Explore every episode of the podcast 4 Peaks Parents with Thomas Miller

On this episode of 4 Peaks Parents, I'm talking with Ben Mushlin, LCSW about the moment every parent dreads: finding the vape, the bottle, or the pills. We dig into what to say and what not to say in that first conversation, so you can lead with clarity instead of panic and keep the door open with your teen or young adult. Ben is a LCSW and the founder of Searchlight Therapy a group therapy practice that specializes in providing outstanding care to teens, young adults, & their families. Ben is also the Author of Lighting the Way - a parents guide to walking parents and young adults through substance use and mental health challenges. You can reach out to Ben directly at searchlighttherapy.com.

On this episode of 4 Peaks Parents, I'm talking with Danny Ruderman, author of Harvard Doesn't Care About You, Mom. The college admissions process is supposed to prepare a young adult for independence. Often, it quietly reshapes the parent instead — especially the mother. Danny is an independent college counselor, and together we talk about the identity strain mothers face during this season — and what it actually takes to stay grounded through it. To reach Danny directly go to Dannyruderman.com

On this episode of 4 Peaks Parents, I'm talking with Lisa Zeiderman, Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP and a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Certified Financial Litigator whose practice bridges custody, finances, and long-term planning. We dig into how the money habits and mindsets kids absorb from their parents can shift during divorce, and why intentional legal and financial planning is key to protecting a family's long-term stability. You can reach out to Lisa directly at lisazeiderman.com.

On this episode of 4 Peaks Parents, I'm talking with Laura H-S Collins, LCSW, known as "the athlete psychotherapist," a psychotherapist and speaker with over 20 years of clinical experience. A former elite gymnast and Division I diver, Laura lived inside the all-or-nothing world of elite sport and the perfectionism and stress that came with it as a young athlete. She now draws on that journey to help leaders, parents, athletes, and clinicians move from imposter syndrome and burnout toward clarity, resilience, and genuine belonging. Learn more at lcollinslcsw.com (http://lcollinslcsw.com/)

In this episode of the Four Peaks Parents Podcast, Jenn and I discuss how traveling with your neurodivergent child can build confidence, resilience, flexibility, and a growth mindset. We explore how new experiences help kids move beyond limiting beliefs and see themselves as capable of handling challenges and thriving. To follow Jenn & Caleb’s journey further visit here: https://www.instagram.com/calebscourageoustravels?igsh=a3RldDIwNzRwajV2

On this episode of 4 Peaks Parents, I'm talking with Shellee Howard Professional Certified College Strategist and bestselling author about how to help your teen find real direction, pay for school without drowning in debt, and skip the senior-year meltdown by planning early.

If you've got a kid in grades 7-12, this one's for you. 🎧 Reach out to Shelle further here: www.collegereadyplan.info

In this episode of 4 Peaks Parents, we sit down with Kevin Petersen, MA, LMFT, nationally recognized family therapist, author of Chronic Hope Families & Addiction, Director of Family Services at Jaywalker Lodge to explore why addiction is a family illness and how it impacts parents, siblings, and loved ones. Kevin shares practical insights on navigating the challenges of addiction, fostering healthier family dynamics, and finding hope & healing through recovery. Learn more about Kevin's work at the Chronic Hope Institute at chronichope.us.

Chef Whitney Aronoff, is the founder of Starseed Kitchen organic spices, Starseed Kitchen Personal Chef Services and host of the High Vibration Living Podcast. She joins the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast to discuss how food is more than nutrition - it’s a foundation for energy, focus, emotional wellness, and family connection. We explore simple, realistic ways parents can build healthier eating habits at home, reduce stress around food, and model wellness for their kids without striving for perfection. A practical conversation full of approachable strategies for healthier, more connected families. To connect more deeply with Whitney visit: inktr.ee/whitney.aronoff

In this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, Casey Gregerson & I discuss how parents can help their kids build financial literacy, confidence, and an abundance mindset by modeling healthy behaviors around money, risk, work ethic, and opportunity. We explore why kids learn far more from what we consistently demonstrate than from “do as I say, not as I do” parenting and how leading by example can shape the way they approach success, responsibility, and independence for life.

If you’d like to connect further with Casey visit: https://caseygregersen.com/

In today’s episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, featuring Dimitri Kourepis, we explore a question many families are asking: is it really possible to get sober at a young age and stay sober? Who better than Dimitri to share his recovery story that began at a young age. He is now the founder of Kourepis Coaching & Recovery and co-owner of Linden Recovery, and he breaks down what separates a solid recovery plan from a shaky one, and how structure, accountability, and high standards can change the trajectory of a life. If you want to connect with Dimitri further, check out his site: www.kourepiscoaching.com.

In today’s episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, featuring Ashlyn Lelej, M.S., CCC-SLP, we explore how a child's "poor choices" or academic frustration may actually be a struggle to communicate or be understood. She is the founder of Speech Matters with over 20 years of experience in speech, language, and feeding development. We explore how identifying early feeding and communication challenges can prevent long-term academic and mental health struggles while providing actionable insights to help your child thrive.

In this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, Featuring Dr. Maggie Vaughan, we offer tools, communication skills, and mindset shifts to help couples stay connected and resilient through tough parenting seasons. Maggie shares practical ways to strengthen your marriage while raising a struggling child. To reach out to he further check out her website: https://www.everyoneneedstherapy.com/

On this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, we are joined by Dr. Kate Lund, a psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and host of “The Resilient Parenting Podcast with Dr Kate”. Dr. Kate specializes in helping parents turn life’s toughest, most stressful moments into meaningful breakthroughs.

In this conversation, we explore:

• The Anatomy of a Shutdown: Why our brains escalate and how to catch it before it happens.
• The "Benson" Method: A look at the legendary 1970s technique by Dr. Herbert Benson to manage the stress response.
• Resilient Parenting: How to stay "level" so you can be fully present for your children.
• Breakthroughs over Breakdowns: Turning daily parenting friction into opportunities for growth.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by the "expectation trap" or the daily grind of toddlerhood and beyond, Dr. Kate provides the tools to help you move from survival mode to resilient parenting.

Connect with Dr. Kate Lund:

http://www.katelundspeaks.com

Learn more about 4 Peaks Parents & book a free discovery call:

https://4peaksparents.com

On this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, we’re joined by Dr. Kristen Cook, a pediatrician who helps parents shift their perspective by viewing "misbehavior" through a developmental lens.

Many parents find themselves frustrated by temper tantrums, aggression, or a perceived lack of focus, often wondering if their child is "behind" or even struggling with conditions like ADHD. Dr. Cook shares critical insight into why many of these challenging behaviors, from hitting and biting to short attention spans, are actually developmentally normal for toddlers and preschoolers.

In this conversation, we explore:

• The "Expectation Trap”

• Decoding Development

• Shifting the Approach

• Brain vs. Behavior

This episode is a must-listen for any parent feeling overwhelmed by the "terrible twos" or "threenage" years. Dr. Cook offers a dose of much-needed reassurance, helping families move away from shame and toward a more supportive, informed way of parenting.

Learn more about Dr. Kristen Cook & her practice:

http://KristenCookMD.com

Learn more about 4 Peaks Parents & book a free discovery call:

https://4peaksparents.com

On this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, we’re joined by Jeff Hittner, founder of Ambitious Dads executive coach, leadership expert, entrepreneur, and father to two amazing boys. We discuss why so many dads are unprepared for the hardest and most important job they will ever have and how Jeff has made it his mission to help fathers move from overwhelmed to prepared, intentional, and ready to lead. To learn more about Jeff’s work and the Ambitious Dads mission, he can be reached at https://www.ambitiousdads.com/

On this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, we’re joined by Liz Reitman, Co-founder of Other Parents Like Me, who shares how her family’s struggles led to the creation of a deeply supportive parent community. This heartfelt conversation explores the power of connection, healing, and the life-changing relief of knowing you’re not alone. This episode is a reminder that even in our hardest moments, connection can change everything. To learn more about Liz and Other Parents Like Me visit their site: https://oplm.com/

On this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, we’re joined by Brian Dolan, a therapist and life coach who specializes in helping individuals break free from gambling addiction. He shares essential insights, practical tools, and warning signs parents need to know especially as gambling behaviors increasingly take root in young people through online gaming, sports betting, and social pressures. To reach out to Brian directly please visit: www.briandolancounseling.com/

On this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, Scott Apgar from Choice House joins me to discuss the shift from temporary solutions to meaningful, enduring recovery. Together, we unpack why long term support is essential and how families can build a pathway that sustains change. A powerful conversation for parents seeking clarity, stability, and hope. To reach out to Scott directly please email him at scotta@choicehouse.com and to learn more about Choice House go to: https://choicehousecolorado.com/

On this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, I’m excited to speak with Kelley Joyce, a seasoned career coach and founder of The Truth at Work, who brings both her corporate expertise and her own personal journey through burnout & recovery to the table. Kelley works with professionals and young adults alike to help them rebuild confidence, rediscover purpose, and re-enter the workforce after challenges like mental-health struggles or addiction recovery. In this conversation, we’ll explore how to find direction again when life knocks you off course and what it really takes to create a sustainable, fulfilling career after crisis. To learn more Kelley & to explore working with her please visit her website: https://thetruthatwork.com/

On this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, I am joined by Sophia Vale Galano who is an author & a licensed therapist. We discuss how to approach conversations with your teen from a place of curiosity rather than control. Together, we explore how letting go of “fixing” creates space for genuine connection and meaningful dialogue. To connect with Sophia and learn more about her practice and new book be sure to visit her website https://sophiagalano.com

On this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, I sit down with the incredible Casey Jacox — author of “Win The Relationship, Not The Deal,” nationally recognized keynote speaker, and host of the Quarterback DadCast. Casey & I dive deep into the real journey of fatherhood — the wins, the losses, the laughter, and the lessons that come from trying to be the best dads we can be. We get honest about the struggles, the self-doubt, and the importance of showing up as intentional (but imperfect) parents in today’s fast-paced world. If you’ve ever wondered what it takes to lead with heart — both at home and at work — this conversation is a must-listen.

👉 Tune in, laugh with us, and listen now and to learn more about Casey’s sales & leadership coaching check out his site: https://www.caseyjacox.com/

In this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, I’m joined by Brandon Moffit, Executive Director & Co-Founder of Black Mountain Academy & Intrepid Young Adults, to talk about the tough balancing act in parenting—supporting your neurodiverse teen or young adult’s growth without micromanaging their journey.

Together, we discuss how parents can affirm progress, provide guidance, and create opportunities for independence—without being heavy-handed or controlling. If you’ve ever struggled to find the fine line between helping your child grow and trying to manage their every step, this conversation is for you. If you want to reach out to Brandon go to: https://theblackmountainacademy.com/

On this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, I am joined by Farah Harris, LCPC who is a Belonging & Workplace Well-being expert and a licensed psychotherapist. Farah opens up about how her parenting journey includes raising 3 children, 2 of whom are neurodivergent, and how her parenting has been influenced by, but not defined by her children's diagnoses. We discuss the power of parenting from an instinctual place that's grounded in connection & emotional regulation and we discuss how to support your children w/ confidence & calm. To connect with Farah on a deeper level you can conect with her, through her website: https://workingwelldaily.com/.

In this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, Dr. Jack Hinman & I discuss why safety / secure connections and building friendships are the foundation for healing and growth, and how creating a “secure base” allows young adults to explore, build confidence, and update their relational operating system. If you are a parent of a young adult struggling to find their footing, this conversation offers insight, hope, and a roadmap forward. If you want to learn more about Dr. Hinman who is the Executive Director & Co-Founder of Engage Transitions, which helps participants move beyond mental health struggles and “failure to launch” barriers go to: https://engagelifenow.com/

In this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, I’m joined by Norm Thibault, Executive Director of At the Crossroads, a residential transitional living program for young adults. Together, we explore the unique challenges and opportunities parents face when raising adopted children and teens. Norm shares his deep experience working with young people navigating identity, belonging, and the transition to adulthood. If you are parenting an adopted child or teen—or want to better understand the adoption experience or your child’s journey as well as how to create an environment of trust and emotional safety, and ways to strengthen connection even through the most difficult seasons, then give this conversation a listen. If you want to learn more about Norm or the At the Crossroads please visit their site at www.atthecrossroads.com/

On this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, I’m joined by Tara Renze, author, speaker, and coach, to explore the power of emotional intelligence in parenting. We discuss how parents can strengthen their own E.Q. to stay grounded, calm, and unflappable when facing their kids’ challenging choices. Tara shares her insights on raising emotional intelligence in ourselves first, so that we can model resilience, connection, and clarity for our children. If you want to reach out to Tara just visit her site: www.tararenze.com

Watching young adults step into their first jobs is exciting—but it often comes with bumps along the way. In this episode, Performance Coach for leaders & sellers & teams - Jaime Diglio joins us to unpack the challenges new professionals face and how parents can encourage growth without micromanaging. To learn more about Jamie's performance coaching work with leaders, sellers, & teams check out her site: www.thewinroom.com

In this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, I have the privilege of sitting down with Leigh Feldman, CEO of Youth Franchise Brands and dad of four, to explore how time in the kitchen can help kids build confidence, creativity, and life skills. From hands-on cooking classes to everyday family meals, Leigh shares insights on why giving kids a role in the kitchen is about so much more than just food. If you want to reach out to Leigh and or learn more about Young Chef’s Academy just visit:

https://youngchefsacademy.com

In this episode, Jeff Larsen—an experienced sales professional—shares how he’s helped his sons step confidently into adulthood. Drawing on the lessons of growing up on a farm and the role modeling he received from his own father, Jeff reflects on the parenting principles that have guided his journey. If you’d like to connect further with Jeff or if you happen to be in the market for a new car you can reach him at http://linkedin.com/in/jeff-larsen-aa4593187

In this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, I speak with Joe Dillon about how choosing mediation over a prolonged, acrimonious divorce can significantly reduce the negative impact on children. Joe is the Founder of Equitable Mediation and is an expert mediation specialist. Tune in to learn how a peaceful mediation can set the family up for success and create a healthier environment for everyone involved. To learn more and to reach out to Joe directly visit: https://www.equitablemediation.com/

In this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, I’m joined by eating disorder treatment specialist Ibbits Newhall for an eye-opening conversation about how eating disorders can quietly take hold of a teen or young adult — and the powerful impact this can have on the entire family system. We explore how parents can recognize the signs, respond with clarity and compassion, and help their child reclaim a healthy relationship with food, body, and self. If you want to reach out directly to Ibbits visit https://www.ibbitsnewhall.com.

In this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, we dive into practical tips and strategies to help parents navigate the long summer months with balance and intention. From creating healthy routines to allowing space for downtime, this episode offers a roadmap for giving your kids structure without sacrificing their need to relax and recharge — all while helping them avoid falling into the screen-time trap.

In this episode of the 4 Peaks Parents Podcast, Brett Mullen shares his powerful recovery story—an honest look at the impact of addiction on his life and family, and how his family's support gave him hope. Now a treatment advocate, Brett opens up about his journey from substance abuse to a life of purpose and service. If you would like to connect with Brett here's the best way - http://linkedin.com/in/brett-mullen-b70b6a35

In this episode of the 4 peaks Parenting Podcast Thomas & his wife explore their differing parenting styles and discuss whether they tend to be "too soft or too firm," with their aproach. Listen as they discuss old conflcits / debates and how they have resolved them even though they are far from perfect. It's a candid conversation full of insights for any parent navigating the ups & downs of raising kids.

In this episode, I sit down with Brad Warner, a seasoned interventionist, to share over 30 years of practical advice for families facing mental health or addiction challenges. Brad dispels common myths and guides you in determining if an intervention is the right step for your family.

In this 4 Peaks Parenting Podcast episode we explore how to build a "championship child."

A “championship child” isn’t just about trophies or elite success—it’s about raising a young adult with resilience, character, purpose, and the ability to thrive independently. The parenting culture in the home is the training ground and every family has a culture whether by design or by default.

A championship child is not a just high-performing, but a well-rounded child. Listen to this episode and learn how you can build a championship child and develop not just what they should do, but who you want them to be.

In this episode of the 4 Peaks Parenting Podcast we will explore how your parenting has evolved over the years. We will discuss how many parents go into it with strong ideas about how it should be, only to find that real life, real kids, and real emotions shift everything. We will take a look at how early parenting assumptions don’t hold up — not because we were bad parents, but because we were growing up alongside our kids. Listen to challenge your early notions or assumptions of what parenting is all about & to continue evolving.

Welcome to the Four Peaks Parents Podcast - Today’s episode is for parents who’ve moved past the question of ‘Is this a problem?’ and are now in the terrifying but clear reality: ‘Yes. My child has a substance use problem. What do I do next?’”

“We’ll walk through the emotional side, the practical side, and the resources that can help. You are not alone.”

If you have a loved one who is currently struggling with substance use / abuse my heart goes out to you and as scary as it is, please take a breath and recognize that this isn’t the end of the story. It’s the beginning of a different chapter—one that, with help, can still lead to growth, healing, and hope.

Welcome to the Four Peaks Parents Podcast!

In this episode, we take a closer look at the stages of substance use in teens and young adults—a topic that can feel confusing and overwhelming for many families. Where does normal experimentation end and more serious use begin? The truth is, the line isn’t always clear.

Drawing from my work with families navigating this very challenge, we’ll explore the progression of substance use, how to recognize warning signs, and the best approaches to support your child along the way. Not every teen who experiments will follow the same path—but understanding the stages can make all the difference.

Whether you’re facing this issue now or simply want to be prepared, this episode will give you the clarity and confidence to respond with awareness, empathy, and action.

In this episode of the Four Peaks Parents Podcast, we explore separation anxiety in children ages 6 to 10—why it happens, what’s developmentally normal, and when it may signal something more. You’ll hear practical tips for easing transitions, supporting emotional growth, and knowing when to seek extra help.

Conflict can be a powerful bridge to deeper connection and intimacy—when handled well. In this episode, we unpack the difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict within families. You’ll learn what a “healthy storm” looks like, and how to recognize when things are heading off course. Most importantly, we’ll talk about how you, as a parent, can guide your child through tough moments in a way that builds trust, respect, and lasting connection.

In this episode, we’re exploring how your child’s inner critic may be fueling their anxiety, stealing their joy, and holding them back from the life they’re meant to live. We’ll break down practical, proven strategies that you can take to weaken the grip of that critical inner voice—and ultimately silence it for good. Your son or daughter will thank you!

In this episode, we’re diving into how to work with a young adult who can’t seem to find their way out of the house or function as a productive adult in the community. Tired of your kid’s failure to launch, or know someone with an older child living in the basement? Give this episode a listen.

In this episode you will be able to identify along with your child what are the red flags of an unhealthy teen relationship and what you / they can do about it. Let's help your kid avoid playing the caretaker role and losing a lot sleep, time, energy in the vortex of a toxic relationship.

In this episode, we dive into exploring whether ADHD is a superpower or kryptonite or a bit of both. Either way a child who has ADHD is not lazy or dumb they are just wired differently and require a little more nuisance & a different approach. In this episode, we focus on ways to set your kiddo up for success and you will come away with tons of tips, tools, hacks so you don't lose your mind as a parent and your kid can feel successful.

In this episode, we will dive into & discuss the most effective & child-centered ways to educate your kiddos about an impending divorce. You will know how to navigate your kids through the divorce process in the most therapeutic manner and learn a bunch of dos & don'ts, so they are the least impacted by the divorce process.

In this episode, we will dive into how we as parents fly at the right altitude. It's a tricky thing because if we fly too low we are crushing our child's independence and if we fly too high we are aloof / disconnected, which sends a message that our kids' emotions & needs are not important. In this episode we dive into how to find the right balance between protecting your child & fostering your child's growth. Join me as we look at real life parenting examples for your benefit, so you too can master the skill of flying at the right altitude at all times.

In this episode with Josh Gardner who is the Executive Director at Havenwood Academy, a residential treatment center providing trauma care for youth, and he is the CFO of the Hope Group where he guides financial strategy & operational excellence. During this interview you will hear how Josh approaches family life with intention and effectively integrates work & life together while increasing connection with his family. We dive into how he has incorporated systematic strategies to increase his connection / presence / and deepen his attachment with his kids. If you want to connect with Josh - you can find him here: linkedin.com/in/joshkgardner

In Part 2 of a 2 Part Series, Joy McAdams who is a 21 time Iron Man Competitor / TEDX Speaker / Mom of 5 / Medical Practice Ignitor takes us through her & her family's journey of becoming a blended family. In this episode, Joy shares so many helpful tips, strategies, as well as dos & don'ts. She really distills down what are the non-negotiables and what's essential to make this blended family process work. You will leave with a deeper respect for what this process entails as well as feel much more empowered that its possible. If you want to reach out to Joy to learn more about how she helps medical practices increase their revenue through a growth mindset and or about Kona Wave - her company to help professionals chase a grwoth mindset through physical challenges. She can be reached via Linkedin - linkedin.com/in/joy-mcadams-59878a10a

In Part 1 of a 2 Part Series with Joy McAdams who is a 21 time Iron Man Competitor / TEDX Speaker / Mom of 5 / Medical Practice Ignitor; she takes us through her & her family's journey of becoming a blended family. Join us for this rich & deep dive into Joy's story as she shares so many wins & failures as well as all the important lessons learned along the way. She really sends the elevator back down to other parents who are currently going through or about to go through this process. If you want to reach out to Joy to learn more about how she helps medical practices increase their revenue through a growth mindset and or about Kona Wave - her company to help professionals chase a grwoth mindset through physical challenges. She can be reached via Linkedin - linkedin.com/in/joy-mcadams-59878a10a