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	Title	Pub. Date	Duration
	109 - Are You Waiting for Him to Be Sober Before You Can Be Happy?	22 Oct 2026	00:19:46
Are you waiting for your husband to stop drinking before you can finally relax? Maybe he's working hard on his sobriety. Maybe he's been to rehab. Maybe you're watching for signs that this time will be different. You want to feel hopeful. But you're also exhausted. Because even when things are going well, there's still that question in the back of your mind: What if it doesn't last? And somewhere along the way, you might have started putting your own life on hold. The friendships. The hobbies. The plans. The things that used to make you feel like you. All waiting until things with him finally settle down. In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda shares why it's so easy to become consumed by a loved one's drinking or recovery - and what can happen when your own wellbeing starts depending entirely on how they're doing. In this episode, we talk about: Why you might still feel worried and exhausted even when he's making progress in recovery. How watching his moods, meetings and behaviour can take over your day. The hidden cost of waiting for things to get better before making plans for yourself. Why focusing on your wellbeing doesn't mean giving up on him. One small way to reconnect with the things you enjoyed before his drinking became such a big part of your life. You can love him, hope for his recovery and begin making changes for yourself. Those things can coexist. Ready for support with the how? If you're tired of checking, second-guessing yourself and feeling like your whole day revolves around whether your husband is drinking, I'd love to invite you into Recovery Reclaimed Together. It's my eight-week program for people impacted by a loved one's addiction, where we work through the everyday situations that can feel so difficult to navigate. With practical tools, group coaching and a supportive private community, you'll learn how to respond to challenging situations, understand what's yours to take responsibility for and start making changes that support your own wellbeing. You don't have to wait for your husband to stop drinking, admit there's a problem or go to rehab before you can get support for yourself. Find out more about Recovery Reclaimed Together And if you're unsure whether it's right for you, you can email me at amanda@addictionmakesthree.com You don't have to solve everything that's happening with your husband before you can begin looking after yourself. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	108 - He Says He Hasn't Been Drinking. Why Don't I Believe Him?	20 Oct 2026	00:24:31
Your husband says he hasn't been drinking. But something feels off. You ask him, he says no, and now you're questioning yourself. How do you know what to believe when trust has been broken before? Maybe it's the way he's speaking. Maybe he's unusually chatty or quiet. Maybe his behaviour just doesn't seem quite right. So you ask him if he's been drinking. He looks you in the eye and says no. And now you're left wondering whether to believe him or trust what you're noticing. If you've been lied to about drinking before, it's understandable that you might find yourself questioning everything. You start watching his behaviour, checking for bottles, looking for clues and trying to work out what's really happening. And before you know it, you've become the detective in your own relationship. In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, we're talking about what happens when trust has been broken, why you might find yourself constantly checking for signs of drinking, and how to start rebuilding trust in yourself. In this episode, we explore: Why you might question yourself when your husband denies drinking How repeated dishonesty can leave you feeling confused and unsure of what to believe Why you start checking, watching and looking for evidence What to do when something feels wrong but you don't know for certain whether he's been drinking Why rebuilding trust in yourself matters just as much as rebuilding trust in your relationship Here's something I really want you to hear: You don't have to know for certain whether he's been drinking before you can decide what feels okay for you. You can notice the behaviour, consider what you need and make decisions that support you, even when you don't have all the answers. And you don't have to figure out how to do that alone. Ready for support with the how? If you're tired of checking, second-guessing yourself and feeling like your whole day revolves around whether your husband is drinking, I'd love to invite you into Recovery Reclaimed Together. It's my eight-week program for people impacted by a loved one's addiction, where we work through the everyday situations that can feel so difficult to navigate. With practical tools, group coaching and a supportive private community, you'll learn how to respond to challenging situations, understand what's yours to take responsibility for and start making changes that support your own wellbeing. You don't have to wait for your husband to stop drinking, admit there's a problem or go to rehab before you can get support for yourself. Find out more about Recovery Reclaimed Together And if you're unsure whether it's right for you, you can email me at amanda@addictionmakesthree.com You don't have to solve everything that's happening with your husband before you can begin looking after yourself. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	107 - My Husband Has Stopped Drinking. Why Are Things Still So Hard?	17 Oct 2026	00:24:49
Your husband has stopped drinking. Which is great. Maybe it's been six months, nine months or even a year. So why are you still walking on eggshells? Why do certain conversations still feel impossible? And why doesn't home feel the way you hoped it would? In Episode 107 of Addiction Makes Three, I'm talking about the difference between sobriety and recovery - because while they're often used interchangeably, they're not the same thing. We explore why stopping drinking is such an important milestone, but doesn't automatically rebuild trust, connection or emotional safety. And what recovery can start to look like through accountability, willingness to have difficult conversations and small steps towards repairing relationships. We also talk about something that's often overlooked: spouses and families need recovery too. If your loved one is sober but you're still feeling confused, disconnected or unsure what comes next, this episode is for you. If you'd like more support, you can explore my Discovery to Recovery programme or book a friendly chat with me. 🌿 Looking for more support? 👉Discovery to Recovery If this episode resonated and you're wondering, "Where do I even begin?", Discovery to Recovery is your first step out of chaos and into feeling steady. Designed for partners and family members affected by addiction, this self-paced programme helps you move out of survival mode, understand what's happening, quiet the overwhelm, and begin making small choices and decisions from a place of clarity instead of fear. If you're feeling stuck, constantly overthinking, or unsure what to do next, this is where I'd encourage you to start. 👉Recovery Reclaimed If you've already begun that journey and you're ready for more practical tools, deeper understanding, and ongoing support, Recovery Reclaimed is your next step. Together we'll help you strengthen your boundaries, rebuild trust in yourself, gain greater clarity, and move forward with confidence—regardless of what your loved one chooses. 👉https://www.addictionmakesthree.com/programwaitlist Pathway to Wellness If you're ready for personalised coaching, live support, and a community of people who truly understand, you can join the Pathway to Wellness waitlist. This is my signature coaching programme, designed to help you reconnect with yourself, create lasting change, and build a life that no longer revolves around addiction. 👉 https://addictionmakesthree.as.me/friendlychat Not sure where to begin? If you're unsure which path is right for you, you're always welcome to book in a friendly chat to talk it through. It's a private, no-pressure conversation where I'll listen to what's happening for you, help you make sense of where you are, and recommend what I believe would be your best next step. You don't have to keep carrying this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	106 - Is My Husband an Alcoholic? When Everyone Else Thinks He's Fine	12 Oct 2026	00:24:17
He has a good job. He's respected, successful, and everyone thinks he's a great guy. But behind closed doors? It's a different story. You're watching how much he drinks, walking on eggshells, and wondering whether tonight will be peaceful. And you keep asking yourself: Is my husband an alcoholic? Or am I making too much of this? In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda explores why alcoholism doesn't always look the way we expect, the confusion surrounding the term functioning alcoholic, and why finding the right label might not be the most helpful place to start. In this episode, we explore: Why someone's drinking can be a problem even when they appear to be functioning The two very different versions of your loved one Why waiting for them to admit there's a problem can keep you stuck The question that can help you begin moving forward Because it doesn't have to be a problem for them, for it to be a problem for you. 🎧 Listen now, and if this feels familiar, you might also find Episode 2, The Blurry Beginning, helpful. And then Episode 5, What about us. 🌿 Looking for more support? 👉Discovery to Recovery If this episode resonated and you're wondering, "Where do I even begin?", Discovery to Recovery is your first step out of chaos and into feeling steady. Designed for partners and family members affected by addiction, this self-paced programme helps you move out of survival mode, understand what's happening, quiet the overwhelm, and begin making small choices and decisions from a place of clarity instead of fear. If you're feeling stuck, constantly overthinking, or unsure what to do next, this is where I'd encourage you to start. 👉 https://addictionmakesthree.as.me/friendlychat Not sure where to begin? If you're unsure which path is right for you, you're always welcome to book in a friendly chat to talk it through. It's a private, no-pressure conversation where I'll listen to what's happening for you, help you make sense of where you are, and recommend what I believe would be your best next step. You don't have to keep carrying this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	105 - I Don't Know What To Do. Finding Clarity When You Love Someone With Addiction	25 Jul 2026	00:24:17
One of the most common things I hear from partners and family members is... "I don't know what to do anymore." If you've ever found yourself wondering: Should I stay or leave? How do I support someone with addiction? What boundaries should I set? Should I tell the kids? How do I know if I'm doing the right thing? ...this episode is for you. Living alongside addiction is exhausting. You're often carrying the emotional weight of the family, trying to protect your children, making impossible decisions, and second-guessing yourself every step of the way. In this episode, I share why feeling confused doesn't mean you're weak or incapable. It often means you've been carrying far too much for far too long. We'll talk about: Why "I don't know what to do" is such a common experience Decision fatigue and emotional overwhelm Why clarity feels impossible when you're in survival mode The hidden impact of hypervigilance How to stop trying to solve the next ten years A gentler question that can help you find your next step If you've been searching for answers while supporting a loved one with alcohol or drug addiction, I hope this episode helps you feel a little less alone. 🌿 Looking for more support? 👉Discovery to Recovery If this episode resonated and you're wondering, "Where do I even begin?", Discovery to Recovery is your first step out of chaos and into feeling steady. Designed for partners and family members affected by addiction, this self-paced programme helps you move out of survival mode, understand what's happening, quiet the overwhelm, and begin making small choices and decisions from a place of clarity instead of fear. If you're feeling stuck, constantly overthinking, or unsure what to do next, this is where I'd encourage you to start. 👉Recovery Reclaimed If you've already begun that journey and you're ready for more practical tools, deeper understanding, and ongoing support, Recovery Reclaimed is your next step. Together we'll help you strengthen your boundaries, rebuild trust in yourself, gain greater clarity, and move forward with confidence—regardless of what your loved one chooses. 👉 Pathway to Wellness If you're ready for personalised coaching, live support, and a community of people who truly understand, you can join the Pathway to Wellness waitlist. This is my signature coaching programme, designed to help you reconnect with yourself, create lasting change, and build a life that no longer revolves around addiction. 👉 Not sure where to begin? If you're unsure which path is right for you, you're always welcome to book in a friendly chat to talk it through. It's a private, no-pressure conversation where I'll listen to what's happening for you, help you make sense of where you are, and recommend what I believe would be your best next step. You don't have to keep carrying this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	104 - From My Notebook \| The Signs of Recovery We Almost Always Miss	21 Jul 2026	00:25:15
When someone you love is struggling with addiction, it's natural to focus on the obvious signs. Are they drinking? Using? Going to meetings? Following through with treatment? But what if some of the most meaningful signs of recovery are the ones we almost always miss? In this first From My Notebook episode, I'm sharing a story that has stayed with me long after a coaching session ended. It starts with a lemon tree... but it's really about recognising the quiet moments that tell us someone is slowly finding their way back to themselves. If you're supporting a loved one with addiction, feeling exhausted, hypervigilant, or constantly searching for reassurance, this episode will gently invite you to look beyond the crisis and notice the ordinary moments where hope quietly begins. In this episode, we explore: Why families and spouses naturally become hypervigilant when living with addiction. The quiet signs of recovery we often overlook. Why recovery is about more than sobriety. How noticing the small moments can help you reconnect with hope. Why healing begins long before life feels "fixed." Because sometimes recovery doesn't arrive with fireworks, or a grand entrance announcing itself. Sometimes... it quietly arrives with lemons. 🌿 Looking for more support? 👉Discovery to Recovery If this episode resonated and you're wondering, "Where do I even begin?", Discovery to Recovery is your first step out of chaos and into feeling steady. Designed for partners and family members affected by addiction, this self-paced programme helps you move out of survival mode, understand what's happening, quiet the overwhelm, and begin making small choices and decisions from a place of clarity instead of fear. If you're feeling stuck, constantly overthinking, or unsure what to do next, this is where I'd encourage you to start. 👉Recovery Reclaimed If you've already begun that journey and you're ready for more practical tools, deeper understanding, and ongoing support, Recovery Reclaimed is your next step. Together we'll help you strengthen your boundaries, rebuild trust in yourself, gain greater clarity, and move forward with confidence—regardless of what your loved one chooses. 👉 Pathway to Wellness If you're ready for personalised coaching, live support, and a community of people who truly understand, you can join the Pathway to Wellness waitlist. This is my signature coaching programme, designed to help you reconnect with yourself, create lasting change, and build a life that no longer revolves around addiction. 👉 Not sure where to begin? If you're unsure which path is right for you, you're always welcome to book in a friendly chat to talk it through. It's a private, no-pressure conversation where I'll listen to what's happening for you, help you make sense of where you are, and recommend what I believe would be your best next step. You don't have to keep carrying this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	103 - The Things You Can (and Can't) Control	02 Jul 2026	00:22:16
What if your peace didn't have to wait? So many of us quietly tell ourselves: 💛 "I'll feel better when they stop drinking." 💛 "I'll relax when they get help." 💛 "I'll be happy when things settle down." But what if peace doesn't arrive at the end of someone else's recovery journey? In this episode, Amanda shares two powerful voice notes from a listener whose words capture something so many families affected by addiction experience: We can't make someone stop drinking. We can't force someone into recovery. But we can begin changing where we put our time, energy and focus, and support someone in a healthy way. In this episode we are talking about Why trying to change someone else's drinking leaves us exhausted The difference between supporting someone and carrying them Why your wellbeing doesn't have to depend on someone else's choices What you can and can't control when living with a loved one's addiction How to begin finding peace, whether your loved one is drinking, sober or somewhere in between If you've ever found yourself searching for: • How do I stop worrying about my husband's drinking? • How do I find peace when someone I love has an addiction? • Why do I feel responsible for someone else's recovery? • How do I support someone without losing myself? This episode is for you. 👉 READY FOR THE NEXT STEP? If today's episode resonated, I'd love to invite you to explore Discovery to Recovery. Discovery to Recovery is my coaching programme for partners and family members affected by addiction. It's designed to help you stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, reconnect with yourself, and find more peace, regardless of where your loved one is on their journey. You don't have to wait for someone else to change before you start changing your own experience. Find out more here 👉 NEED MORE SUPPORT? If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda. It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help. book in a friendly chat to talk it through The waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	102 - It’s all you think about. It takes Up Everything in Your Mind	26 Jun 2026	00:15:11
If you've been feeling exhausted lately... but it's not the kind of exhaustion sleep fixes... this episode is for you. When you're living with a partner or loved one struggling with alcohol addiction or substance use, it's not just the drinking that's exhausting. It's the constant worrying. The overthinking. The planning. The scanning. The mental load of trying to keep everything together while wondering what kind of day or night it's going to be. In this episode, Amanda shares more powerful listener voice notes from the OUT LOUD series and explores the invisible weight so many families carry but rarely talk about. If you've ever found yourself thinking: 💛 Why am I so exhausted all the time? 💛 Why can't I switch off? 💛 Why am I always thinking about their drinking? 💛 Why does it feel like my brain never stops? This episode will help you understand why. FREE LIVE WORKSHOP How to Let Go Without Giving Up How to Find Peace Whether Your Loved One Is Sober Or Not If today's episode resonated with you, I'd love to invite you to my free live workshop. Together we'll explore how to stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, how to find more peace in the moments you can control, and how to reconnect with yourself again - without giving up on the person you love. Whether your loved one is actively drinking, in recovery, or somewhere in between, you'll leave with practical tools and a new way of thinking about your own wellbeing. July 2nd \| 3rd (replay will be available) Register your spot here 👉 NEED MORE SUPPORT? If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda. It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help. book in a friendly chat to talk it through The waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	101 - It Steals Us Away from the Person We Used to Be	24 Jun 2026	00:23:09
What happens when you spend so much time focused on someone else's addiction that you stop recognising yourself? In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda explores one of the quieter impacts of loving someone struggling with alcohol addiction, substance use, or addictive behaviours: the loss of self that can happen along the way. Through powerful listener voice notes and Amanda's own experiences, this episode dives into what it looks like when your thoughts become consumed by someone else's drinking, recovery, moods, choices, and wellbeing. You might recognise yourself if you've ever found yourself wondering: 💛 Why am I always thinking about their drinking? 💛 Why do I feel so exhausted all the time? 💛 Have I lost myself in this relationship? 💛 Why don't I know what I want anymore? 💛 How do I stop addiction consuming my life? Amanda shares why this happens, how loving someone with addiction can slowly pull us away from ourselves, and why reconnecting with who you are doesn't have to start with a huge life change. This episode is part of the OUT LOUD series, sharing the real voices and lived experiences of people impacted by a loved one's addiction. 👉 FREE LIVE WORKSHOP - July 2nd \| 3rd replay will be available Letting Go Without Giving Up - Finding Peace Whether Your Loved One Is Sober Or Not If you've ever found yourself thinking: "I'll feel better when they get help." "I'll relax when things settle down." "I'll be happy when the drinking stops." This free live workshop is for you. Together, we'll explore how to stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, how to find more peace in the moments you can control, and how to start reconnecting with yourself again. Because your life doesn't have to stay on hold while you wait for someone else to change. July 2nd \| 3rd replay will be available Register your spot here 👉 READY TO TALK IT THROUGH? If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda. It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help. book in a friendly chat to talk it through The waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	100 - The Things We Rarely Say Out Loud About Loving Someone with Addiction	19 Jun 2026	00:32:32
What if the hardest part isn't their addiction... What if it's what living alongside addiction has done to you? For this special 100th episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda shares real voice notes from listeners around the world about what it's really like loving someone struggling with alcohol addiction, substance use, or addictive behaviours. Together, their voices share... Feeling exhausted from constantly worrying Walking on eggshells and living in anticipation Losing themselves in someone else's addiction The loneliness nobody sees Grief, heartbreak and wanting peace If you've ever found yourself searching: "Have I lost myself?" "Why am I so exhausted all the time?" "Why does nobody understand?" or "This is consuming my life..." This episode is for you. 💛 OUT LOUD This episode is the beginning of a special series sharing the voices, experiences and stories of people impacted by a loved one's addiction. Want to add your voice? Visit: www.addictionmakesthree.com/outloud 👉 READY TO TALK IT THROUGH? If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda. It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help. book in a friendly chat to talk it through The waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	99 - I Think I've Lost Myself In This. Who Am I Without Their Addiction?	16 Jun 2026	00:28:30
Have you ever stopped and wondered who you would be if addiction wasn't part of your life anymore? Not because you don't love your person. But because addiction has taken up so much space in your life that you've lost touch with yourself. In this episode, we're talking about the quiet loss of identity that can happen when you've spent years focused on someone else's drinking, drug use, recovery, choices and wellbeing. We chat about... 💛 Why addiction can slowly become part of your identity 💛 Why peace can feel scarier than chaos 💛 The labels many loved ones unknowingly carry 💛 Grieving the version of yourself you feel you've lost 💛 How to begin reconnecting with yourself again If you've ever thought: "I think I've lost myself in this." This episode is for you. 👉 READY TO TALK IT THROUGH? If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with me. It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help. book in a friendly chat to talk it through 👉 Special Listener Series As Addiction Makes Three approaches 100 episodes, Amanda is inviting listeners to be part of a special series called "Out Loud" Visit www.addictionmakesthree.com/outloud Because sometimes the things we think we're carrying alone are the very things somebody else needs to hear. 👉 Want more support and clarity? The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	98 - Is This Just My Life Now? How Addiction Slowly Makes Your World Smaller	11 Jun 2026	00:22:41
A client recently said to me, "I finally love my job... but I don't get joy anywhere." And I think that one sentence captures what so many people impacted by addiction experience. Because one of the sneakiest things about survival mode is that it doesn't always look like falling apart. Sometimes it looks like functioning. You still go to work. You still parent. You still pay the bills. You still show up. From the outside, it can look like you're coping. Maybe you've even been telling yourself you're coping. But somewhere along the way, life starts becoming something you get through rather than something you experience. You stop seeing friends as often. You stop doing things you enjoy. You stop making plans. You stop dreaming about what you want. And without even realising it, your world slowly becomes smaller. In this episode, we're talking about the hidden impact addiction can have on the people living alongside it. Not just the obvious challenges. But the way loving someone struggling with alcohol addiction can affect your joy, your identity, your relationships, and your experience of your own life. 💛 Why survival mode can feel so normal you stop noticing it 💛 The difference between coping and truly living 💛 Why so many spouses and partners of people struggling with addiction feel disconnected from themselves 💛 How addiction can slowly shrink your world without you realising 💛 The question I believe every person living alongside addiction needs to ask themselves Because the goal isn't simply to cope. The goal is to live. And if you've been feeling exhausted, disconnected, emotionally flat, or like life has become something you're managing rather than enjoying, I hope this episode reminds you that you're not alone. And perhaps more importantly... that this doesn't have to be the rest of your life. 🎧 Listen now and let me know what resonated most. 👉👉 Special Listener Series As Addiction Makes Three approaches 100 episodes, Amanda is inviting listeners to be part of a special series called "Out Loud" Share your voice and answer one of three questions: What do you wish more people knew about loving someone with addiction? When you look back, how has addiction changed you? What do you want more of in your life now? 👉👉 Visit www.addictionmakesthree.com/outloud Because sometimes the things we think we're carrying alone are the very things somebody else needs to hear. 👉 Want more support and clarity? If you're thinking: "I know something needs to change, but I don't know where to start." Discovery to Recovery was created for exactly this moment. To help you move from confusion and survival mode to clarity, steadiness and relief. Because you don't need all the answers right now. You just need your next best step. Learn more about Discovery to Recovery here. 💕 The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	97 - I Don't Think I Get To Fall Apart	09 Jun 2026	00:18:36
What happens when you've spent years being the strong one? The one who keeps going. The one who remembers everything. The one who holds the family together. The one who keeps functioning no matter what's happening around them. In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda explores the hidden exhaustion so many people impacted by addiction carry. The kind of exhaustion that doesn't come from a bad week. But from years of hypervigilance, over-functioning, emotional responsibility and survival mode. Because somewhere along the way, many people stop asking: "How am I?" And start asking: "What needs doing next?" If you've ever felt like you don't get to fall apart, this episode is for you. In this episode: Why being the strong one can become part of your identity The hidden emotional cost of always holding everything together The difference between wanting to leave your relationship and wanting to leave your responsibilities Why so many people impacted by addiction feel exhausted, resentful and disconnected The question Amanda wishes more people would ask themselves Your loved one's recovery matters. But so does yours. If you've been carrying more than anyone realises, perhaps even more than you realise yourself, maybe today's episode is your reminder that you don't have to keep doing it alone. 👉👉 Special Listener Series As Addiction Makes Three approaches 100 episodes, Amanda is inviting listeners to be part of a special series called "Out Loud" Share your voice and answer one of three questions: What do you wish more people knew about loving someone with addiction? When you look back, how has addiction changed you? What do you want more of in your life now? 👉👉 Visit www.addictionmakesthree.com/outloud Because sometimes the things we think we're carrying alone are the very things somebody else needs to hear. 🎧 Listen now. Want more support and clarity? If you're thinking: "I know something needs to change, but I don't know where to start." Discovery to Recovery was created for exactly this moment. To help you move from confusion and survival mode to clarity, steadiness and relief. Because you don't need all the answers right now. You just need your next best step. Learn more about Discovery to Recovery here. 💕 The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	96 - I Can't Switch Off: Why I'm Always Waiting For Something To Go Wrong	04 Jun 2026	00:20:08
Do you feel like you're always waiting for the next problem? The next phone call. The next argument. The next relapse. The next thing that throws everything off course. If you love someone struggling with addiction, that constant feeling of being "on" can become so normal that you stop questioning it. You tell yourself you're just stressed. Just tired. Just a bit anxious. But what if the reason you can't relax has nothing to do with your personality? In this episode, Amanda explores one of the hidden impacts of loving someone with addiction: survival mode. From constantly scanning moods and overthinking conversations to feeling responsible for everyone else's wellbeing, many spouses and family members find themselves living in a state of hypervigilance without even realising it. Amanda shares why anxiety, emotional exhaustion and the inability to switch off are often signs of a nervous system that has spent years adapting to uncertainty. Inside this episode: • Why you're always waiting for something to go wrong • The hidden impact addiction has on your nervous system • What survival mode actually looks like in everyday life • Why hypervigilance becomes normal • The difference between surviving and feeling safe • Why there's nothing wrong with you If you've ever found yourself asking: "Why can't I relax?" "Why am I always on edge?" "Why do I feel responsible for everything?" This episode is for you. 🎧 Listen now. And if you're ready to stop carrying this on your own, Discovery to Recovery is designed to help you move from survival mode to feeling steadier, clearer and less alone. Because your loved one's recovery matters. But so does yours. 💕 If you're thinking: "I know something needs to change, but I don't know where to start." Discovery to Recovery was created for exactly this moment. To help you move from confusion and survival mode to clarity, steadiness and relief. Because you don't need all the answers right now. You just need your next best step. Learn more about Discovery to Recovery here. Want more support and clarity? The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	95 - I Know Something Needs To Change… I Just Don't Know Where To Start	02 Jun 2026	00:20:15
Learn more about Discovery to Recovery here You know something needs to change. You know something isn't working. You know you're exhausted. But when you're living with addiction in a relationship, knowing what to do next can feel impossible. Maybe you're constantly thinking about your loved one's drinking, drug use, gambling, or addictive behaviour. Maybe you're walking on eggshells, trying not to make things worse. Maybe you're lying awake at night wondering: "Am I overreacting?" "Is it really that bad?" "How much longer do I wait?" "What am I supposed to do?" And honestly, when you're living with addiction in your home, it's easy to become stuck between recognising there's a problem and knowing what to do about it. In this episode, Amanda explores one of the most difficult parts of loving someone with addiction: The confusion. The limbo. The emotional exhaustion that comes from trying to understand addiction, trying to help, trying to cope, and trying to carry it all on your own. She shares why so many partners, spouses and family members affected by addiction stay stuck for years, the hidden fear that often stops us seeking support, and why support isn't about being told to leave or stay. It's about finding relief. If you've been feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, trapped in survival mode, or unsure how to move forward when someone you love is struggling with addiction, this episode will help you understand why you're feeling the way you are and what your next best step might be. Because your loved one's recovery matters. But so does yours. 💕 If you're thinking: "I know something needs to change, but I don't know where to start." Discovery to Recovery was created for exactly this moment. To help you move from confusion and survival mode to clarity, steadiness and relief. Because you don't need all the answers right now. You just need your next best step. Learn more about Discovery to Recovery here. Want more support and clarity? The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	94 - I’m In Limbo: How Long Do I Wait?	27 May 2026	00:21:56
What happens when the person you love recognises they have a problem (or maybe they don't)… and nothing feels steady? What happens when you keep hoping things will improve… but your life slowly becomes consumed by waiting? In this deeply honest episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda explores the emotional limbo so many spouses and family members of people struggling with addiction quietly live in: waiting for sobriety, waiting for stability, waiting for peace, waiting to finally exhale. Amanda opens up about the painful reality of putting life on hold while hoping things will eventually get better - and the emotional exhaustion that comes from tying your wellbeing to someone else’s recovery. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: • “I’ll be happy when things settle down.” • “Maybe I just need to wait a little longer.” • “I don’t know what I’m supposed to do.” • “How long do I keep doing this?” …this episode is for you. Because you do not need to figure everything out today. You just need a healthier next step. 🎧 If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, or share it with someone who may need to hear these words today. 👇 Discovery to Recovery You know something has to change but you don't know where to start... This is the first step to getting out of survival mode, and into living your one great life. It is a gentle, practical starting point for spouses and family members who know something needs to change but feel completely overwhelmed about where to begin. 👉 Discovery to Recovery is your first exhale. Start here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	93 - How Survival Mode Slowly Becomes Your Personality	21 May 2026	00:18:43
One of the hardest parts about loving someone struggling with alcohol or addiction? How slowly survival mode starts feeling normal. The hypervigilance. The walking on eggshells. The overthinking. The emotional exhaustion. The inability to fully relax. And over time… you stop recognising yourself. In this episode, Amanda explores the hidden ways addiction impacts partners and families - and how survival mode slowly becomes something you mistake for your personality. If you’ve ever found yourself: constantly monitoring moods over-functioning and carrying everything unable to switch off or relax emotionally exhausted all the time walking on eggshells feeling like your world has become smaller thinking “I don’t even feel like myself anymore” …this episode is for you. Inside this conversation, Amanda shares: why survival mode happens so gradually how hypervigilance affects your nervous system the hidden emotional load many partners carry why addiction changes the whole emotional atmosphere of a home the connection between perfectionism and survival mode how women slowly disconnect from themselves while trying to hold everything together And most importantly? A reminder that this isn’t who you are. This is survival mode. Want more support and clarity? ✨ Discovery to Recovery If you know something needs to change, but feel overwhelmed about where to even begin… this is your first step out of survival mode. Quietly, in the privacy of your own home and at your own pace. Find out more about Discovery to Recovery and take your next smallest step towards a better life. And... if you want the next step The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	92 - Am I Overreacting? The Hidden Damage Addiction Causes	19 May 2026	00:23:27
Have you ever asked yourself, "Maybe It’s Me?" One of the hardest parts about loving someone struggling with alcohol or addiction? It’s not always the drinking, the lying, the gambling, or the chaos. It’s what slowly starts happening to you. And loosing your own trust is one of those impacts that is lesser seen and almost never spoken about. But it's impacts are devastating. In this episode, Amanda talks about the hidden emotional toll addiction can have on partners and families - the confusion, hypervigilance, self-doubt, and the slow erosion of self-trust that can happen over time. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: “Maybe I’m overreacting” “Maybe it’s not actually that bad” “Maybe it’s me” …this episode is for you. Amanda shares: Why addiction-impacted relationships create so much confusion How hypervigilance and overthinking become survival strategies The emotional impact of constantly questioning your reality Why self-trust is often the biggest casualty How survival mode slowly disconnects you from yourself The small ways you can begin rebuilding trust in yourself again This is an honest, compassionate conversation for anyone feeling emotionally exhausted, disconnected from themselves, or unsure what’s normal anymore. 💛 You are not crazy. 💛 You are not weak. 💛 And you do not have to carry this alone. Want more support and clarity? The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	91 - The Hills I’ll Die On After Loving Someone With Addiction	14 May 2026	00:19:07
Today Amanda shares the “hills she’ll die on” after loving someone struggling with alcohol and addiction… and after supporting hundreds of women and men impacted by it too. From waiting for rock bottom… to believing sobriety should magically fix everything… to thinking more information will finally make things feel better… This episode challenges some of the biggest myths people quietly carry in addiction and recovery. In this episode we talk through... Why you do NOT need to wait for things to get worse before getting support Why sobriety doesn’t automatically heal the people around the addiction The confusion, self-doubt and “crazy making” impact of addiction Why learning more about addiction is not the same as healing from its impact The truth about hypervigilance and survival mode Why you deserve to live your life too Awareness matters. But awareness alone does not create change. Want more? The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	90 - I Miss Who I Used To Be: How Survival Mode Slowly Changes You	13 May 2026	00:20:54
Sometimes the hardest part about addiction…. is realising how much you have changed too. In this deeply personal episode, Amanda opens up about the grief of losing yourself in survival mode. The anxiety. The hypervigilance. The exhaustion. The version of you that slowly disappeared while trying to hold everything together. Because addiction doesn’t just impact the person struggling. It changes the people around them too. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: How survival mode slowly changes you The grief of losing yourself in addiction Why hypervigilance becomes your “normal” The hidden emotional exhaustion partners carry Why you may not recognise yourself anymore The difference between your identity and your survival adaptations Rebuilding self-trust and reconnecting with yourself Why life is not supposed to feel like constant survival mode You didn’t lose yourself because you were weak. You lost parts of yourself trying to survive something really hard for a really long time. The version of you that exists in survival mode… is not who you are. It’s an adaptation. And underneath it all? You are still there. So if you’re quietly thinking: “God… I miss myself…” The waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you want to find out more. Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program 👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it through Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support. You were never supposed to carry this much for this long. And you deserve to live your life too. And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family. If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	89 - Mother’s Day, Addiction, and the Grief No One Talks About	07 May 2026	00:27:05
Mother’s Day can bring up a lot for many of us. And when addiction has touched your life… not all of it feels good. Because Mother’s Day can become this painful mix of hope, disappointment and grief all at the same time. In this deeply personal episode, Amanda opens up about the complicated emotional reality of Mother’s Day when addiction is part of your story. From unmet expectations… to feeling unseen… to grieving the version of family life you thought you’d have… this episode puts words to feelings so many people quietly carry. In this episode, we talk about: Why Mother’s Day can feel emotionally heavy in addiction The hope that “maybe this year will be different” The heartbreak of disappointment and unmet expectations Grieving the life and relationship you thought you’d have The invisible loneliness of high-functioning addiction Why social media can make these feelings even harder The meaning we attach to gifts, effort, and feeling seen How to approach Mother’s Day with more compassion for yourself Because truthfully You can love your family deeply… and still feel sadness. You can feel grateful… and still grieve what’s missing. And multiple things can be true at once. This episode is for you if: Mother’s Day feels complicated You feel unseen or emotionally alone Addiction has changed how family celebrations feel You’re carrying grief no one else seems to notice You’re trying to hold it all together for everyone else If this episode feels close to home… you don’t have to carry this on your own. Amanda has opened up a small number of “talk it through” spaces - a chance to simply talk things through with someone who understands this space. 👉 book in a friendly chat here You are allowed to have mixed feelings about Mother’s Day. And you are worthy of being seen, appreciated, and cared for too. 👉 Resources and support: If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	88 - Why Learning More About Addiction Might Be Keeping You Stuck	05 May 2026	00:15:02
You’ve learnt a lot about addiction. You understand the patterns. You can see what’s happening. You’ve done the reading, the podcasts, the research. So why does it still feel like nothing is changing? In this episode, we’re talking about a trap that’s easy to fall into - especially when you’re trying to handle this better: 👉 learning more… instead of doing differently Because at some point, more knowledge doesn’t create change. It keeps you in what I call consumption mode. In this episode, we cover: What “consumption mode” actually looks like (and how to spot it) Why learning more about addiction can start to keep you stuck The difference between understanding something and being able to act on it Why you can’t access what you know in high-stress moments How your nervous system pulls you back into familiar patterns Why this isn’t about effort - it’s about implementation What actually helps you start doing things differently Truthfully... You’re not stuck because you don’t care. And you’re definitely not stuck because you’re not trying. You’re stuck because knowing what to do and being able to do it in real life… are two very different things. Here’s the shift There’s no prize for knowing everything about addiction. Change doesn’t come from more information. It comes from: 👉 practising something different 👉 applying it in real moments 👉 getting support while you do If you’re thinking: “I know so much… but I’m still doing the same things…” You don’t need another podcast. You need support to start doing this differently. 👉 Resources and support: If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. You can study the map all you like… But nothing changes until you actually start walking the path of change. 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: where I can suggest what your next best step forward is, because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 4️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	87 - Why It’s Not Getting Better (Even Though You’re Doing Everything Right)	01 May 2026	00:19:23
You’re struggling with a loved one’s addiction and you’re trying really hard to make things better. Reading. Listening. Learning everything you can. Trying to handle this better. Trying to respond better. Trying to make things work. And yet… You still find yourself in the same place. Reacting. Overthinking. Carrying it all. And nothing is actually getting better - in fact it’s getting worse. In this episode, we’re talking about why. Because this isn’t a lack of effort. And it’s not because you’re not capable. I am talking about... Why “trying harder” isn’t creating change The trap of believing you should be able to handle this alone How addiction becomes normalised over time Why this isn’t a knowledge problem The difference between awareness and actual change Why doing the same things keeps you stuck I know you’ve done hard things before. Built careers. Raised children. Handled more than most people ever will. So of course you think: “I should be able to do this.” But this is different. You don’t need more information. You need the right support. Because this isn’t something you can think your way out of. If you’re tired of doing more of the same and ending up in the same place… This is your moment to do something different. Not everything. Just one thing. If you’re ready for support, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for my program, or book in a friendly chat with me where I can suggest the next best step for you. Nothing changes if nothing changes. But that change? It doesn’t have to be everything. Just the next step. 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: where I can suggest what your next best step forward is, because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 4️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	86 - I Can’t Keep Doing This: What Happens When You Reach Your Limit	29 Apr 2026	00:16:51
Sometimes it’s not a big moment. Not a crisis. Not the worst day. Not the breaking point you thought it would be. It’s quieter than that. It’s the moment where something inside you says: “I can’t keep doing this like this.” In this episode, we’re talking about that moment. The one where you realise: 👉 This isn’t sustainable 👉 This isn’t working 👉 And something needs to change Even if you don’t know what that looks like yet. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: The “low hum” of anxiety that becomes normal Why things don’t need to be a crisis to not be okay What’s actually in your control (and what isn’t) Why waiting and hoping keeps you stuck The quiet decision that shifts everything I know you’ve been holding a lot together for a long time. Managing. Anticipating. Keeping things steady for everyone else. And it’s costing you. The truth is, If nothing changes… nothing changes. And over time? It gets heavier. Not lighter. You don't need to have all the answers. Just to acknowledge: 👉 “Not like this.” So iff you’re thinking, “I don’t want another year like this…” Listen to that little whisper. You don’t need everything to fall apart to decide something needs to change. Sometimes it starts with: “Not life like this.” Listen next: Ep 41 - The One Question Not to Ask Someone Struggling With Addiction Ep 53 - Are you Gaslighting Yourself? The Quiet Habit Keeping you Stuck Ep 6 - Painful thought #1 - Why are they choosing a substance over me? Ep 47 - 11 Subtle Signs Your Partner’s Addiction Is Controlling Your Life 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	85 - The Part No One Talks About Series: Sobriety Doesn’t Fix the Relationship	26 Apr 2026	00:21:34
You thought sobriety would change everything. I know I did... That once they stopped drinking… you’d finally feel better. More relaxed. More connected. Less on edge. But what happens when sobriety comes… and your relationship still doesn’t feel right? In this episode of The Part No One Talks About series, we’re talking about something that can feel confronting—but incredibly important to understand: Sobriety doesn’t automatically fix a relationship. Because while it might remove the chaos… it doesn’t undo the impact. What we are talking about in this episode Why sobriety doesn’t automatically rebuild trust The difference between stopping the behaviour and repairing the relationship Why you might still feel disconnected, guarded, or unsure How survival mode patterns can continue even after things improve What actually needs to happen for a relationship to move forward Because... You can want something for so long… and finally get it… And still feel like something isn’t quite right. That doesn’t make you ungrateful. And it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It means there’s more work to be done than just sobriety. If you’re in that in-between space… where things are “better”… but not actually good… And you’re thinking: “I don’t want another year feeling like this…” I’ve created a live workshop for you: “How to Live This Year Differently: Whether your loved one is sober or not” It’s about steadying you. Inside, we’ll focus on: Feeling less reactive and more grounded Supporting yourself without burning out Creating small but powerful shifts that change your day-to-day Because when you’re steady? Everything changes. 👉 Reserve your spot Or DM me “WORKSHOP” on Instagram and I’ll send it to you. This workshop is for spouses navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage. You will leave with practical tools to: • Reduce reactivity • Calm your nervous system • Stop living on edge • Support your loved one without abandoning yourself If this episode resonated, don’t wait. 👉 Register here You deserve steadiness. Listen to the series This episode is part of The Part No One Talks About series. If this is your first time here, start from the beginning: Episode 80: This Isn’t Just Stress Episode 82: How It Impacts Your Ability to Parent Episode 83: You Look Fine… But You’re Not Episode 84: He’s Sober… So Why Don’t You Feel Better? Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	84 - The Part No One Talks About Series: When Sobriety Isn’t What You Expected	23 Apr 2026	00:17:31
You thought sobriety would change everything. That once they stopped drinking… you’d finally feel better. More relaxed. More connected. Less on edge. But what happens when that moment comes… and you still don’t feel okay? In this episode of The Part No One Talks About series, we’re talking about something that can feel incredibly confusing: When sobriety isn’t the relief you expected. Because while things might look better on paper… Inside, you might still feel: On edge Hyper-aware Like you’re waiting for something to go wrong Unable to fully relax And no one really prepares you for that. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: Why sobriety doesn’t automatically create calm for you The difference between sobriety and recovery Why your nervous system doesn’t “switch off” overnight What happens when your wellbeing is tied to their behaviour Why you might still be showing up in survival mode The hidden impact of years of unpredictability, stress and bracing Because Honestly... You can be in a better situation…and still not feel okay. And that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It means you’ve been carrying a lot. If this resonates… If you’re sitting there thinking: “I don’t want to do another year feeling like this…” I’ve created a live workshop for you: “How to Live This Year Differently: Whether your loved one is sober or not” It’s about steadying you. Inside, we’ll focus on: Feeling less reactive and more grounded Supporting yourself without burning out Creating small but powerful shifts that change your day-to-day Because when you’re steady? Everything changes. 👉 Reserve your spot Or DM me “WORKSHOP” on Instagram and I’ll send it to you. This workshop is for spouses navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage. You will leave with practical tools to: • Reduce reactivity • Calm your nervous system • Stop living on edge • Support your loved one without abandoning yourself If this episode resonated, don’t wait. 👉 Register here You deserve steadiness. Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	83 - The Part No One Talks About Series: You Look Fine… But You’re Not	21 Apr 2026	00:11:05
In this episode of The Part No One Talks About series, we’re diving into the invisible impact of loving someone with addiction. Because while addiction can be loud… The impact on you is often silent. This episode is for the ones who: Look like they’re holding it all together But feel like they’re bracing every single day And wonder why they’re so exhausted… even when nothing “looks wrong” What we talk about Why the impact on partners and family members is often invisible The emotional weight of “looking fine” when you’re not The constant mental load (the 2am thoughts, the what-ifs, the rehearsing) Why you might be cancelling plans or pulling away from people The grief no one sees, for your life, your relationship, and what could have been Why this isn’t something you just “push through” Just because it’s invisible doesn’t mean it’s not heavy. And just because you’re coping… doesn’t mean you’re okay. 💛 A gentle invitation If you’re tired of feeling like you’re bracing all the time… And you’re ready to feel even just a little more steady this year. I’ve created a live workshop: “How to Live This Year Differently: Whether your loved one is sober or not” This isn’t about fixing them. It’s about steadying you. Inside, we’ll focus on: Feeling less reactive and more grounded Supporting yourself without burning out Creating small but powerful shifts that change your day-to-day Because when you’re steady? Everything changes. 👉 Reserve your spot Or DM me “WORKSHOP” on Instagram and I’ll send it to you. This workshop is for spouses navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage. You will leave with practical tools to: • Reduce reactivity • Calm your nervous system • Stop living on edge • Support your loved one without abandoning yourself If this episode resonated, don’t wait. 👉 Register here You deserve steadiness. Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	82 - The Part No One Talks About Series: How it impacts your ability to parent	16 Apr 2026	00:10:40
This is the part no one talks about. Not the addiction itself. Not your loved one. But you. The spouse, the one without the addiction. In this episode, we’re diving into the hidden impact addiction has on your parenting. The snapping, the numbness, the overwhelm… and the quiet guilt that follows. Because here’s the truth, It’s not that you’re an impatient parent. It’s that you’re running on empty and have no capacity. If you’ve ever: Snapped at your kids and thought “that wasn’t about them…” Felt physically present but mentally somewhere else Wondered why you’re reacting bigger than the moment This episode is for you. Your kids don’t remember everything… But they remember how they felt. And when you’re stuck in survival mode? That shows up. Not because you’re a bad parent, but because you’ve been carrying too much for too long. What I am talking about… Why it’s not about patience, it’s about capacity How loving someone with addiction impacts your nervous system + parenting The invisible mental load you’re carrying (even if you don’t have the addiction) Why you feel like you’re “losing it”… and what’s actually going on underneath The small (but powerful) shift that can change how you show up for your kids If you are Ready to Do This Year Differently? If you’re tired of feeling: On edge Overwhelmed Like you’re just surviving I’ve created something for you. Workshop: “How to Live This Year Differently - Whether Your Loved One Is Sober or Not” This is NOT about fixing them. This is about helping you get steady. Because when you’re steady? Everything changes. 👉 Reserve your spot Or DM me “WORKSHOP” on Instagram and I’ll send it to you. This workshop is for spouses navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage. You will leave with practical tools to: • Reduce reactivity • Calm your nervous system • Stop living on edge • Support your loved one without abandoning yourself If this episode resonated, don’t wait. 👉 Register here You deserve steadiness. Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	81 - A Personal Update: Grief, Losing My Voice, and Why I’m Here	02 Apr 2026	00:23:26
This episode is a little different. I wanted to sit down and share a personal update, what’s been happening behind the scenes for me, why I went quiet for a while, and what I’ve been navigating over the past few months. Just before Christmas, I received some devastating news. A dear friend of mine, Jack Nagel, passed away suddenly. This episode is me trying to put words to that experience. The grief, the shock, the strange loneliness of grief when you lose someone you didn’t share “people” with… and how it, to be honest, completely stopped me in my tracks. I found myself quietly paralysed and questioning everything. My voice. My work. Whether anything I was saying even mattered. This grief felt so familiar in a way, yet so different. That grief where it just feels so heavy, where you’re quietly carrying something that no one else can really see or understand. 👉 If you need support: My DMs are always open on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	80 - The Part No One Talks About Series: This Isn’t Just Stress. It’s the Impact of Addiction.	20 Feb 2026	00:12:45
You might be telling yourself you’re just stressed. It’s January. It's school holidays. It’s work. It’s parenting. It’s just a busy season. But if you love someone struggling with alcoholism or addiction in your family or relationship, what you’re feeling might not be “just stress.” It might be survival mode. In this episode of "The Part No One Talks About" mini-series, I talk about: • Why you’re constantly bracing • The scanning, anticipating and replaying • The emotional load you’re carrying • How we minimise the impact on ourselves • Why “trying harder” isn’t the solution If you are exhausted, reactive, at capacity, snapping at your kids over Play-Doh… this conversation is for you. Because you don’t need more patience. You need steadiness. And that’s exactly what we’ll be working on inside the live workshop: How To Live This Year Differently February 24/25 This workshop is for spouses and families navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage. You will leave with practical tools to: • Reduce reactivity • Calm your nervous system • Stop living on edge • Support your loved one without abandoning yourself If this episode resonated, don’t wait. 👉 Join us here: Reserve your spot Can't make it live? Register for the workshop and you'll get the replay in your inbox shortly afterwards. You deserve steadiness. Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	79 - "I Can’t Do Another Year Like This” When You’re Exhausted Living with Addiction	18 Feb 2026	00:21:00
You’re tired. I know you are. Not just “busy” tired. Not just “it’s been a long week” tired. You are life + Addiction tired. You’re exhausted from holding everything together, for everyone, for years. If you’re living alongside addiction, whether your loved one is in active addiction, early sobriety, or years into recovery, and you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, holding your breath and constantly bracing… this episode is for you. In this conversation, we talk about: The hidden toll of hypervigilance and over-functioning Why sobriety alone doesn’t automatically make your life feel better The trap of “I’ll feel better when…” How survival mode becomes your default What last year actually cost you And the question most people are too scared to ask themselves: Is this good enough? If you’ve caught yourself thinking, “I can’t do another year like this…” but you don’t want pressure, ultimatums, or someone telling you what to do… This episode is your pause. Because your life does not have to stay on hold while you wait for someone else to change. 💛 The Workshop On February 24th/25th, I’m hosting a private workshop: How to Live This Year Differently ( Whether Your Loved One Is Sober or Not) This isn’t about fixing anyone. It’s not about confrontation. It’s not about making big, scary decisions. It’s a space to: Breathe Reflect on what last year took from you Gently identify what needs to shift Take back responsibility for your own steadiness and wellbeing You don’t need a plan. You don’t need your ducks in a row. You just need a little space. If you know you can’t do another year on addiction autopilot… 👉 Join us here: Reserve your spot Can't make it live? Register for the workshop and you'll get the replay in your inbox shortly afterwards. Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	78 - Acknowledging the Year You’ve Survived	14 Jan 2026	00:13:04
If you’ve spent the past year holding everything together while your loved one's addiction has chipped away at your energy, your hope, and your sense of self, this episode is for you. In this raw, honest conversation, we look back at the year you’ve survived. Not minimising it. Not pretending it was “fine.” Not brushing it off because “it used to be worse.” This episode gently and truthfully names what you’ve been carrying: • The constant tension in the home • The emotional load of parenting alone • The hypervigilance that has become your second skin • The grief for the relationship you hoped for • The exhaustion of managing everyone’s feelings but your own • The loneliness of knowing most people will never understand this life You are not dramatic. You are not “overreacting.” You are a human who has been living in survival mode for far too long. Resources and support: 1️⃣ If you already know you cannot do another year like this one, the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is now open. This is my signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction, with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 2️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	77 - Holiday Series: Why Your Christmas Doesn’t Depend on Their Sobriety	11 Dec 2025	00:21:18
Part 6 of the Holiday Series If you’ve lived through more than one chaotic December, you’ve probably told yourself: “Christmas will only be okay if he’s sober.” “Maybe this year will be different… if he sticks to what he promised.” In this bonus episode of the Holiday Series, I am sharing the part nobody really tells spouses and families of someone struggling with addiction: Your experience of Christmas doesn’t actually depend on whether they drinks, use, shows up on time, or follow through on promises. It depends on you having a plan, support and steadiness in yourself. I talk about... Why most people here quietly assume “this is just how December is now” …and how that belief keeps you stuck repeating the same painful holiday patterns, year after year. I share stories from past clients and how they went into Christmas with a plan, even while their partner’s drinking/drug use was unpredictable. and what actually changed for them and their kids. The hidden cost of “I’ll just handle it” and why white-knuckling your way through the holidays leaves you depleted, resentful and running on fumes by New Year’s. How to shifting from “waiting for them to be better” to “I’m allowed to create calm, clarity and moments of joy independent of what they do.” What realistic hope looks like when you’re the safe parent, and howow to hold both: grief for what you wish your family could be and hope that your holidays can feel different from the inside out. If this episode feels like it’s narrating your life, you’re not broken, dramatic or asking for too much. You’re exhausted from carrying far more than anyone can see, and you deserve support, too. And your holiday experience can be different (even if nothing changes on their end) 🎄 JOIN THE FREE HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE WORKSHOP This is where we turn understanding into a plan. Inside, you’ll learn real tools to navigate this season: 💛 Grounding strategies for chaotic moments 💛 Scripts for difficult family conversations 💛 How to reduce conflict without walking on eggshells 💛 Boundaries that actually protect your peace 💛 A plan for unpredictable moments 💛 Permission (and support) to prioritise YOU You deserve a holiday that doesn’t depend on which “version” of Them shows up. 👉 Save your free seat here 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	76 - Holiday Series: What I Wish Someone Told Me Before Every Christmas	09 Dec 2025	00:15:50
Part 5 of the Holiday Series This episode is the deep breath you didn’t know you needed. If you’re heading into December telling yourself, “I’ll be fine… I’ve done this before… I can handle it,” this one is for you. Because the truth is: ✨ You have handled too much. ✨ Your body is bracing, even if you’re pretending you’re okay. ✨ And you absolutely do not have to repeat another year of emotional roulette. In this episode, Amanda gently walks you through: The real reason your chest tightens as the holiday approaches Why familiarity doesn’t equal healthy How your nervous system remembers what your mind is trying to downplay The physical cost of carrying someone else’s addiction for too long Why “being the strong one” is quietly burning you out What needs to shift before the chaos of the season begins Why emotional preparation matters more than holiday plans, menus, or logistics How to move out of survival mode and into something steadier This is your permission slip to stop white-knuckling your way through December. It’s the reminder you didn’t know you needed: You are not meant to just “handle” the holidays You are meant to be supported, grounded, and well. And your holiday experience can be different (even if nothing changes on their end) 🎄 JOIN THE FREE HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE WORKSHOP This is where we turn understanding into a plan. Inside, you’ll learn real tools to navigate this season: 💛 Grounding strategies for chaotic moments 💛 Scripts for difficult family conversations 💛 How to reduce conflict without walking on eggshells 💛 Boundaries that actually protect your peace 💛 A plan for unpredictable moments 💛 Permission (and support) to prioritise YOU You deserve a holiday that doesn’t depend on which “version” of Them shows up. 👉 Save your free seat here 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	75 - Holiday Series: Three Things You Can Control This Season	08 Dec 2025	00:11:55
Part 4 of the Holiday Mini-Series When your loved one's drinking, substance use, sobriety or recovery feels unpredictable, it can start to feel like everything is out of your hands, the mood, the energy in the house, whether plans go ahead or blow up, whether Christmas feels magical or like a minefield. This episode is for the lovely person who feels like they are bracing 24/7, waiting for the next wobble, the next mood shift, the next disappointment… and quietly wondering: “What’s even in my control anymore?” In this episode, I'm walking you through the *three powerful things you can* control, even in the messy middle of addiction and recovery - ✨ Your preparation ✨ Your level of engagement ✨ Your meaning-making** Because while you can’t control whether they use/don't use, wobble/relapses, turns up late, or arrives in a mood…. you can control how prepared you are, how much of it you pick up, and how you talk to yourself about what’s happening. Those three things alone can change how this season feels for you and your kids. And if this feels painfully familiar, please don’t navigate December alone. 🎄 JOIN THE FREE HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE WORKSHOP This is where we turn understanding into a plan. Inside, you’ll learn real tools to navigate this season: 💛 Grounding strategies for chaotic moments 💛 Scripts for difficult family conversations 💛 How to reduce conflict without walking on eggshells 💛 Boundaries that actually protect your peace 💛 A plan for unpredictable moments 💛 Permission (and support) to prioritise YOU You deserve a holiday that doesn’t depend on which “version” of Them shows up. 👉 Save your free seat here 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	74 - Holiday Series: The Hidden Exhaustion of Loving Someone in Addiction	07 Dec 2025	00:13:49
Part 3 of the Holiday Mini-Series This episode dives into something most people will never understand unless they’ve lived it: You aren’t just planning Christmas. You’re planning Christmas around a loved ones addiction. While the rest of the world is thinking menus, Secret Santa, outfits and photos… you’re quietly assessing risk, predicting behaviour, managing expectations, rehearsing backup plans, and carrying the emotional safety of the entire household on your shoulders. This episode is for the spouses, families, and women in addiction-impacted relationships who are: ✨ Preparing for disappointment before it happens ✨ Making last-minute plans because nothing feels predictable ✨ Rehearsing excuses and half-truths to cover what’s really going on ✨ Managing the dread of “Will they show up? And in what state?” ✨ Navigating the heartbreak of an empty seat at the table ✨ Carrying grief while trying to create magic for your kids ✨ Exhausted from holding it together all year, and then even more in December This isn’t “holiday stress.” This is emotional project management at an Olympic level, all happening behind the scenes and all while pretending everything is normal. And if this feels painfully familiar, please don’t navigate December alone. 🎄 JOIN THE FREE HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE WORKSHOP This is where we turn understanding into a plan. Inside, you’ll learn real tools to navigate this season: 💛 Grounding strategies for chaotic moments 💛 Scripts for difficult family conversations 💛 How to reduce conflict without walking on eggshells 💛 Boundaries that actually protect your peace 💛 A plan for unpredictable moments 💛 Permission (and support) to prioritise YOU You deserve a holiday that doesn’t depend on which “version” of Them shows up. 👉 Save your free seat here 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	73 - Holiday Series: The Dread of Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde	06 Dec 2025	00:13:19
A special Holiday Series Episode 2 of 5 If you wake up already bracing yourself… wondering which “version” of your loved one you’ll get today, this episode will feel like someone finally naming the thing you’ve been silently living. This is the emotional whiplash of loving someone whose drinking, drug use or behaviour shifts without warning. And during the holidays? It hits even harder. In this episode, we unpack: ✨ Why the unpredictability of his behaviour trains your nervous system into survival mode ✨ How your body knows before your mind does ✨ The mental rehearsing, planning, and exit strategies you make without noticing ✨ The dread not just of his behaviour — but of your own reactions ✨ The resentment, the spirals, the shame, the anger you don’t talk about ✨ Why the real cost of addiction in a family is losing access to the best version of YOU ✨ And the shift that gives you back your power this season This episode is equal parts validation and empowerment, grounded in lived experience, clinical understanding, and the reality you’re navigating behind the scenes. 🎄 JOIN THE FREE HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE WORKSHOP This is where we turn understanding into a plan. Inside, you’ll learn real tools to navigate this season: 💛 Grounding strategies for chaotic moments 💛 Scripts for difficult family conversations 💛 How to reduce conflict without walking on eggshells 💛 Boundaries that actually protect your peace 💛 A plan for unpredictable moments 💛 Permission (and support) to prioritise YOU You deserve a holiday that doesn’t depend on which “version” of Them shows up. 👉 Save your free seat here 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	72 - Holiday Series: When Everyone Thinks You’re Fine - But You’re Not	05 Dec 2025	00:13:59
Today’s episode kicks off a special 5-part holiday series created for spouses and families whose Christmas looks nothing like the picture-perfect scenes on social media or in the Hallmark Movies. If your loved one’s drinking or addiction makes the season feel unpredictable… If everyone assumes you’re fine… If you’re holding the entire holiday together while silently bracing for chaos… This episode is for you. I’m sharing the emotional load no one sees, the invisible planning you do, and the heartbreaking uncertainty you carry into every December. You’re not imagining it, and you’re not alone. 🎄 Workshop: Holiday Survival Guide - How to navigate your loved ones addiction through the Holiday’s Stay Grounded, Reduce Conflict, and Enjoy the Season — Even If Their Behaviour Is Unpredictable If the holidays already feel heavy, unpredictable, or lonely because of your partner’s behaviour, please join me for this free live workshop. You’ll learn practical tools, scripts, grounding strategies, and a simple plan to help you stay steady, reduce conflict, and protect your peace, no matter what they do. 👉 Save your free seat here 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	71 - The Moment I Completely Lost It	20 Nov 2025	00:19:52
There’s a moment in every addiction-impacted relationship where you realise… it’s not just their drinking/drug use/gambling etc that’s changing the family, it’s changing you too. You don’t plan for it. You don’t see it coming. And when it happens, the shame of it stays in your chest for years. Today I’m sharing a story I’ve never fully talked about publicly, the moment I completely lost it, the moment my kids were scared of me, not their dad, and the moment I realised that addiction had changed me in ways that were unimaginable and I could no longer ignore. If you’ve ever snapped, yelled, bellowed, broken something, stormed out, or reacted in ways you’re not proud of… please hear me: you’re not a bad mother/father, a bad partner, or a bad person, you’re a human being in survival mode, and you're at your breaking point. In this deeply personal episode, I talk about: The moment I “broke” and how my kids carried that memory Why your anger, snapping, and hypervigilance make total sense in survival mode How addiction slowly reshapes the “safe parent” without you realising Why getting support for you is the difference between coping and crashing This isn’t an episode about blame or shame, it’s an episode about truth, compassion, and reclaiming yourself after years of walking on eggshells. And if you’re thinking, “I can’t keep living like this…” or “I don’t want my kids remembering me this way…” This episode is for you. And your great 2026 begins with one small step today. not in January, and not after the next crisis. Listen next: Ep 66 - They Say They're Sober... But You're Still Not Sure. Ep 3 - Where Is My Lasagne? Ep 47 - 11 Subtle Signs Your Partner’s Addiction Is Controlling Your Life Ep 35 - When You're Scared to Set the Boundary... Start Here 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	70 - When You Don't Like Who You've Become In Their Addiction	18 Nov 2025	00:19:27
Have you ever looked at yourself and thought… “I don’t even recognise who I am anymore?” If so, this episode will feel like someone finally turned the lights on in a dark room you’ve been sitting in for years. When you love someone whose drinking or using creates chaos, unpredictability or emotional instability, it doesn’t just change them. It slowly, quietly, painfully changes you too. And one day you wake up snapping at your kids, checking his phone, scanning for signs of drinking, living in fear not love… and you realise: “This isn’t the mother, partner, or woman I wanted to be.” This episode is for you if you’ve ever thought: “I don’t like who I’ve become.” “I feel angry all the time.” “My whole life feels blurry.” “I’m doing everything alone.” “He’s changing… but I still feel stuck.” “I’ve lost myself somewhere in all this.” You are not broken. You are overwhelmed. And you don’t have to stay this version of yourself. 💬 If this episode feels like I’m reading your diary… you deserve support too. A good 2026 starts now, not after the next crisis, not in January, and not when things magically get better. Listen next: Ep 66 - They Say They're Sober... But You're Still Not Sure. Ep 41 - The One Question Not to Ask Someone Struggling With Addiction Ep 47 - 11 Subtle Signs Your Partner’s Addiction Is Controlling Your Life Ep 35 - When You're Scared to Set the Boundary... Start Here 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	69 - If Nothing Changes, Nothing Changes: How to Start Turning Your Life Around Now	15 Nov 2025	00:20:19
What if the change you’ve been waiting for has nothing to do with your loved one and everything to do with you? If your partner’s addiction has taken over your life, it’s easy to slip into survival mode: waiting for the next crisis, hoping this time things will magically improve, telling yourself you’ll feel better once they finally change. But here’s the truth: nothing changes if nothing changes. And in addiction-impacted relationships, things rarely stay the same. They usually get worse. In Part 2 of this two-part series, Amanda walks you through what actually creates real, sustainable change for you, your loved one, and your relationship. No fluff. No false promises. Just grounded, compassionate, practical tools you can use immediately. You’ll learn: ✨ What truly motivates change (and why shame never does) ✨ How to make the truth safe again ✨ Why boundaries create change (and control doesn’t ✨ The micro-moments that rebuild trust and momentum And because we’re in November? A calmer, clearer, stronger 2026 starts now, not in January, not after another crisis. If you’ve been walking on eggshells, waiting for ‘rock bottom’ to wake someone up… this episode will show you why you don’t have to wait anymore, and how you can start leading meaningful change today. Ready for your next step? Book a friendly, no-pressure chat to talk through your next small, best step toward peace. Because a good 2026 starts now, not “one day.” 👉 Click here to find a time or send me a DM on Instagram@addictionmakesthreeto share what’s feeling hardest right now. Listen next: Ep 41 - The One Question Not to Ask Someone Struggling With Addiction Ep 47 - 11 Subtle Signs Your Partner’s Addiction Is Controlling Your Life Ep 35 - When You're Scared to Set the Boundary... Start Here Ep 66 - They Say They're Sober... But You're Still Not Sure. 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	68 - Why Waiting for Rock Bottom Is Dangerous	11 Nov 2025	00:25:15
You’ve probably heard it a thousand times, “they just need to hit rock bottom.” But what if that’s the very idea keeping you both stuck? When someone you love is struggling with addiction, it’s easy to believe that “rock bottom” is what will finally make them change. We’ve been told it by friends, family, even therapists, that things have to get bad enough before they get better. But here’s the truth: addiction is doing something despite the negative consequences, which means waiting for more pain doesn’t motivate change, it fuels the cycle. In this episode, Amanda unpacks: What addiction really is (and why it isn’t about bad choices or willpower) Why the “rock bottom” story keeps both you and your loved one stuck How waiting quietly teaches you to abandon yourself What actually creates motivation for change (hint: it’s hope and safety, not shame) How to start building the “safety scaffolding” that makes recovery possible before a crisis If you’ve been walking on eggshells, waiting for the next disaster — this conversation is your permission slip to stop waiting and start leading change from a place of calm, clarity, and strength. Ready for your next step? Book a friendly, no-pressure chat to talk through your next small, best step toward peace. Because a good 2026 starts now, not “one day.” 👉 Click here to find a time or send me a DM on Instagram@addictionmakesthreeto share what’s feeling hardest right now. Listen next: Ep 41 - The One Question Not to Ask Someone Struggling With Addiction Ep 53 - Are you Gaslighting Yourself? The Quiet Habit Keeping you Stuck Ep 6 - Painful thought #1 - Why are they choosing a substance over me? Ep 47 - 11 Subtle Signs Your Partner’s Addiction Is Controlling Your Life 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	67 - How to Rebuild Trust Without Turning Into a Detective	08 Nov 2025	00:17:54
If your loved one says they’re sober but part of you still isn’t sure, this episode is for you. After living through lies, gaslighting, and constant second-guessing, rebuilding trust can feel impossible. You want to believe them. You want your relationship to work. But you’re also exhausted from checking, doubting, and playing detective. In this episode, Addiction Relationship Coach Amanda Lockyer explains what rebuilding trust really looks like after addiction, without losing yourself in the process. Y What We Talk About Why “you just have to trust me” doesn’t work after addiction The first (and most important) step: rebuilding trust with yourself How to use boundaries and clarity, not control, to feel safe What to do in the “messy middle” when things are better, but not good yet Why noticing when words and actions align is the key to lasting trust How to support recovery without turning into the sobriety police For Listeners Who Are In the “Messy Middle” If you’re trying to stop living in detective mode, but you don’t know what to do next, you don’t have to figure it out alone. 👉 Book a friendly chat to talk through your next small, best step forward in peace - Click here to find a time Or, if you’d prefer, send me a DM on Instagram @addictionmakesthree and we can talk through what’s feeling hardest right now. Listen next: Ep 35 - When You're Scared to Set the Boundary, Start Here. Ep 53 - Are you Gaslighting Yourself? The Quiet Habit Keeping you Stuck Ep 65 - What no one warns you about when they go to rehab Ep 28 - Your Unexpected Resentment in Their Recovery 💌 Need support for yourself (not just your loved one)? Book in a no-pressure chat with Amanda to share what's going on and find out what your next best smallest steps are, or join the waitlist for the next intake to the Pathway to Wellness Program. 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ You can book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like. Because you know you’ve been trying ‘this way’ for long enough and it's not helping anyone. 👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible 2️⃣ join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction. 3️⃣ If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy): 👉 Download the guide 4️⃣ Connect with Amanda on Instagram @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections → amanda@addictionmakesthree.com You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	66 - They Say They’re Sober… But You’re Still Not Sure	07 Nov 2025	00:17:03
When your loved one says they’re sober but you still smell alcohol, feel uneasy, or can’t shake that gut feeling, you’re not crazy. In this episode, I unpack what happens after the lies, after rehab, and after the chaos settles. I explain why it’s so hard to feel calm, how broken trust shows up in your body, and why believing yourself is the first step toward healing, not policing your partner. You’ll Learn Why trust doesn’t return the moment sobriety starts The trauma response behind hyper-vigilance and “detective mode” What your nervous system is really doing when you can’t relax How to begin rebuilding trust with yourself first Why “just trust me” never works, and what to say instead Listen next: Ep 14 - The Power of the Pause Ep 53 - Are you Gaslighting Yourself? The Quiet Habbit Keeping you Stuck Ep 65 - What no one warns you about when they go to rehab Ep 28 - Your Unexpected Resentment in Their Recovery 💌 Need support for yourself (not just your loved one)? Book in a no-pressure chat with Amanda to share what's going on and find out what your next best smallest steps are, or join the waitlist for the next intake to the Pathway to Wellness Program. 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ You can book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like. Because you know you’ve been trying ‘this way’ for long enough and it's not helping anyone. 👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible 2️⃣ join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction. 3️⃣ If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy): 👉 Download the guide 4️⃣ Connect with Amanda on Instagram @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections → amanda@addictionmakesthree.com You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	65 - What No One Warns You About When They Go To Rehab	30 Oct 2025	00:23:55
Everyone says, “They just need to go to rehab.” And maybe they do. But no one talks about what happens to the person left at home once they finally do. In this honest episode, Addiction Relationship Coach Amanda Lockyer shares what really happens on the other side of rehab. The emotional whiplash, the relief mixed with resentment, and why it’s completely normal to feel angry, confused, or even jealous while your loved one gets help. You’ll learn: • Why relief often turns into resentment (and what it’s telling you) • How to stop waiting for their recovery to fix everything • What your own recovery and support can look like independent of theirs Rehab isn’t the finish line. It’s the start of two recoveries, theirs and yours. Ask yourself: What support do I need right now, for me? 🎧 Listen now, and explore your next steps and resources in the show notes. Listen next: Ep 28 - Your unexpected resentment in Their recovery Ep 18 - Rehab from the other side - Part 3 Ep 17 - Rehab from the other side - Part 2 Ep 16 - Rehab from the other side - Part 1 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like. Because you know you’ve been trying ‘this way’ for long enough and it's not helping anyone. 👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible 2️⃣ join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction. 3️⃣ If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy): 👉 Download the guide 4️⃣ Connect with Amanda on Instagram @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections → amanda@addictionmakesthree.com You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	64 - When You’re Worn Out: Giving Yourself Permission to Stop	28 Oct 2025	00:15:58
When you’re the one holding everything together, the house, the kids, the finances, the emotional whiplash and fallout, it’s no wonder you’re exhausted. Loving someone who struggles with alcohol or drugs can quickly take over your life. You keep going because stopping feels dangerous, like everything might collapse if you let go for a second. In this episode, Amanda shares what “the pause” really means when you’re run-down and stretched thin, and why it’s necessary for everyone’s wellbeing for you to pause. You’ll learn how to notice the crappy internal thoughts that keep you stuck, how to ask for help without guilt, and why rest isn’t a luxury, it’s maintenance. I know it’s hard here and you’re beyond tired. Take that micro moment and have a rest. It’ll help more than you could ever imagine Listen next: Ep 14 - The Power of The Pause Ep 55 - 7 Late Night Google Searches That Reveal Addiction Red Flags Ep 54 - What Real Support Looks Like (Without the Shame of Enabling) Ep 33 - You're not Their Rehab 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like. Because you know you’ve been trying ‘this way’ for long enough and it's not helping anyone. 👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible 2️⃣ join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction. 3️⃣ If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy): 👉 Download the guide 4️⃣ Connect with Amanda on Instagram @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections → amanda@addictionmakesthree.com You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	63 - How Perimenopause Makes Addiction-Impacted Relationships Even Harder	23 Oct 2025	00:15:31
Navigating perimenopause while living with a spouse struggling with addiction can feel like too much. Because it is, in fact, too much. In this episode, Amanda shares why these two experiences collide, how it impacts your emotions and nervous system, and what real support looks like so you can start feeling calm and in control again If you’re navigating perimenopause while also living with a partner who’s struggling with addiction, you are not imagining how hard this feels, it’s a lot. Your hormones are shifting. Your sleep’s all over the place. Your emotions are on high alert. And when you layer in the stress, uncertainty, and heartbreak that comes with addiction in a relationship, it can feel impossible to stay calm, steady, or even like yourself anymore. In this episode, I’m unpacking what happens when perimenopause, stress, and addiction in a relationship collide, the perfect storm of emotional overload, fatigue, and burnout that so many women find themselves in but rarely talk about. We’ll chat about: Why perimenopause makes emotional regulation so much harder when addiction is involved How your nervous system gets stuck in “fight or flight” mode The hidden compassion we can find in those small moments of resistance (yes, even over coffee) And what it really takes to start feeling calm, in control, and well again — no matter where your loved one is in their recovery Your ability to find your peace, even when things around you are chaotic is going to be what helps you. And when you're better in yourself, you can support your loved one in a healthy way. Listen next: Ep 14 - The Power of The Pause Ep 5 - What About Us Ep 15 - What got you here won't get you there Ep 20 - You’ll achieve more in 1 year focusing on your own wellbeing... 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now. 👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible 2️⃣ join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction. 3️⃣ If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy): 👉 Download the guide 4️⃣ Connect with Amanda on Instagram @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections → amanda@addictionmakesthree.com You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	62 - Rethinking Recovery and the Myths That Keep Us Stuck with Conrad Tracy	21 Oct 2025	01:09:10
What if the stories we’ve been told about addiction recovery, rock bottom, tough love, they have to want it themselves... are only half the truth? In this episode, Amanda sits down with Conrad Tracey, founder of Addiction Coaching Australia, to unpack the outdated myths that keep people stuck, and reveal what real, sustainable recovery actually looks like. Together they explore the messy middle of change, the space between crisis and consistency, and how both the person struggling and their loved ones can find steadier ground through boundaries, compassion, and evidence-based support. You’ll learn: Why waiting for rock bottom can be dangerous and what to do instead. The difference between helping and enabling (and why it matters). How relapse fits into recovery without meaning “back to day one.” What real accountability looks like without shame or control. How small, consistent actions create lasting transformation. This episode is for you if: You love someone navigating addiction or early recovery. You’re a high-functioning person quietly struggling yourself. You’re tired of outdated advice and want tools that actually work. Connect with Conrad Addiction Coaching Australia @conradmtracey_addictioncoach on Instagram We are running a promotion for listeners of the podcast of a special introduction price to our Circuit Breaker program $97 per week ex GST for the first three months, rather than usual $149 per week ex GST. Just use the code SOBER at the check out.https://pages.addictioncoachingaustralia.com.au/the-circuit-breaker 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction. 2️⃣ You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now. 👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible 3️⃣ If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy): 👉 Download the guide 4️⃣ Connect with Amanda on Instagram @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections → amanda@addictionmakesthree.com You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	61 - When You Don’t Know Whether to Stay or Leave	16 Oct 2025	00:19:16
You love them and you’re exhausted. One day there’s hope, the next there’s heartbreak. And the question won’t stop circling your mind: Should I stay, or should I leave? In this episode, Amanda helps you step off the exhausting mental treadmill of “what ifs” and find solid ground again. You’ll learn: Why both staying and leaving are hard The real question you need to ask instead How doing your own inner work is the key to clarity Whether your partner is in active addiction, early recovery, or somewhere in between, this conversation will help you stop waiting for a sign, start choosing you and get you stepping closer to making decisions that feel good, even when they are hard. Listen next: Ep 42 - How many chances is too many? Ep 27 - Should you Leave or Stay? Why that's not the Only Question Ep 23 - How to get through a relapse without losing hope 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction. 2️⃣ You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now. 👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible 3️⃣ If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy): 👉 Download the guide 4️⃣ Connect with Amanda on Instagram @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections → amanda@addictionmakesthree.com You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
	60 - Grieving Someone in Addiction Who is Still Alive	15 Oct 2025	00:16:11
What if you’re grieving someone who’s still alive? In this episode, Amanda explains living grief, the hidden heartbreak of loving someone in addiction. Learn why it feels confusing, how grief shows up in your body, and gentle ways to begin healing without losing yourself. It’s the tension between hope and heartbreak. Between who they were and who they are now. You can love them and still grieve them. You can hold hope and still hold boundaries. Listen next: Ep 47 - 11 Subtle Signs Your Partner’s Addiction Is Controlling Your Life Ep 3 - Where is my lasagne? Ep 20 - You’ll achieve more in 1 year focusing on your own wellbeing... 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction. 2️⃣ You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now. 👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible 3️⃣ If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy): 👉 Download the guide 4️⃣ Connect with Amanda on Instagram @addictionmakesthree 5️⃣ Questions or reflections → amanda@addictionmakesthree.com You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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