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Why do some relationships feel safe and easy, while others leave you constantly overthinking? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Amir Levine, psychiatrist, neuroscientist and bestselling author of Attached and his new book, Secure. We talk about the four attachment styles and why your style isn't something to heal from. It's a biology you can learn to work with. The little everyday moments are what actually rewire your brain to feel safer in love, friendship and family. We talk about: The four attachment styles, and why you can have a different one with every person in your life The smoke experiment that shows the hidden strengths of anxious and avoidant people Why tiny everyday interactions matter more than big therapy breakthroughs The five pillars of a secure life, and how to show up for people even when life is full Why one partner can't be everything, and how to build your "secure village" The three pitfalls avoidants fall into, and the simple fixes that save relationships "Wall tennis with love," a tool for anxious people in one-sided friendships Why parents have far less influence on your adult attachment style than you've been told How anxious attachment can be a superpower when you learn to use it If you've ever blamed yourself for being "too much" or "too distant," this conversation will change how you see yourself and the people you love. Subscribe and turn on notifications so you don't miss the next one; it genuinely helps me bring on more incredible guests. AD: In England, we’re using water faster than nature can replace it, and in Wales, wetter winters and drier summers are putting pressure on the water supply. We often use more than we realise, we don't need massive lifestyle changes to change these stats. Everyday ways to save water:• Cut your shower by two minutes to save 28L• Use a washing up bowl instead of a running tap tosave 10L per minute• Fix a leaky loo to save up to 400L a day• Use eco-mode on appliances to save 10L per washSearch “Let’s Save Water” or visit letssavewater.com to see what small changes you could make and maybe have a chat with your friends and family about this too. #AMillennialMind #AttachmentStyles #Relationships Chapters 00:00 Intro: why some relationships leave you overthinking 02:26 Welcome, Dr. Amir Levine 02:49 Why he wrote Attached and Secure 03:40 The four attachment styles explained 06:03 Different attachment styles with different people 07:59 Is being secure the goal? 08:30 The smoke experiment: hidden strengths of each style 10:50 Why the little moments matter most 13:43 When our first recording fell apart 18:43 Why attachment is a daily practice 20:15 What if your partner isn't secure? 22:46 Why different people support us in different ways 24:53 Turning "insecure" traits into strengths 26:55 Why we expect friends to be everything 28:42 When friendships drift apart 30:31 The five pillars of a secure life 33:25 The small thank-yous that make us secure 35:27 A loyalty program for relationships 36:15 How the human brain actually feels safe 37:37 The health benefits of feeling connected 39:39 Stop villainising avoidants 40:56 Avoidant pitfall #1: "Heal thyself" 42:53 Avoidant pitfall #2: breaking the baseline 46:09 Are you avoidant in your friendships? 47:03 Why teenagers pull away from parents 49:58 Avoidant pitfall #3: closeness overdose 53:23 How do I raise a secure child? 55:36 Sleep training, breastfeeding and attachment myths 57:44 Anxious baby vs anxious attachment 58:46 Attachment ingenuity: staying connected your way 1:00:29 How to handle an anxious friend 1:01:15 Wall tennis with love 1:04:14 When the other person isn't doing the work 1:07:54 What shapes the other 90% of your attachment style 1:08:21 What worms and dogs teach us about closeness 1:10:04 Why secure people don't overthink it 1:10:49 Anxious attachment as a superpower 1:12:34 The adopted sisters story 1:14:16 When your strengths become your swords 1:14:56 What he wants you to believe about yourself 1:15:36 Final thoughts 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Can you actually have it all, or is that the exact belief that's making you feel like you're failing? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Dhivya Srinivasa, a double board-certified plastic surgeon, mom of three, and the internet's most unfiltered voice on modern motherhood. We get into the myth of doing it all, the impossible standards placed on working parents, and why the "good mom" checklist most of us are measuring ourselves against was never built for the life we're actually living. We talk about: Her definition of being a good mom, and why she refuses to be graded on how she cuts a cucumber Going into labor in the middle of surgery, and the brutal reality of maternity leave in medicine Being mistreated at work while pregnant, and why she wishes she'd stood up for herself sooner Meeting her husband and being radically honest about her goals from date one Why the burden of self-sacrifice still falls on mothers, and what it actually takes to change that at home Quality time versus quantity of time, and what she learned from watching her own parents The soccer game she missed and the conversation that came out of it Why women get judged for having help, and what her husband says when she spirals about it If you've ever felt guilty for wanting a career and a family, or like you're constantly being judged no matter what you choose, this conversation will change how you see it. Subscribe and turn on notifications so you don't miss the next one; it genuinely helps me bring on more incredible guests. Follow Dr. Dhivya Srinivasa: [add her @drdhivyasrinivasa / https://avarawell.com/] #AMillennialMind #MomGuilt #WorkingMom 00:00 Intro: the pressure to be a good mom02:27 Welcome, Dr. Dhivya Srinivasa03:10 Who is Dhivya?04:17 What actually makes a "good mom"?06:43 The fake metrics we judge parents by09:16 The guilt of wanting to work21:14 Going into labor in the operating room26:15 Maternity leave in medicine is brutal28:20 Mistreated at work while pregnant37:21 Meeting her husband: radical honesty on date one43:29 Why alignment matters more than perfection45:55 Men, self-sacrifice, and equal parenting55:12 Quality time vs. quantity of time1:00:20 Reacting to viral "you have to be in the office" takes1:04:36 The miseducation of sons1:11:24 Confidence modeled by her parents1:13:46 Dealing with mom guilt: the soccer game story1:19:39 Feeling misunderstood as a parent1:21:13 Advice for women judged by their mom or mother-in-law1:28:44 Hiring help and letting go of the guilt1:30:57 Why women get judged for having nannies1:34:18 Her husband's take: "let's just get the help"1:40:26 Next episode preview: attachment styles Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this weeks episode I am joined by Gabby Bernstein, New York Times best-selling author of 11 books and one of the most influential voices in personal growth and spirituality, joins us to unpack limiting beliefs, trauma, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust in yourself. We talk about why manifesting fails for so many people (hint: it's not the vision board), the 4-step process Gabby uses to heal a limiting belief in real time, how she healed from addiction and childhood trauma, and how she's applying everything she's learned to parenting her son. We also get into friendships in your 30s, setting boundaries without guilt, and why willingness, not certainty, is the real starting point for change. If you've ever felt stuck but couldn't articulate why, this episode is for you. Gabby's book Self-Help is referenced throughout this conversation. Her new book, Unshakeable Faith, is coming soon. ⏱ Timestamps: 00:00 Opening 01:25 Meet Gabby Bernstein 02:25 Welcome & why this topic 03:26 How to start when you feel stuck 05:36 Willingness to heal: opening the door 07:44 Manifesting needs follow-through, not just belief 08:53 Recognising your own core beliefs 11:39 The 4 steps to healing a limiting belief 15:17 How Gabby met her husband 18:14 Gabby's story: addiction and healing 20:41 Healing after loss and grief 22:53 Solitude, fellowship and community 24:06 Friendships in your 30s 29:45 Working through "I can't trust people" 31:54 Relief and sadness in recognising your patterns 33:40 Dissociation and remembering trauma 35:18 Parenting through personal development 39:17 Becoming your own inner parent 40:22 Finding a partner who respects your journey 41:14 Practising patience with yourself and others 42:20 Trauma vs. limiting beliefs 43:32 Understanding your protector parts 44:51 Why manifesting doesn't work for most people 46:57 Overcoming fear of confronting your patterns 48:17 What is self energy? 49:36 You can't force someone else to change 52:27 Setting boundaries without guilt 53:22 Self-forgiveness and daily practices 54:36 Trusting the universe and faith 56:49 Closing & where to see Gabby next 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Can you prepare for a life you’ve never lived before? In this deeply personal solo episode of A Millennial Mind, I share how I’m preparing for motherhood while trying to protect something I’ve spent the last six years building: my podcast, my work and a part of my identity. I’m walking you through the exact framework I’ve used to prepare for a season where my time, energy and priorities are about to change from setting realistic deadlines and building in a buffer, to defining non-negotiables, systemising my work and learning to let go of perfection. But this isn’t just about pregnancy. It’s about preparing for any season of life where you know you won’t have the same time, energy or capacity you once did. If you’re entering a new chapter, building a business, navigating motherhood, moving, recovering from burnout or simply trying to make space for what matters most, I hope this episode reminds you that you don’t have to do everything perfectly. You just have to decide what matters most and do your best. In this episode: • Preparing your life for a major transition • The reality of becoming a mother • Matrescence and changing identity • How I’m preparing A Millennial Mind for motherhood • Why consistency matters more than perfection • The 4-step framework I’m using • Setting deadlines and building buffers • Defining your non-negotiables • Systemising and batch-recording your work • Learning what to keep and what to let go • Giving yourself grace when things don’t go to plan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if the heartbreak that broke you was actually the beginning of becoming who you were always meant to be? In this episode I sit down with spiritual teacher and author  ⁨@SaharaRose⁩  for a deeply personal conversation about betrayal, heartbreak, identity and what she calls the “dark night of the soul.” Sahara opens up about the night her then-husband confessed he had been unfaithful throughout their relationship and how that discovery completely dismantled the life and identity she thought she knew. We explore why heartbreak can feel like losing yourself, the “good girl” conditioning that teaches women to find validation through relationships, and why healing isn't about rushing to become happy again. Sahara shares the Triple E Method Emote, Embody and Express that she developed while navigating the darkest period of her life. We also unpack why love alone isn't always enough to sustain a relationship, choosing yourself after betrayal, celibacy after heartbreak, feminine energy, Dharma, rebuilding trust in your intuition and the powerful ritual Sahara used to hold a “funeral” for her former self. If you're going through heartbreak, betrayal, a breakup or simply a chapter where you no longer recognise yourself, this conversation is a reminder that losing the life you knew can sometimes create space for a life you couldn't yet imagine. In this episode: • Sahara's experience of discovering infidelity • What the “dark night of the soul” really means • Why women can lose their identity in relationships • The psychology of heartbreak and attachment • Why love isn't always enough • The Triple E Method for processing difficult emotions • Why Sahara chose celibacy for 2.5 years • Finding yourself instead of searching for another relationship • Sacred feminine vs masculine energy • Breaking “good girl” conditioning • The funeral of your former self • Rebuilding trust in your intuition • Practical ways to rediscover yourself after heartbreak Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Having a baby doesn’t just change your life it can completely change your relationship. In this episode I sit down with Shan Boodram, certified sex educator and sexologist, to have an honest conversation about what really happens to love, intimacy, identity and connection after becoming parents. Shan opens up about reaching a point eight months after having her first child where she genuinely questioned whether her marriage would survive. We unpack why the first year can put enormous pressure on couples, how resentment builds when parenting starts to feel transactional, and why both mothers and fathers can experience profound identity shifts after having children. We also talk about mum guilt, maintaining your career after motherhood, navigating judgement from other parents, sharing the mental load, keeping intimacy alive when you're exhausted, and why sometimes saving your relationship means creating an entirely new relationship with the same person. If you're pregnant, already a parent, questioning whether you want children, or simply want to understand how relationships evolve through major life transitions, this episode is for you. In this episode, we discuss: • How motherhood and fatherhood change your identity • Matrescence and patrescence • Why the first year after having a baby can be so difficult for couples • The invisible pressures placed on mothers • Mum guilt and choosing to continue your career • How unequal parenting creates resentment • Why fathers need emotional support too • Maintaining sex and intimacy after children • Sleeping separately without losing connection • Why choosing not to have children isn't selfish • How to rebuild a relationship that's struggling • Protecting the parts of yourself you don't want motherhood to erase matrescence, patrescence, postpartum relationships, intimacy after baby, mum guilt, working mothers, parenting relationships, relationship advice, motherhood identity, maintaining intimacy, parenting resentment, modern motherhood💛 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Can your birth date really reveal who you are, who you're meant to become and even when major changes could happen in your life? I'll be honest: before this conversation, I knew absolutely nothing about numerology. And I had a LOT of questions. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I'm joined by numerologist and spiritual teacher Kaitlyn Kaerhart to understand what numerology actually is, why people believe our lives move through nine-year cycles, and whether numbers can really tell us anything about our relationships, careers, money and future. Kaitlyn even decodes my own numbers, including why she believes this year makes sense for marriage, pregnancy and family and some of what she told me genuinely surprised me. But I also wanted to challenge it. Where is the evidence? Why do some descriptions resonate while others don't? Are angel numbers actually meaningful? And is there a danger in allowing spiritual tools to make our decisions for us? In this episode, we discuss: ✨How to calculate your Life Path Number ✨ What Life Path Numbers 1–9 mean ✨ The Master Numbers 11, 22 & 33 ✨ My own numerology reading ✨ Life Path vs Life Destiny Numbers ✨ What "karmic debt" means in numerology ✨ The nine-year cycles Kaitlyn uses to interpret love, money and career ✨ Why Year 6 is associated with relationships ✨ Why Year 8 is associated with money ✨ 11:11, 777 and the truth about "angel numbers" ✨ Whether numerology can really predict the future ✨ The danger of becoming too dependent on spiritual tools ✨ How Kaitlyn uses numerology alongside intuition and manifestation Whether you're deeply spiritual, completely sceptical or simply curious, this conversation isn't about telling you what to believe. It's about asking whether the patterns we notice in our lives can teach us something about ourselves. Let me know in the comments: what's your Life Path Number and does it actually sound like you? And if you enjoy conversations that challenge the way you think about yourself and your life, make sure you're subscribed to A Millennial Mind. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ad | Get ahead of your to-do list with £10 off your first task at Taskrabbit.co.uk or on the Taskrabbit app and use the promo code MILLENNIALMIND' Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever gone through a season of life that completely changed the way you see yourself? As I come to the end of my second trimester, I've found myself reflecting on the biggest lessons pregnancy has taught me not just about becoming a mum, but about life, relationships, health and learning to trust myself. Pregnancy has been one of the most beautiful, exciting and vulnerable experiences I've ever been through. It's challenged me in ways I never expected, forced me to slow down, and made me realise what truly deserves my energy. In this episode, I share the four biggest lessons I've learnt so far, including: • Why protecting your energy is more important than listening to everyone else's opinions • How pregnancy strengthened my intuition and taught me to trust myself • Why your health is your greatest investment—long before pregnancy • The reason choosing the right life partner is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make Whether you're pregnant, trying for a baby, navigating a major life transition or simply feeling uncertain about your next chapter, I hope these lessons remind you that growth often comes through change. I'd love to know which lesson resonated with you the most? Let me know in the comments below. If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to like, subscribe and share it with someone who might need to hear it. This is a paid ad by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/MILLENNIALMIND. That's Better H-E-L-P dot com slash MILLENNIALMIND. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever looked around at your life and thought... "I've done everything I was supposed to do... so why don't I feel fulfilled?" In this episode of A Millennial Mind, Shivani sits down with @Krista Williams, co-founder of the  ⁨@almost30podcast⁩  coach and retreat host, to explore why so many women feel lost during major life transitions. Together they unpack why burnout isn't always caused by working too hard but by living out of alignment with who you truly are. From people-pleasing and perfectionism to hyper-independence, intuition and purpose, this conversation is for anyone questioning what's next. We discuss: • Why so many women feel lost in their 30s • The hidden signs of burnout and misalignment • Why achievement doesn't always lead to fulfilment • Hyper-independence and learning to ask for help • How to trust your intuition again • Redefining success on your own terms • Why purpose isn't something you find it's something you grow into • Practical journaling exercises to reconnect with yourself ⏱ Timestamps: 00:00 Why So Many Women Feel Lost Today 01:42 Meet Krista Williams 04:28 What It Really Means To Be On The Edge Of A Breakthrough 09:18 The Female Friendship That Changed Everything 13:48 Why You Feel Lost In Your Career & Relationships 18:45 Betrayal, Intuition & Rock Bottom 25:12 How To Start Trusting Your Intuition Again 30:08 Why Women Feel Lost In Their 30s 35:55 Stop Chasing Your Purpose 41:46 Why High Achievers Burn Out 47:12 The Truth About Hyper-Independence 52:48 How To Redefine Success 58:42 Finding What You're Actually Good At 1:03:05 You're Not Behind, You're Becoming 1:05:48 The Journaling Exercise That Can Change Your Life If you've been feeling disconnected from your career, your relationships or even yourself, this conversation will remind you that you're not behind you’re becoming. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is cheating always a choice? Can a relationship ever truly recover after infidelity? And is monogamy really right for everyone? Most people think cheating is simple: someone betrays you, the relationship ends, and that's the whole story. But what if infidelity is actually a symptom of something much deeper? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I'm joined by renowned sexologist, relationship expert and author Dr. Tara to unpack one of the most misunderstood topics in modern relationships. We explore why people really cheat, the psychology behind jealousy, emotional and physical infidelity, whether someone can genuinely love more than one person, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust after betrayal. Whether you've experienced infidelity, are questioning your own relationship, or simply want to understand modern love on a deeper level, this conversation will challenge the way you think about intimacy, desire and commitment. In this episode we discuss: • Why almost everyone has experienced some form of infidelity • The different types of cheating beyond physical affairs • Can cheating ever be unintentional? • Why people really cheat • Emotional neglect vs personal responsibility • Is jealousy a sign of love or insecurity? • Can someone love two people at the same time? • Monogamy vs ethical non-monogamy • Can relationships survive infidelity? • How to rebuild intimacy after betrayal • Why self-esteem plays such a big role in relationships • The biggest mistake couples make after someone cheats If you enjoyed this conversation, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Motherhood changes far more than your body it changes your identity. While everyone prepares you for the baby, very few people prepare you for what happens to YOU. In this episode, I'm joined by Michelle Ranavat, founder of Ranavat Beauty, to talk about the realities of postpartum recovery, hair loss, skin changes, confidence, and the ancient Ayurvedic rituals that helped her reconnect with herself after becoming a mother. We explore why so many women feel pressure to "bounce back," how motherhood can leave you feeling disconnected from your identity, and why looking after yourself isn't selfish it's essential. Whether you're pregnant, postpartum, planning a family, or simply curious about the science behind Ayurveda, this conversation is full of practical advice and a refreshing perspective on healing from the inside out. In this episode we discuss: • Why motherhood feels like the birth of a new identity • The emotional reality of postpartum hair loss • Why so many mothers feel isolated after having children • Ancient Ayurvedic traditions that support postpartum recovery • The science behind scalp massage, Amla and Saffron • Pregnancy-safe skincare and ingredients to avoid • Stretch marks, pigmentation and skin changes after birth • Why modern beauty focuses on fixing rather than healing • Daily rituals that help mothers reconnect with themselves • How to create healthy family boundaries after having a baby If this episode helped you, please subscribe, leave a review and share it with someone who might need this conversation! Every self-made person started somewhere. Your journey starts for free at  shopify.co.uk ad Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever walked into a room and felt like you didn't belong, despite everything you've achieved? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, we unpack the psychology of imposter syndrome, self-doubt, and the stories we tell ourselves that keep us feeling small. If you've ever questioned whether you're good enough, worried you'll be "found out," or felt like everyone else has it figured out, this conversation is for you. We explore why perfection is an impossible standard, how our minds create convincing narratives that aren't based on facts, and why confidence isn't something you wait for—it's something you build through action. If you've ever felt like a fraud despite working hard to get where you are, this episode will remind you that you're far from alone and that confidence comes from showing up, not from being perfect.  Get ahead of your to-do list with £10 off your first task at Taskrabbit.co.uk or on the Taskrabbit app and use the promo code MILLENNIALMIND 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Why do we keep attracting the same relationships, repeating the same patterns, and struggling to find lasting love? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, Shivani Pau sits down with Kabbalah teacher, entrepreneur and spiritual coach David Ghiyam to unpack the deeper forces shaping modern relationships. Together they explore masculine and feminine energy, soulmates, dating, marriage, manifestation, childhood wounds, and why the relationships we attract may be reflecting parts of ourselves we haven't healed yet. David shares his perspective on how fear, control, abandonment wounds, and limiting beliefs can influence who we choose, what we tolerate, and why certain relationship cycles keep repeating. Whether you're single, dating, married, divorced, or trying to understand relationship dynamics on a deeper level, this conversation offers a thought-provoking perspective on love, personal growth, and emotional patterns. 🎙 What we cover: • Why people keep attracting the same relationship patterns • The difference between masculine and feminine energy • Why some men pull away when they feel pressured • How childhood wounds shape adult relationships • The hidden fears driving dating decisions • Why successful women can struggle with relationships • The connection between self-worth and attraction • The spiritual perspective on soulmates and marriage • How to stop repeating unhealthy relationship cycles • The role of trust, respect, and emotional safety in love 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Most people think enmeshment is love. They think it’s loyalty/ being a close family or maybe it’s just caring deeply about the people around them, but what if the reason you struggle to make decisions, set boundaries, trust yourself, or put your partner first has nothing to do with love and everything to do with enmeshment? In this powerful conversation, we sit down with therapist Aliza Shapiro to unpack one of the most misunderstood relationship dynamics: enmeshment. We explore how family loyalty can sometimes become control, why so many eldest children become parentified, how cultural expectations shape our identities, and what it takes to build healthy relationships without losing the people we love. Whether you’re constantly seeking your parents’ approval, feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions, or struggle to put your own needs first, this episode will help you understand where those patterns come from and how to begin changing them. If you’ve ever felt guilty for choosing yourself, this conversation is for you. 🎙 What we cover: ・What enmeshment actually is ・Signs you’re too emotionally responsible for others ・The difference between love and control ・Why parentified children often become people pleasers ・How family dynamics affect romantic relationships ・Why your spouse should come before your parents ・How to have difficult conversations without destroying relationships ・The healthiest way to set boundaries ・How to rediscover your identity after years of living for others 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Enmeshment, Family Dynamics, Parentification, Relationships, Psychology, boundaries, Mental Health, Self Development, Therapy, AMillennialMind Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns in your relationships, career, or life, even when you know they're not serving you? In this weeks episode explores how our childhood experiences shape our self-worth, decision-making, and the things we're drawn to as adults. We dive into why familiar doesn't always mean healthy, and most importantly, how to start breaking the patterns that are keeping you stuck. This is a powerful conversation about healing, self-awareness, and learning to choose differently. This episode is sponsored by Shopify. Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at ⁠⁠shopify.co.uk⁠⁠ 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What's stopping you from taking action? Most people don't fail because they lack talent. They fail because they never take action. In this solo episode, I unpack the mindset shifts, habits, and lessons that have helped me stop overthinking and start moving. We explore why action creates confidence, how perfectionism keeps us stuck, and the simple steps you can take today to create momentum in your life. If you've been waiting for the perfect time, the perfect plan, or the perfect version of yourself, this episode is your reminder that progress begins the moment you start. The question isn't whether you're capable. This video is going to remind you why you are! 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What would you do if a stranger on your morning commute told you she couldn't have children — and you offered to help? In this episode, I sit down with Gini Bhogal (@ginibhogal), a celebrity bridal hair and makeup artist and a household name in the Asian bridal scene. But behind the brushes and bridal chairs is a story she kept quiet for nearly 30 years... until now. Gini shares how a chance encounter on the London Underground led her to donate her eggs to a complete stranger, for free, against her husband's wishes, without telling her family, and with no idea how it would all unfold. 26 years later, the child she helped bring into the world reached out and found her. If you've ever felt pulled to do something that made no logical sense but felt completely right, this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: - How Gini met Anita on the London Underground and made a split-second decision to donate her eggs - What the egg donation and IVF process actually involved - How she convinced her husband and navigated family and cultural pressure - The emotional process of detaching — and why she never wavered - The moment Christopher was born and Gini went to meet him - How and why they told Christopher the truth at age 26 — and how he guessed it was her - Taking him to Santorini to meet the family - Her parents' reaction — and why it completely surprised her - Breaking generational cycles in South Asian families - Faith, destiny and the belief that everything is written ⏱ Timestamps: - 0:00 – Intro - 2:51 – Gini's story begins: the stranger on the tube - 6:37 – How old Gini was and why she said yes - 8:46 – Telling her husband and convincing him - 11:55 – Shivani on organ donation and selflessness - 18:04 – Navigating conservative family and cultural pressure - 22:38 – Advice for following your gut when everyone disagrees - 39:37 – How IVF and egg donation actually works - 44:26 – Going through the process alone while working and raising a child - 49:14 – The extraction, the embryos, and the one egg that worked - 51:55 – Finding out Anita was pregnant - 1:00:40 – Christopher asking "are you my mum?" as a child - 1:05:14 – Deciding whether to ever tell him - 1:09:49 – How and when they told Christopher — and how he guessed - 1:14:15 – Christopher reaching out and coming to London - 1:15:32 – Taking him to Santorini - 1:17:01 – Telling Gini's parents and their reaction - 1:22:54 – Did Gini judge her parents unfairly? - 1:26:40 – What Gini gained from the whole experience - 1:27:06 – Do you believe in destiny? - 1:30:12 – Would Gini encourage her own children to donate? - 1:40:28 – Advice for doing something outside the norm 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 egg donation, fertility, ivf, selflessness, gut instinct, faith, destiny, south asian culture, punjabi culture, generational cycles, a millennial mind, shivani pau, gini bhogal, bridal makeup artist, infertility, acts of kindness, following your gut, cultural pressure, family expectations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever felt like you're burning out from a job you actually love? Dr Monika Sharma (@lifewithdoctormon) is an NHS GP, certified personal trainer and content creator who has spent years trying to balance life in and out of clinic. After nearly 15 years in medicine, Monika found herself running on empty — editing videos on her lunch break, answering emails on the commute home and slowly losing her joy for the job she'd worked so hard to get. In this episode we talk about what it really feels like to be a number in the system, the guilt of finally choosing yourself, why so many of us tie our worth to how much we suffer at work — and what actually changes when you stop. If you've ever felt like a fraud for enjoying your work day, or wondered whether you're allowed to want more than your job title gives you — this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: • The reality of being an NHS GP vs the glamour people assume • Why Monika wanted to quit medicine multiple times • Reducing her hours and the guilt that came with it • Tying your identity and self-worth to your job title • Why we equate hard work with suffering • The pressure of doing both medicine and content creation • Choosing yourself without feeling selfish • Immigrant parent work ethic and redefining what productivity looks like • How to have the difficult conversations that change your life • Interracial marriage and challenging cultural expectations • Why the people closest to you matter more than strangers online 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram:   / amillennialmind   Shivani Pau Instagram:   / shivani.pau   Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shiva... Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshop... Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 --- burnout, career burnout, job identity, work life balance, NHS doctor, choosing yourself, burnout recovery, overworking, hustle culture, a millennial mind, shivani pau, dr monika sharma, lifewithdoctormon, work guilt, ambition and burnout, immigrant work ethic, interracial relationship, cultural expectations, reducing work hours, self worth and career Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at shopify.co.uk! Have you ever felt completely alone trying to help your autistic child, ignored by the NHS, judged by family, and running out of answers? Taiba Bajar (@autismbrainempowerment) is a former dentist, award-winning researcher and founder of Autism Brain Empowerment. When her son lost all his words, eye contact and sleep overnight at 20 months old, she was dismissed by doctors and told it was just genetics. She refused to accept that and spent years finding the answers herself. In this episode we talk about what autism actually is, why so many children are regressing and why parents keep getting gaslit about it, and the real environmental triggers including food, screens and toxins that are worsening symptoms. We also talk about why girls are still being massively underdiagnosed, what the NHS gets wrong about the diagnosis process, and the simple changes parents can make at home right now. If you're a parent on a waiting list, feeling overwhelmed, or just want to understand autism better, this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: • What autism actually is and how it's diagnosed • Why autism rates are genuinely rising, not just better diagnosis • What regression really means and why doctors keep dismissing it • Why girls with autism are so often missed • The link between gut health and autism symptoms • How screens, food and environmental toxins worsen symptoms • What to do while you're on the NHS waiting list • Supplements that can help, including omega 3, magnesium and folinic acid • Why you shouldn't blame yourself as a parent • The importance of early intervention and neuroplasticity ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro 4:57 – What is autism? 7:03 – Why so many people are undiagnosed 7:47 – Why girls with autism are missed 10:53 – Are autism diagnoses actually rising? 13:59 – Taiba's personal story 19:27 – What is stimming? 24:29 – What is regression, and does every child experience it? 27:00 – What's happening neurologically during regression 31:42 – What should a parent do first if they notice regression 35:23 – Why there's still so much shame around autism 42:43 – The environmental factors worsening autism symptoms 49:30 – Screens, working parents and the guilt around it 51:32 – Practical advice for exhausted parents 59:40 – How to talk about environment without blaming parents 1:04:31 – What to do if you can't afford to go private 1:06:32 – Gut health, anti-inflammatory diet and supplements 1:13:19 – What one small thing can a parent do tonight 1:18:30 – The most sedentary generation in human history 1:23:55 – Taiba's biggest regret and her son's transformation 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What would you do if the family that was supposed to protect you spent your entire life tearing you down instead? Usha Singh-Das (@ushasinghdas) is the author of Breaking Free, a memoir about growing up in a toxic family environment shaped by a narcissistic father and relentless bullying from her sister-in-law. In this episode, she opens up about what it actually took to leave, go no contact, and rebuild her life from scratch. We get into the moments that broke her and the ones that made her. From being told she was too ugly to ever get married, to losing her dad, her baby and eventually her mum in the space of one year, and her family's response to all of it. This is one of the most honest conversations about toxic family dynamics we've had on this podcast. If you've ever wondered whether what you grew up with was actually normal, this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: - Growing up with a narcissistic father and not realising it until adulthood - How toxic family behaviour becomes your normal - Surviving a toxic sister-in-law and the damage it does - Being told you'll never get married because of your appearance - Miscarriage, grief and being dismissed by your own family - Going no contact and what it actually costs you - Breaking generational trauma when you had no positive role models - How the right people can rebuild what the wrong ones destroyed - Learning to parent differently when you had no example to follow ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:34 - Usha introduces herself and Breaking Free 2:54 - What her childhood actually looked like 4:27 - When she first realised her dad was toxic 6:58 - Getting married and how it exposed everything 9:08 - Being the last child left at home from 16 to 32 13:25 - University, freedom and finding her confidence 13:32 - When the eczema started and what her family said 17:29 - Being told she was too ugly to ever get married 20:18 - How she dealt with the sister-in-law bullying 21:30 - Hitting rock bottom 21:48 - Losing her dad and finding out she was pregnant on the same day 23:20 - The miscarriage nobody took seriously 24:18 - The family meeting three days after her surgery 37:52 - Going to court against her own family 38:32 - Losing her mum and not being told she was dying 42:27 - How she stayed positive through all of it 44:03 - Getting pregnant again after the miscarriage 46:25 - How her in-laws rebuilt what her family destroyed 52:14 - How motherhood made her reflect on her own childhood 57:28 - How she stopped generational trauma repeating 1:06:49 - The advice she'd give anyone told they'll never get married 1:09:18 - How to deal with a toxic sister-in-law 1:10:46 - Putting your mental health above guilt in Indian families Follow Usha: @ushasinghdas Follow Shivani: @shivani.pau Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: A Millennial Mind 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you been avoiding a conversation because you're scared it'll ruin everything? I'm sharing the framework I actually use — the 5C Method — which I developed years ago for my TEDx talk. From friendships to family dynamics to relationships, this is how I've learned to say the hard thing and come out the other side with a stronger connection, not a broken one. Last week I had to confront someone and I was physically shaking. But the benefits always outweigh that two minutes of discomfort — and I want to show you exactly how to get there. If you've been sitting on something you need to say but don't know how — this one's for you. 🎙 What we cover: - Why avoiding difficult conversations builds resentment, not peace - How confrontation got a bad reputation (and why that needs to change) - The 5C Framework: Care, Cause, Consider, Cure, Compassion - Why you should lead with feelings, not facts - How to know if a conversation is even worth having - What to do when the other person reacts badly - Why the solution (cure) must be part of the conversation - The cultural silence around confrontation — especially in South Asian families ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro: The difficult conversation I just had 1:30 – Why avoiding conflict builds resentment 4:00 – Growing up emotional in a big joint family 6:30 – The "golden goose" response — and why most people can't give it 9:00 – Reframing what confrontation actually means 11:30 – The cultural silence: South Asian families and not speaking up 14:00 – Introducing the 5C Framework 15:00 – C1: Care — why you care about this person 17:30 – C2: Cause — being specific about what upset you 20:00 – C3: Consider — seeing the other person's perspective 22:30 – C4: Cure — always bring a solution 24:00 – C5: Compassion — the thread that holds it all together 25:00 – Feelings over facts: what I learned in therapy 26:00 – Final message + outro 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 #difficultconversations #communicationtips #relationshipadvice #howtoconfrontsomeone #5Cframework #confrontation #amillennialmind #shivanipau #selfdevelopment #mentalhealth #southasianwomen #boundaries #conflictresolution #emotionalintelligence #personalgrowth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I hate to be the one to tell you this but you might NOT be caring for your hair as well as you think 🙈 In today's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sat down with Dr Aamna Adel (@dermatologist_adel), a consultant dermatologist and hair loss specialist based on Harley Street, to get the real answers. And honestly? Almost everything I thought I knew was wrong. The heatless curlers I swear by, the hair gummies I take every day, even the traditional Indian hair oiling I leave in overnight. All of it! This is the hair masterclass you didn't know you needed, and if you've ever worried about hair loss, postpartum shedding, grey hairs, or just want to actually understand your scalp, this episode is going to change the way you look after your hair and maybe finally be what convinces you to leave those greys alone! If you're losing hair, confused by the conflicting advice online, or just want to understand what your scalp is actually telling you — this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: - What alopecia actually means (it's not what you think) - The real causes of hair loss — and why it's rarely just one thing - What minoxidil is, how it works, and why shedding on it is a good sign - Why heatless curlers can be MORE damaging than heat - Hair oiling — the right oils, the right technique, and how long to leave it in - Are hair gummies actually worth it? The honest answer - Grey hair — causes, myths, and whether you can reverse it - Perimenopause and hair loss: what you can do immediately - Hair extensions and the vicious cycle they create - Three easy things you can do today for scalp health - Hair training — is it real? (Spoiler: no) - The pressure to look young and the Botox conversation ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro 1:43 – Dr Aamna's background and her own hair loss journey 5:30 – What is a scalp disorder? Normal hair loss vs when to worry 8:00 – How much hair loss is too much? 9:15 – The most common causes of hair loss 11:05 – Why it's never just one thing 12:20 – What is minoxidil and how does it work? 13:45 – Why shedding on minoxidil is actually a good sign 15:00 – Is minoxidil a lifelong commitment? 26:20 – Heatless curlers: the myth debunked 29:45 – What "right type of heat" actually means 35:10 – Rosemary oil — hero ingredient or overhyped? 35:45 – Does washing your hair more cause hair loss? 37:45 – Sulphates — are they actually bad? 40:00 – LED scalp caps and devices: do they work? 42:30 – Hair gummies: are they worth the money? 44:55 – What supplements actually have evidence behind them 46:20 – Hair oiling — how long is too long? 50:40 – The best oils for scalp vs mid-lengths 53:25 – Can you reverse hair loss? 54:50 – What causes scarring alopecia 55:50 – Grey hair — what it is and what causes it 58:30 – Should you pluck grey hairs? 1:00:00 – The pressure to look young — Botox and ageing 1:09:30 – Perimenopause and hair loss: what to do 1:11:45 – Hair extensions and traction alopecia 1:13:30 – Three quick tips for scalp health 1:15:30 – Hair training — is it actually a thing? 1:17:15 – The best food for hair growth 1:17:35 – What to do first if you're panicking about hair loss 1:18:55 – Bleaching your hair and bond repair 1:20:35 – Split ends and breakage: the honest advice 1:21:30 – Outro Follow Dr Aamna Adel: @dermatologist_adel 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 -- hair loss, hair care, scalp health, dermatologist, minoxidil, heatless curlers, hair growth tips, alopecia, postpartum hair loss, perimenopause hair loss, grey hair, hair gummies, dr aamna adel, shivani pau, a millennial mind, hair myths, consultant dermatologist Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Harnaam Kaur (@harnaamkaur) is a model, motivational speaker, Guinness World Record holder and PCOS activist - known worldwide for keeping her beard. But this conversation goes much deeper than PCOS and facial hair. Harnaam opens up about growing up South Asian with a condition nobody understood, the bullying that led to self-harm, and how suicidal thoughts eventually gave way to one of the most recognisable faces in body positivity. She talks about never having been in love at 35, what her beard may have cost her in relationships, and the question she's sitting with for the first time in 15 years about whether she's ready to let it go. Harnaam says that 2024 was the darkest time of her life — the grief, the PTSD, the night she wrote a letter ready to end it all, and the person whose text the next morning she believes saved her life. If you've ever built your whole identity around surviving something, this one will stay with you. ⚠️ This episode contains discussion of suicide, self-harm and mental health. If you or someone you know is struggling please reach out to Samaritans on 116 123 (UK, free, 24/7). 🎙️ What we cover: PCOS symptoms in women and what a diagnosis at 12 actually feels like Facial hair, hirsutism and growing up South Asian with a body nobody talked about School bullying, self-harm and the impact on her mental health and body image The moment she stopped hiding and started fighting back The ego and anger that followed — and why she's not proud of all of it Keeping the beard for her Sikh faith — and how that faith has since completely shifted Never having been in love at 35 and what her PCOS beard may have cost her Questioning the beard and her identity for the first time in 15 years South Asian family silence around abuse, honour and speaking out Grief, PTSD and mental health rock bottom in 2024 The night she called for help and nobody picked up Finding faith, reading the Bible and what pulled her back from the edge The difference between body positivity and actually accepting yourself ⏱️ Timestamps: 0:00 — Intro 1:41 — Harnaam introduces herself 3:08 — Being diagnosed with PCOS at 12 5:12 — When the facial hair started and the bullying began 9:43 — Her relationship with the beard now and the limbo she's in 12:37 — Keeping the beard for religion — and how her faith changed 14:13 — The beard, marriage and never having been in love 20:58 — Wanting to know what her face looks like without it 24:15 — Shivani on women in their 30s being told to change themselves 28:17 — From suicidal teenager to angry, ego-driven activist 33:12 — The words from a friend that kept her here 36:12 — Going from rock bottom to a Guinness World Record 39:40 — What made her so angry — and why she's calmer now 41:02 — South Asian families and the silence around abuse 42:38 — Sexual abuse in South Asian communities and the pressure of honour 49:52 — Has she always refused to conform? 54:39 — The performance of body positivity 56:16 — Changing publicly and people not letting you evolve 1:08:57 — The last three years — grief, PTSD and hitting rock bottom 1:13:24 — Reading the Bible as a Sikh and what faith means to her now 1:17:31 — Writing a suicide note and the night nobody picked up 1:19:37 — What got her through and the person who didn't know they saved her life 1:23:10 — Her one piece of advice for anyone struggling right now 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you're someone who consults Dr Google more than your actual GP and it sends you into a constant health spiral, this episode is for you. Dr Nighat Arif (@DrNighatArif) is a practising GP with nearly 19 years in the NHS, women's health specialist, and author of the new book The Complete Guide to Family Health. In this conversation, we get into why so many of us are more anxious about our health than ever, whether Google and AI are helping or actively making things worse, and what the wellness industry is quietly getting away with. We also go deep on sleep, relationships, supplements, separate beds, and why prevention is the most underrated thing you can do for your long-term health. If you've ever convinced yourself you had a brain tumour at 2am because of a Google search — this one's for you. Shopify UK: Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at shopify.co.uk 🎙 What we cover: What cyberchondria is and why it's rising Why Googling symptoms isn't always bad — and how to do it right The truth about IV vitamin drips (and why it might just be expensive hydration) Which supplements you can actually overdose on — and the risks Why separate bedrooms might be better for your marriage Sleep jolts — what's actually happening in your brain How to spot cherry-picked health data and misinformation What Dr Nighat thinks about ChatGPT replacing doctors CBT for health anxiety — what actually works Dementia prevention: what the Lancet study says you should be doing from birth The NHS's free health checks — and why you should be using them Prevention vs cure: Dr Nighat's number one piece of advice after 19 years ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro 1:41 – Dr Nighat explains the book 5:32 – What does GP actually stand for? 6:03 – What is cyberchondria? 8:07 – The rise of health anxiety through TikTok reels 9:00 – The woman who thought she had a brain tumour (it was her partner's cigarette smoke) 11:38 – Cherry-picking health data and why it's dangerous 13:20 – Does Dr Nighat Google her own symptoms? 15:03 – Her son's liver transplant — googling as a doctor-turned-mum 21:00 – How to find trustworthy health information online 26:00 – IV vitamin drips: brilliant or a very expensive wee? 32:45 – Supplements — which ones you can actually overdose on 34:40 – Wellness trends and losing intimacy with your partner 37:35 – Why separate beds might be the secret to a happy marriage 45:50 – The science of physical touch and oxytocin 47:52 – Why people jolt in their sleep 50:15 – Cyberchondria in relationships — when your partner won't stop googling 52:54 – What keeps people stuck in health anxiety loops 54:06 – "If you have health anxiety, please don't buy my book" 56:01 – CBT for health anxiety: how it actually works 57:25 – Is ChatGPT replacing your GP? 59:44 – Weird body facts (your ears never stop growing) 1:01:02 – The Lancet study on dementia prevention 1:03:48 – Dr Nighat's number one health advice after 19 years 1:05:26 – Wrap up Happy with that or anything else to tweak? 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ #drnighatarif #cyberchondria #healthanxiety #googlesymptoms #familyhealth #supplements #vitaminD #ivdrip #wellnesstrends #preventativemedicine #amillennialmind #shivanipau #nhs #womenshealth #chatgpt #healthmisinformation #sleep #cbtherapy Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you struggling to cope when life keeps throwing curveballs, and you have no idea how to stay grounded? In this solo episode, I'm sharing the exact frameworks, books, and practical exercises that have helped me navigate one of the most overwhelming periods of change I've ever experienced. I spent seven years as a change management consultant before starting this podcast, and in this episode, I'm giving you everything I've learned and used to get me through this period, broken down in a way you can actually use too. If you're going through a job loss, a breakup, a move, a bereavement, or just a season of life that feels completely unrecognisable — this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: Why change gets harder the older we get The book that completely shifted how I think about change (Who Moved My Cheese) Stephen Covey's Circle of Control, Influence and Concern — and how to actually use it The "do you have a problem? can you do something about it?" diagram from Life's Amazing Secrets A practical fear reframing exercise you can do right now The "next step" rule — why you only ever need to focus on one thing A daily reflection exercise: what did I control today? Why "life is long" is the mindset shift I keep coming back to Who Moved My Cheese? — Spencer Johnson https://www.amazon.co.uk/Who-Moved-My-Cheese-Amazing/dp/0091816971 Life's Amazing Secrets — Gaur Gopal Das https://www.amazon.co.uk/Lifes-Amazing-Secrets-Balance-Purpose/dp/0143442295 The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People — Stephen R. Covey https://www.amazon.co.uk/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Anniversary/dp/1471195201 ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 1:30 Why change gets harder as we get older 3:00 My honest life update and why so much is changing right now 8:00 Grief, guilt, and finding reasons to stay stuck 11:00 Book #1: Who Moved My Cheese 15:00 The Circle of Control, Influence and Concern 20:00 Book #2: Life's Amazing Secrets by Gaur Gopal Das 24:00 The "why worry?" equation 27:00 The fear reframe exercise 33:00 The next step rule 37:00 Daily reflection: what did I control? 40:00 Life is long — removing the pressure to get it right now 45:00 Final thoughts 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You're doing everything 'right' when it comes to social media sleep routines... the magnesium, the no screens... but you're still not getting quality sleep? There IS a reason (& a fix!) This week on A Millennial Mind, I'm chatting with Stephanie Romiszewski (@stephsleepyhead), sleep physiologist, founder of the Sleepyhead Clinic, and author of Think Less, Sleep More. With nearly two decades of clinical experience, she has helped over 10,000 people fix sleep they thought was unfixable. We dig into why sleep hygiene is largely a myth, why your morning routine matters far more than your night routine, and the two biological mechanisms that actually control your sleep — and how you're probably sabotaging both without knowing it. We also get into popular 'sleep trackers', waking up at 5am, napping, magnesium, pregnancy sleep, and why thinking too hard about your sleep might be the very thing keeping you awake. If you've ever beaten yourself up about bad sleep, wondered if you're broken, or googled yourself into a spiral of sleep anxiety — this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: - Why sleep hygiene doesn't fix chronic sleep problems - Sleep drive vs circadian rhythm — what they are and why they matter - Why your morning routine matters more than your evening one - The truth about wearables and sleep trackers (and why they might be making things worse) - Light exposure and movement as your most powerful sleep tools - What chronic insomnia actually is — and what to do about it - Sleep during pregnancy and as a new mother - Napping: when it helps and when it doesn't - Night owls vs morning types — can you change? - Women and sleep: hormones, menopause, and the invisible mental load - Magnesium, melatonin, and sleep supplements debunked - CBT-I and sleep retraining explained - Stephanie's book: Think Less, Sleep More ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro 1:44 – Stephanie's background and the Sleepyhead Clinic 4:49 – What people actually come to Stephanie with 7:34 – How to tell the difference between a bad patch and chronic insomnia 11:40 – The problem with sleep hygiene (and screens before bed) 14:10 – The two mechanisms that control your sleep: sleep drive and circadian rhythm 19:56 – How to identify if you have a strong sleep drive 21:52 – Afternoon tiredness and the circadian dip 22:43 – Why consistency in your wake time matters more than bedtime 27:58 – Sleep trackers: why the data might be hurting you 34:21 – The Pyramid of Sleep Influence — why gadgets are at the top, not the bottom 35:26 – The Lumi light alarm: the one gadget Stephanie actually endorses 37:11 – Blue light glasses: are they worth it? 38:17 – Light in the morning: what actually counts 42:51 – Why we need to stop adding things and start with the basics 46:49 – How to get consistent without an elaborate night routine 47:28 – Morning person vs night owl: can you change? 52:41 – Sleep during menopause 53:08 – Sleep during pregnancy and as a new mum 56:19 – How to know how much sleep you actually need 59:28 – Sleep quality vs sleep duration — which matters more? 1:00:28 – Napping: when it helps vs when it doesn't 1:03:41 – The "morning person" label and whether you need to change 1:06:14 – Night owls and health risks — correlation vs causation 1:09:19 – When to listen to your body (and when not to) 1:09:57 – Do women need more sleep than men? 1:10:24 – Sleep and postpartum recovery 1:11:14 – Quickfire round: light therapy, blue light glasses, sleep tea, magnesium, Lumie lamp, acupressure mat, mattress, temperature, ashwagandha 1:16:20 – The one thing to do this week to improve your sleep 1:16:47 – Closing thoughts Follow Stephanie: @stephsleepyhead Think Less, Sleep More is out now 🔔 Subscribe for new episodes every week. ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 -- #sleep #insomnia #sleepadvice #sleephealth #sleephygiene #morningroutine #circadianrhythm #sleepanxiety #millennialwellness #stephanieromiszewski #sleepyheadclinic #amillennialmind #shivanipau #sleepscience #womenshealth #sleeptips #sleepphysiologist #thinkklesssleepmore Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Why do you feel like a completely different person the week before your period? This week on A Millennial Mind, I am joined by Dr Faye Bate, a medical doctor who explains exactly what's happening in your brain when your hormones shift — and why some women feel it so much more than others. In this episode, we break down the real science behind PMS and PMDD, why your blood tests can come back normal when you feel awful, how stress makes everything worse, and why antidepressants aren't always the answer. Faye also opens up about her own experience of freezing her eggs, the emotional toll of fertility pressure, and the viral misinformation that's doing real damage to women. If you've ever been told "it's just part of being a woman" — this episode will change how you see your mood and help you (and your partner) better prepare for those tricky and emotional few days, so many of us suffer with each month. 🎙 What we cover: - The neuroscience of why your mood changes before your period - PMS vs PMDD: how to tell the difference - Serotonin, GABA and dopamine: what's actually happening in your brain during the menstrual cycle - Why women with ADHD are more likely to have PMDD - Antidepressants for PMS: when they help and when they don't - CBT vs medication: what is the best way to manage your symptoms? - Egg freezing: Dr Faye's personal experience and what she wasn't expecting - The biological clock debate: what social media gets dangerously wrong - Postpartum depression and the link to PMS - Why lifestyle factors matter more than supplements ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro 1:17 – Why "it's just part of being a woman" is harmful 3:59 – The biology of mood swings explained 6:55 – Faye's egg freezing story and the Morley's meltdown 12:48 – PMS vs PMDD — the difference and the suicide risk 15:19 – Serotonin, GABA and dopamine across your cycle 21:05 – Why some women get worse PMS than others 22:33 – What is stress actually doing to your body? 28:05 – How hormonal fluctuations affect women differently 30:44 – The brain scans that prove your emotions aren't irrational 32:01 – Antidepressants for PMS — when they actually work 38:34 – Supplements — what works and what doesn't 41:07 – CBT vs antidepressants for PMS 44:06 – Egg freezing — the emotional and physical reality 48:34 – Why getting your period while trying to conceive is devastating 52:16 – The biological clock lie going viral on social media 58:34 – Postpartum depression and how to prepare 1:03:56 – The one myth about women's moods Faye wants to destroy Follow Dr Faye: @drfayebate Follow Shivani: @shivani.pau Listen on Spotify & Apple Podcasts: A Millennial Mind 🔔 Subscribe for more honest conversations every week. #PMS #PMDD #hormones #moodswings #womenshealth #menstrualcycle #eggfreezing #fertility #antidepressants #neuroscience #ADHD #postpartumdepression #millennialmind #podcast 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What would you do if you suspected your partner was having an affair — and you caught him texting her while you were giving birth to your second child? Jessica May (@jessicamay_home) had the picture-perfect life. Two kids, a beautiful home, a partner of nearly ten years. Then she discovered he'd been having an affair — and the gaslighting that followed almost broke her. In this episode, Jessica shares how she found out, why she begged him to stay, how his own family blamed her, and what finally gave her the strength to leave. She went from being a stay-at-home mum with no income to building a 1.6 million-strong community — and completely rebuilding her confidence, her identity, and her life. If you've been cheated on, gaslit, or you're stuck wondering whether to stay or leave — this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: - The warning signs of a cheating partner she ignored - How gaslighting kept her trapped for over a year - Why she blamed herself (and how she stopped) - Rebuilding confidence and self-worth after betrayal - Co-parenting when your ex is with the person they cheated with - Practical advice for surviving heartbreak day by day - Manifestation, vision boards and how she designed her new life ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro 3:00 – Jessica's relationship and the life she thought she had 6:23 – Discovering the affair 9:07 – The warning signs she missed 13:38 – The moment she found the truth on his phone 17:07 – "I begged him not to leave me" 19:12 – His family said "what did you expect?" 21:33 – Trying to stay after infidelity 27:53 – Growing on social media during the hardest time 34:17 – Why she begged him to stay 37:44 – The fear of leaving 39:42 – Turning cleaning content into a career 42:11 – 100K to 1.6 million Instagram followers 48:54 – Advice for women going through heartbreak right now 55:18 – Does cheating affect the whole family? 59:58 – Co-parenting with his new partner 1:06:58 – Why she never compared herself to the other woman 1:08:30 – Angel numbers, vision boards and manifestation 1:14:45 – Dealing with judgemental friends 1:18:18 – "Don't blame yourself" Follow Jessica: @jessicamay_home Follow Shivani: @shivani.pau Listen on Spotify & Apple Podcasts: A Millennial Mind 🔔 Subscribe for more honest conversations every week. #cheating #infidelity #gaslighting #heartbreak #singlemum #affair #relationships #selfworth #rebuildingconfidence #coparenting #millennialmind #podcast 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Millions of women struggle with symptoms like anxiety, brain fog, exhaustion and mood changes — but what if the real cause isn’t stress and it's something deeper within our bodies? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, hormone and menopause specialist Dr Louise Newson explains how hormones like progesterone, oestrogen and testosterone affect the brain, mood and overall health. We discuss: • Why 95% of women experience PMS • The difference between PMS and PMDD • How hormones affect dopamine, serotonin and sleep • Why many women are misdiagnosed with depression • The truth about HRT and hormone therapy • Signs your hormones may be changing in your 30s and 40s If you’ve ever felt “off” or a woman who has struggled around your period each month and wondered whether hormones could be playing a role, this conversation will help you understand what might be happening in your body and what you can do to regulate and fix it. 0:00 95% of Women Experience PMS 1:40 Why Hormones Affect Mood & Energy 3:20 What Hormones Actually Are 5:00 How Hormones Change During Your Cycle 7:25 PMS vs PMDD Explained 9:05 Were Women “Meant” To Have So Many Periods? 10:35 Why Women Are Often Misdiagnosed 12:25 Should PMS Just Be Accepted? 13:45 Natural Hormones vs The Contraceptive Pill 15:20 The Biggest Fear About Hormones 16:25 The Truth About Breast Cancer & Hormones 20:45 Why Blood Tests Don’t Always Work For Hormones 22:40 Why Low Progesterone Affects Mood 25:50 Signs Your Hormones Might Be Changing 27:40 How Hormones Affect Mental Health 31:10 When Hormones Cause Dark Thoughts 34:40 Hormones & Long-Term Health Risks 36:40 Can Hormones Improve Fertility? 39:30 Why Hormone Supplements Are Often Marketing 43:20 Understanding Perimenopause 48:00 Stress vs Hormones 53:00 Why Women Are Prescribed Antidepressants 59:50 The Biggest Myth About Hormones 1:02:10 What Women In Their 30s Should Know Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Babbel: Learn a new Language and get up to 60% off your subscription at Babbel.com/milllennialmind In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Millie Mackintosh for an honest conversation about sobriety, motherhood and rebuilding your identity during a time of major personal change. We talk openly about questioning your relationship with alcohol, navigating anxiety and panic attacks, and the reality behind “mummy needs wine” culture. Millie shares why she stopped drinking, how becoming a parent reshaped her priorities, and what it really takes to show up more present for your children and yourself. This is a deeply emotional discussion about the sober curious movement, coping mechanisms, mental health and the pressure many women feel to keep everything together. Together, we explore how alcohol and anxiety can become linked, why telling the truth about your struggles matters, and how choosing sobriety can be part of becoming the person and parent you want to be. ✨ Who this episode is for • Anyone questioning their relationship with alcohol or exploring sobriety • Parents navigating anxiety, identity shifts or motherhood pressure • Women interested in sober curious living or quitting drinking • Anyone rebuilding themselves after a big life change ✨ What you’ll learn • Why Millie Mackintosh chose to stop drinking • The truth behind “mummy needs wine” culture • How alcohol can mask anxiety and emotional overwhelm • What helped her become a more present, grounded parent 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 ------- millie mackintosh sobriety interview, why i stopped drinking story, sober motherhood uk, sober curious women, alcohol and anxiety women, quitting alcohol journey, mummy needs wine culture, parenting and mental health, motherhood identity shift, panic attacks motherhood, rebuilding identity after motherhood, a millennial mind podcast, shivani pau interview, sobriety and parenting conversation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Body positivity is everywhere, yet many women still feel stuck hating their bodies or pretending to feel confident. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, Alex Light explores diet culture, body image and self worth, and why loving your body is not the requirement we have been led to believe. We talk about toxic body positivity, the pressure to perform confidence online, and how to improve your relationship with your body without forcing self love. This is an honest conversation about stopping the cycle of comparison and learning how to feel more at peace in your body, even on difficult days. Shopify UK: Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at shopify.co.uk  ✨ Who this episode is for: • Women struggling with body image and self worth • Anyone tired of diet culture and forced positivity • People who want to stop hating their body • Anyone wanting to feel more confident without changing their body 🤍 What you’ll learn • Why body positivity can feel overwhelming • How diet culture impacts confidence and self worth • What actually helps improve body image • How to feel more confident without faking self love 00:00 Why body positivity feels exhausting 02:45 Do we have to love our bodies to heal 06:10 The pressure to perform confidence online 10:30 How diet culture shapes self worth 15:20 Why weight is not a measure of health 20:40 The problem with “looking healthy” 25:30 Pretty privilege and thin privilege 31:10 The cost of chasing thinness 37:00 Recovery, respect and body neutrality 42:20 What actually helps improve body image 48:10 How to stop hating your body 53:40 Feeling confident without changing your body 58:30 Final thoughts on respect over self love 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Botox and fillers are everywhere right now, but are women choosing them for confidence or from pressure? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, aesthetic doctor Dr Pyal Patel talks about ageing, beauty standards, social media comparison and why so many women feel they need to look younger. We discuss preventative Botox in your 20s, the fear of falling behind, why everyone online seems to have the same face, and how to tell if cosmetic work is coming from self love or insecurity. This is not about shaming treatments. It is about understanding the psychology behind the choices we make about our faces. 💉Who this is for: • Women questioning Botox or fillers • Anyone feeling pressure to look younger • People comparing their face to social media • Women unsure if cosmetic work is confidence or insecurity • Viewers interested in beauty standards and ageing ✨What you’ll learn: • Why so many women feel pressure to get Botox • The psychology behind cosmetic treatments • How social media affects body image and self-worth • The difference between empowerment and insecurity • How to make confident, informed choices about your face What are your thoughts on filler & Botox? Are you for or against minor aesthetics and injectables? 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you staying because you want to… or because you’re scared to leave?In this solo episode, I talk about what happens when nothing is “wrong” but staying no longer feels honest. On the surface, this episode is about me and my partner becoming digital nomads and testing life in Dubai, Miami, and LA. But underneath that, this is really a conversation about choosing the unknown when staying feels safer but smaller.This episode is for you if:You’re in a relationship that looks fine but feels misalignedYou’re stuck in a job you’ve outgrownYou’re scared to start over, speak up, or choose yourselfYou keep waiting for certainty before you make a moveWe talk about:Why “good enough” is the hardest place to leaveThe fear of being judged for your choicesThe sunk cost fallacy (and why it keeps you stuck)Why trying is not the same as committing foreverHow to stop living through the eyes of other peopleYou don’t need certainty.You don’t need permission.You just need courage for the first step.🎧 If this episode resonated, make sure you subscribe — it helps this conversation reach the people who need it most.Thank you for being here 🤍🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Babbel: Learn a new Language and get up to 60% off your subscription at Babbel.com/milllennialmindShopify UK: Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at shopify.co.uk  When a relationship looks perfect on the outside but feels deeply wrong behind closed doors, leaving can be one of the hardest decisions you’ll ever make ❤️‍🩹 In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Nelly Patel, known from Married at First Sight UK, to talk openly about her marriage to Steven Springett, what really went on behind the scenes, and why she ultimately chose to walk away. Nelly shares the reality of being in a toxic relationship under public scrutiny, the emotional confusion that comes with mixed signals, dishonesty and power imbalances, and how cultural expectations made leaving even harder. We talk about losing self-trust, recognising red flags too late, and what it actually takes to let go of a relationship that’s hurting you. This is an honest conversation about toxic dynamics, self-worth, and choosing yourself - even when it’s painful, public, and misunderstood. 00:00 Trailer: leaving a toxic relationship 01:12 Meeting Steven on MAFS UK 04:05 Early red flags in the marriage 07:40 What the cameras didn’t show 11:10 Feeling confused and doubting myself 15:05 Dishonesty and broken trust 19:30 The impact of public pressure and opinions 24:10 Cultural expectations and staying too long 29:45 Realising the relationship was toxic 34:20 The moment I knew I had to leave 38:50 Life after MAFS and rebuilding self-trust 43:30 What I’ve learned about relationships 47:55 Advice for anyone in a toxic relationship 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you’ve been doing all the “right” manifestation work but still feel stuck, frustrated, or like nothing is landing — this episode is for you. In this conversation on A Millennial Mind, I sit down with renowned astrologer Debbie Frank to explore why manifestation often feels blocked, and how understanding timing, alignment, and your own inner patterns can change everything. We talk about divine timing, free will vs fate, and why forcing outcomes can actually create more resistance. Debbie explains how astrology isn’t about prediction, but self-awareness — helping you understand when to push forward, when to pause, and how to work with your natural rhythms instead of against them. This episode is a grounding, practical reframe of manifestation that feels calm, empowering, and deeply reassuring. 🤍 Who This Episode Is For: Anyone who feels stuck despite trying to manifest change People frustrated with manifestation that “isn’t working” Those curious about astrology but sceptical of fluff Anyone navigating a transition or waiting for clarity People wanting to understand timing, alignment, and readiness Listeners feeling behind, blocked, or out of sync with life ✨ What You’ll Learn: Why manifestation can feel blocked even when you’re doing the work The role of timing and alignment in creating change How astrology can support self-understanding (not control) The difference between forcing outcomes and allowing flow Why feeling stuck doesn’t mean you’re failing How to let go of pressure and work with your natural cycles A calmer, more grounded way to approach manifestation 00:00 Trailer: Manifestation, timing & astrology 01:05 Why manifestation feels blocked 05:10 Astrology explained without prediction 08:00 Free will vs fate in manifestation 11:15 Why timing matters more than effort 15:05 Wanting something vs being ready for it 19:00 How forcing outcomes creates resistance 23:40 Understanding divine timing 28:25 How astrology helps you align with your cycles 33:00 Signs you’re pushing the wrong chapter 37:10 Letting go without giving up 42:00 How to stop forcing manifestation 47:05 What alignment actually feels like 52:30 A calmer way to manifest change 57:10 Trusting the timing of your life 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of my goals this year is to create with more intention and that starts with audio. If you’re starting a podcast, filming YouTube videos, or recording voiceovers, sound quality matters more than people realise. You can have the best ideas in the world, but if the audio isn’t clear, people click away.I’ve been using the Shure MV7i, and it’s genuinely become part of my setup clean sound, easy to use, and perfect whether you’re recording at home or on the go.If your New Year intention is to stop overthinking and just start creating, this is your reminder: raise your standards, back yourself, and begin. Get you mic here: https://tinyurl.com/bdchrs3n AD  Self-doubt can quietly shape your decisions, relationships, and confidence often without you even realising it. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with behavioural scientist and performance expert Dr Shadé Zahrai to unpack why so many of us struggle with self-trust, imposter syndrome, and feeling “not good enough”. We explore the psychology behind self-doubt, why confidence doesn’t come before action (it comes after), and how your self-image directly influences the life you build. Dr Shadé shares science-backed tools to stop second-guessing yourself, challenge your inner critic, and start backing yourself — even when it feels uncomfortable. If you’re stepping into a new chapter, navigating change, or simply tired of holding yourself back, this conversation will help you move forward with more clarity and self-belief. Who This Episode Is For: Anyone struggling with self-doubt or imposter syndrome People who constantly second-guess themselves High-achievers who feel like they’re “faking it” Those wanting to build real self-trust and confidence Anyone stuck in overthinking, comparison or fear of failure What You’ll Learn: Why self-doubt isn’t a personality flaw The science behind self-trust and confidence Why action builds confidence — not the other way around How imposter syndrome actually works How to quiet your inner critic Practical tools to stop overthinking and start acting Whether personality really can change (and what science says) 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Use code CHRISTMAS20 for 20% of tickets to my workshop- valid for 72hours only! Get your tickets here: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/pages/upcoming-workshopIn today’s solo episode, I’m sharing the most vulnerable decision Nikhil and I have ever made. We’re moving abroad. Not because we have everything figured out, not because life pushed us, but because we’re choosing growth over comfort, even when it feels terrifying.This episode is the real story behind why we’re moving, what led to it, and the fears, guilt and emotions that come with leaving family, friends, work, and the only place I’ve ever lived.I talk about:🌍 Why we’ve always dreamed of living abroad☀️ How weather, energy and environment impact your happiness💭 The mindset of moving before you feel ready🏠 Renting, break clauses and the judgement we received👪 The guilt of leaving family + future kids growing up differently💸 Money, ambition and wanting more for your future💛 Choosing opportunity instead of waiting for permission✈️ The cost of change and why we’re doing it anywayIf you’ve ever felt stuck, afraid to take a risk, or worried about making the “wrong” decision… this episode will feel like a conversation with someone who gets it. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this insightful interview, director Neeraj Ghaywan and cast members Ishaan Khatter and Vishal Jethwa discuss the themes of classism and casteism explored in the Netflix movie 'Homebound.' They share personal experiences and reflections on how caste and class discrimination still permeates Indian society today, despite assumptions that such issues are outdated. The conversation delves into the impact of systemic discrimination, the importance of education for marginalised communities, and the transformative experiences the cast underwent while preparing for the film. 00:00 Introduction: Is Classism Still an Issue? 00:19 Personal Experiences with Class and Caste 01:14 Understanding Caste in India 02:31 The Impact of Caste on Identity 05:16 Experiences of Discrimination 08:20 Exploring Caste in Rural India 13:03 Moments of Unity and Generosity 15:33 Navigating Social Expectations 16:02 The Privilege of Career Choices 16:43 Survival vs. Ambition 18:29 Microaggressions and Their Impact 19:03 Taking Back Power and Dignity 20:14 Identity and Social Capital 25:32 Education as a Path to Empowerment 26:29 Challenging Assumptions and Division 28:06 Final Thoughts and Reflections 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

USE CODE PODCAST10 TO GET 10% OFF TICKETS TO MY WORKSHOP HERE: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/pages/upcoming-workshop In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Savannah Sachdev, who bravely shares her journey with food, body image, and self-worth. Savannah opens up about her struggles with body image, the impact of society's judgment, and her transformative decision to undergo breast reduction surgery. We delve into how her relationship with exercise and food evolved, the importance of self-reflection, and the power of setting boundaries. Savannah also touches on the challenges and joys of becoming a stepmom and how that has shaped her self-acceptance process. This episode is a must-watch for anyone dealing with similar issues, offering a profound look at the complexities of self-worth and the importance of healing from within. Savannah’s story will inspire you to take actionable steps toward a healthier and happier life. Don't forget to subscribe, follow, and have your notepad ready for this enlightening conversation. 00:00 Introduction: The Complex Relationship with Food 00:07 Personal Struggles and Body Image 00:15 The Turning Point: Seeking Validation 00:21 Addiction and Self-Worth 00:31 The Impact of Judgment and Boundaries 00:57 The Longest Relationship: With Yourself 01:16 Guest Introduction: Savannah Sev 02:01 Savannah's Journey: From Struggle to Healing 02:56 The Influence of Body Image on Self-Perception 03:44 The Role of Confidence and Authenticity 11:38 The Impact of Breast Reduction Surgery 26:00 Changing Relationship with Food and Exercise 29:56 Discovering Self-Worth Beyond Appearance 30:13 The Turning Point: Embracing Fitness and New Identities 33:22 Overcoming Insecurities and Finding Comfort in Your Own Skin 35:29 The Role of Friends in Personal Growth 38:36 The Impact of Relationships on Self-Perception 40:23 Finding Solace in Running and Routine 45:38 Navigating Cultural Expectations and Personal Choices 55:12 Balancing Personal Happiness and Relationship Dynamics 59:07 Balancing Career and Personal Life 01:00:07 Navigating Relationship Dynamics 01:01:14 Becoming a Stepmom 01:02:24 Journey to Content Creation 01:03:18 Managing Multiple Jobs 01:09:03 Dealing with Disordered Eating 01:12:53 Finding Balance and Happiness 01:14:53 Advice for Overcoming Challenges 01:22:50 Concluding Thoughts on Growth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Motherhood is often sold as “natural” and intuitive - but for so many women, it feels overwhelming, confusing and nothing like they expected. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with parenting expert Zoe Blaskey to explore the real, science-backed identity shift of motherhood, from hormonal changes and brain remodelling to the emotional load no one prepares us for. We talk about why becoming a mum can feel like a second adolescence, how societal pressure fuels burnout, and why guilt shows up even when we’re doing our best. Zoe shares practical tools for setting boundaries, finding yourself again, strengthening your partnership, and making motherhood feel lighter, calmer and more intentional. If you’re a mum, planning to be one, or simply curious about the truth behind the transition into motherhood, this conversation will help you feel seen, supported and less alone. Who This Episode Is For ✨ Mums feeling tired, overwhelmed or burnt out Women struggling with the identity shift of motherhood (matrescence) Anyone carrying “good mother” guilt or pressure Parents wanting healthier boundaries and calmer homes People curious about the science behind motherhood What You’ll Learn ✨ Why motherhood feels harder than we’re told The science of matrescence (your “second adolescence”) How to set boundaries without guilt How to lighten the mental load How to strengthen your partnership after kids Practical ways to enjoy motherhood more of the time 00:00 Introduction to Motherhood Myths 00:08 Guest Introduction and Initial Reactions 00:17 Understanding Mares Essence 00:53 The Neuroscience of Motherhood 01:39 Podcast and Book Journey 03:44 Personal Development and Coaching 04:58 Navigating Motherhood Challenges 06:36 Self-Compassion and Resilience 29:26 Debunking the 'Having It All' Myth 41:26 The Guilt of Self-Care for Moms 42:38 The 'One for Me, One for You' Tool 43:55 Challenging the Selfless Mother Narrative 45:32 The Concept of Minimum Viable Needs 46:17 The Mental Load and Super Mom Myth 47:17 Mother Kind Toolkit: Identifying Pressure Sources 51:10 Navigating Family Expectations and Boundaries 01:08:39 The Value of Caregiving and Shared Responsibilities 01:14:42 The Physiological Changes of Parenthood 01:17:47 Final Thoughts and Self-Compassion 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you feel lost right now, stuck in the same routines, or like your life has stopped feeling like your own - this episode will feel like a deep exhale. This week on A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Mimi Ikonn to talk about one of the most universal experiences we go through as adults:outgrowing your old life… but not yet knowing who you’re becoming. Mimi opens up about identity shifts, evolving relationships, ego deaths, career changes, intuition, and what happens when your “perfect life” no longer fits. If you’re navigating a transition or craving reinvention, this conversation is for you. This episode is for you if you are: • feeling lost or “stuck” in life • outgrowing old identities, habits or relationships • craving a fresh start but scared to make a change • navigating big life transitions (career, relationships, motherhood, purpose) • wanting to reconnect with yourself again • ready to reinvent your life from the inside out In this episode, we dive into: • why you feel stuck - and what that feeling is really telling you • how to recognise when you’ve outgrown your old life • the psychology behind feeling lost • how to create a life that actually fits who you are now • what identity shifts feel like in real time • how to level up without burning your old life to the ground • how intuition guides reinvention • practical steps for starting over 00:00 Introduction: Embracing Change 01:14 Guest Introduction: Mimi Ikonn 02:46 Navigating Life Transitions 04:28 Facing Fear and Embracing Growth 06:42 The Importance of Self-Awareness 18:18 Modeling Healthy Boundaries 26:07 Overcoming Self-Sabotage 46:41 Facing Self-Doubt and Embracing Vulnerability 50:13 The Fear of Success and Its Implications 51:34 Balancing Ambition and Personal Life 56:51 The Reality of Parenting and Sacrifice 01:07:04 Preparing Mentally for Parenthood 01:15:32 The Power of Affirmations and Growth Mindset 01:24:24 Living Boldly and Embracing Adventure 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast This week's episode includes a paid advertisement by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try and get your exclusive discount at betterhelp.com/millennialmind to become your best self ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Why do smart, strong women fall for toxic people? This week on A Millennial Mind, Anchal returns to share the full, unfiltered truth about being love-bombed, manipulated, defrauded and stalked by someone she thought she could trust. I’ve known Anchal for a long time now - but I never knew the depth of what she survived. This isn’t just a “bad breakup story.” It’s a traumatic experience of narcissistic abuse, coercive control, love bombing, gaslighting, trauma bonds, financial manipulation, stalking behaviours and the psychology behind why victims stay. But most importantly: how she rebuilt her life, healed her self-trust, and took her power back. If you’ve ever questioned your intuition, blamed yourself for ignoring red flags, or felt ashamed for being manipulated — this episode will change the way you see yourself forever. 💚Who This Episode Is For: Women who’ve experienced love bombing, people pleasing, guilt-tripping or emotional manipulation Anyone recovering from a toxic relationship, narcissistic partner or financial betrayal People who want to understand the psychology of narcissists and trauma bonds Survivors of stalking, harassment, obsession, coercive control or emotional abuse Anyone who wants to rebuild boundaries, confidence and self-trust ✍🏼What You’ll Learn: How narcissists use love bombing, guilt and mirroring to gain control Why strong, independent women still get targeted How manipulation escalates into financial fraud, stalking + psychological fear The mindset traps that keep victims from leaving How to recognise early red flags before they escalate How to rebuild your identity after abuse, trauma and shame Why it is never the victim’s fault Real examples on how to rebuild peace, safety and boundaries 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you tired of saying yes when every part of you is screaming no? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Annalie Howling — performance coach, trauma specialist, and boundaries queen — to unpack the truth about people pleasing, approval addiction, and why so many of us feel guilty putting ourselves first. We dive deep into the psychology behind saying yes, how it’s linked to childhood conditioning, and what it actually takes to stop caring what everyone thinks. If you’ve ever been called “too nice,” struggled to set boundaries, or felt drained trying to please everyone — this one’s for you. ✨ Who It’s For: Chronic people pleasers who can’t say no Anyone struggling with guilt, shame, or overgiving Women tired of being the “good girl” Anyone learning to protect their peace & energy 💡 What You’ll Learn: Why people pleasing starts — and how to break the pattern How to set boundaries without guilt or fear The link between self-worth and saying no Practical tools to stop overgiving & reclaim your energy If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll just do it to keep the peace,” this is the episode for you. It’s time to stop being 'liked' - and start being respected. 00:00 Introduction – Why We People Please 01:05 Meet Annalie Howling: Turning Pain into Purpose 04:20 The Truth About People Pleasing and Self-Abandonment 08:30 When Helping Others Becomes Self-Harm 12:45 The Guilt of Saying No 15:20 The Connection Between Guilt, Shame, and Self-Worth 18:40 Trauma, Control, and Learned Helplessness 23:10 Why Some People Resist Healing 26:00 Narcissism, Victimhood, and Emotional Boundaries 31:10 How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Selfish 35:45 Understanding Shame in People Pleasing 40:15 Fawning: The Hidden Trauma Response 45:30 Healing from Childhood Shame and Conditioning 49:50 Recognizing and Validating Your Own Trauma 54:10 Breaking Generational Patterns of Guilt 58:30 Setting Boundaries with Family and In-Laws 01:02:10 Why “Good Girls” Struggle to Say No 01:05:00 Speaking Up When It Feels Uncomfortable 01:09:30 Letting Go of the Need to Please 01:12:00 Final Reflections – Living Unapologetically 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if everything you’ve been taught about healing is only half the story? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Lekhmi, founder of The 111 Approach - a celebrity Reiki Master and intuitive healer who blends science and spirituality to explain how energy healing really works. I used to think Reiki and energy work were a bit “woo-woo,” until my own experience changed everything. We talk about the science of energy healing, how your nervous system and emotions affect your body, and the small ways you can start to self-heal and reconnect with your intuition. If you’ve ever wondered “is energy healing real?” or just want to feel more grounded, calm and connected - this episode is for you. ✨ Who It’s For: Skeptics who want to understand the science behind energy healing Anyone curious about Reiki, vibration, and holistic health People looking to reduce stress, regulate their nervous system, and reconnect with themselves ✨ What You’ll Learn: How energy healing and Reiki actually work The link between emotions, the nervous system, and physical health Why intuition and frequency are key to self-healing How to tell real healers from fakes in the wellness space Simple ways to restore balance and heal your body naturally 00:00 Introduction and Initial Skepticism 00:51 Exploring the Concept of Energy Healing 01:16 Guest Introduction: Luck Me and Her Unique Approach 02:53 Personal Experiences and Changing Perspectives 04:34 Understanding Reiki and Energy Healing 05:55 Childhood Intuition and Suppression 12:09 Reconnecting with Intuition and First Reiki Experience 14:36 Skepticism and Scientific Perspective 18:32 The Science and Practice of Reiki 28:29 Personal Stories and Spiritual Connections 38:20 A Childhood Intuition 39:34 The Power of Intuition and Skepticism 40:38 Gut Health and Intuition 41:23 Energy and Vibrations 42:30 Embracing Emotions and Healing 42:46 Connecting with Intuition and Energy Healing 44:42 Personal Stories of Energy Healing 49:22 The Placebo Effect and Healing 51:04 Scientific Studies on Energy Healing 52:13 Reiki in Hospitals 52:48 Identifying Genuine Practitioners 57:03 Empowering Self-Healing 01:03:23 One Minute Wellness Practice 01:09:12 The Power of Collective Meditation 01:14:11 Crystals and Energy 01:17:39 Final Thoughts on Energy and Intuition self 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if you could feel incredible with more energy, focus and calm without spending a fortune? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, Coral Pearl breaks down the truth about biohacking: what it really means, how to start biohacking on a budget, and why you don’t need expensive supplements, trackers or cold plunges to optimise your body and mind. Coral shares practical, science-backed ways to support your nervous system, balance your hormones, improve gut health and boost natural energy. She explains how small, affordable biohacks — from better sleep and sunlight to real food and mindset shifts — can transform your wellbeing, longevity and mental clarity. We talk about the habits our ancestors lived by, the modern wellness myths that keep us sick, and how to eat, move and live in a way that supports your biology. I wanted to have this conversation because Coral makes wellness and biohacking feel achievable again. No elitism, no pressure — just simple, evidence-based tools to reconnect with your body and feel like yourself. If you’ve ever felt lost in the health space or overwhelmed by expensive trends, this one will remind you that real health starts with simple, accessible habits. These are all real-world examples that Coral has tried and tested herself to turn her life around and, she says, improve her health for the better. ✨ Who this episode is for Anyone curious about biohacking, wellness or longevity but unsure where to start Listeners tired of expensive wellness trends and quick fixes People looking to improve gut health, nervous system balance and natural energy Those wanting to understand the science of stress, recovery and nutrition Millennials searching for affordable, realistic health and lifestyle habits 💡 What you’ll learn What biohacking really means and how to do it on a budget The low-cost daily habits that improve focus, energy and mood How to regulate your nervous system naturally The connection between nutrition, inflammation and mental health Why modern wellness gets health wrong and how to simplify it 0:00 - What if everything you’ve been taught about health is wrong? 1:00 - Why Coral stopped trusting traditional medicine 3:05 - The “ancestral living” lifestyle explained 5:00 - Biohacking isn’t just for the rich — here’s how to start for free 7:30 - Grounding, breathwork, and sunlight: the ultimate morning trio 9:45 - Coral’s wild morning routine (and the headband hack!) 11:10 - How biohacking changed her energy, sleep & focus 13:20 - The truth about mouth taping and deep sleep 15:10 - Why blue light might be ruining your health 17:00 - How to calm your nervous system instantly 20:00 - The trampoline trick that boosts your mood 25:30 - Coral’s 5AM morning routine & discipline secrets 29:00 - Her full step-by-step health routine revealed 33:00 - From vegan to ancestral eating — why she switched 36:00 - Are plant-based diets actually bad for you? 39:00 - What pesticides are doing to your gut 42:00 - The 3 foods Coral would *never* eat again 45:00 - The shocking truth about milk and pasteurisation 47:00 - How to find what really works for your body 49:00 - Coral’s message for anyone feeling stuck in their health journey Follow Coral Peal: https://www.instagram.com/coral.peal 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Note: Some topics discussed might be triggering. In this deeply personal and heartfelt episode of 'A Millennial Mind,' I sit down with one of my closest friends, Dr. Rhona Eskander, as she opens up for the first time about her harrowing journey into motherhood. From experiencing a traumatic miscarriage and the emotional turmoil that followed, to navigating the complexities of fertility treatments, and finally, the unforeseen challenges of a high-risk pregnancy that led to an emergency C-section and a NICU stay for her baby, Rhona bravely shares it all. This conversation sheds light on the silent struggles many parents face, the societal pressures around fertility, and the importance of mental health and support during such times. I am incredibly grateful for Rhona's vulnerability and hope this episode fosters understanding and compassion for those facing similar battles. Please listen with care, and if you know someone who might benefit from this, share it with them. ✨ Who This Episode Is For Anyone who has faced pregnancy loss or fertility struggles Mothers navigating premature birth or NICU experiences Women processing grief, anxiety, or trauma after childbirth Parents learning to find strength and gratitude through adversity Anyone seeking an honest look at modern motherhood 00:00 Opening Up About a Personal Journey 00:05 The Miscarriage Experience 00:20 Navigating Fertility Challenges 00:34 Emergency C-Section and NICU 00:52 Introduction to the Episode 02:17 Rona's Fertility Journey 03:05 Egg Freezing and Societal Pressures 05:12 Struggles with Conception 06:06 The Miscarriage and Its Aftermath 07:05 IUI and Pregnancy Success 15:15 The Trauma of Miscarriage 24:40 Pregnancy Journey and Mental Health 30:40 Concerns About Baby's Growth 34:58 Discovering the Gentle Birthing Method 36:02 Dealing with Placental Insufficiency 36:54 The Pressure of Not Showing During Pregnancy 38:57 Navigating Public Perception and Body Image 42:26 The Trauma of an Emergency C-Section 49:15 The NICU Journey 51:05 The Importance of Mental Health and Support 01:07:28 Reflections on the NHS and Final Thoughts This week's episode includes a paid advertisement for Better Help. You can get your exclusive discount as a Millennial Mind listener using the link ⁠www.betterhelp.com/millennialmind⁠ to start your therapy journey and become your best self. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 🔑 Keywords / Tags pregnancy journey, miscarriage story, pregnancy loss, emergency c-section, 30 weeks premature, premature birth, NICU baby, motherhood journey, fertility struggles, pregnancy complications, maternal health, emotional healing, premature baby story, Rhona Eskander, A Millennial Mind, Shivani Pau Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of 'A Millennial Mind,' I sit down with Dr. Marta Deiros Collado, a clinical psychologist with 20 years of experience and a mother of two. We dive into the hot topic of smartphones and social media, exploring whether they're helpful tools or harmful threats, especially for children and parents. Dr. Marta shares her insights on the fear and misconceptions surrounding technology, and offers evidence-based strategies for finding balance and boundaries in our digital lives. We also discuss the impact of screen time on relationships and mental health, and how parents can build healthier tech habits for themselves and their kids. If you've ever struggled with screen time or are concerned about your children's digital habits, you won't want to miss this enlightening conversation. Please don't forget to like, follow, and subscribe to support more meaningful and impactful discussions like this. ✨ Who This Episode Is For: Anyone who feels anxious, guilty, or overwhelmed by their phone use Parents trying to help children build healthy screen habits Millennials and Gen Z struggling with digital burnout or social media anxiety People who want to create boundaries with technology without a digital detox Anyone curious about the psychology of screen time and mental health 💡 What You’ll Learn: Why notifications trigger anxiety and how to calm your brain’s response The science behind phone addiction and emotional overstimulation How to build a healthier relationship with social media and tech Practical tools to set digital boundaries at home and work How parents and kids can find balance and connection offline Why technology itself isn’t bad, it’s how we use it that matters Jump to: 00:00 Introduction: Are Smartphones a Tool or a Threat? 01:06 Challenging the Smartphone Narrative with Dr. Marta 02:07 Meet Dr. Marta: Clinical Psychologist and Mother 02:39 The Dual Nature of Smartphones: Tool and Threat 03:23 The Emotional Impact of Smartphone Use 04:34 The Importance of Awareness and Mindful Use 05:46 The Role of Technology in Modern Life 08:09 The Science Behind Smartphone Use and Its Effects 08:56 Addressing Misconceptions and Media Fear-Mongering 10:23 The Balance Between Technology and Human Experience 15:02 Smartphone Habits and Compulsive Behaviors 36:25 The Impact of Smartphones on Relationships 38:52 Balancing Screen Time and Family Time 40:08 Deciding When to Give Kids Smartphones 42:26 Navigating Social Pressures and Exclusion 45:28 Building Trust and Open Communication 48:12 Creating Healthy Digital Habits 51:21 The Impact of Social Media on Self-Esteem 01:01:46 Setting Boundaries and Family Phone Pledges 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 phone anxiety, social media anxiety, smartphone addiction, digital burnout, digital wellbeing, screen time anxiety, notifications stress, tech and mental health, social media balance, phone detox, screen time habits, parenting and technology, kids screen time, mindful tech use, digital balance, Dr Martha Deiros Collado, Shivani Pau, A Millennial Mind Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this week’s episode of A Millennial Mind, I’m joined by Abigail Foster, an accountant, money expert, and founder of Elent Financial. Abigail has built a reputation for making money simple, relatable, and actually enjoyable to talk about. In this episode, we dive deep into the truth about money in 2025: from renting vs buying, saving and investing, and even the fairness of inheritance tax. Abigail also unpacks how childhood experiences shape our money mindset, why budgeting feels so overwhelming, and the practical steps millennials and Gen Z can take to feel more financially free. If you’ve ever felt stressed about money, stuck in financial habits, or just confused by the UK tax system, this episode will help you make sense of it all. ✨ Who This Episode Is For Millennials and Gen Z who want to feel in control of their finances. Anyone stuck between renting vs buying and wondering what’s right for them. People who want to start investing but don’t know where to begin. Those struggling with budgeting, saving, or money mindset. Anyone curious about UK money topics like taxes, inheritance, or the cost of living. 📚 What You’ll Learn How your childhood experiences shape your money habits today. Why budgeting feels hard - and how to make it easier. The truth about renting vs buying property in 2025. Simple steps to start saving and investing (even if you feel clueless). How to think about tax, inheritance, and wealth without overwhelm. Why shifting your money mindset is the key to building wealth. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 --- 🔑 Abigail Foster, Elent Financial, money mindset, budgeting tips, saving money, how to invest, investing for beginners, UK tax explained, inheritance tax, cost of living 2025, UK finance 2025, personal finance for millennials, Gen Z money tips, renting vs buying property, financial freedom, money habits psychology, A Millennial Mind podcast, Shivani Pau Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's AMM Minutes segment, I chat with Sarover Auja from 'Love is Blind UK' about the challenges of getting parental acceptance in relationships and dealing with societal judgment. We delve into the importance of self-awareness, empathy, and open communication when integrating a partner into one's family. Sarover opens up about her personal journey, sharing insights on resilience post-divorce and emphasising that love transcends cultural and societal boundaries. 00:00 Introduction: The Challenge of Parental Acceptance Check out the full episode where Sarover goes into DETAIL about her Love Is Blind experience, here: 01:38 The Struggle with In-Laws and Cultural Expectations 03:06 Breaking the Cycle of Judgment and Fear 03:51 Dealing with Divorce and Societal Judgment 05:30 Love Beyond Cultural Boundaries 07:48 The Importance of Character Over Community 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sarover Aujla from Netflix’s Love Is Blind joins me on A Millennial Mind to share what really happened in her marriage, why it ended in divorce, and how cultural and family expectations shaped her journey. Sarover opens up about the reality of a 91-day marriage, the red flags she ignored, and the challenges of navigating love and heartbreak in front of the world. She also reflects on what it feels like to lose yourself in a relationship — becoming “a shell of yourself” — and the powerful lessons she’s learned about self-worth, boundaries, and choosing herself. For so many millennials, love and marriage look different today than they did for our parents. Sarover’s story is raw, real, and deeply relatable — whether you’ve faced cultural pressure, heartbreak, or are simply learning to put yourself first. ✨ Who This Episode Is For - Fans of Love Is Blind curious about Sarover Aujla’s story beyond the show. - Millennials navigating relationships, marriage, divorce, or cultural pressure. - Anyone who has felt lost in love and is trying to rebuild. - Listeners looking for honest lessons on self-worth, resilience, and growth. 📚 What You’ll Learn - What really happened in Sarover Aujla’s Love Is Blind marriage and divorce. - The role of cultural and family expectations in shaping relationships. - The red flags Sarover overlooked — and the lessons she took from them. - How to heal and grow after heartbreak in the public eye. - Why choosing yourself is not selfish, but necessary. Let me know what you thought of this week's episode on the comments 💖 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices