In this episode, I sit down with David Matheson, a former LDS conversion therapist who is now openly gay. You may recognize David from episode 1 of Bravo’s Surviving Mormonism with Heather Gay.

In our conversation, David opens up about his own experience as a client in conversion therapy, the harmful assumptions that shaped that world, and the moment he realized that no amount of effort would change his sexual orientation. We also talk about the tender complexity of mixed-orientation marriages, his personal coming-out process, and what he would say today to the clients he once tried to help in ways he now knows were damaging.

If you’re navigating your own faith expansion, supporting a loved one who has come out, or simply wanting to understand these experiences with more compassion, this episode offers a gentle, grounded space to listen and learn.

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This bonus episode is for anyone who is looking to better understand their personal relationship with The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Listen as Ask Dr. Julie Hanks combines with the Latter-day Struggles podcast for a special episode all about moving forward with the LDS Church in the healthiest way for you.

If you aren’t sure how to move forward in your relationship with the LDS Church, Valerie and I are hosting a discussion series just for you. This 4-week Q&A series will help you better understand what you want your relationship with the Church to look like. We will show you how differentiation of self can help you develop a healthy relationship with the Church regardless of if you choose to stay or leave.

Listen for a taste of what you'll get when you sign up for this 4-week discussion series all about supporting those who are perplexed about how to relate to the LDS Church. 

The sessions will include a Q&A and instruction on practical ways to develop differentiation skills in your life, which can improve all your relationships--not just your relationship with the Church.

Each one-hour session is held remotely via Zoom. Spots are limited, so don’t wait to sign up. First session held October 8th.

Four one-hour sessions with two therapists is an absolute steal of a deal. While this series is valued at $2,000, you can sign up today for only $169

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In today’s episode, I talk with Nicole and answer the question “How do I know if I want kids because I genuinely want them or because it’s always been expected of me?” After a recent break up caused by her partner not wanting to have children, Nicole is hoping to gain some clarity as to what she wants for her future and why.

Nicole and I talk about how to have a meaningful life with or without children, if it matters at the end of the day if she does want kids because it’s what she’s always assumed her future would hold, and how important it is to develop herself in every stage of life. She comes away from our conversation with a clarity on what she wants for her future—give this episode a listen to hear what she decides.

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In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Melinda and addresses the question “How can my husband and I get on the same page about parenting our teen?” As their children get older, Melinda and her husband have encountered the new experiences that come with parenting teenagers. 

It is easy to become defensive when we have a disagreement. The key to avoiding defensiveness is often in how we speak to each other. Dr. Hanks talks to Melinda about ways she and her husband can do this and help their partnership thrive.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Monica and addresses the question "How can I manage the guilt and fear I feel after my ectopic pregnancy?" Monica shares that she feels she should have mentally recovered from this trauma by now, and that sometimes she even blames herself for what happened.

Dr. Hanks helps Monica see that she needs to practice radical self compassion on her journey. She invites Monica to remember that healing is not linear and that all of her feelings–even the difficult ones–are valid.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Rachel and addresses the question "How can I find the courage to have a baby when I am not sure I would be able to handle it?" Rachel expresses feeling she either has to be a good parent or be good at her career, and fears that she won’t be able to do both at the same time.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks shares that having a baby will change her life, but her life won’t be over. She helps Rachel identify that if she is mindful, thoughtful, and plans well, she can mitigate some of the fears she is experiencing.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Rachelle and addresses the question "When is it appropriate for my personal agency to take precedence over my family's expectations?" Rachelle shares her family’s expectation that every member of the family attend church until they graduate high school, however, her middle child does not feel comfortable attending church.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks shares her experience working with LGBTQIA LDS youth, and helps Rachelle explore the opportunity to reassess family expectations, parent the individual child, and continue showing love and support as a family.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Blakelee and addresses the question "How can I talk with my spouse about my faith transition?" One of the patterns I’ve noticed when couples talk about faith transitions is we often lead with facts instead of feelings which can sometimes lead to our partner feeling defensive or shutting down.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Blakelee through how to focus on expressing her feelings about the church to her husband, and how she can acknowledge the pain he may be feeling when she shares her journey with him.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches McKall and addresses the question “How can I grieve the loss of my baby while celebrating his life?” Grief and loss are hard, especially when saying hello and goodbye to someone at the same time. It is important to find support, seek counseling, gather with family and friends, and celebrate the life of your child. 

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides McKall through feelings of fear that once it’s not so painful to think about, she will not remember him and celebrate him properly. Pain is how we connect when we experience loss, because the pain is tied up with the love, but the love can be there without the pain too.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Sarah and addresses the question “How can I help my husband seek therapy to address his challenges?” We’re born wanting to connect with each other and we learn in early life whether the world is safe or not depending on how we’re treated in those early relationships. If we’ve had some pain that’s unresolved, we can block our desire for connection in order to survive.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Sarah through how to ask her husband to seek help to work through his challenges, learn how to let go of his current way of coping, and be able to connect with her.
 
If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my Podcast and my Online Courses . Connect with me on social media @DrJulieHanks , browse DJH merch , and work with me through joining DJH membership at DrJulieHanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit WasatchFamilyTherapy.com.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Lisa Valentine Clark, actor, author, and host of The Lisa Show, and addresses the question “How can I find the balance between honoring a person I’ve lost while moving forward to create new memories?” In this episode, Lisa talks about the grief she has felt with losing her husband to ALS, and the challenge she has faced wanting to honor his memory while learning how to move on to make new memories. Sometimes when moving forward after a loss, there’s a fear that maybe we don’t love the person we lost as much or we don’t honor them, and we don’t want to betray our loved one.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks shares with Lisa that so often we think we have to pick one or the other, moving on or remembering, and we don’t have to choose. Moving on can be honoring our loved one, and honoring and remembering our loved one can be part of moving on. The level of grief is the same as the level of love and the depth is the same as the height. You can’t have deep love without deep grief when you lose someone.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

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In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Lindsay and addresses the question “How can I feel confident in my life as a single adult in the LDS church?” Lindsay shares that she joined the church in hopes of creating a family she didn’t have growing up, and as that hasn’t happened yet, she’s blaming herself.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Lindsay through her feelings of failure, of sadness and loneliness, and how her childhood experiences may be impacting how she feels about herself today.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Whitney and addresses the question "How can I find and maintain long lasting friendships?" Friendships change and evolve, and that can be painful. It can be more painful when we have early experiences that tell us the story we are not valuable as a friend.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Whitney through how to challenge her thoughts and beliefs about being a valuable friend, including identifying what the behaviors would look like if Whitney believed she was a valuable friend.

Why Do My Friends Always Leave Me?

5 Ways to Improve Female Friendships

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In today’s episode I chat with Morgan and answer the question “How can I talk about boundaries with my narcissistic mother-in-law who turns everything into my fault?” Morgan describes what interactions with her mother-in-law are typically like, and from what I hear it sounds like Morgan is doing a good job interacting with her. From my perspective, the bigger problem is between Morgan and her husband.

There are important conversations Morgan and her husband need to have regarding boundaries and his family. Until she and her husband have basic agreements about what is appropriate to say or do when it comes to his family, there’s not a lot Morgan can do except distance herself from her mother-in-law to avoid being hurt.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Amanda and addresses the question “How can I allow myself to feel anger when others tell me to forgive?” In the LDS church, we often misunderstand the feelings of anger and believe anger is bad or not Christlike.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Amanda through how feeling anger when we’ve been hurt helps us move forward, and how others often ask us to forgive and move on so they can move on.

5 Myths About Forgiveness

To Forgive or Not To Forgive

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Caitlin and addresses the question “How can I separate experiences with imperfect people in the church from my testimony of the Gospel?” Caitlin shares a personal experience illustrating the tension between external authority and internal authority, and how she came to own her authority. For many, it can be helpful to separate their relationship with the church from their relationship with their Heavenly Parents.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Caitlin through identifying the grieving process of recognizing leaders can make mistakes, which is a hard transition to make. Dr. Hanks also guides Caitlin through how she can take responsibility for her own faith and her relationship with the church.

Avoiding Mormon Burnout by Saying No

Spiritual Differentiation: Claiming Personal Authority and Revelation

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Sarah and addresses the question “How can I maintain my own identity and beliefs in a mixed-faith relationship?” Sarah shares she recently dated a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and experienced a few challenges finding a compromise between their varied beliefs.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Sarah through ways she can keep her identity and beliefs while in a mixed-faith relationship. A mixed-faith relationship is about creating a partnership through shared values and identifying non-negotiables, and not through trying to convince or convert the other.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Elizabeth and addresses the question “How can I feel confident in my decision to wear garments when I want to?” Elizabeth shares her struggle wearing garments as a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and her concern about receiving negative comments or judgment from others for that choice.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks validates Elizabeth’s concerns of her choice being misunderstood and teaches Elizabeth that any comments or judgment from others is their problem, not hers. The church leaders give us counsel as seers and prophets to help guide us. Our job is to heed their counsel and in that process we use personal revelation to know how to navigate their counsel. 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Allison and addresses the question “How can I help support my boyfriend as he struggles with pornography?” Reducing the shame surrounding pornography is important, and in most communities in the world, this isn’t a problem. It is a problem because we make it a problem. Viewing pornography doesn’t mean anything about you, your values, or your worth as a person.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks validates Allison’s experience and shares it is not your job to fix, change, or monitor your partner’s behavior. Taking care of you and letting your partner take the lead is going to be really important. If this is distressing to your partner, it is for them to manage it. Pornography does not define who we are.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Kristinya and addresses the question “How do I resolve shame from my religious upbringing for being LGBTQ?” Kristinya shares how she has felt a conflict in her life between her identity as a member of the gay community and her identity as a member of the LDS church.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks validates Kristinya’s experience as painful, real, and damaging. Many individuals Dr. Hanks has worked with have shared this same question and you are not alone. We may feel shame about something, and that may never go away, but we don’t have to let it dictate our life.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Elle and addresses the question “How can I allow myself to feel vulnerable after childhood abuse?” Elle shares that she’s lost the ability to connect in life and to other people, with a big part of that due to experiencing childhood abuse, and is seeking guidance on how to break out of her shell.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks validates Elle’s experience and talks about how it takes a lot of work to be able to live authentically and to not be fearful. A lot of the work will be nurturing that little girl that didn’t have the nurturing she needed, and actually had harm done by the people she loved. We can learn to be that nurturing place, and with a therapist, learn to heal those wounds.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches KayJay and addresses the question “After cutting off my family, how do I stop worrying about their reaction?” Setting boundaries can be hard for anyone, but especially difficult for those who are self-defined “people pleasers.”

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides KayJay and shares that this is going to be an exercise in all the things she fears and how to tolerate that. Are people going to be mad at you when you distance yourself? Is it going to impact relationships? All of that is going to happen, and if it’s something you chose, you can own that.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Shannon and addresses the question “How can I find peace and contentment in things that I can not change?” Living in a remote area of the country without family or social support can feel lonely. You can acknowledge the difficult situations you’re in and that it’s not what you expected, and that’s ok. You can be grateful and grieve.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Shannon working on accepting her reality and grieving her lost expectations. A good place to start the grieving process is spending some time being sad about it, then working towards accepting what it is. Think of feelings of discouragement as grief of lost expectations.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Heather and addresses the question “How can I develop a sense of self without falling into perfectionism?” Individuals who grow up continually praised for their accomplishments can sometimes feel like they need to be doing something big and grand in order for an activity to be worth their time.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Heather by sharing that our performance and our worth are not connected in any way. A person’s worth is based on the fact that they exist and that they’re a human being, and that never changes. 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In today’s episode, I talk with Kelly and answer the question “How do I learn to trust myself when I feel a disconnect between what I learn in therapy and what I hear at Church?” I know that a lot of listeners are going to relate to our discussion.

Kelly shares that she feels two parts of her life—therapy and the Church—have been influential and helpful, but that they are currently at odds. During our time together we talk about Fowler’s Stages of Faith and how Kelly is moving from trusting external authority (sources like Church leaders or teachers) to trusting internal authority (trusting herself to know what is best for her life). 

It’s confusing to have conflicting messages from two important things in your life, and it takes practice to sort through these feelings. I invite Kelly to give herself grace as she learns how to trust herself and reframe her thinking.

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In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Melissa and addresses the question “How can I support my LGBTQ brother who recently came out, and support my parents who are heartbroken about it?” There’s some grieving that comes along with families shifting and changing. When this happens, the family won’t be the same. 

During this episode, Dr. Hanks validates Melissa that right now, people in her family are in a lot of pain, and that’s hard. This episode focuses on how we can nurture empathy within our family without nurturing enmeshment. 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Sara and addresses the question, “How can I find my purpose now that my kids are all in school?” When the kids all enter school, it can cause parents to feel pressured to fill that time with a new job or hobby. Dr. Hanks encourages Sara to enjoy this beautiful time to explore and find things in addition to family that are really meaningful. Make a list of things that are interesting or worth exploring more and see where it leads you. 

During this episode, Dr. Hanks also challenges Sara’s thinking that investing in yourself is not contributing to your community. What you have done, what you are doing, and what you want to do are all valuable. 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Sarah Coyne, professor of human development in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University, and addresses the question, “How can I deal with my child's mental health struggles without becoming burned out myself?”” When our children struggle we often feel that we need to “have it all together” and may question the validity of our feelings of overwhelm, sadness, and powerlessness.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Sarah through identifying that she is doing everything she can do for her child, and challenges Sarah to let herself be the mom and not the “expert.” Dr. Hanks also encourages Sarah to give herself the grace and self compassion she needs.

Supporting a Loved One With Mental Illness

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In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Sophie and addresses the question, “How can I make more friends as an introvert?” Whether we are introverts or extroverts, we are responsible for getting our social needs met, and we are often the one who has to reach out to others.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Sophie through identifying why she may feel uncomfortable finding friends in large social gatherings, and how her history of moving frequently as a child may be impacting her today. Even when you feel the fear, do it anyway, and friendships will begin to develop.

Adults Need Friends Too

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In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Alyssa and addresses the question, “How can I teach my kids responsibility without creating a parentified relationship?” When teaching children responsibility, a good place to begin is looking at the age appropriateness of the task you're asking them to complete.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks also guides Alyssa through identifying the lack of support and resources she felt as a child with responsibilities, and helps her identify how her children's experience will be different. 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Erica and addresses the question, “How might purity culture be affecting my marriage?” Sometimes in society, sexuality is framed as a male thing, where men are sexual and women aren’t. So we don’t have permission as females to own our own sexuality and sensuality. 

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Erica through identifying specific ways she can open up her communication with her husband and asks Erica “what would you say or do if this was just as much about you as it is about him?” They also talk about how to teach children about the principle of chastity and healthy sexuality without shame.

Assertiveness & Women’s Sexuality: Mormon Sex Info Podcast
5 Ways Mormons Can Teach Healthy Sexuality

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Emily and addresses the question, “How can I cope when life doesn’t go the way I planned?” When life doesn’t go the way we plan, it can feel like something is wrong.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Emily through ways she can set boundaries with those who provide invalidating feedback about her life. They also talk about reframing the idea of being on the wrong track to the idea of being on the track where we need to be.

Read Dr. Hanks’ popular Mormon Cultural Commentary Blog Articles

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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In this episode, join Dr. Julie Hanks as she answers audience questions at her live event celebrating 100,000 podcast downloads.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through my membership program, Empower Her Circle. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Nadia and addresses the question, “How can I be happy while being sensitive to the pain of other people?” Throughout life we will have things we are happy about, while other people in our circle may not have that same thing. That can put us in a situation where we hold two seemingly conflicting emotions at the same time, wanting to celebrate our joy while also empathizing with others.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Nadia through how to appreciate and have gratitude for what we have while being sensitive to other people’s pain. You can hold both, you can check in with the people you are concerned about and you can celebrate. Dr. Hanks also reminds Nadia that we are responsible for our behavior, not others feelings or emotions.

Has Infertility Impacted Your Relationships

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Alexis Bradley and Chante Stutznegger, sisters and founders of Let’s Talk Sis, a platform promoting education on race, diversity and creating connection. As new business owners they ask, “How can we balance motherhood and work?”

During this episode, Dr. Hanks reframes the idea of seeking to achieve “balance,” and suggests making work life harmony the goal. There’s never going to be a balance, it sounds unattainable, but having things blend together in a way that works for everyone is a more realistic goal. They also discuss mom guilt and the impact of emotional and mental labor. 

Let’s Talk Sis on Instagram

5 Ways to Reduce Mom Guilt 

Ted Talk: The Costs of Idealizing Motherhood

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

Listen as I talk with Jennifer and answer the question “How can I be present when grief is always reminding me of what could have been?“ Jennifer shares the story of her relationship, her husband’s cancer diagnosis, and her experience of being a new mom of twins while navigating the grief of losing her husband. Now, five years later, she feels split between being present in her daily life and grieving the life she didn’t get to live with her late husband.

Jennifer and I talk more about what it really means to be present in her life. She describes the cloud she feels hanging over her, reminding her of what could have been. We discuss how accepting that her family looks different doesn’t dishonor her late husband—it can help her find more peace with her current reality.

You can find Jennifer on Instagram @cocoscaravan

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Leo and addresses the question, “How can I minister to those who are questioning and doubting their faith?” One of the best things we can do is to listen more than talk no matter where they are and validate their experience and their feelings, even if you don’t agree. 

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Leo through recognizing that someone blaming the church or being angry with the church institution is not personal and has nothing to do with him or members personally. It doesn’t feel that way, but if you can think of it that way, it’s not a threat. 

Course: Finding the Middle Ground in the LDS Church 

25 Things NOT to Say to Believing Loved Ones

25 Things NOT to Say to a Loved One Leaving the Church

Read Dr. Hanks’ popular Mormon Cultural Commentary Blog Articles

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Coral Ward, founder of Gluten Free with Coral and author of the newly released book, No Matter What: Choose joy whether you stay in or leave a hard marriage. In this episode, Coral asks “How can I keep fear and insecurity from getting in the way of dating after divorce?”

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Coral through how to tolerate loneliness and become comfortable being alone. We can consciously practice this by turning off the phone, avoiding distractions, and doing things to get to know ourselves. If we are comfortable in our own skin and with our own company, we will pick a healthier partner in the future.

Coral on Instagram

Gluten Free with Coral

No Matter What: Choose joy whether you stay in or leave a hard marriage

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Bree and addresses the question, “How can I repair relationships I have neglected while dealing with postpartum anxiety and depression?” With relationships that have become distant, if it is something you really want, you’re going to need to take the lead and initiate the repair.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Bree on how to reach out to her friends and separate her apology from the explanation of what has been happening in her life. Friendships can often be repaired, though they may be different, and that’s ok. It’s also ok to grieve for the way the friendship was before the separation.

Why Adults Need Close Friends

How to Survive Friendship Breakups

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Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Janet and addresses the question, “Should we force our son to participate in church activities?” There’s no right way to make this decision. As a parent, you need to decide what your non-negotiables are based on your relationship with the child, who the child is, and how to best parent that child. 

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Janet through fear that by not letting her son have a say or a choice, her son would make some of the same choices she made. We can’t prevent our children from making the same choices we made, and this fear can get in the way of being in tune with what your children need.

When It Comes to Parenting, Worry is Not Love

Read Dr. Hanks’ popular Mormon Cultural Commentary Blog Articles

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Lisa and addresses the question, “How can help build relationships with my step children in a blended family?” After listening to the second episode of Ask Dr. Julie Hanks, Lisa wondered what she could do to help her blended family while they’re young to create a culture of unity. There is no perfect way to do this, every family is different and unique. The way we can show our family we care is by caring and making an effort.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Lisa through identifying ways she can improve communication among the parents, ideas for including her family who live in another state when and where they can, and how she can continue to show her family how much they are loved.

Managing Difficult Family Relationships During the Holidays 

Improving Family Communication 

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In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Alicia and addresses the question, “How will I know when I’m ready to have a baby?” Part of Alicia’s family story or mythology is “having kids means giving up your own desires and being unhappy.” With this perspective, it is easy to see how fear may get in the way of being able to make a decision about when to have a child.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks shares with Alicia that she doesn’t ever need to step away from her personhood, ever. Having children may shift the pace and time frame of things in your life, but it doesn’t have to stop it if you don’t want it to. The key to not abandoning everything when you have children is creating a partnership family and taking your children with you on your adventures.

Creating Partnership Families

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Elizabeth and addresses the question, “How do I create a partnership family after my husband’s death?” Elizabeth’s family had been working towards a partnership model when her husband passed unexpectedly. While moving through grief and trauma, Elizabeth asks how she can implement a partnership model in her home and create a system for taking care of the home.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks introduces Elizabeth to the idea of more often than not. “More often than not, my house is clean. More often than not, my kids do their chores.” Dr. Hanks also shares ways Elizabeth’s children can contribute to the family, and ideas for building in additional support during this time. 

Creating Partnership Families

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Krista and addresses the question, “How do I move through pain and anger after years of infertility?” There’s a finality in Krista’s grief now, where there was hope before, and that’s a different phase of grief. Even though the process has been long, this new realization and acceptance that a baby is not going to happen is still new. 

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Krista through the phases of grief, embracing self-compassion, and giving voice to her grief and resentment. Right now, grief may be right in front of your nose. Over time, it doesn’t go away, but it can move out of the center if you give your grief a voice and allow yourself to feel it.

Has Infertility Impacted Your Relationships

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks Coaches Ashley LeMieux, host of the I Am Podcast and author of I Am Here, and addresses the question, “BLANK.” Being a public personality means you’re in a relationship with thousands of people, and with that comes a lot of feedback and pressure. However, the feedback is not about you, it’s about the post, the image, and the authentic expression of you. 

During this episode, Dr. Hanks helps Ashley identify that what people are reacting to is the expression, not the individual. The criticism or the praise is about the idea or the image and is not personal. This frame of mind creates distance between a person and the feedback. We get to be the gatekeepers of what we take into our heart. 

Ashley LeMiuex on Instagram

The I Am Podcast with Ashley LeMieux

I Am Here: The Journey from Fear to Freedom

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Jenny and addresses the question, “How do I embrace vulnerability and let people help me?” We all grow up with wounds because we have human parents. When we don’t get validation for who we are, what we think, and what we feel growing up, it can show up in adulthood as not feeling good enough. 

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Jenny through beginning to identify where feelings of insecurity may be coming from, and how to give “little Jenny” the validation, love, and support she deserves. It’s normal to care about how other people view you or feel about you as long as it’s balanced with what you think and feel and believe about you. Other people’s opinions shouldn’t have more weight than your own. 

Grieving and Healing Unmet Childhood Needs

Overcoming Insecurities

Overcoming Insecurities Free Printable Worksheet

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

This bonus episode of the podcast is for anyone who is wanting to stay in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints while also protecting their mental health. Listen as fellow LDS therapist Valerie Hamaker and I share insight on important topics like why people choose to stay in the LDS Church after a faith transition and how to develop the crucial skill of setting boundaries.

Choosing to Stay? How to Stay Connected to the LDS Church in a Psychologically Healthy Way

If you choose to stay and want to protect your mental health, Valerie and I are hosting a discussion series just for you. This 4-week Q&A discussion series will help you find clarity, set boundaries, and stay connected to the LDS Church in a psychologically healthy way.

Bring your questions about your complex relationship with the Church, including:

• Difficult family relationships
• Trust crisis about Church history & doctrine
• Feelings of betrayal
• Struggles with social justice issues (women, BIPOC, LGBTQ)
• Benefits of Church participation

Each two-hour session is held remotely via Zoom. Spots are extremely limited, so don’t wait to sign up.

Four two-hour sessions with two therapists is an absolute steal of a deal. While this series is valued at $2,000, you can sign up today for only $169.

Choosing to stay in the Church but want to do it in a psychologically healthy way? Let us help you.⁠

Secure your spot (limited availability) today 

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Krista and addresses the question, “How can I create more equal roles in my home?” A common problem among couples is framing responsibility with one spouse working full-time, and the other spouse being in charge of the household tasks. The problem with this perspective is working full-time has set hours and then you’re off, but being in charge of home and family has no time off.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Krista through ways to reframe family roles to create a partnership family. We also talk about how to hold yourself accountable and how to respond when your partner does not follow through with their household tasks.

Creating Partnership Families

Creating a Partnership Marriage

How Families Can Share Household Responsibilities 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Kimberly Christenson, Chief Content Officer of Promptly Journals, and addresses the question, “BLANK?” Being selfish is doing what’s in your best interest without regard for others. Doing what’s in your best interest, or your families best interest with regard for others is showing self love.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Kimberly through identifying how she can do what’s in her best interest at work, while also showing regard for her co-workers. Relationships are never all about you, and they are never all about the other person. They are about the space in between. It is including caring about others in your decision to prioritize yourself that makes it not selfish.

Promptly Journals

Get 15% off when you sign up for Promptly Newsletter 

Promptly on Instagram 

Self-Care Helps Your Relationships

Avoiding Mormon Burnout By Saying No

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Courtney Brown, Founder and CEO of Cents of Style, and addresses the question, “How do I help myself and my family thrive while caring for a mentally ill child?” Most people who have someone in their family with mental illness need to realize that we have limitations and we need more support. 

Your child’s mental illness is not because of you, it’s not something that you can solve, and it’s not your fault. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Courtney through how to respond to unsolicited advice from others, how to validate the thoughts and feelings that come with raising a child with mental illness, and ways to build in support.

Cents of Style 

Cents of Style on Instagram

Courtney Brown on Instagram 

Supporting a Loved One With Mental Illness

How To Support a Spouse With Mental Illness 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.