to mean the end of a marriage. At Awesome Marriage, we have seen so many marriages restored! Yet the recovery process will take time and working together to see the Lord heal the union. If you’ve experienced this pain, you need a guide to help you along the way. 

Rick Reynolds joins Dr. Kim today to share his story of marriage recovery, and how he’s used his own painful experience to help others through the process of rebuilding after infidelity. 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Episode highlights include: 

• How to avoid common behaviors that can set you up for an affair  

• How to rebuild a marriage after affair - better than before

• Why Christians need to be aware of their own vulnerability

• How to overcome the obstacles to recovering after infidelity 

• Common mistakes in the affair recovery process 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: One of the best ways to protect your marriage from an affair is to realize you could be vulnerable to infidelity, and put boundaries in place. If your marriage has experienced infidelity, it can be restored much stronger than before.  

Questions to Discuss: 

1. What boundaries do you have in your life to prevent even baby steps toward an affair? 

2. Are you a safe place for your spouse to be completely honest and open? What would help make your marriage a safer place for honesty?  

QUOTES 

• “When we fall, what’s important is what we do afterwards.” - Rick Reynolds 

• “A lot of Christians don’t realize they’re vulnerable, so they don’t put constraints in place. Then they find themselves in a mess.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

• “What heals is empathy and emotional responsiveness.” - Rick Reynolds 

• “The wayward spouse needs to understand that disclosure is the way that trust is reestablished.” - Rick Reynolds
  

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

• Learn more or sign up for the Hope Rising Conference at AffairRecovery.com

• If you feel defeated about your marriage, or are considering divorce, our 90 Days to Save Your Marriage plan is for you. Learn more here.

Do you ever get a little defensive when your spouse disagrees with you? Marriage disagreements get real because we can’t just ignore what we don’t agree on like we can with an acquaintance. Today Mike Donehey joins Dr. Kim on the podcast and shares gospel-centered wisdom that shows us a better way to disagree.

Episode highlights include: 

• How Christians should handle defensiveness 

• A great way to diffuse an argument as soon as it begins 

• What can happen when we take the time to really hear the other person’s argument 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!

RESOURCES

• Read Mike’s book, Grace in the Gray: A More Loving Way to Disagree

• Find Mike at MikeDonehey.com

• Listen to Mike’s podcast, Chasing the Beauty 

Today we get into the details of how to carry out healthy boundary setting. We continue the series on healthy boundaries by talking about logistics of how to set and carry out the boundaries our marriages need.

We’ll talk about how to do this conversation well, and what NOT to do when you talk about them. Tune in to hear how to set these well to help you and your marriages to be their healthiest. 

What do you want to hear more about before we close this series? Let me know! 

Episode highlights include: 

• Dr. Kim gives several examples of how to make boundaries enforceable

• Practical dos and don'ts of a boundaries conversation

• What to do if your spouse doesn’t agree to your boundaries or respect them 

• Ways for in-laws to deal with boundaries involving their married kids 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

RESOURCES

• A helpful companion episode: What is Team Language? | Ep. 501

• Our Boundaries Guide walks through the topics we’ve covered through this series and helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage. 

• We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team, so we created Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage.

• Our Conflict Solving Survey & Workbook provides more help to work on healthy and effective conflict resolution together.

• Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place.
  

   

Several types of boundaries can help your marriage be healthy, and today we’re talking about boundaries outside of marriage. That means with family, friends, and the opposite sex. We could probably devote an entire episode to each of these categories! We definitely can’t cover every possibility, but we can get the conversation started. 

Episode highlights include: 

• Boundaries with your in laws & adult married children

• Guidance on setting boundaries with your kids at any age

• Basic boundaries for co-parenting with an ex 

• Dr. Kim’s recommendations for affair prevention boundaries 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

RESOURCES

• Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place.

• Get 25 of Dr Kim’s best conflict resolution tips in our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet! 

• Our new Boundaries Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage.  

• Our friends Dan & Kay at Centsei can help you set a budget and stick with good financial boundaries.

• We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team, so we created Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage.

There are several types of boundaries that you need to have within your marriage. Chances are you already have some. But there may be pain points in your marriage that healthy boundaries can help. Today we cover a lot of ground as we get into the details of some boundaries that may be needed within your marriage to help you, your spouse and your marriage be your healthiest. 

Episode highlights include: 

• Ways to approach a conversation about free time and hobbies without a fight

• The most common areas where most couples might need boundaries

• Signs that you need a boundary in a given area

• How NOT to do your budget together 

• Plus - Do you have a hobby to answer my question at the end of the episode? I’m so curious - there’s bound to be one! 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

 *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

RESOURCES

• Get 25 of Dr Kim’s best conflict resolution tips in our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet! 

• Our new Boundaries Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage. 

• Our friends Dan & Kay at Centsei can help you set a budget and stick with good financial boundaries.

• Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place.

• We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team, so we created Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage.

What are the rhythms of your marriage? Whether you know what they are or not, you have rhythms, and they are shaping who you will become as a couple. Today on the podcast Chris and Jenni Graebe join Dr. Kim to talk about five rhythms for a healthy marriage, and how you can work together to get in the groove. 

Episode highlights include: 

• What are the 5 rhythms? 

• How to talk about issues in your marriage without starting a fight 

• Why speaking life is such an important rhythm, and why it affects more than your marriage. 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

RESOURCES

• Grab Chris and Jenni’s book, The Rhythm of Us to get all the details of today’s conversation, how to put them into your marriage, and more! 

• Check out Chris & Jenni’s Rhythm of Us Podcast

• TheRhythmofUs.com 

• Use the Marriage Quiz to discover the #1 rhythm missing in your marriage at marriagequiz.com

Today we’re kicking off a series about boundaries in marriage. What they are, what they are not, and why they are essential in a healthy marriage. We get a lot of questions on the topic, and in this series we will share the types of boundaries that can help a marriage, and how to implement them. This series will be full of practical applications and we’d love to answer your questions. 

Episode highlights include: 

• What can boundaries do for your marriage? 

• What can they NOT do? 

• Dr. Kim’s take on an age old example of physical affection at unwelcome times 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

RESOURCES

• Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet contains 25 of Dr. Kim’s best tips to help you fight fair and resolve conflict well 

• Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place.

• For more help troubleshooting the conflict in your marriage, our Conflict Solving Survey and Workbook helps evaluate where you are now, see where you want to grow, and learn how to get from here to there. 

• In today’s episode we mentioned this: How to Set Boundaries in One-Sided Marriage | Ep. 505. In it we give more biblical context for boundaries.

• Our 4-day YouVersion plan on Boundaries in Marriage can help you put healthy boundaries into practice.

We’re dropping in today to share a brief overview of our upcoming “Boundaries For Your Marriage” series. We get a lot of questions on the topic, and in this series we will share types of boundaries that can help a marriage, and how to implement them. 

The series will cover: What boundaries are and why they matter for your marriage, boundaries within marriage, boundaries outside of marriage, how to set boundaries, what NOT to do, plus an episode devoted to answering your questions. Please subscribe to our Podcast Email if you have not already, as we provide application questions to help make each episode applicable to you, as well as other bonus content. 

We pray this series will be helpful to you and your marriage!

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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!