At a Total Loss – Details, episodes & analysis

This is the 87th day of January and we are still doin the damn thing. I get on the mic to talk about the latest and greatest in loss life...

Here's what I talk about:

• This being the longest month ever and my one resolution has failed
• The absolute anger that comes with baby loss
• Being a *good* person despite loss
• A story about a pregnant chick next to me at the salon
• “A mother to 2 livings and an angel”
• Leaving the babies with someone.
• Staying connected to your partner.
• Breastfeeding chaos.
• Being a good mom to livings and babies that are gone.

Follow me on IG at @thekatherinelazar

Podcast brought to you by LossLink.com

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Mason of the 10ninety Podcast was the guest speaker at our 2025 raised By angels Charity Gala this past weekend. On July 25, 2021, Mason’s life changed forever when he lost his wife Kortni, son Riggins, and daughter Franki in a devastating car accident. He also lost his older brother, Race, and his nephew, Rider.

Now focused on raising his surviving son, Blue, Mason draws strength from the 10/90 Principle, emphasizing that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond. He shares his journey and message of resilience through his podcast, The10ninety, and as a public speaker, inspiring others to find hope and purpose in adversity.

This was a  *dream* episode as Mason is one of the first voices I heard when searching for guidance after losing Brody. I love this conversation. Two grievers (with very different losses) just speaking raw and unfiltered.

More info on Mason: WEBSITE

Find him on IG: https://www.instagram.com/10ninetyrule/

My Charity Org: https://raisedbyangels.org/

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

I chat with Lyndsay about her precious second son, Kove, who was born still at 37 weeks just a little over a year ago. That is when her grief and baby loss journey began. Since then she has started Kove's Keeper, a bereavement care package for parents suffering stillbirth & infant loss in the local hospitals. Devastation has since happened again as Lyndsay suffered a miscarriage since Kove's death. She is now currently pregnant for the 4th time and we discuss the challenges of pregnancy after loss. Lyndsay is also very open about her faith in God & how she has managed this relationship.

Lyndsay is a sweet soul just wanting to parent Kove the best way she can and to help other Loss Moms out there. If you'd like to speak with her, find her on IG @_lyndsburns_ or shoot her an email at lyndsayjackson14@gmail.com

Find other Loss Moms to connect with at LossLink.com! Use code BRODY18 to get your first month for $1.

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

• https://countthekicks.org/
• https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/
• https://www.pushpregnancy.org/
• https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

**Trigger Warning:  baby in the background around 29:50 mark** Megan's daughter, Grace, died at 38 weeks and was born still on June 6, 2020.  Megan opens up about her heartbreak and about how she coped after the death of her first child.  She speaks about her switch in mindset, and how she actively tried to reposition her outlook to a more positive one while choosing better ways of handling grief and sadness.  She also discusses her relationship with fitness and how it changed after Grace.  

You can follow or message Megan on her Instagram @meganbutler28

Domenique is a big voice in the Stillbirth and Baby Loss community.  She has been an inspiration to so many as she openly speaks about her experiences after her son TJ was born still in May 29, 2017.  Domenique talks about finally getting answers to what happened to him as well as her unapologetic way of grieving.  She is also a champion for change, teaming up with several organizations to help prevent stillbirth from happening. Her insight is knowledgeable, insightful, inspirational and compassionate.  This is one episode you do not want to miss!

Domenique mentions several helpful links and contact information throughout the Episode:

How to get in touch with Domenique:  @stillbirthmamafightingforlight

Push for Empowered Pregnancy: @pushpregnancy

Still Counts Campaign: @stillcountsorg

Count the Kicks: @countthekicksus

PushPregnancy.com

Dr Harvey Kliman- Placenta specialist at Yale University

And as always, find me on Instagram: @thekatherinelazar

Kelsey's first born son Patrick was stillborn May 10, 2019.  We discuss genetic blood disorders that cause clots and the medication that is needed to maintain. Kelsey speaks beautifully about how to separate the sadness and the happiness in the loss of her baby.  She expresses that we are the biggest advocates for our children and how losing them is now part of our lives.

Kelsey loves to hear from Loss Moms.  She can be followed on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/kelsey.heslin/

When Katherine's son Brody died, her world shattered.  She had no idea what to do with this level of grief.  Katherine decided that she needed help surviving while still honoring her son so she reached out to other Loss Moms to try to understand what was happening.  Here she found support, motivation, inspiration, hope and even some laughs.  She thought, hell, if these conversations helped her so much, maybe they could help others.   So she documented conversations with Loss Moms.  Here, she explains what to expect on the At a Total Loss Podcast...

Katherine would love to hear your story.  Go to www.katherinelazar.com to submit a request

Liz's first son, Harrison, was born still on October 20, 2021.  Liz talks about the changes she's making in her workplace to receive recognition for bereavement and stillbirth rather than if she had a living child.  She does things with a senes of humor and strong outlook on how to handle grief and who she is now. Follow Liz and bother her with questions! Go to her instagram: @lizmeyers19

Kimberly Isburg, Communications Manager for Count the Kicks and Healthy Birth Day, joins me to discuss the importance of tracking fetal movement and the mission that she is on with her team to make preventable stillbirth a thing of the past.

I of course chime in with my own personal experiences regarding Brody and tracking movement in my subsequent pregnancies.

There is a lot of info in this podcast and it is good for anyone who is pregnant or planning to become pregnant, even without loss. VITAL information!

We mention a lot of great resources. Check out the links below:

• Here is the Evidence page for Count the Kicks: https://countthekicks.org/why-we-count/evidence/
• Here is the App Download page: https://countthekicks.org/download-app/
• Healthy Birth Day Website: https://healthybirthday.org/
• Stillbirth Prevention Act page: https://healthybirthday.org/advocacy/stillbirth-prevention-act/

Watch us on the At a Total Loss podcast YouTube channel! https://youtu.be/JPYrIiMfe2U

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

• Some helpful resources:
• https://countthekicks.org/
• https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/
• https://www.pushpregnancy.org/
• https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/